1. Strategies for the Emergence, Maintenance, and Enhancement of Epigenetic Subliminal
Experience Transcending Performance in Public Speaking
By Professor Barbara Todish
btodish@kean.edu
barbara.todish@ucc.edu
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We listen to others who focus on their regrets or we distract ourselves from NOW with
regret “tapes” about our own past. We believe in myths, illusions, appearances and
PERFORMANCES instead of being confident that we HAVE a self, and
EXPERIENCES, reflections, observations TO listen to, and we listen to others who focus
on their regrets or we distract ourselves from NOW with regret “tapes” about our own
past.. This course will help speakers, writers, etc., strategize epigenetically to focus on
their innermost validity, what they KNOW they have EXPERIENCED, instead of, or in
addition to, focusing PRIMARILY on what they have PERFORMED!. This course will
help communicators,(writers, etc.,) to avoid communicating with personal evasivenss by
addressing the root causes for being emotionall defensive in the first
place.Communication strategies, writing enhancement, etc., will be accomplished by
strategies to help one reflect on the truth of what they have EXPERIENCED by
developing their skills to communicate with PATIENCE, instead of with drama and ego.
This course will help writers become emotionally unlimited in their HUMANITY. This
course will give writers and all communicators the skills to generate limitless human
identity imagination.
We too often believe in myths, illusions, appearances and PERFORMANCES instead of
being confident that we HAVE a self, and EXPERIENCES, reflections, observations TO
listen to, and we listen to others who focus on their regrets or we distract ourselves from
NOW with regret “tapes” about our own past.. We mostly all have a limited human
identity imagination today due to being fearful of the future and regretful of the past. This
limitless human identity imagination will be communicated to self and others by
practicing subliminal charisma through word skills like “Chiasmus” (surprising word
juxtapositions), satire, irony, humor that utilizes critical thinking..
In this course learners will become skilled in communicating human identity imagination
that is free from ego and drama. .This course will enable access to pure present, absolute
“flow”. This course will provide the motivation to know priorities, instead of seeking a
diluted version of others’ priorities. Unique life projects will emerge and be cherished
because it will be seen that all social roles have been unoriginal, namely derived,
imposed. This course will bring awareness of distractions, procrastination.. This course
will provide access to the keys of limitless imagination, consciousness, spirit, sense of
humor. This course will result in more energy, optimal health, inner peace, better sleep,
better digestion, reduced stress due to patience, resilience expanding exponentially. This
course will provide communication skills, through EXPERIENCING language and
humor in unique ways, so that whatever was formerly frustrating, will now be
experienced as an opportunity. This course will motivate an application of alternative

2. human imagination language to ingrained, indoctrinated habits of communicating with
negative drama (complaining) and negative ego (narcissism) This course, will provide the
skills to unlock onself from the CULTURAL PRISON OF LIMITED IDENTITY
IMAGINATION.. This course will provide the communication skills needed to dissolve
the GLUE OF JUDGEMENT so that IMAGINATION can flow free from the. myths of
social identity This course provides transformation strategies to enable one to BE their
consciousness EXPERIENCE, their imagination EXPERIENCE, their spirit
EXPERIENCE, their sense of humor EXPERIENCE, instead of, or in addition to, all
their socially derived identity PERFORMANCES. This course will also provide unique
gender comprehension and insight, so that learners will be open to limitless love
imagination. For example The "FAMILY OF MAN" is, in macro, what the family
composed of persons, i.e., usually a male and a female, with or without children, is in
micro. There is socially structured inequality (namely, identities, such as gender) that
causes inequality due to competitions, comparisons, ego, drama, etc. The contemporary
family structure is equivalent to the status quo, and/or the social contract, which are both
inherently unequal because they are both based on a male patriarchal system that
unquestioningly defends and supports the superiority of the male. There is little opening
for equality because, too often, the existence of inequality is denied in the first place.
