3. Dr ScottP. Sellsesteprofesorde asistenldsocialdla SavannahState
University,SUA,9idirectorulInstitutuluiFamilieidin Savannah,Georgia.
Are o experienldindelungatddeeducalieacopiilordificili, alucratdrept
consultantal Departamentuluide Justi{ieJuvenilbamerican,conduce
seminariipetemadezvoltatdin precedentasacarte,TreatingtheTough
Adolescent,gia conceputunprogrameducalionalpentrupirinli Eiado-
lescen{i,intitulatlafel caacestvolurn.Mai rnultedetaliidespreactivitatea
autoruluipot fi gdsitepe intemetla www.difficult.net.
DRSCOTTP.SELLS
Adolescenti scilrati
de sub dontnil
r
Ghidulparintelui.
redobandireaautoritdtii
;i a iubiriipierdute
Traducere din englezd de
Mihnea Gafita
HUMANITAS
B UC URE STI
4. P'rcndns Yaq odaltcd'rct r4t4r
gtii cineesteacestadolescent?
Mihd nneneadolBcentulripic.lnc{ decind avoapotd
oi, auapinr sedele Dor viirore apehnburi Prnnii lre-
bui0us,-llmeninFslusteregcdcMinaicasildcrcmine
.dficr indildd e. cu mrc edbr. asjunssEscinlel.agi
cuai c@iirrcftz. st-d lmpart,jucdriileo ceiblli d licea
.'ize dendi pd@ on€ flcic Si d€ cminlc? AM vorlrl
Sl horgi laculcare?!n chin!
PcIav6Fr,de!6e spte ,0i, lumnle seiuiurilissi d6r
dcDulqlnc6rltnrlrI auduspeMihailaunpsdiah.Dmro
rulr{ sDdr sr'fl pdr$cnnoi mh dimp@6rdctiv, ahtui
decopil9i$ negoui* cuelroalcreBllrlcd pcdcpselc.In le-
luleesa,MihaiseI sinlirauit $ d n dcvmnascultAlo.
Drrliindci Epsriwl pediarruffi @nsideddp€ialisb)
ln doncniu,auct€nlc, prcblemel.lo€au € {i ftzolvaE.
9i rorui, lMruile N s anmeLionr.sfatulp.diatuluinua6-
curdecil s5roamc3oz!€ aoc.CuoeriDon@upinnlii si ne'
tei* cgulile,cu.tir scsp@ializMihailI arooonipulrrii
Peb va^k deopLnouiani,Mibri $tds dcjadcbelia
I'Ur.ii PrblemcledrcranFtedeel ajusesai s, colldle4
3l@dcspr a ruoorcclordrDcos6.UnEtuzobsrirdsau
o izbumiEdetuncde-alui d denarur,st bodrliccpcl@
Pirinlii lui Mihaiauincep si secde in pdvinF fclului
(@@o de&l dhciplina,c, d m rfi anr douiconceplii
difsire d6prc calerca coprlululT0i6lsa depi6c ci lni
5. Mihri ii lrebuiaunsnrcmmi clrr !i linite mi femq i nrmr
.edcd ct tcbuiaunnd sfd'ulmcdrcrluncdi!'ru.
cttrdMihsiarjun!hvaxLrdc l0 llan',rtunrisun,
ccpursi princasci tclclornc cre i Ncdi?zu ci fiuLlor ncgli
ja lcoah saut seachiuLulOri decaleoi il intcbrudnrL,
Mrharn nD(e A inccpulsi chDlcasc,dc la$osD nr dod
reeuhrPror6oarl{u del,Er 4opLlul-poblcm ql clascL
ti lrrimrtcaDl, dtr6@r'lecelpu(itrneiori pestDbm,r$.
PeLall ani,cerdpbe.rateati a vtdr ri ea6ada,Mihai
r inelluL sapekac, dnrcein ce
'nd
nulr timpcu prierenii
lui.AcAtc{c depnehi crrepati ili rlimml&unul rltuir
codpodanenlolcncgrlivsr devcnnohm cld dolr fami
lio, pc c!rc o prcfcn dc dclarc familo adcviElc.
k susesiaDneicunorLn,!e,p,rin(iil auduspeMiha!h o
alli spsirlisrd.consilirio malcricdcbolipsihiN.Accriaa
pusdiacnoiicul dcdcrcslin dccomponmcni pc londulunor
'ulburindc@n*nvm
5r, rcomandaLunsrt'udc90dc
?,lcint-ot$irn Lzolaridcd6.ll)l'naqplusmd]i.rtLc.AJUtr-
sind laconcluir caMihai sufereadeundezechilibruchimic
h n,ven creiefllui, pinntii cipirde.i cEd'nta cii ei nu l]ol
ls@tumrcp61d , reolva prcblmclc op,lulu Al, incil sau
lisarconvinticisingunlui iansio ftavinbu nitlespecir
litridin atui dii- chclluir{oaGcconomiilcpcDrrua I rri
mkcpcMibaiint-o kbid dce.tucae.
I-! inccpurouou locschimbrninbrncSr*au!rbialscn-
ncd.slcfrtr!E M'lEi sr n,riimblenzn,hachB.lc{ spuspi-
rintilorci-i iubcaLdsopdcaci a I dap. mitraspccisr,trilor
Din pt€tc ins, shimbdrile niu dumr.Lainromerer aca
si a lu M'har,a umaro scundlun, dcm'dc deliniile.Dai
dup,numflier srplam6nr,vehclurcompo.omcnrosraufr-
ud'nnourparilE Pdnr inuinlelcses.ddcc,6cdlEh:ct
sptriatiiilordi, rfari li sedaronschinbacar'etnrnidee 6
d lui Mihai.rt ,, /dz Copilul nu awr mri null Ep-r Fn
m ptrintii lui li inroatooda@si1 decei.vusesela plecre.
NTAOOUCEFE/ 7
I'[ri',liispelautDtlav-h,le lorneroic dcx t.dtecorilul,
IrtrMih.idtr$cisinrpototcurechileluitrucuri.
l,!1d f.nomdc crucielc!u avNlocio frnilia lui Milrai:
I Pltt?txeta Ladip.Mle o, dtt gt?r. P.dcpsclcradio
Nlc aurnt prcapurin.ltcr rsuDElurMtui, s.u chift dc
loc.Dd.i pdintii inercN saI lini in cd4 cl pu 5' i'nplu
ddc! fl re$erpeu!i. Daciinaidemuhliccacite o cnTad.
icdi, ac!mchNlcidelaloalii$uamenintacida o gsuriin
|]orcrc.Accsicadcdc(lEtonsmadolescentiDi auspcfttpe
plritrli,crrcauds,inaporDrcplore MihairdipiLdi mai
2 Tadftt?a s a t.ahdamar ir dq,'rr4 cu hmput,oi-
ccumide hndreleadispirurdin.crrli,i.rrcMrlFrsrnannln
lul.Ul,iniinuJ, ftaiplirceaucdpilul,deriil iubeauin conri
turrc. CandeE mic, 3lroapc 90%df dnpul pekecurdeei
ru Mihaiinsemnaimhr4arirr oL.trtrcplhs dclfeliune. Pc
misuiiiNiccMihaiacrescutis a lior m,i rebcl,prcpo+a
ft smunicm hndri a sciar dmric Acum,jnft 90ti 93%
dinaccsrtrnt inscmnaccnli dutmino*s in cm pirintiiii
sruneaurui Miha, cc annnc grcnsc.Nu tc ndi rimencavrc
Dc pentmiein in rcr ribcr,imbn!air sD rrh,n,c.acrutri
ri@1eNc .dsi lipsiiderandrtteainduE(ir luctriLc, Mihai
vlzindHeoblr8dsrcauicrcfugruinrlri,pane-celmaiadc
Nctrin ce(ul unorpneLecuutrssrm dcvrlofl fl o monli
l'trcdubioAe.Ceercea,:cut caMiha sasclpcnmfl l!rcde
3 Chatu I tudilar :eEibile. Mhaisepricep€ademjDntre
ri lc ciupe6c,pirinlilorlui couilc sonsibile.Cozile sensi
bilcsuDrouvtrne$u gcruri (di urisDioimic numi lisati
rll ficDiovoccplingicioas4o privrcs.,lb tl,carcMihai
ftursea d bunafnnla penrrua,ti f,cepirinll si seldturic
.risisesimrt tunnli. fcnrruel,ccnunb devcrirunto.
S{opuljrc0luiuRsic4liscconroliodnmadcspifirrBdve.
Milorp @rz'lcsensibilepecmclcciupea.Cucerioblis
nu mu,Dtnrltrsd!r irg!dcnrcze$islpliccdsuizlilc,cudir
6. ta*h lorcronololicijsotdcr in s.udrnD, pirinlii lui Mihai
analunssi sepmnecavicum fi lon dtsov!6ll cucl
L Fiecart(dpei, otp6 aLcda FisaE specialirravo.
o altnpircrcssufilozfiedcspEon tebuiaproccdrrFcnrd
apue capirproblenclorluiMibsi.unulr suslirurc6Pdrin
ll ircbures, I lsseinlace,intinpcealtulafoedcptcrc.i
M'haibebuichktmrisever$idnBlnrFolabir,dercedu
cm. Pi.inlii auparcunzei dcc64idcstr creticrcampiilor
dd nio ua nu.onlinc,dspunsun
'nentc
lcdccsive.crc dep4au niveluIpoblcnclo. nomtlc
aleadoleeentilo.Dto:prum!e, o doisuinhr indmLi. Nu
mi aveauincrcdcctuprcpliileinsrincre.Au ajuosin aazain
cm nudc(mpie, ara! n*oie,didslr'$lconcqifl dcslulir.
Dacatovq ra copiluluitiu idolcscbr.ic puncrccomune
cnceai lu,Mihd,nuclr$ncu(a) BirculdeRecmsrminr
meri6 esrim.M ci in II miliomedefanilii d'nSUADrsii
adolscsti .arepdinr, pobleme@mpotuenralcgErc,(jm
.rli,crcdeviolenFlarmalrsauacasr,mcninl!iicusnucL
dera,tusircperaddeicdil,lbscnrcEmt@laignvidit*e$
abuzdcalcool$! dedrcgud
Este adoleenlul tau scdpal
Cancodcf3l6efo$scnsipenrruorideplrinb, profcsor$u
consiliercrercdca lacecuunrdolcscdlprccunMrhri,
adardinslo dcniveblpFblemelorcoridime$ ajmsinb{ ia-
G<cxrrcm, sc4aLidesubmnrtuLcopiluldu adolGccnl
sepoa(enmi 6cip delub.odtol'dacdareiie 12ti13
ani$ daci$ @npoturintr uul Jints modudlcdemdijos
inllrimcletaselunisiinrEisrumainulc smens moduri
NTFOOUCERE/ 9
Anecidcrcnsrrcifrecvenlindlnrrcb adolescnliiscip.!i
dcsubcorrrclm sunrumiLoarcrc
. ii hc linovatr pccci dinjur penrrupropiile lor sESeliSi
Etuzi saii asme rtupundc@pmh oricclaprl rePrcbabili
. seenefleaziutortr s.lioueazampuls'v
. auinnod .oNbnLrenlrde Fol,re slabei pmblmc d.
