The key to your success lies in understanding the fact that ‘Nothing you do in your life is about you. You simply cannot succeed in your life if you believe it is all about you.
A customer in a barber shop gets into a discussion with the barber about God's existence. The barber argues that God does not exist because of all the suffering in the world, like sick people and abandoned children. The customer later sees a disheveled man outside and uses it as an analogy to explain to the barber that just as barbers exist even if some people do not get haircuts, God exists even if people experience suffering because not all seek God for help.
explore and embrace your individuality. It is your strength. Your career and your life are too short. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you, and worry about what you think about you.
Physical, Psychological and Spiritual Suffering and Your CareerEmployment Crossing
Suffering is a fact of life and cannot be ignored. There are three types of suffering: physical, psychological and spiritual. Harrison advises a balance among these three forms of suffering so that we do not experience any one of them in too great a proportion to the others. It is by balancing the suffering we are experiencing in the world that we are able to live lives of fulfillment.
Dr Tim Harlow, Hospiscare Consultant
Spiritual causes of physical pain, presented at the Holy Living, Holy Dying conference held in Exeter on 2 November 2009
The document describes various feelings and emotional states that people can experience, including astonishment, confusion, delight, desperation, devastation, disappointment, exhaustion, being fed up, fury, gratitude, homesickness, loneliness, misery, nervousness, offense, relief, shock, stun, terror, thrill, and upset.
A customer in a barber shop gets into a discussion with the barber about God's existence. The barber argues that God does not exist because of all the suffering in the world, like sick people and abandoned children. The customer later sees a disheveled man outside and uses it as an analogy to explain to the barber that just as barbers exist even if some people do not get haircuts, God exists even if people experience suffering because not all seek God for help.
explore and embrace your individuality. It is your strength. Your career and your life are too short. Stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you, and worry about what you think about you.
Physical, Psychological and Spiritual Suffering and Your CareerEmployment Crossing
Suffering is a fact of life and cannot be ignored. There are three types of suffering: physical, psychological and spiritual. Harrison advises a balance among these three forms of suffering so that we do not experience any one of them in too great a proportion to the others. It is by balancing the suffering we are experiencing in the world that we are able to live lives of fulfillment.
Dr Tim Harlow, Hospiscare Consultant
Spiritual causes of physical pain, presented at the Holy Living, Holy Dying conference held in Exeter on 2 November 2009
The document describes various feelings and emotional states that people can experience, including astonishment, confusion, delight, desperation, devastation, disappointment, exhaustion, being fed up, fury, gratitude, homesickness, loneliness, misery, nervousness, offense, relief, shock, stun, terror, thrill, and upset.
The neighbor would see the man of the house drink beers quickly behind his garage when his daughter and son-in-law visited. This happened every few weeks and was the man's way of dealing with the stress of their visits. The passage discusses common ways people cope with stress, such as distraction, avoidance, isolation, or dissipating energy, but argues these don't resolve the underlying issues. It introduces the concept of "focusing" from Dr. Gendlin's research - accepting feelings instead of resisting stress, in order to remain conscious of problems and deal with them directly.
Are You Motivated by Power, Relationships, or Achievement?Employment Crossing
The document discusses three different personality types that may emerge when someone sits in the restored classic cars that the author has spent decades restoring: power-oriented, relationship-oriented, and achievement-oriented. It provides examples of how each type would react and what questions they would ask when viewing the cars, noting their different motivations - power, relationships, and achievement respectively. The author stresses the importance of understanding one's own personality type and being in a career that allows one to thrive using their natural motivations.
To succeed in the terms you have set for yourself, you need to look out for, and operate in, an environment that is strong and very demanding from you in terms of work.
In life and in career, most people seek to improve, get traction and stay in the game. No one wishes to slip and fall and yet all, at some point or another do.
