The document discusses Indiena Saraswati's Happiness Project which aims to help teenagers struggling with existential loneliness and depression. The project encourages participants to focus on self-care each day by doing one good thing for themselves and documenting it on social media with the hashtags #loveyourself and #happinessproject. It provides guidelines for joining the project including choosing a main theme to focus on for 30 consecutive days while also focusing on compulsory subthemes of gratitude, kindness, and beauty.
Chef, a skilled professional cook and a tradesperson who is competent in all aspects of food preparation. Often, they concentrate on a specific cuisine. Working as a chef ensures that you are around food all the time, and you get to work with food all the time making delicious meals. But there is more to it. It requires a lot of effort, dedication and more than anything discipline. There are so many chefs around the globe whose life journey is so inspiring and motivating.
Is senior living in a Community Right for you?Pickering Manor
Is senior living in a Community Right for you? Pickering Manor does have a guide to help you reach the decision that's right for you. Take our quiz to see if it’s time to start looking into senior living
Chef, a skilled professional cook and a tradesperson who is competent in all aspects of food preparation. Often, they concentrate on a specific cuisine. Working as a chef ensures that you are around food all the time, and you get to work with food all the time making delicious meals. But there is more to it. It requires a lot of effort, dedication and more than anything discipline. There are so many chefs around the globe whose life journey is so inspiring and motivating.
Is senior living in a Community Right for you?Pickering Manor
Is senior living in a Community Right for you? Pickering Manor does have a guide to help you reach the decision that's right for you. Take our quiz to see if it’s time to start looking into senior living
Does Pronunciation Instruction Promote Intelligibility and Comprehensibility?ozpar
This Powerpoint describes a study conducted with ESL speakers enrolled in a U.S. university to determine the impact of teaching segmentals and suprasegmentals on intelligibility and comprehensibility.
Your ticket to financial freedom doesn’t lie in getting a raise or enlisting services of a personal financial consultant. Your ticket to financial freedom lies in mastering basic money management.
A Power Point created to accompany the Last Lecture speech. The use of digital photos and the omission of unnecessary text makes this a great visual aid!
Presentation given by Matthew Bodie at St. Petersburg College All Professional Day about learning from Randy Pausch and Jeffery Zaslow's book, The Last Lecture, with hopes of educators sharing material with their students.
John Lane - Centerline - Content Marketing Art Of War - 04.13Centerline Digital
Content Marketing Art of War. Theories, Case Studies and Anecdotes on Content Marketing, based on the (modified) teachings of Sun Tzu. Centerline Digital examples in the presentation:
- All work for Physicians Pharmacy Alliance
- IBM Smarter Computing Workload Simulator
- Datagrams for IBM Mobile First
- Vitamin T UX Infographic
- Eaton - Professor Wattson
- IBM City One
* Click those images to be taken to the actual pieces.
The presentation was given by John Lane, VP Strategy & Creative at Centerline Digital twice in April:
- The BMA Carolinas Lunch
- The Digital Marketing For Business Conference
Go to http://www.centerline.net for more information.
Both the Last Lecture and the book based on it are life altering. They are a warehouse of ideas to make your life and relationships better and manage time so much well. I have put together the key learnings for me in this slide deck. I am sure if you read it, you will uncover gems that will change your life too.
Please don\'t miss seeing this on www.cmu.edu/randyslecture.
Although negotiation takes place every day, it is not east to do well. Standard strategies for negotiation often leave people dissatisfied, worn out, or alienated -- and frequently all three.
People find themselves in a dilemma. They see two ways to negotiate: hard or soft. The soft negotiator desperately tries to avoid conflict when the hard negotiator gives all he can afford to win.
There is a better way to negotiate. A way that is neither hard nor soft but rather hard and soft. Principled negotiation is about being HARD on the PROBLEM while being SOFT on the PEOPLE.
By means of roleplay, discussion groups and reflection we will introduce the method of principled negotiation. At the end of this training session you will be able to analyse past negotiations and prepare future negotiations to encompass the four basic principles we will introduce to you.
