A talk given by Pastor Brent Lokker at Blazing Fire Church on March 17, 2012 for more information: www.blazingfire.org

1. Healthy Relationships in
the Family of God
Brent Lokker
March 17, 2012

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9. Healthy Relationships
in the Family of God

13. I want each of you
to be more at home with yourself,
to have unity in love,
to experience fulfillment through
a growing confidence and understanding,
and to affirm the secret God revealed
through Christ.
Christ is the key that unlocks
the treasure chest
of God’s wise purpose and plan!
Colossians 2:2-3 (The Heart of Paul)

15. Keep on building your style of life
on the relationship you have with Christ.
On this foundation,
stack the brick and mortar
of your daily choices.
Colossians 2:6

17. Danny Silk:
“Freedom causes our personal responsibility
to rise to the surface. We either rise with it
or lose our freedom. The only way to
cultivate freedom is through experiencing
and learning how to handle an increasing
number of options. Managing increasing
options is how we expand our lives into
ever-increasing abundance.”

19. Focus your attention on Christ,
whose life fully reveals the nature of God,
and you will find fulfillment
through your relation to him,
for he has authority over all earthly powers.
Colossians 2:10

22. If indeed you have experienced God’s
resurrection power,
then live a
resurrection life!
Colossians 3:1

24. My friends whom I love deeply,
Dress your new self with
the appropriate new clothes--
those which enable you to relate
constructively to each other.
Colossians 3:12-14

26. Danny Silk:

27. Danny Silk:
• “Control wants compliance, but honor
wants the engagement of the heart.”

28. Danny Silk:
• “Control wants compliance, but honor
wants the engagement of the heart.”
• “If your goal of communicating is
agreement, then you need control of the
person you are communicating with. Make
it your goal to understand.”

30. • “When I share my feelings with you, there’s
an into-me-you-see moment, and you get
to respond to my heart.”

31. • “When I share my feelings with you, there’s
an into-me-you-see moment, and you get
to respond to my heart.”
• “What's the biggest problem two
disconnected people have? The
disconnection. Get the connection back
before you attempt to solve the problem.”

33. Out of your new self express
a generous attitude,
kindness,
a proper estimate of yourself
and especially humility
so that when you have differences of opinion
you can look at the problem from
the other person’s viewpoint.

35. After a heated argument
forgive each other’s offensiveness
just as Christ forgave you.
As the most important piece of new clothing
be sure to wear love,
because love is the evidence of maturity.

37. Releasing
Offence

38. Releasing
Offence

40. More From Danny Silk:

41. More From Danny Silk:
• “Being easily offended is neither a
spiritual gift nor a fruit of the Spirit. It is a
symptom of immature love.”

42. More From Danny Silk:
• “Being easily offended is neither a
spiritual gift nor a fruit of the Spirit. It is a
symptom of immature love.”
• “To mistake bitterness for a healthy
boundary is costly. Boundaries always
allow us to keep our love on!”

43. More From Danny Silk:
• “Being easily offended is neither a
spiritual gift nor a fruit of the Spirit. It is a
symptom of immature love.”
• “To mistake bitterness for a healthy
boundary is costly. Boundaries always
allow us to keep our love on!”
• “When you change the goal of your
relationship from connection to distance,
it leads only to destruction.”

45. Colossians 3:25
If you create broken, destructive relationships,
you will receive the pay-off for that, too--
and it makes no difference who you are.

47. Let me describe love:
Love stays in difficult relationships with kindness.
Love does not play “one-up-man-ship,”
nor does it react to those who do.
Love is not rude or grasping or overly sensitive,
nor does love search for imperfections
and faults in others.
Love celebrates what is real,
not what is perverse or incomplete.

48. Love is the most enduring quality
of human existence.
It keeps on keeping on.
It trusts in God in every situation
and expects God to act in all circumstances.
Nothing can destroy love.
1 Corinthians 13:1-7