The search for significance and tte factors that impedes transformation of our life.

1. SEMINAR /WORKSHOPSEMINAR /WORKSHOP byby
WINGSPREADWINGSPREAD
SignificanceSignificanceSearch forSearch for
Copyright by Rey HaliliCopyright by Rey Halili

2. GODGOD
Intends for YouIntends for You
ContentmentContentment
GodlyGodly
IntensityIntensity
1.1. Our desire for acceptance pressures us toOur desire for acceptance pressures us to
perform for the praise of othersperform for the praise of others
2.2. Our behavior and a source of our emotionalOur behavior and a source of our emotional
pain governs our need for self-worthpain governs our need for self-worth
3.3. Our hunger to be loved causes us to seek outOur hunger to be loved causes us to seek out
friendsfriends

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We have two alternatives:We have two alternatives:
We can base our self-worth on our success and abilityWe can base our self-worth on our success and ability
to please others, or we can base our self-worth on theto please others, or we can base our self-worth on the
love, forgiveness and acceptance of Christ.love, forgiveness and acceptance of Christ.
"Don't let the world around you"Don't let the world around you
squeeze you into its own mold, butsqueeze you into its own mold, but
let God remold your minds fromlet God remold your minds from
within, so that you may prove inwithin, so that you may prove in
practice that the plan of God for youpractice that the plan of God for you
is good, meets all His demands, andis good, meets all His demands, and
moves toward the goal of truemoves toward the goal of true
maturity"maturity"
(Romans 12:2).(Romans 12:2).

4. Satan's lie:Satan's lie:
Self-Worth = Performance + Others' OpinionsSelf-Worth = Performance + Others' Opinions
Living according to the false belief: "Living according to the false belief: "II must be approved bymust be approved by
certain others to feel good about myself,"certain others to feel good about myself," causes us tocauses us to
continually fear rejection, conforming virtually all of ourcontinually fear rejection, conforming virtually all of our
attitudes and actions to the expectations of others.attitudes and actions to the expectations of others.
Conforming to a group does not provide the security we areConforming to a group does not provide the security we are
so desperately seeking. Only God can provideso desperately seeking. Only God can provide that.that.

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6. RESULTS OF
GOD'S SOLUTION
RESULTS OF
GOD'S SOLUTION
FALSE
BELIEFS
FALSE
BELIEFS
CONSEQUENCES
OF
FALSE BELIEFS
CONSEQUENCES
OF
FALSE BELIEFS
GOD'S SPECIFIC
SOLUTION
GOD'S SPECIFIC
SOLUTION
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PUNISHINGPUNISHING
OTHERSOTHERS
PUNISHMENTPUNISHMENT REJECTIONREJECTION
FAILUREFAILURE
SHAMESHAME
OUR BASICOUR BASIC
FEARSFEARS

8. MIRRORINGMIRRORING
BACKBACK
THROUGHTHROUGH
SELFSELF
DIAGNOSTICDIAGNOSTIC
TESTINGSTESTINGS
Fear of ShameFear of Shame
Fear of FailureFear of Failure
Fear of RejectionFear of Rejection
Fear ofFear of
Punishment/Punishment/
Punishing OthersPunishing OthersRead each statement of the test and choose the term whichRead each statement of the test and choose the term which
best describes your response. Put the number above thatbest describes your response. Put the number above that
term in the blank beside the statement.term in the blank beside the statement.
1 2 3 4 5 6 71 2 3 4 5 6 7
Always Very Often Often Sometimes Seldom Very Seldom NeverAlways Very Often Often Sometimes Seldom Very Seldom Never
Total (Add up the numbers you have placed in the blanks.Total (Add up the numbers you have placed in the blanks.
And look up the interpretationAnd look up the interpretation

