Moses listened to wise counsel from his father-in-law Jethro on how to most effectively lead the Israelites. Jethro saw that Moses was trying to do too much alone and would wear himself out. He advised Moses to delegate responsibilities to other capable leaders to help bear the burden. Moses trusted Jethro and implemented his advice. However, later Ahithophel's counsel to Absalom was motivated by personal reasons related to a past family dispute, rather than the good of the people. This showed the importance of discerning motives and setting boundaries with those offering advice with ulterior motivations rather than the best interests of others.
A scriptural guide for Church Leaders on dealing with issues. Covers responsibilities of church leaders, witnesses, the process for judging and dealing with fear and unpopularity. Most importantly it highlights the consequences of remaining silent and speaking out. Also has discussion questions to ponder upon.
Foundation Stone #12: Eternal Judgment for All PeopleRick Bruderick
The Maker has a right to judge what He has made. God has the right to judge people, and He already has, at times in history. But the final Judgment Day is coming when all people who ever lived will be judged together.
The dying patriarch, Jacob, blessed each of his 12 sons prophetically describing their future and the future of their tribe. Jacob's prophecy to Judah gives amazing details of the coming Messiah.
Exodus 21, abortion, god's redemption, six years, slaves, slavery, code of ha...Valley Bible Fellowship
Exodus 21, abortion, god's redemption, six years, slaves, slavery, code of hammurapi, lex talionis, restitution, jesus is greater, capital punishment, slave price, bond servants (doulos)
Exodus 17 18, test the lord, strike the rock, joshua means yehoshua or jeshua...Valley Bible Fellowship
Test the LORD, strike the rock, Joshua, Yehoshua, Jeshua, Amalkites, banner, our judicial system, 3 branched system of government, Godly Leader Qualifications, not good, fear God, a holy nation, Exodus Chapters 17-18
In this sermon we explore how to overcome betrayal. Betrayal is typically a wound intentionally inflicted by a friend. That is what makes it especially painful. We will consider two of the worst examples of betrayal in the Bible, the betrayal of David by his most trusted advisor Athithophel and the betrayal of Zechariah by King Joash. We will also consider parallels to Jesus' betrayal by Judas. Finally, we will look at four ways to handle betrayal and overcome the pain that results.
One of the characteristics of a sacrificial follower of Jesus Christ is aggressive teachability. JR Miller shares his story of learning to be teachable, sometimes the hard way.
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Prophecy of Enoch in Jude 14-16_.pptxStephen Palm
In Jude 14-16 Jude cites one of the most cryptic characters in the Book of Genesis, Enoch, the man who never died! Jude quotes Enoch, but the words are not found in Genesis nor anywhere else in the Bible. Jude is actually quoting from a pseudepigraphical book named 1 Enoch. In this sermon we will take a close look at Enoch, consider the way that biblical authors at times cited non-biblical books as illustrations and how Jude applied these words to the false teachers of our day.
A scriptural guide for Church Leaders on dealing with issues. Covers responsibilities of church leaders, witnesses, the process for judging and dealing with fear and unpopularity. Most importantly it highlights the consequences of remaining silent and speaking out. Also has discussion questions to ponder upon.
Foundation Stone #12: Eternal Judgment for All PeopleRick Bruderick
The Maker has a right to judge what He has made. God has the right to judge people, and He already has, at times in history. But the final Judgment Day is coming when all people who ever lived will be judged together.
The dying patriarch, Jacob, blessed each of his 12 sons prophetically describing their future and the future of their tribe. Jacob's prophecy to Judah gives amazing details of the coming Messiah.
