3. Introduction .................................................................................. 3
Personality styles of Robert Toth ................................................................. 4
Your most distinctive personality styles ............................................................ 5
How would you like to be perceived by others? ...................................................... 6
What do you expect from yourself? ............................................................... 7
Expectations regarding your analytical and value-oriented personality style ............................... 7
Your preferred style of communication ............................................................ 8
Your contact door and your trap door .............................................................. 8
The predominantly ANALYTICAL personality style ................................................... 9
The predominantly VALUES-ORIENTED personality style ............................................. 10
The predominantly CREATIVE personality style ..................................................... 11
Talents and potentials .......................................................................... 12
Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the analytical personality style ................................ 12
Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the value-oriented personality style ........................... 13
Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the creative personality style ................................. 14
Aptitudes and Talents .......................................................................... 15
Personal potentials that you can successfully tap .................................................... 16
Potentials in the creative personality style .......................................................... 17
Your sources of life and energy .................................................................. 18
Basic needs supply energy to your life ............................................................. 18
If you lose your internal balance .................................................................. 20
If you get hardly any energy from your source of life and strength any more, and if you feel you are under a
strong kind of stress (di-stress), you may show the following symptoms of unease ......................... 21
Please note! .................................................................................. 22
What you expect from yourself ................................................................... 22
Hints and Ideas ............................................................................... 23
Drama-triangle ................................................................................ 24
Your tendencys in the drama-triangle ............................................................. 25
Rescuer role ................................................................................. 26
Persecutor role ............................................................................... 27
The way out from the drama triangle .............................................................. 28
Basic personality style ......................................................................... 29
Answer behaviors of Robert Toth ................................................................. 31
4. Introduction
Welcome, Robert Toth, to your SIZE Prozess® personality profile.
This profile bases on the concepts and scientific findings of transaction analysis and its
new developments. This personality profile is not a psychological test, it is a self-
assessment of your strengths, talents and resources. It can help you to learn more
about yourself.
This personality profile records and formulates hypotheses regarding your
presumably-preferred behaviour styles and tendencies in job-related situations. The
individual statements are to be understood as hypotheses and are ascertained on the
basis of your answers to the SIZE Prozess® questionnaire. This personality profile
draws no conclusions regarding your capabilities or experience. It is possible that you
have developed great skills in work areas for which you presently do not have much
energy (or interest).
However, if your distinct personality styles are a good match to your daily
requirements, there is a big probability that you enjoy your work/life and are able to
effectively use your strengths and talents.
In addition, this personality profile provides you with information regarding
"undiscovered treasures" that may lie within you as hidden potentials, and that you
could probably tap into to achieve added success.
You will be provided with hypotheses as to why you behave the way you do when you
lose your inner balance and possibly show rather hindering patterns of behaviour.
Use this profile to achieve professional and even personal success, as a valuable
building block in your personal learning and development process. Consult with your
SIZE Prozess® instructor or consultant if you have any questions. They will be happy
to advise you in terms of your professional development.
We hope you find your personality profile to be interesting and exciting!
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5. Personality styles of Robert Toth
The energy distribution in the different parts of our personality is predominantly the
result of the influence of the surroundings in which we have grown up.
The different energy distribution within parts of our personality, result in the
development of certain personality styles with typical signs.
These personality styles determine our strengths and talents. And they influence as in
how we perceive our surroundings and behave.
We distinguish six different personality styles
the Analytical
the Sensitive
the Values Oriented
the Creative
the Active
the Quiet
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6. Your most distinctive personality styles
This diagram shows you which personality styles you see yourself as preferring in your
environment, your career and private life and, on the other hand, the ones you seldom
use.
Current life phase as an arrow:
The arrow on the above diagram shows you that the needs of this Personality Style
are, in your view, currently of particular importance to you and indicate your "current
life phase". This also means that you presumably demonstrate increasing behavior
patterns belonging to this Personality Style in day-to-day life.
Emotional influences in your life, such as life crises and also age issues, may cause
changes in your current life phase and thus lead to a change in your personality.
These may go on for a certain period of time or last an entire lifetime.
AC = Active
AL = Analytical
CRE = Creative
SEN = Sensitive
QU = Quiet
VAL = Value-oriented
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7. How would you like to be perceived by others?
