![Truth, Lies & UBFโs
Romans 12
Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's
mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and
pleasing to Godโthis is your spiritual[a] act of
worship. 2
Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this
world, but be transformed (from what - to what?) by
the renewing of your mind.
Then you will be able to test and approve what God's
will isโhis good, pleasing and perfect will.](data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7)
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- 2. Truth, Lies & UBFโs Romans 12 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to Godโthis is your spiritual[a] act of worship. 2 Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed (from what - to what?) by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will isโhis good, pleasing and perfect will.
- 3. ACTIONS / FRUIT ^ FEELINGS ^ THINKING ^ LIFE RULES ^ CORE BELIEFS ^ NEEDS Luke: For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. Isaiah: These people come near to me with their mouth and honour me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.
- 4. ACTIONS ^ FEELINGS ^ THINKING ^ LIFE RULES ^ CORE BELIEFS ^ NEEDS Are my core beliefs TRUE or FALSE? Donโt invite myself to events. Keep to myself. Donโt include myself in conversations. Donโt ask for help. Alone, shy, insecure. โThey donโt like me.โ โThey didnโt invite me because they donโt like me.โ โI donโt fit in.โ There is no point trying to fit in. I only go when invited. When I am not invited it means I donโt belong. I donโt belong. (KING LIE/Mis- belief) Invite myself out when I want. Include myself in conversations. Ask for, and offer help. Warm, Satisfied, Relaxed โI wonder if there is any chocolate in the fridge.โ โHow can I contribute here.โ โIโll ask them if I can join in and give them my number.โ I fit in here if they like me or not. This place is mine as much anyone's. I can play a part in friendships & ministry. People need me and most probably like me. I am a unique part of the puzzle. I belong. I am part of the family.
- 5. Lies Lies are from the Enemy (โthe father of liesโ -John) Lies are the devils native language (John) Lies block you from hearing God (John) Lies are evil Lies destroy Lies provide a foothold for the devil Lies are the real enemy/root of the problem Maintains Delusion = Pain when reality bites. How does this affect your thoughts on spiritual warfare? Truth Truth is from God (Jesus is the Son of God) (โI am the way, the truthโฆโ) Truth is all Jesus speaks. (โI tell you the truthโ) Truth is from the Spirit of Truth Belief in Truth Sanctifies (John 17:17+2 Thes) Truth Protects (Psalms+)(Eph 6) Truth sets us free (John) Truth guides us (Prov) Keeps us in Reality โ Greater Stability
- 6. Truth requires context. Without context scripture can become a lie that binds you. Lie that looks like truth Truth Truth Truth
- 8. 3.5 UBFs โ Bruises of the Heart What feeling makes me throw all my toys out of the cot (act like a child)? What are my buttons? What feeling will I do anything to avoid? What feeling did I vow to never feel again? People can manipulate me by โmaking me feelโโฆ
- 10. Get a HUG for your MIND
- 11. DO the OPPOSITE! (Get used to it.) find a way to opposeyourself. exposeyourself to your UBF. Or keep doing what you have always done and always get what you have always got
Editor's Notes
- Who am I?Counselling โ working with young people and adults as a volunteer and a professional for 17 years.Also, partly trained in electronic engineering, surfing and computer games.What do I want to give them?ToolsPeaceOpportunity to engage = changeWe counsel out of who we are.
- What is one thing you have successfully changed in your life? Tell the person next to you how you did it.Transformation / Repent (lasting change).Hard/Easy/Counselling/Deliverence/Alter Call.
- Applies to people here.Distance between our head and our heart, but they are connected. Can be in contradiction, but God desires both to be in line with his truth.Notice that lies breed lies. They make you feel stink and the cause self fulfilling prophecies โ ie they appear to be true. (evidence โ what am I donโt this weekend? Nothing. See, I donโt belong)
- Here is an example of the fruit of a lie that has taken root in a heart. A huge amount of our pain in life is caused by not what happens, but how we think about it.I believe I donโt fit in, so I donโt try, so I prove to myself that I donโtโ belong. Vโs eg me and band, I fit in, just need to find a place for myself.
- Therefor, spiritual warfare is done not just by praying but also by reasonable persuasion to the Truth. WDJD?How would you fight lies?
- What his UBF?We react the same way with ourโs.Whatโs his survival stratagy.Is the person going to harm him?
- Eg โ Me Summer and being exhausted. Studied for years, had a course tutor that didnโt like me, ended up failing, changed towns, to finish study.Been tired for a few years. Possibly burn out. Low mood. Quite depressed at times. Unable to concentrate and life up to potential.Moderate anxiety when doing new things. Not sleeping well.Not anyone would be tired in this situation.My fears are what caused 90% of the energy drain.Fear of feeling inadequate.Fear of wasting time.Fear of feeling powerless.e.g. DisappointmentโNoโ offered without any options invokes a sense of powerlessness and despair and a wave of either rage or depression follows. Can be mistaken for ADHD.Stubbornness, Demanding rather than negotiating/asking, rebellion, control, manipulation, apathy, and violence, can result.David Riddell โ LW Schools โ I run them in Auckland, Dave has one starting next month on Hamilton.Unbearable Means?
- UBFโs make us self sabotaging.
- Disappointed โ Use Graph of ExpectationsโNoโ, doesnโt mean never!Are my expectations realistic?What would be a more realistic way to think?Itโs ok to feel disappointed sometimes โ itโs not the end of the world.Whatโs another way of thinking about this?No doesnโt mean never.Getting angry wonโt get me what I want. What will give us a win win?I donโt always have to get what I want.Can I ask for this in a different way or just need to let go this time?There is probably some other good options โ what are they?Disrespected/Shamed Out โ (Crap in a parcel)No shame taken no shame given.If somebody gives you something and you donโt accept itโฆwhoโs is it?I know who I am so I donโt need to over react here.I know who I am so it doesnโt matter what you think.I am ok, this is their problem.I donโt need to take this personally.Donโt dignify their silliness with a response.ย Unheard/Misunderstood/Misjudged โ ask the same questions LOUDER!Just because they are not listening to me it doesnโt mean they donโt care.Feeling unheard is different from being unloved.Can I put this another way (to help them hear me?)People wonโt always โget meโ and thatโs ok.People will misjudge me and thatโs ok โ because I know who I am.I canโt control other peoples thoughts about me โ just my own.I need to use more words, not more volume.I have had time to think about this โ maybe they need some time too.Communicating is difficult โ I need to be patient.They are from a different culture, I need to speak their language to be understood.
- AFTER, you have the truth (thinking focus) to coach you through it, you need to start acting (behavioural) your way into a new way of being. Without doing this intentionally you probably wonโt actually become free or change.e.g. DisappointmentWhen you are presented with a disappointing scenario โ donโt argue, just run with it and feel the disappointment, redefine it as uncomfortable, but bearable.Think of the type of disappointment that particularly gets on your nerves then do the opposite of what you would usually do and feel the disappointment, redefine it as uncomfortable, but bearable.If a friend or spouse wants to do/buy something different from what you want, just go with what they want and feel the disappointment, redefine it as uncomfortable, but bearable.Itโs not about avoiding feelings, itโs about feeling them, and seeing them for what they are. Sore. Hurtful. Uncomfortable. But NOT unbearable.