USeful extracts from the amazing book 'The tipping Point'.
If you are starting a new venture, you will love this.
Please give me feedback at nsnarang@gmail.com
How to develope your personality by dr alka mukherjee nagpur ms indiaalka mukherjee
Personality is what makes a person a unique person, and it is recognizable soon after birth. A child's personality has several components: temperament, environment, and character. Temperament is the set of genetically determined traits that determine the child's approach to the world and how the child learns about the world. There are no genes that specify personality traits, but some genes do control the development of the nervous system, which in turn controls behavior.
A second component of personality comes from adaptive patterns related to a child's specific environment. Most psychologists agree that these two factors—temperament and environment—influence the development of a person's personality the most. Temperament, with its dependence on genetic factors, is sometimes referred to as "nature," while the environmental factors are called "nurture."
While there is still controversy as to which factor ranks higher in affecting personality development, all experts agree that high-quality parenting plays a critical role in the development of a child's personality. When parents understand how their child responds to certain situations, they can anticipate issues that might be problematic for their child. They can prepare the child for the situation or in some cases they may avoid a potentially difficult situation altogether. Parents who know how to adapt their parenting approach to the particular temperament of their child can best provide guidance and ensure the successful development of their child's personality.
Finally, the third component of personality is character—the set of emotional, cognitive, and behavioral patterns learned from experience that determines how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. A person's character continues to evolve throughout life, although much depends on inborn traits and early experiences. Character is also dependent on a person's moral development .
Does Pronunciation Instruction Promote Intelligibility and Comprehensibility?ozpar
This Powerpoint describes a study conducted with ESL speakers enrolled in a U.S. university to determine the impact of teaching segmentals and suprasegmentals on intelligibility and comprehensibility.
Your ticket to financial freedom doesn’t lie in getting a raise or enlisting services of a personal financial consultant. Your ticket to financial freedom lies in mastering basic money management.
A Power Point created to accompany the Last Lecture speech. The use of digital photos and the omission of unnecessary text makes this a great visual aid!
Presentation given by Matthew Bodie at St. Petersburg College All Professional Day about learning from Randy Pausch and Jeffery Zaslow's book, The Last Lecture, with hopes of educators sharing material with their students.
John Lane - Centerline - Content Marketing Art Of War - 04.13Centerline Digital
Content Marketing Art of War. Theories, Case Studies and Anecdotes on Content Marketing, based on the (modified) teachings of Sun Tzu. Centerline Digital examples in the presentation:
- All work for Physicians Pharmacy Alliance
- IBM Smarter Computing Workload Simulator
- Datagrams for IBM Mobile First
- Vitamin T UX Infographic
- Eaton - Professor Wattson
- IBM City One
* Click those images to be taken to the actual pieces.
The presentation was given by John Lane, VP Strategy & Creative at Centerline Digital twice in April:
- The BMA Carolinas Lunch
- The Digital Marketing For Business Conference
Go to http://www.centerline.net for more information.
Both the Last Lecture and the book based on it are life altering. They are a warehouse of ideas to make your life and relationships better and manage time so much well. I have put together the key learnings for me in this slide deck. I am sure if you read it, you will uncover gems that will change your life too.
Please don\'t miss seeing this on www.cmu.edu/randyslecture.
Although negotiation takes place every day, it is not east to do well. Standard strategies for negotiation often leave people dissatisfied, worn out, or alienated -- and frequently all three.
People find themselves in a dilemma. They see two ways to negotiate: hard or soft. The soft negotiator desperately tries to avoid conflict when the hard negotiator gives all he can afford to win.
There is a better way to negotiate. A way that is neither hard nor soft but rather hard and soft. Principled negotiation is about being HARD on the PROBLEM while being SOFT on the PEOPLE.
By means of roleplay, discussion groups and reflection we will introduce the method of principled negotiation. At the end of this training session you will be able to analyse past negotiations and prepare future negotiations to encompass the four basic principles we will introduce to you.
USeful extracts from the amazing book 'The tipping Point'.
If you are starting a new venture, you will love this.
