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BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
Behavioral Emotion and Body Language
By Mahmood Amirinia
Editor: Parisa Aghazadeh
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬ :‫ﻣﺆﻟﻒ‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬
‫آﻗﺎزاده‬ ‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬ :‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬
‫ﺳﺮﺷﻨﺎ‬‫ﺳﻪ‬:‫اﻣ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺮي‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﯿ‬،‫ﺎ‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺤ‬‫ﻤ‬،‫ﻮد‬1356-
‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫و‬‫ﻧﺎم‬‫ﭘﺪﯾﺪآور‬:‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫و‬‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬/
‫ﻣﻮﻟﻒ‬‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬‫؛‬‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬‫آﻗﺎزاده‬.
‫ﻣﺸﺨﺼﺎت‬‫ﻧﺸﺮ‬:‫ﻗﻢ‬:‫آراﺳﺘﻪ‬،1392.‫ﻣﺸﺨﺼﺎت‬‫ﻇﺎﻫﺮي‬:514 pages
:.‫ﻣﺼﻮر‬)‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬‫رﻧﮕﯽ‬(،‫ﺟﺪول‬)‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬‫رﻧﮕﯽ‬.(
ISBN:978-600-5908-84-8
‫وﺿﻌﯿﺖ‬‫ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﯽ‬:‫ﻓﯿﭙﺎ‬
‫ﻣﻮﺿﻮع‬:‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬‫ﮐﻼﻣﯽ‬
‫ﻣﻮﺿﻮع‬:‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬--‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬
‫ﺷﻨﺎﺳﻪ‬‫اﻓﺰوده‬:،‫آﻗﺎزاده‬،‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬
‫رده‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫دﯾﻮﯾﯽ‬:153/69
‫ﺷﻤﺎره‬‫ﮐﺘﺎﺑﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬‫ﻣﻠﯽ‬:3296284
BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬
mahmoodamirinia@yahoo.com
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mahmood.amirinia@gmail.com
:‫اول‬ ‫ﭼﺎپ‬1392
:‫ﺷﻤﺎرﮔﺎن‬3000
:‫ﺷﺎﺑﮏ‬8-84-5908-600-978ISBN
.‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻔﻮظ‬ ‫ﺣﻘﻮق‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯿﮥ‬
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BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫ﺮد‬‫ﺧ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬ ‫ﺧﺪاوﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬
‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﺸﻖ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﯿﺎن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آرزو‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻘﺪﯾﻢ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬
‫ﻫﻤﺪل‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺮﯾﻦ‬،‫ﻣﻬﺮﺑﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﯿﺨﺘﻪ‬ ،‫داﻧﺸﻤﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺴﺮ‬ ‫ام‬‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴ‬‫ﺎ‬
‫آﻗﺎزاده‬‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻧﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﯾﺎري‬ ‫ﻣﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫و‬ ‫دﻧﺪ‬
،‫دﻟﺒﻨﺪم‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺪ‬‫ﺒ‬‫راﯾ‬‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎزﻧﯿﻨﻢ‬‫روﻧﯿﺎ‬‫ﻣﺎدرم‬ ،‫ﻫﺴﺘﻢ‬ ‫راﻫﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﺸﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫ﻣﻬﺮش‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ،‫ﻧﺒﻮدﻧﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺪرم‬ ‫و‬ ‫زدود‬ ‫ﻣﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺮي‬
‫ﻓﺮزاﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﺎدان‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ،‫آﻣﻮﺧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﻤﭽﻮن‬ ‫ام‬‫آرون‬ ‫ﭘﺮﻓﺴﻮر‬
‫ِﮏ‬‫ﺑ‬،‫ﺧﺪاﭘﻨﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬،‫ﮐﺎﺧﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺗﻀﯽ‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬‫و‬‫ﻤﻬﺮي‬‫ﺟ‬ ‫ﺧﺴﺮو‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﻪ‬
‫ﻣ‬‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﻤﺎق‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺎﻧﺪﮔﺎرﻧﺪ‬‫ﻫﺎﺷﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺪ‬ ‫آﻗﺎي‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺎب‬
‫ﻃﺒﺎﻃﺒﺎﯾﯽ‬.‫دارم‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﯾﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻋﻤﺮ‬ ‫ﻃﻮل‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﻼﻣﺘﯽ‬ ‫آرزوي‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫ﯾﺎري‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﻌﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫از‬‫ﺗﻌﺪاد‬ ‫ﮔﺮاﻧﮥ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﺎپ‬ ‫آﻣﺎدة‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫از‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬‫و‬ ‫ﺳﭙﺎس‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﺑﺘﺪاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﺮدد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺜﺎرﺷﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﻘﺪﯾﺮ‬،‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬‫ﻫﻤﭽﻮن‬ ‫ﺑﺰرﮔﻮاراﻧﯽ‬‫آﻗﺎي‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺎب‬‫ﺳﯿ‬‫ﺪ‬
‫ﺷﻤﺲ‬‫ﺑﺮﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫اﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬،‫ﻣﺤﻤﺪ‬‫ﻣﺼﺪﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﯿﻦ‬،‫ﻣﺤﻤﺪ‬‫ﻣﺼﺪﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﻦ‬،‫ﺳ‬‫ﯿﺪ‬
BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫وﺣﯿﺪ‬‫ﮐﻤﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫رﺿﺎ‬،‫رﻧﺠﺒﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﮐﺎر‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺰرﮔﻤﻨﺸﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
.‫ﻧﻤﻮدﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻮار‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫رﺳﯿﺪن‬ ‫ﺛﻤﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮ‬
BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﺐ‬
‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫ﺻﻔﺤﻪ‬
‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬7
‫اول‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬9
‫رواﻧﮑﺎوي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬49
‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬53
‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬‫ﮔﺮاﯾﺎﻧﻪ‬61
‫ﺗﮑﺎﻣﻠﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬67
‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬93
‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬125
‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ،‫دوم‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬159
‫ﺟﻠﻮه‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬161
‫دﺳﺘﮕﺎه‬‫رﻣﺰﮔﺬارى‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫اﻋﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﺎى‬‫اى‬166
‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮﻫﺎي‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺮژي‬183
BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫آزاد‬ ‫اﻧﺮژي‬ ‫دﯾﻨﺎﻣﯿﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﻮﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﺮﺧﮥ‬188
‫اﻧﺮژي‬‫ﻓﯿﺰﯾﻮﻟﻮژﯾﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫زﯾﺴﺘﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧ‬191
‫اﻧﺮژي‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧ‬217
‫ﺗﺮﮐﯿﺒﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﻬﺎي‬241
‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﺧﻮدﺑﯿﺰاري‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﯿﻔﺘﮕﯽ‬245
‫ﭘﺮﯾﺸﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭘﺮﺧﺎﺷﮕﺮي‬253
‫ﺧﻮدﮐﻬﺘﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺧﻮدﻣﻬﺘﺮي‬273
‫اﻓﺴﺮدﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﯿﺪاﯾﯽ‬281
‫ﻧﺎرﺿﺎﯾﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﺿﺎﯾﺖ‬287
‫ﻧﺎﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬297
،‫ﺳﻮم‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬321
‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎه‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬323
‫ﻣﻀﺤﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫وﺟﺪاﻧﮕﯿﺰ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬340
‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﻔﮑﺮ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬342
‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﭼﺸﻢ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬355
‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫و‬‫ﺷﻨﻮد‬379
‫آرزوﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫ي‬393
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬401
‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫ﺴﮏ‬‫ﺗ‬‫ﮔﺮو‬405
‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﻫﺎي‬‫دﺳﺖ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬407
‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﭘﺎﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬454
‫دﺳﺖ‬‫دادن‬473
BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
‫ﭘﺎﯾﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬481
‫ﻣﻨﺎﺑﻊ‬485
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
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‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬:‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬»‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫اﺛﺮ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬«‫را‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدم‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ،‫ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻢ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﭘ‬‫داد‬ ‫ﺎﺳﺦ‬
‫ﺗﺎزه‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎري‬ ‫و‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫زﻣﯿﻨﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭼﻄﻮر‬ ‫ﻣﺜﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ؟‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﻮز‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬
‫ﺳﻨﺠ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺗﻀﻤﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻزم‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬‫ار‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﯿﺪه‬‫ﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬
‫ﺑﮕﺬارد؟‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫روي‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬
‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻧﻘﺸﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺪن‬ ‫زﺑﺎن‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬
‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫زﺑﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ً‫ﺎ‬‫اﺳﺎﺳ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﺻﯽ‬‫واژة‬ ‫از‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬»‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬«‫آن‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬‫را‬
»‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬«‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدم‬‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺪ‬»‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎرﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬«1
‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺣﻮزه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎر‬ ‫آﺧﺮﯾﻦ‬‫ﻣﻘﻮﻟﮥ‬ ‫در‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺑﻮط‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎري‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬»‫ن‬‫د‬‫ﺑﻮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎرك‬«2
‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎت‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺮﮐﺰ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﺳﺮاﺳﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫روي‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬‫ﮔ‬‫ﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺟﺪﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﺗﻌﺎرﯾﻒ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣ‬ .‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻋﺼﺐ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫ﺤﻘﻘﺎن‬
‫اﯾﺪه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺸﺄ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺪاﮐﺮدن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺪن‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﻐﺰ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﺰﯾﻮﻟﻮژي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬‫ﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫روزي‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫وﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺮدﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﭼﺎر‬‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﮔﺬرد‬‫ﺎزه‬
‫ﺷﮕﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫اﺳﺮار‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻧﮕﯿﺰي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺸﻒ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎري‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾ‬ .‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻦ‬
.‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬
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Deconstruct
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‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
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‫ﻣ‬ ‫در‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﺗﻈﺎﻫﺮات‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻮش‬ ‫ﻘﻮﻟﮥ‬‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫اي‬»‫ﻞ‬‫ﭘ‬
‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬«‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫داد‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اي‬
‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬»‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬«،‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬»‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﻧﺎواﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﻪ‬«
‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺸﺎء‬ ‫داراي‬ ‫و‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺶ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﻣﻞ‬ ‫اي‬
‫)ﺑ‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺮت‬ ،‫ﺧﺸﻢ‬‫ﯽ‬.‫اﺳﺖ‬ (‫)ﻧﺎﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮه‬ ‫ﺗﻌﺠﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻏﻢ‬ ،‫ﺷﺎدي‬ ،‫ﺗﺮس‬ ،(‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﻫﻤﯿﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎي‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻃﺮﯾﻖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﺷﺘﯿﺎق‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺪت‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫درﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﯿﻢ‬‫ﻃ‬‫ﺗﻈﺎﻫﺮات‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﮐﺸﻒ‬ ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻮر‬
‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨ‬‫ﺪ‬
.‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺛﺮﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬
‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻫﺪاﻓﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﺠﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﺘﻪ‬‫و‬‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫درك‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﺘ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻨﺎﺳﺐ‬
‫ﺷﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺨﺎﻃﺐ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﭘﯿﺮاﻣﻮن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫اﻧﺪك‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ .‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬
‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎﺗﯽ‬‫دﺳﺖ‬ ،‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ام‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺎﯾﮥ‬
‫ﻣﺪل‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎت‬ ‫ﻗﻮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺶ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬ .‫دادم‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻦ‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺿﯽ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺮدم‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﺴ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫داﻧﻢ‬‫ﯿﺮي‬
‫ﺧﻄﺎﻫﺎ‬ ،‫ام‬ ‫ﭘﯿﻤﻮده‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫و‬‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬‫ﻫﺎﯾ‬‫از‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوارم‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﯽ‬
.‫ﻧﻤﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺮﺣﻮﺻﻠﮥ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﻬﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻧﻨﺪة‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬
‫ﻣﻬﺮﻣﺎه‬ ،‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬1392
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‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ : ‫اول‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬:‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫رواﻧﮑﺎوي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬
‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬
‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬‫ﮔﺮاﯾﺎﻧﻪ‬
‫ﺗﮑﺎﻣﻠﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬
‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬
‫ﻧ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﮕﺮش‬
)‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬1-1:(‫اﺛﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﺎﺑﻠﻮي‬»‫ﺷﺮ‬‫ا‬«‫در‬‫ﺳﺎل‬1953
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‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻋﺪم‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻟﺬت‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺖ‬‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ،‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮدآﮔﺎه‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫رواﻧﯽ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﯾﻢ‬»‫آﺷﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﺷﻨﮥ‬«‫ﺑﭙﻮﺷﺎﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫و‬
