3. She is MBA, M.A. In Economics, M.A in
Psychology, M-Phil in Psychology and PhD
in Psychology as well.
Dr. Reddy is a Psychologist, Counsellor and
runs a public trust named C3D, an initiative
based in Pune. An accomplished and much
requested lecturer, she speaks at various
sessions in the areas of couple relations,
parenting, child psychology, and suicidal
prevention. Dr. GAYAATRI
REDDY
7. • People Pleasers are one of the
nicest and most helpful people you
know.
• They never say “NO.”
• People Pleasing can it lead to
mental health problems, it can also
manifest as physical ailments
including cancer!
Are You a People Pleaser?
8. PEOPLE PLEASER - “ DO
THINGS RIGHT”
GENEROUS PERSON - “ DO
THE RIGHT THINGS”
9.
10. ● Some people make you
please them again and again
and this group is called
MANIPULATORS in
psychology.
● These could be your parents,
friends, spouse etc. whom
you cannot say NO.
WHO ARE MANIPULATORS,
and how they create PP?
11. • She is a 32 year old mother of 2 boys, She is a
teacher. She is 15 kgs overweight and hasn’t
lost any weight. She spends all her
day…………..
The Story of Bhavana
12. • Bhavana is a People Pleaser.
• How?
The Story of Bhavana
13. • Why am I a People Pleaser?
• Psychologically, the intense need to please
and care for others is deeply rooted in
either a fear of rejection and/or fear of
failure.
• Fear of Rejection …………………………………..to
make this person happy they might leave or stop
caring for me.
WHY?
14. • DIFFERENCE between a generous
person and people pleaser ?
• Hint – how they feel!
Activity
15. • Conditional love …………..as a kid!
• Fear of Failure is the underlying feeling that
“If I make a mistake, I will disappoint people
and/or be punished.” again from parents or
school
WHY?
16. • Neglect of self – People Pleasers devote very
little time to taking care of their own health…...
However, you cannot do this at the expense of
yourself. A balance is needed! You cannot be a good
helper if you aren’t well!
An Ambulance without petrol is not useful!
Characteristics
17. • Passive aggression and/or
resentment –
……………………………..unexpressed
anger often turns into passive
aggression. , making your heart
physically weaker.
BIOLOGY OF BELIEF – DR BRUCE
LIPTON
Characteristics
18. • Reduces ability to enjoy other people and
activities.76% of women who are depressed are
PP.
• Stress and Depression – If you have the
constant feeling like you are too busy and doing
everything for everyone.
Characteristics
19.
20. • Be taken advantage of – You may become the
target of exploitive people because they will
quickly see that you can’t say no and take as much
as they can from you.
We teach people how to treat us by the
behavior we accept or reject from them.
Characteristics
21. • Fear of anger or fights /disagreements- …..if
everyone is used to you saying yes, they may feel
disappointed or angry when you begin to say no.
• Keep reminding yourself of the Ambulance.
Characteristics
22. • What message do we send our loved ones by
being a people pleaser ?
• What do they think of us truly ?
23.
24. • People pleasers are sacrificing their own health for
others. Stop doing so because . Stop being dishonest
with others.
• Be truthful to your real self.
• Lead a healthy life.
• It takes practice like everything else.
Solutions
25. • Communicating your feelings is the only way to
avoid People pleasing .
• Speaking up also puts people on notice that they will be
informed when they have done something that has upset
you.
26. • CAUSES
• CHARACTERISTICS
• PROBLEMS
• DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A
GENEROUS PERSON AND
PEOPLE PLEASER.
• SOLUTIONS
SUMMARY