.abuc,zndealcodlsudoEuridincolodenivelulsmllcl
' scaconodcat greuint u scniciD t' nu scinlcleg cu
.li pro,ccteuio imasinedc idDri,),dei in sind lorse
urc, li vt6b del8 aniianain$amndcnadolecmliimanilcsls
lnrr-of@nenict misur6rcmrciriiu smrimcnredevi.e
vltie uncic3ndpFvoacid0Ercs,u sulennLicelordinju(
dcvrnrcci,insensibiliSroudiiidlrid si mcnlntvrcorclalic
ln csdrul5isrcmulu'smcricrndEs
trdolo$cnlLsunradeseoridiagost'cai cx rvdrJ desldn de
7. (htlnrbntcrt sN det4Lin atve^
loh csrcrdea Dar€cdrlr a M,nkdtutut .tediasroznri tu-
,licn atdlrbn lu nata h r[bne!r de socirtir psihELnbr
Anicnc. (WashineLotrDC,1994).Voievirainmodintentionar
siirccurslaae$cdicheriripcpa.c!dulciiiide raF,pcnrn
caascn'cno clichereinptrc5 bpruI . i oncc rdot.sccnrdcipd
d.n'bcontrol ar bolnrvprihicti, pnnururt, nnpoarcfi
raculFspunzilor nrruomFonamcnrulsiuerc5r.Deexen
pru,Mrftus(16rd, imi qDnca(p$hiamt
an o bodr src scnun$rc /3usl,u de.d ti ci
trcbtr'est
'runifrcprlulcsliDicalnez.A$ciisi
mi lIc bdt
lums inpaccrAmo boari! nuc vinaneacamEtnrurijsru
Exiearblliiinureadot6qcnlut.hiarrc6liccrqhcDrin
h ur lrutoe felii exisr, dolcscenli car sutcd inr-adcvir dc
bolipsihice,cumarfischiDfrmirErlchckrcrnri poaLcfi nc,
c6ari penrrupltu r.rramenrctorpnnsisrcmutdcar8uirn me
carcaunccrchsrspoaresve unef*r ncgd'vastrpdcap&i
otr kredc a rccomponacdunpiantcs' dca csresocoLcah
copiurur6uPsrh grctctilcFcurc
(Nucunvaexaserez€u?D
Encnom.lcaloticopii !r adolcscenliisitrtr fciu!,./z
drE pmblemel.oDrporommralccl)mmE maisa. Deexenl
plu,mulricopirdccincijase a sunrobamici J nc4culriori
I spoaperotiadohsenlrcomirel PL
lrnunactdcdclr i, cume ll s, b.a siu $ chiulcrscsdd
latoal .Dirre*eprcblcdcdnaonreincidcnrcrelarivmi
norcl,izolar.Pmblcmeleadotcsccn!torwolueazidelaroi.
nalls G.indrlc subconLolrdtrncicatrdmnDod.mcnrclc
nrc&zirpnlird saur. u/gri inr un Inrcdal detrse tunrsau
NrFotucGnE/ 11
De ce am soris aceasle carle?
sul ceicarc,c. tLdre,,u tliLirrii dcdohrilEnh pmemmc
Princeesie unicaaceast6aarte?
8. Ccnorivrtien$ I)ursmar@i cecaflBiimcu6h? Alc crni
decEtrerea copiilorncsp.lic sailasin inpr€, fic s, ne
inplicam
'na
mulr uaE puncLd.vcdcrccsrecelcoEcr de
. If.,lasrri?.i. Dr-ncuopl,ncla
penh necreobiNoldccac rclulem lori, ri fi acci lu.d
iotr-uDlinbrJ dmcrre st nrlclcssmevi. Lsi dFpadc psho
brlm4ela.N*assitumrdcpuho,trldccotrc.ptcc,rcnusP*
cinc, nrcrodali catrJi cun si $cullcd la dlm la i sau
' stuter? e
'ilaffi
toa rtantt '1
.fi set. Dedrnmt
b tbpunerc di gEt, .vcd ocvo,cdcun Plantsdesignmnli,
$ uneoridcunplin c sruchiardcunphn D criile i con-
siliedinuncslrunn'crodalacesifacend&it plinul,{ d! Brei
' CoEt,toEi, rozi sensibil?.Cdpiii nosh adol6cenripr
cntdu inroLdeaunr.e coa l.drcNsr desensibilesi ciupsscii
(iquritun,pdviridutm,no$e,senrimenlcdcvinoviiliccic.)
inftriin&-nc al5rdcEre,incarne1as,lil, rcllicit. Torrcrc8u
Iilc S,pcdcpsclenoasrredmtn fi.i nici unrczulrai.Cumsi fa
ccmcasi neapirim corzilcscnnb'lcdcvnLoareciuPirunI'
si nuncmri picrdcmolmpirtrl?
.l.lils," sf.a. Tcmgdns, ncdri o reFri dcsolulLtcarc
si fun.(otrc7ccuadelamrcrndvrcmslopn'n atuLeriasrer
, copiilornoiri, ligih'l de@!si, ch
tirilesaunanitcirnlcvrolenre,lipsaoriciflircspccr,consu.
mulderlcool5rdoeu.i,gEvidihrcancdoriliri rmc.lnlitnlc
cu sinucrddca.Ace$e tunun mrri nc provo.ci, are@ Lcmcn
su tosrdri, i0c,r eslemaisimplusi rdiin eu st trcr.rrycD.
Dtie cevacm si ribi efE( rdpidLsaoprasi accNEanile
icge tr{e mul(prcrJurcrcspcnL no'castDuLcmrtGpLa
. t,r'oti n! Lun sn!;rih thilihntl intre irbim dvd,
ri rd,./u /4 Cuol! omauTirdsDr. (iubna drit S1d6pc r!-
bsdlcdcrccducarculizdepentruaEcii$l,gifirrclc,drcuD
faccmcasdcatLieambndrqep,crdudsrsprcpjereadeco
prLultrosh?(Demult ori.nd c6inr NbesctuPiLul,drnu
'n'maitLace.Cu'nsi pm€dczca sani plactdinnoufiul eu
9. filcanca?' Slrunc-nrccpajiconcrelirFbuicficu(ipenrrua
gisrcchnibfll€red inre celcdoui.
.St pdnntehic:nr Nnnk ritnC. SLEtgiile dcsDre@e
cnm l]ar sa funqDtr€c numi in lmiliilc in cftc sunrpF
zhl, anbiipirirli sanincarenu*kra Dirinlivihei. Dt li]pr,
dn sunLcDmvoiiisalucdmdedini!$F pinaseem!r sarc
ocul)tmnoridflnc dcrorccinssrD, dhciplini. ori adolescen
t nedetni purj sinplu fiindcasuoLcmpirinli vircg
'
Avcn,
nevoiedenrahgn sFccd conccpurcpcnn a vc ln inrim-
pinad @csorsirualiisptuhle.
Carc! dc l4a e$e conc.!!d in d$daelinuir $ rispuDdi
h fieaicdinrreicsrcprcblemeririli ank cm si pcedez'
pasflps. Porischimbacevaar in vialrcotilului'iu ado-
Inlelege
ascepat
deceadolescentulteu
desubcontrol
Piidlii nr lnircab!rcrcu: (Dc ccscno,di rla copilul
md?) EdEo inkEbarecsdlEh Lo fcl csun rccadicauro
caErRbuiesiJi dea$inain pridul.Anddccc,na$in,hi
soarczeonoLcciudrro,t tu rrebuiesiinlehgi mii i.rii de
c adolescenblriu seconpddi riu Abir apoivci purc.rc-
DeDLarasedaroreaziaaptuluici exh(,arii!iaspccial$ri
d daea reoriidiacrneScpodc lornc bincst fi cidpin,
0cun!lrcciir desFecftstfleacopiilortis, li umatsrges
nilealrorspc.hlitrij podcci lavrcnearcspccuvali ausu
nd bhc, dirnc rcmcn luDCru li sn lostdenicinn ajnroi
Pollec, se0z,!i,de+u'z$c Letace6 teintebi rcumsi
moicrcdcucl ghdul doo'onln'Sclhn' arpuGafi dena,
nuh lolosdeei ccleals ar6Lo!aF'z$i ,,exle4i?' Butri
Cireie dele$aprsdorivc piincerlc pcnro circ copilul E!
a{tolGcmLseconponi riu, fomulalc demincmaijos, !i apli
girtetLerc Ti setar reTonabileacesendrive?fi ai spus
!i tu vEodd, aceleriilucri tu sineao? Drci da,cirerLe
mr dcpancn unncazislgcnrilc
'ncle
Dacinu,stcrsi.r
lc!'i rorujidr dctmiedrDcui,oTirrret'si coDsrlLi$'rlre
ca4idcsprscrc$credcopnlo. Dac, mcLodchnEcrcrc dc
rinein nrommruldefi(ii oricu6 N d.u rczulrdc,cc prczi
10. 16/ MOLE$FNII SCAPAT'DESUBCOMML
9Eprenoliv€ princip.le pehlru rc.ua purtaG
Morourm. r: Regulilesu necle.e,unuldinhcoorr-
vclccslsmaiseridse penn c!€ idolescend Eu I scrFr Jc
sub6nrDr a purean scch ci nuexnli unconLEcict{r, scris,
inh dreti eli. Rcgulilerileg consecinlclcincilciriilorsunr
tbmuhtevdbd ddinLerPdabrlc sauinvoraredinneN
Dc cxcmph',iabilci' o rcluladcripulcu nrnifesiimlips,
dcresp€cb,,daruilrsi mcntionsziccanne diacespudcsu
ficeadolescnrulinsomipctrturinetipsrderespcqDrBpl
careaccsraie.c mrorulnunumai,d hretun, d ti h nadnl
roanccorcrc',ircladispoTi{ieo ponqildc sciparef*lccLa
f
'toi,cdbiccla:
(N aisptrscilnj!dn,lineamn,lipsidcrcs
pet.DEslo€ca ceeunDn6cr,r/Dnul luiad littenhl
Atr ctrn,lustre,rpovcsrcalui Ni.k, rdotesccnrDldctiin.
gi rincscrmsloo: mcdrr inr unrechi'rcarcnar d,tu.
Ntrklr5:n)naprcabmedr; fo{5re <ndDm!L dftsm Tn
: rpusdnumae@d;r*coaner&.u
MamrN.r, {rpo un ln.hdem
ns: c (M;m:mkrpEka; !dai! o
niuh drepLompoiammk PsF dercspeo)
ESUBCONTFOL/ 17
Nutu drded(hcms: ms (Nrk
) !r 6ade bine.eai trd
ir.i.!itundlr medi Per&
h 5u5r re. ri cmea G (Mamaenei
s trqq c hcrc&d c dpi@ i rr tur
d'na]nkiolareqd:.)
M rF; de sed o + {d rr{r quid
kszd (Ndrmbdahvn | : d!p(
fto@d€p;ird€)
MBhaGPU-D s hrrriLaJ
a Dd d€&um rnde, dei li
I pe&F I (Mam,waih
deeodaudrlra inplus,N.tkoi€arr;qliodt)
P6rl r. , itiva dh cumsi prdc.dezipenrocdEgulih
lalesi lle limpezrcabuni7iua,rardtriciopodiridescipire.
Monvur!L2: Nuldprstrl.umodutdcr gnndi,t.dF
entulr,upoatedctolai. ninr.aler@sccmriidife(rec6rcse
dovcdAcncsaFpedrd.delcopcriobrcsiinrcgutafomu-
l0rIdetrncsauin mnssr0rclcincrlciriici
Ewr;de TiGtedn un'
11. 13 / ADOLE{ENTTKAII DESUBCONMOL
Lz/drl,. 3 (p.6l), desPEdcpisireadi6cul'alrlor,acst
subist vandhcl,at i, a/e,rr. veiinvilr clm sdlil;rc!un
plm dcrc7tfl; degenul(dardrci, pcntruoriccsitual'ccare
seputca ivi inrreuncti copilulliu dolcsceol
Morr'oL r.,El: Ciupitul o.zilor smsilrile. un .h facLor
(Nu pors: resr&D su (Nu ertirukril DcL'. saudu sud'
obl'gililsa,e.qdl
Adulc(rLr :u unr!l de: 5xc er
nla, aduciinduicriLici$u rracindur.macicn|
iml€imG&ro km-u:
EsuBcoNrrcL/ ts
rmr( bru<d€nv6Ets( rrurme!t16anl p;d q.m do ouncn
a flsp. ie n deln,pdss r.onfotut! lun
Drc' ajlngrdcaoccitivi^ri cucoprl!lltiudohscnr nr
DdcncdccNprcozlcscnsrl,h, cdili.ilsi nri jocrrotutJe
prrinrc.oric delogrcmfiila in rcoricrcBltdc tdmutare de
rinc,nuycircufisi li leimpurc! src.esP6Ltft a b.75),
Mpirolincrrcc$c voltaJeqrecozilc scnsibile,i(i vaadb
iDdcrrlo cun n'nctiorcua&6ba a[ir latine,drsr taMo-
l.senlul riu, a cud rcbuie si proccdczr.