‫ﮐﺎرﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻗﻮي‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬
‫ﮐﺎﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﭘﻮﺷﺎﻧﺪن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫روﺷﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﻫﺎي‬‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫و‬ ‫ﻮد‬
‫ﻧﮕﺮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺧﺮوج‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬ ،‫دارد‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ،‫ﻫﺎ‬‫دﭼﺎر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺟﻮر‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻤﻮدي‬‫ﻧ‬‫وا‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﯿﻔﺘﮕﯽ‬
‫ﮔﻮﺷﻪ‬‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ‫اﺧﺘﻼل‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺑﺎﺷ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬.‫ﺪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﭙﺮدازﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬‫آدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬‫ﺧﻮدﺑﺰرگ‬‫ﺳﺘﯿﺰه‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﻮ‬‫ﺧﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬
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‫ﮔﻮﺷﻪ‬‫ﮔﺸﺎده‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﻟﻤﺮده‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﯾﻢ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫و‬ ‫رو‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬
‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻﯾﻖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮش‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬‫ﺷﺪن‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬
.‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬
‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ؟‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺧﻮب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬
‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﻧﺪارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزي‬‫و‬.‫دارد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺎﻻ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﻣﺤﺼﻮل‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻓﺮوش‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫دل‬ ‫درد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وارد‬ ‫ﺟﻤﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫دﻧﺒﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﮔﺮدﯾﻢ‬‫ﻪ‬
‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫دﻧﺒﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺰﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺻﺪﻣﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬
‫ﮐﻨ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬‫اﺛﺮﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺮدن‬
‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬.‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺪا‬ ،‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﺑﯽ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫دﺳﺘﮕﺎه‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫آرام‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺳﺮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺸﻢ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮدﻣﺎن‬ ‫ُﮑﺎي‬‫ﻨ‬ُ‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫دل‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺠﺎد‬‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫ﺷﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎز‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آب‬ ‫از‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﻧﻮﺷﯿﻢ‬
‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬‫آن‬ ‫آب‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺠﺎﺳﺖ؟‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪة‬ ‫ﺗﻐﺬﯾﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺮ‬‫ﭘ‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺪه‬ ‫ﻋﻮض‬ ‫روزي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫دا‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ؟‬ ‫ﻋﻮض‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫آب‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺆل‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫رﯾﻢ‬
‫وﻇﯿﻔﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ،‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫اش‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻦ‬
‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آب‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺚ‬.‫ﻧﻮﺷﯿﻢ‬
‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫واﻗﻊ‬ ‫در‬
‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫ﻣﺰاﯾﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎﯾ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺪ‬
ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺣﻤﺎﯾﺘﮕﺮ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻨﮑﻪ‬
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‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬‫ﺑﺎور‬ ‫ﺗﻤﯿﺰ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻮارا‬ ‫آﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻧﺪ؟‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺮازﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻃﺮف‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺮاب‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫ا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮔﺮ‬
‫ﻣﯿﮑﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻟﻮده‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫آﻧﻬﺎﺳﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫وﺑﯽ‬‫ﯿﻤﺎر‬
‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﻠﻒ‬ ‫ﺗﺸﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺣﺎﺿﺮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫وﻗﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫دﭼﺎر‬ ،‫دارد‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﺗﺮ‬ .‫ﻧﮑﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬»‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮار‬«‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬
‫راﺑﻄﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻼﮐﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺒﺎب‬ ،‫ﮐﺮدﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬
‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ذﻫﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮارﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫درون‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺎﻫﻮﯾﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺸﻢ‬
‫وﺳﻮاس‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﺒﺪﯾﻞ‬‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺷﺎﯾﻨﺪي‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ،‫ﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬
‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬.‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﯾﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮارﻫﺎي‬‫و‬ ‫روان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮره‬ ‫ﻣﺜﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺘ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫درﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﺴﻢ‬
‫ﮐﺸ‬‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫ﻒ‬‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﻌﻨﯽ‬ .‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫د‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫ر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫درﮔﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﻤﺎﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺪه‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﻣﺪﺗﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﻌﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬،
‫ﺗﺼﻤﯿﻤﯽ‬ ،‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮدآﮔﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬‫دﻫﺪ‬
‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻪ‬»‫ورﻃﮥ‬
‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻓﺘﯿﻢ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬»‫ﻣﯿﺸﻞ‬‫ﻓﻮﮐﻮ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮔﻮﯾ‬:‫ﺪ‬
»‫ﺑﺎﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫ﺗﺎرﯾﺦ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬«
‫ﺗﺤﻠﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﻠﺴﻮف‬ ‫و‬،‫ﻣﻌﺎﺻﺮ‬ ‫ﮔﺮاي‬»‫ژاك‬‫د‬‫رﯾﺪا‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺿﺎﻓﻪ‬:‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬»‫ﺟﻨﻮ‬‫ن‬،
‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻓﺮوﺧﻮرده‬ ‫زﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﺒﺎرﺗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬«.
‫ﺧ‬ ‫از‬ ‫رﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬
‫ﺻﺮف‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ذ‬ ‫ارزش‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫اﺗﯽ‬
‫ﻋﻈﯿﻤﯽ‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬ ‫ارزش‬ ،‫آن‬‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ .‫دارد‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬
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»‫ﻣﺘﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻻ‬«،‫داﻧﺶ‬ ،‫ﻣﺸﺎرﮐﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬
‫ﻋﺰت‬ ،‫اﺳﺘﻘﻼل‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫ﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫اﯾ‬ .‫آورد‬‫ﻦ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﻮد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﻨﻔﻌﺖ‬ ،‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬‫ﻣﺮ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫دم‬
‫ﻓﻌﺎﻟﯿﺖ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬
.‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﻠﺴﻮﻓﺎن‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫ﮔﻮﯾﻨﺪ‬»‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«،»‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬
»‫ﺣﻘﯿﻘﺖ‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«‫از‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﺗﺮ‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ذاﺗﯽ‬ ‫ارزش‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻗﺒﻞ‬ ‫اﺑﺰار‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎر‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اوﻗﺎت‬ ‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬‫را‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬‫اﺳ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺠﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺖ‬
‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻋﮑﺲ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﮐﺎﻣ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﺧﻮد‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫واﻟﺪﯾ‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮاﻧﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻮدﮐﺎن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬
‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫ﺷﺪت‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫د‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ر‬
‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫ﺣﻘﻮﻗﺸﺎن‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫آﻣﺎده‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻗﺮاردادي‬ ‫ﻧﻮع‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬
‫د‬‫ﻗﺮاردا‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﻗﺮارداد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺳﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﻀﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬
‫ِرس‬‫ﻮ‬‫)ﺳﯿﻠ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎر‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬3
،2005.(
‫ﺗ‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎري‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫از‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻮﺟﻪ‬،
‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻزم‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺪ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺛﺒﺎت‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬.‫ﺎﺷﺪ‬
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Silvers, A.
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‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎي‬ ِ‫ﺮ‬‫درﮔﯿ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬»‫ﺧﻮد‬
‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬‫اﻧﮕﺎري‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬»‫ﺗﻤﺎرض‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫آن‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﺸﺎن‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫روﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ،‫ﺑﺪﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدش‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ،‫ﺗﺮﻓﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺮﻧﮓ‬‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ِ‫ﺶ‬‫ﻧﻘ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﻧﻈ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫آوردﻧﺪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬‫ﺗﺎزه‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﺑﺎز‬ ،‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺮ‬‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اي‬
.‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻏﺎز‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺨﺘﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ِ‫ﺺ‬‫ﺷﺨ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺸﺨﯿﺺ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫ﺑﯿﻨﺪ‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬ ‫ﻋﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﭼﻨ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬‫ﯿﻦ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬،‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬ .‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺎوت‬
‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ِ‫ﻖ‬‫ﻻﯾ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ً‫ﺎ‬‫واﻗﻌ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺑﺰارﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﯽ‬‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
.‫ﺟﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ،‫دﻫﺪ‬
‫ﺑﯿﻤ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﺎر‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬
‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﻧﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﺗﺮﻓﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ِ‫ر‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزي‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬
‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬»‫ﺷﺨﺼﯿﺖ‬«‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺪارد‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻠﯽ‬
.‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪاﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫داﻧﺸﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬
‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺪ‬
‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫دور‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اﺟﺎزه‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺎ‬‫َش‬‫ا‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ،‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬
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‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﮕﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫آﻣﺪه‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎري‬ ِ‫ﺾ‬‫ﺗﻨﺎﻗ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ،‫او‬
‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﺳﻤﺖ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫دﻫﺪﮐﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﻋﺰت‬ ،‫ﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺒﺨﺸﻨﺪ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺧﻼﻗ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺼﯿﺖ‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺑﮕﺬارﯾﻢ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬
‫اﻓﺰاﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﺶ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬»‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬«4
‫ﻣﯽ‬:‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﺪ‬
»‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬.«
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺷﺒﮑﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫اﺧﻼق‬،‫روش‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آورد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬
‫اﺟﺘ‬ ‫ﻗﺮاردادﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻋﻤﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﻬﺮوﻧﺪان‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ،‫ﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬»‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎري‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﻮق‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ .‫دﻫﺪ‬‫ﭼﯿﺰي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ،‫آرﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫زﻧﺪﮔ‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ،‫ﺣﺎل‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬‫اﺳﺎس‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬»‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﻣﺎﯾﮥ‬«‫ﻗﺎدر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺘﺮك‬ ‫اﻫﺪاف‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎ‬‫ري‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻗﻮي‬ ‫اﻗﺘﺼﺎد‬ ‫داراي‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻻ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻌﯽ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﺗﺮ‬‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬
‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻊ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬5
،2002.(
‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮرﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻌﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ،‫ﺣﻘﺎﯾﻖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ،‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬
‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬»‫ﻧﻘﺺ‬«‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﯾﻨﺪه‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫ﻓﺮﺻ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬
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،‫ﻧﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ .‫ﻧﺒﺮد‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫اﺧﻼﻗ‬ ِ‫غ‬‫ﺑﻠﻮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﯽ‬
‫ﻓﻦ‬ ،‫داﻧﺶ‬ ،‫اﺳﺘﻘﻼل‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺳﯿﻢ‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮاواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫آوري‬
‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ِ‫ن‬‫ﻋﻨﻮا‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ش‬‫ارز‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺒﻨﺎﯾﯽ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺗﺨﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺣﺪي‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻣﻞ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ّﯽ‬‫ﻠ‬‫ﮐ‬
‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫)ﺑﺎ‬6
،1986.(
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫زﯾﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬
‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫دو‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪازه‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎز‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ِ‫ب‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﺮور‬‫ﺗ‬
‫ﻣﺮدﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ،‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﻧﺪازة‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬‫ﻦ‬
‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﺆال‬»‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬:‫ﭘﺮﺳﯿﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬»‫ﭼ‬‫ﺮا‬
‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬«‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬
‫آن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ل‬‫دﻧﺒﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎورﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬ ً‫ﻼ‬‫اﺻ‬ ‫ﯾﻌﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﺮدم‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدش‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫را‬
‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﮥ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻏﻠﺐ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬»‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬«‫ﺣﺎدﺛﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﺗﻠﺦ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻧﺎﮔﻮار‬ ‫و‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬،‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬2004.(
‫ﺿﺮﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ً‫ﺎ‬‫ﻋﻤﯿﻘ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺷﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬‫ﻧﺎاﻣﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ،‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آورد‬
‫ﻣﺮا‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﺸﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻗﺐ‬‫ﺗﻮ‬‫ان‬
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‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ،‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫اﺳﺖ؟‬ ‫رﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫داده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫اﻧﺪ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ،‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫داﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺜﯿﻒ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺮﯾﻊ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫ﺮ‬‫ﻧ‬‫)اوﺳﻼ‬ ‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫دردزا‬ ‫و‬ ‫آرام‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬7
،1999.(
‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﻬﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ،‫ﻧﻤﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬
‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮﭼ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻨ‬‫ﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻼش‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺆﺳﺴﺎت‬‫ﻋﻤﻮﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫را‬
‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎزﮔﺮداﻧﻨﺪ‬‫داوﻃﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﺎن‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫و‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫آزاد‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ،‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬.‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﻓﻖ‬ ‫راه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﺎن‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫در‬
‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫واﻗ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻌﯽ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬،‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬
‫ﮐﺎرﮔﺎه‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﻋﻮت‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬‫ﻫﻨﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬
‫ﻗ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎت‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﻣﻮزﻧﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺰدﯾﮏ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬‫ﻫﻨ‬ ‫ﺎﻟﺐ‬‫ﺮ‬
‫)اﻧﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﻻﯾﺶ‬8
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‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬،‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪ‬ ،‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫اي‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬
‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﻨ‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﺎﺳﺐ‬
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‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫ﺑﺤﺚ‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ،‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬،‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﮥ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺎزﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﺮداﻧﺪ‬
‫ﺑﻌﻀﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﯾﻠﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣﻮﻗﻌﯿﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫و‬‫ﻤﺎد‬
‫ﺣﺎﻟﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫ﺳﺮ‬‫د‬‫در‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬
‫ﻋﻘ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻼﻧﯽ‬
‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﺮدن‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺪاﯾﺖ‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫زﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫زور‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬
‫اﮔﺮ‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻏﻤﺎض‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻣﺘﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮔﺴﺘﺮش‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫زﻧﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺣﺎﻟﯽ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ،‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯿﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫روز‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﺿﺎﻓﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺷﻮد؟‬
‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﻟﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺟﻬﺖ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﻣﺘﻮﻟﯿﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎد‬‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯽ‬
‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫و‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ،‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬
‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻘﻘﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺎوران‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻓﺰاﯾﺶ‬
‫داﻧﺸﯽ‬‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﺒﺮﮔﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬.‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬
‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬»‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬«‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دوﺑﺎرة‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬
‫ﺗﺄﺛﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﻋﻮاﻣﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬‫ﺣﺎدﺛﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﺬار‬
‫آﺗﺶ‬ ،‫زﻟﺰﻟﻪ‬ ،‫ﺳﯿﻞ‬ ،‫ﺗﺼﺎدف‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﮔﻮار‬‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﮓ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﻮزي‬
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‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫رخ‬ ‫ﺣﻮادﺛﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ،
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﺸﯿﺪه‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻗ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫اي‬‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﺮار‬
‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺗﻤﺎﻣ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯿﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دردآور‬ ‫ﺣﺎدﺛﮥ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬
‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﻧﯿﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻤﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬
.‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﺳﺎزي‬
‫ﺑﺮﺟﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﻧﻘﺶ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﺎزﯾﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫در‬ ‫اي‬‫ﯽ‬
‫ﮔﺬﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﺳﺎزﮔﺎر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻓﺮادي‬ .‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ،‫زﻣﺎن‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬‫اﻓﮑ‬‫ﺎر‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺳﻨﺘ‬ ‫ﺑﺎورﻫﺎي‬ ‫و‬
‫ﭼﺴﺒﯿﺪه‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫اﻧﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮕﺎم‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﻣﺪر‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺘﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬
‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻧﺴﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﺎف‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ُﻓﺖ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬.‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬
‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫آوردن‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬
‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎي‬‫ز‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫ﯾﺮا‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫د‬‫اﻧﺠﻤﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺪﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬
‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫و‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ ِ‫ر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬‫ﺷﮑ‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫د‬ ‫ﻞ‬‫ر‬
‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫ﻧﻘﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺳﺎﯾﺮ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬
:‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬
1‫ﺳﺨﺖ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﭼﻨﺎن‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺣﻖ‬‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬‫ﮔ‬‫ﻮﻧﻪ‬
‫ﺑﺮاز‬‫ا‬‫ﻋﻘﯿﺪه‬‫اي‬‫را‬‫ﻧﺪارﻧﺪ‬.‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﻧﻮع‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﻃﺮز‬ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﺸﻪ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﭘﺲ‬ ،‫ﮔﻮﯾﺪ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫و‬
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‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺒﯿﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻮﯾﺪ‬‫ﮐﺮدن‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺄﯾﯿﺪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻃﺎﻋﺖ‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫ﺧﻮاﺳﺘﻪ‬‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﻧﯿﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﮕﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫دﯾﮕ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ي‬‫در‬ ‫ﺮان‬
.‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫رواج‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬
2‫ﺳﻬﻞ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬‫ﻧﻮع‬‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮﻟﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮ‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻧﺪ‬‫ارﻧﺪ‬‫و‬
‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫را‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﮐﺎﻣ‬‫آزاد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮔﺬارﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻧﺤﻮي‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻣﺎﯾﻞ‬‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬،
‫ﺷﯿﻮه‬‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺧﺎص‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬‫را‬‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬‫و‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐﺎر‬‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬.‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫دﻟﯿ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪاﺷﺘﻦ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﯿﺶ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻧﺪازه‬ ‫از‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫راﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬.‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬
3‫آﺷﻔﺘﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮﯾﺸﺎن‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻋﻠﺖ‬‫اﺧﺘﻼف‬ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻗ‬‫ﻬﺮ‬‫و‬
‫آﺷﺘﯽ‬،‫اﺳﺖ‬ِ‫ﺮ‬‫اﺛ‬‫ﻣﻨﻔﯽ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬‫روي‬‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﮐﻮدك‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫ﻗﺎﺿﯽ‬‫در‬‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺷﻮد‬‫و‬‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧ‬‫ﯾﮑ‬‫ﯽ‬‫از‬
‫ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫اﻣﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫در‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫ارزش‬‫و‬‫اﺣﺘﺮاﻣﯽ‬
‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻓﺮد‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻗﺎﺋﻞ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﺳﻄﻮح‬ ،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻻﯾﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺣﺪ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫آ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫و‬ ‫آﻣﯿﺰ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﺎﻗﻀﯽ‬‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫اش‬،‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎﺳﺎزﮔﺎر‬‫و‬‫ﻣﺄﯾﻮس‬
‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬‫اﺳﺖ‬.
4‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎر‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺳﺮزﻧﺪه‬ ،‫و‬‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﻣﺤﺒﺖ‬‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬‫و‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫و‬‫اﻋﻤﺎل‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﺴﺒﺖ‬
‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬،‫رﻧﺞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﺎراﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫را‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﺴﺒﺖ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫راﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫اﻓﺮاد‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫از‬‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﻌﻘﻮل‬‫و‬
‫ﺳﻨﺠﯿﺪه‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬‫ﻫﺮاﺳﻨﺪ‬‫و‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫داﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬،‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫ﺧﻄ‬ِ‫ﺮ‬
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‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫وﻟﯽ‬‫ه‬‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎ‬‫ﺷﺨﺼﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗ‬‫ﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫اي‬
‫ﻣﻮﻓﻘﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫زﻣﯿﻨﻪ‬‫اي‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫رﺷﺪ‬‫و‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﺴﺐ‬
‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬‫ﺳﻄﺢ‬ .‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ارزش‬‫و‬‫اﺣﺘﺮاﻣﯽ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻓﺮد‬‫ﺑ‬‫ﺮاي‬
‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻗﺎﺋﻞ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬‫در‬‫ﺣﺪ‬‫ﻣﻌﻘﻮل‬‫و‬‫ﻣﻨﻄﻘﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬،‫اي‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺳﻄﻮﺣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻣﻨ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻄﻘﯽ‬
‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻧﺪ‬،‫ﻣﺴﺘﻘﯿﻢ‬،‫واﺿﺢ‬
‫ﺻﺮﯾﺢ‬‫و‬‫ﻣﺒﺘﻨﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮ‬‫درﺳﺘﮑﺎري‬‫اﺳﺖ‬.
