3. Triangle People
• These people are idealists and
visionaries
• They have high expectations of
themselves and of people around
them
• They plan things ahead and they
pursue their goals relentlessly
• Most achievers such as planners,
leaders, engineers, and scientists
belong to this category.
4. Square People
• These people are level-headed and
practical minded
• They set their foot on the ground and
set realistic expectations
• Their happiness is very simple,
however, once they commit themselves
to a task, they do it well and with
pleasure
• Many managers are born of this type
5. Cross People
• These are people who are known for their
self-sacrifice and good heart
• They are also long suffering and patient
• They are meditative and don’t feel lonely
even when alone
• Once provoked, they have a big heart to
forgive
6. Cross People
• Their goodness, however is often abused
by the insensitivity of others around them
• Social workers, psychologists, writers,
missionaries, and religious persons fall
under this category
9. Have you ever stopped for a
second to think about the science
and psychology of falling in love
or why you are falling in love with
that special someone?
10. Dear Tita Cathy,
Just call me Josie. I am 18 years old, first
year education student in a prestigious
university. I belong to a middle class family
with four siblings, two boys and two girls.
My father is a seaman and my mother is a
fulltime housewife. Although my father is
away most of the time still I can say that I
have a happy family life and a strong
Christian formation.
11. My problem started when I accepted my
suitor of 1 month. I can proudly say he is a
hunk, every time he looks at me in the eyes
para akong matutunaw, when he holds my
hands I shiver as if there’s an electric
current passing through my veins, my heart
goes wild I am afraid he might hear it
beating. This happens every time we’re
together. And when were not together all I
think of is him, I could hardly eat and
sleep.
12. I thought being in love is the best thing
that could happen to a human being. But,
in my case it also made me guilty. My
parents made it very clear that as long
as I am still studying bawal
magboyfriend. I just cant help it tita my
world is turning upside down I can’t
afford to be without him. What I feel
right now is he is the man I want to be
with for the rest of my life.
13. Last week he wants us to go all the way, I was
able to control my self and said no. I am
afraid tita that the next time he would ask
me I might not be able to say no, I love him
so much that I want him to be happy, in
fact honestly, I want to do it too but I am
afraid I might get pregnant. Is this true
love? What will I do the next time he would
ask me? By the way I am afraid he would
leave me if I will say no again. I can’t afford
to loose him tita please help me.
Josie
14. Let’s explore . . .
• Group yourselves according to the same
grouping you had yesterday.
• Choose a point person who will lead the
discussion.
• Discuss the case of Josie, what advice will
you give? You may share your own
experience if you feel comfortable sharing
it.
• Choose a reporter who will share your group
output.
15. Let’s explore pa more . . .
• Did anyone in your group share his/her
own experience?
• What were the feelings that surfaced?
• What was on your mind while doing the
activity?
• Which part of the activity has the
greatest impact on you? Why?
• What learnings or insights did you gain
from this activity?
16. The 3 stages of love
• Stage 1: Lust
• Stage 2: Attraction
• Stage 3: Attachment
17. Stage 1: Lust
• This is the first stage of love and is
driven by the sex hormones
testosterone and estrogen – in both
men and women.
• Estrogen and Testosterone are the
two basic types of hormones present
equally in men and women’s body
that excites the feeling of lust within
the brain.
18. Stage 2: Attraction
• This phase is said to be one
of the beautiful moments of
life. This is the phase when
a person actually starts to
feel the love.
• This is the amazing time
when you are truly love-
struck and can think of little
else.
• Scientists think that three
main neurotransmitters are
involved in this stage;
adrenaline, dopamine and
serotonin.
19. Adrenaline
• The initial stages of falling for
someone activates your stress
response, increasing your blood levels
of adrenalin and cortisol.
• This has the charming effect that
when you unexpectedly bump into
your love one, you start to sweat,
your heart races and your mouth
goes dry.
20. Dopamine
• Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love
struck’ couples to have their brains
examined and discovered they have
high levels of the neurotransmitter
dopamine.
• This chemical stimulates ‘desire
and reward’ by triggering an intense
rush of pleasure.
• Fisher suggests “couples often
show the signs of surging
dopamine: increased energy, less
need for sleep or food, focused
attention and exquisite delight in
smallest details of this novel
relationship” .
21. Serotonin
And finally,
serotonin. One of
love's most
important
chemicals that may
explain why when
you’re falling in
love, your new lover
keeps popping into
your thoughts.
22. Does love need to be blind?
• Newly smitten lovers often idealize their
partner, magnifying their virtues and
explaining away their flaws says Ellen
Berscheid, a leading researcher on the
psychology of love.
• New couples also exalt the relationship
itself. “It's very common to think they have
a relationship that's closer and more special
than anyone else's”.
• Psychologists think we need this rose-tinted
view. It makes us want to stay together to
enter the next stage of love – attachment.
23. Stage 3: Attachment
• When a couple passes through the above two
stages of love successfully, the time of bonding
with each other becomes powerful.
• Attachment is a bond helping the
couple to take their relationship to
advanced levels. It instigates the
feeling of bearing children and falling
in love with them wholeheartedly.
• Scientists think there might be two major
hormones involved in this feeling of
attachment; oxytocin and vasopressin.
24. Vasopressin
Vasopressin is another important hormone
in the long-term commitment stage and
is released after sex.
Vasopressin (also called anti-diuretic
hormone) works with your kidneys to
control thirst. Its potential role in long-
term relationships was discovered when
scientists looked at the prairie vole.
• Prairie voles indulge in far more sex than
is strictly necessary for the purposes of
reproduction.
• They also – like humans - form fairly
stable pair-bonds.
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1. I am happy to know that . . .
2. I discovered that . . .
3. I am surprised that . . .
4. I learned that . . .
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