This is a condensed slide deck from my Fall 2018 section of The Art of Self-Coaching at the Stanford Graduate School of Business.

1. The art of
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Ed Batista
Class 8: UNHAPPINESS
Spring 2018
self-coaching

2. Unhappiness
Everyone you meet
is fighting a battle
you know nothing about.
~ Wendy Mass

3. Unhappiness
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The absence of happiness?
A legitimate feeling
A fruitful state

4. Not a deep dive
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5. Positive
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psychology
Connections with today
Importance of meaning
Emotion management
Mental models

6. Downsides
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Banish unhappiness?
Peterson: Blame the victim
Agency  “I’m responsible”
& limits

7. Stoicism
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8. Stoicism
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Things do not touch the soul.
Our perturbations come only
from the opinion which is within.
~Marcus Aurelius

9. Stoicism
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Not “stoicism”
Equanimity ≠ Weary resignation

10. Stoicism
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What is happiness?
Equanimity & tranquility
(Eudaimonia, not mere pleasure)

11. Stoicism
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Cultivate equanimity & tranquility
Turn toward negative emotions
(Growth mindset)
(Meta-emotion)

12. Stoicism
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Distress stems from our beliefs & judgments
Turn infinite fears into finite ones
(Emotion management)
(Mental models)

13. Buddhism
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14. Buddhism
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Maybe the most important teaching
is to lighten up and relax.
~Pema Chödrön

15. Buddhism
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Seeking pleasure is an opportunity to observe
what we do in the face of pain.
~Pema Chödrön

16. Buddhism
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Resisting our addiction to avoiding pain
Being inquisitive & open to experience
(Comfort with discomfort)
(Mindfulness)

17. Buddhism
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What we call obstacles are really the way
the world teaches us where we’re stuck.
~Pema Chödrön
(Mental models)

18. Buddhism
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A strong feeling will arise, and instead of
simply letting it be there, we panic.
~Pema Chödrön
(Meta-emotion)

19. Buddhism
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Death is wanting to have every experience
confirm you and congratulate you and
make you feel completely together.
~Pema Chödrön
(Growth mindset)

20. Logotherapy
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21. Logotherapy
Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.
~Viktor Frankl

22. Logotherapy
At odds with positive psychology?
Eudaimonia, not mere pleasure
The importance of meaning
Agency & responsibility

23. Logotherapy
Everywhere man is confronted with fate,
with the chance of achieving something
through his own suffering.
~Viktor Frankl

24. Logotherapy
Man’s search for meaning is the
primary motivation in his life.
~Viktor Frankl

25. Logotherapy
It is possible to practice the art of living
even in a concentration camp,
although suffering is omnipresent.
~ Viktor Frankl

26. For next time…
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27. Success
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28. Success
Sonja Lyubomirsky on myths
David Foster Wallace on values
Peter Drucker (optional) on self-management
…and an exercise

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An exercise…

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Managing
Oneself Worksheet

31. Managing
Complete after doing the assigned readings
Oneself Worksheet

32. Other items…
Slides posted on my site
Weekly assignment due Wed Nov 27, 9pm
1:1 meetings today in B206 (the usual location)