3. WHO/WHAT IS INFLUENCING OUR KIDS?
SCHOOL - MEDIA -HOMtr - PEERS - FAITH
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4. LIFE'S GREATEST LESSONS
20 Things That Matter
(Originally title d 20 Things I Want Mg Kids ?o Knowl
by
Hal Urban
Four reasons for writing this book:
1) Because we're never too young or too old to learn life's greatest lessons.
2) Because they don't teach "how
life works" or
"what
is essential" in school.
3) Because most kids need help in discovering how good they can be.
4) Because old-fashioned truth never goes out of style ... even with a new generation.
The 2O Things:
1 - Success is more than making money
2 - Life is hard ... and not always fair
3 - Life is also fun ... and incredibly funny
4 - We live by choice, not by chance
5 - Attitude is a choice - the most important one you'll ever make
6 - Habits are the key to all success
7 - Being thankful is a habit - the best one youlr ever have
B - Good people build their lives on a foundation of respect
9 - Honesty is still the best policy
1O - Kind words cost little, but accomplish much
11 - Reai motivation comes from within
12 - Goals are dreams with deadlines
. 13 - There's no substitute for hard work
14 - You have to give up something to get something
15 - Successful people don't find time; they make time
16 - No one else can raise your self-esteem
17 - The body needs nutrition and exercise; so do the mind and spirit
18 - It's OK to fail; everyone else has
19 - Life is simpler when we know what,s essential
20 - Essential # 1 is being a good person
Publishedby Simon& Schuster,JonuoryZOO3
5. WHATEVERHAPPENEDTO GOODMANNERS?
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"Manners
areof moreimportancethanlaws."
- EdmundBurke,British statesman,1700's
"without
goodm_annershumansocietybecomesintolerableandimpossible."
- GeorgeBernardShaw,Irishplaywright,1800's
"If
mannerswerean animal,it would beanendangeredspecies."
- HenryC. Rogers,Americanpublicrelationsexpert,1984
How things were different not too many years ago:
- Studentsrarelycamelateto class.When they did, they apologized.Todaymanyoften comelate. Only
rarelydoesoneapologize.
- Studentsdidn'tgetup, walk acrosstheroom,throw somethingin thewastebasket,thenwalk back
acrossthe room while theteacherwastalking.Today it is doneoften,andnothing is thoughtaboutit.
- Studentsdidn't litter in the classroomor write on desks.Todaymany studentsdo both.
- Studentsdidn't talk back to teachersin a defiantmanner.Todayit is doneoften.
- Studentsdidn'tswearin classroomsor thehallways.Todaysomestudentscan'ttalk withoutswearing.
- Whenstudentsneededsomethingfrom theteacher,theywouldsay,"May
I pleasehave...",usuallyin a
pleasanttone. Todaymany studentssay,"I need..." , oftenin a demandingtone.
- Studentsusedto say
"please"
and"thank
you." Today,only a few studentsusethosewords.
- Studentsusedto listenwhentheteacherwastalking. Today,manystudentsfeel they havetheright to
ignorethe teacherandhavea privateconversationwith theirfriends.
- Studentsusedto listenwhen otherstudentswereaskinga question,answeringa questionor expressing
anopinion. Today,manystudentsdon'twantto listento theirclassmates.
- Students,in general,weremoreconsiderateof otherspeople'sfeelings. Today, many studentscould
carelessaboutotherpeople'sfeelings They'remore
"into themselves."
Some questions to consider:
I) Why havemannersandcivility declinedso much in theU.S.in thepast20 years?
2) Is a societybetterwhenpeopletreateachotherwith respect?
3) Is a classroombetterwhenboth studentsandteachershowmutualrespect?
a) Why doesHenry Rogerssay,
"Good
mannersareoneof themostimportantkeys to successin life"?
5) What is the "GoldenRule"? If it's so simple,why do morepeopletodayhavedifficulty practicingit?
6) Do moststudentspracticethemannersin the classroomthattheyweretaughtby their parents?