‫ﺑﻪ‬‫از‬ ‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫رازﻫﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫دردﻫﺎ‬ ،‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﺳﻨﮕﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺤﻤﻞ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﭼﺎرﯾﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﺴﯽ‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﺑﮕﺬارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﯿﻢ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫رازﻫﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دردﻫﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫رازد‬ ِ‫ل‬‫ﻗﻮ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺣﺮﻓﻬﺎي‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫اري‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬
‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬
‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫دل‬ ‫د‬‫در‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫وﺿﻌﯿﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ؟‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ؟‬ ،‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺑﺎرﻫﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎرﻫﺎ‬‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬‫ﮑﺎرﻧﺪ‬
ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫و‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺲ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
.‫داد‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬
‫ُﻣﯿﺪ‬‫ا‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫وﻟﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ِ‫ل‬‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﻣﻮارد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫رود‬‫ز‬
‫درﻧﻈﺮ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﺻﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮوط‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ،‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‬‫ﺖ‬
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‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬»‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﻪ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬»‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﺖ‬«9
‫ﻣﯽ‬:‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﺪ‬»‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪ‬.«
،‫ﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬
‫ﻧﺸ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺎن‬.‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺎري‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫دﻫﺪ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻣﻼ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫راز‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬
‫ﻧﺪاده‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫و‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﻪ‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﺷﯿﺎي‬‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﻋﺖ‬ ‫زﻧﮓ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺸﮑﻨﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺮاب‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬
.‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ُﻣﯿﺪ‬‫ا‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫وﻟﯽ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬
‫ﮐﺮده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬‫راز‬ ‫اﻓﺸﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ،‫دادﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺑﺘﺪا‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫راز‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﻨﺪ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدﻧﺪ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬
‫ا‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫آن‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﺑﻮد‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺛﺒﺎت‬
،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﻌﯿﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬
‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺳﻄﺤﯽ‬‫او‬ ،‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﭙﺬﯾﺮد‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ﺮ‬‫ﺧﻄ‬‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬
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‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮض‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬
‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺎرت‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﺮوع‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬
‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﻤﺎل‬‫ا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬
.‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫از‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮔﻮش‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﻠﻔﻨﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬
‫دورﺑﯿﻦ‬‫دﭼﺎر‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺪار‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬»‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﺬﯾﺎن‬«
‫روﺷﻬ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺨﺘﮕﯿﺮاﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺎي‬‫آﻣﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺷﺪﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪة‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺿﻊ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬.‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬
‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﺗﻮ‬‫از‬ ‫ان‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ،‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫زد‬ ‫ﺣﺮف‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ر‬‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎ‬.‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮآورده‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ،‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬
‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﻮﻗﻌﯿﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺛﺎﺑﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬
‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺎﻓﻌﯽ‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫داﺷﺘ‬.‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﻪ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺳﺎده‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬:‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﻟﻮﺣﯽ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫درﺻﻮرﺗﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬
‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﮔﻤﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻮك‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺲ‬ ‫دادن‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫ر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ا‬
‫ﻏﯿﺮﻣﻤ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮑﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻃﻤﯿﻨﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺘﮕﯽ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫)ﮔﻮو‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬10
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‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻌﻀﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺎ‬
‫ﻧﮕﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺪﮐﻮدك‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻣﺮﺑ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺎوري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪﻣﺎن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داري‬
‫اﻧﺘﺨ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺎب‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﮏ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎرﺳﺘﺎن‬ ِ‫ﺲ‬‫اورژاﻧ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫اورژاﻧﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫وﺿﻌﯿ‬‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫ﺖ‬‫دﺳ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﻮارد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﻠﯽ‬ ‫و‬‫ﺗﺨﺼﺼﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺑﻮط‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫ﻟﻮد‬ ‫)ﻣﮏ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬11
،2002.(
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺰد‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ،‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺬارد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫زﯾ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺮا‬
‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮق‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫آن‬ ‫ﺣﻘﯿﻘﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻓ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﮑﺮ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻓﺮﯾﺐ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮردﮔﯽ‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺘﺮك‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬‫ﺳﺎده‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬‫ﻣﻮ‬ ‫ﻟﻮﺣﯽ‬‫ﺟﺐ‬
‫ﺧﻮش‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬:‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬ ،‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﺪاوم‬ ‫و‬ ‫آورد‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫آﻧﻬ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﺎ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫آن‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬
‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻟﺤﺎظ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﺮض‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬
،‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬
.‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬
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‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫اي‬‫ﺳﭙﺮدن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺎﺷﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ‬‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬
‫ﺳﻮء‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوار‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺪت‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺨﻄﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫او‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫اﻧﻪ‬
‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮان‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫وي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﺗ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻌﻬﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﺧﺘﯿﺎر‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺛﺒﺎت‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫در‬ .‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داد‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫او‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎري‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫واﻗﻊ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬
‫ﮐﻨ‬ ‫ﺑﺮآورده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوار‬ ،‫ﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎﺷ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺘﺪار‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﺪ‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬
‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺮوزه‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺪاوم‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺿﺮوري‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬»‫وﻓﺎداري‬«‫ﮔﻔﺘ‬‫ﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺤﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﻠﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫ﻣ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻄﯽ‬‫ﯽ‬،‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬2002‫(؟‬
:‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﻼم‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﺷﮑﺎرا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﻌﺮض‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮدش‬ ،‫ﺑﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫وزن‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺳﺮزﻧﺶ‬‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬»‫ﻋﺮف‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬»‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪي‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬«‫او‬ ،‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫در‬‫را‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﭽﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﺮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫داﻧﺪ‬»‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﺎدات‬ ‫ﺗﺮك‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬
‫وﺣﺸﺖ‬ ،‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﻌﺪ‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﺴﺘ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﺧﻮردﮔﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫از‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬
‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬.‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬
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‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫راﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬‫ﺑﺮﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺪﻓﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﮔﺰﯾﻨ‬‫ﯿﻢ‬
‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻮاره‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫و‬ ‫آرﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬
‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ذات‬ ‫در‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫رﻧﺞ‬»‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬«‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬.‫دارد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬
‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫اﺟﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻧﺎﻣﺤﺴﻮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫َﺑﺰارﻫﺎي‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬
‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺎرﺗﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮﻟﯽ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺮوﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺠﺒﻮر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﻨﻨﺪ‬
‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎري‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻤﺎﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ان‬
ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺎن‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺸﻨﺎﺳﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺎد‬
‫ﻣﺎﻧﺪه‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دروﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﺳﺘﮥ‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬
‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬12
،2002‫داﺳﮕﺎﭘﺘﺎ‬ ‫و‬13
،1988.(
‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻄﺒﯿﻖ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬
‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻣﻀﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮارداد‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎﻣﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫اوﻟﯿﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﮕﯿﺰة‬ ،‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫ﺗﺤﻤﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾ‬ .‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﺒﺮي‬ ‫و‬ ‫آورد‬‫آور‬
.‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﭽﻪ‬
‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫د‬
‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻘﻮﯾﺖ‬‫داﻧﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬
ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﮐﺎرﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﯽ‬ ‫آزار‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻼت‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻓﺮﻣﺎﯾﯽ‬
12
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‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺘﺮﻣﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻢ‬‫زن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫زﯾﺮا‬ ،‫ﻫﺎ‬
‫ﻋﻼﻗﻪ‬ ‫او‬‫زن‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮب‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اي‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪارد‬‫ﻃﻮ‬‫ر‬
‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﻧﻮﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﻮردﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬
‫)ﭘﻮﺗﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬14
،2002.(
‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻃﻤﯿﻨﺎن‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫او‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬
ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ،‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫اﯾﻦ‬
‫در‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺘﻪ‬
‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫او‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﻧﮕﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﺪه‬
‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬
‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻤﺮﻧﮓ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬
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Behavioral Emotion and Body Language book by Mahmood Amirinia

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  • 2. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 Behavioral Emotion and Body Language By Mahmood Amirinia Editor: Parisa Aghazadeh ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬ :‫ﻣﺆﻟﻒ‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬ ‫آﻗﺎزاده‬ ‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬ :‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺳﺮﺷﻨﺎ‬‫ﺳﻪ‬:‫اﻣ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺮي‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﯿ‬،‫ﺎ‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺤ‬‫ﻤ‬،‫ﻮد‬1356- ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫و‬‫ﻧﺎم‬‫ﭘﺪﯾﺪآور‬:‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫و‬‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬/ ‫ﻣﻮﻟﻒ‬‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬‫؛‬‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬‫آﻗﺎزاده‬. ‫ﻣﺸﺨﺼﺎت‬‫ﻧﺸﺮ‬:‫ﻗﻢ‬:‫آراﺳﺘﻪ‬،1392.‫ﻣﺸﺨﺼﺎت‬‫ﻇﺎﻫﺮي‬:514 pages :.‫ﻣﺼﻮر‬)‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬‫رﻧﮕﯽ‬(،‫ﺟﺪول‬)‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬‫رﻧﮕﯽ‬.( ISBN:978-600-5908-84-8 ‫وﺿﻌﯿﺖ‬‫ﻓﻬﺮﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﯽ‬:‫ﻓﯿﭙﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺿﻮع‬:‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬‫ﮐﻼﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺿﻮع‬:‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬--‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺳﻪ‬‫اﻓﺰوده‬:،‫آﻗﺎزاده‬،‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴﺎ‬‫وﯾﺮاﺳﺘﺎر‬ ‫رده‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫دﯾﻮﯾﯽ‬:153/69 ‫ﺷﻤﺎره‬‫ﮐﺘﺎﺑﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬‫ﻣﻠﯽ‬:3296284
  • 3. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬ mahmoodamirinia@yahoo.com X mahmood.amirinia@gmail.com :‫اول‬ ‫ﭼﺎپ‬1392 :‫ﺷﻤﺎرﮔﺎن‬3000 :‫ﺷﺎﺑﮏ‬8-84-5908-600-978ISBN .‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻔﻮظ‬ ‫ﺣﻘﻮق‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯿﮥ‬ -------------------------------------------------- Tell: 0098-2144222995 Mobile: 0098-9375223560 Postal Box: 14875-373 Iran
  • 4. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺮد‬‫ﺧ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬ ‫ﺧﺪاوﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﺸﻖ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﯿﺎن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آرزو‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻘﺪﯾﻢ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪل‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺮﯾﻦ‬،‫ﻣﻬﺮﺑﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﯿﺨﺘﻪ‬ ،‫داﻧﺸﻤﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺴﺮ‬ ‫ام‬‫ﭘﺮﯾﺴ‬‫ﺎ‬ ‫آﻗﺎزاده‬‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻧﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﯾﺎري‬ ‫ﻣﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫و‬ ‫دﻧﺪ‬ ،‫دﻟﺒﻨﺪم‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺪ‬‫ﺒ‬‫راﯾ‬‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎزﻧﯿﻨﻢ‬‫روﻧﯿﺎ‬‫ﻣﺎدرم‬ ،‫ﻫﺴﺘﻢ‬ ‫راﻫﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﺸﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫ﻣﻬﺮش‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ،‫ﻧﺒﻮدﻧﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺪرم‬ ‫و‬ ‫زدود‬ ‫ﻣﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺮي‬ ‫ﻓﺮزاﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﺎدان‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ،‫آﻣﻮﺧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﻤﭽﻮن‬ ‫ام‬‫آرون‬ ‫ﭘﺮﻓﺴﻮر‬ ‫ِﮏ‬‫ﺑ‬،‫ﺧﺪاﭘﻨﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬،‫ﮐﺎﺧﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺗﻀﯽ‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬‫و‬‫ﻤﻬﺮي‬‫ﺟ‬ ‫ﺧﺴﺮو‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﻣ‬‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﻤﺎق‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺎﻧﺪﮔﺎرﻧﺪ‬‫ﻫﺎﺷﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺪ‬ ‫آﻗﺎي‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺎب‬ ‫ﻃﺒﺎﻃﺒﺎﯾﯽ‬.‫دارم‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﯾﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻋﻤﺮ‬ ‫ﻃﻮل‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﻼﻣﺘﯽ‬ ‫آرزوي‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎري‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﻌﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫از‬‫ﺗﻌﺪاد‬ ‫ﮔﺮاﻧﮥ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﺎپ‬ ‫آﻣﺎدة‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫از‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬‫و‬ ‫ﺳﭙﺎس‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﺑﺘﺪاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﺮدد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺜﺎرﺷﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﻘﺪﯾﺮ‬،‫ﮐﻨﻢ‬‫ﻫﻤﭽﻮن‬ ‫ﺑﺰرﮔﻮاراﻧﯽ‬‫آﻗﺎي‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺎب‬‫ﺳﯿ‬‫ﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﻤﺲ‬‫ﺑﺮﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫اﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬،‫ﻣﺤﻤﺪ‬‫ﻣﺼﺪﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﯿﻦ‬،‫ﻣﺤﻤﺪ‬‫ﻣﺼﺪﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺴﻦ‬،‫ﺳ‬‫ﯿﺪ‬
  • 5. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫وﺣﯿﺪ‬‫ﮐﻤﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫رﺿﺎ‬،‫رﻧﺠﺒﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﮐﺎر‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺰرﮔﻤﻨﺸﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ .‫ﻧﻤﻮدﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻮار‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫رﺳﯿﺪن‬ ‫ﺛﻤﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮ‬
  • 6. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﺐ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫ﺻﻔﺤﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬7 ‫اول‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬9 ‫رواﻧﮑﺎوي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬49 ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬53 ‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬‫ﮔﺮاﯾﺎﻧﻪ‬61 ‫ﺗﮑﺎﻣﻠﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬67 ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬93 ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬125 ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ،‫دوم‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬159 ‫ﺟﻠﻮه‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬161 ‫دﺳﺘﮕﺎه‬‫رﻣﺰﮔﺬارى‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫اﻋﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﺎى‬‫اى‬166 ‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮﻫﺎي‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺮژي‬183
  • 7. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫آزاد‬ ‫اﻧﺮژي‬ ‫دﯾﻨﺎﻣﯿﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﻮﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﺮﺧﮥ‬188 ‫اﻧﺮژي‬‫ﻓﯿﺰﯾﻮﻟﻮژﯾﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫زﯾﺴﺘﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧ‬191 ‫اﻧﺮژي‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧ‬217 ‫ﺗﺮﮐﯿﺒﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﻬﺎي‬241 ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﺧﻮدﺑﯿﺰاري‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﯿﻔﺘﮕﯽ‬245 ‫ﭘﺮﯾﺸﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭘﺮﺧﺎﺷﮕﺮي‬253 ‫ﺧﻮدﮐﻬﺘﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺧﻮدﻣﻬﺘﺮي‬273 ‫اﻓﺴﺮدﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﯿﺪاﯾﯽ‬281 ‫ﻧﺎرﺿﺎﯾﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﺿﺎﯾﺖ‬287 ‫ﻧﺎﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬297 ،‫ﺳﻮم‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬321 ‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎه‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬323 ‫ﻣﻀﺤﮏ‬ ‫و‬ ‫وﺟﺪاﻧﮕﯿﺰ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬340 ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﻔﮑﺮ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬342 ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﭼﺸﻢ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬355 ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫و‬‫ﺷﻨﻮد‬379 ‫آرزوﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫ي‬393 ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬401 ‫ه‬‫ﺟﺎﯾﮕﺎ‬‫ﺴﮏ‬‫ﺗ‬‫ﮔﺮو‬405 ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﻫﺎي‬‫دﺳﺖ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬407 ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺑﻨﺪي‬‫ﭘﺎﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬454 ‫دﺳﺖ‬‫دادن‬473
  • 8. BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﭘﺎﯾﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬481 ‫ﻣﻨﺎﺑﻊ‬485
  • 9. ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ 7 ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬:‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬»‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫اﺛﺮ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬«‫را‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدم‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ،‫ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻢ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﭘ‬‫داد‬ ‫ﺎﺳﺦ‬ ‫ﺗﺎزه‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎري‬ ‫و‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫زﻣﯿﻨﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭼﻄﻮر‬ ‫ﻣﺜﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ؟‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﻮز‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺳﻨﺠ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺗﻀﻤﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻزم‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬‫ار‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﯿﺪه‬‫ﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫ﺑﮕﺬارد؟‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫روي‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻧﻘﺸﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺪن‬ ‫زﺑﺎن‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫زﺑﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ً‫ﺎ‬‫اﺳﺎﺳ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﺻﯽ‬‫واژة‬ ‫از‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬»‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬«‫آن‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬‫را‬ »‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬«‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدم‬‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺪ‬»‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎرﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬«1 ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺣﻮزه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎر‬ ‫آﺧﺮﯾﻦ‬‫ﻣﻘﻮﻟﮥ‬ ‫در‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺑﻮط‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎري‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬»‫ن‬‫د‬‫ﺑﻮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎرك‬«2 ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎت‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺮﮐﺰ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﺳﺮاﺳﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺨﺘﻠﻒ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫روي‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬‫ﮔ‬‫ﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺟﺪﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﺗﻌﺎرﯾﻒ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣ‬ .‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻋﺼﺐ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫ﺤﻘﻘﺎن‬ ‫اﯾﺪه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺸﺄ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺪاﮐﺮدن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺪن‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﻐﺰ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﺰﯾﻮﻟﻮژي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬‫ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫روزي‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫وﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺮدﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﭼﺎر‬‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﮔﺬرد‬‫ﺎزه‬ ‫ﺷﮕﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫اﺳﺮار‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻧﮕﯿﺰي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺸﻒ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎري‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾ‬ .‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻦ‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﻠﻮم‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻨﯽ‬ 1 Deconstruct 2 Mark Bowden
  • 10. ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ 8 ‫ﻣ‬ ‫در‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﺗﻈﺎﻫﺮات‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻮش‬ ‫ﻘﻮﻟﮥ‬‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫اي‬»‫ﻞ‬‫ﭘ‬ ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬«‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫داد‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اي‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬»‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬«،‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬»‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﻧﺎواﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬‫ﻓﺮﻫﻨﮓ‬ ‫ﻪ‬« ‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺸﺎء‬ ‫داراي‬ ‫و‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺶ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﻣﻞ‬ ‫اي‬ ‫)ﺑ‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺮت‬ ،‫ﺧﺸﻢ‬‫ﯽ‬.‫اﺳﺖ‬ (‫)ﻧﺎﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮه‬ ‫ﺗﻌﺠﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻏﻢ‬ ،‫ﺷﺎدي‬ ،‫ﺗﺮس‬ ،(‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﻫﻤﯿﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬ ‫دﮐﺘﺮ‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻃﺮﯾﻖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﺷﺘﯿﺎق‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺪت‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫درﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﯿﻢ‬‫ﻃ‬‫ﺗﻈﺎﻫﺮات‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﮐﺸﻒ‬ ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻤ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻮر‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨ‬‫ﺪ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺛﺮﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻫﺪاﻓﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﺠﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﺘﻪ‬‫و‬‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫درك‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﺘ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻨﺎﺳﺐ‬ ‫ﺷﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺨﺎﻃﺐ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﭘﯿﺮاﻣﻮن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫اﻧﺪك‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ .‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎﺗﯽ‬‫دﺳﺖ‬ ،‫ﭘﮋوﻫﺸﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ام‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺎﯾﮥ‬ ‫ﻣﺪل‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﻄﺎﻟﻌﺎت‬ ‫ﻗﻮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺶ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬ .‫دادم‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﮐﺘﺎب‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺿﯽ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺮدم‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﺴ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫داﻧﻢ‬‫ﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺎﻫﺎ‬ ،‫ام‬ ‫ﭘﯿﻤﻮده‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫و‬‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬‫ﻫﺎﯾ‬‫از‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوارم‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﯽ‬ .‫ﻧﻤﺎﻧﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺮﺣﻮﺻﻠﮥ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻓﻬﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻧﻨﺪة‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺮﻣﺎه‬ ،‫ﻧﯿﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻤﻮد‬1392
  • 11. 9 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ : ‫اول‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬:‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫رواﻧﮑﺎوي‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬ ‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬‫ﮔﺮاﯾﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﺎﻣﻠﯽ‬ ‫رواﻧﺸﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮش‬ ‫ﻧ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﮕﺮش‬ )‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬1-1:(‫اﺛﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﺎﺑﻠﻮي‬»‫ﺷﺮ‬‫ا‬«‫در‬‫ﺳﺎل‬1953
  • 12. 10 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014
  • 13. 11 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻋﺪم‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻟﺬت‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻬﺖ‬‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ،‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮدآﮔﺎه‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﯾﻢ‬»‫آﺷﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﺷﻨﮥ‬«‫ﺑﭙﻮﺷﺎﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻗﻮي‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﭘﻮﺷﺎﻧﺪن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫روﺷﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎرﻫﺎي‬‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫و‬ ‫ﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺧﺮوج‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬ ،‫دارد‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ،‫ﻫﺎ‬‫دﭼﺎر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺟﻮر‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻤﻮدي‬‫ﻧ‬‫وا‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﯿﻔﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﻮﺷﻪ‬‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ‫اﺧﺘﻼل‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺑﺎﺷ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬.‫ﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬‫ﯾﺎدﮔﯿﺮي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﭙﺮدازﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬‫آدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬‫ﺧﻮدﺑﺰرگ‬‫ﺳﺘﯿﺰه‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﻮ‬‫ﺧﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬
  • 14. 12 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﮔﻮﺷﻪ‬‫ﮔﺸﺎده‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﻟﻤﺮده‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﯾﻢ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫و‬ ‫رو‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻﯾﻖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮش‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬‫ﺷﺪن‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ؟‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺧﻮب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﻧﺪارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزي‬‫و‬.‫دارد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺎﻻ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﻣﺤﺼﻮل‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻓﺮوش‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫دل‬ ‫درد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وارد‬ ‫ﺟﻤﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫دﻧﺒﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﮔﺮدﯾﻢ‬‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫دﻧﺒﺎل‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺰﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺻﺪﻣﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬‫اﺛﺮﺑﺨﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺮدن‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬.‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺪا‬ ،‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﺑﯽ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫دﺳﺘﮕﺎه‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫آرام‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺳﺮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺸﻢ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮدﻣﺎن‬ ‫ُﮑﺎي‬‫ﻨ‬ُ‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫دل‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺠﺎد‬‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫ﺷﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎز‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آب‬ ‫از‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﻧﻮﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬‫آن‬ ‫آب‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺠﺎﺳﺖ؟‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪة‬ ‫ﺗﻐﺬﯾﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺮ‬‫ﭘ‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺪه‬ ‫ﻋﻮض‬ ‫روزي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫دا‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ؟‬ ‫ﻋﻮض‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫آب‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺆل‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫رﯾﻢ‬ ‫وﻇﯿﻔﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ،‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫اش‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آب‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺚ‬.‫ﻧﻮﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﺑﺴﺮدﮐﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺒﻊ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫واﻗﻊ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫ﻣﺰاﯾﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎﯾ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺪ‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺣﻤﺎﯾﺘﮕﺮ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻨﮑﻪ‬
  • 15. 13 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬‫ﺑﺎور‬ ‫ﺗﻤﯿﺰ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻮارا‬ ‫آﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻧﺪ؟‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺮازﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻃﺮف‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺮاب‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫ا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﮑﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻟﻮده‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫آﻧﻬﺎﺳﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫وﺑﯽ‬‫ﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﻠﻒ‬ ‫ﺗﺸﻨﮕﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺣﺎﺿﺮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫وﻗﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﭼﺎر‬ ،‫دارد‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﺗﺮ‬ .‫ﻧﮑﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬»‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮار‬«‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫راﺑﻄﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻼﮐﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺒﺎب‬ ،‫ﮐﺮدﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬ ‫ﺧ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ذﻫﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮارﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫درون‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺎﻫﻮﯾﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺸﻢ‬ ‫وﺳﻮاس‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﺒﺪﯾﻞ‬‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮﺷﺎﯾﻨﺪي‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ،‫ﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬.‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺨﻮارﻫﺎي‬‫و‬ ‫روان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮره‬ ‫ﻣﺜﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺘ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫درﺳﺘﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﺴﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺸ‬‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫ﻒ‬‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﻌﻨﯽ‬ .‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫د‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫ر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫درﮔﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﻤﺎﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺪه‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﻣﺪﺗﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﻌﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬، ‫ﺗﺼﻤﯿﻤﯽ‬ ،‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫دﻓﺎع‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ه‬‫ﻧﺎﺧﻮدآﮔﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮔﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻪ‬»‫ورﻃﮥ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻓﺘﯿﻢ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬»‫ﻣﯿﺸﻞ‬‫ﻓﻮﮐﻮ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮔﻮﯾ‬:‫ﺪ‬ »‫ﺑﺎﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫ﺗﺎرﯾﺦ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺷﻨﺎﺳﯽ‬« ‫ﺗﺤﻠﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﻠﺴﻮف‬ ‫و‬،‫ﻣﻌﺎﺻﺮ‬ ‫ﮔﺮاي‬»‫ژاك‬‫د‬‫رﯾﺪا‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺿﺎﻓﻪ‬:‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬»‫ﺟﻨﻮ‬‫ن‬، ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻓﺮوﺧﻮرده‬ ‫زﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﺒﺎرﺗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬«. ‫ﺧ‬ ‫از‬ ‫رﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺎﻣﻮﺷﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﺮف‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻗﺮار‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎط‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ذ‬ ‫ارزش‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫اﺗﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻈﯿﻤﯽ‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬ ‫ارزش‬ ،‫آن‬‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ .‫دارد‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬
  • 16. 14 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 »‫ﻣﺘﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻻ‬«،‫داﻧﺶ‬ ،‫ﻣﺸﺎرﮐﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﺰت‬ ،‫اﺳﺘﻘﻼل‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬‫ﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫اﯾ‬ .‫آورد‬‫ﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﻮد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﻨﻔﻌﺖ‬ ،‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬‫ﻣﺮ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫دم‬ ‫ﻓﻌﺎﻟﯿﺖ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﯿﻠﺴﻮﻓﺎن‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫ﮔﻮﯾﻨﺪ‬»‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«،»‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬ »‫ﺣﻘﯿﻘﺖ‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬«‫از‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﺗﺮ‬ ‫اﺑﺰاري‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ذاﺗﯽ‬ ‫ارزش‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻗﺒﻞ‬ ‫اﺑﺰار‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﯽ‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎر‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اوﻗﺎت‬ ‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬‫را‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬‫اﺳ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺠﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺖ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻋﮑﺲ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﮐﺎﻣ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫واﻟﺪﯾ‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮاﻧﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻮدﮐﺎن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫ﺷﺪت‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫د‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ر‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫ﺣﻘﻮﻗﺸﺎن‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫آﻣﺎده‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻗﺮاردادي‬ ‫ﻧﻮع‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬ ‫د‬‫ﻗﺮاردا‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﻗﺮارداد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺳﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﻀﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ِرس‬‫ﻮ‬‫)ﺳﯿﻠ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎر‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬3 ،2005.( ‫ﺗ‬ ‫اراﺋﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎري‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫از‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻮﺟﻪ‬، ‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻻزم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﺪ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺛﺒﺎت‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬.‫ﺎﺷﺪ‬ 3 Silvers, A.