Our thoughts, feelings and behaviour are never independent from our surroundings.
We are always embedded in social systems as e.g. family, friends, clubs, teams, firms
and so on.
Within these systems we play different parts. Open or hidden arrangements tell us
which behaviour or which personality structure are appropriate and which are not.
This graph refers to those personality structures, which you – according to different
roles – think to be appropriate or expected by others.
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8. What do you expect from yourself?
Typical characteristics may be attributed to every personality style. The following
graph provides a good indication of which Personality Styles - in connection with the
associated characteristics – you expect from yourself and/or attribute to yourself.
These consist of decisions which you may have made at some point in your life in
order to be OK. And also to win against other people in this world ("In this life, I must
always...to..."). By applying this, you would like to ensure that your important basic
needs that are closely related to your dominant Personality Styles are adequately met.
Frequently, these expectations per se are also closely related to age (current life
development phase) and the corresponding basic requirements, attitudes, values and
motives.
In order to take care of yourself in everyday life and to meet the expectations of others
in terms of performance and behaviour, you rely on conscientious working. You try to
do things as correctly as possible. You appear dutiful, conscientious, and reliable. You
accord importance to order and authority.
Expectations regarding your analytical and value-oriented personality style
When these behavioural strategies, from your perspective, do not lead to the desired
success in solving daily problems, you fall back on the following strategy:
You then work hard and find it difficult to relax. There is always a task to complete.
Then you appear dictatorial and critical and tell others how to do things. You find it
difficult to show feelings and to allow emotional closeness. You get very upset about
possible criticism of your behaviour. You spend a lot of energy to control yourself and
others.
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9. Your preferred style of communication
In your communication with others, you prefer the factual, analytical style of
communication, which is based on an unemotional exchange of ideas and information
coming from that part of your personality that observes logically and rationally, reflects
before it moves and always acts on rational grounds. In particular, you always take the
competence of your opposite number into account. In this context, emotions and
attitudes towards specific values are often of lesser importance to you.
Your contact door and your trap door
Your door to contact is rational-logical thinking (clear structures, technical questions
and set tasks). This is how other persons can most easily come into contact with you.
The trap door during the contact phase with you is the directive-proactive
communication style (e.g. terse instructions without paying attention to or providing
details, or direct/indirect criticism of your conduct). Persons who wish to come into
contact with you will not be successful using this communication style, especially if you
are under stress.
You consider this communication style to be mostly a direct or indirect criticism of your
person:
"People do not allow me to think independently"
"People think that I am incompetent"
"People do not acknowledge my accomplishments"
Since you are very self-critical anyway, this communication style can trigger an inner
conflict in you and lead to miscommunication or withdrawal.
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10. The predominantly ANALYTICAL personality style
A style of leadership based on factual information
Your approach to tasks and to the solution of problems:
To you, tasks and problems are logical challenges that you have to master by a
systematical approach and by thorough analysis. You define a set of problems and
first try to find out what is known about them. If relevant information is lacking, you look
for some way to obtain that information. You ask many questions (what, when, where,
how) and fit the information obtained in this way together like the pieces of a jigsaw
puzzle to get an overall picture that will help you to come to a decision. You use these
data and facts to anticipate potential obstacles that might prevent you from reaching
your goals and you try to deal with those problems by applying logical solutions.
Working with others:
When collaborating with other people, you are mainly interested in the facts of the
matter and you spend most of your energy on analytical thinking. You have a clear
concept of what you want and you are constantly looking for fresh ideas. When
working with team members and colleagues, you proceed in a factual manner and
always pay attention to the competence of your opposite number. It is important to you
to prove your own competence to yourself and to others. You try to increase your level
of competence steadily. If you look for or give recognition, it is mainly for competence,
performance and success. Based on your Analytical Personality Style, you work
together well with Analytical and Values-oriented types. You have certain problems
with Creative and Active Types.
Convictions:
Your convictions consist of images, assumptions and stories that are influenced by
your predominant Personality Styles. They rely on a set of basic assumptions that may
influence your patterns of perception and behavior (often subconsciously):
Convictions you may possibly have based on your Analytical Personality Style:
It is mainly through your performance that you can be a valuable person.