Be Someone Who is Engaged with Work, Not Someone Who Avoids WorkEmployment Crossing
The document discusses several instances the author witnessed of people avoiding work or being disengaged from their jobs, including:
1) Two airline stewardesses who spent their time during the flight clipping coupons and complaining about their jobs instead of serving passengers.
2) An airline executive who was upset about being expected to work during a flight instead of sleeping.
3) Pilots who were more interested in surfing the internet than flying the plane.
4) An airport shuttle driver who was not actually picking passengers up from the airport on schedule.
The author concludes that being engaged with and finding meaning in one's work is important for career satisfaction and success.
Garlic Olive Oil, Craigslist Massages-and Doing Your HomeworkEmployment Crossing
Do not plunge into something as important as a new job before investing enough time in researching and learning more about the work required, the people you will work with, and the environment.
You need to decide for yourself which method works best for you. An alternate to this exists as well; you can choose to let things remain the way they are.
It is important for every individual to realize that nobody else is going to be as concerned for your career as you yourself. Because of this reason, it becomes much more important to protect your ability to earn your living.
Paying attention to details is one of the most important things for success. Successful people have an extraordinary ability to focus on even small details and are often obsessed with intricate knowledge about details. Details are important in every profession from law and teaching to business and athletics. Those who focus on details like remembering customer preferences, following up after a job application, or working to improve small weaknesses will achieve better results than those who do not pay attention to the small things.
The document discusses a man who attended a wedding rehearsal dinner and sat next to a wealthy businessman. The businessman revealed that he prefers using prostitutes to relationships because it is cheaper and less troublesome. The narrator was shocked by this viewpoint, which treats people as commodities that can be bought and sold. The document argues that to succeed in business and career, one must form emotional connections with others and understand their goals and dreams, in order to be seen as more than just a replaceable commodity.
Learnings from Successful Jobs SearchersBruce Bennett
Are you interested to know what actions help in a job search? This webinar is the summary of several individuals who discussed their job search journey for others to follow. You will learn there are common actions that helped them succeed in their quest for gainful employment.
The neighbor would see the man of the house drink beers quickly behind his garage when his daughter and son-in-law visited. This happened every few weeks and was the man's way of dealing with the stress of their visits. The passage discusses common ways people cope with stress, such as distraction, avoidance, isolation, or dissipating energy, but argues these don't resolve the underlying issues. It introduces the concept of "focusing" from Dr. Gendlin's research - accepting feelings instead of resisting stress, in order to remain conscious of problems and deal with them directly.
Are You Motivated by Power, Relationships, or Achievement?Employment Crossing
The document discusses three different personality types that may emerge when someone sits in the restored classic cars that the author has spent decades restoring: power-oriented, relationship-oriented, and achievement-oriented. It provides examples of how each type would react and what questions they would ask when viewing the cars, noting their different motivations - power, relationships, and achievement respectively. The author stresses the importance of understanding one's own personality type and being in a career that allows one to thrive using their natural motivations.
To succeed in the terms you have set for yourself, you need to look out for, and operate in, an environment that is strong and very demanding from you in terms of work.
In life and in career, most people seek to improve, get traction and stay in the game. No one wishes to slip and fall and yet all, at some point or another do.
Be Someone Who is Engaged with Work, Not Someone Who Avoids WorkEmployment Crossing
The document discusses several instances the author witnessed of people avoiding work or being disengaged from their jobs, including:
1) Two airline stewardesses who spent their time during the flight clipping coupons and complaining about their jobs instead of serving passengers.
2) An airline executive who was upset about being expected to work during a flight instead of sleeping.
3) Pilots who were more interested in surfing the internet than flying the plane.
4) An airport shuttle driver who was not actually picking passengers up from the airport on schedule.
The author concludes that being engaged with and finding meaning in one's work is important for career satisfaction and success.
Garlic Olive Oil, Craigslist Massages-and Doing Your HomeworkEmployment Crossing
Do not plunge into something as important as a new job before investing enough time in researching and learning more about the work required, the people you will work with, and the environment.