  • 17. 15 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎي‬ ِ‫ﺮ‬‫درﮔﯿ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬»‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬‫اﻧﮕﺎري‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬»‫ﺗﻤﺎرض‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫آن‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫روﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ،‫ﺑﺪﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدش‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺳﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ،‫ﺗﺮﻓﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺮﻧﮓ‬‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ِ‫ﺶ‬‫ﻧﻘ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﻧﻈ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫آوردﻧﺪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬‫ﺗﺎزه‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﺑﺎز‬ ،‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺮ‬‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اي‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻏﺎز‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺨﺘﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎر‬ ِ‫ﺺ‬‫ﺷﺨ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺸﺨﯿﺺ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫ﺑﯿﻨﺪ‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬ ‫ﻋﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫اﻧﺴﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﭼﻨ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬‫ﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬،‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬ .‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺎوت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ِ‫ﻖ‬‫ﻻﯾ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ً‫ﺎ‬‫واﻗﻌ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺑﺰارﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﺮد‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﯽ‬‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ .‫ﺟﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ،‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮان‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﺎر‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﻧﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﺗﺮﻓﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ِ‫ر‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزي‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬»‫ﺷﺨﺼﯿﺖ‬«‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺪارد‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺘﻘﻠﯽ‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪاﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫داﻧﺸﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫دور‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﯾﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اﺟﺎزه‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺎ‬‫َش‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬ ،‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬
  • 18. 16 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﮕﯽ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫آﻣﺪه‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎري‬ ِ‫ﺾ‬‫ﺗﻨﺎﻗ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ،‫او‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﺳﻤﺖ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫دﻫﺪﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﻋﺰت‬ ،‫ﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺲ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺒﺨﺸﻨﺪ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺧﻼﻗ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺼﯿﺖ‬ ‫درﺑﺎرة‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺑﮕﺬارﯾﻢ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺑﻠﻮغ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫اﻓﺰاﯾ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﺶ‬‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬»‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬«4 ‫ﻣﯽ‬:‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﺪ‬ »‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫اﺳﺎس‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬.« ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺷﺒﮑﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫اﺧﻼق‬،‫روش‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آورد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬ ‫اﺟﺘ‬ ‫ﻗﺮاردادﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻋﻤﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺷﻬﺮوﻧﺪان‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ،‫ﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬»‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎري‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﻮق‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ .‫دﻫﺪ‬‫ﭼﯿﺰي‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ،‫آرﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮاﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫زﻧﺪﮔ‬ ‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ،‫ﺣﺎل‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﺠﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬‫اﺳﺎس‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬»‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﻣﺎﯾﮥ‬«‫ﻗﺎدر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺘﺮك‬ ‫اﻫﺪاف‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎ‬‫ري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻗﻮي‬ ‫اﻗﺘﺼﺎد‬ ‫داراي‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻻ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻌﯽ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫ﺗﺮ‬‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻊ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬5 ،2002.( ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮرﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﻮاﻣﻌﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ،‫ﺣﻘﺎﯾﻖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ،‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬»‫ﻧﻘﺺ‬«‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﯾﻨﺪه‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫ﻓﺮﺻ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬ 4 Baier, A, C. 5 Hardin, R.
  • 19. 17 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ،‫ﻧﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ .‫ﻧﺒﺮد‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫اﺧﻼﻗ‬ ِ‫غ‬‫ﺑﻠﻮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻦ‬ ،‫داﻧﺶ‬ ،‫اﺳﺘﻘﻼل‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺳﯿﻢ‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮاواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫آوري‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮑﺎري‬ِ‫ن‬‫ﻋﻨﻮا‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ش‬‫ارز‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺒﻨﺎﯾﯽ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺗﺨﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺣﺪي‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻣﻞ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ّﯽ‬‫ﻠ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫)ﺑﺎ‬6 ،1986.( ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫زﯾﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫دو‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪازه‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎز‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ِ‫ب‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﺮور‬‫ﺗ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫اﯾ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺟﻠﺐ‬ ،‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﻧﺪازة‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺶ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬‫ﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺳﺆال‬»‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﯿﻢ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬:‫ﭘﺮﺳﯿﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬»‫ﭼ‬‫ﺮا‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬«‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﯾﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ل‬‫دﻧﺒﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎورﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬ ً‫ﻼ‬‫اﺻ‬ ‫ﯾﻌﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدش‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﮥ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻏﻠﺐ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬»‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬«‫ﺣﺎدﺛﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﺗﻠﺦ‬ ‫اي‬‫ﻧﺎﮔﻮار‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬،‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬2004.( ‫ﺿﺮﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ً‫ﺎ‬‫ﻋﻤﯿﻘ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺷﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬‫ﻧﺎاﻣﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ،‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آورد‬ ‫ﻣﺮا‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﺸﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻗﺐ‬‫ﺗﻮ‬‫ان‬ 6 Baier, A, C.
  • 20. 18 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ،‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺒﻮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫اﺳﺖ؟‬ ‫رﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﮕﻮﻧﻪ‬‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داده‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ،‫اﻧﺪ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ،‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﯾﮋه‬‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯿﺪ؟‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫داﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﺳﺎﺧﺘﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺜﯿﻒ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺮﯾﻊ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﺮ‬‫ﻧ‬‫)اوﺳﻼ‬ ‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫دردزا‬ ‫و‬ ‫آرام‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬7 ،1999.( ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﺟﻬﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﻬﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ،‫ﻧﻤﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮﭼ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻨ‬‫ﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻼش‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺆﺳﺴﺎت‬‫ﻋﻤﻮﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎزﮔﺮداﻧﻨﺪ‬‫داوﻃﻠﺐ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﺎن‬ ‫ﮔﺮوﻫﻬﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫و‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫آزاد‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ،‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬.‫ﺑﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﻓﻖ‬ ‫راه‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﺎن‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫در‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫واﻗ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬،‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﮔﺎه‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫دﻋﻮت‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬‫ﻫﻨﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻗ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎﺳﺎت‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎﻣﻮزﻧﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺰدﯾﮏ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬‫ﻫﻨ‬ ‫ﺎﻟﺐ‬‫ﺮ‬ ‫)اﻧﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﺎﯾﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺎﻻﯾﺶ‬8 ،2002.( ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اي‬،‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮر‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪ‬ ،‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫اي‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻣﻨ‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺮه‬‫ﺎﺳﺐ‬ 7 Uslaner, E, M. 8 O'Neill, O.
