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Family Love Friends

  1. 1. THE BIRTH OF LOVE The Birth of Love. Stepping stones guide us hand in hand through the friendship gardens; decorated with an assortment of flowers--each aroma soothing our senses as we pass by. [I want this time to last forever, just as our hearts have loved one another through tough times.] I smile as my eyes catch a hidden white rose. I pick it up to observe my new treasure--twirling its prickled stem betwixt my fingertips as I listen to your angelic laughter. The unique melody of your chortle caresses the air--as our lips brush gently. [This moment amazes me and I hope to never forget our time shared in this secret place] The breeze waves around us, bringing a lock of my hair toward your face. With the most delicate touch upon my rosy cheek, you capture it with your hand, tucking it behind my ear. Your act of kindness places the pain of yesterday into the depths of my mind as you reach for my hand. You place it to your chest letting me feel your steady heartbeat. "For you" is all I hear as you reach around pulling me closer. [I created the most beautiful memory with you--although cliché; it is engraved into my soul forever.]Your act of kindness places the pain of yesterday into the depths of my mind as you reach for my hand. You place it to your chest letting me feel your steady heartbeat. "For you" is all I hear as you reach around pulling me closer. [I created the most beautiful memory with you--although cliché; it is engraved into my soul forever.]
  2. 2. Betrayal The Lessons of Betrayal 1. Looking back over an ended relationship is both difficult and inevitable. But instead of berating yourself, use this time to learn how to trust. For example, if he didn’t earn your trust, but you put your faith in him simply because you loved him, you were lying to yourself. The truth is that we don’t really trust other people, strange as that may seem. We trust our own internal clues enough to tell us whether or not to invest in another. You are not obligated to trust those that you love. And you are not obligated to trust someone just because other people do. Trust your own gut feelings. Trust feelings that tell you what you like and don’t like in an interaction. Trust your ability to see what is happening without denial. 2. Trust is also not a blank check for future happiness. We have all been taught that once you commit, you are supposed to take care of each other. And in some sense we do that. But in another sense each person in a relationship is still 100% responsible for his or her own happiness. So, the next step in recovering from betrayal is learning that even after you commit to someone, you must still tune in to your own intuitions and feelings in order to see what is true and false in a dynamic. 3. Releasing all guilt associated with your partner’s behavior is essential. If she told you that she cheated on you because you were not a good partner, she did not tell the truth. And you should not tell yourself this either. The responsibility lays 100% in the hands of the person who cheats. Your wife cheated because she needed, for whatever reason, to avoid looking at and dealing with her marriage. Even if, after assessing the situation, she’d decided to leave you that would have been better than cheating on you. So, give yourself a break. Don’t take responsibility for her choices. 4. But this step is the hardest. Here you have to learn to relinquish control. If you put your trust in a previous spouse because he said all the right things, and seemed to do all the right things right up until you caught him cheating, the question isn't necessarily one of misplaced trust, but one of surrender. In your grief process,
  3. 3. through all of your sorrow and anger, what you can begin to learn is that there are no guarantees. While it is definitely possible to commit to someone for a lifetime, this does not mean that every commitment will turn out that way. So rethinking life’s guarantees on a fundamental level is essential at this stage. 5. In truth there is very little that we can expect of life. But there is much that can be joyfully received. Betrayal is very painful. But it is not the end of all joy for you. Letting go of external expectations for happiness means that you begin to trust your own internal paths to happiness. If you can learn to let go like this, you may come out of it stronger and even happier than ever! The best revenge, after all, is a good life.