Exodus 21, abortion, god's redemption, six years, slaves, slavery, code of ha...Valley Bible Fellowship
Exodus 21, abortion, god's redemption, six years, slaves, slavery, code of hammurapi, lex talionis, restitution, jesus is greater, capital punishment, slave price, bond servants (doulos)
Exodus 17 18, test the lord, strike the rock, joshua means yehoshua or jeshua...Valley Bible Fellowship
Test the LORD, strike the rock, Joshua, Yehoshua, Jeshua, Amalkites, banner, our judicial system, 3 branched system of government, Godly Leader Qualifications, not good, fear God, a holy nation, Exodus Chapters 17-18
In this sermon we explore how to overcome betrayal. Betrayal is typically a wound intentionally inflicted by a friend. That is what makes it especially painful. We will consider two of the worst examples of betrayal in the Bible, the betrayal of David by his most trusted advisor Athithophel and the betrayal of Zechariah by King Joash. We will also consider parallels to Jesus' betrayal by Judas. Finally, we will look at four ways to handle betrayal and overcome the pain that results.
One of the characteristics of a sacrificial follower of Jesus Christ is aggressive teachability. JR Miller shares his story of learning to be teachable, sometimes the hard way.
In Jude 17-23 Jude shifts from piling up examples of false teachers from the Old Testament to a series of practical exhortations that flow from apostolic instruction. He preserves for us what may well have been part of the apostolic catechism for the first generation of Christ-followers. In these instructions Jude exhorts the believer to deal with 3 different groups of people: scoffers who are "devoid of the Spirit", believers who have come under the influence of scoffers and believers who are so entrenched in false teaching that they need rescue and pose some real spiritual risk for the rescuer. In all of this Jude emphasizes Jesus' call to rescue straying sheep, leaving the 99 safely behind and pursuing the 1.
The Prophecy of Enoch in Jude 14-16_.pptxStephen Palm
In Jude 14-16 Jude cites one of the most cryptic characters in the Book of Genesis, Enoch, the man who never died! Jude quotes Enoch, but the words are not found in Genesis nor anywhere else in the Bible. Jude is actually quoting from a pseudepigraphical book named 1 Enoch. In this sermon we will take a close look at Enoch, consider the way that biblical authors at times cited non-biblical books as illustrations and how Jude applied these words to the false teachers of our day.
Jude: The Acts of the Apostates: Waterless Clouds (vv.8-13).pptxStephen Palm
Jude continues to paint a portrait of false teachers by piling up Old Testament examples of rebels who rejected God-given authority. This week we will consider the bad example of Satan and three men he worked through: Cain, Balaam and Korah. These examples continue to help us identify what false teachers are like and how to quickly identify them.
Jude: The Acts of the Apostate: High Handed Sins (vv.5-7).pptxStephen Palm
One of the key characteristics of Jude as an author is that he frequently alludes to or directly quotes Old Testament texts. He assumes knowledge of these great stories of the Hebrew Scriptures and without some solid understanding of the Books of Moses, in particular, Jude is almost indecipherable.
In this sermon, we will use a category of sin described in the Book of Numbers, the High-Handed Sin, as a way of organizing Jude 5-7. The High-Handed sin is the sin of the apostate, those who raise their fists against God. Jude, who loves triads, will share three "high-handed sins" committed by unruly mobs. Each of these OT stories are intended to demonstrate the true severity and danger posed by false teachers. In the process of considering these background texts to Jude's words we will grapple with some of the most confusing and even unnerving texts of scripture. Prepare for a wild ride!
Jude: The Acts of the Apostates (Jude vv.1-4).pptxStephen Palm
In this sermon Pastor Ryan Shannon introduces a new sermon series on the Book of Jude entitled, "The Acts of the Apostates". Apostates are the earliest "deconversion" stories of the New Testament. These are false teachers who rejected a truth that they once felt some affinity towards. They preached another gospel and posed a great danger to the early church. Like the first century, the 21st century church faces this same real risk. False teachers are often attractive, charismatic and incredibly positive in their message. But they reject the hard teachings of Jesus and offer a message that offers affirmation without correction. There is nothing sadder than someone who believes a lie and stakes their eternal destiny on that lie that our sin is something God winks at. In this series we will learn the importance of discernment coupled with a bold commitment to stand up, stand out and stand firm for the gospel.
