1. Anger management
Liberty means responsibility.Thatiswhy most men dread it. (GeorgeBernard Shaw)
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion.Whenitis expressedappropriatelyyouare lettinggo
of the stressandfrustrationthatyou are experiencing,andthose aroundyouunderstandandaccept
that youare upset.Whenangerisexpressedinappropriatelywithblameandaggressionitcanbe a
destructive force- bothtothe personexperiencingitandforthose subjectedtoit.
As withotherthingsthatare negative,there isatendencytoholdsomethingorsomeone else
responsible.Whenyouholdsomeone else responsible foryourstress,anxiety,or frustrationyou
feel thatyouhave the right to expressthisinanaggressive manner.Thisisbecause youfeel outof
control,unable tounderstandwhyyouare feelingthe wayyoudo.When we feel outof control itis
easiertoblame othersandnot take responsibilityforourselves.Whenyouexpressyouranger
aggressivelyyouare pushingpeopleawayfromyou. Aggressiondoesnothelp withworkingthrough
the problem.
Steps tohelpyou control your Anger
 Rememberyouare responsible foryourownlife,the choicesyoumake,andthe qualityof
your life experience.
 Clarifyyourthoughts,feelings,needsandwants.Youare the onlyone whoknowswhat
goeson inside if you.
 Compromise withotherswhenwantsorneedsare inconflict,or in a dispute.Itis
unreasonable toalwaysgetwhatyouwant.
 Withmutual respect,compromise,andnegotiationpeople canlookfora reasonable
solution.
 Develop helpfulskillsformanagingyourlife.Examinethe difficultiesthatyou are going
through,considerhowyou addto the difficulties,anddecidewhatyouare willingtodo
differently.
To understandyour anger, ask yourself the following questions:
1. What are the stressors,fears,andfrustrationsthatare at the bottomof your anger?
2. What do youthinkor say to yourself thatincreasesanger?
3. Is angerhelpful ingettingotherstodowhat youwant themto do?
4. What isa more helpful approach youcanuse to get whatyou wantand need?
5. What are the sourcesof supportyou make use of whenyouare feelingangry?
6. What are you goingto do differentlytomanage anger?
7. How can youdecrease yourstrongfeelingsof anger?
8. Are there thingsthatyou needtolimitoreliminate fromyourlife ?
(Obligations,relationships,sayingyestoeveryone, etc.)
9. If you feel thatyouhave tried everythingandare unable toresolve issueswithapersonor
situationthe onlythingleftforyoutodo isto LET GO.