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Mission Statement
Scarborough Residential Alternatives
are parents of developmentally
handicapped young adults. Because there are almost no funded residential places
available for our children, we are examining ways to create our own residential
alternatives for lifelong living arrangements. We are determined to successfully create
the best possible living arrangements for our children, using all resources,
governmental and otherwise, that are available to us. We welcome the participation of
any parents or caregivers who find themselves in a similar situation and want to join us
in building our children’s future.
Established January 2006
• SRA was formed in 2006 by a small group of parents who were interested in finding a
housing alternative for our adult children. We spent a couple of years investigating
everything we could learn and forming possible partnerships with various families. The
original 6 families moved their children into their own homes in 2009. Out of the 6
families 4 of them are in the original homes, one individual from each house moved out
at the end of the first year due to the families and the individual not working out. Those
two families have since moved into another situation with new roommates. One house
has had the same 3 roommates for 2 years now. The other house has had difficulty
finding the right 3rd roommate and family partnership. This is the hardest part of the
whole thing, finding the right roommates and getting families to give it a try.
• The two original homes have LIGHTS funding. One of the roommates who moved out,
has permanent funding and another member has permanent housing as well. He is
currently looking for a new roommate.
• There are now around 128 families involved in SRA. There are a few new partnerships
in the works, others are not quite ready yet.
• We have started a provincial network and continue to outreach to various family groups
who are looking into alternatives. I believe this is the best way to organize families and
groups. We can learn from each other. Those who have been successful can help those
who are just starting and give families the benefit of what they have learned. This is not a
one size fits all, every house (as in life) is different, as it should be.
• All this has been done by families and their adult children. It has been done without
government funding. It has been done because some families want something better for
their children. It is not for all, as everyone deserves to have choices in how they live and
who they live with. We as a group are not willing to wait for the government to decide
what it is we want, we as a group are determined to make this work (as what choice do
we have), we are doing this before we are too old and tired, we are doing this because we
love our children and want the best for them. We are doing this because we are tired of
waiting for nothing!
GUIDE TO HOUSING SUCCESS
1. LET’S TALK MONEY.
ODSP – Ontario Disability Support Program
This is a provincial funding program
Ontario Disability Support Program Income Support is one of Ontario's social assistance
programs. Income Support provides financial help for people with disabilities who are in need. It
can help pay for living expenses, like food and housing.
AS of Nov 2014
The basic needs portion of your Income Support is meant to help cover the cost of:
 food
 clothing, and
 other necessary personal items.
The amount for basic needs is $619.00
The shelter allowance is meant to help cover:
 your rent or your mortgage payment
 heat
 utilities (hydro, water)
 property taxes
 home insurance
 condominium fees.
The amount you receive for the shelter allowance is based on:
 your actual shelter costs up to a maximum depending on the number of people in your
family
The maximum is $479.00
If you are living in a board and lodging arrangement
If you receive food and shelter from the same source, you will receive the Ontario Disability
Support Program Board and Lodging amount.
For example, you are in a board and lodging situation if:
 you live with your parents and they buy and prepare food for you, or
 your landlord buys and prepares food for you.
Passport Funding
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/passport/passp
ort_guidelines_en.pdf This is the link to the most recent passport guidelines
This is a provincial funding program.
Passport is a program that helps adults with a developmental disability to participate in their
communities. It also helps caregivers of an adult with a developmental disability take a break
from their caregiving responsibilities.
Passport can provide supports and services to adults with a developmental disability so they can:
 take part in community classes or recreational programs
 develop work, volunteer, and daily life skills
 create their own life plans (this is called person-directed planning) and reach their goals.
Passport funding can also be used to hire a support person to help the individual with a
developmental disability, in order to give their main caregiver time to look after other personal or
household needs
LIGHTS ( a Toronto initiative) will support families seeking housing opportunities in four
ways:
1. Assisting families in determining how they can create and operate a home (shared with
others) for their intellectually disabled family member. These homes will be managed by
the families involved, with LIGHTS as a supportive partner.
2. Connecting families seeking similar residential options. Families will be part of an online
network that will help them identify and secure potential roommates, coordinate staffing,
and provide and share information and knowledge around government funding programs.
3. Building capacity for this critical housing sector by securing in-kind, tax-deductible
donations of real estate and by advising families of other real estate options which will
add to the number of homes available for these families.
4. Providing temporary, interim funding to families who cannot afford the start-up process,
with the goal of bridging early cash flow needs while families seek additional resources,
including government funding, to assume these costs.
STAFFING
There are many methods of having staff. Again go to your philosophy statement and it will guide
you to your answers.
#1 Priority
Always remember “Staff is staff. Period!” They are being paid to do a job by supporting your
child. They are not your child’s friend, mother/father, dictator, or worse people who “take care
of” your child.
Staff are there to support the individual and facilitate the goals of the people they work for.
#2
Do you want to manage many people to cover the hours that are needed? The more staff, the
more organization is needed to schedule people, keep track of hours, making payments and
ensuring everyone is on the same page.
For example If you need 24/7 support because the person is home all day, then you need 3 shifts
per day. If you have different people for every shift then that would be 3 shifts per day x 7 days =
21 people to coordinate, maintain hours worked and when worked, as an asleep overnight shift is
a flat rate of $75 per night (on average), whereas the other shifts are paid on an hourly basis. This
would be the most expensive way to have support staff.
#3 Live in Staff: This is the cheapest method if you use room and board as part of the
payment. While the individual lives in the home 24/7, they are not working 24/7. Make sure both
you(parent)/individual and the staff person have clear expectations of what the work period is,
what are the living conditions for the staff person and the individuals who live in the home.
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/HiringSupportWork
er.pdf
This link will give you a guide to hiring a support worker. It was developed through a
partnership with the Ontario government. It has a lot of good ideas and links to various
government websites.
Planning
Think about your (and your child’s) philosophy of how you/your child want to live, your guiding
goal. Once you know this very basic statement the rest is easy. For example, the guiding goal for
Jenny is “I want Jenny to live an ordinary life.” Every time I have a hard time with a decision, it
is because it goes against this philosophy.
Put a time line to your plan – When do I want my child to live on their own? – taking into
account this does take work, and adjustments, and planning.
WILL YOU HAVE THE ENERGY AT 80?
WILL MY CHILD BE ABLE TO ACCEPT THE CHANGES AT 60?
DO I WANT TO LIVE MY ENTIRE LIFE BEING A CAREGIVER?
DOES MY CHILD WANT TO SPEND THEIR ENTIRE LIFE BEING CARED FOR?