You need to decide for yourself which method works best for you. An alternate to this exists as well; you can choose to let things remain the way they are.
It is important for every individual to realize that nobody else is going to be as concerned for your career as you yourself. Because of this reason, it becomes much more important to protect your ability to earn your living.
Paying attention to details is one of the most important things for success. Successful people have an extraordinary ability to focus on even small details and are often obsessed with intricate knowledge about details. Details are important in every profession from law and teaching to business and athletics. Those who focus on details like remembering customer preferences, following up after a job application, or working to improve small weaknesses will achieve better results than those who do not pay attention to the small things.
The document discusses a man who attended a wedding rehearsal dinner and sat next to a wealthy businessman. The businessman revealed that he prefers using prostitutes to relationships because it is cheaper and less troublesome. The narrator was shocked by this viewpoint, which treats people as commodities that can be bought and sold. The document argues that to succeed in business and career, one must form emotional connections with others and understand their goals and dreams, in order to be seen as more than just a replaceable commodity.
Learnings from Successful Jobs SearchersBruce Bennett
Are you interested to know what actions help in a job search? This webinar is the summary of several individuals who discussed their job search journey for others to follow. You will learn there are common actions that helped them succeed in their quest for gainful employment.
Success is often not achievable without facing and overcoming obstacles along the way. To reach our goals and achieve success, it is important to understand and resolve the obstacles that come in our way.
In this article, we will discuss the various obstacles that hinder success, strategies to overcome them, and examples of individuals who have successfully surmounted their obstacles.
Joyce M Sullivan, Founder & CEO of SocMediaFin, Inc. shares her "Five Questions - The Story of You", "Reflections - What Matters to You?" and "The Three Circle Exercise" to guide those evaluating what their next move may be in their careers.
A Guide to a Winning Interview June 2024Bruce Bennett
This webinar is an in-depth review of the interview process. Preparation is a key element to acing an interview. Learn the best approaches from the initial phone screen to the face-to-face meeting with the hiring manager. You will hear great answers to several standard questions, including the dreaded “Tell Me About Yourself”.
In the intricate tapestry of life, connections serve as the vibrant threads that weave together opportunities, experiences, and growth. Whether in personal or professional spheres, the ability to forge meaningful connections opens doors to a multitude of possibilities, propelling individuals toward success and fulfillment.
Eirini is an HR professional with strong passion for technology and semiconductors industry in particular. She started her career as a software recruiter in 2012, and developed an interest for business development, talent enablement and innovation which later got her setting up the concept of Software Community Management in ASML, and to Developer Relations today. She holds a bachelor degree in Lifelong Learning and an MBA specialised in Strategic Human Resources Management. She is a world citizen, having grown up in Greece, she studied and kickstarted her career in The Netherlands and can currently be found in Santa Clara, CA.
We recently hosted the much-anticipated Community Skill Builders Workshop during our June online meeting. This event was a culmination of six months of listening to your feedback and crafting solutions to better support your PMI journey. Here’s a look back at what happened and the exciting developments that emerged from our collaborative efforts.
A Gathering of Minds
We were thrilled to see a diverse group of attendees, including local certified PMI trainers and both new and experienced members eager to contribute their perspectives. The workshop was structured into three dynamic discussion sessions, each led by our dedicated membership advocates.
Key Takeaways and Future Directions
The insights and feedback gathered from these discussions were invaluable. Here are some of the key takeaways and the steps we are taking to address them:
• Enhanced Resource Accessibility: We are working on a new, user-friendly resource page that will make it easier for members to access training materials and real-world application guides.
• Structured Mentorship Program: Plans are underway to launch a mentorship program that will connect members with experienced professionals for guidance and support.
• Increased Networking Opportunities: Expect to see more frequent and varied networking events, both virtual and in-person, to help you build connections and foster a sense of community.
Moving Forward
We are committed to turning your feedback into actionable solutions that enhance your PMI journey. This workshop was just the beginning. By actively participating and sharing your experiences, you have helped shape the future of our Chapter’s offerings.
