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Human Connection: The Key to a Beneficial Pairing Experience (Agile Testing Days 2022)
The document discusses the importance of human connection in creating a beneficial pairing experience, structured as a narrative in four chapters: origin, journey, impact, and actionable advice. It emphasizes key strategies for effective collaboration, such as clarification of expectations, mutual respect, and acknowledgment of each other's contributions. The authors share lessons learned from a series of workshops to enhance partnerships and promote individual growth and shared ownership.
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- 1. HUMAN CONNECTION The Keyto a Beneficial Pairing Experience @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Shiva Krishnan & Lisi Hocke
- 2. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke AStory in 4 Chapters
- 3. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke AStory in 4 Chapters Origin How did it all start?
- 4. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke AStory in 4 Chapters Origin How did it all start? Journey What did we learn?
- 5. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke AStory in 4 Chapters Origin How did it all start? Journey What did we learn? Impact What changed? You What can you do?
- 6. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke AStory in 4 Chapters Origin How did it all start? Journey What did we learn? Impact What changed? You What can you do?
- 7. ORIGIN How did itall start? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 8. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke SHIVA‘SLEADERSHIP WORKSHOP SERIES
- 9. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke LET’SWORKTOGETHER
- 10. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke HOWABOUT PAIRING?
- 11. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke SOIT ALL STARTED…
- 12. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT
- 13. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants
- 14. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants 6 half-day workshops
- 15. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants 6 half-day workshops Additional offers in between
- 16. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants 6 half-day workshops Additional offers in between Several follow- up sessions
- 17. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants 6 half-day workshops Overall nearly 1 year Additional offers in between Several follow- up sessions
- 18. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke ABIT MORE CONTEXT 10 participants 6 half-day workshops Overall nearly 1 year Additional offers in between Several follow- up sessions Re-creating the whole series from the ground
- 19. JOURNEY What did welearn? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 20. SETTING OURSELVES UPFOR A GOOD START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 21. SETTING OURSELVES UPFOR A GOOD START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke What are our expectations?
- 22. SETTING OURSELVES UPFOR A GOOD START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke What are our expectations? What is important to each of us? Why?
- 23. SETTING OURSELVES UPFOR A GOOD START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke What are our expectations? What is important to each of us? Why? What can put us at ease?
- 24. SETTING OURSELVES UPFOR A GOOD START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke What are our expectations? Where are our boundaries? What is important to each of us? Why? What can put us at ease?
- 25. WHAT IS ACONTRACT? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 26. WHAT IS ACONTRACT? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “Contracting” is a concept from Transactional Analysis, a psychoanalytic theory and method of therapy or coaching
- 27. WHAT IS ACONTRACT? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Explicit bilateral commitment to a well- defined course of action (Eric Berne, 1966) “Contracting” is a concept from Transactional Analysis, a psychoanalytic theory and method of therapy or coaching
- 28. TYPES OF CONTRACTS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke
- 29. TYPES OF CONTRACTS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Procedural • Admin stuff • Time, place, money
- 30. TYPES OF CONTRACTS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Procedural • Admin stuff • Time, place, money Professional • Expectations from each role • Understand responsibilities
- 31. TYPES OF CONTRACTS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Procedural • Admin stuff • Time, place, money Professional • Expectations from each role • Understand responsibilities Psychological • Style of working • Underlying dynamics • Unspoken Feelings
- 32. OUR INITIAL CONTRACT(EXCERPT) @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 33. OUR INITIAL CONTRACT(EXCERPT) Procedural “We have 1 feedback call after each workshop” @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 34. OUR INITIAL CONTRACT(EXCERPT) Procedural “We have 1 feedback call after each workshop” Professional “When facilitating, we expect each other to align and potentially communicate a change of plans via our back channel chat” @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 35. OUR INITIAL CONTRACT(EXCERPT) Procedural “We have 1 feedback call after each workshop” Professional “When facilitating, we expect each other to align and potentially communicate a change of plans via our back channel chat” Psychological “We can feel safe to talk about boundaries when crossed” @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 36. WHATWE IMAGINED OURJOURNEYTO LOOK LIKE WITH SUCH A GREAT START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 37. WHATWE IMAGINED OURJOURNEYTO LOOK LIKE WITH SUCH A GREAT START @shiv_krish & @lisihocke … and how it actually went
- 38. CONTRACTING & RE-CONTRACTING @shiv_krish& @lisihocke
- 39. CONTRACTING & RE-CONTRACTING @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Unspoken assumptions
- 40. CONTRACTING & RE-CONTRACTING @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Unspoken assumptions → Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions
- 41. GENUINE APPRECIATIONS @shiv_krish &@lisihocke
- 42. GENUINE APPRECIATIONS @shiv_krish &@lisihocke Uncertainty: am I safe with the other person?