Please give me feedback at nsnarang@gmail.com
How to develope your personality by dr alka mukherjee nagpur ms indiaalka mukherjee
Personality is what makes a person a unique person, and it is recognizable soon after birth. A child's personality has several components: temperament, environment, and character. Temperament is the set of genetically determined traits that determine the child's approach to the world and how the child learns about the world. There are no genes that specify personality traits, but some genes do control the development of the nervous system, which in turn controls behavior.
A second component of personality comes from adaptive patterns related to a child's specific environment. Most psychologists agree that these two factors—temperament and environment—influence the development of a person's personality the most. Temperament, with its dependence on genetic factors, is sometimes referred to as "nature," while the environmental factors are called "nurture."
While there is still controversy as to which factor ranks higher in affecting personality development, all experts agree that high-quality parenting plays a critical role in the development of a child's personality. When parents understand how their child responds to certain situations, they can anticipate issues that might be problematic for their child. They can prepare the child for the situation or in some cases they may avoid a potentially difficult situation altogether. Parents who know how to adapt their parenting approach to the particular temperament of their child can best provide guidance and ensure the successful development of their child's personality.
Finally, the third component of personality is character—the set of emotional, cognitive, and behavioral patterns learned from experience that determines how a person thinks, feels, and behaves. A person's character continues to evolve throughout life, although much depends on inborn traits and early experiences. Character is also dependent on a person's moral development .
This approach was not a question incoming, it was a statement from a courageous woman that I needed to hear more than she needed to say it. Perception is projection and learning how we can serve each other in how we communicate, learn and see the people around us can be helpful on so many levels. How people see you and how you see others can be your greatest motivator or your darkest destroyer. How do you choose and why?
How to Improve Self Confidence and Self RespectTracey C
Self-love and self-appreciation are very much related to self-confidence. If your opinion of yourself is low then how can you project a “confident” you? Find out more in this presentation.
Mindful monday: jack canfield, activate the law of attraction immensely socialHilary Overcash
The things that determine your comfort zone:
Your Beliefs
Your Self-Talk
Your Self-Image
Visit for more: http://immenselysocial.com/mindful-monday-activate-law-of-attraction/
presented at FITC Toronto 2018
More info at http://fitc.ca/event/to18/
Lauren Hom, Hom Sweet Hom
Overview
In early 2016, Lauren packed up her studio in New York City in pursuit of the ultimate form of inspiration: travel. After exploring the world for a year, she was surprised to discover that she didn’t feel more inspired than before. The truth is, she’d actually found more inspiration for her work in her normal, everyday life than in her epic world trip.
That’s not to say that travel can’t be wildly inspiring – it totally can be. But what if she told you that there’s just as much inspiration in fighting with your spouse as there is in traveling the world? Would you believe her if she told you that she’s gotten more inspiration from a night of drinking than a night of watching TED talks? What Lauren hopes to teach you today is that EVERY experience in your life can be used as inspiration. You are the secret source of inspiration you never even knew you had – you just need to know where to look.
Objective
To inspire the audience with stories of how I’ve turned mundane events into powerful creative projects & how they are more than capable of doing the same
Target Audience
Designers and entrepreneurs who want to get more eyes on their work & feel more creatively inspired
Five Things Audience Members Will Learn
Every experience is inspiration – even the bad stuff
There is magic in the mundane
Relatable ideas are shareable ideas
Use your skills to solve your problems & you’ll solve them for others too
The secret to creativity is simply paying attention
So let’s imagine you are 5 years old again and you are asked that famous question that every little kid loves to hear; “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Being that little you imagination hasn’t been destroyed yet, you still believed you could do anything or be anyone you could imagine. So your answers were, of course, the most insane ideas ever! An Astronaut, Princess, Transformer, Power Ranger, Superman or Batman. Anything was possible when you were that young! Now when I look back; and what makes me different, is my answer was always an “artist.” Yes, of course I could tell you anything in the world and you would tell me that that was a great idea! Though, that’s what made me different; my opinion on what I wanted to be never changed growing up. I’ve always wanted to be an artist and I plan to be an artist no matter what anyone tells me. It’s like what Vincent Van Gogh said, “Your profession is not what brings home your weekly paycheck, your profession is what you’re put here on earth to do, with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling.”
