All of us at different times would have lost something very precious. In our lives, those are the most excruciating moments. Here is an effort to present a point of view on how I dealt with my ‘loss’.
I was attending a marriage reception a few evenings ago.
As usual I reached on time.
As usual the venue looked empty.
As usual the bride and the groom had not arrived yet.
As usual I guiltlessly moved towards the food counters.
As usual I found enough people there.....
Dearest Friends,
She trapped me; caught me on the back foot. I feel my mobility freeze with sickening speed.
I find myself cornered. From the corner of my darting eye, I gather, there is ample space to escape. Yet I stand here… right in front of her.
Dearest Friends,
Nobody — including ME — likes to feel judged.
The number one strategy I have is to listen practicing “non-judgmental validation”.
I seek thoughts and opinions from people without judging them. People DISLIKE being judged in any opinion they have or in any action they take.
Dearest Friends,
"A warrior begins to take responsibility for the direction of their life".
In this journey, a teacher / mentor, encourages us to open the bags and look closely at what we are carrying.
Dearest Friends,
People need people to talk to; they need people they can open their hearts to; people need people to hold hands and feel strong; they need people who can hold them and let them cry.
Are you being pushed to your limits? Are you being tormented and torn?
Are you being put through your own personal hell? If yes, Read more to learn how to deal with this situations....
This list has always guided me in selecting my friends. This list has also guided me in ensuring I remain on track." This is how the list looks.... Read more to know whom to be impressed by...
India is a country with the youngest population in the world. Through Keep Moving Movement (KMM), our volunteers are willing to mentor the youth of the nation and display our responsibility towards India. Read more about this...
I was attending a marriage reception a few evenings ago.
As usual I reached on time.
As usual the venue looked empty.
As usual the bride and the groom had not arrived yet.
As usual I guiltlessly moved towards the food counters.
As usual I found enough people there.....
Dearest Friends,
She trapped me; caught me on the back foot. I feel my mobility freeze with sickening speed.
I find myself cornered. From the corner of my darting eye, I gather, there is ample space to escape. Yet I stand here… right in front of her.
Dearest Friends,
Nobody — including ME — likes to feel judged.
The number one strategy I have is to listen practicing “non-judgmental validation”.
I seek thoughts and opinions from people without judging them. People DISLIKE being judged in any opinion they have or in any action they take.
Dearest Friends,
"A warrior begins to take responsibility for the direction of their life".
In this journey, a teacher / mentor, encourages us to open the bags and look closely at what we are carrying.
Dearest Friends,
People need people to talk to; they need people they can open their hearts to; people need people to hold hands and feel strong; they need people who can hold them and let them cry.
Are you being pushed to your limits? Are you being tormented and torn?
Are you being put through your own personal hell? If yes, Read more to learn how to deal with this situations....
This list has always guided me in selecting my friends. This list has also guided me in ensuring I remain on track." This is how the list looks.... Read more to know whom to be impressed by...
India is a country with the youngest population in the world. Through Keep Moving Movement (KMM), our volunteers are willing to mentor the youth of the nation and display our responsibility towards India. Read more about this...
Have you ever heard about Nicolo Pagnini? Well, he was a well-known and gifted 19th century violinist. There are many memorable stories about his wit and crafty tongue. Read more to find out...
This document discusses the concept of an "abundance mentality" and how it relates to success. An abundance mentality goes beyond having a positive mental attitude (PMA) by eliminating negative thinking and making one believe that there are larger positive forces at work to help them succeed. The key aspects of an abundance mentality are believing that resources are abundant, one's success does not require others' failure, being happy for others' prosperity, and having a "win-win" attitude in business. Developing an abundance mentality involves committing to personal growth, self-development, helping others grow, utilizing support groups, counting blessings, and meeting inspirational people. Adopting an abundance mentality can lead to greater success and
The document provides advice on how to avoid being "burnt" or negatively impacted by the harmful actions of others through three examples:
1) Parents who pamper a child who speaks rudely allow disdain and arrogance to develop.
2) Management who ignore an employee badmouthing the organization allow the employee to take them for granted.
3) Friends who shrug off a friend wasting time/money with wrong company lose the opportunity to help that friend.
The author advises that simply being "good" is not enough, and that one must take a strong standpoint against harmful actions of others, rather than weak protests, in order to be effective and avoid being "burnt".
This document shares a story about resetting life goals. It discusses a 5-day workshop called "Let's Explore" that helps people redesign their life goals. The document mentions one participant, Shubham, who sent a message after the workshop that completely moved the author. The author hopes sharing this story may help others reset some priorities or redesign some goals, as the workshop seemed to do for Shubham.
