4. TWO NOTIONS
RECONCILIATION
A social process.
Construction of results.
Complete or
incomplete.
FORGIVENESS
An individual process.
Particular decisions.
5. RECONCILIATION
COMPLETE
Comes from feelings
and thoughts of the
offended society as a
whole.
Laws.
It is a purpose.
INCOMPLETE
Comes from the
relationship between
the people affected and
the offenders.
It is a direct practice.
It is not always
proportional to laws.
It is realistic.
6. The distance between the experience of
reconciliation of the people involved in the
conflict and government policies is huge.
Besides, it limits the effective possibilities of
reconciliation in the country.
7. Truth, justice and reparation for all the
cases of affected people are not
possible.
Then, reconciliation must consider
those limitations.
Reconciliation is a goal to prevent, in
the first place, new acts of direct
violence and destruction.
INCOMPLETE
RECONCILIATION
8. The proposal is to explain the
experience of reconciliation that is
based on the relationship between
the offenders and the people
affected by the conflict. By means of
such an experience it is possible to
identify effective conditions for
conflict transformation.
9. This path to reconciliation is
characterized by tension
between appreciative conditions
in the relationship (through
shared living conditions) and
the discomfort resulting from
violence in affected individuals.
10. Dialogue, permanent verbalization
and accompanying processes of
collective memory are the most
important conditions which have
made it possible to move towards
reconciliation processes in small
communities in Colombia.
11. Reconciliation is a slow
process, which has lasted
for several generations.
However, it is a way to
achieve the conflict
transformation.
The most important
thing is to renounce to
violence as a form of
relationship.
12. { A realistic and appreciative
perspective:
Incomplete reconciliation is similar to
imperfect peace, but it is a complete and
perfect way to live together.