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS TO LIVING APART?
WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS TO LIVING TOGETHER?
Planning
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/PlanningGuidePlain
LanguageMCSS.pdf
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/GuideonPersondirec
tedPlanningFinal.pdf
Person Direct Planning
Various agencies around the province can do the PDP (person directed planning) for free. You
have to request it through your local DSO (Developmental Services Ontario).
Or you can use an independent planner and use a portion of your passport funds to pay for the
planning
People can use a portion of their Passport funding for person-directed planning.
It helps people with a developmental disability prepare life plans that lay out
their distinct needs and goals. These plans can help them make the most out of
funding and outline ways they can participate in community activities.
The planning process helps others understand the individual’s needs. It also
helps the person achieve their goals.
The bold comment is from:
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/en/mcss/programs/developmental/serviceSupport/person_directed_pl
anning.aspx
I would suggest you don’t think of it as a “life plan”, but a plan for the next year with reasonable
goals that can be achieved in that period of time. A life plan is too daunting, if your child is 18
years old, how can you plan for when they are 25, 30, 60 or 90. Who knows what will happen
within that time.
Once you have done the plan and have received your copy of the plan, it is time to start working
on those goals. It is meant to be a working, changing plan, not something to look at and put on
the shelf. Start with the easiest goal to accomplish, break it down into small steps that can be
achieved quickly and build on the skills needed to complete the goal. Celebrate that
accomplishment, it is a big deal for both your child and yourself.
Some goals should not be done with a parent – for example if the individual wants a job or
volunteer position, it is best done by someone other than the parent. Would you hire someone if
their mother was asking for the job? This can be done by an agency, a member of the person’s
network or an independent facilitator.
Without planning, the idea remains a dream. We need to set the goals with timelines for
accomplishments otherwise the years go by, they become decades and it becomes harder and
harder to do.
Tell your story.
What is your housing situation now?
WHAT ISN’T WORKING?

What is working in your situation?

In an ideal world what does a
home look like to you?
Use the template above to look at where you are now. This can be the start of your planning. A
good time to start this is around 18 years old. It takes a while to get the idea of having your child
move out and start their own life without you 24/7 plausible. It also takes time for your child to
realize they can do things on their own, establish a life outside of family and enjoy adulthood.
Everyone deserves a life of their own, make their own mistakes, learn to make their own
decisions and the consequences of those decisions. Parents deserve a life without their children,
do the things they planned on doing in their retirement and stop being the primary caregivers.
This doesn’t change just because your child has a diagnosis, in fact I would say it’s almost more
important when there is a diagnosis.
The story that inspired my change of thinking:
When Jenny was around 16 years old, I read this article in the Toronto Star.
A husband and wife were driving in their car one day in the winter. It was a snowy, icy day. The
couple was in their 80’s. They had a car accident and both of them died. The couple was on their
way to pick up their 58 year old son at his day program. The son waited for his parents to pick
him up for a long time, no one knew what had happened at the day program. The couple was
always on time. Eventually the day program tried to get in touch with the parents, but of course
where not successfully.
The police were called because the staff at the day program knew something was wrong, but
didn’t have anyone else to call. The man was determined not to leave, because his parents always
came to pick him up. He was taken to the hospital, restrained and was kept there until finally the
news came of his parents.
That man’s life went from normal to insane in a flash. He had lived in the same home all his life,
he had been taken care of all his life, he had no friends, there was no plan for him in place (even
though his parents where in their 80’s. The one brother he had lived in another city and couldn’t
take him.
Unfortunately I don’t know the end of the story as it was never followed in the paper.
I looked over the paper at my daughter and started to cry. In that moment I decided I would
never do that to her. While I am sure those parents thought they were doing the best for their son,
and that when they died someone would look after him, they just didn’t know who. I am sure,
because I have to think that someone took care of him, that the man was placed in a home, with
people he didn’t know, with routines and changes that he might not like and had no control over
his life and didn’t know how to look after himself or have anyone he could talk to about how he
felt.
In that moment, the search to find an alternative to my daughter living with me and being total
dependent on me was born. The idea of living in a group home never appealed to me, but I
thought I should investigate this option, as quite frankly is seemed like the only option. As with
life nothing is immediate, and it took a couple of years to get things going, but in 2006
Scarborough Residential Alternatives was created with the idea that we would spend a couple of
years searching all venues, all possibilities and get something figured out so that Jenny would
have a home of her own.
It took closer to 3 years to figure some of it out, have her move into her home, roommates we
hoped would work and a live in support staff. While I have never figured that that was that, we
were done, everything would remain the same for the rest of her life, I had hoped it would be
fairly stable for longer than it did. My own panic about Jenny being “on her own” almost won,
and I was seriously thinking of not doing it, paying rent for a year on the place we had rented and
just giving up, but I remembered what had driven me to this point. The couple in their 80’s and
she moved in over a period of time. After 3 months the support staff left, and within 6 months we
knew one of the roommates was not working out. At this point, my determination to make this
work no matter what, kept me going. But the biggest reason was Jenny. She had taken to living
in her own home like a duck to water, she flourished. It is now no longer my decision, she was
not coming “to mom’s home” to live.
Five years later, she has become an amazing woman –still living in her own home. Have we
figured everything out yet. NOPE! Life is a work in progress, but I know we did the right thing, I
know it will work and when something does happen to me, her life will not be thrown into
complete chaos.
The Budget
Household Monthly Budget
Nov-14
Budget Actual Variance
Income
Income ODSP shelter
$
479.00
$
479.00
ODSP Basic 619.00 619.00
Passport - - -
<Other Income> - - -
Total Income
$
1,098.00 $ -
$
1,098.00
Expenses
Fixed Costs
Mortgage / Rent Expense $ -
Insurance- Homeowner's -
Insurance- Life -
<Other Fixed Cost> - - -
<Other Fixed Cost> - - -
Total Fixed Costs $ - $ - $ -
Household/Personal Costs
hydro $ -
Telephone Expense -
Cable/ SatelliteTelevision Expense -
Internet Expense -
Food (DiningOut & Groceries) -
Heating -
Pet Supplies -
Medical / Healthcare -
Personal Care -
Clothing - - -
Spending - - -
Total Semi VariableCosts $ - $ - $ -
Support Costs
Monday to Friday Day activities $ -
Saturday and Sunday Activities -
Evening Activities -
Monday to Friday overnight -
Weekend Staff overnight - - -
Other
<Other Highly VariableCosts> - - -
Total Highly VariableCosts $ - $ - $ -
Total
Expenses $ -
$
-
$
-
Net Income
$
1,098.00 $ -
$
1,098.00
The Budget
The budget can be daunting but it is a necessary tool for planning your child’s move into their
own place. I have divided it into 4 sections – the income, the fixed expenses, the variable
expenses and the cost of support staff.
