The document discusses the effects of divorce on children from multiple perspectives. It notes that children often view divorce as frightening, unpredictable, and life-changing. They may experience feelings like fear, uncertainty, guilt, anger, and grief. Children are also subjected to changes like changing homes and schools, changing economic status, and arguments between parents. Studies show that while most children adjust after divorce, some are more negatively impacted and may struggle in school, have behavioral issues, or face mental health challenges. The document also discusses parental behaviors during and after divorce that can further stress children or use them in parental conflicts. It provides recommendations for parents and the legal system to prioritize children's needs and reduce trauma during the divorce process.
This presentation tells you about the various effects of Divorce on children and how you can overcome them with the help of professional counsellors. For more information have a look at PBCLEGAL official website at http://www.pbclegal.com/ .
DIVORCE AS A SOCIAL PROBLEM
When a married couple can not live together comfortably the dissolution of marriage is called ‘divorce’.
Divorce ratio is higher today then compared to rates just 15 years ago: The causes of divorce vary from couple to couple but the research done on the causes of divorce by different researchers shows that
1) Lack of communication: is one of the leading causes of divorce. The divorces often happen when people rarely discuss their expectations in details and are less willing to work on their marriages and would like quick solution rather than having to resolve issues.
2) People who come from divorced homes are more likely to get divorced than people who come from happily married household. divorce seem less like a big deal if one has seen his parents go through with it:
3) People who get married between the ages of 23-27 are likely to stay together, than people who get married in their teens:
For a child, having a sibling often means having a constant companion who can provide support, love, and care for the child for the rest of his or her life. Sibling relationships often reflect the overall condition of cohesiveness within a family.
There are several ways in which sibling relationships can be complicated. For example, sibling rivalry, blended families, a large age difference, and gender differences are often areas that can lead to hostile sibling relationships.
Webster's New World Dictionary defines parenting as work or skill of a parent in raising a child or children. The same definition applies to single parenting, except in this case the single parent assumes the role of both father and mother. There are a number of circumstances that lead to single parenting: divorce, separation, abandonment, and death.
This presentation tells you about the various effects of Divorce on children and how you can overcome them with the help of professional counsellors. For more information have a look at PBCLEGAL official website at http://www.pbclegal.com/ .
DIVORCE AS A SOCIAL PROBLEM
When a married couple can not live together comfortably the dissolution of marriage is called ‘divorce’.
Divorce ratio is higher today then compared to rates just 15 years ago: The causes of divorce vary from couple to couple but the research done on the causes of divorce by different researchers shows that
1) Lack of communication: is one of the leading causes of divorce. The divorces often happen when people rarely discuss their expectations in details and are less willing to work on their marriages and would like quick solution rather than having to resolve issues.
2) People who come from divorced homes are more likely to get divorced than people who come from happily married household. divorce seem less like a big deal if one has seen his parents go through with it:
3) People who get married between the ages of 23-27 are likely to stay together, than people who get married in their teens:
For a child, having a sibling often means having a constant companion who can provide support, love, and care for the child for the rest of his or her life. Sibling relationships often reflect the overall condition of cohesiveness within a family.
There are several ways in which sibling relationships can be complicated. For example, sibling rivalry, blended families, a large age difference, and gender differences are often areas that can lead to hostile sibling relationships.
Webster's New World Dictionary defines parenting as work or skill of a parent in raising a child or children. The same definition applies to single parenting, except in this case the single parent assumes the role of both father and mother. There are a number of circumstances that lead to single parenting: divorce, separation, abandonment, and death.
Causes of family breakdown and its effects on Children by David MetaloroDavid Metaloro
Abstract
The increase of family breakdown down rate in Juba City has been due to alcohol and drugs addiction, financial problems, death, plus psychological, sexual and emotional abuse, threatening diseases like HIV/AIDs and inability to resolve conflict among others.
The objective of the study was to investigate the causes of family breakdown and its effects on the children in Juba City. The effects of family breakdown on children include difficulties in school, stress, early engagement in sexual activities, insecure and afraid of the future, depression and fear of being abandoned. The forms of family breakdown identified during the study include death, separation and divorce.
The rate of the family breakage was indicating 78.3%, though the study was based in Juba city, it reflects the entire country since all of the ten states’ habitants were included in study. Some of the cultural practices were found of backing up the high rate of family breakdown and such practices include force marriage, polygamy marriage, inheritance of widowers and high bride wealth.
The study proved communication skills, creation of family laws, supporting the children of the low families, marriage preparation and parenting new initiatives and information giving and mediation are the fundamental alternative solution to family breakdown.
In conclusion, the study proved the family breakdown affects the children performance in schools in line with other effects such as; stress, depression, fear of being abandoned, insecure and afraid of the future and torn in two among others.
In the end, the study recommended that the three stakeholders; government, NGOs and the academia to play respective role suggested to them by the researcher in accordance with the findings.
