"The Balanced Male" is an interactive presentation for men to help them be happier, deal more effectively with stress and become better relationship partners. Not too lofty of goals, huh?
4. What We’ll Talk
About Today:
• Balancing Your Relationships
and Communication
• Your Keys to a School Life in
Balance
• Your Health: Inside and Out
• Beat Stress
• Food and Mood
• Good Mental Health for Men
• The Messages That Hold Us
Back from a Balanced Life
6. The Relationship Balance
• Needs and feelings instead of...
• Men don’t talk to other men this way! Are you crazy?
• The link between anger and depression in men
• Picking the right people for you that help balance your life
• Dropping masks and being real
7. • Conflict with others - How Not To Communicate
• Avoid the problem/stuff your feelings
• Fighting/criticizing to get what you want
• Linear vs. Circular: Men vs. Women’s Communication Styles
• Technology and Communication: Help or Hinderance?
The Communication Balance
10. Physical
Emotional
Behavioral
Headaches
Stomach Problems
Muscle Aches/tension
Flushed/warm face
Increased heart rate
Decreased/increased appetite
Decreased/increased sleep
Increased muscle/joint pain
Being ill more than usual
Increased Substance Use
(cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, caffeine)
Isolate/Withdraw from people
More aggressive/yelling, swearing
Throwing things, fighting
Increased/decreased eating
Decreased activity level
Talking more/less
Signs of Stress
11. Physical
Emotional
Behavioral
Headaches
Stomach Problems
Muscle Aches/tension
Flushed/warm face
Increased heart rate
Decreased/increased appetite
Decreased/increased sleep
Increased muscle/joint pain
Being ill more than usual
Sad
Angry
Impatient, irritable
Feeling guilty
Nervous/anxious
Lose interest in things
Hard to concentrate
Hopelessness
Thoughts of suicide/homicide
Increased Substance Use
(cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, caffeine)
Isolate/Withdraw from people
More aggressive/yelling, swearing
Throwing things, fighting
Increased/decreased eating
Decreased activity level
Talking more/less
Signs of Stress
12. Tips on Dealing With School Stress
• Stay Organized! Pace Yourself
and Plan Ahead
• Exercise (It’s Free)
• Your Body Speaking Stress
• Time Management Is The Key
• Know your Tipping Point
• Why You Don’t Ignore Your
Stress After You’ve Recognized
it
13. Tips on Dealing With School Stress
• Stay Organized! Pace Yourself
and Plan Ahead
• Exercise (It’s Free)
• Your Body Speaking Stress
• Time Management Is The Key
• Know your Tipping Point
• Why You Don’t Ignore Your
Stress After You’ve Recognized
it
14. Tips on Dealing With
School Stress
• Take Advantage of school
resources, such as Counseling,
Academic Advising, Tutoring, or
your professor’s office hours.
• Grab Your Goals and Reward
Accordingly
• $tre$$ Management
• Study What You Enjoy: Choose
1 Class To Provide An Outlet
• The Work-School Balance
15. Tips on Dealing With
School Stress
• Take Advantage of school
resources, such as Counseling,
Academic Advising, Tutoring, or
your professor’s office hours.
• Grab Your Goals and Reward
Accordingly
• $tre$$ Management
• Study What You Enjoy: Choose
1 Class To Provide An Outlet
• The Work-School Balance
17. What you consume may be
stressing you
❖ Caffeine, sugar, alcohol and chocolate are “food stressors” that
make stress worse on the body. Salt contributes to fatigue
through dehydration, and high-fat meals raise stress hormone
levels and keep them high.
18. What you consume may be
stressing you
❖ Caffeine, sugar, alcohol and chocolate are “food stressors” that
make stress worse on the body. Salt contributes to fatigue
through dehydration, and high-fat meals raise stress hormone
levels and keep them high.
❖ “Food supporters” include fish and its oils, fruits, vegetables,
water, complex carbohydrates, protein and B-vitamins.
19. What you consume may be
stressing you
❖ Caffeine, sugar, alcohol and chocolate are “food stressors” that
make stress worse on the body. Salt contributes to fatigue
through dehydration, and high-fat meals raise stress hormone
levels and keep them high.
❖ “Food supporters” include fish and its oils, fruits, vegetables,
water, complex carbohydrates, protein and B-vitamins.
❖ Don’t smoke: People who smoke are likely to be more depressed
than non-smokers.
20. What you consume may be
stressing you
❖ Caffeine, sugar, alcohol and chocolate are “food stressors” that
make stress worse on the body. Salt contributes to fatigue
through dehydration, and high-fat meals raise stress hormone
levels and keep them high.
❖ “Food supporters” include fish and its oils, fruits, vegetables,
water, complex carbohydrates, protein and B-vitamins.
❖ Don’t smoke: People who smoke are likely to be more depressed
than non-smokers.
❖ Exercise! Certain endorphins and other brain chemicals released
in response to exercise also produce a natural “high” and reduce
stress, pain and depression.
31. Internalized messages are
given to us at an early age.
We then create certain ideas
about what it means to be a
man based on them.
Messages can be social, cultural,
religious, parental or even self-
created.
How can you become aware of
the messages that propel your
thinking about being a man? Are
they healthy or unhealthy
messages, and do they work for
you?
32. Messages (and Myths) About Being a Man
• Not “being a man” by asking for help
• “I’m weak if I have to ask for help.”
• Reducing your “image” to friends, family
• “Strong, silent type” of man (Tony Soprano)
• The OWC Philosophy (“Only Women Cry”)
• “I can handle it myself/I’m in control of it.”
33. What Works?
• Living lined up with your values
• Positive relationships and effective communication
• Healthy living
• Practicing stress management and good self-care techniques
• Creating school balance for yourself
• Asking for help when its needed
• Staying true to yourself, your wants, needs, and desires
34. And What Doesn’t Work?
• Bad relationships: friendships, family and romantic
• Poor communication with others
• Eating an unhealthy diet and bad lifestyle choices; poor sleep patterns
• Not asking for help when you need it most
• Not listening to yourself and doing what’s best for you
• Believing cultural messages and myths about “being a man” that prevent you
from seeking help