The Income
This is divided as well. ODSP is actually given in two parts- the Shelter portion, which is a
variable amount and the basics needs amount – this is a standard amount for everyone. It has just
increased to $619.00 per month. The Shelter portion is based on the amount the individual pays
for rent or room and board. The room and board amount is the lessor of the two and is based on
the individual having his/her food included in the shelter expense. If an individual rents, it is
based on the actual rent to a maximum of $479.00 per month.
ODSP is not for support staff or day activities.
Passport Funding is for day activities, respite, daily living etc. This has changed recently, so
make sure you read the latest Passport guide.
http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/passport_2011/Pass
port%20Guidelines_en.pdf
If the individual has a paying job, this needs to be included as well.
This makes up the total income. You now know how much you have to spend per month.
Now we come to expenses. This is where you really need to think about just how much is spent
every month.
The Fixed Expenses
These are the expenses that are the same every month and are usually a yearly contract.
The mortgage or rent; depends on whether you own or rent. This is the same every month.
Insurance Home: Again this is the same amount every month and is needed if you own or rent.
Even renters need home insurance to cover contents and has a liability portion that is important
as there is higher staff activity in our children’s homes.
Insurance Life: This can be an optional expense that is the same every month.
There is space for other fixed expenses if your child has them. This is something that is the same
cost every month for a least a year.
Variable Expenses
These are the expenses that can change every month. Many apartments now charge for hydro
based on what you use. This is usually charged every other month.
The phone, internet and cable can be the same every month, but depending on what the
individual does could be different. So that is why it is a variable.
Food – this includes eating out. This can change as most people shop every week. It depends on
whether you include cleaners, toilet paper, paper towel, laundry detergent, toothpaste etc. If it’s
not included here, then you do need another line in the variable expenses.
Medical/Healthcare includes all the things that are not covered by the drug card. For example
vitamins, cough/cold medications, pain medication (non-prescription) etc.
Clothing can be a big expense for some individuals. Some people are just unusually hard on
clothing.
Don’t forget some spending money. Everyone needs some pocket money for the times they are
out and want a drink etc. Nothing worse than being with a group and you have to sit and watch
them have a drink because you don’t have any money.
Support Costs
This has to be kept separate from the cost of housing.
This is divided up into various times of the day and weekdays and weekends. This is also where
you have more options as to costs. For example many people in all times of situations have their
children come back to their parent’s home for the weekend. This can save several hundred
dollars a month. There are many different options here and configurations for the weekend.
During the week, many individuals go to a regular day program everyday. This is a fix amount
of money per month. Some individuals do different things everyday, some volunteer, some are at
home and are ok during the day by themselves. So this figure is also a place where some savings
can be had.
Staff at the home. Again depending on how you staff your home for the needs of the individual,
this figure can vary greatly. It is usually more expensive in the beginning as individuals are
learning new skills, learning to live with people who are not family and most parents don’t know
the capabilities of their children when they live at home. (This is not unique to individuals with
special needs). It also depends on how you staff the home. Live-in models are cheaper.
After you add up all the expenses and pass out from the shock, wait until you have recovered and
subtract the amount from the income. This is the amount you are kicking in for your children.
Again after you pass out and realize why you have no money, you have two options – give up
and declare it impossible or try to figure out how to reduce expenses or increase income or
maybe a little of both.
This is when planning can begin. Either decision has its consequences and needs to be planned
for. Remember no matter what you do, at some point your child will live in another home. It can
be planned for and done in a way that your child is prepared to move into their own home over a
period of time or it can be done during a period of crisis, without any warning and without
family support. The choice is yours.
Preparing your child for Adulthood
My child is 18 (21, 31 etc) and when I ask him/her where they want to live they say “I want to
live with mom/dad, in this house.” Of course they do, they have one or two servants who do
everything for them, take them everywhere, and they are the priority. This is a phenomenon not
exclusive to individuals with disabilities.
So when your child says this, let them know that they are becoming (or are) adults. Adults live in
their own homes, have their own lives, friends and relationships. If they have brothers and sisters
and they are moving out, going to live at college, etc this is a good time to bring up the
conversation and this will be a continuing conversation, not a one-time discussion. Visuals are
also a good way to make this idea real. A scrap book from the dollar store, flyers with furniture,
and household needs, rental flyers with different types of dwellings are a good way to get the
process started. Cut out all kinds of homes – apartments, duplexes, townhomes, semi’s and single
family homes, show them to your child and ask them what kind of home would they like to live
in. If they have never been inside an apartment building – then cut out pictures of inside an
apartment, show the elevator, the hallways etc. In some cases in might be a good idea to take
them to an apartment building, so they can see that they have to buzz in to get into the building,
going into the elevator, and seeing that everyone has their own key to their home and look inside
an apartment. Putting together a scrapbook of what their home will look like will give them a
concrete impression of their home. Let them pick the style of home they want, what kind of
furniture they want, dishes etc. This takes time, but it does start the idea of living away from the
home they have always known. It gives them ownership of what they want. It also gives the
parent the opportunity to see a life outside of caregiving and a chance to dream themselves.
While you are talking about moving out a good idea is to have your child stay overnight in
someone else’s house or respite care. This helps you and your child with separation issues. Again
it might take a while for both of you to realize that everything is ok, your child is safe, you will
come and get them and everyone survived! Eventually both of you will be looking forward to
going and who knows your child may meet someone they like and start the beginning of a
friendship or a possibility for a roommate. If this happens, arrange to meet the family and start
get togethers outside of the respite situation. Pool your funding to hire a support worker to take
them out. Talk to the other family about the idea of moving into their own home. Who knows
what can happen.
Living alone or having Roommates?
This is a decision you and your child have to make. There are many advantages to both and it
depends on many factors. In an ideal world it would be solely based on the decision your child
makes, but life is not based on what one wants. We all have budgets to consider and have to
figure out life based on that budget. You now know what things cost as what is known has been
put on the preceding budget. The amount of money left over (ha ha) is for support staff.
Living Alone:
Pros
All decisions are made by the individual and their family. Everything is done the way the
individual wants and there is no need to compromise or consider other people’s needs. The
individual does not need to learn how to live with other people. The family does not have to
work with other families. The individual likes to be alone.