MoTNULNr.,li Ee(rrdeputcrer dotcsc.nlitor
cdndcopd!liiu adohsccnrn.cLrconkolulasuDnsrirr
iidin cAari dinrhF i! rnnrnn componamcnrcxr
tirsumipurcErunui.dulr lid si ncs' pEgiLirpcnLnat!
ccvadrnpunctuldevcdcr rldczvolriirii.LavaNrccuprine
|ul$el3L
'lc
subconroliri cotrsu'niiacceati.ncB'.ciudnd
mqo'rcdca hnc5ubco bda cas tr dc. inscricpurcrc
lhoo(rivzraMua.lror i
Cuod*itdr ragic qrc frrrul ci accii adolFccn!ntrru
nldcdomDil.ric.Iodi, ftceca,'nicarI)irliil,dolcsceniiss
nu.trd0rcasciorscmeDe!purcrcsubmnirc.r,ficcdrcdinrrc
oirinjettedupiu4sicn ti dupio dis.rplrnt.
h/4r,/,r J(p. 102),carclcinvrlrcumsinap,nEr rcd
Ilcitr!ihariirc8ulLlor,princarcsisLi"]lctrLbc!iadepurereI
Morvur,NL5-Pnn.ipiutph.erit.DeceuE rErdcnutt,
{xrlrcno'mrncaDbm Dorciiriilc,aunum$u trtrficefl nicr
12. 20 / AmLEscENlscAPArDEs!6 coMml
utrrddc mi|cme,des' inloancb
conduce,inr-unri.ziu,hob*date, lacmcdde plinani eu
lr ven rhq d.codl Fiindcicxnhun rt, nunr (pnnc'pru
rlplicedr,,porrivil.ini, Orcrcrans, ulmcLipa$u ccs cc
ncprovoscio saLisfictcLmcdhri,,d4tIsi negandiml, pro
p! lrndincolodcsilpDnana Prcgbslc rchrol€ice nu
fic, dennlrcoa, dccarsii ascilutrnlc AdoLcscm
dirrn.fc vdepcscaurcasaschinbrncanaluldsrclcvi
zisc. rodc rcenenionl'$ri ncpuncrui. milcre Guschii
;bdin . Mdodhlssdoleacq,lordcasriz'*dlcapdsipn
ncasciinsi roruldea gala insbnt
IaLidecc6umma vinou!'c', mlion.dcntullos'cir pc'
pLicenLeimcdiarcpovocaredeuncoqrodamcn !
!r Parrl,f '?(p.23),und.lnveticunrsiplr hadieun
conhcl (bcon,, rci atu c.re$nr celgm.r LmNdanrezscc
p.depscdlcincilciii Egul,loadecm d ncvoLcFenLnr invb
MorlrutNR6, Pnr.rergruputuidepndebt inziuade
arui, grupuldcpnetenigiica arcoteribrlinnuenLitru_
bnc Dr, dad grulul ar valoniddo'elntreso panDLau com'
ponamenlncSariv,rdolc$cirularetoalel,nsek sa$lpcdLn
ceinccmL mulrdcub.oftol.
inpnvr9de'ollini-.nideadole$col suntdilic'Fcnrru
rltu.rc ori.ine.aru.c
'
ce homo incePs, $ mtnlc{e,
ESUBCONTFOL/ 2i
tcla I I l3 ani,rdolsccnliiscrMcscpi,ntllarlloln,aco-
dlinctrmdtrrirrre.I'edeo prnc,rdolcscmulriuvr!airt
nanicop'Lt'sase$ori ios8udnli L bd(eleLaleipedcalri
p,nci v@ si dcscopcrct' si uxpcnncnrre ceinss'nni si nr
mM $ s ebucundclibcn4 dcrdullAccar,pfioadiDorre
creaderuritiin$trelrarcipodcd@ li onai naF scnsib'li
i0rcid lcsiiru.i cuac.cpkFr decile ceilalli.lse fidc € odo
lqcmliisikitrdftLcciLrcpndhiilor cft an6,sand6cti
sebponthfelcrei i nucrtd pninli.te0trua ll oo.!li(i.
Accepbrcare4b podcovcains,unI)IelcamridicaLCa
sl nu fic (dd dtaii din club), ficcrre rrebuiesamezc regu-
l c ctubului ri peccrcpusc,5,tc.ctc ncspusc-cum r 6
$ tuE df dlgaznc, si1{i infisi bijureriip.nrdivcFcla4r
'lcltopuluiisi bc4st sedoshezejsanoaneh4ncdc@iume.r.
DemuLrcori,rdolcrcrlrprcrcrlsiitrmcz!rccic rcsnlidtrar
si itre excludcrca.L. Parrl,i 6 (r'.222),udc cnc vo'h dc-
sprcmobiliz a!uroftlordinaari,veiafl,cumpolrsi.iE
orutc7'.hrr ru0cpncicnriadolcsccnluluir,iucasi i viri in
!jurorjM! cuniipoli opi, dr, innuenFlo.nceriri cotr!,
dti LaParl nr 7(t.144).c k setererit, rcqisugaFaiubirii,
vciir(elcgcdrandrr€dLnrrctr.csioopitullituadolafnrene
lcgd,drNLdcmvcluldcnrfluen!irlgrupuluidcpricrctrLstr,
rln sat rcrui <AHaru8r'E...'
aan:(r6:n)f! rehbees tu ptnr
,ndrcleahm a.uno(rui
tmfde mu( hbrast
!rFrutd*hd,&61* tuidydew
r; renqnrri 10!@ia!pre
qr d rRandyapGFohrd &ddoarradncn fi pkrd,
13. 22 / ADOLESC€NISAPAI DESUBCOMNd
MorvurNR.T: Folo5irtdsredii
'
fo+lo. dicriolrc,
Folo$$ srsirii d lonclo.cxrcdomsre Gl J'n!h5, dmnu
cclma'F,in
'nponant
moLivpenrocaNadolesentult por-
liIiu.l.ziua detuuzrddccirce mi nrullidinrcnorncLA-
siimcopr adolAcerliinseJm unorpcdmdcri fadoridi',
cxicnor consilieri,psihirrri,spirle,bbcrcdiscillinare.t -
ummrcncdicadcn,oNc,cfcsini-i Gleer. $ttotuti,ces
cclolnccputnisclm a Ii ispunul crurlrseloaretrnslir.
na npid inr o $bie cudouardifuri.chiardadiadolcsetrtLL
lr.rc$ scnschlmbdspeftcnlosdup,unsragilint{ rabt,
'l6c,plinad,
u cenrnd.rcslu.rrc,u
'ntnarsaudwl
!l
zirclcIrcabinctulcurini consilier,demuliconseitrEmPl,t.
sclcziiproblcmesiFalraloscunimp dupiceclftvincacr-
si, dupi.c cxtrE remenuldesupmvcghcEsatrdupiccin-
ccteazivizirelelaconsilic.lxtLicr(iacncsimpliNurucol
iddui,stl rcmodelczipcrdolescsnr,.rd4,csnecirlLidin
rf[a. De.ceea,adolesccnrulLiurum niciunnoliv si ten
pculca0ncr.ird revinein hnilic
Pzsd,f 6(p 222),dsprcmdbLl'a.caaiuroaielordinira
ri, ili ofcli lJprsidlcer-ch.jcIenLrua Ii convi4cpric€nii,
veinr 5rclr'arpepreorsi lesosn! S's, teajuc si reuPelr
contolulasupnpropriuluic5min.Nnuiraciund*r tuI!r fl '
r{ea crctc. E f@degrcusi rcu}erlideunul$.eur si d+
renniniundolcscrnrsciipltdcsubcontolsi scschmbe.E
.cvoicdco inkcae,sLnuniiale.
Harrainfiengeniti nou. auloskadi
H,nacareumeaztili va!d€ 4mse conb'nicelcsiprc
morivcdcm$ su$aleco'np.nimcdulurdu pentrua cd u!
ESUBCONIROL/ 23
trdolckcrtsdpd dcsubconkol ticmsaIddem soD
ncalL,caleDaca! scpdec, Fni acu aimcs peundrun,
sfrsir,fii 6un(a)ti nu,mi orcdcrimpulinvinovitinduls sru
intubandurcomder*aLJiuuL Tresululnu,tmipoli$hin
bi, darpoliurilra 8cc{rdh&a pc pos dcbusolipcnonah
cmcsi lii indrcprs,pr rine$ipeadorcscoridlsu, iir-o droc-
St0bilctlc c..c c prehlcn dols$enrului tiu Dtrpi cum
rluircazihfta,riulcomlonancnialidolescentuh'iLiupor
r.ll rezolMisau.dinpotrivi,cx,ccrb.l,in functicdeftlulin
O]danli cncsavei canTarc{ur corhpon.mcnrinrun
dc@hilibnchimic,oboabDiNlr$unr(faprulced)ciado
lcsccmulriiucrc lneilriincapabrrdcnai bi'ic.Dac,slslii
rocNLrv4Fnu, vcilpcla,probrbil,h sDechliftrdrn,fan,do
racmllul, sll1,lc,l.menicaticsauLabbucdi$ipr'narecas,
rczolriproblc'na.h Dm. udci,rc siftleii,undezechilLbru
dh'micsu o bo,l, nhralil ne€riri inrNcnliauui crpcn.
Nullri Luonul cm tebuic sEE firrDlcin nini ti si impiedice
Dcnonal.;iulcdnpoda'nenLalcoprlulur,u
I
14. 24 / AOOLEKEI4I5'JPAT]DEsUSLON'FOL
r. unie deddehed'GemrPinda<ne'de, DrepLGreenul
'ni'jinidLime'siGroi'i'
ru.hm. 5, r'nd.;kr; !
sa !n idohrcd ,*iap' : po( ro, De
0lldeofu.emun.a.;ndi''
ra,$ft i!:vrut! iqd: GFln lt,!
Inhobunru,and': raldLmrn4la L
Ascmcnc.d,fcd,lcdcotinie$nrmdnulrdccarob'stru'
rcnr hmiliilc dc aiiizl AS!cum rLcsc di| ca^l lui Rodncy,
dc lelul in crre dcfin$Li problcm adolcscdrtului tir va depin
d! dscdcca d.dfltriui nr lala ciirck vc, tJtrng. ltr rlncl'cdc
propnr inlelegft , lucdnlor % hbui si alcsi iDra (a) r-11atr'
machiarLuETolvmr problcdcrrespecLive.[cctod Jncc(Lr
o aki vanonrijpleri deLaidecacndotcsccnrdr inrr
ink-unccrcv,cios,caesLeincspitn eu rre ftvoic dcnil
'nuhifbmirdcpiirinrc
ci Dacas6rLre$a adou vrnanh,
vcidungeprobrbillaconcluzD.iidolcsccnrulLre6u'esadc,
socotcsl,pcnrn'orue.omponrmcDtnchlo.ulltri,ri rnume
sil' dca/tgsocoreahAdolcsccnLulcrc s aimpomohrir&un
l, unspeddrydinafard
Dacilolur'6rs Deccsrdpr.7!r!ounuisp.cialisr,atu& rolul
lu scschmbl.acek numaiduccro,!rculduusnicopilulli
riupecaleaceabD.:jcrit olc.i sprijinnenh d /vpcBdnat
si dcsqoFndcccadolcscmrulsep
lil enecaatuncicindpnvclr !r pahr curpi ri itvezrncpc
.luLnihrcgol,ficlrejumihrepli',A'nbclcpurccJcvcJsesunr
valabile,dd felulincd id inFlespin.lii lu Rodmyoarccic
problcmrfiutuilora cond6l, doul sol(ii diameralol)usc.
r dn lEq (dq ir eiir€!
15. 26 / rDoLEkFNrrscAparDFsuocomFol
Mricx sii rio I roa cdeI)ccarcopoLiahgc,chiarda.i
o Froblcmr,Jareupenonalnuo p{r reToLvD)
C.le. stanEidepeh.rr,i:
"Nuvreausi iaueutrat€te,
Dl.' ru($u ilri peGoinicarcarcinsnji cor,tutadol.s
2.ll' vcihnslcraaubrnstepir csca,oncirLsu ftofi
cial,u0orfacbridh qLenor spiratejinremarcsaurab.redc
dnc,l'lhme i L.vci bazaI. dcciziaace{ora.
