8. Manners
The Emily Post
Institute
Manners: “They are
important because
they give us
confidence, allow our
focus to be on the
substance of our
interactions, and they
tell us what to do and
what to expect others
to do in return.
Plus, they’re nice.”
10. Manners
The Emily Post
Institute
Etiquette:
“The Principles of Etiquette”
11. Manners
The Emily Post
Institute
Etiquette:
“The Principles of Etiquette”
“…consideration, respect,
and honesty. These
principles are the three
qualities that stand behind all
the manners we have. They
are timeless and cross cultural
boundaries, unlike manners,
which can change over time
and differ around the world.“
~ http://emilypost.com/advice/the-principles-of-
etiquette/
13. Manners
Do we need manners?
In an age when offices have given
way to cubicles, when electronic
devices keep us in constant
communication, and when the
boundaries between our
professional and personal lives
are dissolving, we need the rules
of etiquette more than ever.
Etiquette, after all, is just a code
of conduct that allows us to live
and work together with relative
ease, fosters good relationships,
and reduces the social frictions
that impede our happiness and
even our professional success.
https://hbr.org/2014/04/behave-yourself
14. Manners
Do we need manners?
As Peggy Post and Peter Post argue
in their update to Emily Post’s The
Etiquette Advantage in Business,
“Knowing how to behave in a wide
variety of professional settings not
only makes you a more pleasant,
confident, and enjoyable person to
work with; it also provides you with
all-important tools…that will help
propel you and your company
toward your mutual goals.” Or, as
Judith Martin puts it tartly in her
recent Miss Manners Minds Your
Business… we’re all fumbling with a
“wider cultural confusion that has left
the workplace riddled with etiquette
land mines. Whether you blame
resistance to relaxing the old rigidity
of behavior or ignorance of
traditional businesslike behavior,
everybody…seems to be getting on
everybody else’s nerves.”
https://hbr.org/2014/04/behave-yourself
17. Manners
The Principles of Etiquette
Respect
Respect can be a feeling, and it can
be demonstrated in our actions and
words. To us, respecting other
people means recognizing and
acknowledging their worth and value
as human beings, regardless of their
background, race, or creed. It’s
demonstrated in all our day-to-day
relations—refraining from
demeaning others for their ideas
and opinions, refusing to laugh at
racist or sexist jokes, putting
prejudices aside, and staying open-
minded. We show respect not just
by what we refrain from doing but
also by intentional acts, such as
being on time, dressing
appropriately, or giving our full
attention to the person or people
we’re with.
18. Manners
The Principles of Etiquette
Respect
Self-respect is just as important
as respect for others. A person
who respects themselves isn’t
boastful or pushy but is secure in
a way that inspires confidence in
others. They value themselves
regardless of their physical
attributes or individual talents,
understanding that integrity and
character are what really matter.
20. Manners
The Principles of Etiquette
Consideration
Consideration is about having
empathy for another person, and
the key to consideration is
thoughtful behavior. Being
thoughtful means thinking about
what you can do for those around
you and how your actions will
affect them. Consideration leads
us to help a friend or stranger in
need, to bestow a token of
appreciation, or to offer praise.
22. Manners
The Principles of Etiquette
Honesty
Honesty is both about telling the
truth and avoiding even white lies,
and about acting sincerely and
with integrity. We should add that
we like benevolent rather than
brutal honesty. It’s the basis of
tact: Using empathy to find the
positive truth and telling or acting
on it, without causing
embarrassment or pain to
someone else. Honesty is also
about being authentic and
genuine with others. No one likes
insincere, “lip-service”
politeness—it can be as bad as
outright rudeness.
24. Manners
The Principles of Etiquette
All Together
Put these three principles together
and act on them in your daily life
and you will be the soul of
graciousness and have excellent
relationships as a result. These
three principles will see you
through thick and thin, guiding you
through differences of opinion or
interactions with difficult people
who cross your path and helping
you to build even better
relationships with those close to
you.
27. Manners
Why Tea?
