These are common thoughts when you think about someone who is addicted to drugs or alcohol. It is hard to understand why he keeps going down this destructive path. He makes so many poor choices. Why is he causing so much pain for his loved ones and family?

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2. These are common thoughts when you think about someone who is addicted to drugs or
alcohol. It is hard to understand why he keeps going down this destructive path. He makes so
many poor choices. Why is he causing so much pain for his loved ones and family?

3. It is absurd that he continues to use drugs and drink in
spite of the devastating consequences. Although he
knows you are going to leave him, his children are
hurting and his job is at risk, he doesn't want to give up
on his life.
He doesn't seem to care, which makes you angry. You
blame him for being weak. He doesn't care, and he
doesn't feel weak. Instead, he has the addiction
disease. It won't be changed by all the guilt, blame and
argument in the world. He needs to be helped.
He will eventually ask for it. You expect him to seek it out
after he has reached "rock bottom". He will eventually
come to his senses if you continue to point out his
mistakes and remind him of his failures. Many addicts
find it difficult to reach out for help. Sometimes, they
don't even realize how bad things can get.

4. If you are serious about your goal and willing to do the
right thing, an ultimatum may be enough to persuade
him to accept help. You must be ready to host an
intervention if you do decide to do so. Although an
intervention is not intended to be a confrontation, it can
become one if it is handled badly. A professional is the
best way to conduct an intervention. They can help you
to find the right treatment program.
You must be ready to establish healthy boundaries and
remain strong before you begin this process. It is
different to help a loved person with addiction than to
help someone with another illness. Any attempt to
relieve his pain will only make the disease worse. He will
not need you to be there to help him, to bail him out, to
fix his mistakes and to make his life easier.

5. External Links:
Case Management
Intervention Support System
Sober Companion
Sober Counseling Services
Sober Recovery Coaching
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