. Tev.' ccdacu lclurlul sautojul nu pldener dc vrli
in'vnrLa(moduluccluinarbuDdcacresrceDilul,dotes
cenL,eulktul6ind ci nimcflnu]a finr sarcsi ir rrarctcin
m,na fl sii crcyi h nonr comun.
5.(A dolr t milie,,ce ds prieren!i adolcscnruluivr
f .clls M0nadea-l educainspidrulprcpdjlor{and&dcmo
EslB(nNrml / 27
mergcdmrtn in mi nu, s scdcs
Caleadr€ap6 de pe harl!:
qsunt gala st i.u tr6Ele'
o!ar5 cc Lcaid{n si 0 taieb nrnin
dc najos, scneun conhacr(bdoD, alo parcurscPot,i
,r J Z ChDrdectadolcsccnruitaunuu rugrcs in lalul
o.dondpccaE I dcsciichanaDcr,lucrudlcvormeigecvi_
A tEl. caler (F--i€ lr.le cu dracul .D
Daciiru sauci.cv. di(,trLunjul(iu - arcbrDeinliptiin
h$re ideerci adolesccntulareopNblcni, drinu cltrtuccl
(cer)cdcoloatc rezoNa,runc1r snpunciPe6oam'res
Dac, rclul in crre dborde' pmblda in nommtul deli'!i
i[dcpchsdi,casilvczicuochiiItidtrcicnconnunribuni
h.carc.iondiLorFlc ncilunili@m P,Jdincanc.dc|8Ld
Dac,nu!q a mullumir(ir),11r
'i,!ine
oncuf posi6iLirrtadc
odrrir^nromsia.e$ttpagint.id veiinccpcciili'roflr E{e
ul(imal! !,nsi der reimfesLa capirinrc CotLlulrtuare
trcvorcdcrinercun mri muhfl nicloddi shiduElLeic$
cuajurorl h,dri demri sus!r d nnuiserdc in$run.tricPe
ctrretr lc EoDandi cadc', schimbidcs ul coPiluluiriL'
16. PUNEPEts^FTE!NCONIAAf.BflON' / 29
{0 n momedc L@i5{N:l ru e
AJacu'nscravedc, ,povcstcaNlarcierSrI luiJili
si lnchcialcub'trc-drr
doncniu muzicii,unconhcrvclb
nri o v'lodrc. La felscindmph ti in Q riccrea' cEsrc.' !trur
dol$cctrrripd dcstrbcontolDrdDo'nenreslulre5'con_
dcrordinumacuoiprii'reii r aminvalatunrut d_
D0nd : oticecontocttrthrieus pd,d,rc Alllql,.SccDLcne
2 Anttisat Nn.tc h?talgi.e Jll Nca drepldq coitacNl
Punepe
curegulr
Dec.? Penrtu.r,.$a.un .m nai rfus,aJolesccorutsca
pddcsubconrmlsufcddcGnrdohrt adlitarnD Dtlrr
17. 30 / ao{EscENr $,{PAr DEsuBmrFo!
rua!idpieud hinvS€l unlucruimpon, : r€buiespeci-
lico,E.i nicinncctuvoc.d seaplicdrcgllo(ic eu adoleF
ccntului).carcsunrtcmcnii(hc@lde 6F, (gahcuchrrub,
ilemna si fii pEcnt h tGrcorle, fira srinLiuI laniciua),
cun ve'@nroloddcisnr rcsF{rali(voiticiprze0t, tn@-
talog,
'clcfoidi
polsrului a.), c6ndsicun vor fr lplicare
€nse'nlelc incnba br (Ght in c6i, i&3mnr ci o scart
din wcckmd vei rrnen. acasi).
3 An oD'iss.i anticipezdetalii de npul dar dacd?,. iar-
inle des tomxla Esu a qata cu chiulub, d n kbuir s! in
cm si mricipe4ir4rcul cuMarj,, rodcevdtualeb snualii
la $oari?' - (Dar dacr Jill rc mnle ..i a aonla t@!td?, -
(D,r doci ,iU isnori inrndiqia cr shtul ir os6 !r purSisim
plrjcsepeust?rCumasmcmaposibilesirlai nuautostch-
delabuninccpurcun anum poab& geJ &nhctut, sdolcs
cenrulseva Srlbi s o laci in locDlitu
1 Nudi an ddtseonacun alecteazd@nttu.tot attestm-
/€siip,z,rdla Fi.i u! mnhacrbineInocmit, reshrceiidin
cad$ dc flli nuportunclioD,.Dc er6pl taP6ut nr I loi
dcmonincumilrcrupcfledotesentul@zilcsccibilecasi
t .ncdeci iar cl si iasi i0vi.g,ror din oric edt. Marcia
s r dovdlit rlnm6ili ,tunci cind i aulosrcr!tro su ile sm
sibileCu cir J,Usisei nai mulrcpunclcoc{algice,cDdir
c, sdcdami h.N{dudrmul{tis aui&d lnircelecd
tunapngc,o vorbcgrle conrqtlncireluiJilliircnesi
maruso.siir ciupssca mamci@zilc aensibile.
O. e contdotgl€raleactqateetu€.:i
Po{e ct ai incercardejasr tlchei conrrerc cuadolcsen
lul riu sdp,r desub@nrol, ds tsn ftntbr o inleleccrcm{i
PUNEPETAtrEUNCOMFAf-SdON' / 31
bnn ! rd e nu@rs. c 6 rjM saapreciczicea cemelg'
Carcvadinrrecucs,E ru fo$ dcscn* in szxL loi .ril, dara'
Css rfasrdo 4ruElqrordlt
!- Ado|esEn'ULQfu:p,p
|eeurr o derpd:rca unorresulisu
J oe. il€letebue* fieromlhF (:
opr6a1tuapud4 inG@rezereg!
. In.ercrsi imprrpr€. hulb resuliin
zfeburu5izire@te. Dad i! erin; u
dnu dearqmuLaregulir (dna.in!etd nmer,, tnruidF de.I de
.hdtrore s! rh lrsradl !.a idl ziu
lh{de.erent, 6 pe!n sdn de5;b(!ne,drcdGE n vaPune
rlbd:E : re€tde 5imamuLrd4n id t m,i PulLn(odpsam.
18. 32/ aDtuscENl$AparDEsu8coMm
Cumsoscri€unconkscrc.E tu.cltong.zi
ru mu, d&i aiinielE dcccinleles{ile blc mrdioffi nu
sutpl*nilic Fitu diuft elcsrili remeliecclerm h@;.
don d@br?Vmvrdlcdat nop-
Irripove$a m ft euuleri mnscintcto.
s cuconbactul,,bnili in cuie,,.D. .ind
Sldl€gi. ni 1:Abordezanum.l
unasru doui problehedsddi
iDainredeasc.ie@rrEclul, hdrir4rdre @anme din @m-
podandtul a&lcscdtolui vrcr s, sclchimbe Unadrft cete
PINEE tsnffIE UN@TRrcT .EFON" . / 33
o.l ne' greieli alcn@ft ese si tunsfomlm onccproble-
E[ tnrr-u cnnp delupri sauinrrc sitri4ie detipul rciDecrr
Dk!ci li-aimnsrlmtroariocrgiolnniru(ieui $ egimlr
dobos(n) cas6oEcl poblemelc d adcvsJuimDonhG.
li{* Drdr n r rcua niu DErdnna E zr
|,]!nn'd,dill;5:nla.adci'e@
I dhiid minsta3 psia4idpln€ c
i n'd o d p. runmeGohra,k r volb$ mL dlk *r' f;d ots
a lumadea z e eb :dl deedenGi;,
l& maramadedrspd Tdrmpum
8&cinepierderPot$ caflieiobnrdie,de sEpi@i rrzboiul
fl-F o Usrr.upmhlocla celerrl tDpon.nh.Cir dc
podens lLdiuicrliulrd curoareschimbsnhpecrre
ftr 3!h lezirmmiid in@mFonnmtuladolsmtulur?
ieIele turii.tiplDcl' udbarele inb.b6npcmee
'a
I Esi. shiDbmr 6u a rd*int impod,nl,ipentu mi!.?
2.Porsi la lmrudleals cumsun
!, Ce FeldtAnpla d&i at a eph?
4.CeFierddlci nu t0 ninic?
5.Tineshinbra asb deseutul. pesomlr?
Acestrintsebidic voi aluasiihoridsridacivreicuide
!t-!i folose*i sinsnl liilu dc bcdrnt pcnrrua abodo
.1. pnblemcle
'ic
p.lfla pe6e aialcituit o. Decxdplu,
h|{ adolftce0t,0{omn'@0! r,ke ou vo$e< flnhcni,
19. :}{ / ADdESCEMN$APAI DESUBCONTFOL
dupi cumcxhr, 6llii cd. fild deh ceilalii nenbn ai familiei.
Nemmun@iNirareaapm demlb on h visto adoldcdler
$ vr disptq mainuli e si3!., deE €depli6d si hci nini..
Furatull$l aprsle sieurnuvadispireafrri ci ru3i inleflir.
Dr.i €iunpanenerdevial4 ceFi si-ti punl pehenicpro-
1ode,eerctue peh opullLEi
.,reniidsUh.e'dsssinu.d.,
. amennli .!E€ded,lade devlohnr
$k.d@' qn! @ftre' trpde'( 5
.! adors@n]ii. De c? edru d 6em.ne, pbb eme p.t ddeni Peli
srabil.lb oim'iie apmbldelor o caEsemnftdi ado-
lscmtul, deh ea mri ibponmlnh ceami pulininF@r5,
incepindcuchcshunebgEtedesigudF peM.a16.Ccrci
st$ fac[E elproprialisti, dacidoftfE. Vafi inlcrcsDtde
vlzur d!c! @m dirh pnoddlilc br @hoidcm Drioriri
CoDblndnri Dult€line lnFn. slngu.a PinnF caE
l$rsrce sinEuricopiiim Endin!.dcosdrtpesreacea$,4api
fi otEe did laStu/esr?,r 2 Nuest..*s si hci $hinb
ruNEE H,iMIE!N@NTfuT.BFON' / 35
dolist cu.inmi, de ili rddond si i adli lis@depoblde
lN Dndd bu.au tuivskwelii Sunin6orc@rctepor
.priim$u slituiiopnvDl,lKreiPdcdi0d asnelPo(i5t
;Dc0 ideinoi su sa"i ddi pnoliElile- ln scnsulhm al
DnpiceportcrdJ ri{ 6cutpDprir li.ri, sctiDbelilein-
tE voisicompanlii{sputr$.ile Dm-llisb b difed @nrd+
nbil deceddl[. rr.buiesi ailtecli launcmos @lpulinin
dolesc60l vdvadezbim $ siipin .
h, {i de{ oud nimicinDohv4 esrebires.iinclui problema
Frpdrivi peld, radepriodtllr.Adolesmlii sunrintoidei-
E! roi cmptuli d4dvid ci idcilclot sur bdsrteid s.mi.
Dupie arrEdt turevisdrrspusrile totuo! clor inft_
bqi,DDepchinic cclcmaiinpoture d@ipobldc pcffi
mdi si lc rbord,i in Fioul rend
ttrturorna preblem€le in Eguli dncrcte
UNI di!ft nonvch pinciprlc ponrrucrF mnt&Elc
'le
olnbacm e quarenc@lt ct rdol*cmlii auo
'bililare
n._
obrltru'bder srsrbrcFinresxlid&, lcens 0usudrpFos
dofinft ft.xemplu,h pur(lcetupemareincainrer?rdi
20. 35 / ADdt:smII SCAPAIOESUBMNTFOL
@E€acei6ffit Gificiordn.indmrnr,.asmmaer,
tui onduc uori la6.nicb derSobile sN chir laviolenc.
efinetri concreqtn sd1 pm
3{ .bordai IaE.umfl,
pl cedarnirtepirinli pcnn a rl'sfo@ rqolcrlr' ri rcrdi
neain came6 ln reedi pEise a @rcrerc.