  • 21. 19 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫دارد‬ ‫ﺑﺤﺚ‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ،‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺖ‬‫اﯾﻦ‬،‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﮥ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻨﺮﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﺮداﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻌﻀﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﯾﻠﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬‫ﻣﻮﻗﻌﯿﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫و‬‫ﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺣﺎﻟﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﺮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫ﺳﺮ‬‫د‬‫در‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫ﻋﻘ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫واﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﺮدن‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺪاﯾﺖ‬‫ﻧﻪ؟‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫زﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫زور‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اي‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻏﻤﺎض‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻣﺘﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮔﺴﺘﺮش‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫زﻧﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬،‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺣﺎﻟﯽ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ،‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯿﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫روز‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫اﺿﺎﻓﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺷﻮد؟‬ ‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﻟﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺟﻬﺖ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﻣﺘﻮﻟﯿﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎد‬‫ﻓﻀﺎﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫داﻧﺶ‬ ‫و‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ،‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﯿﺎﺳﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﺐ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺮه‬ ‫ﻣﺤﻘﻘﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺎوران‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻓﺰاﯾﺶ‬ ‫داﻧﺸﯽ‬‫اﻣﮑﺎن‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﺒﺮﮔﺎن‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫آﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬.‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﺨﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬»‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫درﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬«‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻣﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دوﺑﺎرة‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺗﺄﺛﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﻋﻮاﻣﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮﺟﻪ‬‫ﺣﺎدﺛﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺎوز‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫رواﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺿﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮔﺬار‬ ‫آﺗﺶ‬ ،‫زﻟﺰﻟﻪ‬ ،‫ﺳﯿﻞ‬ ،‫ﺗﺼﺎدف‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﮔﻮار‬‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬ .‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﻨﮓ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﻮزي‬
  • 22. 20 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﮑﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫رخ‬ ‫ﺣﻮادﺛﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ، ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﺸﯿﺪه‬ ‫ﺗﺼﻮﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﺣﺮﻓﻪ‬ ‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻗ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫اي‬‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﺮار‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺗﻤﺎﻣ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯿﺎن‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ذﻫﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دردآور‬ ‫ﺣﺎدﺛﮥ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﻧﯿﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻤﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﺳﺎزﻣﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫و‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ .‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﻧﺸﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎزﺳﺎزي‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺟﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ‫ﻧﻘﺶ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﻧﻬﺎدﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﺎزﯾﺎﺑ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫در‬ ‫اي‬‫ﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﺬﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ِ‫ي‬‫ﺳﺎزﮔﺎر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻓﺮادي‬ .‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ،‫زﻣﺎن‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬‫اﻓﮑ‬‫ﺎر‬‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺳﻨﺘ‬ ‫ﺑﺎورﻫﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭼﺴﺒﯿﺪه‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫اﻧﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮕﺎم‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﻣﺪر‬ ‫ﭘﯿﺸﺮﻓﺘﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داﺷﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﭘﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻧﺴﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﺎف‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ُﻓﺖ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬.‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫در‬‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎر‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫آوردن‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺘﻬﺎي‬‫ز‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫ﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮي‬ ‫د‬‫اﻧﺠﻤﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﺪﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫ﻫﯿﺠﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺪﯾﺮﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺗﻦ‬ ‫و‬‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫و‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ ِ‫ر‬‫ﮔﻔﺘﺎ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬‫ﺷﮑ‬ ‫ﭼﻬﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫د‬ ‫ﻞ‬‫ر‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭘﺮورش‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮي‬‫ﻧﻘﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺳﺎﯾﺮ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ :‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ 1‫ﺳﺨﺖ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﭼﻨﺎن‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺣﻖ‬‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬‫ﮔ‬‫ﻮﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاز‬‫ا‬‫ﻋﻘﯿﺪه‬‫اي‬‫را‬‫ﻧﺪارﻧﺪ‬.‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﻧﻮع‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﻃﺮز‬ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﺸﻪ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﭘﺲ‬ ،‫ﮔﻮﯾﺪ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫و‬
  • 23. 21 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺒﯿﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻮﯾﺪ‬‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺄﯾﯿﺪ‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻃﺎﻋﺖ‬ ‫ﭼﺮا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭼﻮن‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﻀﺎي‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎزﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﺳﺘﻪ‬‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﻧﯿﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﮕﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫آﻫﺴﺘﻪ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫دﯾﮕ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ي‬‫در‬ ‫ﺮان‬ .‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫رواج‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ 2‫ﺳﻬﻞ‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮ‬‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬‫ﻧﻮع‬‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮﻟﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮ‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻧﺪ‬‫ارﻧﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫را‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﮐﺎﻣ‬‫آزاد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﮔﺬارﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗﺎ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻧﺤﻮي‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻣﺎﯾﻞ‬‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬، ‫ﺷﯿﻮه‬‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﺧﺎص‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬‫را‬‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬‫و‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐﺎر‬‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬.‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬‫دﻟﯿ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪاﺷﺘﻦ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫د‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻧﺪازه‬ ‫از‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫راﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﺳﻮء‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬.‫ﮔﯿﺮد‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ 3‫آﺷﻔﺘﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺮﯾﺸﺎن‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻋﻠﺖ‬‫اﺧﺘﻼف‬ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺻﻮرت‬‫ﻗ‬‫ﻬﺮ‬‫و‬ ‫آﺷﺘﯽ‬،‫اﺳﺖ‬ِ‫ﺮ‬‫اﺛ‬‫ﻣﻨﻔﯽ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﯽ‬‫روي‬‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪان‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﻮدك‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬‫ﻗﺎﺿﯽ‬‫در‬‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺷﻮد‬‫و‬‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻗﺮﺑﺎﻧ‬‫ﯾﮑ‬‫ﯽ‬‫از‬ ‫ﻃﺮﻓﯿﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫اﻣﺮ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫در‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫ارزش‬‫و‬‫اﺣﺘﺮاﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻓﺮد‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻗﺎﺋﻞ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﺳﻄﻮح‬ ،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺎﻻﯾﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫واﺣﺪ‬ ِ‫ن‬‫آ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﺟﻨﻮن‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬‫و‬ ‫آﻣﯿﺰ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﺎﻗﻀﯽ‬‫ﻧﺘﯿﺠﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﻏﯿﺮ‬ ‫رواﺑﻂ‬ ‫اش‬،‫اﻧﺴﺎﻧﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎﺳﺎزﮔﺎر‬‫و‬‫ﻣﺄﯾﻮس‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬‫اﺳﺖ‬. 4‫ﻫﻨﺠﺎر‬ ‫واﻟﺪﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﺳﺮزﻧﺪه‬ ،‫و‬‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﻣﺤﺒﺖ‬‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬‫و‬‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫و‬‫اﻋﻤﺎل‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬،‫رﻧﺞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﺎراﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﻫﻤﺪﻟﯽ‬‫ﺧﻮد‬‫را‬‫ﻧ‬‫ﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫راﺣﺘﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫اﻓﺮاد‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫از‬‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﻌﻘﻮل‬‫و‬ ‫ﺳﻨﺠﯿﺪه‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬‫ﻫﺮاﺳﻨﺪ‬‫و‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫داﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬،‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫ﺧﻄ‬ِ‫ﺮ‬
  • 24. 22 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬‫وﻟﯽ‬‫ه‬‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎ‬‫ﺷﺨﺼﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗ‬‫ﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫اي‬ ‫ﻣﻮﻓﻘﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫زﻣﯿﻨﻪ‬‫اي‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫رﺷﺪ‬‫و‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﺴﺐ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﮥ‬‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬‫ﺳﻄﺢ‬ .‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ارزش‬‫و‬‫اﺣﺘﺮاﻣﯽ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﻫﺮ‬‫ﻓﺮد‬‫ﺑ‬‫ﺮاي‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﻗﺎﺋﻞ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬‫در‬‫ﺣﺪ‬‫ﻣﻌﻘﻮل‬‫و‬‫ﻣﻨﻄﻘﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬ ‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬،‫اي‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻬﺘﺮ‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺳﻄﻮﺣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻣﻨ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﻄﻘﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﻌﻄﺎف‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺠﺮﺑﻪ‬‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ارﺗﺒﺎﻃﺎت‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻧﺪ‬،‫ﻣﺴﺘﻘﯿﻢ‬،‫واﺿﺢ‬ ‫ﺻﺮﯾﺢ‬‫و‬‫ﻣﺒﺘﻨﯽ‬‫ﺑﺮ‬‫درﺳﺘﮑﺎري‬‫اﺳﺖ‬. ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫از‬ ‫ﮔﺎﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫رازﻫﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫دردﻫﺎ‬ ،‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﺗﻮاﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﺳﻨﮕﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﺤﻤﻞ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﭼﺎرﯾﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﺴﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﺑﮕﺬارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺎن‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﯿﻢ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫رازﻫﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دردﻫﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫رازد‬ ِ‫ل‬‫ﻗﻮ‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺣﺮﻓﻬﺎي‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫اري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫آﯾﺎ‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫د‬‫ﻓﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﺷﺘﺒﺎه‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫دل‬ ‫د‬‫در‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫وﺿﻌﯿﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ؟‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﭼﻪ؟‬ ،‫ﻔﺘﺪ‬‫ﯿ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫اﺗﻔﺎق‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺑﺎرﻫﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﺎرﻫﺎ‬‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬‫ﮑﺎرﻧﺪ‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﺲ‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫و‬‫زﻧﺪﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺲ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮان‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ .‫داد‬ ‫اداﻣﻪ‬ ‫ُﻣﯿﺪ‬‫ا‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫وﻟﯽ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ِ‫ل‬‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬:‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﯾﺎدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﻣﻮارد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺸﺘﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻠﻪ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫رود‬‫ز‬ ‫درﻧﻈﺮ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﺻﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺮوط‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ،‫ﻋﻘﻼﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‬‫ﺖ‬
  • 25. 23 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬»‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﻪ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬»‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫آﻧﺖ‬«9 ‫ﻣﯽ‬:‫ﻧﻮﯾﺴﺪ‬»‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮد‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪ‬.« ،‫ﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﻧﺸ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺎن‬.‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﮑﺮده‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺎري‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﻣﻼ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫راز‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻮده‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ،‫دوﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫ﻧﺪاده‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻫﯿﭻ‬ ‫و‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﺷﯿﺎي‬‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺳﺎﻋﺖ‬ ‫زﻧﮓ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺟﺎن‬‫ﺑ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﺸﮑﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﺮاب‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ُﻣﯿﺪ‬‫ا‬‫ﻧﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﮑﯿﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﺪﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫وﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬‫ﺗ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﻮﯾﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬‫راز‬ ‫اﻓﺸﺎي‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ،‫دادﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺑﺘﺪا‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫راز‬ ‫ﻫﻤﮥ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺨﺸﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺮﺑﺎر‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺘﻨﺪ‬‫اﻋﺘ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫آﻧﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﺮدﻧﺪ‬‫ﻤﺎد‬ ‫ا‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫آن‬ ِ‫ن‬‫ﺑﻮد‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺛﺒﺎت‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﻌﯿﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺳﻄﺤﯽ‬‫او‬ ،‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ .‫ﺑﭙﺬﯾﺮد‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ﺮ‬‫ﺧﻄ‬‫ﻧﺎاﻣﯿﺪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺮدن‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬ 9 Annette Baier
  • 26. 24 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﺪ‬ ‫ﻓﺮض‬ ‫ﺣﺎل‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺎرت‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﺮوع‬ ‫آﻧﮕﺎه‬ ،‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﻤﺎل‬‫ا‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬‫ﻣﯿﺰان‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺮ‬ ‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ .‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫از‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﮔﻮش‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﻠﻔﻨﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دورﺑﯿﻦ‬‫دﭼﺎر‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬ ‫ﺑﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺪار‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬»‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﺬﯾﺎن‬« ‫روﺷﻬ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺨﺘﮕﯿﺮاﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺎي‬‫آﻣﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫رﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺷﺪﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪة‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺿﻊ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬.‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺻﻮرت‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﯾﺎﺑﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻫﺶ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﯽ‬ ،‫آن‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫ﺗﻮ‬‫از‬ ‫ان‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ،‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﺠﺎد‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮل‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫زد‬ ‫ﺣﺮف‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ِ‫ر‬‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎ‬.‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺮآورده‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ،‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﻮﻗﻌﯿﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻂ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺛﺎﺑﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺎﻓﻌﯽ‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫داﺷﺘ‬.‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺳﺎده‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬:‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﻟﻮﺣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫درﺻﻮرﺗﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫را‬‫ﺣﺘﯽ‬ ‫دﺳﺖ‬ ‫از‬ .‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﺪﮔﻤﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻮك‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺣﺲ‬ ‫دادن‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫ر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻏﯿﺮﻣﻤ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮑﻦ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻃﻤﯿﻨﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﺪون‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺳﺎزد‬‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﻨﺪ‬‫ﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ،‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ِﺮ‬‫ﯾ‬‫)ﮔﻮو‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﯿﻢ‬10 ،1997.( 10 Govier, T.
  • 27. 25 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻌﻀﯽ‬ ‫در‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ً‫ﻻ‬‫ﻣﻌﻤﻮ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﻣ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﮕﻪ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺪﮐﻮدك‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﻣﺮﺑ‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺎوري‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻓﺮزﻧﺪﻣﺎن‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﻣﺮاﻗﺒﺖ‬ ‫و‬ ‫داري‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﺎب‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫راﻫﻨﻤﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫اﯾﻢ‬‫زﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﯾ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬‫ﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻤﺎرﺳﺘﺎن‬ ِ‫ﺲ‬‫اورژاﻧ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫ﭘﺰﺷﮑﯽ‬ ‫اورژاﻧﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫وﺿﻌﯿ‬‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫دﺳ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﻮارد‬ ‫ﺧﯿﻠﯽ‬ ‫و‬‫ﺗﺨﺼﺼﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺧﻼﻗﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﺎرﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺮﺑﻮط‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﮐﻤﮏ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻟﻮد‬ ‫)ﻣﮏ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺣﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬11 ،2002.( ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﺰد‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰي‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﻟﺒﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫آﺳﯿﺐ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ،‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮔﺬارد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫زﯾ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬‫ﺮا‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮي‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫داده‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺘﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮق‬‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫آن‬ ‫ﺣﻘﯿﻘﺖ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻓ‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻓﺮﯾﺐ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫ﺗﺮﺗﯿﺐ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺮده‬‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮردﮔﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺸﺘﺮك‬ ِ‫ﯽ‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧﺘ‬ ‫ﺗﻔﺴﯿﺮ‬ ‫داﺷﺘﻦ‬‫ﺳﺎده‬ ‫ﺟﺎي‬‫ﻣﻮ‬ ‫ﻟﻮﺣﯽ‬‫ﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﺧﻮش‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬.‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬:‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬ ،‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﺪاوم‬ ‫و‬ ‫آورد‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬‫ﻧ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫آﻧﻬ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﻪ‬‫ﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﮑﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫آن‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻟﺤﺎظ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ‫از‬ ،‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻓﺮض‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ،‫ﺧﺎص‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫آن‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺎز‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ .‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ 11 McLeod, C.