Thank you to everyone who attended and contributed to the success of the Community Skill Builders Workshop. Your engagement and enthusiasm are what make our Chapter strong and vibrant. Stay tuned for updates on the new initiatives and opportunities to get involved. Together, we are building a community that supports and empowers each other on our PMI journeys.
Stay connected, stay engaged, and let’s continue to grow together!
About PMI Silver Spring Chapter
We are a branch of the Project Management Institute. We offer a platform for project management professionals in Silver Spring, MD, and the DC/Baltimore metro area. Monthly meetings facilitate networking, knowledge sharing, and professional development. For more, visit pmissc.org.
2. There is a simple concept that separates those who experience great success from those who do not. I am going to tell you all about this concept in a second, but first I want to talk a little bit about self-help.
3. I Have Read Countless Books That Discuss Various Methods Of Improving One’s Life And Career I have read countless books that discuss various methods of improving one’s life and career. I have always found it interesting that these books are almost always classified as self-help. The first self-help book ever written is generally considered to be Samuel Smiles’ Self Help, originally published in 1859. The book begins with the sentence “Heaven helps those who help themselves.” The principle that self-help seems founded upon and seems to revolve around, then, is that people need to take charge of themselves in order to improve their lives.
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5. Virtually Any Self-Improvement Book You May Read… And any self-improvement seminar you may attend, will give you some variation of this advice. I am not criticizing any of this advice, because it works, and can make people become very successful. These are concrete, guiding principles that have been proven over many years and in many cases. For example, if you do not follow through with whatever you are seeking to achieve then it is unlikely you will ever amount to much; you need to follow through. If it were my decision, I would make sure that all schools instruct people about these various principles of self-improvement, because they are so incredibly important. Far too many people are nowhere near reaching their potential because they do not understand the basics of self-improvement.
6. There Is A Real Difference Between Long-Term Success And Short-Term Success Familiarizing yourself with the principles of self-improvement can help you advance in your career and life for a while, but they are not the be all and end all of what it really takes to succeed in the long-term. When the economy is good, the people who follow general self-improvement advice can always do well for a time. For example, they can more easily get jobs and, due to market conditions, get one raise and promotion after another. There is nothing wrong with this, however, in order to experience consistent and long-lasting success, a completely different set of skills becomes necessary.
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8. It Is Like This In Every Industry And Every Career Path I Know About If you name any profession, I will point out how becoming good at the profession requires you to put others first, and how the more you do this, the more success you will find.
9. Currently We Are In A Horrible Hiring Market For Attorneys One of my jobs is running a legal recruiting firm. Over the past several months I have seen numerous recruiters fail at their jobs. Many of these legal recruiters got into the business initially because they wanted to make money; they liked the lifestyle associated with being a recruiter, and had lots of other reasons for choosing the job, all of which revolved around their own self-interest. These recruiters tend to be suffering the worst in this economy. Conversely, the recruiters who got into the business because they view it as an outlet to help others have continued doing incredibly well. Most likely this is because the best attorney candidates can sense when their recruiters really want to help them. The attorneys trust these recruiters and flock to them.
10. The Self-Improvement We Seek Starts With Helping Others Making everything all about ourselves is a huge epidemic in our society, whether one analyzes people in politics, sports, business–or just daily life. I love watching politics from the sidelines. The longer you watch politicians, the more you realize that a lot of them are crooked, and are only in it for themselves, not to help others. The politicians are often, it seems, more concerned with getting bribes, steering lucrative contracts to friends and so forth. Instead of being concerned about their constituents and society at large, they are often more concerned with making sure that their own needs are met.
11. There Will Always Be Scandals Such As Those With Former Governor Blagojevich Because the idea of “self-improvement” for many people means enriching themselves at others’ expense.
