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《為你而讀 知識社群》#21 @ 9/13 藉著《冷暴力》這本書,教大家覺察、教大家脫離、也教大家避免成為這種暴力的始作俑者。
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冷暴力
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Tai 為你而讀#21 冷暴力 揭開日常生活中精神虐待的真相 • 作者Marie-France Hirigoyen 瑪麗法蘭 絲‧依里戈楊 著 • 顧淑馨 譯 • 醫學博士,精神科醫 師,深入研究「受害 者學」
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Tai 為你而讀#21 怎樣才叫做精神虐待? 型 態 舉證 目的 顯現在 制止 硬暴力 有 形 有證據 打擊對 方肉體 有公共 性 可以公 共手段 制止 冷暴力 無 形 不易舉 證 打擊對 方精神 多數是 私人暴 力 在私人 或私人 親密空 間 不易 制止
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Tai 為你而讀#21 米列娃‧瑪利奇(Mileva Maric)
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Tai 為你而讀#21 米列娃‧瑪利奇(Mileva Maric) A. 你應負責 1 我的內衣褲和床單要整整齊齊 2. 準備我一日三餐在辦公室吃 C. 我的臥室和辦公室永保整潔,我的辦公桌 除了我誰也不能碰
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Tai 為你而讀#21 米列娃‧瑪利奇(Mileva Maric) B. 你斷絕與我的一切個人關係,除了為保持 表面和樂所必要者 尤其你不可要求: 1. 我在家裡陪你同坐 2. 我與你去旅遊
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Tai 為你而讀#21 米列娃‧瑪利奇(Mileva Maric) C. 你要明確保證遵守以下規定 1. 勿期待我的愛,也勿因此責怪我 2. 我對你說話時要立即回答我 3. 在我要求時,你要馬上離開我的房間和辦 公室,不可抗議 4. 你保證不在孩子面前以言行詆毀我
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Tai 為你而讀#21 愛因斯坦的老婆 米列娃‧瑪利奇(Mileva Maric)
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Tai 為你而讀#21 惡性循環 加害者一連串 故意的行為 引發焦慮 啟動防備機制 加害者更加憤 怒,引起新的 攻擊 被害者更加心 生畏懼,更加 激動的防衛
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者篇 • 恨意 • 妒意 • 占為己有 • 上對下的關係 • 被迫害情結 • 無視對方為人的本質
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者篇 • 害怕 • 自戀性格 • 吸血鬼個性 • 不負責任 • 偏執
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者-手段篇 • 拒絕直接溝通 • 言語扭曲
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者-手段篇 • 謊言 • 運用諷刺、嘲笑、輕蔑 • 利用矛盾 • 否定人格 • 分化與征服 • 展現強勢
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者-職場篇 • 組織紊亂會產生壓力: – 職務定義不明 – 組織環境不穩定 – 缺乏協調 • 有些企業是「榨汁機」 – 想像式管理 – 黃金奴工
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Tai 為你而讀#21 虐待者-與你我無關? • 白目菜鳥 • 你突然看對方不順眼了 • 「我覺得我可以」 • 「這對象不需要愛」
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Tai 為你而讀#21 受虐者篇 • 自卑情結,為了合理化而倒果為因 • 被虐待狂? • 自責、樂觀積極 • 工作狂 • 無法發現自己的被害狀態 • 太愛對方了
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Tai 為你而讀#21 受虐者篇 • 關係像蹺蹺板
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Tai 為你而讀#21 受虐者篇-被鎖定的原因 • 缺乏 • 佔有 • 寄生的宿主 • 錯的時機、地點 • 良心又天性愛責怪自己的人 • 無法想像加害者號破壞的本性 • 童年創傷的遠因
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Tai 為你而讀#21 解決方案 • 忽視的後果: – 短期:退縮、混亂、懷疑、壓力、孤立 – 長期:震驚、代償不良、分手(投降並接 受宰制、為求去而反抗)、後遺症(廣泛性 焦慮、慢性疲勞、失眠)
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Tai 為你而讀#21 解決方案 • 家庭、兩性 – 第三者的見證施虐畫面 – 洞察 – 冷靜客觀地分析問題,把(自己身為受虐 者的)罪惡感擺一邊 – 停止為自己辯解 – 堅決行動,不畏衝突 – 心理對抗 – 法律介入
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Tai 為你而讀#21 解決方案 • 職場 – 組織內求助 – 心理對抗 – 行動 – 法律
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Tai 為你而讀#21 解決方案 • 心態 – 陳述虐行 – 免於罪惡感 – 痛苦是自身值得尊重的一部份。唯有接受, 才能讓被害人不再痛苦和欺騙自己。
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Tai 為你而讀#21 心態 • 「療癒要從記憶著手,再藉著遺忘前進。」 – 法國哲學家保羅‧呂格爾(Paul Ricoeur)
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Tai 為你而讀#21 心態 • 內在被加害者掏空之處,會產生磁鐵般 吸引能量。 • 「覺悟不會輕而易舉地來自一般痛苦, 只能出於極度創傷之苦。由此產生的次 級現象或補償因素,能彌補心裏的癱 瘓」
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Tai 為你而讀#21 心態 • 於是,「精神虐待」一詞取得了新的意義: • 人生的一場「試煉」
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Tai 為你而讀#21 蔡依林:感謝那些曾經不看好我的 人
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Tai 為你而讀#21 漢娜的遺言 • 面對校園霸凌 • 別讓自己成為推手、 或冷眼的幫兇
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Tai 為你而讀#21 冷暴力 揭開日常生活中精神虐待的真相 • Thanks for your listening.
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