For instance, instead of being "innately nurturing", women often accept nurturing by
default. Women are passive-aggressive, or seem to want to use negative "power" in this
way. Both the male and the female have gender identity problems with logic, reasoning
and decision making. Before we, as genders, can be equal HUMAN BEINGS we must
first know and be aware of what it means to be human, and/or what it means to have
humanness or human identity. How many people have even attempted to define what
humanity or humanness is? When people are asked what their identity is they will say
they “ARE” their name, or they will say that they “are” their socially constructed roles
that they have been given, they will say they “ARE” the roles that have been ascribed to
them externally, instead of, or in addition to identifying themselves as having choices in
defining who they are. Custom and tradition, the status quo, etc., provides socially
constructed identity
.However, there is an even MORE primary step when considering identity, because even
prior to BEING HUMAN, we all first must be aware of what it even means to BE! And
we also need to be aware of what being, vs. having an identity means. Can we BE our
identities, instead of or in addition to HAVING any identity at all? What this means is
that as Marx explained, until we can all BE our consciousness, as our identity, we are
merely settling or compromising and/or deluding ourselves that we are authentically
living. Marx could have said this in another way, namely that we are mostly unaware that
we substitute capitalism and the illusions of social identity, especially money, fame, and
power, for an authentic life of consciousness. Marx could have said that all our social
identity, and that the social contract itself, for instance, originated from the ILLUSION
of capital or property. Marx could have referred to Pierre Joseph Proudhon who
attempted to make the world aware of the illusion that property is when Proudhon wrote
“Property is Robbery!” (“What is Property: An Inquiry into the Principle of Right and of
Government).”

3. Some women (and perhaps even some men?) have begun to question the relativity of
identity by doing something extremely controversial: they have married themselves. This
is one way to resolve the problems of inequality, namely by being absolute to oneself,
instead of being relative , and relative identities in a marriage between partners. By being
absolute to oneself, one can escape from limitations of equality, because one can love
oneself absolutely. And, from this as a beginning point, one can be a family of one to
oneself. Though this may seem selfish and egotistical, it is logical that one can hardly
know what it is to love others unless and until one can love oneself. First, though, one
must have a self TO love, and again this brings us back to the difference between
HAVING a self, namely HAVING an identity, as opposed to BEING one's own chosen
self consciousness-identity. When one is absolute to oneself, one can be free from the
limitations imposed by indoctrinated social constructs, so that, as long as basic physical needs
are met, it may be possible to live emotionally unlimited, that is, as much as it is physically
possible, what with gravity, and time and space limitations that may or may not be socially
constructed. For instance, we can imagine being able to CHOOSE to drop the "L" from
LONELINESS and be ONELINESS instead. This is, paradoxically, a connected “oneliness” with
all others, through limitless consciousness imagination. In this way people can be free from the
imposed external patriarchal bullying so we can learn how to BE CONSCIOUSNESS “IDENTITY”
instead of, or in addition to being indoctrinated to HAVE Identity
http://www.bestthinking.com/articles/lifestyle/alternative_lifestyles/communal_living/strategies-for-
emergence-maintenance-and-enhancement-of-bliss
Use of the books (see below) of Barbara Todish, et al will facilitate learning in these
course proposals
A Self Validity Contract To Replace The Social Contract: A Manifesto: 1 by
Barbara Todish (10 May 2012)
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The Social Contract Is A Bully Contract: Or A Crime: 2 by Barbara Todish (24 Jun
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Drone "Identity" Is Self Validity Lite: Be Absolute To Yourself, Instead of
Relative To Others: 1 by Barbara A. Todish and Johnny T. Sollitto (4 Aug
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THE SOCIAL CONTRACT IS A BULLY CONTRACT OR A CRIME by Barbara
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CONSCIOUSNESS, HUMOR AND LOVE INSTEAD OF, OR IN ADDITION TO,
SOCIALLY CONSTRUCTED IDENTITY
Submitted for consideration to Princeton University by Barbara Todish 10/10/2014
A new social contract that would begin to alleviate poverty and replace the ILLUSION
of the NECESSITY FOR poverty, with TRANSCENDENT limitlessness: consciousness,
humor and love love. Imagine a utopia where everyone's basic needs would be met.