Cons
Individual can become very isolated and lonely. It can be expensive as all the costs have to be
paid by the individual.
Roommates:
Roommates can be a blessing or a curse. All parties need to have realistic ideas about how things
will be. The individuals can be great roommates, but not necessarily great friends or want to
spend time with each other outside of the home. Just because you are someone’s roommate
doesn’t mean you need to be attached at the hip.
Sometimes things just don’t work out, then the conversation needs to start about who will move
out, how to end it. This doesn’t mean it should never be done again. If possible the one who
moves out should move into a new situation, rather than their parent’s home. It’s life, not
everything will work.
Your child may live with someone for a while (could be a couple of years ) and then decide they
want to live on their own, have their own space. Your child is maturing this is not a bad thing.
Unfortunately if the individual can’t afford to live on their own, then some creative thinking
needs to be done. Taking a look at the situation, see if the space can be divided or changed so
that the costs remain fairly similar and affordable.
Pros
Individuals have to learn how to get along with non- family members. They have to learn to
speak up for themselves in a respectful way. They have people around them.
They share expenses and workers (at times).
Cons
Families have to be able to work together for the good of all. Individuals have to learn to get
along. A place should be found so that everyone has their own room.
Rent or Buy? The pros and cons of both
Rent
The advantages of renting of course is the cost. An individual doesn’t need a down payment, or
the cost of maintaining a home. If something needs to be repaired or replaced it is the
responsibility of the landlord, not the tenant.
The individual needs to have a credit reference, so they need to have a history of paying for
something – could be their own cell phone, a credit card or similar payment.
The individual needs to be able to sign a lease – initials could suffice.
When you rent, there is a one year commitment.
Buying a Home/Condo
When you buy a home/condo, you need a down payment. An individual on ODSP can only have
$5000.00 at a given time. If one individual buys a home and rents out rooms (roommates), they
have to declare the rent as income and would lose their ODSP. If a group of individuals buy a
home and it doesn’t work out, how do you figure out the buy out. If something needs repairing or
replacing, it costs the individual to get it repaired. There is added cost to buying – hydro, heat,
water, taxes, insurance, etc.
Pros and Cons of different homes
House : There is outdoor maintenance – grass cutting, shovelling, etc. Are the individuals able to
look after this? If not who will be responsible for it. Does the utilities cost extra, if renting.
Condo – Apartment : Some individuals are great at greeting people, an apartment or condo is
perfect. There is lots of opportunity for short conversations on the elevator, in the halls. There is
also lots of opportunity for possible community engagement. There could be a board they could
join, volunteer at special activities, or engage other tenants/owners in social activities.
There is nothing to shovel or cut.
Townhouse – freehold: The pros and cons are the same as a house. There is a possibility for
more social interaction as the houses are closer together. There could be a board or committee
that organize activities.
or condo: with a condo townhouse, generally the grass is cut and the snow is shovelled by the
maintenance people. Some of the utilities are included in the condo fees. There is a board and
opportunities to get to know your neighbours.
Co-ops: Some are based on income so that the rent is cheaper. Even the ones that are not based
on income tend to be cheaper as some of the maintenance is done by the tenants. This is a great
opportunity for individuals to get to know their neighbours and participate in keeping the
community tidy.
How will it run?
Live in model – same staff – room and board included in wage, or charge rent and pay a larger
amount of pay. Same staff means consistency in teaching and support. There is only one person
to work with.
Individual Staff – hourly pay, weekly pay
- One personperweek
- Differentpeoplefordifferentshifts,manypeople toworkwith,notalways
consistentintheirteachingmethodsor routines
How will groceries be done? Will it be done by the parents, individuals or the staff? How will it
be paid?
How will other bills be paid? –split equally
Individuals responsible for different bills
Internet banking
Credit cards
Larger purchases: who decides what is bought, paid, whose name is on the item. Remember they
may not always live together.
What happens when one leaves? This should be discussed right at the beginning and put in
writing. Sometimes things don’t end well and this is not the time to discuss who stays and who
leaves, who gets the coffee pot both paid for, etc.
Conflict resolution
What do you do when neither is willing to compromise? When an agreement can’t be reached?
If possible bring in a third party who doesn’t have anything to do with the situation, who is not a
friend of either person. It could be someone that does this for a living and charges a fee, it could
be an agency worker that is involved or a neighbour. If the individuals get along well, but certain
fundamentals can’t be agreed on, an outside person to help the families make a compromise is
well worth it.
Philosophy of living?
1.-ordinary everyday life – your child/individual lives a regular life, with all the ups and downs
that involves, they make decisions and live with the consequences, they have responsibilities and
chores, they have friends over,
2.-need to be taken care of, looked after – lots of support is required, generally instructed on
what to do, someone does things for them, don’t make decisions –therefore no consequences, no
responsibilities and someone cleans up after them, rarely have friends, usually surrounded by
staff. Under a false sense of safety
-responsibilities -
-routine based- does the individual like things to be predictable, do they like to do things on the
same day, meals at fairly regular time. Schedules are a great visual to help everyone keep on
track.
-individual oriented- it is a home, there is no area for staff (example an office for the staff,
individuals are not allowed in), instructions for the staff in plain sight. There isn’t incidence
reports binders, If you wouldn’t find it in your own home, you won’t find it here.
-staff oriented- the house is set up for staff. The people who live in the house have little or no say
in what happens, how to do things, where and when they can go places – as it depends on shift
chances and what the staff wants to do. The average home is not run in this fashion.
-contracts- some people like to have contracts between families that lay out what happens if
certain things occur, some people like to make contracts between the individuals, some like to
have contracts with the staff, It is totally individual.
The Future
The ultimate question every parent has – Who will take over, when I’m gone?
Self-Directed Support Organization: Corporate Structures for Housing Options
Self-Directed SupportGroups (SDSOs) are increasinglybecoming a valuable tool for the families
of persons with disabilities.These structures can be effective in creating opportunities to overcome
the challenges families face with daily supports for individuals with special needs.
• whatare SDSOs;
• how to incorporate an SDSO;
• the role of SDSOs in administering individualized governmentfunding;
• the role of SDSOs in hiring and managing the employmentofpersonal supportworkers and
other staff and volunteers;
• corporate governance issues for board members and officers ofSDSOs;
• the opportunities thatSDSOs create for establishing residential and housing arrangements;
• integrating SDSOs with other aspects ofyour estate and financial plan including your will,
testamentarytrusts,housing trusts and registered plans.
http://www.witig.org/wstidata/resources/microboard-toolkit-vol-2f-wlinks_1413827213.pdf
The SDSO is a possibility, another possibility is partnering with an agency to do the
administration work – of course there will be a fee for this. I am sure others have thought of
different ideas that work for their family.
