why self-love is so important when you’re in a relationship, Self Love, Self care

1. why self-love is so
important when
you’re in a
relationship
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2. 1. Maintain a degree of space and
independence.
It’s unhealthy to allow the relationship
to absorb your identity and to lose
yourself as a person. Keep your own
rituals, your own activities, and your
own friends. Spend a healthy time apart
doing your own thing to nurture your
soul.

3. 2. Remember you are the master of your
own happiness.
Your partner can’t make you happy.
Only you can do that. He or she can
enhance the happiness that you nurture
in yourself, but it is not their
responsibility to make you happy. If you
rely on them for happiness you will
drain the space between you. Make sure
you take the responsibility yourself.

4. 3. See in yourself what your partner
sees in you.
Insecure people struggle to see anything
good in themselves and are often
dismissive of the positive things their
partner sees.
Ask you partner what they see in you
and what it is about you that they
love. This is a great date night exercise
for couples. Write a list of twenty
things you love about each other and
take turns reading them out.

5. 4. Don’t get disheartened when you see
your flaws.
On the other hand a relationship will
also hold up a mirror to your flaws.
Things you have learned to live with
about yourself may irritate your
partner.
We all have our flaws. Some things can
be ignored; others might be something
you want to work on. Either way, don’t
let it get you down or get in the way
of self-love.

6. 5. Forgive yourself for your failings.
Holding a grudge against yourself gets
in the way of self-love. It’s inevitable in
a relationship that there will be times
you say or do things that you regret.
Don’t beat yourself up about it.