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SHAME TESTSHAME TEST
1.1. ____I often think about past failures or experiences of rejection.____I often think about past failures or experiences of rejection.
2.2. ____There are certain things about my past which I cannot recall____There are certain things about my past which I cannot recall
without experiencing strong, painful emotions.without experiencing strong, painful emotions.
3.3. ____I seem to make the same mistakes over and over again.____I seem to make the same mistakes over and over again.
4.4. ____There are certain aspects of my character I want to change, but____There are certain aspects of my character I want to change, but
don'tdon't believe I can ever successfully do so.believe I can ever successfully do so.
5.5. ____I feel inferior.____I feel inferior.
6.6. ____There are aspects of my appearance I cannot accept.____There are aspects of my appearance I cannot accept.
7.7. ____I am generally disgusted with myself.____I am generally disgusted with myself.
8.8. ____I feel certain experiences have basically ruined my life.____I feel certain experiences have basically ruined my life.
9.9. ____I perceive myself as an immoral person.____I perceive myself as an immoral person.
10.10. ____I feel I have lost the opportunity to experience a complete and____I feel I have lost the opportunity to experience a complete and
wonderful life.wonderful life.

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1.1. ____I often think of past failures or experiences of rejection.____I often think of past failures or experiences of rejection.
2. ____When I sense I might experience failure in some2. ____When I sense I might experience failure in some
important area, I become nervous and anxious.important area, I become nervous and anxious.
3.3. ____I worry.____I worry.
4. ____I have unexplained anxiety.4. ____I have unexplained anxiety.
5. ____I am a perfectionist.5. ____I am a perfectionist.
6. ____I am compelled to justify my mistakes.6. ____I am compelled to justify my mistakes.
7. ____There are certain areas in which I feel I must succeed.7. ____There are certain areas in which I feel I must succeed.
8. ____I become depressed when I fail.8. ____I become depressed when I fail.
9. ____I become angry with people who interfere with my9. ____I become angry with people who interfere with my
attempts to succeed, and as a result, make me appearattempts to succeed, and as a result, make me appear
incompetent.incompetent.
10____I am self-critical.10____I am self-critical.
Fear of FailureFear of Failure

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Why do we behave in ungodly mannersWhy do we behave in ungodly manners
Ungodly ActionsUngodly Actions
UngodlyUngodly
thoughtsthoughts
Negative FeelingsNegative Feelings
& Attitudes& Attitudes
False BeliefsFalse Beliefs
ExperiencesExperiences

14. I must meet certain standards inI must meet certain standards in
order to feel good about myself.order to feel good about myself.
I must meet certain standards inI must meet certain standards in
order to feel good about myself.order to feel good about myself.
I must have the approval of certainI must have the approval of certain
others to feel good about myself.others to feel good about myself.
I must have the approval of certainI must have the approval of certain
others to feel good about myself.others to feel good about myself.
Those who fail are unworthy ofThose who fail are unworthy of
love and deserve to be punished.love and deserve to be punished.
Those who fail are unworthy ofThose who fail are unworthy of
love and deserve to be punished.love and deserve to be punished.
I am what I am. I cannot change.I am what I am. I cannot change.
I am hopeless.I am hopeless.
I am what I am. I cannot change.I am what I am. I cannot change.
I am hopeless.I am hopeless.
FALSE BELIEFSFALSE BELIEFS

15. CONSEQUENCES OF FALSE BELIEFSCONSEQUENCES OF FALSE BELIEFS
The fear of failure;The fear of failure;
perfectionism; intensity about your own success;perfectionism; intensity about your own success;
withdrawal from risks; manipulate others to help you succeed.withdrawal from risks; manipulate others to help you succeed.
The fear of rejection;The fear of rejection; /Fear of Shame/Fear of Shame
please others at any cost; sensitive to criticism,please others at any cost; sensitive to criticism,
withdrawal to avoid disapproval.withdrawal to avoid disapproval.
The fear of punishment; punishing others;The fear of punishment; punishing others;
blame others when you fail; dry spiritual life.blame others when you fail; dry spiritual life.
Inferiority feelings;Inferiority feelings;
destructive habits; hopelessness.destructive habits; hopelessness.
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17. How can you be freed from the fear of shame?How can you be freed from the fear of shame?
..Ephesians 2:10Ephesians 2:10
..Colossians 3:12Colossians 3:12
..Matthew 5:13Matthew 5:13
..I John 4:17I John 4:17
..Ephesians 2:3Ephesians 2:3
..II Corinthians 5:21II Corinthians 5:21
..Matthew 5:14Matthew 5:14
..Romans 5: 17,18Romans 5: 17,18
..Galatians 2:20Galatians 2:20
.Romans 8:1.Romans 8:1
..
..Ephesians 6:10Ephesians 6:10
..Romans 8:37Romans 8:37
..Colossians 2:10Colossians 2:10
..Romans 8:17Romans 8:17
..Romans 1:7Romans 1:7
..Ephesians 1:6Ephesians 1:6
..I Peter 1:16I Peter 1:16
..II Corinthians 5:17II Corinthians 5:17
.Ephesians 1:7 -.Ephesians 1:7 -

