Why You’re Stuck – With Derek Doepker In this episode, bestselling author Derek Doepker goes over exactly why you might be feeling stuck in any area of your life. He shares how to create better habits, how to reach your goals, and why you might need to embrace “4 value logic”. He also covers the 6 human needs that we need in order to be happy. Derek is like a walking encyclopedia of personal development and there’s a lot to learn in this episode. http://rachelrofe.com/why-youre-stuck-with-derek-doepker Want More? If you liked this, there’s plenty more where it come from. Let’s stay in touch! We can connect in any of these places: Main website: http://www.RachelRofe.com A Better Life Podcast – where these transcripts are taken from: http://www.rachelrofe.com/podcast Rachel's books – Learn new ways to improve your life: http://www.rachelrofe.com/booklist Twitter: http://www.Twitter.com/RachelRofe Twitter: http://www.Twitter.com/AbetterlifeRR Instagram: http://www.Instagram.com/RachelRofe Instagram: http://www.Instagram.com/chooseabette... YouTube: http://www.YouTube.com/RachelRofe YouTube: http://www.YouTube.com/Chooseabetterlife Did you miss our last episode? You can get it here: http://rachelrofe.com/how-to-handle-being-energy-sensitive-with-hadley-gustin

1. DEREK
DOEPKER

2. Derek is the author of multiple number one
bestselling books, including Why You're Stuck
and 50 Fitness Tips You Wish You Knew. In
2012, he founded the blog, Excuse Proof Fitness
to help people who are busy, broke, or
unmotivated, find simple solutions to any of
their challenges. Derek is passionate about
empowering people to discover solutions to their
own challenges by using simple tricks to unlock
the brain's creative problem-solving ability. He
spent years studying the world's top
psychologists and personal development experts
to piece together the most powerful and practical
tools for transforming anyone's life.

4. So, he thinks one of the big accomplishments
that he had early on was he’s actually a musician
and a guitar player. So when he was twelve years
old, he got into playing guitar and that was one of
the early winds that he had, was he got really good
at it and it taught him that he could put his mind
into something, practice, be horrible at it when he
first get into it, but actually really develop his
skills and that taught him a lot about the growth
mindset. And so he got his degree in music,
graduated with honors from Belmont University
and that was one of his big accomplishments was
getting his music degree and a lot of the
experiences he got there.

5. Another big accomplishment that he had that he's
really proud of would be publishing books and
some books that have become number one best-
sellers at this point. And that's not something he
would have ever expected himself to do or pull off.
If you would of asked him five years ago, if he
could of even done something like that, he doesn't
think that was even possible. So going through
that journey and doing that.

7. And then through that, he thinks one thing now
that he wakes up each day and he's so grateful for
as he thinks about it is that he basically has a
lifestyle where he's managed to achieve a certain
degree of financial freedom where he can wake up
and he can do what he loves for a living. Because
he knows just thinking back to the times in his life
where he was working at a job and not that he had
the worst jobs in the world, but there's just
something that's kind of unfulfilling when he
knew that he had more potential and talent.

8. He had something to offer the world and he
wasn't really able to share that with people
because he was kind of stuck in these jobs. So now
that he gets to wake up and have the freedom to
do what he wants and really hopefully help people
and help transform their lives in the way that his
life has been transformed from some of the coaches
and the mentors that he had. That's he thinks
really the ultimate highlight for him and his life
right now.

10. One of the things he guess, another point of
accomplishment is with his health and fitness.
Back when he was 18 years old, probably about 17,
18 obviously still in high school, and up to that
point actually with his health habits, he was eating
fast food every single night. He can still remember
his Mom trying to like make him a healthy meal
and used to have to go to McDonald's or
something.

11. He wasn't overweight necessarily, but he just,
terrible shape and in terms of his performance at
gym class and stuff like that so it happened where
he read a book that opened his mind, expanded his
awareness about the consequences that the
different foods and his lifestyle choice was having
on him. It was through that kind of started me on
this journey of health and fitness which would
later tie in to a lot of the other things he learned
about psychology and motivation and personal
development. And so at the age of 18, he went and
he got into the gym, he was working out, multiple
times a week, completely transformed his diet and
got in, great shape and he kept that up for the past
ten years of his life.

12. So what that showed him was that he wasn't really
stuck with this identity that he had or with his
habits. He could go from hating something, hating
exercise, hating healthy food, and he learned that
there's simple things that he could do and
reframing things and working with his psychology
to actually embrace those things and love them
and make it a part of his lifestyle. And when he
saw that was possible just in that one area of life,
health and fitness, then it started getting him to
think, can he do this with other areas of his life,
with his social skills, with just developing the habit
of being happier, or all these other things.

13. As well as if he can transform herself like that,
would it be possible to teach other people how to
do the same? So that's been kind of the journey.
He's 28 years old now, so it's been about ten years
of really digging deep into understanding how
that transformation took place in myself. So that
he could duplicate it in other areas in his life and
being able to share those insights with other
people, so they can have their own break through
transformations.

15. The book is called The Wrinkle Cure by Nicholas
Perricone. So kind of an interesting book to read at
18 years old. And he doesn't remember exactly
how he first heard about it, but it gave a lot of the
science behind it. And he guess he's a little bit
more of an objective scientific person. So reading
about that really opened his mind to this idea and
this is an important concept that it's not about the
consequences that are going to happen to him
when he's 80 years old, if he eats a poor diet.

16. It's realizing that his lack of energy, the
fatigue that he was feeling, a lot of things that he
was going through at that moment in time were a
direct consequence of his diet. It made him realize
that he didn't necessarily have 30 years that he
could just keep eating how he was eating before it
would catch up with him. He was doing damage
to his body, right at that moment. Every time he
chose to just indulge in terribly unhealthy foods.
So that was the book and that's one of the big shifts
that took place for me.

19. So in terms of social skills, he thinks, if there's
one book he can recommend it would be “How to
Win Friends and Influence People”. So he think the
first keyword there is even skill. And skill is
something that can be developed. So before
anything, any change took place in hsi life or if it
was with his diet or his social skills, it took having
a growth mindset. The realization that he's not
stuck at his current level. He can always practice
these things. He can always learn new skills, work
on it and get better.

20. Because if a person doesn't believe they can get
better, if they believe, "Well, I'm just I'm the
way I am, nothing I could do about it," then, no
change can take place from that mindset. So
first of all, realizing, "Okay I can read this book,
it's going to share tips and advice with me."

23. And one of the things that helped him, let's say
with that book is because he is very much an
introvert. He embraces it. He loves that quality
about him. But he's not one to necessarily talk
about trivial things and he didn't appreciate it.
And so reading that book taught him to
appreciate, things like, taking an interest in other
people, being more interested in them versus
trying to get other people interested in him, the
value of small talk and why we engage in small
talk and how you can use that to lead to something
else.

24. So he had to understand it. He had to appreciate
it and then in terms of the practical application,
it was really just a matter of shooting for really
small targets when it comes to developing these
things.

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