Pre Marriage Orientation is a half day orientation for couples applying for marriage.

1. P-re
M-arriage
O-rientaion &
C-ounseling

2. For Attendance Please follow:
Name of Male: (First Name, Middle Initial, Last Name)
Age:
Address:
Name of Female: (First Name, Middle Initial, Last Name)
Age:
Address:
Original Schedule:
NOTE: Please turn-on your camera always, If someone is
talking please turn-off/mute your microphone.

4. ⮚NAME
⮚AGE
⮚ADDRESS
⮚WHERE AND WHEN YOU
MET?
⮚PERIOD OF ENGAGEMENT
⮚STRENGTH/WEAKNESS
YOU
SEE IN YOUR PARTNER

5. 8/25/2021
1 Mouth : 2
Ears
Keep an
Open
Mind

6. Texting and answering
calls is cool but not during
activity session
Let’s keep our mobile
phone on silent mode and
answer calls outside the
function room.

7. Rationale and Background
• Pre Marriage
Orientation/Counselling or PMO/C
is an orientation program for
couples applying for marriage. It is
designed to provide pre married
couples with a realistic overview of
what marriage is all about.
• Marriage is the initial step in the
formation of the families. The
family is the basic unit of the

8. Rationale and Background
• Marriage is a crucial step in the sense
that it marks the time when a man
and a woman agree to live together,
commit themselves to live together,
commit themselves to love each other
until death. Marriage also signals for
the couple their entry into a new
world and their assumption of new
roles and new responsibilities.
• There is no course which teach
couples
the how to’s of married life.

9. Reasons why Pre married Couples are
required to undergo PMO/C
• Be aware of the different rights and
privileges as well as the duties and
responsibilities of the married
couples in their various roles.
• Acquire key information on
marriage and relationships,
maternal and child health, family
planning, responsible parenthood
and home management.
Why is this important?
“We put a lot of value on marriage”

10. A binding legal contract
between a man and a woman
for the establishment
of conjugal
and family life.
Marriage is . . …
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11. Topic One
Session 1:
MARRIAGE
&
RELATIONSHIPS
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12. Who is this person I`m going
to marry?
1. The ONE I love
2. The one who
passed my
standards
3. The father or
mother of my
children

13. Why
should I
get
married?
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14. 1. For
procreation
2. For financial
security
3. Because of
LOVE
4. For
companionship

15. 1. Contracting parties have legal
capacity
2. Must be a male and a female
3. Eighteen years or upwards
4. Consent freely given in the
presence of the solemnizing officer
Marriage is valid only if:
The New Family Code
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16. The absence of any of the
essential or formal requisites
shall render the marriage void
ab initio (from the very
beginning)

17. Roles
& Relationships
Session 3
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18. Rights and Obligation of
Husband and Wife
⚫Art. 68- live together, observe mutual love, respect and
fidelity, and render mutual helps and support.
⚫Art. 69- fix the family domicile
⚫Art. 70- jointly responsible for the support of the
family.
⚫Art. 71- the management of the household shall the
right and duty of both spouses.

19. ⚫Art. 72- when one of the spouse neglects his or
her duties to the conjugal union or commits act
which tends to bring danger, disorder or injury
to the other or to the family the aggrieved party
may apply to the court for relief.
⚫Art. 73- either spouse may exercise any
legitimate profession, occupation, business or
activity without the consent of the other. The
latter may object only on valid, serious or moral
Rights and Obligation of
Husband and Wife

20. Session 4:
Elements of
Successful
Marriage

21. 1. LOVE Powerful emotion felt for
another person manifesting
itself with deep affection or
devotion with sexual desire.
ACCEPTANCE –accept each other for who and what he/she
is. Couples are usually more secured and more confident in
their relationship.
LOVE AND LOYALTY - feeling of confidence that you are
able to keep the love and interest of your partner.
*not doing anything that will create doubt and
insecurity on the part of the spouse

22. 1. Mutual Understanding/
Managparehang Pagsabot
❑a realistic
acceptance of
each other
strength and
weaknesses

23. 2. Respect/Pag-respetohay
❑each spouse
holds the
other in high
regard

24. 3. Trust and loyalty/Pagsalig ug
Matinud-anon
❑couple is secure in their feelings
of being loved by their spouse

25. 4. Shared Philosophy/Hiniusang
Pilosopiya
❑couple must
share a set of
beliefs which
gives
meaning,
perspective
and direction.