This sermon will explore the broad topic of bioethics from a Christian perspective. The sermon is organized around three points borrowed from bioethicist Dr. Nigel Cameron and Charles Colson: Taking Life, Making Life and Faking Life. We will observe how current innovations offer great hope for healing major diseases but also pose the risk of creating dystopic nightmare scenarios. We will see what God's Word has to say on these relevant topics.
This is the concluding message in the series Trivial Pursuits and the fifth message of "Meaningful Pursuits." This message considers the pursuit of obedience. Shockingly, the words "obey" and "obedience" are not found in all of Ecclesiastes. However, the concept appears in a variety of expressions such as Pleasing God, Doing good, Walking in the "Sight of the Eyes" and Keeping the Commandments. We will explore each of these key phrases and the texts in which they appear, and we will explore what "keeping the commandments" means for the New Covenant believer. We will also explore the "God-rail" of judgment and what the believer in Jesus can expect on the "Day of Judgment."
Meaningful Pursuits_The Fear of God.pptxStephen Palm
In Proverbs Solomon says that "The Fear of God is the beginning of wisdom." The idea of fearing God is peppered throughout Ecclesiastes. It is found in some texts that we have explored in this series and some that we have not. In this message we will bring five key texts concerning the Fear of God that identify five key reasons why we are wise to Fear Him. We will also investigate the Hebrew word that lies behind this concept of fear in order to gain a more accurate view of this important biblical concept.
This sermon is part of the Easter Apocalypse series in which we are looking forward to the Book of Revelations for a sense of the sequel to the Easter story, Jesus in Heaven and King of kings and Lord of lords. In this message we will contrast Jesus' "veiled glory" during His earthly ministry including his post-resurrection appearances and Jesus' full display of his glory in John's vision in Revelation chapter 1.
Today we launch our Easter series entitled "Easter Apocalypse". This Palm Sunday we are going to study a moment from the Book of Revelation where a great multitude, much larger than the crowd in Jerusalem, will worship Jesus, waving palm branches. This amazing moment is found in the seventh chapter of the Book of Revelation. We will look at the entire chapter with a special focus on the middle of the chapter where this scene plays out in heaven.
Ecclesiastes 4: The Pursuit of Companionship.pptxStephen Palm
In Ecclesiastes 4 we find another meaningful pursuit sandwiched between two meaningless pursuits, as is Solomon's style. The Meaningful Pursuit is the pursuit of companionship. This passage contains the great statement that a cord of three strands is not easily torn apart. We will explore the primary meaning in context and then explore an additional meaning that the n+1 formula in this text suggests, that the plus one is also a reference to God. He is the one who truly provides enduring strength to our human relationships, whether we are looking at a marriage or a friendship. Excluding God leaves us "under the sun" and fending for ourselves.
The Pursuit of God's Timetable_Ecclesiastes 3.pptxStephen Palm
This week marks the shift from Trivial Pursuits to Meaningful Pursuits. This week we will look at Pursuing God's Timetable, embracing God's understanding of time and eternity. However, we will see that the jaded side of Solomon continues to intersperse rain clouds of doubt and cynicism. He bears the spiritual and emotional scars of a man who spent too much time in Trivial and sinful pursuits.
Culture Clash_Reasserting the Gospel to a culture that wants to reshape its m...Stephen Palm
This sermon is entitled Reasserting the Gospel to a culture that wants to reshape its message. In this sermon we will look at some key aspects of the gospel which clash with our culture, 5 common distortions of the gospel and finally 3 biblical examples of how to contextualize the gospel without compromising or confusing its message.
The Pursuit of Self Sufficiency_Ecclesiastes 9:11-12.pptxStephen Palm
In Ecclesiastes 9:11-12 Solomon bemoans how random chance falls upon mankind. The fastest runner doesn't always win the race. The smartest person doesn't always get the scholarship; life doesn't operate purely on the basis of fairness. The "under the sun" solution is self-reliance. In this sermon Mike Bealer demonstrates that the mathematics hard-baked into the universe suggest that God does not operate randomly. He creates a purposeful universe and one of His purposes is that we will rely upon Him rather than rely upon ourselves and our meager understanding of God's purpose and plan.