There is no right answer for any of this, as each situation will be different – it will require
different tweaks to make the situation work for your family. The important point of this guide is
that you do something, ensure your child has a life of their own and that you as parents have a
life separate from your children.
Bonnie Heath, Scarborough Residential Alternatives,
November 2014

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SRA report 1

  • 1. Mission Statement Scarborough Residential Alternatives are parents of developmentally handicapped young adults. Because there are almost no funded residential places available for our children, we are examining ways to create our own residential alternatives for lifelong living arrangements. We are determined to successfully create the best possible living arrangements for our children, using all resources, governmental and otherwise, that are available to us. We welcome the participation of any parents or caregivers who find themselves in a similar situation and want to join us in building our children’s future. Established January 2006
  • 2. • SRA was formed in 2006 by a small group of parents who were interested in finding a housing alternative for our adult children. We spent a couple of years investigating everything we could learn and forming possible partnerships with various families. The original 6 families moved their children into their own homes in 2009. Out of the 6 families 4 of them are in the original homes, one individual from each house moved out at the end of the first year due to the families and the individual not working out. Those two families have since moved into another situation with new roommates. One house has had the same 3 roommates for 2 years now. The other house has had difficulty finding the right 3rd roommate and family partnership. This is the hardest part of the whole thing, finding the right roommates and getting families to give it a try. • The two original homes have LIGHTS funding. One of the roommates who moved out, has permanent funding and another member has permanent housing as well. He is currently looking for a new roommate. • There are now around 128 families involved in SRA. There are a few new partnerships in the works, others are not quite ready yet. • We have started a provincial network and continue to outreach to various family groups who are looking into alternatives. I believe this is the best way to organize families and groups. We can learn from each other. Those who have been successful can help those who are just starting and give families the benefit of what they have learned. This is not a one size fits all, every house (as in life) is different, as it should be. • All this has been done by families and their adult children. It has been done without government funding. It has been done because some families want something better for their children. It is not for all, as everyone deserves to have choices in how they live and who they live with. We as a group are not willing to wait for the government to decide what it is we want, we as a group are determined to make this work (as what choice do we have), we are doing this before we are too old and tired, we are doing this because we love our children and want the best for them. We are doing this because we are tired of waiting for nothing!
  • 3. GUIDE TO HOUSING SUCCESS 1. LET’S TALK MONEY. ODSP – Ontario Disability Support Program This is a provincial funding program Ontario Disability Support Program Income Support is one of Ontario's social assistance programs. Income Support provides financial help for people with disabilities who are in need. It can help pay for living expenses, like food and housing. AS of Nov 2014 The basic needs portion of your Income Support is meant to help cover the cost of:  food  clothing, and  other necessary personal items. The amount for basic needs is $619.00 The shelter allowance is meant to help cover:  your rent or your mortgage payment  heat  utilities (hydro, water)  property taxes  home insurance  condominium fees. The amount you receive for the shelter allowance is based on:  your actual shelter costs up to a maximum depending on the number of people in your family The maximum is $479.00 If you are living in a board and lodging arrangement If you receive food and shelter from the same source, you will receive the Ontario Disability Support Program Board and Lodging amount. For example, you are in a board and lodging situation if:  you live with your parents and they buy and prepare food for you, or  your landlord buys and prepares food for you.
  • 4. Passport Funding http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/passport/passp ort_guidelines_en.pdf This is the link to the most recent passport guidelines This is a provincial funding program. Passport is a program that helps adults with a developmental disability to participate in their communities. It also helps caregivers of an adult with a developmental disability take a break from their caregiving responsibilities. Passport can provide supports and services to adults with a developmental disability so they can:  take part in community classes or recreational programs  develop work, volunteer, and daily life skills  create their own life plans (this is called person-directed planning) and reach their goals. Passport funding can also be used to hire a support person to help the individual with a developmental disability, in order to give their main caregiver time to look after other personal or household needs LIGHTS ( a Toronto initiative) will support families seeking housing opportunities in four ways: 1. Assisting families in determining how they can create and operate a home (shared with others) for their intellectually disabled family member. These homes will be managed by the families involved, with LIGHTS as a supportive partner. 2. Connecting families seeking similar residential options. Families will be part of an online network that will help them identify and secure potential roommates, coordinate staffing, and provide and share information and knowledge around government funding programs. 3. Building capacity for this critical housing sector by securing in-kind, tax-deductible donations of real estate and by advising families of other real estate options which will add to the number of homes available for these families. 4. Providing temporary, interim funding to families who cannot afford the start-up process, with the goal of bridging early cash flow needs while families seek additional resources, including government funding, to assume these costs.
  • 5. STAFFING There are many methods of having staff. Again go to your philosophy statement and it will guide you to your answers. #1 Priority Always remember “Staff is staff. Period!” They are being paid to do a job by supporting your child. They are not your child’s friend, mother/father, dictator, or worse people who “take care of” your child. Staff are there to support the individual and facilitate the goals of the people they work for. #2 Do you want to manage many people to cover the hours that are needed? The more staff, the more organization is needed to schedule people, keep track of hours, making payments and ensuring everyone is on the same page. For example If you need 24/7 support because the person is home all day, then you need 3 shifts per day. If you have different people for every shift then that would be 3 shifts per day x 7 days = 21 people to coordinate, maintain hours worked and when worked, as an asleep overnight shift is a flat rate of $75 per night (on average), whereas the other shifts are paid on an hourly basis. This would be the most expensive way to have support staff. #3 Live in Staff: This is the cheapest method if you use room and board as part of the payment. While the individual lives in the home 24/7, they are not working 24/7. Make sure both you(parent)/individual and the staff person have clear expectations of what the work period is, what are the living conditions for the staff person and the individuals who live in the home. http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/HiringSupportWork er.pdf This link will give you a guide to hiring a support worker. It was developed through a partnership with the Ontario government. It has a lot of good ideas and links to various government websites.