26. 5. Commitment/Pagtugyan
❑the
willingness to
sacrifice for the
sake of the
other

27. 6. Openness/ Abli nga
Panghuna- huna
❑growth and
development
is grounded
on one’s
ability to be
open to new
ideas and
changes

28. 7. Growth/ Pagtubo
❑allows each
other enough
to develop
their abilities
and potentials

29. 8. Mutual cooperation/
Pagtinabangay
❑maintaining an
attitude of give
and take of
service/ sharing
duties and
responsibilities
inside and
outside the
house

30. 9. Involvement/Paglambigit
❑to include in some
activities, such as
marriage that said
to be a social
institution for
family, community
and country

31. REMINDERS!!!
TRUE LOVE
ENDURES (Enduring love is something that lasts, it
passed the test of time)
IS A CHOICE (it is not based on emotions, it is not all
about feeling )
IS A COMMITMENT (you think of the
others)
IS AN ACTION (love is proactive, you reach
out, you seek what is best for the others)

32. 2. GOD
PUTTING GOD OR SUPREME
BEING AT THE CENTER
OF YOUR
MARRIAGE/UNION
When God completes the
relationship, the
marriage/union is
strengthened.

33. GOD is. . . . .
Restorer
Heals
and when GOD restores something,
sometimes like a broken bones it
becomes stronger

34. 3. IN-LAWS
Maintaining positive relations is not limited between spouses but also with
each spouse’s family.
✔ Treat your in-laws as you would your parents
✔ Build mutual respect by observing traditions, special occasions,
privacy and differing opinions/ideas
✔ Let your in-laws enjoy your kids as much as you let your own parents
✔ Be mature
✔ Be kind
✔ Communicate with them openly

35. 4. MONEY Wise budgeting and spending
of income is necessary to
support the financial needs
of the family
Share Financial Expectations
✔It's also important to differentiate
between needs and wants. While
both are legitimate, couples can
face problems if they try to fulfill
all their wants without considering
their budget.
✔Incorporate some flexibility in
your budget to allow for
entertainment, gifts, vacations,
and other activities that will
strengthen your marriage.

36. 5. CHILDREN
To how many they
are going to have
or interval or
spacing when to
have

37. 6. SEX
SATISFYING SEXUAL
RELATIONSHIP OR
SEXUAL HARMONY
When done as an
expression of love and
care, sex serves as a
powerful instrument of
marital fulfillment and
happiness.

38. 7. MARITAL
COMMUNICATION
It is a basic tool, not only in
attaining a successful marriage
but in all interpersonal relation
✔Communication- is very
essential in the life of married
couple.

39. Effective Listener Must Be
Able To:
Listen with your
Body
Listen is an
active rather
than passive. It
is an art.

40. Listen with your Eyes

41. Listen with
your Ears
-Talk. listen to
your mate.

42. Listen with your Heart –

43. Listen with your mouth closed

44. Communicate Regularly
✔ Communicating openly about your life, interests,
dreams, frustrations, and feelings is an important
way to foster intimacy in a relationship.
✔ It's also crucial that you also listen to your partner
voice their thoughts.

45. Responsible
Parenthood
TOPIC 2
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46. PRIMARY RIGHTS AND
RESPONSIBILITY OF
PARENTS
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47. KEY MESSAGE
❖Responsible parenthood is the ability and
shared responsibility of husband and wife to
provide for and fulfill the aspirations of the
children and the family.
❖Planning the number and timing of having
children to make sure that they will be healthy
and well-provided for is part of responsible
parenthood.
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48. Parents shall have the following
general duties towards their
children:
✔To give the child affection, companionship and
understanding
✔To extend to the child the benefits of moral guidance, self-
discipline and religious instructions
✔To supervise the child's activities, including recreation
✔To inculcate to the child the value of industry, thrift and
self-reliance

49. Parents shall have the following
general duties towards their
children:
✔To stimulate the child's interest in civic affairs, teach the
child with the duties of citizenship and develop the
child's commitment to the country
✔To advise the child properly on matter affecting the child's
development and well being
✔To always set a good example
✔To provide the child with adequate support

50. 4 Major
Parenting Styles

51. NEGLECTFUL
⚫You perceived your children to be of secondary
importance.
⚫You don’t give so much care and concern to your
children.
⚫You usually entrust the needs and problems of the
children to themselves or to other members of the
house.

52. ⦿You don’t give so much time and attention.
⦿You have trained your children to give time
and attention to material things or prize,
career, friends, hobbies, vice and other
interest.
⦿Your child tends to have poor social skills.
Child is emotionally immature, easily
influences by others and had very low
achievement orientation.

53. AUTHORITATIVE
⚫You are domineering.
⚫You work and rules must be followed without complaint
by your child.
⚫You don’t listen to their words and feelings.
⚫Obedience is of prime importance to you
⚫Child usually becomes fearful, moody, unhappy, passive,
hostile, withdrawn and irritable.

54. PERMISSIVE
⚫Obedience is of prime importance to you.
⚫Your child can manipulate you because you always
follow the desires and whims of your child.
⚫You are easily carried away when your child cries, you
fell angry and depressed if your child rebels.

55. ⦿Your child becomes impulsive, low in self-
reliance and in achievement orientation, quick
to anger and domineering.