So let’s imagine you are 5 years old again and you are asked that famous question that every little kid loves to hear; “What do you want to be when you grow up?” Being that little you imagination hasn’t been destroyed yet, you still believed you could do anything or be anyone you could imagine. So your answers were, of course, the most insane ideas ever! An Astronaut, Princess, Transformer, Power Ranger, Superman or Batman. Anything was possible when you were that young! Now when I look back; and what makes me different, is my answer was always an “artist.” Yes, of course I could tell you anything in the world and you would tell me that that was a great idea! Though, that’s what made me different; my opinion on what I wanted to be never changed growing up. I’ve always wanted to be an artist and I plan to be an artist no matter what anyone tells me. It’s like what Vincent Van Gogh said, “Your profession is not what brings home your weekly paycheck, your profession is what you’re put here on earth to do, with such passion and such intensity that it becomes spiritual in calling.”
Today we want to go over this special ideal day exercise that is very powerful for learning how to create your perfect day.
If you been struggling with visualizing your goals or don't know how to manifest your ideal perfect day schedule then this post is for you.
A different kind of magazine for a different kind of professional. This is the type of content I would love to see so I am experimenting on scratching my own itch. This is a first edition prototype. Thanks for Reviewing. You Rock.
Online 33 day support program to befriends with your minds and relationships in life. A modern approach, including, communication on social media, fused with ancient wisdom to create an elegant profound strength to live your life with zest.
Gerakan Sosial Indonesia Berbakti adalah gerakan sosial yang diYayasan Visi Misi Berbakti dan mengemban visi misi mulia.
Misi:
Membantu para lulusan SMA & SMK untuk mendapatkan pekerjaan dengan cara memberi pembekalan agar mereka lebih siap diterima kerja. Menjalin kerja sama kemitraan dengan perusahaan-perusahaan untuk penempatan kerja.
Visi:
Terus mengembangkan diri sebagai institusi nirlaba dan non partisan yang handal dan dipercaya yang dikelola secara profesional untuk menjamin keberhasilan yang berkesinambungan dalam menjalankan misinya.
Informasi sekilas tentang Indonesia BerbaktiFajar Anugerah
Indonesia Berbakti is a non profit social enterprise, working on to help develop skills for employability for high school graduates in Indonesia, who can't continue their study to the higher education
Sharpen existing tools or get a new toolbox? Contemporary cluster initiatives...Orkestra
UIIN Conference, Madrid, 27-29 May 2024
James Wilson, Orkestra and Deusto Business School
Emily Wise, Lund University
Madeline Smith, The Glasgow School of Art
Acorn Recovery: Restore IT infra within minutesIP ServerOne
Introducing Acorn Recovery as a Service, a simple, fast, and secure managed disaster recovery (DRaaS) by IP ServerOne. A DR solution that helps restore your IT infra within minutes.
This presentation by Morris Kleiner (University of Minnesota), was made during the discussion “Competition and Regulation in Professions and Occupations” held at the Working Party No. 2 on Competition and Regulation on 10 June 2024. More papers and presentations on the topic can be found out at oe.cd/crps.
This presentation was uploaded with the author’s consent.
Have you ever wondered how search works while visiting an e-commerce site, internal website, or searching through other types of online resources? Look no further than this informative session on the ways that taxonomies help end-users navigate the internet! Hear from taxonomists and other information professionals who have first-hand experience creating and working with taxonomies that aid in navigation, search, and discovery across a range of disciplines.
0x01 - Newton's Third Law: Static vs. Dynamic AbusersOWASP Beja
f you offer a service on the web, odds are that someone will abuse it. Be it an API, a SaaS, a PaaS, or even a static website, someone somewhere will try to figure out a way to use it to their own needs. In this talk we'll compare measures that are effective against static attackers and how to battle a dynamic attacker who adapts to your counter-measures.