  • 6. Planning Think about your (and your child’s) philosophy of how you/your child want to live, your guiding goal. Once you know this very basic statement the rest is easy. For example, the guiding goal for Jenny is “I want Jenny to live an ordinary life.” Every time I have a hard time with a decision, it is because it goes against this philosophy. Put a time line to your plan – When do I want my child to live on their own? – taking into account this does take work, and adjustments, and planning. WILL YOU HAVE THE ENERGY AT 80? WILL MY CHILD BE ABLE TO ACCEPT THE CHANGES AT 60? DO I WANT TO LIVE MY ENTIRE LIFE BEING A CAREGIVER? DOES MY CHILD WANT TO SPEND THEIR ENTIRE LIFE BEING CARED FOR? WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS TO LIVING APART? WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS TO LIVING TOGETHER? Planning http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/PlanningGuidePlain LanguageMCSS.pdf http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/GuideonPersondirec tedPlanningFinal.pdf Person Direct Planning Various agencies around the province can do the PDP (person directed planning) for free. You have to request it through your local DSO (Developmental Services Ontario). Or you can use an independent planner and use a portion of your passport funds to pay for the planning People can use a portion of their Passport funding for person-directed planning. It helps people with a developmental disability prepare life plans that lay out their distinct needs and goals. These plans can help them make the most out of funding and outline ways they can participate in community activities. The planning process helps others understand the individual’s needs. It also helps the person achieve their goals.
  • 7. The bold comment is from: http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/en/mcss/programs/developmental/serviceSupport/person_directed_pl anning.aspx I would suggest you don’t think of it as a “life plan”, but a plan for the next year with reasonable goals that can be achieved in that period of time. A life plan is too daunting, if your child is 18 years old, how can you plan for when they are 25, 30, 60 or 90. Who knows what will happen within that time. Once you have done the plan and have received your copy of the plan, it is time to start working on those goals. It is meant to be a working, changing plan, not something to look at and put on the shelf. Start with the easiest goal to accomplish, break it down into small steps that can be achieved quickly and build on the skills needed to complete the goal. Celebrate that accomplishment, it is a big deal for both your child and yourself. Some goals should not be done with a parent – for example if the individual wants a job or volunteer position, it is best done by someone other than the parent. Would you hire someone if their mother was asking for the job? This can be done by an agency, a member of the person’s network or an independent facilitator. Without planning, the idea remains a dream. We need to set the goals with timelines for accomplishments otherwise the years go by, they become decades and it becomes harder and harder to do.
  • 8. Tell your story. What is your housing situation now? WHAT ISN’T WORKING?  What is working in your situation?  In an ideal world what does a home look like to you?
  • 9. Use the template above to look at where you are now. This can be the start of your planning. A good time to start this is around 18 years old. It takes a while to get the idea of having your child move out and start their own life without you 24/7 plausible. It also takes time for your child to realize they can do things on their own, establish a life outside of family and enjoy adulthood. Everyone deserves a life of their own, make their own mistakes, learn to make their own decisions and the consequences of those decisions. Parents deserve a life without their children, do the things they planned on doing in their retirement and stop being the primary caregivers. This doesn’t change just because your child has a diagnosis, in fact I would say it’s almost more important when there is a diagnosis. The story that inspired my change of thinking: When Jenny was around 16 years old, I read this article in the Toronto Star. A husband and wife were driving in their car one day in the winter. It was a snowy, icy day. The couple was in their 80’s. They had a car accident and both of them died. The couple was on their way to pick up their 58 year old son at his day program. The son waited for his parents to pick him up for a long time, no one knew what had happened at the day program. The couple was always on time. Eventually the day program tried to get in touch with the parents, but of course where not successfully. The police were called because the staff at the day program knew something was wrong, but didn’t have anyone else to call. The man was determined not to leave, because his parents always came to pick him up. He was taken to the hospital, restrained and was kept there until finally the news came of his parents. That man’s life went from normal to insane in a flash. He had lived in the same home all his life, he had been taken care of all his life, he had no friends, there was no plan for him in place (even though his parents where in their 80’s. The one brother he had lived in another city and couldn’t take him. Unfortunately I don’t know the end of the story as it was never followed in the paper. I looked over the paper at my daughter and started to cry. In that moment I decided I would never do that to her. While I am sure those parents thought they were doing the best for their son, and that when they died someone would look after him, they just didn’t know who. I am sure, because I have to think that someone took care of him, that the man was placed in a home, with people he didn’t know, with routines and changes that he might not like and had no control over his life and didn’t know how to look after himself or have anyone he could talk to about how he felt.
  • 10. In that moment, the search to find an alternative to my daughter living with me and being total dependent on me was born. The idea of living in a group home never appealed to me, but I thought I should investigate this option, as quite frankly is seemed like the only option. As with life nothing is immediate, and it took a couple of years to get things going, but in 2006 Scarborough Residential Alternatives was created with the idea that we would spend a couple of years searching all venues, all possibilities and get something figured out so that Jenny would have a home of her own. It took closer to 3 years to figure some of it out, have her move into her home, roommates we hoped would work and a live in support staff. While I have never figured that that was that, we were done, everything would remain the same for the rest of her life, I had hoped it would be fairly stable for longer than it did. My own panic about Jenny being “on her own” almost won, and I was seriously thinking of not doing it, paying rent for a year on the place we had rented and just giving up, but I remembered what had driven me to this point. The couple in their 80’s and she moved in over a period of time. After 3 months the support staff left, and within 6 months we knew one of the roommates was not working out. At this point, my determination to make this work no matter what, kept me going. But the biggest reason was Jenny. She had taken to living in her own home like a duck to water, she flourished. It is now no longer my decision, she was not coming “to mom’s home” to live. Five years later, she has become an amazing woman –still living in her own home. Have we figured everything out yet. NOPE! Life is a work in progress, but I know we did the right thing, I know it will work and when something does happen to me, her life will not be thrown into complete chaos.
