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 Relationship Status as a Mediator
    for Sarcastic Interpretation

           Danielle Williams

            Joslyn Mesing

          Penn State Behrend
What is Sarcasm?

 Sarcasm is an indirect form of speech
  intentionally used to convey a
  criticism.
 Sarcasm is very ambiguous
   Interpretation can be indefinite
Example of Scenario

 Taylor was at a high school football game.
   She wanted to go to the concession stand
   for a drink but didn't want to lose her front
   row seats. She asked Keith, the man next to
   her, to save her seat. Keith said it wouldn't
   be a problem. Whenever Taylor returned
   her seat was gone. She said to Keith,
   “Thanks for saving my seat”
Why Do People Use Sarcasm?

 Allusional Pretense Theory (Kumon-Nakamura,
  Glucksberg, & Brown, 1995)
   Irony allows the speaker to allude to an
     underlying intent, opinion, or belief

 Tinge Hypothesis (Dews and Winner, 1995)
   Irony mutes (tinges) the intended meaning
     behind an indirect remark.
      Ironic criticism  less critical
      Ironic compliment  less complimentary
Processing Non-Literal Language

 Searle (1979)

 Katz, Blasko & Kazmerski (2004)
Does the Relationship Matter?

 Jorgensen (1996)
   Familiarity and closeness between
     speaker and listener influences ratings of
     appropriateness of sarcastic remarks
Current Study

 Independent Variables              The Big Five Personality
    Relationship Status               traits
     (romantic, friend, stranger)
    Remark Status                   Empathy Quotient
     (sarcastic, literal)
                                     Demographics
 Dependent Variables
    Ratings (humor, insult,
     sarcasm)
    Reading Times
Research Questions

 (1) Will relationship status affect insult, sarcasm,
   and humor rating’s
 (2) Will sarcastic comments take longer to read
   than literal comments?
 (3) Does personality effect how people rate
   sarcastic messages?
Methods

 Recruited through        Participants
   SONA                       N = 101
                              Males = 46
 Followed APA Ethical
                              Females = 55
   guidelines
                              Age Range = 18-53
 Received IRB approval          Average = 20.94
Materials

 Demographics              E-Prime 2.0
   Gender, age,               Scenarios
     relationship status          Randomly assigned
     questions                    12 Lists

 Surveys                           48 Scenarios
                                    Varied across
   Empathy Quotient
                                      relationship and
    Questionnaire
                                      remark status
   Mini-Marker
Example of Scenario

 Taylor was at a high school football game.
   She wanted to go to the concession stand
   for a drink but didn't want to lose her front
   row seats. She asked Keith, the man next to
   her, to save her seat. Keith said it wouldn't
   be a problem. Whenever Taylor returned
   her seat was gone. She said to Keith,
   “Thanks for saving my seat”
How Insulting?
                                              Mean Ratings of Insult
                           7


                           6


                           5
1 = Not at all Insulting




                                                                                      Sarcastic
  7 = Very Insulting




                           4

                                                                                      Literal
                           3


                           2


                           1

                               Romantic                Friend              Stranger
                                                  Relationship Status

                                          F (1,101) = 1179.602, p = 0.00
How Humorous?
                                             Mean Ratings of Humor
                          7


                          6
7 = Extremely Humorous
1 = Not at all Humorous




                          5


                          4
                                                                                     Sarcastic
                          3                                                          Literal

                          2


                          1

                              Romantic                Friend              Stranger
                                                 Relationship Status

                                         F (1,101) =358.677, p = 0.00
How Long Did It Take?
                                         Means of Reading Times for Ratings
                       2500

                       2300
Response Time in ms.




                       2100

                       1900

                       1700

                       1500
                                                                                     Sarcastic
                       1300
                                                                                     Literal
                       1100

                        900

                        700

                        500

                              Romantic                   Friend           Stranger
                                                    Relationship Status


                                            F (1,101) = 4.336, p = .040
Individual Differences & Personality

                                                                           Emotional
  N = 101      Agreeableness       Conscientiousness        Openness
                                                                            Stability
 Empathy            .54**                 .36**               .45**          .22*
Relationship
                     -----                 -----              -.46**          -----
  Length
Relationship
                     -----                 -----               -----         .23*
   Status


Note. **Indicates that the correlation is significant at the 0.01 level.
       * Indicates significance at the 0.05 level.
Humor Rating Correlations

  N = 101        Agreeableness      Conscientiousness       Openness       Emotional
                                                                            Stability
   Friend             -.25*                 -----              -.22*          -----
Relationship
  Stranger                                                     -.20*
Relationship


Note. **Indicates that the correlation is significant at the 0.01 level.
       * Indicates significance at the 0.05 level.
What Does This All Mean?