56. AUTHORITATIVE
DEMOCRATIC
⚫You practice open communication with your child.
⚫You don’t easily get mad at their misbehavior.
⚫You try to find meaning and reasons in the acts and
ways of your child.

57. ⦿ You listen to their opinion and feelings.
⦿ You discuss rules and conduct that should be observed
inside the house.
⦿ Child becomes friendly, self-reliant, self-controlled
cooperative and achievement oriented.

58. Techniques for Disciplining
Children:
▪ Time-out
▪ Loss of Privilege
▪ Restitution
▪ Rewards
▪ Ignoring
▪ Praise
▪ Modeling

59. HOW PARENTS CAN DEVELOP POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM
IN CHILDREN
1. Praise children for being and doing
2. Use happy, pleasant expressions and tone of
voice
3. Have fun with them
4. Use positive labels for your children
5. Give children opportunities for success
6. Use gentle, positive touch, hugs and kisses

60. SESSION 4:
Rights
of the
Child
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61. MGA KATEGORYA SA
KATUNGOD
What are the different categories
of rights under the UNCRC?
Survival
Development
Protection
Participation

62. Katungod sa Paglungtad
✔Katungod na mabuhi
✔Katungod sa pag-alima ug suporta sa ginikanan
✔Katungod sa maayong panglawas
✔Katungod sa saktong pagpuyo
SURVIVAL RIGHTS

63. DEVELOPMENT RIGHTS
• Katungod sa Impormasyon
• Katungod sa Edukasyon
• Katungod sa Pagdula ug
paglingaw-lingaw
MGA KATUNGOD NA MUSIGURO NGA
ANG BATA MAHATAGAN SA TANANG
OPORTUNIDAD PARA MUTABANG SA
PAGLAMBO SA IYANG POTENSYAL
ARON MAHIMU SIYANG USA KA

64. PROTECTION RIGHTS
✔Katungod sa iyang pangan, nasyonalidad ug
pagkasiya
✔Katungod nga mapanalipdan gikan sa abuso ug
pagdaog-daog
✔Katungod na mapanalipdan gikan sa seksual na
abuso ug pagpahimulus
✔Katungod na mapanalipdan gikan sa dautang
droga.
MGA KATUNGOD SA BATA NGA MUSIGURO UG
MAGARANTIYA NGA SIYA MAHILAYO SA BISAN
UNSANG DAUTANG IMPLUWENSYA O SITWASYON
NGA MAKADAOT SA IYA.

65. PARTICIPATION RIGHTS
✔Katungod sa iyang kaugalingong opinyon
✔Katungod sa kagawasan sa pulong
✔Katungod sa kagawasan sa panghuna-huna, konsensya
ug relihiyon
✔Katungod sa pagporma ug pag-apil og organisasyon
✔Katungod sa pag-inusara
KATUNGOD NA MIGARANTIYA NGA ANG BATA
MADUNGGAN UG MAHATAGAN UG TINGOG SA
BISAN UNSANG DESISYON NA MU-APEKTO NIYA.

66. 66
But Remember……….
Children also have
RESPONSIBILITIES!!!

67. 67
Responsibilities to:
❖To love, obey and respect your parents
❖To love, obey and respect other people
❖To study well
❖To respect other people’s opinions and thoughts
❖To promote, respect and protect other people’s human rights
❖To be responsible citizens

68. Liabilities of Parents
⚫Concealment or abandonment of
children, depriving them of LOVE, CARE
they need.
⚫Failure to enrol their children in school
⚫Inflicting cruel and unusual forms of
punishment to he child.
⚫Transfer of custody of their children for
monetary consideration .
⚫Exploitation of the child such as making
him beg on the streets.

69. Protect your Marriage
⚫Don’t be too friendly with the opposite
sex
⚫Don’t share your personal and marital
problems with an opposite sex friend
⚫Don’t contact any opposite sex you are
fond of
⚫Don’t tell an opposite sex you are
romantic or sexy
⚫Avoid discussions with the opposite sex
when you are tired, very sad, depressed,
sorrowful or sick

70. Protect your Marriage
⚫Stop saying “I love you" to opposite sex
⚫Never flirt with the opposite sex
⚫Stop focusing on your spouse weaknesses
⚫Avoid emotional and sexual affairs

71. No marriage/relationship
is perfect. There would
always be challenges,
however, not all couples
experience the same
conflicts and issues along
their married life.
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73. “The most
important thing a
father can do for
his children is to
love their
mother”
~Rev. Theodore Hesburgh
Call to Action

74. Marriage Prayer
Lord Jesus I humble myself before you.
Now today, I admit my sinfulness, I admit my selfishness
and only you can change me.
So Lord Jesus , I invite you to change my heart.
Come into my life.
Be my master.
Be my Lord.
And above all, I accept you as my Savior.
Forgive my sins, the sin of selfishness.
I accept your gift of Eternal Life.
Change my heart.
Teach me how to love, the way you want me to love.

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