In this service, we will celebrate a child dedication. Then we will celebrate the Lord’s Supper together, and finally believers baptism by immersion. Each section will include a brief devotional focusing on the scriptures that inform and inspire these practices of the Christian faith.
Trivial Pursuits - The Pursuit of Riches_Contentment.pptxStephen Palm
This sermon is a tag team preaching. Pastor Steve Palm will begin with the bad news concerning the "Trivial Pursuit of Riches" in Ecclesiastes 5:8-17. We will look at several active "taxes" that siphon wealth: the Corruption Tax, the Consumption Tax and the Calamity Tax. Those who love money struggle to have enough. Cole will preach on the flip side of the coin in Ecclesiastes 5:18-20. The answer to the love of money is not more money and things. The true answer is contentment.
The Pursuit of Worldly Pleasure_Ecclesiastes 2.pptxStephen Palm
In Ecclesiastes Chapter 2 Solomon is convinced that he can run a dangerous experiment, safe-guarded by his great wisdom. The experiment is to explore every conceivable pleasure taken to inconceivable extremes and yet be unscathed. However, the experiment goes badly and leaves him jaded and empty. In the last three verses he finally allows a little of God's light to shine through. In this sermon we will contrast Solomon's life of empty pursuits with Jesus' balance life. He enjoyed the simple pleasures of life and set us an example of how to live beyond the "daily grind."
The Pursuit of Worldly Wisdom_Ecclesiastes 1:1-18.pptxStephen Palm
The book of Ecclesiastes is one of the least taught least preached and least read books in the Bible. However, it has one of the most relevant messages for our day. It is a rich tapestry of opposing threads, horizontal threads of an "under the sun" perspective that is worldly-wise and vertical threads of an "under God's Heaven" perspective that reflects the wisdom of God. Which perspective you embrace will determine whether life is a chore or a blessing. Man's wisdom leads to meaninglessness. God's wisdom leads to significance and true joy.
Culture Clash_Antisemitism and the Abrahamic Covenant.pptxStephen Palm
Antisemitism has spiked by 400% in the United States since the beginning of the Hamas/Israel War. However, antisemitism, the hatred and persecution of Jews, has been spiking since 2017. Antisemitism has been described as a "light sleeper" that has awakened yet again. In this sermon, we will look at two definitions of antisemitism, explore the history of antisemitism including the history of Christian antisemitism and then explore what God has to say by examining the Abrahamic Covenant in Genesis 12, 15 and 17 and other prophetic texts. Pastor Steve will assert that the Abrahamic Covenant is an essential lens through which Bible-believers view history and current events. We will also learn what a "trope" is and then explore several insidious antisemitic tropes which are the fuel on the fire of antisemitism.
Christmas List - Jesus: Prioritizing Mission over Everything Else.pptxStephen Palm
4. Jesus: Prioritizing Mission over Everything Else. (Dec. 23 & 24) John 1:1-18
John’s gospel begins at an earlier point than the other gospels. Mark begins at Jesus’ baptism and adds nothing to the Christmas story. Matthew and Luke begin with the circumstances of Jesus’ humble birth. But John begins in Heaven with the story of the pre-incarnate Son of God. Heaven’s Prince was a partner with His Father in the work of Creation; “without Him nothing was made that was made” (John 1:3). He was worshipped by angels and shared in the same divine essence possessed by the Father and the Holy Spirit. As the ancient creed says, “He was God of God, Light of light, true God of True God”. In order to accomplish His Father’s Redemptive Mission, to redeem mankind, he voluntarily chose to forego the heavenly privileges of his throne at His Father’s side, and came to earth, was confined to the womb of a young Jewish girl and then was born and placed in a feeding trough, likely in a cave used for birthing lambs. We know so little about Mary, Joseph and the Wise Men whom we have been studying. We are left with the challenge of piecing their lives together. But we have four gospels that describe the miraculous life of Jesus. We see through their four accounts a common picture of a man who consistently prioritized God’s Mission over everything else, culminating in His crucifixion and death. His was a hard life lived perfectly. The challenge before us is whether we will choose to accept His Great Co-Mission, to join Him in prioritizing serving God over security, reputation, comfort, and everything else this world esteems that God sees as less than?