 Individual differences affect perceptions of
   sarcasm
    Different personality styles perceive sarcasm
     differently
    Personality is correlated with empathy
 Future research should further investigate these
   individual differences and their influence on
   familiarity
Acknowledgments

 We would like to thank Dr. Dawn Blasko for all her
   time, effort, and valuable input throughout our project. We would
   also like to thank Dr. Robert W. Light, Associate Dean for research, for his
   contributions to undergraduate research through the grant program at
   Penn State Erie, the Behrend College.
Questions?
References
   Austin, J. L., (1962). How to do things with words. London: Oxford University Press.

   Baron-Cohen, S., & Wheelwright, S. (2004). The Empathy Quotient: An Investigation of Adults. Journal of Autism and Developmental
    Disorders, 34(2).

   Bartholomew, K., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Methods of Assessing Adult Attachment: Do they Converge? Attachment theory and close
    relationships, 22-45.

   Clark, H. H. & Gerrig, J. R., (1984). On the pretense of irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology, General, 113(1), 121-123

   Dews, S., & Winner, E. (1995). Muting the meaning: A social function of irony. Metaphor and Symbolic Activity, 10(1), 3-19.

   Goldberg, L. R., (1992). Development of markers for the big-five factor structure. Psychological Assessment, 4(1), 26-42.

   Gibbs, R. W., (2000). Irony in talk among friends. Metaphor and Symbol, 15(1&2), 5-27.

   Grice H.P., (1957). Meaning Philosophical Review 66, pp. 377-388.

   Grice, H. P., (1975). Logic and conversation. In P. Cole & J. L. Morgan (Eds.), Syntax and semantics, Volume 3: Speech acts (pp.41-58). New
    York: Academic Press.

   Ivanko, s. L., Pexman, P. M., & Olineck, K. M. (2004). How Sarcastic are You? : Individual Differences and Verbal Irony. Journal of Language
    and Social Psychology, 23.

   Jorgensen, J., (1996). The functions of sarcastic irony in speech. Journal of Pragmatics, 26, 613-634.
References Cont.
   Katz, A. N., Blasko, D. G., & Kazmerski, V. A. (2004). Saying what you don’t mean. Current directions in psychological science, 13(5), 186-189

   Kreuz, R. J., & Glucksberg, S., (1989). How to be sarcastic: The echoic reminder theory of verbal irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology:
    General, 118(4), 374-386.

   Kuman-Nakamura, S., Glucksberg, S., & Brown, M., (1995). How about another piece of pie: The allusional pretense theory of discourse
    irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 124(1), 3-21.

   Link, E. K., & Kruez, J. R., (2004). Do men and women differ in their use of nonliteral language when they talk about emotions? In H.
    Colston, & A. Katz (Eds.) Figurative language comprehension: Social and cultural influences (pp. 153-180). Mahwah, New Jersey: Lawrence
    Erlbaum Associates.

   Pexman, P. M., (2004). Social factors in the interpretation of verbal irony: The roles of speaker and listener characteristics. In H. Colston, &
    A. Katz (Eds.) Figurative language comprehension: Social and cultural influences (pp. 209-232). Mahwah, New Jersey: Lawrence Erlbaum
    Associates.

   Schneider, W., Eschmann, A., & Zuccolotto, A. (2002). E- Prime user’s guide. Pittsburgh, PA:     Psychology Software Tools, Inc.

   Searle, J. R., (1969). Speech acts. Cambridge, England: Cambridge

   University Press.