18. 1. EPH 2:8,9 - On what basis could we boast?1. EPH 2:8,9 - On what basis could we boast?
2. GAL 2:16 - On what basis are we justified?2. GAL 2:16 - On what basis are we justified?
3. ACT10:43 - Of what did the prophets bear witness3. ACT10:43 - Of what did the prophets bear witness
4. ROM 5:104. ROM 5:10 - Through what are we reconciled.- Through what are we reconciled.
5. GAL 3:65. GAL 3:6 - On what basis did Abraham receive- On what basis did Abraham receive
righteousness?righteousness?
6. II COR 5:17,19,21 - Describe what we are in Christ.6. II COR 5:17,19,21 - Describe what we are in Christ.
7. GAL 2:167. GAL 2:16 - What part do works play in justification?- What part do works play in justification?
8. ROM 4:78. ROM 4:7 - Who is blessed?- Who is blessed?
9. HEB 9:229. HEB 9:22 - What would you have to do in order to receive- What would you have to do in order to receive
forgiveness?forgiveness?
10. JHN 5:2410. JHN 5:24 - What is the promise to the person who knows- What is the promise to the person who knows
and believes?and believes?
1. EPH 2:8,9 - On what basis could we boast?1. EPH 2:8,9 - On what basis could we boast?
2. GAL 2:16 - On what basis are we justified?2. GAL 2:16 - On what basis are we justified?
3. ACT10:43 - Of what did the prophets bear witness3. ACT10:43 - Of what did the prophets bear witness
4. ROM 5:104. ROM 5:10 - Through what are we reconciled.- Through what are we reconciled.
5. GAL 3:65. GAL 3:6 - On what basis did Abraham receive- On what basis did Abraham receive
righteousness?righteousness?
6. II COR 5:17,19,21 - Describe what we are in Christ.6. II COR 5:17,19,21 - Describe what we are in Christ.
7. GAL 2:167. GAL 2:16 - What part do works play in justification?- What part do works play in justification?
8. ROM 4:78. ROM 4:7 - Who is blessed?- Who is blessed?
9. HEB 9:229. HEB 9:22 - What would you have to do in order to receive- What would you have to do in order to receive
forgiveness?forgiveness?
10. JHN 5:2410. JHN 5:24 - What is the promise to the person who knows- What is the promise to the person who knows
and believes?and believes?
Scriptural basisScriptural basis