Christmas List - Jesus: Prioritizing Mission over Everything Else.pptx
Coping with Interference
1. Coping with Interference
Coping with Interference
What do you do when you are
blessed with advice, solicited and
unsolicited on how to manage
your life and raise your family?
3. Coping with Interference
Anonymous Quote on Pinterest
“You don't like drama? Funny
how your name comes up as
executive producer on every
single episode around you.”
4. Coping with Interference
First Thought
Carefully consider the
unsolicited advice of a godly
person who has demonstrated
love and concern.
5. Coping with Interference
Exodus 18
13 The next day Moses sat to judge
the people, and the people stood
around Moses from morning till
evening.
6. 14 When Moses' father-in-law saw
all that he was doing for the people,
he said, …
10. 14 When Moses' father-in-law saw
all that he was doing for the people,
he said, “What is this that you are
doing for the people? Why do you
sit alone, and all the people stand
around you from morning till
evening?”
11. 15 And Moses said to his father-in-
law, “Because the people come to
me to inquire of God; 16 when they
have a dispute, they come to me
and I decide between one person
and another, and I make them know
the statutes of God and his laws.”
12. 17 Moses' father-in-law said to him,
“What you are doing is not
good. 18 You and the people with
you will certainly wear yourselves
out, for the thing is too heavy for
you. You are not able to do it
alone. (Exodus 18)
13. Coping with Interference
B. Jethro demonstrated
wisdom in his counsel.
• Jethro saw the big picture.
• Jethro had the right answer.
14. 19 Now obey my voice; I will give
you advice, and God be with you!
You shall represent the people
before God and bring their cases to
God,
15. 20 and you shall warn them about
the statutes and the laws, and
make them know the way in which
they must walk and what they must
do.
16. 21 Moreover, look for able men from
all the people, men who fear God,
who are trustworthy and hate a
bribe, and place such men over the
people as chiefs of thousands, of
hundreds, of fifties, and of tens.
17. 22 And let them judge the people at
all times. Every great matter they
shall bring to you, but any small
matter they shall decide
themselves. So it will be easier for
you, and they will bear the burden
with you.
18. 23 If you do this, God will direct you,
you will be able to endure, and all
this people also will go to their
place in peace.”
19. Coping with Interference
C. Moses trusted Jethro
and took his advice.
Moses listened to his father-
in-law and did everything he
said. (Ex. 18:24)
24. 2 Samuel 16:23
Now in those days the counsel that
Ahithophel gave was as if one
consulted the word of God; so was
all the counsel of Ahithophel
esteemed, both by David and by
Absalom.
25. Coping with Interference
B. Ahithophel had
ceased to be a faithful
counselor… and David
and Abasalom were
clueless.
27. 21Ahithophel said to Absalom, “Go in
to your father’s concubines, whom he
has left to keep the house, and all
Israel will hear that you have made
yourself a stench to your father, and
the hands of all who are with you will
be strengthened.”
28. 22So they pitched a tent for Absalom
on the roof. And Absalom went in to
his father’s concubines in the sight of
all Israel.
2 Samuel 16
29. 2 Samuel 17
1Moreover, Ahithophel said to
Absalom, “Let me choose twelve
thousand men, and I will arise
and pursue David tonight.
30. Coping with Interference
2I will come upon him while he is
weary and discouraged and
throw him into a panic, and all the
people who are with him will flee.