   Thompson, E. R. (2008). Development and Validation of an International English Big-Five Mini-Markers. Personality and Individual
    Differences, 45(6), 542-548.

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Relationship Status as a Mediator for Sarcastic Interpretation

  • 1.  Relationship Status as a Mediator for Sarcastic Interpretation  Danielle Williams  Joslyn Mesing  Penn State Behrend
  • 2. What is Sarcasm?  Sarcasm is an indirect form of speech intentionally used to convey a criticism.  Sarcasm is very ambiguous  Interpretation can be indefinite
  • 3. Example of Scenario  Taylor was at a high school football game. She wanted to go to the concession stand for a drink but didn't want to lose her front row seats. She asked Keith, the man next to her, to save her seat. Keith said it wouldn't be a problem. Whenever Taylor returned her seat was gone. She said to Keith, “Thanks for saving my seat”
  • 4. Why Do People Use Sarcasm?  Allusional Pretense Theory (Kumon-Nakamura, Glucksberg, & Brown, 1995)  Irony allows the speaker to allude to an underlying intent, opinion, or belief  Tinge Hypothesis (Dews and Winner, 1995)  Irony mutes (tinges) the intended meaning behind an indirect remark.  Ironic criticism  less critical  Ironic compliment  less complimentary
  • 5. Processing Non-Literal Language  Searle (1979)  Katz, Blasko & Kazmerski (2004)
  • 6. Does the Relationship Matter?  Jorgensen (1996)  Familiarity and closeness between speaker and listener influences ratings of appropriateness of sarcastic remarks
  • 7. Current Study  Independent Variables  The Big Five Personality  Relationship Status traits (romantic, friend, stranger)  Remark Status  Empathy Quotient (sarcastic, literal)  Demographics  Dependent Variables  Ratings (humor, insult, sarcasm)  Reading Times
  • 8. Research Questions  (1) Will relationship status affect insult, sarcasm, and humor rating’s  (2) Will sarcastic comments take longer to read than literal comments?  (3) Does personality effect how people rate sarcastic messages?
  • 9. Methods  Recruited through  Participants SONA  N = 101  Males = 46  Followed APA Ethical  Females = 55 guidelines  Age Range = 18-53  Received IRB approval  Average = 20.94
  • 10. Materials  Demographics  E-Prime 2.0  Gender, age,  Scenarios relationship status  Randomly assigned questions  12 Lists  Surveys  48 Scenarios  Varied across  Empathy Quotient relationship and Questionnaire remark status  Mini-Marker
  • 11. Example of Scenario  Taylor was at a high school football game. She wanted to go to the concession stand for a drink but didn't want to lose her front row seats. She asked Keith, the man next to her, to save her seat. Keith said it wouldn't be a problem. Whenever Taylor returned her seat was gone. She said to Keith, “Thanks for saving my seat”
  • 12. How Insulting? Mean Ratings of Insult 7 6 5 1 = Not at all Insulting Sarcastic 7 = Very Insulting 4 Literal 3 2 1 Romantic Friend Stranger Relationship Status F (1,101) = 1179.602, p = 0.00
  • 13. How Humorous? Mean Ratings of Humor 7 6 7 = Extremely Humorous 1 = Not at all Humorous 5 4 Sarcastic 3 Literal 2 1 Romantic Friend Stranger Relationship Status F (1,101) =358.677, p = 0.00
  • 14. How Long Did It Take? Means of Reading Times for Ratings 2500 2300 Response Time in ms. 2100 1900 1700 1500 Sarcastic 1300 Literal 1100 900 700 500 Romantic Friend Stranger Relationship Status F (1,101) = 4.336, p = .040
  • 15. Individual Differences & Personality Emotional N = 101 Agreeableness Conscientiousness Openness Stability Empathy .54** .36** .45** .22* Relationship ----- ----- -.46** ----- Length Relationship ----- ----- ----- .23* Status Note. **Indicates that the correlation is significant at the 0.01 level. * Indicates significance at the 0.05 level.
  • 16. Humor Rating Correlations N = 101 Agreeableness Conscientiousness Openness Emotional Stability Friend -.25* ----- -.22* ----- Relationship Stranger -.20* Relationship Note. **Indicates that the correlation is significant at the 0.01 level. * Indicates significance at the 0.05 level.