- 43. GENUINE APPRECIATIONS @shiv_krish &@lisihocke Uncertainty: am I safe with the other person? → Appreciate and acknowledge
- 44. PRACTICE WHAT WEPREACH @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 45. PRACTICE WHAT WEPREACH @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Negative impact on participants
- 46. PRACTICE WHAT WEPREACH @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Negative impact on participants → Influence each other positively
- 47. LEVERAGING OUR STRENGTHS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke
- 48. LEVERAGING OUR STRENGTHS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Failing to cater to our needs
- 49. LEVERAGING OUR STRENGTHS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Failing to cater to our needs → Align on how you work well together
- 50. TREAT AS EQUALS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke
- 51. TREAT AS EQUALS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Dismissing each other’s ideas
- 52. TREAT AS EQUALS @shiv_krish& @lisihocke Dismissing each other’s ideas → Respect each other and treat each other with dignity
- 53. SOWHAT MADE PAIRINGWORK FOR US? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 54. SOWHAT MADE PAIRINGWORK FOR US? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Investing in the human connection was the key for us
- 55. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 56. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions
- 57. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions 2. Appreciate and acknowledge
- 58. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions 2. Appreciate and acknowledge 3. Influence each other positively
- 59. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions 2. Appreciate and acknowledge 3. Influence each other positively 4. Align on how you work well together
- 60. FIVETHINGSTHAT MADE ADIFFERENCE FOR USWHEN PAIRING @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions 2. Appreciate and acknowledge 3. Influence each other positively 4. Align on how you work well together 5. Respect and treat each other with dignity
- 61. IMPACT Was changed? @shiv_krish &@lisihocke
- 62. PERSONAL GROWTH –LEARNING ASWE TEACH & LEADING BY EXAMPLE @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 63. SHARED OWNERSHIP –IT BECAME “OURS” @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 64. WAY MORE IMPACTFULWORKSHOPS –WE COULDN’T HAVE DONETHIS ON OUR OWN @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 65. YOU What can youdo? @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 66. REMINDER:WHAT WORKED FORUS @shiv_krish & @lisihocke 1. Clarify expectations, needs and assumptions 2. Appreciate and acknowledge 3. Influence each other positively 4. Align on how you work well together 5. Respect and treat each other with dignity
- 67. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke
- 68. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “How can I let you know if something is not working?”
- 69. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “How can I let you know if something is not working?” “What is our time and space for appreciations?”
- 70. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “How can I let you know if something is not working?” “What is our time and space for appreciations?” “How will we keep each other accountable?”
- 71. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “What do you need so we can work well together?” “How can I let you know if something is not working?” “What is our time and space for appreciations?” “How will we keep each other accountable?”
- 72. FIVE QUESTIONSTO ASKYOURPAIR @shiv_krish & @lisihocke “What do you need so we can work well together?” “How can I let you know if something is not working?” “What is our time and space for appreciations?” “How will we keep each other accountable?” “What will make you think we own this together?”
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- 74. @shiv_krish & @lisihocke HUMANCONNECTION The Key to a Beneficial Pairing Experience
- 75. HUMAN CONNECTION The Keyto a Beneficial Pairing Experience @shiv_krish & @lisihocke Recommended resources: bit.ly/leadershipResources Thank you!