This document discusses the importance of our "belief box" which contains all of our beliefs about what is true, false, right, wrong, possible, and impossible. It argues that our beliefs both empower and limit us, and shares examples of how holding empowering beliefs allowed extraordinary people like Helen Keller to overcome limitations. It encourages regularly remembering empowering memories and beliefs stored in our "belief box" to keep them "fresh" and drive us positively in our work, relationships, parenting, and interactions with others. Filling our belief box with empowering beliefs, like Carl Sagan's quote that "something incredible is waiting to be known," can make incredible things possible in our own lives.
The speaker at a conference explained how she was able to heal from great pain through surrendering her ego and not blaming others. She realized that questioning what lessons the pain was teaching her and not wallowing in self-pity allowed her to heal. The audience member learned that happiness is more important than misery, pain presents opportunities to learn lessons, and feeling sorry for oneself prolongs suffering rather than providing relief. No longer fearing pain or life, the individual was able to connect with the speaker's message of finding meaning in hardship through positive reflection.
Natalie Portman gave a commencement speech at Harvard where she said that people should not define their lives by the trophies in their cupboard. This reminded the author of a paragraph from a documentary that tennis star Novak Djokovic also enjoys. The author is pleased to have something in common with Djokovic and shares an excerpt from the paragraph for others to reflect on. The author encourages comments and sharing if the message resonated.
Believe, the true ‘you’ has power, love, serenity and gratitude deep within. Find it, hug it, keep it in front of your eyes all the time. That ‘you’ is who I care about.
At an age where our family members do not need us physically, mentally, financially, socially etc., would you ask the same question to someone, ‘“Do you think I still matter? Do you think I should still live more?”
With a smile, on a philosophical note, I ask myself, does the life of the clay bowl, begin, when the potter completes his work? Or, does the true life of the clay bowl begin, when it is dropped and broken?
There may be parts of your life where your dreams and ‘you deserve’ feels trapped as a rose flower trapped beneath heaps of garbage. There might have been moments when you heart was broken into so many pieces, you have not been able to find even one piece yet. You might feel your life is like a radar less ship with a storm lurking silently yet ominously in the horizons. So many times you might have thought of giving up.
I understand. I completely understand. Yet I appeal to you….just write this once….”You deserve”. And let magic happen.
“Well deserved” is from the heart and always genuine. “Congratulations” may be fake.
“Well deserved” has been earned. Congratulations may be by default.
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Have you ever heard about Nicolo Pagnini? Well, he was a well-known and gifted 19th century violinist. There are many memorable stories about his wit and crafty tongue. Read more to find out...
This document discusses the concept of an "abundance mentality" and how it relates to success. An abundance mentality goes beyond having a positive mental attitude (PMA) by eliminating negative thinking and making one believe that there are larger positive forces at work to help them succeed. The key aspects of an abundance mentality are believing that resources are abundant, one's success does not require others' failure, being happy for others' prosperity, and having a "win-win" attitude in business. Developing an abundance mentality involves committing to personal growth, self-development, helping others grow, utilizing support groups, counting blessings, and meeting inspirational people. Adopting an abundance mentality can lead to greater success and
The document provides advice on how to avoid being "burnt" or negatively impacted by the harmful actions of others through three examples:
1) Parents who pamper a child who speaks rudely allow disdain and arrogance to develop.
2) Management who ignore an employee badmouthing the organization allow the employee to take them for granted.
3) Friends who shrug off a friend wasting time/money with wrong company lose the opportunity to help that friend.
The author advises that simply being "good" is not enough, and that one must take a strong standpoint against harmful actions of others, rather than weak protests, in order to be effective and avoid being "burnt".
This document shares a story about resetting life goals. It discusses a 5-day workshop called "Let's Explore" that helps people redesign their life goals. The document mentions one participant, Shubham, who sent a message after the workshop that completely moved the author. The author hopes sharing this story may help others reset some priorities or redesign some goals, as the workshop seemed to do for Shubham.
This document discusses the importance of our "belief box" which contains all of our beliefs about what is true, false, right, wrong, possible, and impossible. It argues that our beliefs both empower and limit us, and shares examples of how holding empowering beliefs allowed extraordinary people like Helen Keller to overcome limitations. It encourages regularly remembering empowering memories and beliefs stored in our "belief box" to keep them "fresh" and drive us positively in our work, relationships, parenting, and interactions with others. Filling our belief box with empowering beliefs, like Carl Sagan's quote that "something incredible is waiting to be known," can make incredible things possible in our own lives.
The speaker at a conference explained how she was able to heal from great pain through surrendering her ego and not blaming others. She realized that questioning what lessons the pain was teaching her and not wallowing in self-pity allowed her to heal. The audience member learned that happiness is more important than misery, pain presents opportunities to learn lessons, and feeling sorry for oneself prolongs suffering rather than providing relief. No longer fearing pain or life, the individual was able to connect with the speaker's message of finding meaning in hardship through positive reflection.
