We all have had a friend or someone we know whose marriage was slowly and destructively disintegrating. Where there used to be love and joy and hope, their is now only accusation, misery and hatred. And it’s all about the hardness of their hearts. In my friends case -it was him - His heart is hard towards her. He would interpret everything she said in the most negative light possible, while constantly protesting the purity of his own intentions. Every thing she did wrong was deliberate, every thing he did wrong was an understandable and forgivable accident. There is no space for listening, only accusing; no hope, only despair, no trust, only suspicion. When he would speak to her, he spits and bites and cuts and lashes. That’s the way it is with a hard heart. And our author of Hebrews says to "take care, to watch out, to see to it, that none of us have a hard unbelieving heart towards the living God." But James said in James 4:7-10, "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you." Draw near , he still wants you wink emoticon The quickest way to the heart is by the blood ,though a wound and the only thing that can truly penetrate a harden heart , is the word of God.