In cities like London, Singapore,
Dubai, Shanghai, New York, and
Chicago, afternoon tea is quickly
replacing the traditional business
lunch as the meal of choice for
savvy networking and
negotiation. Why? Because
afternoon tea, while often more
elegant, is also more relaxed –
making it easy for people to be
involved in the conversation and
experience. Afternoon teas don’t
require the digestive heavy lifting
bigger meals like lunch or dinner do,
keeping everyone more alert. Since
they don’t include alcohol, those
doing business over afternoon tea
often report feeling clearer headed
and more engaged than they do
while conducting business over
dinner and a glass of wine.
http://web.tampabay.com/prlink/stories/Afternoon-
Tea-The-New-Business-Lunch,57369
29. History of the Tea Trade
The Legendary Chinese
Emperor Shen-Nong is
believed to have been the
first to discover tea and it’s
properties.
30. History of the Tea Trade
The Legendary Chinese
Emperor Shen-Nong is
believed to have been the
first to discover tea and it’s
properties.
As the story goes, while
boiling water leaves from a
nearby tea tree fell into the
pot.
31. History of the Tea Trade
The Legendary Chinese
Emperor Shen-Nong is
believed to have been the
first to discover tea and it’s
properties.
As the story goes, while
boiling water leaves from a
nearby tea tree fell into the
pot.
Noticing the brew that
resulted, the Emperor
drank the liquid and the
use of tea socially and
medicinally began.
32. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidharma was an itinerant
Indian convert to Buddhism.
33. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidharma was an itinerant
Indian convert to Buddhism.
Touring the monasteries and
courts of China, he discovered
the use of tea as an aid to
meditation.
34. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidharma was an itinerant
Indian convert to Buddhism.
Touring the monasteries and
courts of China, he discovered
the use of tea as an aid to
meditation.
Legend tells of the monk’s
practice of meditation.
35. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidharma was an itinerant
Indian convert to Buddhism.
Touring the monasteries and
courts of China, he discovered
the use of tea as an aid to
meditation.
Legend tells of the monk’s
practice of meditation.
While at the Shaolin Temple in
China, he sat in a cave
meditating for so long that he
lost all of his body parts in
succession.
36. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidarma drank tea during
his contemplative meditation.
37. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidarma drank tea during
his contemplative meditation.
Tea was used because it
“stemmed hunger, cleared the
mind, and sharpened resolve.”
38. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidarma drank tea during
his contemplative meditation.
Tea was used because it
“stemmed hunger, cleared the
mind, and sharpened resolve.”
He passed on this use of tea
to his disciples.
39. History of the Tea Trade
Bodhidarma drank tea during
his contemplative meditation.
Tea was used because it
“stemmed hunger, cleared the
mind, and sharpened resolve.”
He passed on this use of tea
to his disciples.
He took this practice with him
to Japan, where he gained
many followers.
From: The Zen Teaching of Bodhidharma, Red
Pine (Bill Porter), trans. (New York: North Point
Press, 1987), pp. ix-xvii; cf. Heinrich Dumoulin,
Zen Buddhism: A History, James W. Heisig and
Paul Knitter, trans. (New York: Macmillan
Publishing Company, 1988), vol. 1, pp. 86-89.
40. History of the Tea Trade
Tea was first
brought to
Europe by
missionaries and
explorers who
had been
exposed to the
use of tea leaves
in China and
Japan.
41. History of the Tea Trade
It was the Dutch that first
regularized the tea trade in the
17th century.
42. History of the Tea Trade
It was the Dutch that first
regularized the tea trade in the
17th century.
The Dutch East India
Company began the regular
importation of tea from Japan
and China in 1610.
43. History of the Tea Trade
It was the Dutch that first
regularized the tea trade in the
17th century.
The Dutch East India
Company began the regular
importation of tea from Japan
and China in 1610.
Tea began to arrive in Russia
at around the same time as a
result of trade on the Silk
Road to China.
44. History of the Tea Trade
It was the Dutch that first
regularized the tea trade in the
17th century.
The Dutch East India
Company began the regular
importation of tea from Japan
and China in 1610.
Tea began to arrive in Russia
at around the same time as a
result of trade on the Silk
Road to China.
Tea was a precious
commodity and very
expensive and was originally
limited to the royal and
wealthy classes.