  • 28. 26 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻮاده‬‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫اي‬‫ﺳﭙﺮدن‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺎﺷﯿﻦ‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﺎﻧﻪ‬‫ﺧﻄﺮ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﻨﺪ‬‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮي‬ ‫ﺳﻮء‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﺳﺘﻔﺎده‬‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوار‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﺴﺌﻮﻟﯿﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺪت‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎم‬ ‫در‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺨﻄﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫از‬ ‫او‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﭘﺬﯾﺮ‬‫اﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫درﺳﺖ‬ .‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬‫ﻧﻮﺟﻮان‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫وي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻨﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫ﺗ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺰ‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫او‬ ‫اﺧﺘﯿﺎر‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻓﺮﺻﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻫﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﺛﺒﺎت‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬‫در‬ .‫دﻫﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫را‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫داد‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫او‬ ‫وﻗﺘﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارﯾﻢ‬ ‫او‬ ‫از‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎري‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫واﻗﻊ‬‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨ‬ ‫ﺑﺮآورده‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺷﺒﯿﻦ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻣﯿﺪوار‬ ،‫ﺪ‬‫ﺑﺎﺷ‬ ‫ﺧﻮﺑﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎﻧﺘﺪار‬ ‫ﺑﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺷﻮﯾﻢ‬‫ﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اﻓﺮاد‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺴﺘﮕﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻨﺎﺑﺮاﯾﻦ‬ .‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺮوزه‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﺪاوم‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺿﺮوري‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬»‫وﻓﺎداري‬«‫ﮔﻔﺘ‬‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﭼﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﺤﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻔﺮ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﺑﺪاﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻢ‬ ‫ﺧﯿﻠﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻬﻤﺘﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﻣ‬ ‫ﺷﺮاﯾﻄﯽ‬‫ﯽ‬،‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﺷﺪ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬2002‫(؟‬ :‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻋﻼم‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﻃﺮاﻓﯿﺎن‬ ‫و‬ ‫دوﺳﺘﺎن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫آﺷﮑﺎرا‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﮐ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﻣﻌﺮض‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮدش‬ ،‫ﺑﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﮐﺎر‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﺪ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﮐﻢ‬ ‫وزن‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﺮار‬ ‫ﺳﺮزﻧﺶ‬‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬»‫ﻋﺮف‬«‫ﯾﺎ‬»‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪي‬ ‫اﺧﻼق‬«‫او‬ ،‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫در‬‫را‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫آﻧﭽﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫از‬ ‫ﯾﮑﯽ‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺗﺮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫داﻧﺪ‬»‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬«‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻮﺟﺐ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬‫ﻧﺎدرﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻋﺎدات‬ ‫ﺗﺮك‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫وﺣﺸﺖ‬ ،‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﻌﺪ‬ ِ‫ﻦ‬‫ﻧﺘﻮاﻧﺴﺘ‬ ‫ﺳﺮﺧﻮردﮔﯽ‬ ‫اﺣﺴﺎس‬ ‫از‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫ﺑﺘﺮﺳﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫اﯾﻨﮑﻪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دارﻧﺪ‬.‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎدي‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﻓﺮد‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬
  • 29. 27 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﺨﺎب‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫راﻫﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬‫ﺑﺮﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺪﻓﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﯿﻢ‬‫ﮔﺰﯾﻨ‬‫ﯿﻢ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﻮاره‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫دﻫﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﺸﺎن‬ ‫دﯾﮕﺮان‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫و‬ ‫آرﻣﺎﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﺷﺎﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫ذات‬ ‫در‬ ‫وﻓﺎداري‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫زﯾﺎدي‬ ‫رﻧﺞ‬»‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬«‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬.‫دارد‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺮاه‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬‫اﺟﺘ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫ﻧﺎﻣﺤﺴﻮس‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﺎﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫َﺑﺰارﻫﺎي‬‫ا‬ ‫ﻫﻤﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﺷﮑﻞ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوت‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺎرﺗﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺘﺮﻟﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺴﺘﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺮوﻫﺎﯾﯽ‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ .‫ﮔﯿﺮﻧﺪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﺠﺒﻮر‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻠﯽ‬ ‫ﻃﻮر‬‫ﮐ‬‫ﻨﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺎري‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎم‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺴﺒﺖ‬‫دﯾﮕﺮ‬ ‫ﺗﺎ‬ ‫ﺑﻤﺎﻧﯿﻢ‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬‫ان‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﻓﺮدي‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﻣﺎ‬‫اﻋﺘﻤ‬‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﯿﺎن‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ .‫ﺑﺸﻨﺎﺳﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺎد‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﺪه‬ ‫وﻓﺎدار‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﭼﯿﺰﻫﺎ‬ ‫از‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎري‬‫ﻣﺎ‬ ‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دروﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺧﻮاﺳﺘﮥ‬ ،‫اﯾﻢ‬ ‫)ﻫﺎردﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﺷﺪ‬12 ،2002‫داﺳﮕﺎﭘﺘﺎ‬ ‫و‬13 ،1988.( ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﻮدﺷﺎن‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫ﺗﻄﺒﯿﻖ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎرﻫﺎي‬ ‫آﻧﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫ﻣﺎﻧﻨﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫دﻫﻨﺪ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬‫ﮐﺮده‬ ‫اﻣﻀﺎ‬ ‫ﻧﺎﻧﻮﺷﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﻗﺮارداد‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﺧﻮد‬ ‫از‬ ‫را‬ ‫دﮐﻨﻨﺪه‬‫ﻣﺘﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﻧﺠﺎﻣﺶ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫اوﻟﯿﻪ‬ ‫اﻧﮕﯿﺰة‬ ،‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫ﺗﺤﻤﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺖ‬‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾ‬ .‫ﺷﻮﻧﺪ‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫وﺟﻮد‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﺗﻌﻬﺪ‬ ‫اداﻣﮥ‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺟﺒﺮي‬ ‫و‬ ‫آورد‬‫آور‬ .‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﻧﺘﻈﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﻮرد‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫آﻧﭽﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﮔﺮﭼﻪ‬‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎ‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺗﻮاﻧﺪ‬‫را‬ ‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫د‬ ‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ،‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬ ‫ﺗﻘﻮﯾﺖ‬‫داﻧﺴﺖ‬ ‫ﮐﺎﻓﯽ‬ ،‫ﺑﻮدن‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫آن‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬ ً‫ﻼ‬‫ﻣﺜ‬‫ﮐﺎرﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﮕﯿﺮﯾﺪ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺟﻨﺴﯽ‬ ‫آزار‬ ‫ﺗﻤﺎﯾﻼت‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻓﺮﻣﺎﯾﯽ‬ 12 Hardin, R. 13 Dasgupta, P.
  • 30. 28 BE AND BL BY MAHMOOD AMIRINIA, 2014 ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺘﺮﻣﺎﻧﻪ‬ ‫ﺑﺴﯿﺎر‬ ،‫ﺧﺎﻧﻢ‬‫زن‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﺮام‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﻪ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫زﯾﺮا‬ ،‫ﻫﺎ‬ ‫ﻋﻼﻗﻪ‬ ‫او‬‫زن‬ ‫ﮐﺎرﻣﻨﺪان‬ ‫ﺑﺎ‬ ‫ﺧﻮب‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫اي‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﻠﮑﻪ‬ ‫ﻧﺪارد‬‫ﻃﻮ‬‫ر‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪي‬ ‫ﻗﻀﺎوﺗﻬﺎي‬ ‫ﯾﺎ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﻧﻮﻧﯽ‬ ‫ﺑﺮﺧﻮردﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﺮاﺑﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻤﮑﻦ‬ ،‫ﻧﮑﻨﺪ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫)ﭘﻮﺗﺮ‬ ‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮔﺮﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﺟﺎﻣﻌﻪ‬14 ،2002.( ‫ﭘﯿﺶ‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫و‬ ‫اﻃﻤﯿﻨﺎن‬ ‫ﻗﺎﺑﻞ‬ ‫او‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫ﻫﺮﭼﻨﺪ‬‫ﭼﻨﯿﻦ‬ ‫اﻣﺎ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻨﯽ‬ ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ،‫واﻗﻌﯽ‬ ‫ﻣﻌﻨﺎي‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬‫ﻧﻤﯽ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﻧﯿﺴﺖ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫ﮔﻔﺖ‬ ‫ﺗﻮان‬‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫در‬ ‫ﮐﺴﯽ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ِ‫ﻞ‬‫ﻗﺎﺑ‬ ‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﻣﺮدم‬ ‫ﺑﯿﻦ‬‫ﺷﻨﺎﺧ‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫ﺘﻪ‬ ‫ﺗﻨﻬﺎ‬ ‫او‬ ‫زﯾﺮا‬ .‫ﻧﮕﺮﻓﺖ‬ ‫ﻧﻈﺮ‬ ‫در‬ ‫او‬ ‫ﺑﺮاي‬ ‫را‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫اﺣﺘﻤﺎل‬ ‫ﻧﺒﺎﯾﺪ‬ ،‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫ﺷﺪه‬ ‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫دﻟﯿﻞ‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬‫ﺷﺨﺺ‬ ‫ﯾﮏ‬ ‫ﻋﻨﻮان‬ ‫ﺑﻪ‬ ‫ﮐﻪ‬ ‫اﺳﺖ‬ ‫اﺟﺘﻤﺎﻋﯽ‬ ‫ﻫﺎي‬ ‫ﻣﯽ‬ ‫رﻓﺘﺎر‬ ‫اﻋﺘﻤﺎد‬‫د‬‫ﻣﻮر‬‫ﻣﺤﺪودﯾﺖ‬ ‫اﯾﻦ‬ ‫اﮔﺮ‬ ‫و‬ ‫ﮐﻨﺪ‬‫ﻟﺤﻈﻪ‬ ‫ﻫﺮ‬ ،‫ﺷﻮد‬ ‫ﮐﻤﺮﻧﮓ‬ ‫ﻫﺎ‬ ‫)ﻫﻮﻟ‬ ‫ﺑﻮد‬ ‫وي‬ ‫ﺧﯿﺎﻧﺖ‬ ‫ﻣﻨﺘﻈﺮ‬ ‫ﺑﺎﯾﺪ‬‫ﺘﻮن‬15 ،1994.( Ainsworth, M.D. (1967). Infancy in Uganda: Infant Care and the Growth of Love. Baltimore: Johns Hopkins University Press. Ainsworth, M.D. (December 1969). Object relations, dependency, and attachment: a theoretical review of the infant- mother relationship. Child Development (Blackwell Publishing) 40 (4): 969–1025. Ainsworth, M.D., Blehar, M., Waters, E. & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment: A Psychological Study of the Strange Situation. Hillsdale NJ: Lawrence Erlbaum Associates. 14 Potter, N, N. 15 Holton, R.
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