  • 11. The Budget Household Monthly Budget Nov-14 Budget Actual Variance Income Income ODSP shelter $ 479.00 $ 479.00 ODSP Basic 619.00 619.00 Passport - - - <Other Income> - - - Total Income $ 1,098.00 $ - $ 1,098.00 Expenses Fixed Costs Mortgage / Rent Expense $ - Insurance- Homeowner's - Insurance- Life - <Other Fixed Cost> - - - <Other Fixed Cost> - - - Total Fixed Costs $ - $ - $ - Household/Personal Costs
  • 12. hydro $ - Telephone Expense - Cable/ SatelliteTelevision Expense - Internet Expense - Food (DiningOut & Groceries) - Heating - Pet Supplies - Medical / Healthcare - Personal Care - Clothing - - - Spending - - - Total Semi VariableCosts $ - $ - $ - Support Costs Monday to Friday Day activities $ - Saturday and Sunday Activities - Evening Activities - Monday to Friday overnight - Weekend Staff overnight - - - Other <Other Highly VariableCosts> - - - Total Highly VariableCosts $ - $ - $ - Total Expenses $ - $ - $ -
  • 13. Net Income $ 1,098.00 $ - $ 1,098.00 The Budget The budget can be daunting but it is a necessary tool for planning your child’s move into their own place. I have divided it into 4 sections – the income, the fixed expenses, the variable expenses and the cost of support staff. The Income This is divided as well. ODSP is actually given in two parts- the Shelter portion, which is a variable amount and the basics needs amount – this is a standard amount for everyone. It has just increased to $619.00 per month. The Shelter portion is based on the amount the individual pays for rent or room and board. The room and board amount is the lessor of the two and is based on the individual having his/her food included in the shelter expense. If an individual rents, it is based on the actual rent to a maximum of $479.00 per month. ODSP is not for support staff or day activities. Passport Funding is for day activities, respite, daily living etc. This has changed recently, so make sure you read the latest Passport guide. http://www.mcss.gov.on.ca/documents/en/mcss/publications/developmental/passport_2011/Pass port%20Guidelines_en.pdf If the individual has a paying job, this needs to be included as well. This makes up the total income. You now know how much you have to spend per month. Now we come to expenses. This is where you really need to think about just how much is spent every month. The Fixed Expenses These are the expenses that are the same every month and are usually a yearly contract. The mortgage or rent; depends on whether you own or rent. This is the same every month. Insurance Home: Again this is the same amount every month and is needed if you own or rent. Even renters need home insurance to cover contents and has a liability portion that is important as there is higher staff activity in our children’s homes. Insurance Life: This can be an optional expense that is the same every month. There is space for other fixed expenses if your child has them. This is something that is the same cost every month for a least a year.
  • 14. Variable Expenses These are the expenses that can change every month. Many apartments now charge for hydro based on what you use. This is usually charged every other month. The phone, internet and cable can be the same every month, but depending on what the individual does could be different. So that is why it is a variable. Food – this includes eating out. This can change as most people shop every week. It depends on whether you include cleaners, toilet paper, paper towel, laundry detergent, toothpaste etc. If it’s not included here, then you do need another line in the variable expenses. Medical/Healthcare includes all the things that are not covered by the drug card. For example vitamins, cough/cold medications, pain medication (non-prescription) etc. Clothing can be a big expense for some individuals. Some people are just unusually hard on clothing. Don’t forget some spending money. Everyone needs some pocket money for the times they are out and want a drink etc. Nothing worse than being with a group and you have to sit and watch them have a drink because you don’t have any money. Support Costs This has to be kept separate from the cost of housing. This is divided up into various times of the day and weekdays and weekends. This is also where you have more options as to costs. For example many people in all times of situations have their children come back to their parent’s home for the weekend. This can save several hundred dollars a month. There are many different options here and configurations for the weekend. During the week, many individuals go to a regular day program everyday. This is a fix amount of money per month. Some individuals do different things everyday, some volunteer, some are at home and are ok during the day by themselves. So this figure is also a place where some savings can be had. Staff at the home. Again depending on how you staff your home for the needs of the individual, this figure can vary greatly. It is usually more expensive in the beginning as individuals are learning new skills, learning to live with people who are not family and most parents don’t know the capabilities of their children when they live at home. (This is not unique to individuals with special needs). It also depends on how you staff the home. Live-in models are cheaper. After you add up all the expenses and pass out from the shock, wait until you have recovered and subtract the amount from the income. This is the amount you are kicking in for your children. Again after you pass out and realize why you have no money, you have two options – give up and declare it impossible or try to figure out how to reduce expenses or increase income or maybe a little of both. This is when planning can begin. Either decision has its consequences and needs to be planned for. Remember no matter what you do, at some point your child will live in another home. It can be planned for and done in a way that your child is prepared to move into their own home over a period of time or it can be done during a period of crisis, without any warning and without family support. The choice is yours.
  • 15. Preparing your child for Adulthood My child is 18 (21, 31 etc) and when I ask him/her where they want to live they say “I want to live with mom/dad, in this house.” Of course they do, they have one or two servants who do everything for them, take them everywhere, and they are the priority. This is a phenomenon not exclusive to individuals with disabilities. So when your child says this, let them know that they are becoming (or are) adults. Adults live in their own homes, have their own lives, friends and relationships. If they have brothers and sisters and they are moving out, going to live at college, etc this is a good time to bring up the conversation and this will be a continuing conversation, not a one-time discussion. Visuals are also a good way to make this idea real. A scrap book from the dollar store, flyers with furniture, and household needs, rental flyers with different types of dwellings are a good way to get the process started. Cut out all kinds of homes – apartments, duplexes, townhomes, semi’s and single family homes, show them to your child and ask them what kind of home would they like to live in. If they have never been inside an apartment building – then cut out pictures of inside an apartment, show the elevator, the hallways etc. In some cases in might be a good idea to take them to an apartment building, so they can see that they have to buzz in to get into the building, going into the elevator, and seeing that everyone has their own key to their home and look inside an apartment. Putting together a scrapbook of what their home will look like will give them a concrete impression of their home. Let them pick the style of home they want, what kind of furniture they want, dishes etc. This takes time, but it does start the idea of living away from the home they have always known. It gives them ownership of what they want. It also gives the parent the opportunity to see a life outside of caregiving and a chance to dream themselves. While you are talking about moving out a good idea is to have your child stay overnight in someone else’s house or respite care. This helps you and your child with separation issues. Again it might take a while for both of you to realize that everything is ok, your child is safe, you will come and get them and everyone survived! Eventually both of you will be looking forward to going and who knows your child may meet someone they like and start the beginning of a friendship or a possibility for a roommate. If this happens, arrange to meet the family and start get togethers outside of the respite situation. Pool your funding to hire a support worker to take them out. Talk to the other family about the idea of moving into their own home. Who knows what can happen. Living alone or having Roommates? This is a decision you and your child have to make. There are many advantages to both and it depends on many factors. In an ideal world it would be solely based on the decision your child makes, but life is not based on what one wants. We all have budgets to consider and have to figure out life based on that budget. You now know what things cost as what is known has been put on the preceding budget. The amount of money left over (ha ha) is for support staff. Living Alone:
  • 16. Pros All decisions are made by the individual and their family. Everything is done the way the individual wants and there is no need to compromise or consider other people’s needs. The individual does not need to learn how to live with other people. The family does not have to work with other families. The individual likes to be alone. Cons Individual can become very isolated and lonely. It can be expensive as all the costs have to be paid by the individual. Roommates: Roommates can be a blessing or a curse. All parties need to have realistic ideas about how things will be. The individuals can be great roommates, but not necessarily great friends or want to spend time with each other outside of the home. Just because you are someone’s roommate doesn’t mean you need to be attached at the hip. Sometimes things just don’t work out, then the conversation needs to start about who will move out, how to end it. This doesn’t mean it should never be done again. If possible the one who moves out should move into a new situation, rather than their parent’s home. It’s life, not everything will work. Your child may live with someone for a while (could be a couple of years ) and then decide they want to live on their own, have their own space. Your child is maturing this is not a bad thing. Unfortunately if the individual can’t afford to live on their own, then some creative thinking needs to be done. Taking a look at the situation, see if the space can be divided or changed so that the costs remain fairly similar and affordable. Pros Individuals have to learn how to get along with non- family members. They have to learn to speak up for themselves in a respectful way. They have people around them. They share expenses and workers (at times). Cons Families have to be able to work together for the good of all. Individuals have to learn to get along. A place should be found so that everyone has their own room.
