This document outlines the key principles of Habit 5 from Stephen Covey's "Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" - seek first to understand, then to be understood. It discusses the importance of empathic listening to truly understand others, expressing one's own thoughts and feelings calmly and truthfully, and understanding different personality styles to improve communication. The overall message is that effective communication requires understanding other perspectives before seeking to be understood oneself.

1. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND,
THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
HABIT NO. 5

2. SEVEN HABITS OF
HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
PEOPLE

3. Isaiah 4:2
In that day the Branch of the LORD will be
beautiful and glorious, and the fruit of the
land will be the pride and glory of the
survivors in Israel.
10 year vision 2017-2027

4. John 15:5
"I am the vine; you are the branches.
If a man remains in me and I in him,
he will bear much fruit; apart from
me you can do nothing.

5. Joshua 1:8
Do not let this Book of the Law depart
from your mouth; meditate on it day and
night, so that you may be careful to do
everything written in it. Then you will be
prosperous and successful.

6. 1 Corinthians 15:57
But thanks be to God! He gives us
the victory through our Lord
Jesus Christ.

7. Joshua 1:8 (keys for successful living)
1 Corinthians 15:57 (gaining two victories- private
victory and public victory)
PRIVATE VICTORY
1. BE PROACTIVE
2. BEGIN WITH THE END IN MIND
3. PUT FIRST THINGS FIRST
PUBLIC VICTORY
1. THINK WIN WIN
2. SEEK FIRST TO UNDERSTAND
THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
3. SYNERGIZE
4. SHARPEN THE SAW

8. “It is a must to have a mission statement in
life.”
Acts 13:36
"For when David had served God's
purpose in his own generation, he fell
asleep; he was buried with his fathers and
his body decayed.

9. “It is a must to have a mission statement in
life.”
Romans 8:29
For those God foreknew he also
predestined to be conformed to the
likeness of his Son, that he might be the
firstborn among many brothers.

10. “It is a must to have a mission statement in
life.”
1 Peter 2:21
To this you were called, because Christ
suffered for you, leaving you an example,
that you should follow in his steps.

11. “It is a must to have a mission statement in
life.”
Hebrews 10:7
Then I said, `Here I am--it is written
about me in the scroll-- I have come
to do your will, O God.'"

12. “It is a must to have a mission statement in
life.”
Philippians 1:21
For to me, to live is Christ and
to die is gain.

13. EXAMPLE OF OUR MISSION STATEMENT
(can be adopted by all believers in G12 Vision)
My Mission in Life is to be like Christ primarily living for the will of
God that I may please the Father . I live to passionately love my God
and sincerely love all people. I desire to become excellent in my
calling (pastor or businessman, engineer …etc) for God’s glory . I
commit to be obedient to win souls as many as possible to take to
heaven and to have 12 disciples like the Lord Jesus and have 144 or
1728 disciples of fruitfulness as my treasures in heaven and ministry
in serving my Lord Jesus. I live to be guided and empowered daily by
the Holy Spirit to accomplish all my vision, dreams and goals in life.

14. IT IS A MUST TO HAVE A WEEKLY
SCHEDULING OF PRIORITIES TO
PRACTICE HABITS 1, 2 &3
1. Proactive.
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first

15. SEEK TO UNDERSTAND,
THEN TO BE UNDERSTOOD
HABIT NO. 5

16. Ecclesiastes 7:24-25
Whatever wisdom may be, it is far off and most
profound-- who can discover it? So I turned my
mind to understand, to investigate and to search
out wisdom and the scheme of things and to
understand the stupidity of wickedness and the
madness of folly.

17. MOTTO OF CLHCC
UNITED
Be pleasing to God and
be a blessing to others.

18. I
Learn and Develop
emphatic listening

19. James 1:19
My dear brothers, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become
angry,

20. Proverbs 1:5
Let the wise listen and add
to their learning…

21. Isaiah 11:2
The Spirit of the LORD will rest on him--
the Spirit of wisdom and of
understanding, the Spirit of counsel and
of power, the Spirit of knowledge and of
the fear of the LORD--

22. 5 levels of listening
1. Ignoring Listening - making no effort to listen
2. Pretend Listening - Making believe or giving the
appearance of listening
3. Selective Listening - Hearing what is interesting
to the hearer
4. Attentive Listening - Paying attention and
focusing to what the speaker says and
comparing to own experience.

23. Most effective listening to
best understand the
speaker
5. EMPHATIC LISTENING

24. A. Listening with sincere intent of
understanding the person
B. Getting inside the person’s frame of
reference and see things the way he
sees it.

25. C. Listening with your eyes as much as the
ears for the non-verbal messages
D. Repeating back in your own words what
the person is saying for clear understanding.
Use statements like “ You seem to be feeling…”, “
So, You are saying this….? "

26. II
Seek to be understood by
courageously expressing thoughts
and feelings truthfully and as
calmly as possible

27. Proverbs 8:6-8
Listen, for I have worthy things to say; I
open my lips to speak what is right. My
mouth speaks what is true, for my lips
detest wickedness. All the words of my
mouth are just; none of them is crooked
or perverse.

28. James 1:19
My dear brothers, take note of this:
Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become
angry,

29. III
Equip yourself with
the “Solving People Puzzle “of
personality styles (DISC)

30. Ephesians 4:11-13
It was he who gave some to be apostles,
some to be prophets, some to be evangelists,
and some to be pastors and teachers, to
prepare God's people for works of service, so
that the body of Christ may be built up

31. Ephesians 4:11-13
until we all reach unity in the faith
and in the knowledge of the Son of
God and become mature, attaining to
the whole measure of the fullness of
Christ.

32. A. Communicating with a
B. Disagreeing with a
C. Motivating with a
D-I-S-CPERSONALIT
Y

33. Conclusion
Isaiah 11:2 The Spirit of
understanding and wisdom is in
us to have a good communication