3. Children View Divorce As:- Frightening Unpredictable Life changing Threatening Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
4. As the children's lives are dismantled they experience feelings of: Fear Uncertainty Guilt Anger Resentment Mourning/Grief Isolation Loss Depression Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
5. The children in divorce situations are often subjected to: Loss of home and playmates Change of school and friends Change of economic status Watching one parent leave the home Separation from the exiting parent Anger and arguments between the parents prior to separation Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
6. The children in divorce situations are often subjected to: Arguments between the parents over money, belongings, jealousy Being asked to serve as messengers between parents Being asked to choose between parents Being ignored by the stressed parents and relatives Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
7. CHILDREN . . . LOVE both parents LOVE their friends SEE both parents as a part of their PERSONALITY CHERISH their friendships and relationships outside home UNDERSTAND DIVORCED to mean they are being DIVORCED too Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
8. CHILDREN . . . FEAR the stranger presented as the new Mom or Dad BECOME JEALOUSY of new step siblings and parents FEEL they are losing the other parent to a new family Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
9. CHILDREN . . . WORRY where they will live FEAR rejection from new people REQUIRE affection SEEK attention Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
10. CHILDREN . . . ARE NOT considered people, but as ARE part of the property to be divided. Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
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12. Parents sometimes . . . Get too wrapped up in their own emotions to see the effects in the children Think of the stress divorce caused them without thinking of the stress on the children. Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
13. Parents sometimes . . . EXPECT TOO MUCH EXPLAIN TOO LITTLE Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
14. Parents sometimes . . . Become the children. Demanding & Inconsiderate Skolnick and Skolnick (2007)
17. Less positive involvement with the child Gives less affection to the child Allocates less time to the child & Issues erratic, harsh discipline Diminished Parenting is when the custodial parent has. . .
26. Studies show that children suffer during divorce situations. The question is in what manner and to what extent.
27. Studies say children . . . Do worse in school academics and risk expulsion Have behavioral problems that can lead to police interventions or detainment (especially boys)
28. Studies say parents . . . Do not spend time supervising homework Are inconsistent with discipline Are not home enough to monitor the children Do not become actively involved in the child’s life
29. Studies say children . . . Become promiscuous Are more likely to turn to drugs and alcohol Are lonely and depressed
30. Studies say parents . . . Do not give children enough affection and time Put children into the center of THEIR conflicts Do not consider children’s socialization needs and friends when determining the residence of child and effect of relocation.
31. Studies say children . . . have a 75 – 80% chance of turning out normal and functioning well in their futures.
32. Studies say children . . . That 20 – 25% of these children grow up to be dysfunctional.
33. Studies say children . . . Are affected by divorce into their adult life Will lack trust in their future relationships with partners Will probably choose not to marry in their adult life and cohabitate instead.
34. Studies say parents . . . Show children that marriage is unstable and angry Encourage distrust in the children through their lack of trust with the other parent Manipulate the children to side against the non custodial parent.
35. Studies say children . . . Suffer from the economic stress Miss out on community activities Live in cramped poverty Suffer ridicule from peers
36. Studies say parents . . . Argue over visitation Attempt to get the child to take sides Barter time for money Do not pay ordered child support
50. Parents can . . . recognize the children are a part of both of them that was created through love and attraction they once held for each other.
51. Parents can . . . Cooperate with each other to benefit the children’s needs for stability and security
52. Parents can . . . Pay the defined child support to make certain that the children have all they need environmentally and medically.
53. Parents can . . . Collaborate on discipline actions and confer with each other directly to deter manipulation by the children.
54. Parents can . . . Put their personal conflicts and jealousies aside.
55. Parents can . . . Realize the children belong to them and not the judicial system.
56. Courts can . . . Demand Lawyers for the children in disputed custody battles.
57. Courts can . . . Penalize parent wars by fines to persuade parental cooperation that benefits the children.
58. Courts can . . . Penalize lawyers who encourage parents to argue by telling them they do not have to settle and can get more and pay less
59. Courts can . . . Recognize the use of manipulation in their systems and evaluations by both the Lawyers and Parents
60. Courts can . . . Mandate better education for their evaluators on children’s responses under pressure.
61. Courts can . . . Mandate better education for their mediators to recognize parental and lawyer manipulations that put them into a stalemate.
62. Courts can . . . Create a safe counsel for parents to use that does not involve lawyers.
63. Courts can . . . Create a simple process that does not mimic the criminal law processes.
64. Courts can . . . Mandate therapeutic interventions to settle custody disputes That MUST involve both parents working together with the children
65. Courts can . . . Give the CHILDREN A VOICE in their lives and futures.
66. Courts can . . . Give the CHILDREN A CHANCE TO LEARN HOW TO LIVE AND LOVE
67. Courts can . . . Do a lot more and with less trauma for all concerned
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