When The Love Stops
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When The Love Stops
For many people \"Marriage\" is one of the the most wonderful thing that
happens to us of our lives. It happens once in a life time only that's why you need to
take time to think about who it is you really want to marry.
Love is the most important thing that people want to give and receive. By
and large marriage is about committing yourself to another person for life, there will be
fun times, laughter and good times. However life is not a bed of roses, there will be
struggles and down times. It is during these times that the true test of love will occur.
In a normal girlfriend boyfriend relationship, this is not usual. At this kind of
relationship, love is sometimes about infatuation and admiration alone.
Whenever 2 people decide to get married, it is the time they decide for
themselves to be together with each other for the rest of their lives saying
that \"for better or worse, till death do us part\".
What a very sweet thing to hear from someone right? How we wish we could find that
someone who seems willing to love us unconditionally.
To me it seems the meaning of marriage has changed - marriage used to be a serious
ritual for people getting married. It should be a vow which acts like a law that when a
person get married, they are bound to each other for the rest of their lives.
Before, I used to admire individuals getting married because they truly live by their
word. They do love their lifetime partners for real, till death do they part.
Sad to say, people are very different now. I seldom see people celebrate even
their 25th wedding anniversary. In fact, I always receive news about people getting
divorced.
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(C) Richard Butler www.theweddingcoaches.com

When The Love Stops
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Let me give you a brief discussion about why married people go their separate ways.
When their love with each other stops.
1.) Financial Problems
We live in an age that is very high powered, it's all about money. We need to provide
we need to have the latest and greatest things in our lives. Both partners are now out
working, however if one partner looses their job or something happens this can cause
financial problems. This may not cause a break up but can put a stress on the
relationship which then makes living together difficult.
Both partners may become unhappy and this is where problems can begin to manifest.
2.) Long - Distance relationship
People fall in love because they normally spend most of their time together.
However one or both partners may begin to travel more and of course if they are not
spending time at home, this can cause problems. Either partner may meet someone else
and become close to them.
3.) Sexual Problems
As we all know, a good sex life is important, it is both pleasurable and brings a closer
bond to the couple.
However what can happen is that the love, desire can fade and the sexual element of the
relationship takes a back seat. This of course can lead to problems of each individual
looking for \"love\" or sexual fulfilment elsewhere.
In dealing with couples I have found that the above are some reasons why
love can fade and stop.
What's the key to a long and happy relationship? Constant honest and deep
communication. Learning to understand each person is also important. No one is
perfect - we have to deal with each other's \"imperfections\". We have to constantly keep
the spark alive in the relationship.
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(C) Richard Butler www.theweddingcoaches.com

When The Love Stops
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It takes great commitment to be married. Every individual should be aware that
marriage is not like the ordinary relationship. Dedication takes a huge role in making
relationship lasts.
So before marriage, I would recommend that both individuals truly discuss
and know why they want to get married and what it entails. Once they truly
understand the concept of marriage, I think that's the time they are ready
for it.
Richard Butler is a trained life and business coach and works with
individual involved in in relationships.
He runs two successful websites:
www.theweddingcoaches.com
www.richardbutlerthesuccesscoach.com
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(C) Richard Butler www.theweddingcoaches.com