Success is knowledge plus experience, and any course of action must be
based on a strategy that is well thought-out.
You have to get people to use their brains and to think logically.
Only if you use your brain to test the consequences of your actions and to find
out whether or not they fulfill certain norms, without ever being imprecise,
sloppy and impulsive, can you retain control over the consequences of your
actions and feel OK
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11. The predominantly VALUES-ORIENTED personality style
A style of leadership based on objective, values-oriented thinking
Your approach to tasks and to the solution of problems:
For you, tasks and problems are to be handled mainly by experience, thoroughness
and persistence. In order to avoid unwanted consequences of your solutions, you first
examine them critically through the filter of your values and your experience. It is
important to you to identify potential obstacles that may make it difficult for you to
attain your goals. You look for convincing solutions to circumvent these problems. In
this, you are guided by firm opinions and convictions that you promote in a clear and
unequivocal fashion. You address the possible strengths and weaknesses of certain
suggestions or arguments in a straightforward manner. If you perceive that certain
things have gone wrong in your environment, you are a competent critic and always
ready to raise a few hackles in the process. If you find other people’s objections
inappropriate, you simply refute them and stay faithful to your own views, which you
consider sensible and valuable.
Working with others:
You tend to define goals that are difficult to attain, you are performance-oriented and
probably show a strong motivation to control the way things happen. You place great
demands on yourself, on your team and your colleagues. The members of your team
see you more and more as a conscientious and persistent person. You stress loyalty,
reliability, values, order and authority. You set high goals for yourself and you tend to
trust your own abilities more than those of your team members. You radiate assurance
and consistency. If you are convinced that something is worth the trouble, you pursue
the matter with perseverance and a lot of energy. If you consider it necessary, you
denounce the weaknesses of arguments put forward by others and rely on the
strength of your own viewpoint. If you look for or give recognition, it is mainly for
qualities such as trustworthiness, assurance and solidarity. Based on your Values-
oriented Personality Style, you work together well with Values-oriented types (unless
their values differ too much from yours) and Analytical types. You may have some
problems with Creative and Active types.
Convictions:
The following convictions (or basic assumptions) may influence your patterns of
perception and behavior (often subconsciously):
Success follows when people treat each other with respect and stick to the
correct values and convictions.
By having doubts about what you can expect from other people and by avoiding
too much openness and trust in your contacts with them, you will be able to
remain safe and to stay in control of your life.
New things are often risky and involve planning on uncertain ground, so they
should always be examined critically and avoided if necessary.
You can avoid bad experiences by seeing to it that other people do things
“perfectly“ and have the “right“ convictions.
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12. The predominantly CREATIVE personality style
A style of leadership based on reactivity and humor
Your approach to tasks and to the solution of problems:
You have the ability to find original and innovative solutions even for persistent
problems. In the workplace, you try to make everybody’s work lighter with witty and
humorous remarks. Exterior obligations and restraints such as rules, necessities and
regulations tend to cramp your style. You probably have a tendency to shake up
existing structures without respect. Things that are new, original and exceptional may
exert a magic kind of attraction on you, and you may find anything that is unfamiliar
quite irresistible. On the one hand, this makes you volatile and unpredictable, on the
other hand, you may find it easier to develop alternative plans of action, to leave the
well-trodden paths and to open new vistas.
Working with others:
Based on your Creative Personality Style, you impress others as a playful, humorous
and creative person. In your contacts with other people, you are relaxed and
sometimes even ironical or teasing. You love spectacular, perhaps even provocative
actions, and you like being the center of attention. With your style of leadership, you
tend to appeal to the creative abilities of your staff but you may do relatively little to
influence your staff’s behavior and to promote the attainment of specific goals. Some
of your colleagues may find it difficult to keep pace with your constant flow of new
ideas and flashes of inspiration, and they may feel uncomfortable in such situations. If
you look for or give recognition, it is mainly for exceptional, new and original ideas.
Based on your Creative Personality Style, you work together well with Creative and
Sensitive types. You find it more difficult to work with Analytical and Values-oriented
types.
Convictions:
Your convictions consist of images, assumptions and stories that are influenced by
your predominant Personality Styles. They rely on a set of basic assumptions that may
influence your patterns of perception and behavior (often subconsciously):
At your job, things will be simplified and problems may be easier to solve if you
don’t take everything too seriously.