19. 11. EPH 1:711. EPH 1:7 - According to what do we receive forgiveness?- According to what do we receive forgiveness?
12. PSA 103:12 - What happens to our transgressions?12. PSA 103:12 - What happens to our transgressions?
13. HEB 10:18 - After forgiveness, what is to be our offering13. HEB 10:18 - After forgiveness, what is to be our offering
for sin?for sin?
14. HEB 12:2 - Who is the perfecter of our faith?14. HEB 12:2 - Who is the perfecter of our faith?
15. JOHN 3:16 - What is God's promise?15. JOHN 3:16 - What is God's promise?
16. MAT 26:28 - Why was Christ's blood shed?16. MAT 26:28 - Why was Christ's blood shed?
17. ACTS 13:39 - What does belief do?17. ACTS 13:39 - What does belief do?
18. ROM 3:23,24 - By what are we justified?18. ROM 3:23,24 - By what are we justified?
19. JHN10:27-29 - What do His sheep have? Will they perish?19. JHN10:27-29 - What do His sheep have? Will they perish?
20. ROM 8:28-39 - Of what is Paul convinced?20. ROM 8:28-39 - Of what is Paul convinced?
21. I PET 1:3,4 - Of what is Peter convinced?21. I PET 1:3,4 - Of what is Peter convinced?
22. ROM 8:33 - Who shall accuse us?22. ROM 8:33 - Who shall accuse us?
23. ROM 8:15-17- Describe the nature of our relationship23. ROM 8:15-17- Describe the nature of our relationship
with Godwith God
11. EPH 1:711. EPH 1:7 - According to what do we receive forgiveness?- According to what do we receive forgiveness?
12. PSA 103:12 - What happens to our transgressions?12. PSA 103:12 - What happens to our transgressions?
13. HEB 10:18 - After forgiveness, what is to be our offering13. HEB 10:18 - After forgiveness, what is to be our offering
for sin?for sin?
14. HEB 12:2 - Who is the perfecter of our faith?14. HEB 12:2 - Who is the perfecter of our faith?
15. JOHN 3:16 - What is God's promise?15. JOHN 3:16 - What is God's promise?
16. MAT 26:28 - Why was Christ's blood shed?16. MAT 26:28 - Why was Christ's blood shed?
17. ACTS 13:39 - What does belief do?17. ACTS 13:39 - What does belief do?
18. ROM 3:23,24 - By what are we justified?18. ROM 3:23,24 - By what are we justified?
19. JHN10:27-29 - What do His sheep have? Will they perish?19. JHN10:27-29 - What do His sheep have? Will they perish?
20. ROM 8:28-39 - Of what is Paul convinced?20. ROM 8:28-39 - Of what is Paul convinced?
21. I PET 1:3,4 - Of what is Peter convinced?21. I PET 1:3,4 - Of what is Peter convinced?
22. ROM 8:33 - Who shall accuse us?22. ROM 8:33 - Who shall accuse us?
23. ROM 8:15-17- Describe the nature of our relationship23. ROM 8:15-17- Describe the nature of our relationship
with Godwith God

20. "...In reference to your former manner of life, you lay"...In reference to your former manner of life, you lay
aside the old self, which is being corrupted inaside the old self, which is being corrupted in
accordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you beaccordance with the lusts of deceit, and that you be
renewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the newrenewed in the spirit of your mind, and put on the new
self, which in the likeness of God has been created inself, which in the likeness of God has been created in
righteousness and holiness of the truth"righteousness and holiness of the truth"
(Ephesians 4:22-24).(Ephesians 4:22-24).
A New PersonA New Person
inin ChristChrist
OLD SELFOLD SELF NEW SELFNEW SELF
Christ-centeredChrist-centered
confidence;confidence;
joy, courage, peace;joy, courage, peace;
desire to knowdesire to know
ChristChrist..
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21. GOD’S SPECIFIC SOLUTION:GOD’S SPECIFIC SOLUTION:
Because of justification,Because of justification,
you are completely forgiven and fully pleasingyou are completely forgiven and fully pleasing
to God. You no longer have to fear failure.to God. You no longer have to fear failure.
Because of reconciliation,Because of reconciliation,
you are totally accepted by God.you are totally accepted by God.
You no longer have to fear rejection.You no longer have to fear rejection.
.