6. POSITIVEWORDS,
POWERFUTRESUTTS
SimpleWaysto Honor, Affirm, and CelebrateLife
by
Hal Urban
Gontents
Part One - The origins and influence of words
1 - Wordsmakeushuman
2 - Wordscanchangelives
3 - Wordscanhurlandoffend
4 - Wordscomefromtheheart
5 - Wordsarechoices
Part Two - The win-win rewards of positive words
6 - Joyfulwordscelebratelife
7 - Attirmingwordsinspireothers...andourselves
8 - Lovingwordshealandstrengthenrelationships
9 - Graciouswordsshowrespectandgratitude
10- Funnywordsmakeuslaugh
Part Three - Four places where positive words can work wonders
11- Affectionatewordsbuildstrongfamilies
12- Gentlewordsteachkindnessin ourschools
13- Supportivewordsboostmoraleandresultsat work
14- Encouragingwordsenhancepedormanceandfun in sports
Part Four - Two final thoughts on using words wisely
15- Kindwordsinwritingbecomelastingtreasures
16- Positivewordsaddjoyto life...butonlyintheliving
Part Five - Summary and conctusion
Alwayshavesomethinggoodto say
Publishedby Simon& Schuster- May,2OO4
7. THE POWtrROF'WORDS
8 Experts On Good Communication
I canlivefor two monthson onegoodcompliment.
- Mark Twain
I resolveto speak...all thegoodI know of
everybody. - BenjaminFranklin
The deepesturgein humannatureis thedesireto
feelimportant. - JohnDewey
Everybodylikesacompliment.
- AbrahamLincoln
Themostbasicprincipleof humannatureis the
cravingto feelappreciated. - William James
Givetheotherpersona fine reputationto live up to.
- DaleCarnegie
Treatotherpeopletheway you would like themto
treatyou.
- Jesus
Kind wordscanbe shortandeasyto speak,
buttheirechoesaretruly endless.
- Mother Teresa
Let no unwholesometalk comeout of your mouths,
but only whatis helpfulfor buildingothersup accord-
ing to theirneeds,thatit may benefitthosewho listen.
Eohesians4:29
Random QuotesOn The PorverOf Words
We increasewhateverwe praise.Thewhole
creationrespondsto praise,andis glad.
- CharlesFillmore
Wordsgo into thebody. Sotheycauseusto be
well andhopefulandhappyandhigh-energy
andwondrousandfunny andcheerful. Or they
cancauseusto be depressed.They getinto the
body andcauseusto be sullenandsourand
depressedand,finally,sick.
Maya Angelou
Few thingsin theworld aremorepowerfulthana
positivepush.A smile. A wordof optimism
andhope. A 'youcando it'whenthingsare
tough. - RichardM. DeVos
Kind wordsdo notcostmuch...Yet they
accomplishmuch.
- BlaisePascal
Let no oneevercometo you withoutleaving
betterandhappier.
- Mother Teresa
Always keep your words soft and sweet,just in caseyou have to eat them.
8. Name
Oue on: Per
Afrrmation Assrgnment
(verta0
"Words
go into the body. They can cause us to be we// and hopefu/ and happy and hrgh-
energy and wondrous and funny and cheerful." - Maya Angelou
Asstgnment: Use your words to make someone else feel one of the things Maya Angelou
mentions above. Give three people a verbal atfrrmation - one that is personaL not
physica/ (hain clothes, looks, etc.). fulake someone feel good.
Person: Relationship
What you said:
Response:
Person: Relationship
What you said:
Response:
Person: Relatronship
What you said:
Response:
9. The DifferenceA TeacherCan Make
I have cometo afrightening
conclusion that f am the decisive
elernentin the classroom.ft's *y
personal approach thut creutelsthe
climute.ft's my daily mood that
makesthe westheF.As s tescher,I
posse,s^sa tremendouspower to mske
a child's IW miserable orjoyous. I
can be a tool of torture or &n
instrument of inspirution. f can
hamiliate or humor, hurt or heal.In
ell situations, it is m!. responsethat
decideswhether a crisiswill be
escalatedor deescalatedand a child
humsnizedor dehumanized.
