sociology

1. OptionB: Divorce & Love
When interviewing My uncle who is a 56-year-old man he was very forth coming. He seemed to
enjoy the fact that I asked him “how has your love changed through various staged of dating,
engagement, newlywed, and marriage”. His voice was full of excitement as if he was ready to
tell his life and stories to me. Although this was supposed to be about a 30-minute interview,
we sat and talked for 2 hours. I was exhausted and very overwhelmed with his experiences of
love and lost.
Needless to say, I learned a lot from this conversation. He expressed that falling in love is the
most beautiful aspect of life. You are filled with so much hope and optimism. He carried on
saying” It’s like a drug that you can never fulfill through any substance”. The engagement keeps
you prepared for another stage of preparation to wed. Once you go through the success of
marriage you feel inevitable life has a new meaning.
He then carries on expressing the huge fiasco behind the perplexes of love. He That he rushed
into something that was not full blossomed. Both families pressured the whole engagement
and with age he grew apart from his wife. The realized they married young and were not ready
for life’s obstacles. Basically, financial issues caused the relationship to come to a halt.
As a divorced man, he felt depression and in pain while he lived 10 years in regret. Life became
meaningless, children separated and finances are unstable. This was not the life he planned.
Break ups are typically painful because few relationships end by mutual consent (Strong,
DeVault, Cohen, 164). Of course, we never plan to fail but it’s okay to go through life and learn
from a painful past.
Learning from his past relationship My uncle became reluctant of a new romance. He could not
help when love came around again and he fell harder than ever. He was living in a new state
and starting over when his new life love came along. His fear of marriage never allowed him to
be engaged again. Unrequited love played its role to not have the desire to marry again. Love
that is not returned coincides with fear and jealousy of rejection (Strong, DeVault, Cohen,166).
He simply could not deal with his past mistakes and chose to never remarry again. The
high(love/marriage) was to great where the low(Divorce/depression) became unbearable.
The result of his failed transcended into bitterness. He has no desire to ever marry his current
girlfriend of 23 years, because his past marriage was so emotionally heartbreaking he has
guarded his feeling of ever reaching that high of love again.
I learned through his story to be careful who you give your heart to because the results may be
painful if it “all falls down”. I learned to reject regret and always enter a relationship with a
sense of imperfection. Although my uncle redeemed his love life he will always carry his failures
to the end of his life. He explained to me, that love is the worst feeling to ever lose and the
“grass is not greener on the other side”, unless you are willing to gamble with your heart and

2. hide behind a fictional smile to please others. He now lives in peace with his decision of
companionship. I personal still believe in finding true love.