About the Speaker
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Diogo Sousa, Engineering Manager @ Canonical
An opinionated individual with an interest in cryptography and its intersection with secure software development.
18. * Your main theme?
* Tell somebody about it—especially the why—
let them be your spectator.
* Do it everyday for 30 days. One day skipped,
do it all over again.
19. * Do the compulsory subthemes—decide how
long you’ll take it.
* Write about it and let people know what a
wonderful soul you are.
Golden Rule:
BE HONEST.
Hai, nama saya Indiena Saraswati. Ini Pecha Kucha pertama saya, dan saya kaget, karena waktu dibilang bahwa satu slide diperlukan waktu 20 detik saja saya merasa bahwa itu sebentar. Mudahlah, karena kalau di kelas pun saya ngga pernah lama-lama kalau presentasi, gitu. Eh, ternyata setelah liat Youtube dan nyoba sendiri, Hm, lama juga ya. Maaf ya kalau nanti agak krik krik krik. Oke, jadi Pecha Kucha ini akan tentang Happiness Project, karena itulah hal yang sedang saya lakukan saat ini.
Ini adalah Bumi tempat kita tinggal. Kita biasanya menyebutnya sebagai dunia. Saya pernah tinggal di atau sekedar mengunjungi beberapa tempat di dunia ini. Dari ujung dunia yaitu Alaska, sampai Jatinangor tempat antah berantah hehe. Tapi di mana pun saya tinggal saya ngga pernah merasa bahagia, kecuali di Alaska karena waktu itu saya masih kecil dan kita semua tau masa kecil itu masa tanpa masalah. Jadi saya bahagia. Tapi beranjak besar, saya sadar bahwa dunia adalah tempat kejam di mana semua orang berlomba-lomba untuk sesuatu yang menurut saya ngga esensial.
Kesuksesan, ketenaran, kekayaan. Masa-masa remaja saya dihabiskan untuk memikirkan bahwa dunia ini menuntut kita untuk mencapai hal-hal yang ngga hakiki. Sedangkan saya pada waktu itu hanya ingin hidup damai, penuh, dan bermakna. Sampai sekarang sih. Dulu saya banyak galau karena hati saya ngga sejalan dengan tuntutan dunia. Saya ngga ingin mengejar hal-hal yang mereka anggap penting, dan hal-hal yang saya kejar ngga dunia anggap penting. Makanya, saya banyak susahnya waktu itu. Saya bahkan banyak konflik dengan siapa pun karena ngga ngerti jalan pikiran mereka, dan sebaliknya.
Jadi saya selalu merasa sendiri dan kesepian. Selalu mempertanyakan tempat saya di dunia ini di mana, atau adakah orang-orang yang sejalan dengan pemikiran saya. Pada waktu itu, saya ngga menemukan. Jadi saya semakin lama semakin jatuh ke dalam lubang, sendirian. Gelap, pengap, diam-diam, ngga ada yang tau. Baru beberapa tahun kemudian saya menemukan istilah existential depression di Internet, dan merasa bahwa definisi tersebut mirip seperti apa yang saya rasakan. Depresi ini menemani saya selama 3 tahun, dengan insomnia, sleep apnea, dan simtom-simtom psikosomatis lain. Saya nggatau bahwa saya membutuhkan pertolongan. 4 tahun berikutnya depresi saya udah ngga eksistensial lagi, tapi depresi karena ngga bisa mengikuti tuntutan sosial.
Di tengah lubang hitam itu saya merasa saya dipanggil alam, lebih tepatnya Tuhan sih, untuk belajar psikologi aja. Udah rahasia umum ya bahwa orang-orang yang belajar psikologi dan meyakinkan dirinya ingin menolong orang lain itu adalah orang-orang yang justru membutuhkan pertolongan. Selain karena saya waktu itu kurang sehat mentalnnya, saya juga udah mempelajari (walau pun hanya bagian kecilnya aja) filsafat, kaya tentang Plato dan goanya, Sokrates, dan Aristoteles, dan saya jatuh hati pada filsafat, walau pun saya ngga mendalaminya. Saya rasa itu karena saya orangnya senang hal-hal yang puitis. Eh ternyata belajar di Fapsi Unpad ada filsafatnya, dan itu baru tau setelah masuk. Senang deh.