45. History of the Tea Trade
The British were much more
addicted to coffee as the
preferred drink at the
beginning of the 17th century
46. History of the Tea Trade
The British were much more
addicted to coffee as the
preferred drink at the
beginning of the 17th century
The coffee houses of Britain
were mainly filled with men
and became the venue for
socializing and political
discussions
47. History of the Tea Trade
The British were much more
addicted to coffee as the
preferred drink at the
beginning of the 17th century
The coffee houses of Britain
were mainly filled with men
and became the venue for
socializing and political
discussions
Women in England didn’t
usually visit the coffee houses
and turned instead to the
more genteel cup of tea
48. History of the Tea Trade
Tea became socially and
domestically acceptable in
England with the arrival of
Queen Catherine of Braganza,
wife of King Charles II
49. History of the Tea Trade
Tea became socially and
domestically acceptable in
England with the arrival of
Queen Catherine of Braganza,
wife of King Charles II
Coming from Portugal, she
brought with her the custom of
drinking tea and she made
this very popular at Court
50. History of the Tea Trade
Tea became socially and
domestically acceptable in
England with the arrival of
Queen Catherine of Braganza,
wife of King Charles II
Coming from Portugal, she
brought with her the custom of
drinking tea and she made
this very popular at Court
The British East India
Company was founded to
trade in spices, cotton, silk
and other goods from the East
in competition with the
Portuguese and Dutch
51. History of the Tea Trade
In 1612, the British East India
Company began to import tea
and by the mid 18th-century
tea became an important
import from China.
52. History of the Tea Trade
In 1612, the British East India
Company began to import tea
and by the mid 18th-century
tea became an important
import from China.
Thomas Garraway began to
sell tea in his shop in 1657,
the first merchant to do so in
England
53. History of the Tea Trade
In 1612, the British East India
Company began to import tea
and by the mid 18th-century
tea became an important
import from China.
Thomas Garraway began to
sell tea in his shop in 1657,
the first merchant to do so in
England
New Amsterdam was the
place where tea was
introduced into North America
in the mid-1600’s
54. History of the Tea Trade
In 1612, the British East India
Company began to import tea
and by the mid 18th-century
tea became an important
import from China.
Thomas Garraway began to
sell tea in his shop in 1657,
the first merchant to do so in
England
New Amsterdam was the
place where tea was
introduced into North America
in the mid-1600’s
New Amsterdam became New
York in 1664 when English
rule began in the Colony of
New Netherland
55. History of the Tea Trade
The British East India
Company established a
flourishing tea trade with the
British Colonies of North
America
56. History of the Tea Trade
The British East India
Company established a
flourishing tea trade with the
British Colonies of North
America
In order to bolster their failing
finances, the Company
convinced Parliament to pass
the Tea Act which allowed
them to ship and sell tea
directly to Colonists, by-
passing local merchants and
importers
57. History of the Tea Trade
The British East India
Company established a
flourishing tea trade with the
British Colonies of North
America
In order to bolster their failing
finances, the Company
convinced Parliament to pass
the Tea Act which allowed
them to ship and sell tea
directly to Colonists, by-
passing local merchants and
importers
Colonists in North America
had always been their own
masters in terms of taxation
58. History of the Tea Trade
The Tea Act of 1773 allowed
the duty-free exportation of
tea to the Colonies, but the
tea was still heavily taxed
under the Townshend duties
59. History of the Tea Trade
The Tea Act of 1773 allowed
the duty-free exportation of
tea to the Colonies, but the
tea was still heavily taxed
under the Townshend duties
Perceiving a dangerous threat
to free trade and
independence in North
America, the Tea Act and the
duties mobilized many sectors
of Colonial society
60. History of the Tea Trade
The Tea Act of 1773 allowed
the duty-free exportation of
tea to the Colonies, but the
tea was still heavily taxed
under the Townshend duties
Perceiving a dangerous threat
to free trade and
independence in North
America, the Tea Act and the
duties mobilized many sectors
of Colonial society
Resistance to such taxes led
to the famous Boston Tea
Party on December 16, 1773
61. History of the Tea Trade
Retaliatory actions from the
British Crown eventually led to
more resistance and finally to
the American Revolution
62. History of the Tea Trade
Retaliatory actions from the
British Crown eventually led to
more resistance and finally to
the American Revolution
The coming of the revolution
displaced, for a while, the
preference for tea drinking: it
was patriotic to drink coffee
instead!