You should take life easy, have fun and enjoy it – that’s what makes life worth
living.
Sometimes you have to make a serious effort, and if you make that effort
visible, then many tasks and problems will be solved for you by others.
By always being in an inner opposition to authorities but never openly
aggressive, by giving in only as much as is absolutely necessary, you can
retain your freedom, independence and self-determination.
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13. Talents and potentials
Our talents are determined by different parts of our personality and by our personality
style.We are born with certain ‘equipment’ and cannot change this at will or become
somebody different. But we can enhance our abilities and develop to acquire new
knowledge and skill.
In everyday problem solving and solution finding we will prefer to use our strengths.
We will be most successful with what meets our talents and preferences.
We are successful when we use our natural strengths and resources and use,
acknowledge and extend the potential that lies within this.
Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the analytical personality style
Roles:
Expert
Specialist
Structurer
Organiser
Analyser
The potentials for success in connection with your behaviour:
You can solve tasks and problems logically and systematically.
You can collect and analyse information well and prepare forecasts.
You recognise correlations and structures and can structure tasks and
problems.
You approach duties with precision and a high level of professional
competence.
You can plan and organise projects and manage their progress well.
You execute your tasks diligently and reliably.
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14. Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the value-oriented personality style
Roles:
Verifier
Persuader
Provider
Stabiliser
Sustainer
The potentials for success in connection with your behaviour:
You can convey to others a feeling of security and trust.
You can ensure proper consistency and continuity.
You can observe carefully and well.
You can adhere well to things that have proven to be useful.
You stand up emphatically for issues and goals in which you believe.
You can well evaluate situations based on your own experiences.
You can well represent and argue for viewpoints that you personally believe in.
You are patient and persevering with tasks.
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15. Strenghts, gifts and talents associated with the creative personality style
Roles:
Extroverted person
Humorous
Artist
Innovator
Sociable person
The potentials for success in connection with your behaviour:
You can establish contacts in an easy-going and good-natured manner.
You can approach tasks and solutions to problems in a playful and creative
manner.
You mostly have many unusual and original ideas.
In the case of problems and tasks, you can be an innovative "lateral thinker".
You can entertain others well and provide for a good atmosphere.
You can be very creative in everything that you do.
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16. Aptitudes and Talents
The basis for competencies are your aptitudes. If these are used sustainably in a
productive manner, they can be described as talents. These are recurrent, sustainable
patterns of thought, feeling and behaviour that are individually laid down in a
personality structure and that can be used productively to develop competencies.
Those aptitudes that are filled with lots of energy, you can activate best in your
everyday life:
proper and precise
compiler of thoughts
performance-oriented
logical, analytical
planning
strategic
structured
systematic
organized
responsible
possessing a spirit of
inquiry…
perseverant - tenacious
sense of authority
disciplined
dedicated
precise thinker (examine, observe)
conscientious
with a sense of justice and fair play
performance-oriented
safety-conscious
stability
persuasive
responsible…
gentle and sensitive
ability to empathize
capable of forming commitments
relationship builder
dedicated to the needs of others
caring and helpful
friendly
allowing for a pleasant harmonious
atmosphere
sociable and with communication skills
people-friendly
of a warm nature…
enthusiastic
creative
spontaneous
playful
spirited
resourceful
outgoing
inventive
humorous
calm and composed
completes tasks which others
find boring or uninteresting
a creative thinker
highly sensitive, friendly and
supportive
contemplative (ruminative)
imaginative - the ability to
visualize
reserved
adaptable
active
charming
go-getter
action-oriented
seeker of challenges and
adventures
prepared to take risks
implementer or translator of
ideas
persuasive
competitive…
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17. Personal potentials that you can successfully tap
Possible potential for your development could possibly be found in the behavioural
patterns of the personality styles that are less distinctive in you.
These personality styles carry talents and aptitudes that you could develop and
employ as skills, through day-to-day practice and repeated use, in order to achieve
success.
The greatest potential for your further development could be found in you in the
following personality style:
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18. Potentials in the creative personality style
You can find potential for successful development in the behavioural pattern of the
creative personality style. The following questions can probably help you to maximise
these potentials:
Questions you can ask to successfully expand the competences of this potential:
How can I engage with others in a relaxed and agreeable manner?