  4. 4. RISK TAKEN RISK To laugh is to risk appearing a fool. To weep is to risk appearing sentimental. To reach out to another is to risk involvement. To expose your feelings is to risk rejection. To place your dreams before the crowd is to risk ridicule. To love is to risk not being loved in return. To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds is to risk failure. But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk of all is to risk nothing. The person, who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he cannot learn, he cannot feel, he cannot change, he cannot grow and he cannot love. Chained by his certitudes, he is a slave. Only the person who risks is truly free
  5. 5. 5 WAYS TO HAVE A GOOD RELATATIONSHIP THE FIVE KEYS TO A GREAT RELATIONSHIP 1. HONESTY...WE HAVE TO BE COMPLETLY HONEST IN ALL OFF OUR AFFAIRS NOT ONLY WITH OUR LOVE ONES, BUT WITH OURSELVES. Always WE NEED TO CHECK OUR MOTIVES IN ANY THING WE DO THAT COULD AFFECT OUR LOVE ONE AND THEIR WELL BEING. WE NEED TO BE ON GUARD FOR SELF- CENTERNESS, SELF-SEEKING AS OPPOSED TO SELF-CARING AND SELF WORTH. NOTHINGWILL DESTROY OUR LOVE ONES TRUST AND ERODE THE FOUNDATION OF LOVE QUICKER THAN A PERSON WHO LIES OR CHEATS, BEING ABLE TO BE TRUTHFUL EVEN WHEN WE KNOW THAT THE TRUTH WILL HURT SOMETIMES IS WHAT MATTERS ,THAT OUR LOVE ONE WILL BE TRUTHFUL AND TRUSTED IS THE TIE THAT BINDS US. 2. ADD TO IT... WE NEED TO GO INTO ANY NEW RELATIONSHIP WITH THE IDEAL THAT I CAN ADD TO THAT OTHER PERSON'S LIFE TO GIVE ALL OF MYSELF TO THEM WITH NO RESERVE, NOT BE SELF-SEEKING AND SELFISH IN OUR NEEDS AND WANTS, THE REAL DEFINATION OF LOVE IS THE CARING AND NURTURING OF ANOTHER'S WELL BEING AND SPIRITUAL GROWTH, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF IT, BUT WHAT CAN YOU GIVE TO IT ! TOO MANY TIMES PEOPLE ARE LIKE SOME STREETS NAMED... ONE WAY ONLY 3. NO EXPECTATIONS... HERE AGAIN WE HAVE TO LEARN TO ACCEPT OUR MATES AS THEY ARE, NOT WHO WE WANT THEM TO BE. WE LIKE THEM FOR THEIR GOOD QUALITY'S, BUT LOVE THEM FOR THEIR DEFECTS IS TRUE LOVE. CHANGE IN A PERSON IS A INSIDE JOB AND ONLY GOD HAS THAT POWER TO GRANT THE CHANGE, WE MUST BE ABLE TO TAKE THE GOOD WITH THE BAD AND VICE VERSA, NOBODY IS PERFECT LET THEM BE WHO THEY ARE AND DON'T EXPECT THEM TO BE ANYONE ELSE, OR WE WILL ALWAYS LIVE WITH DISAPPOINTMENT FOR A COMPANION. 4. DON'T KEEP SCORE... AVOID THIS AT ALL COST, FORGIVE AND FORGET. GET OVER AND GET RID OF ANY RESENTMENTS OR THEY WILL DESTROY A
  6. 6. RELATIONSHIP. ARGUMENTS OVER MONEY OR CHILDREN AND USING RETALIATION TO PUNISH OR GET BACK FOR ANY INJURY'S TO OUR FEELINGS OR PRIDE AND EGO WILL UPSET THE APPLE CART. THIS SPIRITUAL ILLNESS WILL SNOWBALL ALL THE WAY TO THE END OF THE DIVORCE, THEN AFTER IT ALL ENDS THEN YOU SEE THERE WAS NO WINNER ONLY TWO LONELY LOSERS NOW ARE LEFT. 5. TRUST IN GOD... THE MOST BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIPS SURVIVE AND GROW BECAUSE GOD WAS INVITED INTO THEM. IF GOD CAN GET YOU TO IT, GOD CAN GET YOU THOUGH IT, THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN A PROBLEM AND A SOLUTION, IS THE SAME DISTANCE BETWEEN YOUR KNEES AND THE FLOOR. WHEN WE BOW BEFORE GOD WE CAN STAND BEFORE ANY MAN OR WOMAN. TRUST IN THE LORD AND HE WILL BLESS YOUR LOVE AND KEEP YOU WHOLE. TALK TO EACH OTHER AND SHARE THIS COMMITMENT TO HONOR OUR FATHER AND USE HIS DEVINE GUIDANCE. JUST A FEW WORDS OF WISDOM I WAS TAUGHT ON HOW TO KEEP AND MAINTAIN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP, PUTTING IT TO PRACTICE AHHH THERE'S THE RUB. BUT IT IS REALLY ALL ABOUT PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION IN THE LONG RUN. HOPE YOU ENJOYED THIS.
  7. 7. REMEMBER TO LOVE YOURSELF Instead of looking and focusing on all of the negative things, find and focus on all the good qualities you possess. Make a list of all the bad qualities you have and of all the good qualities you have and compare. If the "con" list is longer, find a way to spin some of the qualities and to turn them into something positive. For instance, if you think that you're too blunt, put a spin on it--you're honest and don't mince words! Usually the bad list is longer because of your own insecurities. Every time you look yourself in the mirror call out something good about yourself. Your thoughts have incredible power to help you change your way of thinking. Instead of feeling bad about yourself, every single day do something to correct your perceived flaws. If you have a problem with your weight, try exercising. Style? Try a makeover! There is a solution to every problem if you're willing to make the effort. Tell yourself every day that you are a beautiful and unique person. And soon that person that you extremely dislike so much will transform into an extremely beautiful and remarkable person. Everyone in the world, big or small, size 0 or 22, Spanish, black, or white, can feel somewhat inferior to others. These things we tell ourselves, that we aren't good or pretty enough are in no way based on facts. On this page, we will go through simple steps on how people can overcome any feelings of inferiority that they may face. "I'm so happy, oh so happy, happy and free!"It's important to bear in mind that every human being in this world is different, and no two faces or bodies are the same. Your 'inferiority' as you may refer to it can also be seen as a unique or individual quality. What makes you feel these things are 'inferior' to everyone else? If there is no norm amongst human beings, how can there possibly be any form of inferiority? Don't give the power of influencing your thoughts to people that don't care about you.