Imagine replacing our current dystopian addictions i.e., bullying, violence, war, etc.
This could happen IF there was certainty, or even a HOPE for transcending all
limitations. We have a world economy where there is assumed to be the necessity for the
duality of wealth to poverty, that is duplicated in emotions that span the range from love
to hate and violence to vulnerability, etc. ( Consider listening to "Imagine", John
Lennon's song, with new stanzas- for mp3, see attachment ) This syllabus proposal
provides STRATEGIES for achieving an ABSOLUTE HUMAN CONTRACT that will
replace and/or expand relative capitalistic PERFORMANCES of competiton with
absolute transcendence: love and cooperation that is INCLUSIVE, instead of exclusive.
This ABSOLUTE HUMAN CONTRACT will be the basis for what is HUMAN (with
the result of a derived HUMAN teaching pedagogy) instead of what is limited by it’s
socially and culturally constructed. nature What is HUMAN about all of us HUMAN
BEINGS and what is UNIVERSAL about our HUMAN Being-ness is/are our emotions,
our natural emotional vulnerability, AS OPPOSED TO OUR CONSTUCTED
IDENTITY EMOTIONS. Our NATURAL HUMAN EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY
is our universal emotion that IS without EGO and/or DRAMA. All emotions that have
ANY ego and or DRAMA are CONSTRUCTED instead of HUMAN emotions, with the
only exceptions being those emotions that are instinctual and/or intuitive, i.e. those
emotions that are original (emotion in itself) instead of those that are DERIVED from
social and cultural constructs.
We need to have a consciousness that allows radical perceptions of awareness.We need to
be able to at least address the POSSIBILITIES that we all bully ourselves and/ or others
in order to "fit into" society. This "fitting in may be taking a mental, physical and
spiritual toll on us. In fact, instead of fitting in and living in society at all, we all may be
only PRACTICING to live. Instead, The social contract is doing the "living" for us. Now
that might be OK if the social contract also did our DYING for us, too! However, unless

6. we gain a kind of controversial unlimited consciousness awareness, we may all be
doomed to a politically correct, emotionally sterile, PRACTICE type existence, instead of
authentically living, at all! This is because as long as there are people without their basic
needs met, we, who have our basic, and even our luxury "needs" met, will have some
measure of defensiveness to deal with, even if the defensiveness remains subconscious.
There has to be a discomfort about the unfair distribution of resources, that results in a
dicotomy from fantastic wealth to utter destitution, starvation, etc. We distract ourselves
from the reality of the contingency of others dying through a kind of defaulted
resignation and/or a communication to self and/or others of hopelessness, i.e., " It HAS to
be this way", and/or "There has always been and always will be the poor", or, "It is
impossible to be free from the dichotomy of duality", etc. There are risks and
inconveniences involved in changing the status quo, We are aware that this is similar to
what we all must deal with when new technologies emerge. Homeostasis (stagnancy?) is
disrupted, but perhaps we all need CLASSICAL technology, to affect our language.
(Perhaps the concept of “The Human Microphone” now being utilized in THE WALL
STREET OCCUPATION IS an example of the paradox of “classical technology”).
We need to become aware that we need humor and and communication innovations, like
the surprize involved in turning subject into object (chiasmus) as much, or even more
than we need computer technology. We need to know that the biggest risk of all is to go
through life as though everything is the way it is because it HAS to be that way, because
we need to realize what Henry David Thoreau did when he reflected about his dissident
experiences : "I went into the woods to front nature, to learn all that it had to teach, to live
deliberately, and not to find, when it came time to die, that I had never LIVED(emphasis
added)”. We need to be aware that we can and must replace the social contract with a
human contract that values human emotional vulnerability and substitutes emotional
vulnerability for monetary currency.