How do I foster easygoing, noncommittal relationships to others?
How do I interact with fun and good humour?
How do I approach tasks and solutions to problems in a playful and creative
manner?
What steps can I take to come up with unusual and original ideas?
What can I do to find unconventional solutions to tasks and problems?
How do I handle creative "outbreaks" by others?
How can I increase my creativity Overall?
Competences that either emerge or are improved as a result:
Capability to approach tasks and solutions to problems spontaneously, using
unconventional and creative ideas and solutions
Ability to relax and enjoy situations
Ability to interact with others in a playful and good-natured manner
Ability to play and to enjoy the view
Ability to react in a curious, impartial and open-minded way to the many things
that life offers
Ability to make jokes, but also to bear them
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19. Your sources of life and energy
In addition to the body's physical needs such as liquids, food, a roof over our heads,
and sleeping, there are basic psychological needs that also must be met. These are
our innate human yearnings for stimulation, care, attention and structure.
The satisfaction of these needs are our life and energy sources in everyday life, and
thus are also key motivation factors. They are closely associated with one another and
have great significance in our lives.
Basic needs supply energy to your life
With an analytical personality style, you probably seek stability, structure and
continuity. You probably have the desire to plan a definite and dependable future. You
seek to condense everything using the power of your logical thinking and thus to
achieve stability in your life.
It is conceivable that you also value a social environment that provides you with
structure, planning and control. When dealing with others, you prefer one-on-one
contact (with a competent partner) or working entirely by yourself with no external
influences.
Commensurate satisfaction of the above-described needs probably fosters significant
amounts of liveliness, energy and motivation in you.
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20. Not every one of these needs is equally important to you at all times!
Your SIZE Prozess® motivational map:
It provides you with information as to the probable sequence in which the needs listed
below are important to your job satisfaction:
It is very important for you that you know what specifically is expected of you in1.
your job and that the organisation makes all materials necessary for you do
complete your tasks perfectly, available to you.
You need the possibility to do what you are best at. In this SIZE Prozess®2.
Career-Profile, you will find many hints as to where your specific strengths and
resources lie.
You want to perform and be recognised and praised for it.3.
It is to you an important need for you to become master of your task and4.
become a recognised authority on your subject. To this end your wish for
someone in the organisation who promotes and supports you.
You want to spend your time working towards your goals. Privately as well as5.
professionally you need the possibility to structure you time precisely.
You are a very competitive and, hence, want to know quite specifically how6.
your work supports the purposes and philosophy of your organisation.
You need in your working sphere colleagues who are just as keen as you to7.
produce high level results or planned results.
You wish for somebody who talks to you about your achievement and your8.
progress in your own development.
You need the opportunity to learn new things and to develop constantly.9.
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21. If you lose your internal balance
If the sources of energy and strength are active, you are in your internal balance and
all your strengths, talents and potentials are available to you.
If this diminishes, for whatever reason, then you lose some of your internal balance.
The reasons for this energy loss can be extremely different: e.g. psychological needs
not being fulfilled, high (work) load, pressure and stress from outside, disturbances in
relationships, physical indisposition, and so on.
If our energy becomes less, we tend to slip more and more into subconscious stress
patterns. Our perception of reality becomes increasingly limited and our stress
patterns become an unproductive automatism.
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22. If you get hardly any energy from your source of life and strength any more, and if you feel
you are under a strong kind of stress (di-stress), you may show the following symptoms of
unease
1. Short-term dissonance:
In the short term, you may go back to the inner instructions (or „recipes“) that dictate to
you a specific kind of behavior and that you have probably acquired and internalized in
your youth as a pattern of adaptation to social norms. This pattern will become visible
in the manner in which you now try to solve tasks and problems (mostly unilaterally).
2. Strong dissonance:
If the “recipe”-based type of behavior does not lead to an improvement of the situation,
it is likely that your feeling of unease will increase. This can lead to attempts to
mobilize all your strength („now more than ever“) in order to act in accordance with
your inner instructions after all. In that phase, useful communication is hardly possible
any more.