  8. 8. BE THANKFULL BE THANKFUL THAT YOU DON'T ALREADY HAVE EVERYTHING YOU DESIRE. IF YOU DID WHAT WOULD BE THERE TO LOOK FORWARD TOO? BE THANKFUL WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW SOMETHING, FOR IT GIVES YOU THE OPPORTTUNITY TO LEARN. BE THANKFUL FOR THE DIFFICULT TIMES, DURING THOSE TIMES YOU GROW. BETHANKFUL FOR YOUR LIMITATIONS, BECAUSE THEY GIVE YOU OPPORTUNITIES FOR IMPROVEMENTS. BE THANKFUL FOR YOUR MISTAKES. THEY WILL TEACH VALUABLE LEASSONS. BE THANKFUL WHEN YOUR TIRED AND WEARY, BECAUSE IT MEANS YOU MADE A DIFFERENCE. ITS EASY TO BE THANKFUL FOR THE GOOD THINGS. A LIFE OF RICH FULFILLMENT COMES TO THOSE WHO ARE ALSO THANKFUL FOR THE SET BACKS. FIND AWAY TO BE THANKFUL FOR YOU TROUBLES, AND THEY BECOME BLESSINGS. I DON'T KNOW WHO WROTE THIS, BUT I AM THANKFUL FOR THE REMINDER FOR ME TO GIVE THANKS FOR EVERY DAY FOR MY FAMILY, FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES.
  9. 9. ABC'S TO FRIENDSHIPS/ DONT LOOK FOR FAULTS THE ABC'S OF FRIENDSHIP Always be honest Be there when they need you Cheer them on Don't look for their faults Every chance you get, call Forgive them Get together often Have faith in them Include them Just listen Know their dreams Love them unconditionally Make them feel special Never forget them Offer to help Praise them honestly Quietly disagree Rescue them often Say you're sorry Talk frequently Use good judgment Vote for them Wish them well X-ray yourself first Your word counts Zip your mouth when told a secret
  10. 10. TRUST TRUST IN GOD... THE MOST BEAUTIFUL RELATIONSHIPS SURVIVE AND GROW BECAUSE GOD WAS INVITED INTO THEM. IF GOD CAN GET YOU TO IT, GOD CAN GET YOU THOUGH IT, THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN A PROBLEM AND A SOLUTION, IS THE SAME DISTANCE BETWEEN YOUR KNEES AND THE FLOOR. WHEN WE BOW BEFORE GOD WE CAN STAND BEFORE ANY MAN OR WOMAN. TRUST IN THE LORD AND HE WILL BLESS YOUR LOVE AND KEEP YOU WHOLE. TALK TO EACH OTHER AND SHARE THIS COMMITMENT TO HONOR OUR FATHER AND USE HIS DEVINE GUIDANCE. Honesty HONESTY...WE HAVE TO BE COMPLETLY HONEST IN ALL OFF OUR AFFAIRS NOT ONLY WITH OUR LOVE ONES, BUT WITH OURSELVES. Always WE NEED TO CHECK OUR MOTIVES IN ANY THING WE DO THAT COULD AFFECT OUR LOVE ONE AND THEIR WELL BEING. WE NEED TO BE ON GUARD FOR SELF- CENTERNESS, SELF-SEEKING AS OPPOSED TO SELF-CARING AND SELF WORTH. NOTHING WILL DESTROY OUR LOVE ONES TRUST AND ERODE THE FOUNDATION OF LOVE QUICKER THAN A PERSON WHO LIES OR CHEATS, BEING ABLE TO BE TRUTHFUL EVEN WHEN WE KNOW THAT THE TRUTH WILL HURT SOMETIMES IS WHAT MATTERS ,THAT OUR LOVE ONE WILL BE TRUTHFUL AND TRUSTED IS THE TIE THAT BINDS US. CHANGES Once you've learned to accept those things that cannot be changed, you're ready to embark on the journey of a lifetime. You will find constant changing factors around you and at times you may feel tired having to keep up with them, but you will always feel fulfilled looking back at the things you've accomplished. As for me, stepping outside my comfort zone brought about changes in my life. I longed for change half of my lifetime. I'm happy to let you know that this change is for the better. I've taken a step...baby steps...then giant steps outside the box I was in! I've shed off my emotional baggage from my previous experience...moving on is long overdue. Thanks to you my friends...you opened my mind. Moving on is a cliché but coming from you and strong faith in God...it came alive on me! :) Regards to all... and God bless.

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