We need to re-evaluate thinking on identity constructs in order to try to achieve limitless,
i.e., universal consciousness. We Need to become aware that the possibility of freedom
from ego and drama, the possibility of being free from limiting identity, even just the
HOPE of same, is well worth any and all discipline that is required,for it is even beyond
what we all seek: namely love. This is a kind of love that is spontaneous, as opposed to
the derivative kind. This is a kind of love that is cooperation that is free from labels,
stereotypes, comparisons and competitions etc, because the love is universal and this love
and cooperation is free from labels, and/or any identity at all etc. This kind of love/
cooperation with humor, (humor/ cooperation with love) fulfills absolutely, or at least
until and unless physical, bodily necessity intervenes.
Prior to achieving and even seeking such universal emotional fulfillment, our most basic
physical or primary needs have to be met. We need to know the difference between what
is authentically basic and what is egotistically and/or dramatically desired instead of
needed. We need to know the difference between quality of life issues that are ALWAYS
contingencies and issues of life and dearth, ie real traumas that are life and death issues.
In order to know the difference we need to have a self, a personality, etc., that is

7. experientially valid INTERNALLY, so that there is an awareness of what is ego and
drama constructed and what is present reality.
One way to achieve this critical experiential validity is through awareness, similar to that
achieved through Dialectical Behavior Therapy or DBT, a kind of cognitive therapy. In
DBT unconditional, approval and/or radical self validity is mirrored and/or given.
Acceptance is unlimited, unconditional, as opposed to most other communication
practices, therapies, etc., where judgment, criticism, i.e., bullying is the practice, and
almost expected. (Tolerance may be a kind of a neutral or default type of communication,
closer to negative bullying as in "if you are avoiding being part of the solution, you are
part of the problem", because tolerance is a mere expansion of one's comfort zone. In
other words, if a communication makes a so-called tolerant person defensive, then the
persons tolerance can be seen for what it is, namely a thin veneer of civility.)
A person experienced in radical self acceptance (a skill learned from DBT) will be able to
overcome defensiveness at all costs, that is as long as the communication avoids being a
threat to ones' most basic needs. (A definition of universal communication of human
civility in a Human contract is a communication of love, graciousness, and/or emotional
vulnerability while simultaneously being free from defensiveness.)
What may need to be addressed is the before and after of communication about what
exactly constitutes ones' most basic needs, i.e., Ben Franklin had natural needs being
basic and artificial as all else. We need to pierce this veil of drama, i.e., consumerist
frenzy, etc. by awareness that such a dramatically competitive comparative life may be a
fictional (unauthentic) life of mere distraction. To do this we need to understand the
function of labels and stereotypes. For example do labels and stereotypes "emerge" as
judgments sans critically thinking about duality (i.e. the chiastic “Are you doing the
judging or is the judging doing you”?) Such order (or chaorder?)is a kind of range of
"glueyness" to "expansiveness" (i.e. conservatism to liberalism) and thus pre-empts the
flaws needed for the universal "before and after" of authentic self and other
communication.
There is a unique ambition that manifests itself in subliminal communication that is free
from all kinds of limitations, even political correctness. This is, or may be a kind of
universal ambition, a human contract that communicates in a humble, ego and drama, i.e.,
hubris-free AGENDA. This human contract would be achieved through awareness of
how stereotypes and labels too often "do" our communicating and our "living" and our
"loving" and even our “HUMOR”for us, or in place of us having HUMAN agency,
because we settle for socially correct, and/or politically correct "agency" instead of
emotionally vulnerable human agency.
If we truly want to communicate effectively, humanly, we need to take some risks
because before anyone can become the very best that they can possibly be, they must first
empower themselves to experience life's pre to post gamut. We need to emerge INTO
uniqueness by risking letting go of the habit of being distracted, on auto pilot, living as if
by remote control. This also means becoming aware of the habit of applying labels

8. because labels provide a sort of negative "fitting in" as if a square peg can be forced or
made to "fit" into a round "hole" of belonging in this world.