You will probably behave in a compulsive and perfectionist way. You appear stiff,
tense and grim. You may tend to show excessive attention to detail and even signs of
worry. Tasks may be postponed or left unattended by you. Problems may no longer be
solved because your perfectionist attitude prevents you from attaining your goals.
This could lead to excessive concern with details, lists, rules and planning, with your
spontaneity and your ability to get to the heart of the matter getting lost in the process.
You probably now insist that others should adopt your way of working and your
procedures or you may refuse to delegate any tasks at all. It is possible that you will try
to do everything yourself, that you will overburden yourself and fight for excessive
control over other people.
You may become dogged, compulsive and painstaking and you may protest that
nobody acknowledges your achievements. Under stress, you are probably convinced
that you must work and perform well in order to be OK. For you there is always
something else to do.
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23. You think you need to be on your guard so you can avoid being hurt or used by others.
You lose your ability to relax or to give in to others. In certain situations, you may get
angry and aggressive easily, and you may tend to attack others directly.
Dissonance and Stress Patterns can prevent your strengths, talents and potentials
from developing and thereby severely limit the number of constructive options you
have in your everyday life.
If you succeed in deliberately satisfying the needs of your Analytical Personality Style
in a positive way and on a regular basis, then the danger that you might drift into one
of the Stress and Dissonance Patterns listed above will be reduced substantially.
Please note!
Depressive mood and stress patterns may prevent you from using your strengths,
talents and potentials, and thus the number of your constructive options from the
various Personality Styles, constructively to solve tasks and problems!
Being able to successfully meet your important needs in a positive manner on a
regular basis reduces the risk to possibly fall into the aforementioned depressive mood
and stress patterns.
What you expect from yourself
You can find further aspects applicable to your behavior under stress in this report
under the diagram: “What do you possibly expect from yourself?” The diagram
provides you with new or additional insights on your “inner map” which you may be
using
when you lose confidence and you try to take care of yourself
when you try to meet the behavior and performance expectations of others
under stress
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24. Hints and Ideas
Below, we suggest a few ideas about what you yourself can do to satisfy the needs
arising from your Analytical Personality Style in your profession and in your private life
in a constructive manner and on a regular basis.
Select those options that suit you best and add your own ideas to the list.
In your profession:
Details are not always important. You should, however, define a general
framework for your current project and set a date for finishing it.
Regard slips and mistakes as opportunities for learning. Acknowledge your
mistakes and be aware of your own limitations.
In all tasks, concentrate on the essentials and never lose sight of your final
goal.
Take time out for relaxing on a regular basis (even if some “important“ tasks
have not been finished yet) – take courses or seminars to study methods of
relaxation.
Always look out for opportunities to expand your competence, e.g. by means of
seminars, books, going to trade fairs or lectures….
Talk with your superiors or your colleagues about your professional plans and
goals.
In your private life:
Give yourself recognition or little rewards for what you have achieved on this
day.
Always celebrate your professional or private successes, even if they are small.
Choose sports or hobbies that provide an opportunity to turn in a good
performance and to have fun at the same time.
Reserve a daily amount of time for “pleasurable wastefulness”.
In your private life, set yourself short, medium and long-term goals.
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25. Drama-triangle
If people are in a stress pattern, they show unproductive behaviours and tend to get
into typical, predictable roles, in the hope of getting attention, recognition or structure
through this stereotyped behaviour.
As on a theatrical stage certain roles are played, and in the interaction with others
these lead to the ‘drama triangle’.
In the drama triangle there are three different roles. (They can also be ‘played out’
internally by one person):
Victim role
I am helpless, you are better than me.
I am not o.k. - you are o.k.
Rescuer role
I am better than you and know what is good for you!
I am o.k. - you are not o.k.
Persecutor role
I am better than you, you are good for absolutely nothing!
I am o.k. - you are not o.k.
Once in the ‘drama triangle’ none of the parties see reality for what it is. Reality is
changed and classified through being ‘in role’. You’re out of touch with reality and the
participants in the drama triangle ‘play-out’ a play.
If we experience ourselves in one of these three roles, we contribute only a little to the
solution of real tasks and problems or to the achievement of aims. However, these
roles bring us a lot of attention from others – even if negatively. By playing out the ‘act’
within the drama triangle we reconfirm over and over our attitude to ourselves and to
others.