22. Because of propitiation,Because of propitiation,
you are deeply loved by God. You no longeryou are deeply loved by God. You no longer
have to fear punishment or have to punishhave to fear punishment or have to punish
others.others.
Because of regeneration,Because of regeneration,
you have been made brand new, completeyou have been made brand new, complete
in Christ. You no longer need to experiencein Christ. You no longer need to experience
the pain of shamethe pain of shame

23. Christ-centeredChrist-centered
self-confidence;self-confidence;
joy, courage, peace;joy, courage, peace;
desire to knowdesire to know
ChristChrist..
Christ-centeredChrist-centered
self-confidence;self-confidence;
joy, courage, peace;joy, courage, peace;
desire to knowdesire to know
ChristChrist..
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
rejectionrejection
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
rejectionrejection
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
failurefailure
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
failurefailure
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
punishmentpunishment
FreedomFreedom
from the fear offrom the fear of
punishmentpunishment
A New
Person
in
Christ
FreedomFreedom
from shamefrom shame
FreedomFreedom
from shamefrom shame

24. RESULTS OF GOD'S SOLUTIONRESULTS OF GOD'S SOLUTION
Freedom from the fear of failure;Freedom from the fear of failure;
intensity about the right things:intensity about the right things:
Christ and His Kingdom; love for ChristChrist and His Kingdom; love for Christ
Freedom from the fear of rejection;Freedom from the fear of rejection;
willingness to be open and vulnerable;willingness to be open and vulnerable;
able to relax around others;able to relax around others;
willingness to take criticism;willingness to take criticism;
desire to please God no matter what others think.desire to please God no matter what others think.
Freedom from the fear of punishment;Freedom from the fear of punishment;
patience and kindness toward others;patience and kindness toward others;
being quick to forgive; deep love for Christ.being quick to forgive; deep love for Christ.
Christ-centeredChrist-centered
self-confidence; joy, courage, peace;self-confidence; joy, courage, peace;
desire to know Christ.desire to know Christ.

25. FALSE BELIEFS CONSEQUENCES OF
FALSE BELIEFS
GOD'S SPECIFIC
SOLUTION
RESULTS OF GOD'S
SOLUTION
I must meet certain
standards in order
to feel good about
myself.
The fear of failure;
perfectionism; intensity
about your own success;
withdrawal from risks;
manipulate others to help
you succeed.
Because of justification, we are
completely forgiven and fully
pleasing to God. We no longer
have to fear failure.
Freedom from the fear of failure;
intensity about the right things:
Christ and His Kingdom; love
for Christ
I must have the
approval of certain
others to feel good
about myself.
The fear of rejection;
please others at any cost;
sensitive to criticism,
withdrawal to avoid
disapproval.
Because of reconciliation, we
are totally accepted by God.
We no longer have to fear
rejection.
Freedom from the fear of
rejection; willingness to be open
and vulnerable; able to relax
around others; willingness to
take criticism; desire to please
God no matter what others
think.
Those who fail are
unworthy of love
and deserve to be
punished.
The fear of punishment;
punishing others; blame
others when you fail; dry
spiritual life.
Because of propitiation, we are
deeply loved by God. We no
longer have to fear
punishment or punish others.
Freedom from the fear of
punishment; patience and
kindness toward others; being
quick to forgive; deep love for
Christ.
I am what I am. I
cannot change. I
am hopeless.
Inferiority feelings;
destructive habits;
hopelessness.
Because of regeneration, we
have been made brand new,
complete in Christ. We no
longer need to experience the
pain of shame.
Christ-centered self-confidence;
joy, courage, peace; desire to
know Christ.

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The fear ofThe fear of
failure;failure;
perfectionism;perfectionism;
intensity aboutintensity about
your ownyour own
success;success;
withdrawalwithdrawal
from risks;from risks;
manipulatemanipulate
others to helpothers to help
you succeed.you succeed.
Because ofBecause of
justification,justification,
we arewe are
completelycompletely
forgiven andforgiven and
fully pleasingfully pleasing
to God. Weto God. We
no longerno longer
have to fearhave to fear
failure.failure.
FreedomFreedom
from the fearfrom the fear
of failure;of failure;
intensityintensity
about theabout the
right things:right things:
Christ andChrist and
HisHis
Kingdom;Kingdom;
love forlove for
ChristChrist
II mustmust
meetmeet
certaincertain
standardstandard
s in orders in order
to feelto feel
goodgood
aboutabout
myself.myself.
FALSEFALSE
BELIEFSBELIEFS
CONSEQUEN-CONSEQUEN-
CES OFFALSECES OFFALSE
BELIEFSBELIEFS
GOD'SGOD'S
SPECIFICSPECIFIC
SOLUTIONSOLUTION
RESULTSRESULTS
OF GOD'SOF GOD'S
SOLUTIONSOLUTION

