Our communication with children need to be effective; but also it need to be healthy. There are some important principles of Healthy Communication. This slide show is used for educating parents with these principles.

1. “We are blessed with the tools
let us carve ourselves … …
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Healthy Communication
with Students

2. C
SC
EVENT / SITUATION
THOUGHTS
FEELINGS
BEHAVIOUR
APPRAISAL
- EXPERIENCE - INFORMATION - IMAGINATION
FRAMES OF REFERENCES /
PROGRAMMES / BELIEFS /
SANSKARA: Raga - Dwesha
- UNDERSTANDING
- RESOLUTION
BIOLOGICAL PROCESSES
THE HUMAN MIND

3. C O M M U N I C A T I O N

4. “Don’t come up-stairs because I am working with
a patient.”
“Bring your assignment tomorrow. Don’t forget.”
“Don’t think about your right ear for 20 seconds
from now.”
PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

5.  By the time the child grows to 18 years of
age, he/she receives 1,50,000 negative
instructions; as against not even 5000
instructions worded in a positive
language.
“Don’t remember monkey while
taking the dose of medicine.”
PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

6.  Let all the words and the sentences be
positive.
 Let a negative statement (if it is necessary
to make the communication specific) be
followed by a positive one.
 Only in very damaging or life threatening
situations absolute negative statement
may be used.
PRINCIPLE OF POSITIVITY

7.  Permanence ?
 Pervasiveness ?
 Personal ?
Check the validity of the following three
factors in your negative / dis-empowering
statement:
GENERALIZATION OF NEGATIVITY

8. “Always
You are forgetting
Everything
In the school.”
PERMANENCE
PERVASIVENESS
PERSONAL

9. “Your home-work
is never completed”

10. M O D E L L I N G

11. “I know, Gujarati students are very weak in their
body and mind. They are poor in studies and fall
sick during exams so as to drop-out from the
exams. They can’t progress academically.”
Palan, B.M. & Lakhani, J.D. (1991). Converting the
“Threat” into a “Challenge”: A Case of Stress-Related
Hemoptysis Managed with Hypnosis. American Journal
of Clinical Hypnosis, 33 (4), 241-247.
SUBTLE TRAUMATIC COMMUNICATION

12.  Use of “should”, “must”, or “have to” shifts
the locus of control from the individual
to the situation or to others.
 This creates distress causing failure to
follow the instruction permanently.
 Use of “You may like to / love to / want to …”
makes the instruction more acceptable,
though it may require more persuasion.
PERMISSIVE COMMUNICATION

13. I DO
I LIKE I NEED
I WANT TO
HAVE TO
CONVERT “HAVE TO” INTO “WANT TO”