I will strike down only the king,
31. 3and I will bring all the people
back to you as a bride comes
home to her husband. You seek
the life of only one man,a and all
the people will be at peace.”
34. 2 Samuel 14:25-26
25Now in all Israel there was no
one so much to be praised for his
handsome appearance as
Absalom. From the sole of his
foot to the crown of his head
there was no blemish in him.
35. 26And when he cut the hair of his
head (for at the end of every year
he used to cut it; when it was
heavy on him, he cut it), he
weighed the hair of his head, two
hundred shekels by the king’s
weight.
41. Coping with Interference
2 Samuel 23:34
Eliphelet the son of Ahasbai of
Maacah, Eliam the son of
Ahithophel of Gilo
42. Coping with Interference
2 Samuel 11:3
And David sent and inquired about
the woman. And one said, “Is not
thislBathsheba,, the wife of Uriah the
daughter of Eliam the Hittite?”
46. Coping with Interference
Walled Boundaries
People with walled boundaries
have generally been deeply hurt by
others and have erected barriers to
prevent being hurt again…
47. Coping with Interference
Example of Walled
Boundaries
“Watch a goat from the front,
a horse from behind and a
man from every side”
48. Coping with Interference
No Boundaries
A person with no boundaries is
unable to prevent unwanted
intrusions and may be unaware
that it is possible to do so.
49. Coping with Interference
Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries though not
perfect, allow a person to
experience a comfortable
interdependence with other people.
50. Coping with Interference
Healthy Boundaries
Healthy Boundaries result in
generally functional relationships
and positive self-regard.
51. Coping with Interference
Healthy Attitudes
Hannah
Whitall
Smith
“Nothing else but seeing
God in everything can
make us loving and patient
with those who annoy us…
52. Coping with Interference
When we realize that they are the
only instruments for
accomplishing His purpose in our
lives, we will actually be able to
thank them inwardly for the
blessings they bring us.”
Editor's Notes
Coping with Interference
What do you do when you are blessed with unsolicited advice on how to manage your life and raise your family?
Rudyard Kipling once wrote about families, “all of us are we—and everyone else is they.” A family shares things like dreams, hopes, possessions, memories, smiles, frowns, and gladness...A family is a clan held together with the glue of love and the cement of mutual respect. A family is shelter from the storm, a friendly port when the waves of life become too wild. No person is ever alone who is a member of a family.
As you heard that description of the family as a clan held together with the glue of love and the cement of mutual respect, did any of you think in your mind, you haven’t met my family?
As I read Kipling’s picture of the family as a shelter from the storms of life and a safe haven, were there some of you snickering to yourself and thinking, “My family is the storm from which I need a safe haven?”
Anonymous Quote on Pinterest
“You don't like drama? Funny how your name comes up as executive producer on every single episode around you.”
Between our highest hopes and our worst nightmares lies the truth of our existence. The real world in which we live.
One of these truths is that our family, the place we look to for support and encouragement, is at times the place where we are most beleaguered and discouraged.
This morning, we are going to look at several biblical texts in which a family member gives unsolicited advice. In this way, I hope that we can gain some insight in how to receive such feedback, especially when we’re not asking for help.
First Thought
Carefully consider the unsolicited advice of a godly person who has demonstrated love and concern.
Exodus 18
13 The next day Moses sat to judge the people, and the people stood around Moses from morning till evening.
14 When Moses' father-in-law saw all that he was doing for the people, he said, …
STOP… Proceed with Caution…
Is this the right time?
Am I the right person?
Is what I’m about the say the right advice?
Have I consulted with God?
A. Jethro had earned the earned the right to be heard
He provided Moses with a safe haven when he was a fugitive from Pharaoh’s wrath. Jethro gave him a wife, a job and the privileges of a son. (Ex. 2)
Jethro released Moses from his family responsibilities so that he could fulfill God’s call to deliver Israel.
Jethro provided for Moses’ wife and children in his absence.
Preaching Note… We have to earn the right to be heard.
