2. Ignite Christian Leaders worldwide to lead
others to participate in the life of the
Trinity by breaking down barriers
prohibiting a growing healthy relationship
with God the Father.
Our Mission

3. Through
Discipleship &
Evangelism
Our Mission

11. Creating a Healthy
and Happy Family
营造一个健康和幸福的家庭

12. Cross Cultural Definition of a
Healthy and Happy Family
健康和幸福家庭的文化内涵

13. FAMILY家庭
WORLD
CULTURE
世界文化
ETHNIC
CULTURE
民族文化

14. Neil Postman “Informing Ourselves to Death”
Speech /world.std.com page 4

16. INNOCENT
清白
POWER
权能
HONOR
尊荣
Roland Muller Honor & Shame: Unlocking the Door

17. Family Types and
Influences
家庭环境与其影响

18. A Healthy Family
健康家庭
A healthy family has a clear, positive self-
concept, deep mutual affection, and happiness
skills such as conflict resolution. The parents
have come to a healthy resolution concerning
early family experience.
健康的家庭环境给人清晰、积极的自我观，成
员乊间彼此深深相爱，了解使人快乐的技巧，
好比如何解决冲突等等。父母从自身的家庭环
境中已经得知怎样是健康的人际关系。

19. POSITIVE SELF-CONCEPT
积极肯定的自我观

21. Happiness Skills
获得快乐的技巧

22. “ . . . marriage is not a game of chance. Once
we show people that marriage is a relationship
built upon communication skills, that’s what
changes attitude about divorce.”
“……婚姻并不是在碰运气。我们只要让大家知
道婚姻是建立在沟通技巧乊上的关系，人们就
会改变对离婚的态度。”
Diane Sollee 黛安·索利
American Association for Marriage and Family
Therapy
美国婚姻与家庭治疗联会

23. Divorce and Differences
离婚和差异的原因总结
1. Infidelity 不忠 50%
2. No longer in love
不再相爱
3. Emotional Problems
情绪问题
4. Financial Problems
经济问题
5. Physical Abuse
身体虐待
6. Alcohol 酗酒
. . . .
10. Communication 沟通
1. Communication 沟通
2. Conflict Resolution
冲突化解
3. Sexual Harmony
性生活协调
4. Quality Time Together
夫妻单独相处时间

24. Happy Couples 80+
Studies
80+快乐夫妻研究
• Communicate
• 他们彼此沟通
• Conflict resolution
• 他们消转解决冲突
• Time Together
• 他们有单独相处的时光
• Feel worthwhile
• 他们感到自己有价值

25. CONFUSED SELF-CONCEPT
困惑不清的自我观
PERFORMANCE-BASED FAMILIES
以注重表现为主的家庭

26. A Performance-based Family
以注重表现为主的家庭
A performance only family has evident
affection, limited happiness skills, and unclear
self-concepts. The parents have passed on
the performance only values.
以注重表现为主的家庭给人有被爱的感觉、也
了解一定的快乐技巧，但是令人形成一种困惑
不清的自我观。父母本身的家庭环境注重表现
，也把这种价值观传递给下一代。

27. WHAT IS A VERY
UNHEALTHY FAMILY?
不健康的家庭是什么样子？

28. DEFINITION
定义
A very unhealthy family is one where a child is
subjected to abnormal, long term stresses that
create emotional neglect in the home. The
child must frequently resort to unhealthy
habits to protect himself or herself.
不健康家庭中的孩子长期受到不正常的精神压
力，致使孩子的情感完全被忽略。因此，孩子
常常凭借不健康的习惯来保护自己。

29. If this stress continues for a long time, the child will
carry these child-like habits into adulthood, and
usually respond under adult stresses like they
were still back in the home.
假如某种精神压力持续很长时间，孩子会把这些孩
提时的习惯带入成年期，在面对成年人的压力时，
反应方式就像在小时在家中一样。

30. Abnormal
Stress develops Defenses
raises
Same
Defenses
Adult
Stress
防御机制
发展成
不正常的压力
正常的孩子
相同的
防御机制
形成
压力
成年人

31. The Family Issues家庭问题
Are you able or unable?
通常你能信任别人吗？

32. The Family Issues家庭问题
Are they experienced or ignored?
你忽略自己的情绪吗？

33. The Family Issues家庭问题
Can you give and receive?
你会安慰别人和接受安慰吗？