Labeling substitutes for the risk taking and the resultant emergence of the authentic self.
Labeling can also be perceived as a kind of "trying on" or a kind of "pre-belonging" to a
practice type of self, a kind of self-without-awareness. We often find this pre self
preferable, to (risking?) belonging intimately to our HUMAN self, and paradoxically
"losing" oneself in the organic nature of humanity. This(“losing” )is a kind of ultimate,
exquisite, individually unique vulnerability that is,(or may be?)the essence of humanity.
An example of such vulnerability is when we occasionally need to risk failing in order to
go beyond failure to the competence of failure, thus achieving self reflection, awareness
and understanding. (Failure being defined as where and when we fail without the
insurance of there being a safety net to "fail safe"). The result of such failure is,
paradoxically, the leadership of the "soul"", which leadership frees us from comparisons
and defensiveness, similarly to being in a state of "Flow". We occasionally communicate
this way, i.e. to ourselves, when we experience what is known as "flow". ("Flow" occurs
when we are "in" the present moment to an uniquely optimal degree).
Any communication, i.e. writing that constitutes reflection of the flow experience is
unique communication and it is stereotype free consequently, before and after being
subject to any limitations at all whether judgmental, political, social or even (especially?)
personal. Perhaps it is an attempt to communicate a kind of self gratitude, or a bestowal
on the self of incommunicable award or honor, undiminished by limitation of
award/reward. (Perhaps this is why among competitors, nothing is ever enough in terms
of winning, maybe we intuitively know this.)
Such a communication would lead to leadership utopia where we would practice
responsibility before any mandates come from external sources, and we would master the
choices that exist prior to that which is politically (conspicuously to subtly) correct. In
this way we would become masters at being responsible for ourselves while we would
practice choosing our freedoms. In order to emerge into such a community, i.e., where a
limitless human contract replaces the social one, we need to learn that language is only a
raw material with the potential for use as a tool. Language needs to be dug up and mined
via filter of critical thinking informed by reflection of/from the flow of experience, before
it can be fashioned into a tool.
The philosophy involved considers that all language is pre-language if there is no critical
thinking and reflection informed by flow. In terms of visualization, our raw materials, or
our language resources are submerged (due to distractions of all kinds) in a state of
shock, as it were, resulting in eventual crippling or a kind of paralysis of the language
ability (thus we have what is considered "tolerance" but is more accurately indifference).
On the other hand, post-language can become a commodity (or a sufficient contingency)
to be pursued as an end in it self.

9. We all could, for instance, go before and after the range of what is possible (i.e. fantasy)
to probable (reality)? We could all try to risk communicating from what is pre possible to
what is post possible, then we might “settle” for “JUST” the POSSIBLE! lol) For
instance we could see both covert and overt communication as a practice kind of written
or spoken communication and we could see pre-communication, post-communication as
being ego less talk or writing. In other words if someone is covertly bullying by whining
or overtly whining by being a bully, they could learn to first confront themselves by
communication that they are merely practicing being a bully to others (whiner = covert
bully, bully = overt whiner), when they are expert in being a bully-whiner/whiner-bully,
to THEMSELVES.
In any case, whining to bullying or vice versa is at best negative ambition/negative
communication, etc., and at worse it is negative “existence” whereas authentic confidence
is unique ambition and therefore free from limitations, i.e., absolute as opposed to
relative existence, etc, because authentic confident communication is also ego free!
Too often instead of living life, life lives us. Unfortunately many of us want the illusion
of a passion that is really addiction to distraction and denial. Restorative (unique)life and
the communication that proceeds from that uniqueness, involves embracing the
competence of failure as well as the awareness of the DISABLING, accoutrements of
success; i.e. extrinsic honors and awards. The covert message being "I crave appearance
over freedom" and the overt messages being:"we(society) will externally control you with
rewards".