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26. Your tendencys in the drama-triangle
The length of the beams indicates which roles in the drama triangle you tend to favour
and in which role you may be ‘invited into’ by others.
A bar length that goes beyond the 30 mark indicates that this role has a certain
attraction for you both privately and professionally in your daily life. It is possible that
you, on your own initiative, invite others to take on one of the two other roles in the
drama triangle. It is also possible that you can be "tempted" (verbally or non-verbally)
by other people to take on this role.
It may be helpful for you to pay attention to what your interest is in taking on this role.
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27. A role in the drama triangle which you tend to get into is:
Rescuer role
You believe you must act for others and share your knowledge and skill with them.
You can’t bear to see other people ‘helpless’ because they don’t have your knowledge
and abilities.
Sometimes you may intervene without clarifying or arranging this with the other
person. You may give advice and take on tasks that have nothing to do with you.
In doing so, you may overlook the possibility that the other person may have strengths
and abilities to solve their own problems.
Your readiness to help may backfire as people may not be grateful, but instead
reproach you for interfering.
You may then slip into the persecutor role and attack others for their ingratitude.
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28. The second role in the drama triangle to which you tend is the
Persecutor role
When you are in the persecutor role you tend to check and control everything and
everyone. You ask perfection of yourself and others and get annoyed if this is not
reached.
Within the persecutor role you grab at everything and do not allow others to complete
any tasks. You are annoyed about their incompetence and inability.
You ask overly critical questions and are unhappy with the answers. You attack others
with criticism and blame and do not listen to any arguments.
You accuse others of lacking in insight, inability or stupidity.
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29. The way out from the drama triangle
Use all your personality traits and the strengths of your personality style to come out of
the situation. Take a helicopter view and look at the ‘world’, at the situation as
realistically as possible. This way you can recognize that reality is much more
extensive and more complicated, than the restricted frame of the drama triangle. You
have many other possibilities to react in a certain situation.
What can you do to find a way out of the Drama Triangle?
Look at things from a higher level and view the "world", i.e. specific situations, as
realistically as possible. This way you will recognize that reality is much more
comprehensive and complex than the limited framework of the Drama Triangle and
that you have a host of other possible ways of reacting in a certain situation.
See to it that you establish good contact with your conversation partners ("on
the same wavelength").
See to it that you are in tune with the other person's preferred Communication
Style.
Give others a sufficient amount of the positive attention that matches their
Personality Style.
Stop exaggerating your own or other people's strengths.
Allow yourself to be just as you are.
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30. Basic personality style
ANALYTICAL – VALUE-ORIENTED personality style
Characteristics:
Logic, responsibility, and a sense of duty are probably given priority
The style of behaviour is probably oriented toward the factual exchange of information,
during which opinions and views are primarily exchanged, in addition to data and facts
High performance standards are very probably placed not only on himself, but also
expected of others
Control probably takes precedence over trust!
Analytical - value-oriented mode of operation:
It is assumed that there is a high emphasis placed on issues and tasks, and lesser
emphasis on relationships (empathetic behaviour is more likely demonstrated within a
private context)
The focus is presumably placed on planning, information and control systems
Planning, analysis, control and rules are probably assigned a high level of value!
There is presumably a strong emphasis on performance, a sense of duty, and
reliability
Much time and energy are probably expended on doing things correctly and free of
errors
Needs:
Seeks recognition for competence, achievement and success
Desires to plan and structure his own time
Seeks respect and recognition for his own convictions and values
Talents and strengths:
responsible
dependable
prepared
specific and accurate
logical
organised
diligent
performance-oriented
persevering
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31. Core competences:
Preferred frame of reference for evaluation:
Logical thinking and contemplating in combination with his own ideals and convictions.
Typical roles in everyday life:
Expert
Specialist
Structurer
Organiser
Analyser
Tester and controller
Persuader
Provider
Stabiliser
Possible obstacles when under stress:
Probably reacts sensitively to criticism
Probably has difficulty showing emotions and closeness
When under stress, probably tends toward perfectionism
When under stress, probably tends to do everything himself (workaholic) and no
longer to delegate
Under stress probably loses trust in others and begins to control critically
Probably practices strict control at times
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