Marriage after the affair is often difficult. But it is very possible. But before you can work on it, you have to be prepared for the difficult and painful tasks ahead. read on to learn what will be most important to your success!

1. Marriage After the Affair - Are You Ready for What Is to Come?
Marriage after the affair is possible. In fact, it is very possible. But in order to make things work, there
is a certain process that takes place. There must be honest discussion, reflection and a concrete action
plan. If both parties are willing, they can survive an affair.
Unfortunately, all the best intentions could be for naught if the foundation is not laid out before the
process gets started. It is like trying to be build a house with no foundation, where the weight of the
house, or in this case the pain and emotional suffering, eventually become too much and the whole
thing crumbles to the ground.
What is needed is a solid foundation. Before moving on, let me explain what usually happens to the
injured spouse after their husband or wife has cheated. They start to visualize their spouse with another
person, painting intimate pictures that cause a lot of emotional pain and anguish. They start to wonder
why their husband or wife did this to them. They worry about whether they will ever be able to trust
their significant other again. Why was I betrayed?
These are perfectly normal reactions. We as humans tend to always try to find rational answers to
emotional issues. It is in our nature. But this process is counterproductive. What the injured spouse is
essentially doing is called externalizing. He or she is trying to find outside reasons to satisfy internal
emotional issues. More simply, this leads to making excuses. After enough externalizing, they start to
wonder if they were not the cause for the infidelity. "Maybe I was not a good enough wife" or maybe I
was not a good enough lover to her". Externalizing prevents the proper foundation from being laid
down.
Before you can work on marriage after the affair, you need to focus on yourself. You need to start the
emotional healing that will allow you to face the difficult and heartbreaking challenges that lie ahead.
Only then will you be able to look at the circumstances in an objective and constructive matter. With
this healing will come the strength to formulate a good plan that will allow you to successfully deal
with the many hurdles to come. The road ahead is difficult and will often be painful. But if you believe
that your marriage deserves another chance then a stronger "you" will be essential to the success of
your marriage after the affair.
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Marriage After the Affair - Are You Ready for What Is to Come?