  • 17. Rent or Buy? The pros and cons of both Rent The advantages of renting of course is the cost. An individual doesn’t need a down payment, or the cost of maintaining a home. If something needs to be repaired or replaced it is the responsibility of the landlord, not the tenant. The individual needs to have a credit reference, so they need to have a history of paying for something – could be their own cell phone, a credit card or similar payment. The individual needs to be able to sign a lease – initials could suffice. When you rent, there is a one year commitment. Buying a Home/Condo When you buy a home/condo, you need a down payment. An individual on ODSP can only have $5000.00 at a given time. If one individual buys a home and rents out rooms (roommates), they have to declare the rent as income and would lose their ODSP. If a group of individuals buy a home and it doesn’t work out, how do you figure out the buy out. If something needs repairing or replacing, it costs the individual to get it repaired. There is added cost to buying – hydro, heat, water, taxes, insurance, etc. Pros and Cons of different homes House : There is outdoor maintenance – grass cutting, shovelling, etc. Are the individuals able to look after this? If not who will be responsible for it. Does the utilities cost extra, if renting. Condo – Apartment : Some individuals are great at greeting people, an apartment or condo is perfect. There is lots of opportunity for short conversations on the elevator, in the halls. There is also lots of opportunity for possible community engagement. There could be a board they could join, volunteer at special activities, or engage other tenants/owners in social activities. There is nothing to shovel or cut. Townhouse – freehold: The pros and cons are the same as a house. There is a possibility for more social interaction as the houses are closer together. There could be a board or committee that organize activities. or condo: with a condo townhouse, generally the grass is cut and the snow is shovelled by the maintenance people. Some of the utilities are included in the condo fees. There is a board and opportunities to get to know your neighbours. Co-ops: Some are based on income so that the rent is cheaper. Even the ones that are not based on income tend to be cheaper as some of the maintenance is done by the tenants. This is a great opportunity for individuals to get to know their neighbours and participate in keeping the community tidy.
  • 18. How will it run? Live in model – same staff – room and board included in wage, or charge rent and pay a larger amount of pay. Same staff means consistency in teaching and support. There is only one person to work with. Individual Staff – hourly pay, weekly pay - One personperweek - Differentpeoplefordifferentshifts,manypeople toworkwith,notalways consistentintheirteachingmethodsor routines How will groceries be done? Will it be done by the parents, individuals or the staff? How will it be paid? How will other bills be paid? –split equally Individuals responsible for different bills Internet banking Credit cards Larger purchases: who decides what is bought, paid, whose name is on the item. Remember they may not always live together. What happens when one leaves? This should be discussed right at the beginning and put in writing. Sometimes things don’t end well and this is not the time to discuss who stays and who leaves, who gets the coffee pot both paid for, etc. Conflict resolution What do you do when neither is willing to compromise? When an agreement can’t be reached? If possible bring in a third party who doesn’t have anything to do with the situation, who is not a friend of either person. It could be someone that does this for a living and charges a fee, it could be an agency worker that is involved or a neighbour. If the individuals get along well, but certain fundamentals can’t be agreed on, an outside person to help the families make a compromise is well worth it. Philosophy of living? 1.-ordinary everyday life – your child/individual lives a regular life, with all the ups and downs that involves, they make decisions and live with the consequences, they have responsibilities and chores, they have friends over, 2.-need to be taken care of, looked after – lots of support is required, generally instructed on what to do, someone does things for them, don’t make decisions –therefore no consequences, no responsibilities and someone cleans up after them, rarely have friends, usually surrounded by staff. Under a false sense of safety -responsibilities -
  • 19. -routine based- does the individual like things to be predictable, do they like to do things on the same day, meals at fairly regular time. Schedules are a great visual to help everyone keep on track. -individual oriented- it is a home, there is no area for staff (example an office for the staff, individuals are not allowed in), instructions for the staff in plain sight. There isn’t incidence reports binders, If you wouldn’t find it in your own home, you won’t find it here. -staff oriented- the house is set up for staff. The people who live in the house have little or no say in what happens, how to do things, where and when they can go places – as it depends on shift chances and what the staff wants to do. The average home is not run in this fashion. -contracts- some people like to have contracts between families that lay out what happens if certain things occur, some people like to make contracts between the individuals, some like to have contracts with the staff, It is totally individual. The Future The ultimate question every parent has – Who will take over, when I’m gone? Self-Directed Support Organization: Corporate Structures for Housing Options Self-Directed SupportGroups (SDSOs) are increasinglybecoming a valuable tool for the families of persons with disabilities.These structures can be effective in creating opportunities to overcome the challenges families face with daily supports for individuals with special needs. • whatare SDSOs; • how to incorporate an SDSO; • the role of SDSOs in administering individualized governmentfunding; • the role of SDSOs in hiring and managing the employmentofpersonal supportworkers and other staff and volunteers; • corporate governance issues for board members and officers ofSDSOs; • the opportunities thatSDSOs create for establishing residential and housing arrangements; • integrating SDSOs with other aspects ofyour estate and financial plan including your will, testamentarytrusts,housing trusts and registered plans. http://www.witig.org/wstidata/resources/microboard-toolkit-vol-2f-wlinks_1413827213.pdf The SDSO is a possibility, another possibility is partnering with an agency to do the administration work – of course there will be a fee for this. I am sure others have thought of different ideas that work for their family. There is no right answer for any of this, as each situation will be different – it will require different tweaks to make the situation work for your family. The important point of this guide is that you do something, ensure your child has a life of their own and that you as parents have a life separate from your children. Bonnie Heath, Scarborough Residential Alternatives, November 2014