Selama kuliah pun saya tetap merasa ilmu-ilmu yang saya dapatkan itu ngga ada gunanya untuk kebahagiaan saya. Saya tetap merasa ngga berguna, ngga punya masa depan, ngga mungkin bangkit, dan lain-lain. Saya merasa apa pun yang saya usahakan, saya ngga akan pernah bahagia. Padahal saya waktu itu punya teman-teman, tapi saya merasa teman-teman saya ngga cukup peka atau peduli untuk memberikan dukungan sosial. Saya pun ngga kekurangan duit untuk bisa melarikan diri ke hal-hal duniawi kaya makanan, nonton film, jalan-jalan. Tapi saya tetap ngga bisa menikmati hidup saya. Saya masih berharap ada dewa (kalau bisa dalam bentuk Prince Charming) yang datang dan membuat semuanya menjadi lebih baik dalam hidup saya. Saya masih sangat ingin ditolong, dan mengutuk kenapa saya ngga ditolong walau pun saya udah jungkir-balik nolongin orang lain.
Untung saya bertahan. Karena menjelang akhir-akhir saya bisa menunaikan mimpi saya selama ini, menginjakkan kaki di daerah Pegunungan Himalaya. Tempat yang selama ini saya idam-idamkan. Dari sini saya belajar bahwa selamanya mengharapkan pertolongan itu ngga akan bisa bikin hidup saya berprogres. Ke Pakistan ini merupakan sebuah terapi besar-besaran, terapi nekat, yang lebih berguna dari pada menghabiskan waktu di ruang-ruang terapi. Hanya dalam 5 minggu saya merasakan sensai “There’s nothing I can’t do or go through in this life!” Saya menjadi lebih terbuka sama pengalaman, dan lebih terbuka sama orang lain. Karena teknik-teknik “bodo amat” “ngga tau malu” dan “muka badak” saya pelajari selama di Pakistan.
Kalau mikirnya nolong diri sendiri terus, kapan bisa nolong orang lain? Nanti kamu lupa caranya nolong orang lain, atau terlena maunya nolong diri sendiri dulu. Well, saya ngga bisa menjawab itu. Tapi saya tetap mencoba untuk melakukan apa yang orang-orang itu sentil ke saya, bahwa kaya di pesawat, sebelum pakein selang oksigen orang lain, pake dulu yang diri sendiri, biar ga mati duluan. Kalau kita merasa bisa nolong tapi kita sendiri ngga tertolong, matilah si penolong potensial itu. Satu penolong potensial mati, maka lebih banyak lagi orang yang mati. (Analogi ini dapetnya dari Kang Fajar)
Keterbukaan inilah yang membuat saya mampu menerima kode-kode yang Tuhan berikan. Dalam periode waktu yang bersamaan, orang-orang yang saya anggap keren, hebat, dan signifikan mengingatkan saya terus-menerus, bahwa jika ingin menolong, tolonglah diri sendiri dulu. Baru orang lain. Jika ingin menyayangi orang lain, sayangilah diri sendiri dulu. Saya baru merasa tersentil, bahwa memang, saya selalu ingin membantu orang lain, mungkin karena saya kasian dan tau rasanya ngga ada yang ditolongin, mungkin dengan harapan alam akan menolong saya balik. Tapi, saya ngga pernah tuh menolong diri saya sendiri sebelumnya. Selalu berharap dibaik hati-in sama alam semesta. Ada yang bilang,
Oh iya, pada masa ini saya udah mulai menggembar-gemborkan #happinessproject ini di medsos, supaya orang-orang nanyain kalau saya absen sehari aja, biar ngga lupa. Jadi inilah salah satu cara yang bisa dipakai. Yaitu nge-list hal-hal baik yang saya banggakan yang saya lakukan hari itu. List ini pribadi dan hanya untuk diri sendiri. Saya punya temboknya di kamar, penuh dengan post-it. Tapi jeleknya adalah, untuk orang yang ngga bisa berkomitmen seperti saya, makin ke sini makin sering lupa untuk melakukan hal ini. Jadi, saya bertanyalah ke Kang Fajar, gimana caranya supaya bisa menyayangi diri sendiri dan ga lupa untuk itu. Akhirnya, Kang Fajar ngasih tugas mentoring untuk nge-post proyek ini di Instagram dengan tema-tema tertentu tiap bulan. Dan saya harus menulis tentang gambar tersebut. Strategi ini ternyata bikin saya gembira melakukannya, karena 1) saya ngga merasa sombong, tapi merasa senang bisa berbagi pelajaran, dan 2) orang-orang mulai ngeh bahwa proyek ini serius, jadi saya dapet banyak dukungan sosial.
