Lesson 4 Children and Parenting NOTES

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Lesson 4 Children and Parenting NOTES

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  2. 2. CHILDREN AND Parenting:when kids are part of the package.Even before marriage, 86% of couples believe that children would put an additionalSTRAIN on their marriage– They are Right 2
  3. 3. CHILDREN AND Parenting:If children have priority over marriage, problems will increase.Kids will have more power in the home than the stepparentThis creates resentment, jealousy, hurt anger and competition between the child andthe stepparent 3
  4. 4. Making the marriage a PRIORITY RELATIONSHIP, then, invites the children to gainrespect for stepparents and IT EMPOWERS the stepparent to actually care for thechildren in loving and sacrificial ways, due to a lack of competitionThis is contrary to popular wisdom. It challenges the unhealthy emotions andattitudes of single parents who are unhealthily attached to their children! 4
  5. 5. We shouldnt neglect our children to focus all the attention on our spouse, at theexpense of the children.Bottom Line: When push comes to shove, we must make it clear to our children thatour marriage will last ABOVE ALL ELSE 5
  6. 6. Children often feel threatened when your marriage is strengthened: They feel a senseof loss and often failure, as their dream of Parental Reconciliation is diminished.Even with the child fear, insecurity and anxiety, about the new stepfamily, a Parentsdeclaration and demonstrated commitment to their marriage is the foundation of thehome.It is the first step toward marital INTIMACY Stepfamily harmony, and effectiveparenting 6
  7. 7. “It was when our 5 children came to believe and accept that our marriage wasn’tgoing away that our stepfamily turned the corner to Peace and harmony.” 7
  8. 8. REMEMBER? This is based on research with 50,000 people experienced in step familysituationsCondoning childish immaturity is hurting the child and both parents:1. Your partner, the stepparent will eventually leave, lonely and bitter.2. The child will grow up without the ability to form satisfying adult relationships andenter fulfilling marriageFinally, the most depressing fact!3. The biological parent will be lonely in their old age: After studying children ofdivorce for 25 years, Psychiatrist Judith Wallerstein observed that children of singleand divorced parents rarely visit their aged parents in convalescent homes.HOLD ON TO YOUR MARRIAGE! 8

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