Natalie Portman gave a commencement speech at Harvard where she said that people should not define their lives by the trophies in their cupboard. This reminded the author of a paragraph from a documentary that tennis star Novak Djokovic also enjoys. The author is pleased to have something in common with Djokovic and shares an excerpt from the paragraph for others to reflect on. The author encourages comments and sharing if the message resonated.
Believe, the true ‘you’ has power, love, serenity and gratitude deep within. Find it, hug it, keep it in front of your eyes all the time. That ‘you’ is who I care about.
At an age where our family members do not need us physically, mentally, financially, socially etc., would you ask the same question to someone, ‘“Do you think I still matter? Do you think I should still live more?”
With a smile, on a philosophical note, I ask myself, does the life of the clay bowl, begin, when the potter completes his work? Or, does the true life of the clay bowl begin, when it is dropped and broken?
There may be parts of your life where your dreams and ‘you deserve’ feels trapped as a rose flower trapped beneath heaps of garbage. There might have been moments when you heart was broken into so many pieces, you have not been able to find even one piece yet. You might feel your life is like a radar less ship with a storm lurking silently yet ominously in the horizons. So many times you might have thought of giving up.
I understand. I completely understand. Yet I appeal to you….just write this once….”You deserve”. And let magic happen.
“Well deserved” is from the heart and always genuine. “Congratulations” may be fake.
“Well deserved” has been earned. Congratulations may be by default.
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A letter to my 'ex'
1. A letter to my ‘ex’
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All of us at different times would have lost something very
precious. In our lives, those are the most excruciating moments.
Here is an effort to present a point of view on how I dealt with
my ‘loss’.
This is my letter to my 'ex'....
When you were around, half the time I was lost for words. The
other times, I spoke too much. But these three words, I almost
always whispered silently when I was awake and said these
very loudly in my sleep; 'I love you’ and 'Thank you lord'.
With you, I have felt fear and I have felt bravery, I have felt loss
and I have felt gain, I have felt stupid and I have felt intelligent
too. I can look at our pictures and recall everything we did that day. I must say, I do look at our pictures
even now and feel nostalgic.
There was a time when I could think of you and I could tell what you might be feeling just then. There
were so many times when you thought I was not paying attention, but I can tell you how looked, how
you sat, how you pouted and how you felt. Felt a strange silly pleasure in making you think I was not
looking but my eyes were only for you.
I know how you looked when you thought something was unfair. I know how you looked when I
surprised you. I know how you looked when you were denied what you secretly desired.
Most importantly, I know the look in your eyes when, a few years ago, on December 22nd, you saw the
sunset from atop Sinhagarh hills. In those moments you knew that nothing could ever be recreated
quite like that. I have always felt the same way about you.
Wherever you are, know that, loving someone isn't a matter of feeling something, temporarily. It is an
experience that one carries forever.
Loving someone is NOT a choice. Relating to someone IS. Sometimes, even when one has loved, one
has to LET GO.
Letting go involves unfurling our fingers and watching something fall. It's the act of witnessing
that object’s fall, that gets to us.
A few moments earlier we had something in our hands. Now it is not there. This 'was there and now not
there' gets to us. Now and then, again and again, we think about what could have been there.
That one last hug, the feeling of bliss that comes with knowing that the moment you wake up the sun
will be shining in rivulets through the tangled beautiful mess of your hair, with your face fresh off the
pillow, were magical. In those moments the magic was never of the sun. It was always about how YOU
could be looking in those moments. Lazy yet with boundless energetic. Sleepy yet so elegant. It's sad
to know that nothing like that will happen again. With no one....
The sunset would never be so enticing. It may simply fall off the horizon. The waterfalls won't cascade
with melancholy. It won't flow over the edges of noses or smiling lips or drip beneath the ears. It may
simply fall off the boulders of the creeks.
2. This letter however, is not about missing you. It is not to surmise our times together. It is about a
realisation.
The flowing river water caresses so many stones on its bed. This flowing river water may loosen a
stone from its bed. There after, the river doesn't run quite the same way.
But another stone, another pebble will fall in that place. Replacement happens.
The new stone will never match the old one yet the spot will be filled. Replacement happens.
The question is never about better or inferior. The important realisation is that replacement happens.
The stone may not be replaced by another stone, it might just be mud, it might be few smaller pebbles.
It might be a combination. Whatever it may be. replacement happens.
What I am clear about is, letting go is letting someone or something else take 'that' spot. For that to
happen, I have to let my joints loosen their grip, open my hold, let go of what wasn't meant to be held
by me anymore.
Sometimes, we have to let them go and allow them to land somewhere new. We have truly 'let gone'
when we pray it's landed somewhere even more beautiful than before.
Then, it was true love. Otherwise, you were my selfish need. Even more importantly, I will deny that
space to everyone who could have been an amazing replacement. Void remains only when we DO
NOT let go and therefore DO NOT ALLOW replacements to happen.
I will always remember, 'replacements happen'.
With loads of love, prayers and exceptional wishes,
naren
As I Live...I Learn
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