For instance, one intrinsic reward I "give" myself is taking the appointments offered to
me to teach. I have motivated my students by communicating to them in exaggerated
ways, because so many college students are in the habit of being distracted, and unless
they are "shocked" (somewhat) by statements, (or unless you can deliver your message in
music and/or visually, etc.,) their attention may drift. I also use motivations such as
humor and props. I ask them to consider what communication might be like if we were
all exquisitely, humanly, vulnerable. For instance what might we be like if we were free
from limitations of all kinds? I suggest that in such a community the "commodity" being
"traded" is uniqueness.
Many of us are at difference stages of authenticity. Some of us have yet to emerge thus
we are pre-responsible, pre-culpable, infant-like, etc. Some of us are responsible namely
we have rights as well as duties and some of us are post responsible, (i.e., altruistic). We
may all, at different times, either regress due to stress and the resultant de-compensation
or we may progress, at times, to be Good Samaritan. But we need to be or become aware
that we need to authentically experience communication or else communication
experiences us. Too strong identification with all social and cultural constructs, gender,
race ethnicity, religion, family, career etc, is a restraint on our authentic souls and selves
and therefore restrains our communication potential.
The social contract a hardly a contract at all when there is inequality and therefore the
meeting of the minds is lacking. We are as infants and children under constraint of

10. physical inability to be on our own i.e. without a means to support ourself by a career,
etc, and we are under the emotional constraint of our blood ties. Instead of knowing the
terms in the social contract we are often bullied into conduct or bullied into being
restrained from conduct, and, as a result the conduct does us instead of us having any
agency of "performance.
Too often among poor families there are many victim of shame. To overcome this shame
we need to become a "social worker" to the self by becoming aware of the emergence,
maintenance and enhancement of our universality and humanity. Then we can understand
the enmeshment of a family and the adoption of the entire race, gender, and all social,
cultural constructs, as extensions of self. Each member of a family and each member of a
race, gender, ethnicity, etc., too often sees, by extension, a responsible, part of her self in
the family, race. gender, culture, etc., and in each others conduct as well. Thus there is
impossible effort and utilization of energy due to identification extension to provide
unconditional acceptance of their own "kind"( and on the other hand there is
dehumanization and de-identification to any and all who are other, especially those who
are judged to be have an any identity, or a “shadow” or a “dark” side to us (i.e., the
“black sheep” or poor relations, etc., in a family)I am reminded of Derrida's "Rendering
delerious that interior voice that is the voice of the other in us.")
As a result, defensive postures are taken at all costs, but the cost is to the detriment of
ones' individual energy and emotional and communication resources. Thus there must
eventually be diminution and then fatigue since the self has only acquired a PRACTICE
social, cultural construct for a "base". For authenticity to emerge, we need to focus on
risking emotional vulnerability to become strong enough to generate resiliencies, because
the social contract, and the proscription to be politically correct, takes a toll on all us.
Instead of focusing energy on defensiveness and the predicted speech ranging from the
formal( Queens English) to the informal (slang, "gangsta") rap/talk,etc.,imagined to be
required.
We need to risk communicating uniquely, perhaps with more of a sense of humor.
(Humor is limited mostly because any and all humor has to "PASS" through a Politically
Correct "filter", and we are all so "filtered" ourselves that we can hardly even get "in
touch" with our instinctual and/or intuitive sense. Political correctness, etc., in the social
contract, limits open listening and true communication and leads to symbolic violence,
(academic mobbing, etc., verbal isolation, perhaps even CHOSEN autism of a sort) on
top of race, gender, class and work isolation, etc.
Unique communication needs to be practiced and modeled by peer communicators. We
need to stress that we risk practicing to communicate with others, with all others, instead
of just those who look like us, and risk the possible rejection, etc. because there is a
larger, greater prize with the risk we take, namely that by so doing we can master
communicating with our self. In reality we only practice understanding what others
understand within themselves and we only practice understanding what others relate to
us. We can only be experts at understanding what we communicate to ourselves about
ourselves. "Family" understanding will only be practiced, at best, but if we have a kind of

11. "family" of self, giving "birth" to ourselves, by finding ourselves, being our own best
friend, loving ourselves, then instead of being victims of longed for love, we can be a
community to our self, and we can communicate expertly, with expert validity, to
ourselves.