- HaimGinott
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The teacher'smission
Every teacherin theworff,,w1etherworhtn7with a
yre-Ltnf,ergartencht(f,or a p6.D. canf,.{.date,6as
t6esamemission- to 6ring out the6estin thestudent.
- ProfessorErwtn $. t{aff
My mission asa teacher- A promiseto my students
My ultimate responsibility asa teacheris to bring out the bestin my sfudents,
to help them perform at their highestlevelsin both academicsand character.
I'll treat you with the utrnostof respect- the sameway I expectyou to treatme
and your classmates.
I'll do everything in my power to createthe bestpossibleclassroomatrnosphere,
onein which I can teachand you canlearn.
I'll cometo eachciasspreparedwith a meaningful lessonplan.
I'll be consistentin maintaining high academicstandardswhile supporting my
very strongbelief that there'sno substitutefor hard work.
Wheneverpossible,I'11try to connectschoolto thelarger world outside. I'll
teach"life lessons"alongwith the academiclessonsin eachcourse.
I'll make myself availableto help you in both academicsand personalmatters.
I will always give you my best.
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11. Nomes
IF WE MADETHE RULES
Studentswoufdnot be ollowedto ...
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Studentswouldbe encourogedto...
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12. ClassRules- Do's and Don'ts in Mr. Urban's class
(written by the studentsand the teacherx)
You are allowedand encouragedto do the
following in this class:
. FollowtheGoldenRule
. Be respectrulof teacherandclassmates
. Cometo class"thirsting
for knowledge"
. Takegoodnotes
. Do yourhomework
. Participate
. Havea positiveattitude
. Havean "Oh,
boy!" attitude
. Seelearningasan OPPORTUNITY
. Listen
' Cometo classprepared- binder,pen,etc.
. Helpeachotherlearn
. Bring goodfoodon your birthday
. Acceptresponsibilityfor yourself
. Honortheruleswe've written
. Beon time
. Havegoodattendance
..$ir, "please"
and ,,thankyou"
. Saynicethingsaboutclassmates- givecompliments
. Findthingsto celebrate/sharegoodnews
. Be thanldul
. Makepeoplelaughwithout beingdirty
. Expressyouropinion
. Ask questions
. Expandyourhorizons
. Makeothersfeel welcome
. Do extracrediton homework
. Smile
; Havegoodmanners
. Act andbetreatedlike youngaduls
. Keeptheclassclean
. Don't worry;Be happy
. Work hard/giveyour best
. Makesuggestions
. Ask if you needhelp
. Keepanorganizedbinder
. Cheerwhenyou gethandouts
. Let Mr. Urbanknow if you're havingproblernsx
@
You are not allowed to do the following in this
class:
. Discount/ignoreotherstudents
. Discount/ignoretheteacher
. Getupandwalkaroundwithoutpermission
. Interrupt
. Annoy others
. Talk serioussmackto others
, Swear/usebadlanguage
. Putdownothers
. Stayin yourlittlecliqueall thetime
. Sexuallyharrassanyone
. Putmake-upon in class
. Spit
. Leavea messbehind/litter
. Havesideconversations(nodiscounts)
. Be rude
. Block aisleswith backpacks
. Putgum underthedesks
. Throw things
. Invadeotherpeople'sprivacy
. Havea bad/negativeattitude
. Comelate
. Act like a "hard
ass"
. Vandalize
. Make fun of/laughat others
. Dominateconversations
. Act like a know-it-all
. Interruptteaching
. Complain/moanout load(poisonstheatmosphere)
. Make dumboutbursts
. Run with scissors
. Eator drink (exceptwaterin plasticbottte)
. Cheat/lie/steal
. Make irritatingnoises(knuckles,pens,gum)
. Give up on yourself
. Gossip/spreadrumors
' Say"I need..."
. Make racistremarks
. Sit anddo nothing(stayon task)x
. Sleepor put yourheaddownon thedeskx