  • 17. What Does This All Mean?  Individual differences affect perceptions of sarcasm  Different personality styles perceive sarcasm differently  Personality is correlated with empathy  Future research should further investigate these individual differences and their influence on familiarity
  • 18. Acknowledgments  We would like to thank Dr. Dawn Blasko for all her time, effort, and valuable input throughout our project. We would also like to thank Dr. Robert W. Light, Associate Dean for research, for his contributions to undergraduate research through the grant program at Penn State Erie, the Behrend College.
  • 20. References  Austin, J. L., (1962). How to do things with words. London: Oxford University Press.  Baron-Cohen, S., & Wheelwright, S. (2004). The Empathy Quotient: An Investigation of Adults. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, 34(2).  Bartholomew, K., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Methods of Assessing Adult Attachment: Do they Converge? Attachment theory and close relationships, 22-45.  Clark, H. H. & Gerrig, J. R., (1984). On the pretense of irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology, General, 113(1), 121-123  Dews, S., & Winner, E. (1995). Muting the meaning: A social function of irony. Metaphor and Symbolic Activity, 10(1), 3-19.  Goldberg, L. R., (1992). Development of markers for the big-five factor structure. Psychological Assessment, 4(1), 26-42.  Gibbs, R. W., (2000). Irony in talk among friends. Metaphor and Symbol, 15(1&2), 5-27.  Grice H.P., (1957). Meaning Philosophical Review 66, pp. 377-388.  Grice, H. P., (1975). Logic and conversation. In P. Cole & J. L. Morgan (Eds.), Syntax and semantics, Volume 3: Speech acts (pp.41-58). New York: Academic Press.  Ivanko, s. L., Pexman, P. M., & Olineck, K. M. (2004). How Sarcastic are You? : Individual Differences and Verbal Irony. Journal of Language and Social Psychology, 23.  Jorgensen, J., (1996). The functions of sarcastic irony in speech. Journal of Pragmatics, 26, 613-634.
  • 21. References Cont.  Katz, A. N., Blasko, D. G., & Kazmerski, V. A. (2004). Saying what you don’t mean. Current directions in psychological science, 13(5), 186-189  Kreuz, R. J., & Glucksberg, S., (1989). How to be sarcastic: The echoic reminder theory of verbal irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 118(4), 374-386.  Kuman-Nakamura, S., Glucksberg, S., & Brown, M., (1995). How about another piece of pie: The allusional pretense theory of discourse irony. Journal of Experimental Psychology: General, 124(1), 3-21.  Link, E. K., & Kruez, J. R., (2004). Do men and women differ in their use of nonliteral language when they talk about emotions? In H. Colston, & A. Katz (Eds.) Figurative language comprehension: Social and cultural influences (pp. 153-180). Mahwah, New Jersey: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.  Pexman, P. M., (2004). Social factors in the interpretation of verbal irony: The roles of speaker and listener characteristics. In H. Colston, & A. Katz (Eds.) Figurative language comprehension: Social and cultural influences (pp. 209-232). Mahwah, New Jersey: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates.  Schneider, W., Eschmann, A., & Zuccolotto, A. (2002). E- Prime user’s guide. Pittsburgh, PA: Psychology Software Tools, Inc.  Searle, J. R., (1969). Speech acts. Cambridge, England: Cambridge  University Press.  Thompson, E. R. (2008). Development and Validation of an International English Big-Five Mini-Markers. Personality and Individual Differences, 45(6), 542-548.

Editor's Notes

  1. If have time add empathy and gender results
  2. Can we invert our data numbers so the chart makes more sense visually?
  3. Does standard error bars change the way your chart looks normally? Causee… it did
  4. The more empathetic you are, the more agreeable, open, and conscientious and emotionally stableThe longer the relationship was, the less open the person wasThe more emotionally stable a person is, the longer the relationship was
  5. When a person is more agreeable and more open, the less likely they are to find sarcasm humorous in a friend relationshipWhen a person was more open, the less likely they were to find a sarcastic comment humorous in a stranger relationship