3. • What is Cyberbullying?
• the use of electronic communication to
bully a person, typically by sending
messages of an intimidating or
threatening nature.
5. • With Not In Our School, move into action for a safe, accepting and inclusive
school.
• Six simple solutions:
• If you are being bullied: tell them to stop, get away from the situation, and tell a
trusted adult.
• If you see someone being bullied, be an upstander: Tell the person to stop, get a
trusted adult, reach out and be friends.
• With your children: Listen and support your children. Work with the school to be
sure your child is safe.
• In Your School: Learn and help train all adults and youth on how to recognize
and respond to bullying.
• With Others Who Care: Start a Not In Our School Anti-bullying Club where youth
lead in finding solutions.
• In Your School and the Entire Community: Create an identity-safe climate where
all people are respected.
• Start today to address bullying and intolerance with these additional resources
from Stopbullying.gov:Stop It On the Spot — Respond — Prevent and Build a
Safe Community.
6. • Walk away. If the situation seems threatening or
dangerous, it's best to get away from the bully. Even if it
is not a dangerous situation, remember that you don’t
have to listen to someone say mean things to you. The
best thing to do might be to calmly walk away from the
person. This will send the message that you won’t put up
with this kind of treatment.Try to walk towards people,
such as towards a teacher or someone else who will not
put up with bullying.
7. • Tell someone so the bully will stop. It's important to report bullying
right away so that it will stop.[1] By telling someone that you are being
bullied, you will be standing up for yourself and showing the bullies
that you will not put up with their abuse.Find a teacher, parent,
school counselor, or someone else who can help you and
immediately tell them what the bully has been saying or doing to you.
• Try saying something like, “Joyce is bullying me. She keeps making
fun of my weight and she will not stop. I have asked her to stop, but
she is still doing it. I think I need some help to make it stop.”
• You can also write a note to explain what is happening deliver the
note to your teacher, school counselor, or principal.
• Tell someone else if the first person you tell does not do anything
about the bully. Don’t accept that you will have to put up with the
bullying.
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8. • Look the bully in the eye and tell him or her to stop. Using direct,
assertive communication and body language is the best way to
address a bully.[2] If a bully continues to harass you even after you
have walked away, then let him or her know that you will not put up
with the behavior. Turn and face the bully and tell him or her to
stop.To use assertive body language, stand up tall and face the bully.
Look the bully in the eye when you are speaking to them. Don’t look
down and don’t try to make yourself smaller, such as by folding your
arms or bringing your knees in close to your body. Pull yourself up to
your full height, keep your arms at your sides, and your feet about
shoulder width apart.
• Keep your request short and direct. Try saying something like, “Stop
it, Jennifer.” Or, “Cut it out, Craig.” As you say this, make sure that
you look the bully directly in the eye and speak in a calm, clear voice.
• Don’t compliment or insult the bully. If you say nice things to a bully
after he or she has been insulting you, putting you down, or
physically threatening you, then this will only increase his or her
sense of power. Calling the bully names may enrage the bully and
increase his or her efforts to hurt you.
9. • Stay calm- It is the bully’s goal to get an emotional response out of
you, so do your best to keep calm and avoid showing the bully how
you feel. Try your best not to show that you are angry, sad, or
frightened. The bully may feed off of these emotions and increase his
or her efforts.Take a few deep breaths and think about something
that makes you happy, such as getting a good grade on a test,
playing with your dog, or something fun that you are planning to do
with your family over the weekend. Doing this may help you to take a
step back from the situation and avoid reacting to your emotions.
Make sure that you keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact
with the bully as you do this.
• Respond to the bully in a calm way. For example, you might say,
"Jack, I know you think you're funny but you're not. Stop." Or, "Stop
now or I'm asking the teacher to move you away from me."
• Be sure to talk about how the bully made you feel with someone later
on. Talk with your parents, a school counselor, or a teacher.
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10. • Low self-esteem
• Withdrawal from family and spending a lot of time alone
• Reluctance to let parents or other family members
anywhere near their mobiles, laptops etc
• Finding excuses to stay away from school or work including
school refusal
• Friends disappearing or being excluded from social events
• Losing weight or changing appearance to try and fit in
• Fresh marks on the skin that could indicate self-harm and
dressing differently such as wearing long sleeved clothes in
the summer to hide any marks
• A change in personality i.e. anger, depression, crying,
withdrawn