.€ne,b:c p! naGh ru Gau
. irsneninlro bturaperrdee ru G.u ped dE ak'n*a)l
a a'e'i'ii f,id ondd at'e
Requr tr 2 seva.onsidehcr samt
r deP€is, dh debaG,ide
. patur6cnd e .umq p;inl,i,
r h r'ftae unrt jo * da.u*phbdi:
inrr-o rcgul, drln $ pKh fomuldr, in cm qisd brEe.
sm nuami punlrsEsct@ms$4 snced, oxplciFi d si i
eue pid.di deinconsovdlr. Aceiari pinnti summ !i mai
depd. ti su dclinn @rdinea
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Si tupoli s, tusfomi pobLemclcdepclisrapmpne(chi!-
lirul delarmalij tws[Eilr€ oEi deinro@m o€si. hgitul
fuNE PEHMNE !N CONRCT .BFO. / 3?
d. acNr) in rcguli corcreredc @oponmdl d,cn rispuui
ce alne ,]in tot.e s?lne sauJrcedpilul na ad'|4.ent
.trtii linpede cdte carJ td cvttubleda dt@?
Streteglani 3: D.llnelle pEcE onsEinla
lncilcirii un€lrcgull
Avenjsncnt haintc dc a enmen cosfrinlele, ii ol pc
. Cahrihqere cdpnblenela conpa anehtoleaie adol6
entului pe^nd i te nPetd.APaleaI leconseinlclc dN din
crtur dc tolt numaidaci adolAcentulcodite reetii cmm
ulilizaniciodardconscintelemun@ laPdlri J d@i 6te
vo ra deo Fidi asmena nanrfcsrare doe._ai si inpu$i
21. 33 / ADoESoENTTeaPAT DE$B coNml
. Citertetoatdun a. Amirertzt odat,li asmb@ o co-
nodi TV cirindnmai opd. din insnlqMi. In noneftl id
ce 4 m ar%r teldircdl deasuFro,F pdtb
d ror.I-z lel $ aici:6ec@t6 din cfta defrl.d
toli c.ila(i ti e parcurs. plecgnddeIaBi.IorEd
cftr 3r{ confitri dolescentului coletia deCD,u. ft; si fi
studiatnoliueo dcrciupir dzils ssibits, lrrudlc o vortua
nm $ lli vor sciDsdc subcontul. Lr o consecinti,imroF
hnle nu sur l|mi londul!r foin4 ci i mohenrul 9imodul
. V.n ,i recoMrddde eonsitiddl" rtu Exhr, @!s+
cinF
'ie
tip(tumarocare renmaicu{uiool
unuiensilirpsihorenpar dinrrcrcre cons+
. Atisud-te oi dl unPlan Rded pknut I dd cft+. utiti
laiNhtutti derim nu lolcc{rc laninic $u di eEr. t$e cln
spheae noi sus.ftbuie si ni c! celpulin dout mulin in'in-
r.a adotesccntubi,alrmiDrerireva nars fiipr.
. Udliwi hetadzatmciei ii resphEenL
leg' ci ti tu,t adolcscntul alt awt desdcri!.
diii rEhiadarci.ADrlnlftgi deconture
alecbr 6a-!ruia pDtund iubr@ pmh €l€-lall Iali decesdo-
lMntul or o*oie de o doz.!snnibmi de €stincere prin
PUNEPEtsARNE!N COdFAO.BFON' / 39
D@p.rt erc esiercilciin htAlileD !l dol4dlnlui
u ,jnton|] UrreiTdp 10,Nn existi pehne rdoLcscenrcaE
r[naibimrcrlciitlluiAbile,-o@Nd4id @resanu
wa si aib, de afacesaud dompds5 rtat dEnohvanri' in_
crrsi s schinbe radicoI La nilelul ,parenlcloI insi' co$c-
tscmtul tlu 5{ codidcc alarde <oflbrli h 8ub, inca! de
ftjci ei si prer.re st rdmle
$denco ooDsecinletehuie
Colilah rcrbei al lui Ahr
gMi la4, depedelso;confi$de uei juutrtr, $pnmrE
22. & / AoaEscEMrrsApaTroE$s coMtu
dsfttui, cllabt mi de]/rm. erc L. 13u, j 6ftma con-
semle nu m4 ounici u! ef.cr. ctr cer@pilul rin adol.Mt
cretre,cu ilar palcb depcitile @lsinF s BhjnE€.
fterenniu enemde
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chd m er de modird trry k delan:bm dre,
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Eik {oaneimpdd Lsi €d hre h f4a :hd adc
reu h cc vodeni,. neh insotEbj d{; {n,
46!m€',De5'd€qemPru'b@nd[:lo5
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aprePL,eI ihk:metrnd. haenear ed+
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&d[snu@d''ddreddoca'eG|d;.U
Dup! cc shdiqi aceani listi Top 10,nE31 l, fomnllnl
dc naijos ti idhiz@i @nseinlele celemii ibpodrnic pcn-
fin odolsqtul riu. Si rtllin add @l lur Jill, de la incepu
c0pnolului,tr si v.dem flm m folosilUsETop l0 tenrru
&mi hnsfomi st@ul f4Dl in reu5iri
o A Dou tans^ r4mu rr i :AHtrA .
b 6s.m aiumb .onsnle
d!dE, prb: ra@ablLade Adohx
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23. 42 / moLffiNT $taT| Esus coNr@
r.r.rr'raE cdnF cdddFh D-rar6puadr',
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A@G lKi atpltahr oEwloli. pmtu Mmj! l_rd*
cib ochii dupE uei pinopln lDftsi d. ioi Posibili6li dob
poc(recinle sdr neearive,c& {i pozirivo.Mi_aspus;
c@tlgbF ksb & bDq
iflsiE bend.aoi t nlhdrb chilr
Fdril, ounwH lhii od I4d* |M 6wi 3ispu.ri'}
tr @lomr ((Dd pmrd a sublinio@Bsinlele o ad*inr m_
potuG pdtru adot6cedL
strar.gl. ni 4: ur l4a, corc4hl6
6reipdltlve, car$ n.gadve
Pefoaiodelncn demijos, enmer{ consecinlelcadr po
$i dce6r6 d!4, d&l adolEcmtll a onpots
ldGnr.lc gieve,P6zr d J ili sufd@
24. {4 / aDoLesI sc,{PAlDEsle coNrrcL
9E1ft emE I Earur EM,u ae!s.R,
rmrdH-.rhrddTa-;-
CorsrbFh pozrE$d : re d. rmruninhcrs cetercsanvc.drnum5bffilcnotrv.
fuNEPEts^FTEUN@NMT €foN. / 45
2.Luno t4E ojdt ncaDaase pditive $ .otechle ne-
priw. Daci intelege.n exisi{ onscoinlc ar pozitivq cir ti
r€ltive, adolcsntul 6rc tus in aalruei opliuni:Ijc cpett
Fgrla ti atuncrcsicEcoDpensat,ne !a avo pan. deconse
ciDlcncsdive leni cendajunses, rcspedeFgnh
$raregla ni 5: Fomul6.2! contmclul scrls
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lar priml mnbcr scd. qc 3,@nliri alarrts i, cati con-
&cinl. alenersspecrrriilor Ac.sr prin conhcr ftbuie nudit
dMed dclun', pentruci elva 6 cotplEr.Lulldoi sdlu
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@8dNe6te ilEfrr d. lmilodl studiudc@ pivitor h Jer.y
(13 mi) ti Lafdilia lui Prcblcna lui Jery eB retudl dea
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ln acei exenptu,ia[1tli ratcibitl6racuccted inpor
hnrczee cons4Dlc$ a 4u6 laconcluD c5(Lib*ra,
reprezdh, in c4i fiului sru, pionkba Nmirul uDu Drepr
c.reJcrryavcadeals: fiercsp4riondevcnir ras, !iavei
fuNEE Hid EUNCONTMO.BFON' / 47
ponedeo.oDsecinlt $u ot€oBDc.si (oorglnPIN
ilc$it'lri), a,eN 4 ri 'tunci
,veaparcdeo cd_
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r fosrDeDuctul dci ctdcsbalt,ln I dinpdno 5ip6'ttot
ioo,i'*; a"
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obscmcudesetulfl 0tostli !n pE dealdulooB suplimen
i& euim sps ci m ndn l caJ.rrysi vddcc
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26. ,16/ AMoENI ssPAt DEs3 co[FoL
ora de vo 3c05, edu doui luff difdiE ti ci rEhuDU b-
r.rcdifdir. Intuduereauor Eguli noidinn6 rraci b d-
diciot d.ea decoEcrirodtne!i deciziitcturc mrdior Mai
mlr dcc6lrlir,unobiceiBEilduseFodeehnbinrnaipu
Fnde30d. zilc.Potru @tnteleg€Easi lib5 vm lsi de
rEutr4 trcbuicd-i daiadolecmtohitix u rtgd d. @lptr
I'n patsusEplldini la;nd
srrai69ra ni 6: Includ€ P;erfle $t erF t€nF
6do166ntulul
Dup!@puipehanicpiioa fomn a@nrEctuLi,esbE
comdabi snin(4i si 0lli @piHi fi oeideie rdotescn
tuLDacnideneluids pq l%n!bil., pogs, leinErdui did
ui.Nnnir, c6dftptll tuat deverotli a!,r
line{rc, r. srunuilcile dolo{dtului Dr nupi@i
rinic dtui ii @ p[@ despEsm ri potfi solulionrrcpn-
Ti s. v! piri suerildbr st i catdeolarpoaredeini
adolBcedulcon*inGle re i seporrivEoqelmd n r.De
mlG on,copiiisur mri exisentio eiinrid srupopunon
serdt€@id'Ed6-atp&inlii cu afidt Mar dinqmptul
Md {B ,nt
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rftrui sa P&n,bsudasot'lia,d' e
PUNEEffi EUN@MBM-BFON,. / 49
Uniiadolescentiscd!4idesubc@rrolEfri sn@operc
mi oles.i.d !u vid ceavsnrrjd pureaobnncsaudacn
llit-o hm id ae nnsud.ln -atDumii Mr caDabilis! o$
ctr*a ffipl.. hchideochliSiidu ti @inted. di adc
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lnlrehftiledenai jos C@ dinr€ eteiti snEeE,zgs, fii
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or',adorffitii reijdi di. susfetltlt tr ce t pni
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tDdullurob,S.urdeaptu3dutr opmrabo ititudne
27. 50 / AffiEIfII $APAILtr 96
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ot pentu i dil,
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adoplio poziliemncilidt4 cduicdnd rotodrri limpedec,
dtului u co["ct prlinitr pEis, pN pch€nic,
@npotumdtlI. @ reDemllme$. AcE pE8{un ii vor
Cc itrlEblrl rI pul, Cgndsnteti mtndoi in loec bunc
9i leldFrul esb inchis,pw-i adolMblui celeplb ln'
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inr.tbi acre lutui, euuul lem v:at liclnd ninui o o
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tii diDviatalor s[-i sslro $ snaudi cu ad4!n1 @ spu ei
Iatrcb6nlcfEbuiepE in ordio.a ln @c sut sp*ifi€le aici.
I Cln e l@ cd na oi zbznd'not ltatd h 4 teyiwrk
pe n^eti Elzlizdintu notdoi?CM dedoi e4ti? Est oln
hbc cfioio6 ti Bigomr4 pdt! ct acoperibt e 4e po'
niiv h:dol6er sih reloti,dbft rci. kobabil d adol*nbn
tue de ge.uL (Nu shi d€vod! cu mineD,iuftabi cu
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btunpldundit@l ti tu pmblna- seEzolrd C'n ,e
dolseDtul vi incep. s, recoEd* d.cr bat cdmpiipfl
d AUneaHzbaro-afu, crei saspui one vti&i!.
ei nrci6D nume4., incc?cto sdspui
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v.riete
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@? leind rc$t luctu@tucai
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d ! saus, duici ri+u.suile copcu rfillr Pe@nal
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to[$nb O :Me.@ mntsalnhbare id va ofdi info.
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28. 52 / AruscEMtr ${PATTDEslB @MmL
atune wJr alfeQ CM ptueaEi tui? Peci^ew saprirde
nna@lul .el nai nuli
Od,ri iDplu, !i ,abdre ti nuidoplaopozitiedeaeBivi.
