52. PURPOSE
1.Mirror God’s image: Gen1:26,27
2.Mutually complete one another(to experience
companionship): Gen2:18
3.Multiply a God’s Legacy: Gen1:28
4.Managing God’s creation: Gen1:28
5.Modeling Christ’s relationship with the church: Eph5:31,32
53. PLAN
• Our mate as a gift from God
• Reception phase one: The bases for one’s acceptance of his mate
is faith in God’s integrity and character(trustworthiness of God)
• Reception phase Two: We prepare to receive our mate as we
come to know God and trust in His Character and integrity
Three responsibilities in marriage
1.Leave : the first responsibility is to establish independence from
the parents: Gen2:24
2.Cleave : the second responsibility to establish commitment to one
another Gen2: 24
3.Become one flesh : the third responsibility is to enjoy sexual
intimacy Gen2:24
Natural Difference:
Natural weakness:
60. PROBLEMS
• Difficult adjestment:- culture, family, community,
society(urban),Religion, financial handling, authority, blended
family, values, sexual attraction, convenience,roles,expressionof
love, sexual performance…
• Wold’s plan(50/50) performance and feelings
• Selfishness(failure to expect)
• Difficulties and trails,(failure to work through), focus on the
problem, trails –focus on God and his love
• Extramarrital ”affairs”፣ love affair,career affair, matterialism
affair, activities affairs, children affair,
73. COMMUNICATION ¦
• Prob24፡3 what is the goal of communication?
Understanding Gen2፡25, feed back and self-
revelation
• Seeks to understand: Time, trust, transparency
101. COMMUNICATION ¦¦
SEXUAL INTIMACY
A satisfying sex life is the result of satisfying relationship
Sex is God’s idea Gen1:27,2:24,sex is divine way of implementing God’s command to multiply Godly legacy
God and designed for our mutual satisfaction, sex is intimate communication(Knowing each other)
A satisfying sex life is the result of satisfying marriage relationship
1. Creating companionship
2. Lasting commitment
3. Deepening passion
Sex is a thermometer that can measure your individual well-being and the health of you relationship
(lacking companionship commitment passion sexual relationship may register the problem)
Sex in marriage can be improved by understanding difference between men and women(attitude, stimulatio
Orgasm)
Sex in marriage can be improved by building and balancing companionship, commitment, and passion(cult
Sex is not an end but is the means to the end
102.
103. COMMUNICATION ¦¦¦
Resolving conflict: The real problem is in our mentalparadigm-Covey
• resolution of conflict requires loving confrontation and seeking and gran
• Understanding anger jam1:19-21
• Loving confrontation Eph4:15
• Requires forgiveness Jam5:16
105. P
Husband is responsible to accept Gods design for marriage
Divine order – headship/leadership
Eph5:23,Gen2:18,1Cor11:11,gal.3:28,Jn15:5
Two responsibility
1. Love like the savior Ep5:25-30,Col3:19 What is the goal of love
2. Lead like a servant 1Cor11:3, Mk10:42-43,1Tim5:8,
DAD God’s perspective of fatherhood, character, family manager, family minister, model
106. WIFE’S RESPONSIBILITY
MAM accept God’s plan for marriage
The first responsibility
1. Loving her husband ,Tit2:4 love is an attitude, sacrificial, physical
2. Support her husband Prob31:10-12, 12:4,Ep5:22,23 SUBMISSION
3. Respecting her husband Ep5:33
MOM God’s perspective of Motherhood , home builder, a lover of children, teacher of child
110. LEAVING A LEGACY DESTINY
• Leaving a godly legacy requires character, commitment and vision
Ps16:6
• Commitment: to personal growth Jn15:4 rom12:1-2,Ep6:12,1jn2:15-17,Gal5:17, to love one
another Jn15:12, to help reach the world Mt28:19-20, Act1:8, Jn15:8
• Developing Godly family
1. Commitment to marriage – a covenant God and a covenant vision
2. “Leaving” – relationships with parents and in-laws
3. “One flesh” - unity
4. Becoming best friends
5. Meeting each other's needs
6. Resolving conflicts
7. Acceptance – the ability to forgive
8. Sex
9. Finances – until our debts do us part?
10. Communication...
11. Faithfulness, trust and respect
12. Husbands' and wives' roles
13. Raising children
14. The motivating force for staying married
15. Priorities, goals and use of time
16. Spiritual life