Setelah menggunakan berbagai teknik yang pernah diajarkan, sifatnya eksistensial, saya akhirnya paham bahwa saya harus sayang sama diri sendiri dulu. Love yourself! Gimana mau bahagia kalau selalu menyalahkan diri sendiri, marahin diri sendiri, kalau salah dikit aja? Gimana mau dibilang cantik sama orang kalau ngga merasa dirinya cantik? Gimana mau dihargai orang kalau ngga PD sama apa yang saya punya? Jadilah #loveyourself sebagai tema saya untuk berbahagia, dalam proyek pribadi ini. Waktu itu saya mikir, gimana ya caranya supaya saya bisa menghargai diri sendiri? Hmmm… Saya pernah melakukan satu cara, yang menurut saya cukup bisa menolong…
Happiness Project ini mirip seperti 100 Happy Days challenge. Kalau kelewatan satu hari, kaya minum obat TBC, harus ngulang lagi dari hari pertama. Bedanya, challenge-nya bersifat 30 hari, dan ada tema-tema tertentu di 30 hari itu. Tema wajib pertama adalah #grateful. Waktu dikasih tema ini saya udah bisa nebak kalau ini akan akan jadi tema pertama. Dan ternyata, tema ini adalah dasar dari segala keterbukaan kita pada kebahagiaan. Kasarnya, ini adalah teknik ngeles dari kesialan-kesialan hidup dengan cara yang elegan. Dulu saya selalu disuruh bersyukur sama orang-orang, tapi saya ngga ngerti caranya gimana. Sekarang baru saya ngerti maksudnya bersyukur itu apa, karena saya mencoba menjalaninya dengan menyenangkan dan di luar kebiasaan. Saat kita bersyukur, segala kepositifan yang kita terima ngga akan lewat begitu aja. Segala kenegatifan pun akan disyukuri, dan pelajarannya bisa diambil. Ternyata, dengan satu tema ini aja hidup saya sudah banyak berubah.
Lalu, tema kedua adalah #kindness, atau kebaikan. Sekarang saya tahu bahwa #grateful dan #kindness ini dirancang bukan karena kebetulan, tapi karena memang ada studinya, bahwa rasa bersyukur dan kebaikan adalah dua hal yang digunakan untuk intervensi penyakit mental dan cukup berpengaruh. Tapi yang kedua ngga akan berjalan dengan lancar tanpa yang pertama, sepengalaman saya. Untuk orang yang selalu melihat bahwa kebaikan itu adalah alat untuk berbalik dibaikhatikan oleh orang lain, tema ini membantu saya sadar betapa banyak hal-hal yang baik dan orang baik yang mengelilingi kita. Kitanya aja yang kurang sensitif untuk menyadari itu. Tema kedua ini membantu saya untuk lebih tulus dalam melakukan kebaikan, dan lebih tidak bodoh juga dalam menyebarkannya. Setelah kedua tema wajib ini, tema-tema berikutnya dirancang sesuai kebutuhan…
Kalau tema ketiga saya sih #beauty. Dan sejauh ini tema ini luar biasa sulit untuk saya. Hari ini adalah hari ke-24 untuk tema ini, dan sejujurnya saya masih mencari-cari dengan kurang natural, tidak seperti di dua tema pertama. Kalau untuk orang lain yang ingin ikutan, tema ini sudah mulai bisa disesuaikan dengan kebutuhan masing-masing orang. Kang Fajar sepertinya ngeh bahwa saya kurang bisa menyerap keindahan di sekitar saya… Jadi saya minta dukungannya aja supaya saya bisa melalui dan menyerap pelajaran dari tema ketiga ini dengan baik. Tapi, yang saya ingin laporkan adalah, sejauh ini hidup saya sudah sangat banyak berubah. Dari perasaan, cara kerja, dan cara pandang. Yang masih belum berubah adalah kemalasan saya, mungkin itu akan jadi tema ke-empat hehe.