Esle$I6a numi deo nisiu. d. cercd!re Ai enjds, r&i
in aiafelincatadolBcentulsilr r{spuDdtcgtmd snftl cu
purinld.Dot teeendeflilam w rira lucnrile in vinor,
iDlocsirinai cEmpon,{t)derlul vci earainultcrb
sedcr @lw pbblemeleatule aleadoles@tului
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decoopflffi, in c@ * polipue iDrrcbdliru p@iie leeilc
. D&i aipurd elimimflhe pmbleni [llrefh-o] !tu,
neine,caresDt co0winFle pozniv.ss t@opdselc cds
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s, elinini problmr sannice s{ Fnuci?
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se d6cMla sI inqlci curre Eculi lnmertH]?
lnhbi Ipeadolscenrd!ct esicdc@rd s5-imtcziideile
ln riop csli vorbegc.Notuea;spDtrilor lni il M lmesi
.ednri inp.tut, ir p. rinerev, ,jur, si Duuti ces! spu.
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Maldds dn|d €.sGre h dedse
PUNEPEIAFIE UNCOMMCT .BFON' , / 53
r @nafr'a tu9l3.0,4i cre eft pd'b
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Fllco.sev€nrin umed@soputul
lDoinreder tipue inFle8c@idprzctic4tirc minEene
1.NEispue odabtcehtututlu.tunp2.4re nupof soufu
vei i teJociti tndepri,ertetot@sputcdintento,ai sdloci.
2. C! .dt nretti ndi nrh sdteti deEpld I, cua!6tw
tebui si aPlicinai !tuthePedePe
Cendett!-Ebinela4estcEe{li deau oli decgreoriesb
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Doc[nuel tnlslg8eci EEr-
IileinpEde di O&r!liuns
fuNE E HAFTEUN@Nfu' 'Fd' / !'5
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Drrul$ rmine cuobltunicL'1.?AMci dDd odinlinre
,iT voib. e.ate,cer@ op'lur s poda m bmese tui
!? s. poan;ru, rdl !i hc. 5iM muhsndal do'i pinn
Fii rrdt la celel@ cap.anec@
lllor piriDli deo n mlMvdlr cu
, $s opo$ obl'Iuitc
. l. 4i ttuFrE gntue'rai
'v?tu
@ P
30. s5 / A@LME{I| scAPAlDEsus6rqoL
rz omporbmnhnul Dica c.$tr sinsu(r) &pitut, ri pur€
PUNEPEdFTEUNCONF^CT.qON. . / 57
SlEl€siani 3: Prhd+I adotesc.nrql
. ardesetulpdll fi.al AceNddrimi srurceio
I nmirul lnu alrmi cand
D adolcsht ftbuic aduspecaleacerbui. Dacimdj rc
rcindicaliiexer tinp dedoui luor,nuli v3vd sijcrezicc
&hihbiripoziriveveiobscdrlaadolGcenr.
Ama sccrcr!scnumetreRrudoa$rereaMur tncidenrpo,
RIPiEbuiefoLosir.iincombimiiecuconhctutscds.RIp
&lioncrzi cao lovitun,loc si di odtracr ui $ns inpuhul
nffiartcnrruI decolao odwinr.Iaricumfuctio!@{.
Folosqteolupiibrgin.rL lo,gi icnoioluDimr-
SiciD.c,rcopo4ilarineDd. Ams rcvdajfts{rezi
Don[i ceam,i mic{ schinbaEpozirivitaadot.s@lrulsu.
De4luieulinftgii,ile, folo$nelup,rdrsi.rn s s,ldi
31. s0 / McscENlr scAP^TrDEsuBcomrcL
!a u*dblni 3 qnrn d,rcl
. . ftd rebf cdi,c aprhen
IndaMilt@)n r4edeet ainpl
. a a.uhd Fobhmeleeloturl'
66"ffin tn@ndili deaE
Itrnineui Ce.tif.rtul dcRe.uno'g* r unuiIncidqt
Potriv. Atuloi crndE[ MnorG) laura dinLl &6rc faptc
bune,@nplete4n9iinmamzn i adolMtului ilu udcc.
ri6$t RIPprccumceldemi jd. Vafi urmiidcgeslultiu,
darN Nbuiesdrcopreii aici.Inmeunr. cumllteasde
ns cc.ificored .u urb si lesemzi
Nuuilaaccsrd{e rdeviratuci candidmarezipdoul iiu
ceniEcdrRlP.eculilc vo.fi l0cil*b mi E d&i iti v.i pd!
deadolesdtul ficendcwabine$ Iwi Eudrchid $ip€lh
cermri niMr! rolzc. L!ud, moriveui, id cnricadish
Cespnid onului in cdoa lui dwenitdcnsl,ciHo| to Mn
PUNEPEts^MEUNCOMFAS-BFON' . / 59
Fne I and l"Irenc. P@p|e,D e cdesie lomuh pdfecr
fr@ru6id@iPEts-Ebdo!,
qE d o! &ns! du!{ da,
AlPsdr 5.o:lr-5pod-crcdiviL.b
Glapenrtuar
-componam€rr
incondI de
sfe! _ compodamenlin
'Lu4 '
dlP
-Rs|,lp'oleioi:le-RspdAi al'igar &e*ti RKlno.nee a
Trsereond:neclrab: dea! n dep
nneoiot+.1
Eufan6r<41
cit dcdcspods! hbtrezt cenificare RIP?In prina
lur, iminear-i adolesc.nrduiu CenilicarRIPorideceG
di vu i ci faceo lapil bui. Eventul,nolisi nncedezilafel
tilnlwum5to,E depindedeadolescmttidecirdclech
Nl problefelelDioomDodmenrale.
Dupt oluni saudour,rnEic-lc: ueon n daiceEunCcF
tl6cd RIP,alteonN. Sodiiledocazalclui B.F.Skr.ncrdD
.tus ;ninFti mpotumtut urdr,dcvctrtcl6ic4mE
cI dunoas!4a poz'rivtosremi cJiciotisbncicendpeF
em on6r3udpc6 ti nuii. candr_ivaftmnpensdcom
32. 60 /
^ooLEscEMrsAmlr
oEsuB6rRoL
p€osat'cucxer rr cononed.car aibadcejuaoreinsn
Penh caacelsdplrcipiu sdtunc nqe jh cu ul adoldcen-
Dlu" insi, tebuie corsbid o emetrc deRlmqrcrc ftd
tiva @nslondin priEele ua saudou[ Imi.
c gmise9ri panoll deo0ooretimpde.jicva siptn
m tisrviiowr inpl6 sr,te*biziundm me;zD
in dol@ntuls;5i 0o0rapR*hrhba cdincdele Rlp
gaiMhre! uei @Dp6se.
lxperimenr@j sisremulccl pu {. Ratbrele i se
vofpiruuhirodAtorudtiei fi,'g.nNsr(a)
h sujbacupnhc. h reli' pk( r edtutli.
Anticipareaditicultd!ilor:
cums6gende$icucelpulindounmuleri
lnalnteaadolescentului
Du!5c d pus!c horro@nrdcrul,.st! nomentolsi anri-
cilai lotccarputeasi nundrsi tiashimintedeapue
ln ffrcliue Egulile $ conseciDl.leneEsp-rtuii lor Ai De-
voiedemi mlb DlmulideuBe46slu dcsw4 cucrre
$ prei irde eventu,lelepnierie vmiredinpatuaadolee
stuLul Dccxmplu aluci cindMdie (15ani)afo* con
s.m{n in c$t pdid c-,rrgs chiuhndeh rcoaEparinlii
ci anbotiratdilaintec svsn safaoii! c@l iDcarcMerc
(r) a 6 frlgitdeeasi, isnorrndconseDnul;(b)6 n l!!s chiu-
lulitrcoorinurej(o)!r fi sunatlowiciilc dcpotetic a6-
piluluie st relmc .l csbpdeu6d.
Cdcmi nulro ci4i d6!I. crqrersacQiilor ti conhcre
o eiN reinv4nsi ddcipai ditculElile rtuci c6ndpteql,
b&ilia De oncenre birilie di! isbrie! f6r c4tigsBi!c,
dimiDtes, serEgdlrinul focdeam!. cenaalii bticipezi
lndelouune@ mtcN ! pl4ii ldveBedinainredeaircepe
luph Drc, mricipeut bine,vicroriale€re 6igurri. Doct
Ali. .i4i d.s?rcorqrcc {piilor lli spun@s, facipd
t! r-1stpgni de N-li spu ninic dspE felnlr_ncaredlF
l,lc pFblemedin aanilie(prcbleEeleoorju80lc,dcDrcrrle,
disuNile noBliaroaF eto) ilr ater@6 drcctcsp@nds
d. r implneconroctuLP6ul defiF i{i and cm si cczi
pldui derezd, fi cumit f&i fati pnblemelord. lmilie
33. 62 / ADoLESCENTTscApATtoEsuBcoNTBoL
Strategia nr. 1: Vino cu un Plan B
daci Planul A de gres
Atenfie! Nul lisa pe adolescentsdciteaschdespreacest
Par. Arat6-i un exemplaral contrach.rlui<betoD),darplanu-
rile deanticipareadificultifilor pdstreazilenumaipentrutine.
Apelezzdlaplanuriloderezeflh numaidaceadolescenhrlin-
cearcAsdpunxbelein roateintelegerii.
Alcitui€$t€ o listi de scenariide tipul <Cefsc daci. ..))
Dupi cea$temipe hertiecontracful,heceitr revisti toatere-
gulile giconsecinlele,punAndu-9ilntrebarea:
Ceanumepoateieqipmstdinaceastireguli sauconsecin{e?
Deexemplu,si zicemcbreguLlaera(muchiule$tidela$coa-
lb), iar consecinlaincelcirii ei emaceeaci urmast asi$ti$i
tuIaorealxhrrideadolesceDt.Peo foaiedehartieseDarati.Ii
o lisladescenariidetitrul.Cefacdacd...>'
. Cefac dacdevfircercsi mergla $coah,iar adolescentul
refuzdsi meargi cumhe?
. Cefac dacd adolescentulincepesdlipe SisAfacxsca!-
dal ln momentuliDcareintruin clasi?
Trebuiesi anticipezitrunumaicearputeaspunesauface
adolesceDhrlpentrua subminacoDFactulscds,ci Sigesturile
intentionatesauDeintentionateprin caredre persoaneadultear
puteafaceacela{ilucru.Deexelrplu,p#intii lui Mitch 0 3ani)
credeaucx-li frcuseriunplanimbatabilchemandpoliliaahjoci
caDdadolesceutullor a aruncatun scaunpe fereasfe,Numai
cApoliligtii auajunsdupeo ve$Dicie,iarMitch, intretimp,tu-
gisedejade acasi.Politisful Duaputut facealtcevadecatsi
Ieia pxrintilor o declamtie.CaDdaaflatacestlucrq Mitch i-a
rAsir nasmameilui qii-a spus:(Vezi, fi-am spuseuci poli-
tianu-mipoatefacenimic.N-aicumsAmdopre$ti!)'
PeDtruateajutasdcoDceplpla.Durideurgenli, ali1alcifuit
o listi cucelemaiobiSnuitescenariidetipul((Cefacdacd-..))
DentrufiecaredintremmDortarnenteleextlemecelemaidetemut
ANTCIPAFEAOIFICULTATILOR/ 63
ln viziuneapdrinlilor: dela lipsaderespectPandIaamenin{a-
tile cu sinuciderea
LPsaDEREsPEcr
. ce lacdac;adolescentulconrinuSsi lnjurcti dup; cei aminterzs
9dvorbeascalatelefon,l-amconsemnatln (ase,l-amamendatetc?
i Cefacda.dadolescentulsetinedupdminepin cas;in contlnuare
tiliF lamrneatuncicandeulncercsi iesdinsitualiatespediv;f;r5
'U|jJ"J#Xi:",i*"t r"oripanericeremaisimprecercriaremere'
fa.; ordinelncamer6,saspelevasele,5;scoa€afaregunoiuletc?
r ie facdaci adolescentulajungesafie atetdeobraznic5ide ner-
vos,lncatmi ameninlSti peminecam; lovegle,mEimpingesauma
hbrancqte?