“Influence can be defined as earning the right to be heard so that others are moved toward their best.” (Pam Farrel)
B. Jethro demonstrated wisdom in his counsel.
Jethro saw the big picture.
Moses one man judicial system was no good for Israel. It prohibited swift justice.
Moses solo act was also no good for him. It would lead to burn-out.
14 When Moses' father-in-law saw all that he was doing for the people, he said, “What is this that you are doing for the people? Why do you sit alone, and all the people stand around you from morning till evening?”
15 And Moses said to his father-in-law, “Because the people come to me to inquire of God; 16 when they have a dispute, they come to me and I decide between one person and another, and I make them know the statutes of God and his laws.”
17 Moses' father-in-law said to him, “What you are doing is not good. 18 You and the people with you will certainly wear yourselves out, for the thing is too heavy for you. You are not able to do it alone.
B. Jethro demonstrated wisdom in his counsel.
Jethro saw the big picture.
Moses one man judicial system was no good for Israel. It prohibited swift justice.
Moses solo act was also no good for him. It would lead to burn-out.
Jethro had the right answer.
In encouraging Moses to delegate responsibility he helped Moses to build a broader leadership.
In exhorting Moses to personally hear the most difficult cases, he grasped Moses’ unique role as God’s law-giver.
19 Now obey my voice; I will give you advice, and God be with you! You shall represent the people before God and bring their cases to God,
20 and you shall warn them about the statutes and the laws, and make them know the way in which they must walk and what they must do.
21 Moreover, look for able men from all the people, men who fear God, who are trustworthy and hate a bribe, and place such men over the people as chiefs of thousands, of hundreds, of fifties, and of tens.
22 And let them judge the people at all times. Every great matter they shall bring to you, but any small matter they shall decide themselves. So it will be easier for you, and they will bear the burden with you.
23 If you do this, God will direct you, you will be able to endure, and all this people also will go to their place in peace.”
C. Moses trusted Jethro and took his advice.
Moses listened to his father-in-law and did everything he said. (Ex. 18:24)
The leader of Israel proved what is said of him in God’s Word, that he is the humblest of men. Humble enough to receive wise counsel and act upon it.
The Bible is just as full of examples of men who received godly counsel, yet arrogantly rejected it.
King Rehoboam spurned godly counsel to give the people reassurance that he would be a just king. His bragging and bravado cost him most of his kingdom.
King Ahab spurned Micaiah’s warning not to go up against Ramoth Gilead. It cost him his life.
Application
Perhaps there is someone who loves you who sees a mistake you are making.
Perhaps you are spending money you don’t have.
Or, perhaps you are failing to properly discipline your children and they are running amok.
The Bible encourages a teachable spirit.
Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning. (Prov. 9:9)
II. Decline Advice Which Is At Odds With God’s Word and Godly Principles, no matter who gives it.
The two quick ways to disaster are to take nobody’s advice and to take everybody’s advice.”
Dublin Opinion
A. Ahithophel had earned the right to be heard.
Ahithophel was one of David’s most respected counselors.
2 Samuel 16:23
Now in those days the counsel that Ahithophel gave was as if one consulted the word of God; so was all the counsel of Ahithophel esteemed, both by David and by Absalom.
In order to gain such a reputation with the godly and wise King David, Ahithophel must have had a truly impressive track record.
However, the story of Ahithophel is a reminder that even the most sagely and beloved of friends can steer us wrong.
READ 2 Samuel 16:20-22; 17:1-3
B. Ahithophel had ceased to be a faithful counselor… and David was clueless.
2 Samuel 16:20-22
20Then Absalom said to Ahithophel, “Give your counsel. What shall we do?”
21Ahithophel said to Absalom, “Go in to your father’s concubines, whom he has left to keep the house, and all Israel will hear that you have made yourself a stench to your father, and the hands of all who are with you will be strengthened.”
22So they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof. And Absalom went in to his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel.
2 Samuel 16
22So they pitched a tent for Absalom on the roof. And Absalom went in to his father’s concubines in the sight of all Israel.