64. History of the Tea Trade
After the war, the tea
merchant Richard Twining and
others exposed the corrupt
practices of the British East
India Company which led to
the crumbling of the tea
monopoly
65. History of the Tea Trade
After the war, the tea
merchant Richard Twining and
others exposed the corrupt
practices of the British East
India Company which led to
the crumbling of the tea
monopoly
With victory, Americans
returned to their tea drinking
and the social interactions that
went along with it
66. History of the Tea Trade
After the war, the tea
merchant Richard Twining and
others exposed the corrupt
practices of the British East
India Company which led to
the crumbling of the tea
monopoly
With victory, Americans
returned to their tea drinking
and the social interactions that
went along with it
Elias Hasket Derby was the
first American merchant to
trade directly with China in the
tea trade from his
establishment in Salem
Massachusetts
67. History of the Tea Trade
Beginning in the 1850’s,
American clipper ships were
used to import tea directly
from China.
68. History of the Tea Trade
Beginning in the 1850’s,
American clipper ships were
used to import tea directly
from China.
The ships, built for speed,
decreased the time it took for
merchandise make its way
from one side of the ocean to
the other
69. History of the Tea Trade
Beginning in the 1850’s,
American clipper ships were
used to import tea directly
from China.
The ships, built for speed,
decreased the time it took for
merchandise make its way
from one side of the ocean to
the other
The popularity of tea time
grew throughout the 19th
century and tea was
consumed in many different
venues and times throughout
the day
70. History of the Tea Trade
As the popularity of tea
drinking once again grew in
America, tea parties and
afternoon tea also grew in
popularity
71. History of the Tea Trade
As the popularity of tea
drinking once again grew in
America, tea parties and
afternoon tea also grew in
popularity
Among American innovations
in tea are:
72. History of the Tea Trade
As the popularity of tea
drinking once again grew in
America, tea parties and
afternoon tea also grew in
popularity
Among American innovations
in tea are:
Iced tea (1904 St. Louis
World’s Fair)
73. History of the Tea Trade
As the popularity of tea
drinking once again grew in
America, tea parties and
afternoon tea also grew in
popularity
Among American innovations
in tea are:
Iced tea (1904 St. Louis
World’s Fair)
Iced tea makes up 80% of all
tea sales in the US today
74. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
Southern Sweet Tea
75. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
Southern Sweet Tea
First introduced in a cookbook
called Housekeeping in Old
Virginia by Marion Tyree
76. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
The tea bag
77. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
The tea bag
Patents for tea bags existed
as early as 1903
78. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
The tea bag
Patents for tea bags existed
as early as 1903
Thomas Sullivan, a tea
merchant in New York is
credited with producing the
first tea bags to use
commercially
79. History of the Tea Trade
Among American innovations
in tea are:
The tea bag
Patents for tea bags existed
as early as 1903
Thomas Sullivan, a tea
merchant in New York is
credited with producing the
first tea bags to use
commercially
The tea bags hit the market in
the 1920’s and became very
popular in the US
80. History of the Tea Trade
Today, tea is the world’s most
popular beverage after water.
82. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea as a meal
began with Anna Maria
Russell, Duchess of Bedford
83. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea as a meal
began with Anna Maria
Russell, Duchess of Bedford
She was a lifelong friend of
Queen Victoria and a Lady of
the Bedchamber
84. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea as a meal
began with Anna Maria
Russell, Duchess of Bedford
She was a lifelong friend of
Queen Victoria and a Lady of
the Bedchamber
The daily schedule for the
English upper classes
included a large early
breakfast and a late elaborate
dinner, served from 8:00-9:00
PM
85. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea as a meal
began with Anna Maria
Russell, Duchess of Bedford
She was a lifelong friend of
Queen Victoria and a Lady of
the Bedchamber
The daily schedule for the
English upper classes
included a large early
breakfast and a late elaborate
dinner, served from 8:00-9:00
PM
Around the year 1840, Lady
Russell began to notice that
she had a “sinking feeling” in
the afternoon
86. Tea Service: Origin
She began to have a pot of
tea and some light
sandwiches and small pastries
brought to her room to ward
off the midafternoon slump
87. Tea Service: Origin
She began to have a pot of
tea and some light
sandwiches and small pastries
brought to her room to ward
off the midafternoon slump
The little meal became a
regular feature of the
Duchess’ afternoon
88. Tea Service: Origin
She began to have a pot of
tea and some light
sandwiches and small pastries
brought to her room to ward
off the midafternoon slump
The little meal became a
regular feature of the
Duchess’ afternoon
She soon began to invite
guests to enjoy her afternoon
tea
89. Tea Service: Origin
She began to have a pot of
tea and some light
sandwiches and small pastries
brought to her room to ward
off the midafternoon slump
The little meal became a
regular feature of the
Duchess’ afternoon
She soon began to invite
guests to enjoy her afternoon
tea
The meal was served on low
tables in the drawing room or
parlor hence the name: Low
Tea
90. Tea Service: Origin
Lady Russell introduced her
friend, Queen Victoria, to the
practice of Afternoon Tea and
a trend was born: a new way
of entertaining became a
popular part of the everyday
schedule
91. Tea Service: Origin
Lady Russell introduced her
friend, Queen Victoria, to the
practice of Afternoon Tea and
a trend was born: a new way
of entertaining became a
popular part of the everyday
schedule
At least once a week, ladies
remained “at home” in order to
serve afternoon tea to their
family and friends
92. Tea Service: Origin
Lady Russell introduced her
friend, Queen Victoria, to the
practice of Afternoon Tea and
a trend was born and a new
way of entertaining became a
popular part of the everyday
schedule
At least once a week, ladies
remained “at home” in order to
serve afternoon tea to their
family and friends
Afternoon tea can be informal
(Cream Tea)
93. Tea Service: Origin
Lady Russell introduced her
friend, Queen Victoria, to the
practice of Afternoon Tea and
a trend was born and a new
way of entertaining became a
popular part of the everyday
schedule
At least once a week, ladies
remained “at home” in order to
serve afternoon tea to their
family and friends
Afternoon tea can be informal
(Cream Tea)
Where a pot of tea and
scones, jam, clotted cream
and cake are served
96. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
97. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
Tea sandwiches (here pecan
and chicken sandwiches [r]
and cucumber sandwiches [l])
98. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
Tea sandwiches (here pecan
and chicken sandwiches [r]
and cucumber sandwiches [l])
Scones
99. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
Tea sandwiches (here pecan
and chicken sandwiches [r]
and cucumber sandwiches [l])
Scones with jam and/or
marmelade
100. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
Tea sandwiches (here pecan
and chicken sandwiches [r]
and cucumber sandwiches [l])
Scones with jam and/or
marmalade and Devonshire
Cream or Clotted Cream
101. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea can be formal
The menu would include:
Savories (here bacon jam,
gruyere and cranberry
compote in puff pastry)
Tea sandwiches (here pecan
and chicken sandwiches [r]
and cucumber sandwiches [l])
Scones with jam and/or
marmalade and Devonshire
Cream or Clotted Cream
Followed by sweets (here mini
pumpkin cakes infused with
honey with glaze and
raspberry jam)
102. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea Royale includes
either champagne or sherry at
the end of the meal
103. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea Royale includes
either champagne or sherry
Afternoon Tea, Cream Tea and
Afternoon Tea Royale are
served between 4:00 PM and
6:00 PM
104. Tea Service: Origin
Afternoon Tea Royale includes
either champagne or sherry
Afternoon Tea, Cream Tea and
Afternoon Tea Royale are
served between 4:00 PM and
6:00 PM
They can be served at the
dining table in the dining
room, or at tea tables or
occasional tables in the living
room, study or parlor
106. Tea Service: Origin
High Tea
High Tea is so-called
because it is served
exclusively at the “high
table” or dinner table
107. Tea Service: Origin
High Tea
High Tea is so-called
because it is served
exclusively at the “high
table” or dinner table
High Tea was the servant’s
and working person’s
dinner
108. Tea Service: Origin
High Tea
High Tea is so-called
because it is served
exclusively at the “high
table” or dinner table
High Tea was the servant’s
and working person’s
dinner
It was served after the
Afternoon Tea and before
the dinner preparations for
the formal dinners
“upstairs”
109. Tea Service: Origin
High Tea
High Tea is so-called
because it is served
exclusively at the “high
table” or dinner table
High Tea was the servant’s
and working person’s
dinner
It was served after the
Afternoon Tea and before
the dinner preparations for
the formal dinners
“upstairs”
Factory and other workers
had to wait for their tea
until they were out of the
112. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
