Self-improvement

1. Narcissism
- MEANING
- CHARACTERISTICS OF NARCISSIST
- WHY THIS HAPPENS?
- HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM ?
- HOW SOCIETY IS ACCEPTING NARCISSIST?
- HEALTHY NARCISSISM VS. DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISM

2. Narcissism
 The word originated by Greek Mythology where a
young person fell in love with his own image reflected
in the pool water.
 Social and Cultural problem. (Generation problem)
 The behavior typically begins by early adulthood, and
occurs across a variety of situations.

3. “That’s enough of me talking about
myself - let’s hear you talk about me!”
i.e. : Self-
obsessed
i.e. :
Egocentric
i.e. :
Attention -
seeker

4. Characteristics:
1. NEEDING CONSTANT ADMIRATION FROM OTHERS.
2. EXPECTATIONS OF SUPERIOR TREATMENT FROM OTHERS
3. SELF-PERCEPTION OF BEING UNIQUE, SUPERIOR AND ASSOCIATED WITH
HIGH-STATUS PEOPLE.
4. EXPLOITATIVE OF OTHERS TO ACHIEVE PERSONAL GAIN.
5. VALUE THEMSELVES OVER OTHERS.
6. DISREGARD THE FEELINGS AND WISHES OF OTHERS. (LACK OF EMPATHY)
7. INABILITY TO TOLERATE CRITICISM.

5. Why this happens?
World/Culture
Weak Social
System
Individual Belief/
Behavior
Compete for
Attention Social
Media

6. Dealing with them:
- IGNORE THEM AND DON’T REACT IF THEY ARE ABUSIVE. THEY’LL
MOVE ON TO ANOTHER TARGET.
- WHEN YOU COMMUNICATE SOMETHING THAT IS NEEDED OR
DESIRED, DO SO IN TERMS OF HIS SELF-INTEREST AND IMAGE.
- MAKE GOOD EYE CONTACT AND SPEAK CONFIDENTLY BUT NOT IN
A CRITICAL MANNER OR AGGRESSIVE MANNER.
- DON’T TRY TO APPEAL TO THEIR EMPATHY OR COMPASSION.
- DO NOT ASK THEM TO PUT THEMSELVES IN YOUR SHOES TO SEE
YOUR POINT OF VIEW. THEY ARE NOT CAPABLE OF THAT;
- DO NOT MAKE ANY COMMENT, WHICH MIGHT DIRECTLY OR
INDIRECTLY IMPINGE ON THE NARCISSIST'S SELF-IMAGE(THAT
CAN MAKE THEM DESTROY THINGS.)
- DO NOT SAY THINGS LIKE THE FOLLOWING: "I THINK YOU
OVERLOOKED … MADE A MISTAKE HERE … YOU DON'T KNOW …
DO YOU KNOW … YOU CANNOT … YOU SHOULD.

7. How WE/Society is accepting
Narcissist?
- SOCIAL MEDIA ADDICTION (POSTING EACH N
EVERYTHING)
- MOVIES LIKE “ THE WOLF OF WALL STREET” &
“PRETTY WOMAN”

8. Characteristic Healthy Narcissism Destructive Narcissism
Self-confidence
High outward self-confidence in line
with reality
Grandiose-imaginary / not real
Desire for power, wealth and
admiration
May enjoy power
Pursues power at all costs, lacks
normal inhibitions in its pursuit
Relationships
Real concern for others and their
ideas; does not exploit or devalue
others
Concerns limited to expressing
socially appropriate response when
convenient; devalues and exploits
others
Ability to follow a consistent path Has values; follows through on plans
Lacks values; easily bored; often
changes course
Foundation
Healthy childhood with support
for self-esteem and appropriate
limits on behaviour towards others
Traumatic childhood undercutting true
sense of self-esteem and/or learning
that he/she doesn't need to be
considerate of others
Healthy Narcissism Vs. Destructive Narcissism

9. THANK YOU