27. EXPERIENCES
False Beliefs
Ungodly
Thoughts
Emotions/
Feelings
Ungodly
Actions
Trace the emotionsTrace the emotions
backback
to the false beliefs.to the false beliefs.
GOD’SGOD’S
TruthTruth
GodlyGodly
ThoughtsThoughts
Emotions/
Feelings
GodlyGodly
ActionsActions
Replace it withReplace it with

28. •ExerciseExercise our wills to free usour wills to free us from ourfrom our
old way of living.old way of living.
How faith operates and finallyHow faith operates and finally
how to apply concepts.how to apply concepts.
•Understanding contrast between ourUnderstanding contrast between our
old and new naturesold and new natures
•Constantly alert against formerConstantly alert against former
ways of thinking, and activelyways of thinking, and actively
choose the way of Christchoose the way of Christ

29. The more we understand Biblical truth about
ourselves, the better we will be able to wage spiritual
warfare. The apostle Paul clearly distinguished
between the character and results of the old self and
the new self. His delineation in Romans 6 centers on
four words: know, consider, present, and obey.

30. Pressure linePressure line
Energy/Emotional Reserve LevelEnergy/Emotional Reserve Level
Timelines/EventsTimelines/Events
Lack ofLack of EnergyEnergy
to do workto do work
YOUR COPING MECHANISM

31. SOURCES OF ENERGY/SOURCES OF ENERGY/
EMOTIONAL STABILITYEMOTIONAL STABILITY
CONSIDERATIONSCONSIDERATIONS
I GIVE TO ITI GIVE TO IT
SCORESCORE ACTIONS TOACTIONS TO
BE TAKENBE TAKEN
REST & SLEEPREST & SLEEP
Insufficient A lotInsufficient A lot
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
FOODFOOD 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
DRINKSDRINKS 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
RELAXATIONRELAXATION 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
MENTAL DISCIPLINESMENTAL DISCIPLINES 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTSOCIAL ENGAGEMENT 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
SPIRITUAL RENEWALSPIRITUAL RENEWAL 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
PHYSICAL EXERCISEPHYSICAL EXERCISE 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
SPORTS/LEISURESSPORTS/LEISURES 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 81 2 3 4 5 6 7 8
When emotional reserves runs low

32. ACTIONSACTIONS
TO BETO BE
TAKENTAKEN
EXTENT OFEXTENT OF
NEGLECT/NEGLECT/
INDULGENCEINDULGENCE
SOURCES OFSOURCES OF
ENERGY/ENERGY/
EMOTIONALEMOTIONAL
STABILITYSTABILITY
PROCESS
PROCESS
What is the source of your inner strength?What is the source of your inner strength?
Develop a determined realistic action agendaDevelop a determined realistic action agenda
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33. Further reflect on how we can be
freed from the negative consequence
of our experiences
TAKE SOME OF THESE EXERCISESTAKE SOME OF THESE EXERCISES
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34. Rating YourRating Your
ContentmentContentment
Friends and social lifeFriends and social life
Work or primary activityWork or primary activity
Being in loveBeing in love
Recognition, successRecognition, success
Sex lifeSex life
Personal growthPersonal growth
Mental/emotional well-beingMental/emotional well-being
Physical healthPhysical health
Body and attractivenessBody and attractiveness
Finances, standard of livingFinances, standard of living
Sense of purpose, life's meaningSense of purpose, life's meaning
The future, a living hopeThe future, a living hope
Leisure, recreation
Time to do what you want
Religious convictions, feelings
and activities
Rate each area of yourRate each area of your
life in the listing below,life in the listing below,
using a scale of 1using a scale of 1
(discontented) to 10(discontented) to 10
(contented).(contented).
Your Score BoardYour Score Board
AverageAverage ____________
Discontent Duration_____Discontent Duration_____
Contentment Duration___Contentment Duration___
Item(s) for ChangeItem(s) for Change ____________