12. Not Too Long Ago I Met A Guy Who Owns A Sportsbook Casino Since he is taking millions of dollars in bets a day during the sports season, he told me that he and other casino owners have learned that there is a ton of graft and so forth in college sports. It is not uncommon for college football games to be fixed. The casinos can often pick this up due to betting patterns. When games occur that appear to be fixed, the casinos will usually observe players making ridiculous errors and appearing to throw the game. In these cases the athletes are obviously more concerned with themselves than with their team or with their fans.
13. The Same Thing Happens In Business Many executives get to high places in business and suddenly you see them doing all sorts of things that are more about them than about others. Whether it is an executive doling out stock options that are backdated or otherwise, executives are continually under fire for being more concerned with their own “self-improvement” than helping the people around them. This is something I see all the time with high-ranking executives and others: They simply care more about themselves than their customers, coworkers, or others.
14. The Key To Your Own Success Is Simple Nothing you do in your life is about you. You simply cannot succeed in your life if you believe it is all about you. It is never just about you and never will be just about you . Ignoring this concept can be dangerous and can crush your chances of success. Your goals and aspirations need to be far greater and larger than focusing solely on your goals about what you want. Whatever you are seeking in your life, you will only find when you are working to fulfill the goals and aspirations of others.
15. Detroit is a fascinating city to me in so many respects. There was so much wealth there at one time, which was brought about by the automobile industry. Now, over the past five years, homes there have gone down in value by up to four times, as industry and the economy have suffered due to the weakening state of the auto industry. In reality though, the city has been collapsing for years, and has been going downhill for my entire lifetime. One of my first memories is when, in the early 1970s, Detroit started to proclaim itself “the Renaissance City,” and the Renaissance Center was built in downtown Detroit. The idea was that the city was on its way back, experiencing a revival. The problem with this, however, was that the city was not really going to come back. I believe, a switchover had occurred in the psychology of the automobile companies in Detroit from focusing on “what can we provide to the people” to “what the people can provide to us”. Simply stated, the automotive companies became insular and more concerned with their own needs and wants than being concerned with providing an exceptional product and service to the American public.
16. Throughout America There Are All Sorts Of Towns Like Atchison, Kansas That grew up and thrived at one time due to the railroads coming through them. When the train diminished in importance and other forms of transportation became prominent, these towns lost a great deal of their wealth and became shells of their former selves. Detroit is another one of these places too. If these towns had been more concerned with what they could give, instead of what they could take, then my thought is they would still have prospered, no matter what had happened.
17. Lately I Have Been Reading Lots Of Articles In Newspapers, Magazines And So Forth About… People who formerly had high-level jobs in investment banks and for similar “big” employers, who are now doing things like working in restaurants, or in sporting goods stores for close to minimum wage. “ I was making $150,000 a year and now the best job I can get only pays $11.00 an hour!” is the sort of statement you read in these articles, again and again.
18. The Articles Are Always The Same, And They Drone On About How The Person At Issue Can No Longer Afford To Go Out To Eat… How they are selling their house and how they are so frustrated that employers are not responding to their applications. I have a ton of sympathy for these people. The employment market is bad; however, I often notice there is a problem with the psychology of the people I am reading about. The problem is that, more often than not, the people complaining about the job market and their employment situation are focused on themselves and their woes, instead of being focused on what they can provide for others.
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20. Nothing You Do In This Life Is All About You Your career is not all about you. The company you work for is not all about you. Your family is not all about you. Your friends are not all about you. It is always all about the other person. Your life and the opportunities out there are so much larger and all encompassing than you. Most people spend their time asking questions about themselves and pondering over themselves. They ask questions about what they can do to be better, questions about their goals, questions about their future. Constantly looking within one’s self can actually get in the way of success.
21. You are one person and the world is made up of billions of people. You are always going to find more answers and more satisfying answers when you look outside of yourself, than just inside yourself. When you provide value, help and support to others, this will provide you with more spiritual, psychological, financial and other benefits than any other self-improvement concept out there. The way to achieve your greatest potential, and to truly help yourself, is to start helping others.