11. Rule of the land
● Communication is nothing
without effectively listening
● In order to feel valued, one
needs to feel listened to
● Listening enables people to feel
included and have ownership
of their contributions
14. The impact of not being heard
“I would say that I would probably feel neglected, not
respected or valued for the contribution that I want to bring
to the team. On the other hand I would question my
contribution, if it is the right contribution at the right time.
“I wonder if I've been unclear, if I'm missing something, if I
misunderstand who isn't listening, or what the actual
situation is. It's both motivating and demotivating:
Something is wrong, and I need to understand and fix it.”
“Frustration and insecurity starts
creeping up when I feel i'm not
being listened to.”
“I feel not respected/valued but I do then
examine my messaging and message to
ensure it is not on my end.”
“Annoyed.”
“When I am not listened to in the
workplace, it can trigger my
imposter syndrome and make me
feel like my input isn’t valuable.”
“I tend to point the finger at myself first: Did I say
something wrong? Am I reading the situation wrong? I'll
just listen and not say anything, and hopefully the
situation will get better.”
“I think fundamentally, people want to be understood.
They want to be seen and they want to feel like they
matter.
When I’m not listened to, I hear the antithesis of these
statements…”I’m not seen, because I don’t matter.””
16. Fundamental of Listening
Without following through, there is no listening.
● Prove you are listening
● Enable trust that when something is brought up it will be addressed
● Encourage individuals to air their thoughts and ideas
17.
18. Make Listening Safe
● Its ok to admit you weren't listening and need something to be repeated
● Repeat the information in your own words to ensure you are on the
same page
● Provide multiple ways to communicate so everyone can insert their
voice
○ Meetings
○ Chat channels
○ Emails
○ Design documents
19. Listening in Meetings
Listen to ensure the purpose of the meeting is being
met
● Is there a reason to meet?
● Are the participants finding value out of the
meeting?
○ Survey
○ Ask directly
○ Suggest optimizations
● Observe to see how people are communicating
● Does everyone who wants to speak have a
chance?
○ Use features like the hand raise function in
a video call.
○ Have a facilitator monitor the chat and
ensure questions or concerns are brought
up
20. Listening for Process Definition
● Ask the team how they want to work
○ “Do you want to start with a framework”
● Ask for the team to define how they want to measure themselves
○ “Which metrics will be good for use to measure our progress?”
● Leverage team working agreement
○ List out how the team wants to communicate and where
■ Slack
■ Google Chat
■ Email
○ List when they are meeting and who needs to be involved
■ Standups
■ Weekly syncs
■ Open discussions
○ If applicable roles and responsibilities
21. Listening for Change Resistors
Change should happen for a reason
● Explain what needs to change
● Explain why it needs to change, how
is the team currently being
impacted
● Ask for potential solutions
○ If there is indifference, offer a
solution in the absence of one
and ask for objections
22. Listening for Indifference
Sometimes no one cares but you see the team needs something. How can you approach
this?
Example:
Hina thinks scrum will be very helpful for the team. In order to get buy in she needs to
approach it this way.
1. State the problem or purpose:
a. We want to sync daily for x reason. What do you think of a daily standup?
2. Ensure members understand why this is being suggested.
a. Can you all see the value in this? Are there any questions?
3. Allow teams to suggest the format
a. How would you like to sync? Traditionally it is a daily meeting. How do we want
to satisfy the purpose?
4. Listen if there is pushback and new ways to meet the purpose of the initial proposal
23. Listening for Feedback
Don't wait for retrospectives!
Common questions that can be asked:
● Do you find value in this?
● Is there anything we can do to make life easier?
● Are there any bottlenecks in your daily work life?
● Is “x” still relevant to us?
24. Tools to help show you are listening
● Value stream maps
● Surveys
● Whiteboard sessions
● 1:1 interviews/meetings
● Observing how teams work (sit in meetings, look at how they document
and share info, etc)
● Leverage metrics for conversations and not test scores
25. Key Takeaways
● Agile is not and never will be a framework. Your team can be agile
without ever looking at frameworks like Scrum or Kanban.
● Listen to what your team wants, verify along the way that it is what they
want, and ensure everyone is heard when they want to bring something
up.