35. I believe that;I believe that;
11 Life should be fair.Life should be fair.
22 Almost every problem has a perfect solution -Almost every problem has a perfect solution -
33 There is always one right way and one true love.There is always one right way and one true love.
4 Happy people don't get angry.4 Happy people don't get angry.
5 Adults don't ask for help.5 Adults don't ask for help.
6 Good people don't criticize.6 Good people don't criticize.
7 I am not as good as others.7 I am not as good as others.
8 I should be positive all the time.8 I should be positive all the time.
9 I can't, change my attitude.9 I can't, change my attitude.
1010 My worries will go away if I don't think aboutMy worries will go away if I don't think about
them.them.
Beliefs that causes disappointmentBeliefs that causes disappointment

36. 1212 My problems have a magic cure.My problems have a magic cure.
1313 People should act better.People should act better.
1414 People must be punished for their mistakes.People must be punished for their mistakes.
1515 People ought to take care of me.People ought to take care of me.
1616 Crying is always childish.Crying is always childish.
1717 Fighting is never helpful.Fighting is never helpful.
1818 Doubting is not all allowed.Doubting is not all allowed.
1919 Really, I do not have problems.Really, I do not have problems.
2020 What could you tell me that I don't already know?What could you tell me that I don't already know?
2121 Honestly, I'm happy every minute -Honestly, I'm happy every minute -
22 When luck rolls my way, I'll be satisfied.22 When luck rolls my way, I'll be satisfied.
23 When you change, I'll be in a better mood.23 When you change, I'll be in a better mood.
24 When all the facts are in hand, I'll make a24 When all the facts are in hand, I'll make a

37. The Mental ShedThe Mental Shed
Pictures are stored in our mental shed. DescribePictures are stored in our mental shed. Describe
briefly five significant experiences. For each of thebriefly five significant experiences. For each of the
five experiences, complete the columns headlined,five experiences, complete the columns headlined,
picture., feeling,picture., feeling, andand actionaction. Include both negative. Include both negative
and positive experiences.and positive experiences.
ActionsActionsFeelingsFeelingsImagesImagesExperiencesExperiences
The World Inside YouThe World Inside You
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38. Casting Out ShadowsCasting Out Shadows
The way we deal with our Shadow is to deny itsThe way we deal with our Shadow is to deny its
existence, but then we UNCONSCIOUSLYexistence, but then we UNCONSCIOUSLY
PROJECT our dark side onto other people.PROJECT our dark side onto other people.
We think we are clean and bright whileWe think we are clean and bright while
others are actually bearing our darkness.others are actually bearing our darkness.
Examine the characteristics ofExamine the characteristics of
our dark side, our Shadow; theour dark side, our Shadow; the
very things we are most apt tovery things we are most apt to
reject in ourselves and toreject in ourselves and to
project onto others.project onto others.

39. The list of 10,The list of 10, oppositesopposites contains elements of yourcontains elements of your
Shadow parts of yourself that you would disown andShadow parts of yourself that you would disown and
project to others.project to others.
KNOW
YOUR
SHADOW
S
Write the opposite of eachWrite the opposite of each
Favorable characteristics. OppositesFavorable characteristics. Opposites
Example, Faith? ~ Doubt.Example, Faith? ~ Doubt.
Make a list of 10 favorableMake a list of 10 favorable
characteristics or desirable traitscharacteristics or desirable traits
which are part of your personalitywhich are part of your personality
(what you want to be).(what you want to be).
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40. EXPERIENCES
False Beliefs
Ungodly
Thoughts
Emotions/
Feelings
Ungodly
Actions
Trace the emotions backTrace the emotions back
to the false beliefs.to the false beliefs.
GOD’SGOD’S
TruthTruth
GodlyGodly
ThoughtsThoughts
Emotions/
Feelings
GodlyGodly
ActionsActions
Replace it withReplace it with
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