2 Samuel 16
What motivated Ahithophel’s defection?
David was an aging monarch near the end of his reign.
Absalom was a “rising star”
He may have been awed by Absalom’s natural beauty:
2 Samuel 14:25-26
25Now in all Israel there was no one so much to be praised for his handsome appearance as Absalom. From the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him.
26And when he cut the hair of his head (for at the end of every year he used to cut it; when it was heavy on him, he cut it), he weighed the hair of his head, two hundred shekels by the king’s weight.
2 Samuel 15:6
...and so he stole the hearts of the men of Israel.
Third Thought
Set boundaries with people who offer unsolicited advice for their own Ulterior Motivations.
On a Western Airlines flight to San Francisco, fried chicken tycoon Col. Harland Sanders, 89, had made himself agreeable to staff and fellow passengers, then dropped his chin to his narrow black tie and closed his eyes. Somewhere in the back of the plane a child had been shrieking for some time. One stewardess told another helplessly, “I’ve tried candy, books and games, but nothing seems to make any difference.”
“I’ve got to speak to that child,” said the colonel. He rose to his feet and, with the aid of his cane, made his way back. The staff watched and shrugged, as if to say, “What can he do?”
When the colonel came back, not long afterward, his charm had produced a minor miracle. There was only the sound of chatter, newspapers and china. The stewardess came up to him and said, “Thank you for helping us, Colonel.”
“I didn’t do it for you,” he replied. “I did it for the child.”
And he closed his eyes again and settled down.
Contributed by Helen Dewar, Reader’s Digest
That little story draws a contrast between the stewardess and Colonel Sanders.
The Colonel was thinking of the child.
The stewardess was thinking of her own sanity, and the sanity of other passengers.
It is a reminder that we can operate out of many different motivations, some noble, some neutral and some ulterior.
What motivated Ahithophel’s defection?
A desire for revenge
2 Samuel 23:34
Eliphelet the son of Ahasbai of Maacah, Eliam the son of Ahithophel of Gilo
Samuel 23:34
2 Samuel 11:3
And David sent and inquired about the woman. And one said, “Is not thislBathsheba,, the wife of Uriah the daughter of Eliam the Hittite?”
The answer in sorting through advice is the establishing of boundaries.
Before building appropriate boundaries, it is important that we understand that there are some unhealthy types of boundaries which work against the formation of healthy relationships.
Damaged Boundaries
Damaged boundaries operate inconsistently and often dysfunctionally. They are the result of mixed messages and abuse, and are usually related to abusive relationships in the individual's family of origin and/or relationships of choice.
Walled Boundaries
Walls protect the person who has constructed them but do not let anything in or out. This person lives in a state of loneliness, possibly protected from the assaults of others, but also prevented from establishing trusting and intimate relationships. People with walled boundaries have generally been deeply hurt by others and have erected barriers to prevent being hurt again by others' actions, thoughts and feelings.
Example of Walled Boundaries
“Watch a goat from the front, a horse from behind and a man from every side”
No Boundaries
No boundaries is the opposite extreme from walled ones. A person with no boundaries is unable to prevent unwanted intrusions and may be unaware that it is possible to do so.
Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries though not perfect, allow a person to experience a comfortable interdependence with other people, resulting in generally functional relationships and positive self-regard. They are:
Existent
Consistent
Permeable – Like a Cell Membrane which allows good things in and keeps toxins out.
Healthy Boundaries
Healthy boundaries though not perfect, allow a person to experience a comfortable interdependence with other people, resulting in generally functional relationships and positive self-regard. They are:
Existent
Consistent
Permeable – Like a Cell Membrane which allows good things in and keeps toxins out.
Nothing else but seeing God in everything can make us loving and patient with those who annoy us
When we realize that they are the only instruments for accomplishing His purpose in our lives, we will actually be able to thank them inwardly for the blessings they bring us.
-- Hannah Whitall Smith