DELA
'COALA
SAUNOTCLEPNOASTE
sEmearg;c! mine?
. ce fac dacit:eful meu nu-mid; fnvoircde la seruiciucasi pot asis_
FUG|TULoEAcasA
. ce fac daai eu lncercs5_rniconsemnezin ca$ copiluladolescent,
ori5; I oprescsEplece,id elrese,purti simplu,peut6?
. Celac dacSadolescentuli:i gSsqteun prietenla caresElocu (4,
iarp5rintiiaceluiprietenii permitsesteac5tvreael?
. Cefacdacdadolescentultelefoneaz;la polillesaula servici de
RELATILESEXuALEl,lEPRorFlar€sau GRAvlDlrArE,
. ce facdacitprofesorulsaudirectorultcoliinuvreasamesus!in;?
i. Cefacda.i adolesc€ntulrefuzSsi-sifad leclile:i dup; cefi aplic
consecintapentrunefacutulle4iilor?
. Cefa.dac,-adolescentulestesuspendatsauexmatculatdelaScoaliT
. Cefacdacieulncercsemetgsbasistlaore,iatadolescentulretrlza
. Cefacdacireligiameimpiedic6satecomandmetodecontraceptive,
desistiuc; adolescentulsi-ainceputvialasexualeT
. Cefacdaciadolescentulcontinll safac5sexneprotejat?
34. 64 / ADoLESoENT|scApAltDEsuBcoNTRoL
. Cefacdacdfiic?meaadotescenrArAmanehsercinatasaucap;ti
vreoboal:cutransmiteresexuale?
ABUZULDCAlcoot sauDRoGURI
. facd.ci adolescentulrecjdiveazafi retuzds;_rischimbemodul
d ale?
AMBUNTAnTLEsauacrELEDEvtorENTA
. (.e/a. ddcaado entutameninra5aimprnga.5drmbrAnceasc;5au
tA loveasc;pecin ? '
r-C,e€c dac.tadolesceniulchiarfaceungestviolent,deexemplulo,
vqre pectnevasaudistruqeceva?
AMtNtTAfltEcu st uctDEREA
. C-elacdacjeuimipuncopilutadotescentsubsupraveghereaconti,
nu.iapsihoterapeututui,iarelcontinuas5vorbeasc;desp;sinucidere?. Cefacdacdnuamsufrcienttimpcasa-mipunadotescentutsubsU-
pfaveqherecontinuS?
. Cefu. dad adolescentulchiarlncearcS$ 5e5|nuc|d6?
. ae /a. dac,adotescentuttrebuie,prlalizatpenuuo renrarvareatd
ANTIC1PAREADIFICULTATiLOR/ 65
un plander€zervi coerenl A sosittimpulsi con-
u! setdeplanuriderezefli pentrufiecaredintrescenari-
tipul (Ce facdaci...?D
steca$icumai incheiao poli(6deasigurarepentruado-
tiu. Cagiin cazulasigurdrilornu-li placesi plite$ti
cevaces-arputeasdnu-tifie defolosniciodatd,dar,dace
vreonenorocire,te simfi u'urat $i fericit ceelti asi-
impotrivaimprevizibilului.Multi auregretatci nuirche-
oasigurareimpotrivaitrundaliitorin 1992,cands-aabdhrt
)ra1oruraganulAnalrew.Dacdsevaabatevreoalatduraga-
AdolesceDtulasuprata, tevei bucuraci aiincheiatdepe
o asrgurare.
candili concepiplanunledeurgen16,nuuita aceste
debaz6:
. Concepe-q.planunle de unul singut/deunasingurd.Ai
documente sfiise: un coltlact (betoD) pe careurmeazi
citeasc,Sisemnezeadolescentulli uDplanderezervipe
nui-l anili.Tegatrdelti.probabil.cdnuvafi nevoiesdre-
la acesiplan.Daci itrsdadolescentulafli deplanuldere-
td preadevreme,sepoatefoartobine sdsesupere$isdse
intr-adiDs- sauseconceapdun planpropnu cucare
obcileasci.Nu arenici un rostsetreze$tiun balau ador-
dacl nu aiun motiv serios.
. Pune-liplanurilepe hArre DacAti cendadolescenhitiu
contmataca$i-tivaalapestecapcontracful,vei fi desigursu-
iat(d)sauiritat(i) $itruvei maiputeagendilimpede $tiind
aiuDplanderezervi scrispehaftie$iascunsintr-tmsertar,
putealemenecalrn(d)$ig6ndieficient.
, Inspird-tedhIistaTopl0 dela Pasult1r.2. Listacnprln-
celemarimportaDtezececomecintecarc_iafecteazbpeado-
i in general.Dacdgtiicaresuntcelemaiimportntedoua
inle pentruadolesceDhrltdu Siai inclusunadintreele
contractulscris,aigrij[ s-oincluzipeceade-adouain pla-
deurgenfd.
35. 66 / ADoLESCEN||scApaTtDFsuBcoNTRot
su extremdestupidesauamuzante.Nu ezitasdrecurgilaele.
PtaN DEREZERVAPENTRUupstrur DELA,coaLA
Keilh(15 ani)nu vordsa rearga tas(odlii.lnteleger,|eanre oared,i_
duseri gre5.DF aceasiadar. insii,reguritF5i.onsecinletein.JlcEriitor
au rosrcraldeirhtlet .rla'rlalui Kertha anti(,patcu nutt rirrp ihairt€
ror.e ar fi putLt €)r prosl.tataLdre.u fostptanu teei de rczervE:
C".Dacdsra doua oar; KFrthln.epe sa trdgachiulut,Terg la scodt;
drn nou, lmbr;.au inrr-unconun de (tovn{pe care_Jfnchirjez).s:o
rog 5rpe mamapraeteneilui Keithsd vinii cu mine Numarutobiec_
telor amanetatede aceadadatii va trebuis5 acoperecontravaloarea
ANTICIPAFEADIFICULTATILOR/ 67
i minimpentrunurn6ruldeorelibercpecarelrebuiesi leiau
dinplanuldereze e
:e fac daceteful meunu ni hgedue sa lipsescdela sen/Eu?
spun5ilui Keith,5icelordelatcoala(; voivenisi asistlaoreln
zi liberaDecaremi-ovoi putealua Nu va aveaacelal lmpacl,
efectulvafi tot .el dorit.
steDlanurdererervJs-audovedilfoartebineveniieKertha refu-
i.; sedu.,eb scoale,dreptcaremamaluiv_ascoslinistiiShaldtul
dindulap5ipozeleluiKeithdec5nderabebelutti ea pregatit
facapancartaCendavSaitcamamaluichiarvorbeaserrc6,s-a
$ndit tn rnateriedelipsitdela:coale.Singuraluipretenliea lost
;ama sanu scoatSdin cas;pozelelui de .3nderabebelu:De
rci.nua marhpsilnroodat5delatcoala.5€fuls-adecla.atdepar-
mamei,dareanua maifostnevoita5; faceuzdepartearespec-
Eu credcd Dlanulmameia fuflclionatdin trei motive lE
imul rAn4 mamaaveaun planpentrucazulin careKeith ar
incercatsAsabotezecontmctulinitial. De asemeDea,l-a luat
ratn;n cnmrin.l.rcneadolescent.ln aldoilearand,lui Keithrand,lui Keithprin surprinderePeadolescelt.
pdsi depropriaimigine qide felul cumsePrezentain fala
ierenilor.A5i ca.mamas-aopritlacooseclnlaperfeirh'uca-
particularalcopilului ei-ln altreileara!d, id€€aparcartei
Dozadebebeluss-adoveditplind deimagina$e$iamuzan-
Fdri sdaduchalantaj, dimpotrivi, aalut dard sacalmeze
intr-osituarie chiulituldela Ecoali carepaneatunci
dovediseo sundhepuizabili deconflict.
uRtDEREZERVAPENTRUaMENITARIsau actE DEvlolE Ja
an{14ani)lsiterorizamamaameninlandcab batetipe ea,trpe
douSsurorimaimicicontractulscrispr€"vedeaci, dac5lordaname-
cuviolenta,mama9isurorileurmaus; centemelodradinsttada
?sis5dansezein iirrulmeseiFaceaua.en lucrupentrua'linve-
Dejordansi a destindeatmorferadin cas6 Daci Jordantrcceala
de violen-16.mama:l surorileurmausEraseimediatdin cas6lerl
votb,Asi sdchemepolitiade la telefonulvecinulul
amaa puslacale5iurmStorulplanderezerva
36. 68 / ADoLESCENT|scApATtDEsuBcoNTRoL
. Cefa. daci tordan aneninp cubdtaiasi dupdcedanrtn injurut
B Dacaniciatanu seajungelavreunrezultat.veciniivin,ardmSn
Pestenoapteln cameraluiJordan.
. Cefac daci polli,tii in si se liniteazi sdconsemnezetucruritetn
A Telefonezimediatlasec,tiadepolitie5il anuntpeofiterutdeser
viciucepolilistulcareseafu in casameanuvrease-miinregistreze
plangerea.
B DacEti ofileruld€setuiciu.efuz5,ii spunc5anunlpostuldetete_
. Cefac dacdJordansundla sevkiilede Wte.tb a copituluiSjnin-
te.a eie pe6ecutatT
A lmipenrezcalmulti incercsEnumdsimttezat;deacestgestpen-
trucEinseamnicEeusuntpepunctuldea cAgiga,iarJordanfaceun
ultimeforl disp€ratdea-Sirecastigapozitiadeforta pierdote
B.Mear;tcooperantl,fiindc;,laur a urmei.lucr;toruldetaprotec_
lia copiluluinu-sifacedec6rdaroria
C la! legituracupsihor€rapedulrDstrucarcsevorbeas.eh numelemeu
D il anun-tpelordanci avemuncootractcarer5menevalabil
Cu asemeneadetalieri giplaDificiri prelimiDare, problema
Iui Jordana fost rezolvate foarte repede.Adolescentul a I€s in
hohote cand le-a vEzut pe mama $i pe surorile lui daDseDdin
jurul mesei din sufi:ageriepe melodia canteculuj dtDStrada
*Se,ran$i furia lui s-aspulbemt. Dansul a tmnsfomrat atnosfe-
m dil1cas, intr-ula veseli. Mama lut Jordaa mi-a explicat cd
a avut aceasti iniliativd nebuneascenumai pentru ci avea la
ANTICIPAFEADIFICULTATILOF/ 69
un plan de rezervi solid petrtru situalia in care con_
scrisar fi datgre$.
Jordanaalatcupumnulin percteo singurddat6.A fostadt
slaflienitcaDdauvmil vecinii$ipoli!ia.iDcalnua maico-
nici un actdeviolenle.Mai mult decatatat,nu segandise
va aveadepEtit o u$5nou-nould9i a rimas tocat vdzaDd
costa.
Strategianr. 2: Anticipeaz6
mutareaurm5toarea adolescentulul
PasulurmbtorestepleveDirea.E imPortantsdincercisAan-
iDezicumva reactionaadolescentulla planuriletaledere-
gisiJ dezarmezidelabunlnceput.La oriceactiunenoui
carcovei inili4 adolescentulva r5spuDdecuoreactieega_
ti deseDscontrar,intr-unultim efortdisperatdearecaftiga$l oe seDsconllar. lnrr-u urrrx srulr urrPsrdLuc a
'lr4ruEo
ziliadeforlapierdura.Adolesceotulesleobjlnuitsdaibeul-
cuvaDt$ nu va cedaIdrEIuPt6.