Afternoon Tea should be
celebrated as a formal or
semi-formal occasion
113. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
Afternoon Tea should be
celebrated as a formal or
semi-formal occasion
Although a phone call or
text inviting close friends
and family to such an
occasion is currently in
vogue, it is better to send
either a paper invitation or
a digital invitation
116. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Host
Honor guests by offering
the best you have
Be attentive to every
person
117. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Host
Honor guests by offering
the best you have
Be attentive to every
person
Make all feel welcome and
esteemed
118. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Host
Honor guests by offering
the best you have
Be attentive to every
person
Make all feel welcome and
esteemed
Be aware of food allergies
or preferences
119. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Host
Honor guests by offering
the best you have
Be attentive to every
person
Make all feel welcome and
esteemed
Be aware of food allergies
or preferences
Greet all guests at the door
120. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Host
Honor guests by offering
the best you have
Be attentive to every
person
Make all feel welcome and
esteemed
Be aware of food allergies
or preferences
Greet all guests at the door
When guests are leaving,
escort them to the door and
thank them for coming
125. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Guest
Always RSVP
Turn off your cell phone
Arrive on time
Follow the lead of the host
126. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Guest
Always RSVP
Turn off your cell phone
Arrive on time
Follow the lead of the host
Stay away from gossip
127. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Guest
Always RSVP
Turn off your cell phone
Arrive on time
Follow the lead of the host
Stay away from gossip
Greet the guest of honor if
there is one
128. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
As a Guest
Always RSVP
Turn off your cell phone
Arrive on time
Follow the lead of the host
Stay away from gossip
Greet the guest of honor if
there is one
Leave around the
appointed time or when the
party winds down
132. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
The invitations should include:
The place
The time (preferably 4:00-6:00
PM but could be as early as
3:30)
133. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
The invitations should include:
The place
The time (preferably 4:00-6:00
PM but could be as early as
3:30)
The occasion
134. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
The invitations should include:
The place
The time (preferably 4:00-6:00
PM but could be as early as
3:30)
The occasion
The RSVP number or e-mail
address
135. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
Invitations
The invitations should include:
The place
The time (preferably 4:00-6:00
PM but could be as early as
3:30)
The occasion
The RSVP number or e-mail
address
Include any information such as
what to wear or what to bring if
it is a pot luck
138. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Use the best you have
A linen or damask
tablecloth with a pad
underneath
139. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Use the best you have
A linen or damask
tablecloth with a pad
underneath
Linen or damask napkins
140. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Use the best you have
A linen or damask
tablecloth with a pad
underneath
Linen or damask napkins
A good teapot with sugar
bowl, creamer and milk
pitcher
141. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Use the best you have
A linen or damask
tablecloth with a pad
underneath
Linen or damask napkins
A good teapot with sugar,
bowl, creamer and milk
pitcher
Bread plates or salad
plates, a fork if necessary
and a butter knife
142. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
A tea curate, which is a
three-tier tea tray
appropriately arranged with
scones on top, sandwiches
in the center and sweets at
the bottom
143. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
A tea curate, which is a
three-tier tea tray
appropriately arranged with
scones on top, sandwiches
in the center and sweets at
the bottom
A variety of serving pieces
appropriate for the food to
be served
145. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Provide honey, sugar and a
variety of sweeteners for
guests
Provide sliced lemons for
those who prefer to use
them
146. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
If using a centerpiece, it
should not crowd the table
and should not be so large
as to obstruct conversation
147. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
If using a centerpiece, it
should not crowd the table
and should not be so large
as to obstruct conversation
No candles of any sort
should be used on any
table for a daytime event
148. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
If using a centerpiece, it
should not crowd the table
and should not be so large
as to obstruct conversation
No candles of any sort
should be used on any
table for a daytime event
The napkin is placed on the
lap, folded with the crease
nearest you
150. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Teacups and saucers are
placed on the table
If seated at a table, the
saucer remains in place
151. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Teacups and saucers are
placed on the table
If seated at a table, the
saucer remains in place
If seated in a sitting room,
etc., lift the saucer and
teacup together
152. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Teacups and saucers are
placed on the table
If seated at a table, the
saucer remains in place
If seated in a sitting room,
etc., lift the saucer and
teacup together
Milk or cream is poured
into the tea
153. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
Teacups and saucers are
placed on the table
If seated at a table, the
saucer remains in place
If seated in a sitting room,
etc., lift the saucer and
teacup together
Milk or cream is poured
into the tea
When stirring in sugar or
other sweeteners, use a
back and forth motion, and
no clinking!
154. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
When drinking tea, look
down at the cup, as the
Dowager is doing here
155. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
When drinking tea, look
down at the cup, as the
Dowager is doing here
And don’t slurp!
156. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
When drinking tea, look
down at the cup, as the
Dowager is doing here
And don’t slurp!
And NEVER raise your
pinkie finger!
157. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
When drinking tea, look
down at the cup, as the
Dowager is doing here
And don’t slurp!
And NEVER raise your
pinkie finger!
It’s considered a rude
affectation…
158. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
The food should be finger
food and is served in the
following order
159. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
The food should be finger
food and is served in the
following order
Tea sandwiches (differing
fillings, crustless and small)
160. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
The food should be finger
food and is served in the
following order
Tea sandwiches (differing
fillings, crustless and small)
Savories (here, spinach
and artichoke hearts in
pastry)
161. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
The food should be finger
food and is served in the
following order
Tea sandwiches (differing
fillings, crustless and small)
Savories (here, spinach
and artichoke hearts in
pastry)
Scones
162. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
The food should be finger
food and is served in the
following order
Tea sandwiches (differing
fillings, crustless and small)
Savories (here, spinach
and artichoke hearts in
pastry)
Scones
Sweets
163. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
All courses are
accompanied by a fine
loose tea served from a
teapot
164. Etiquette: Afternoon Tea
The Tea Table
All courses are
accompanied by a fine
loose tea served from a
teapot
And don’t forget the tea
strainer
This sterling silver tea caddy attests to the cost of tea as it was first introduced into Europe.
Jane Austen included the ceremony of drinking tea in her novels. She also bought her tea from the Twining shops because she could be sure that the tea leaves were unadulterated. (Where did Jane Austen buy her tea that was kept under lock and key in her tea caddy? She was known to purchase tea from Twinings in London, where she could be sure of buying unadulterated leaves.
In an 1814 letter to her sister Cassandra, Austen mentions: “I am sorry to hear that there has been a rise in tea. I do not mean to pay Twining til later in the day, when we may order a fresh supply.” http://www.teatimemagazine.com/the-tea-things-of-jane-austen/3/)
Many unscrupulous merchants and tea smugglers added such things as sheep dung, hedgerow leaves, hawthorn leaves, dust, and sand to the tea leaves. Tea was taxed at times up to 119% and in order to bulk up the expensive Chinese tea and make a better profits, these things were added in. By buying from Twining, Jane Austen could be assured of serving fine and unadulterated tea to her guests.
By the 1830’s and 1840’s, the British had established tea plantations outside of Chine in India. The area of Assam was found to have indigenous tea plants and the cultivation of these plants, along with the growing conditions of soil, humidity and rainfall, led to the production of a very fine tea by British and native plantations in India.
The Clipper Ship allowed for the fast delivery of very delicate early tea leaves to consumers. These leaves were considered the best since they produced a tea with a superior flavor and aroma. The more quickly they could be delivered, the better the quality of the tea.