Jadi gini, #happinessproject ini memang proyek pribadi saya, tapi ini juga bisa jadi proyek pribadi kita semua. Bagi orang-orang yang merasa tertekan, stres, sulit, sedih melulu, dan lain-lain, dan terutama merasa ingin hidupnya berubah, kita bisa bergerak sama-sama. Syaratnya cuma satu: kamu emang benar-benar ingin berubah menjadi lebih positif. Kalau ngerjainnya hare-hare, ya hasilnya juga hare-hare. #happinessproject model saya begini, strateginya boleh diikutin, tapi boleh juga bikin sendiri yang lebih pas dan menyenangkan untuk diri sendiri. Saya bukan promosi, saya hanya ingin berbagi resep, bahwa kebahagiaan itu ternyata memang harus dijemput. Dan juga, rasanya lebih menyenangkan saat kita tau kita ngga berjuang sendirian. Seperti senangnya saya saat ada yang mendukung perjuangan saya ini, saya juga sangat-sangat senang saat mereka jadi berani berjuang untuk hidup mereka sendiri. Kasih tau aja ya, biar kita bisa saling mendukung.
Terakhir, saya mau minta doanya ya. Rencanya sih si #happinessproject ini mau divalidasi di tugas akhir saya, alias skripsi. Saya akan senang sekali kalau bisa melakukan skripsi yang memang menyenangkan untuk saya, sekaligus bisa lulus dan mengejar hal-hal yang penting di dunia ini untuk saya nantinya. Proyek ini memang bukan tujuan hidup saya, tetapi batu loncatan untuk menuju mimpi saya, tapi kalau apa yang saya lakukan bisa membuat satu orang saja menjadi lebih bersemangat menjalani hidup, itu merupakan bonus kebahagiaan untuk saya. Semoga kita semua bisa berjuang sama-sama di ranahnya masing-masing. Semoga tetap semangat menjalani hidup, walaupun awan hitam pasti datang, tapi penting untuk bawa lampu darurat kita ke mana-mana. Lampu darurat itu ngga pernah jauh dari diri kita sendiri, yaitu hati kita. Stay happy.
Perjalanan ini bermakna buat saya, bukan karena hidup saya bahagia-bahagia aja, tapi saya juga merasakan kesulitan-kesulitan. Percayalah, dalam hal apa pun kita akan menghadapi oposisi, baik dari orang lain, diri sendiri, atau pun dari alam. Saya sering kali terlalu lelah, sering juga internet ngga mendukung, bahkan ada yang bilang saya bodoh karena melakukan ini, karena hidup ngga mungkin bahagia melulu. Well, di balik layar, bahkan kadang secara jujur saya ungkapkan di-post saya, saya juga seringkali terlalu sedih untuk bisa menulis dan berbagi hal-hal yang baik. Tapi saat saya paksakan, saya selalu merasa hangat di hati, bahwa seburuk apa pun hari yang saya lalui, seringkali ada berlian-berlian kecil yang saya sandung dan bisa disampaikan ke orang lain. Walau pun masih sering merasa negatif, tapi saya merasa hidup banyak berubah dengan mencoba melihat kepositifan yang menghampiri. Bahkan, problem-problem kecil saya yang lain pun lebih terasa ngga terlalu berat saat saya lebih bahagia.