Deexemplu,inc5delavarstadeFpte ani,Maureen(acum
14)IEceacrizedenervipenhua-$iatingescopurile.Daci
-i pleceacateceva,incepeasdiDjure$i searuDcecu farfu-
ledeperegi.Pedealt[ parte,aceeaqiMauleenemfoartema-
Candpfinlii auinceputsi-i amanetezepdpuqile,fataafr-
o crizdde turie. Pirintii insi erauprcgitili sdpedseascd
ialistxSi-Siiubeacolecliadepdpuqivechi
ori deceteori eai$idbdeadmmulla gud. Lipsitdde
ic, Maurcensefezea zbieraodla pereti$ila plantelediD
v€ce,ceeacenu mai aveanici un haz-
i s6le aratealto|a,rugandu-isechemepolilia sauservlcl-
Cuajutorulmeu,pirinlii aucdutatsdaDticipezece-arfi pu_
faceMaureeDin continuarecasd-qircc4tige poziliad€for-
pierdute.Dupdces-auganditbine,auajunslaconcluziacd
p €asefurc buDuridln casd.l-am avertizatcdadolescen-
poatefoartebine si-$i provoacesingud vaDet5ipe corp9l
deprotectiea copilului. Perintilornu le-avenit secreadi
37. 70 / ADoLESCENII SCAPATIDEsUBcoNTBoI
cd e posibil a$acev4 dar au acceptataceastevarianti ca sce_
nariu de tipul <Ce fac dacd...?D.
Strategianr.3; Anticlpeaz6problemele
de famlliesubiacente
Coohactulti planurilederczervevorfutrctionaptostsau
vordagre$culotuldacanuaoricipezisiDurezolviproblemele
lamrrrateprecumdiscordiamnjugala.coDcepliilediferitede_
AMICIPAnEADIFICULTaTILOF/ 71
Dacdnumdcrezi,inchiri^zeti umdre$teatedcatevafilme:
(Cumsdfripdrinte),Anerica Beau|,AmericanX,
theBear(Ilrsut Jack'),WhenaManLovesa Wonan(CAnd
bdrbatiubesteofeneie). ln fiecare,estevorbadesprepi_
i careincearcisd-$idisciplinezecopiii, eiinqigiavdndpro-
neremlvate.CoDFactelescdse$iplanurilederczervdsunt
pehartie,darautoategaDselesi eguezeilacdproble-
tefamilialepersista.
Sdnu fiu intelesgre$it:cl€d in continuareci adolescentii
dspunzitori Sifebuie tra{i tadspudere pentrufelul in
se;omportd.Daci fugdeacasi,chiulescde1agcoaldsau
obraznic.nuproblerneledefamiliesuntcelecareii im-
ii,ingsAprocedezeastfel.Darcredci problemelefamiliale<ali-
menteazbin modoeintenlionatcomportamenteleDegativeale
lescentilorEleii impiedici peperinli sdaibi opoziliefer-
si sdimpuni weuncontract.Deexemplu,dacdcei doip5-
li seceartdpe temaeducatieicopilutui, adolescentuldece
$i-ardain petec?
, Ceestede licut de acumilrainte?DacAU separelogic
lieeacesprm,vezilistadeproblemedemaijos. DacavreuDul
,diobepuncle!i sepotrive$te.ili recomandsaapelezila spri-
jiDutunui consiliercompele0t.Cere-;coosilieruluisaciteasca
;eas6 cart€,casefili siguric[ lucmti impreunalarezol''tarca
Droblemelor- atetproblemeletale,cetti aleadolescentului'
Am impi4it lista in problemeserioase5iproblemegmve
Distinctia ditrtreproblemeleserioaseti Problemelegmve
sebaze^zipe riscul potenlial Problemeleditr categoria(se-
rioaseD cumarfi conflictelefamiliale,oseveritatepreamare
chrarmoartea.)
38. 72 / ADoLI scLNIISCAPAIIDE sUB roNTFo
USTAPNOSLEMELORFAMIUALEOBI,NUIIE
ANTICIPAFEADIFICULTAT]LOR/ 73
depart€alu ti irnpotiva<eluilaitUnfostparienerdevi.l; carei-ti
submineaaauioritateasauia apiirareaadolescentuluiili poale.rea
I Relatiile(u p5rintiivitregi.DacEunuldinirep5rinliserecesito-
reste,relatiadintreadolescent5ip;rinteLevittegestefraqil;:i greude
transformatlntr-o(olaborareefi.lent;Pdrinlelebiologlcsevedenevoit
il idapararcaunudsaua..lJilal.,oenasutace(omportd"leniuado'
lesc€ntuluio iarazna
i PSrinteleunic.Daciiti creslisinqu(:)copilul.poliaveadificuheli
numaiatuncicandadolescentulsupraliciteazl,iartunuairesurselene-
cesarepentrua o scoateIacapStDeexemplu,dac6adolescentulde-
$neviolent,nuailacineapelaUnbunconsiliertepoateajutasdcapeli
epiiinulti ajutoruldecar€ai nevoie
iAbuzuldeal@ol,drogurisaujocuridenoroc.Unulsaumaimulli
dintreadultiio tratiidincas;dausemnede abuzevidentin aceste
privrnleOasemeneaprobem5ilipoatedinrugecapacitateadeagandi
limped€5idea-!icresteefjcientcopilul,maiaescandaiunadoescent
difrcilsausc5patdesubcontrclDeexemplu,uniiadullicarebeauajung
laviol€nteverbalesaufizice.Oasemeneasitlalienufacedec5tsEaqra-
vezeproblemeleadoles.entuluit5u
. Depresia.Unulsaumaimuhidintreadul-tiisaufraliidincasSdau
semnedetrist€leprofund6sausuntincapabilis;seridicedinpatpen-
tru activiiateadezi cuzi
. violentaconiugali.Dacivreunuldintreadu-tiidincas;a lovitcu
palma,cu pumnulsaucuobiectevreoalt; pe6oan5,probl€meilre-
buiesalse g;seasc;imediatrezolvareaTotaiciintrdti distrugeread€
.Abuzulsexual.b(ist5suspi.iuneasauc-"rthudineaunoractedeatrn
geresexualiintrefrali,intredrinli :i copil,lntrecopii5iun adoles-
centmaimaresauintrccopi ti adullidinafarafamiliei
.AmeninlSrisauteniativedesinu(idere.o persoan5dincas:ame-
ni.riior irL€dc. s.-siprovoaceypu'] t;u sduchal
. Bolilemintale.unulsaumainrullidintrcadulliisal]fraliidlncasEsu
feredeo boalSminlaleserioasS,deexempluaudvocl,audiagnoni-
culdesindrombipolar,suntschizofrenici,aubulimiesauanorcxl€in
stadiigrave-
39. 74 / ADoLESCENIscApATtDEsuBCoNTRoL
Dacd!.reunadintreproblemeledemai sussepotrivestesi-
tuatieidmfamilia saudincasat4 afled nu e$tisltrgur(A):sunt
dificulti{i comunemultor familii din lumeaintreage.Impor-
tantestesenudaivinanicipetineginicipeceilalli,ci si cen
sfahrlrmuispecialist- dedragulcopilului t[u adolescmtalacb
nu dedragultdu.
Tu reprezin{iceamai sigurt gansdcaadolesceDtulsi vine
pecaleaccadreapti.Nenumirali adolescentimi-auspus:(Cu
catii vddpe ai mei cdincearcdsdseschimbesi si fle altfel.
cu atatincercqi eusi mdschimbD
PoatecXadolescenliinurecunoscdeschis,darstiucenu-ti
vineu$orseteschimbi.Ei irsa igiapreciazdeforhFile.Nim6-
nuinu-iplacesdfie considcmto problemdinsolvabile.Chiar
daci adolescentulesterispunzitorpenbug5%dinproblemi,
dachvei incercasdrezolvi restulde 5%vei vedeacumincep
si seint&npleminuni.
PASULNR. 4
Corzilesensibile:
dececooilulteuadolescent
cagtigatoatebeteliile
P6rir[ii carevin Iaminela cabiDetnuinqelegdeceni$tere-
guli foartebutreti cotrsecinfelercrespectfii lor funclioneazi
perfectiDcazulcopiilor mai mici, darnu Siin al adolescenli-
Ior scipati desubcontrol.Motivalleste$isimPlu,$icomplex
Ori decateori incercisdstabile$tiorcguldsausi impuio con-
secinle,adolescentuldificil ili ciuPe$tecozile seDsibile$i/sau
hr i le ciupestipealelui. Corzilesensibilesuntformule((Nu
pots5tesufir!));(NiciodatdDumi IaFisefacnimicl));(M-ai
dezamigitriu detotlD)saugesturi(o vocepiligiiatd,oprivi-
rescdrbiti.undiscursmomlizator),lacarefie tu,fie adolesceD-
hrlrecugeti, intentionatsau[eintenlionat,penhuavdinfuria,
frustrasauminimalizaunulpe celilalt in timPuluneidiscutii
ln contradictoriu.Uneonlu ii ciuPegticorzilesensibileadoles-
cenhrluiftceDdu-imorab saucriticandul, alteoriel 1ile ciu-
pestepealetalevorbindu-,tiulat saudendu-$iochii pestecap.
Deexemplu,Jennifer(I 5ani)zbiera<Nupotsdvesufrr!))
ori decateori pirintii incercaus6-iimpuni reguladeanu ieqi
afari in sedlein caretrebuasi sepregdteascede$coal5petrtru
adouazi.PepiriDli ii deranjauatatdemulttipetelelui Jendfer,
incatuitaudecontractulscrispecarel incheiasedcu eati ii
permiteausi plece.Cucatreactiomumaidesin acestfel,cu
atatJenniferrecurgeamaimult la tacticatipetelor(Nu pot sd
vdsufEr!>.
Acestaestemotivulpentrucaremultecontractescnsee$u-
eaze.Elearatdbinepehaftie,dar,atuncicandvrci seIeaplici,
40. / @LESCFNII SCAPAI DESlB CO|lr@
scdtul iliciuperrecozilesosjb'tcs si re.nedezisj
maisandcsrilinp€d.. La raodulrru,aiEndinl, deacon
ca, c'uphdu i adotcscentulnicozile smsibite. in sdd
!mp, disu aseilcings idr del!rc, incatrceulilei consccin_
piri dbre jucirie Tolill o E6'.i, dor terilai6hrir; snioE -
crescjoammrl'arsl uft acesrercguliti feLuttncaresedcs
scJ z'srmcadcsp'nr,consDinlecarcpi€u5i
nu I ddcn' bruc cncienre.
coRzGseNsBrLE/ 77
Sbalegl.ni l: oscoperEJl
prcprlll6cor, 3enslblle.ap,rlnte
inaiotedea ti schinba,inP6ul um oi kcticiledeod-
tuntle, rcburcsqr @orri @uil. curdeviErsensibile,pe
6re rdolescd l ti lc !d cilpi c! sl dcvijwl.cmbrl(6).FE-
@ on esreahlel Cub. vod, sause$poireiver unetecr
pDftnd isup6 uui ptrinrc,in rifp cepeceldl.ltil l6d in
Scricpco loucdchrnie|osiecorilcb lcsdsibilelacaE
l. potig6ndi.Roagili pmendl devirl{ si rlc ui6c! o lis-
L{sihilad cupopriilc cozi sensibie Dnpi ees, shimbali
Gblc inft hi. Vcdelicm sunic@rlcscNrbilcIaeE v! 6c-
E[n4i ti crc sut spdificefrsiruii dinte rci De*enplu,
l,k-or,mrlrc,m0m,edwlntrobildinlal,unDirondesnioF
cliili, in shinb llral virg sccDcdaloatu @ oruncrcgnd
ftn slei saleii spuea:,Nu eii tarrlneu- nusui d orsl
S-arpurc.sraiosurprizlvdzend,p& pchrnie,genulde
lumdcarereoflczi reiducioiituatiaderrejusiEcasau
lchcs, rcsmFvrovd, lnsrsauman'pularSapurs si zim
bqrisauchiarsi rrzicirindaccsrP6, ctcic lolrlcposibrls,
Dur. li g6ndnniciodariIaanfrunhe dinacs$t pdpecrivil.
Dei a'a6r., veiejuig. si iDlelegici adolescenbldel6ngi
tinenucsrco6tdcr{ud dc@lnaibnrcud Irsr p[Dlp6n,
'.lm
ErplicaliaesEnai sinpli. unidolescenrdificil it con-
nldaE drcpunjE p. ce] poorc.Alic, de5 dlef es, li
e (bagep€sb pielr, ciupindulioailc cuadcvldrscGibilc.
Pmbabilci nurev.i maisimtiadrdel%(i) dupicelei
vedeacttedinlre6rilo rclescnsibilc!c regrsscpelis@lc
Top10alecelormainulli pirinli.
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