Due to the social contract and political correctness we must isolate ourselves from
openness, or bear the tremendous costs in terms of enormous repression, de-
humanization, etc.(There are signs, though of a beginning trend in media where the dark
or shadow sides of humanity are beginning to be experimentally viewed with halting
acceptance, i.e., "Shameless" a cable TV show that is a US version of a UK Original
"Shameless" where shame is overcome.) Unless and until we risk being emotionally
vulnerable, we risk losing the opportunity to truly know ourselves. The plus side of being
open is that it acts as a kind of therapy by functioning as cathartic. It also helps others to
follow suit and gives others a model to emulate.
There are many who think that the openness only adds to the shame being revealed but if
this criticism is analyzed it can be traced to a kind of resentment of uniqueness and
separateness. For instance, revealing a less than honorable past may harm the families or
the cultural groups' reputation: telling truths about oneself thus has consequences for
others and the "moral" thing to do is to take especially other's dramas into consideration.
Well, that's exactly what has makes us a nation, and a world of and for ourselves and
others’ DRAMA. We have "considered" our authentic selves out of existence.
The poor and especially the under classes have the sheer energy of passion for survival.
The poor are the dynasty of passion, and if they are freed from the self and/or other
imposed guilt and shame by the empowerment of communication and education they can
empower the rest of us with the commodity of their energy and passion, and we can all be
re-invigorated, re-innovated re or maybe pre-created so we can refashion (or for the first
time fashion) our authentic selves out of our blaze selves. A critical assumption is that we
are able to achieve a unique life where there can be inner fulfillment, wisdom,
meaningful purpose, flow, as well as outer social fulfillment.
This might be called a paradoxical "democracy" of uniqueness or democracy where the
ultimate is intimate. We need to address the stakeholders, bureaucracies, businesses, and
communities that have what they think are "objective" social justice interests in
maintaining an arrogant certainty or habit which masquerades as a status quo. These
stakeholders choose to avoid taking risks to even ALLOW controversial communication
issues, namely the flaws in the social contract, law,etc., to emerge. The purpose of this
essay is to bring awareness and scrutiny to bear on blaze individuals, stakeholders etc, so
that those who are addicted to the illusion of "security" within the social contract can
begin to become extricated from the morass that the social contract is. Otherwise
individuals will have to settle for being inauthentic, i.e., when they enmesh with others to
form societies, businesses, institutions, multinational corporations, bureaucracies, etc. and
consequently, policies, become diluted visions of consensus that is hypocritical, because
it is "consensus" like the social contract, based on illusion, namely flaws and exclusions.

12. Phillip Howard, in his book "The Death of Common Sense, How Law is Suffocating the
US," refers to Justice Cardozo who said" (we need)...., to complete and correct the
rigidity of instruction by suppleness of instinct". We need to promote awareness of the
psychic, intrinsic rewards that reinforce the doing of activities(authentic communication
where we risk being vulnerable in an egoless way, i.e., sans drama, that are enjoyable in
themselves. This essay could be subtitled "Stakeholders Anonymous" because it attempts
to confront all stakeholders , i.e., everyone "IN" the social contract, because stakeholders
are only ritualized "versions"of or images of authenticity, because by relying on standard
communication practices they are not holding their stake in society, their stake in society
is holding them.
Too often we displace issues involving our proximate self i.e., our uniqueness issues with
externally public issues: Sept 11, immigrants, family, etc. We agitate for discipline to be
impressed upon newcomers to our groups, country, family, etc. and we inject our
poisonous pedagogy of comparative competition and hard nosed survival of the fittest on
others as a rite of immunity/passage to acceptance, with the hope for unconditional
connectedness, the American dream, etc. Vivian Gornick ("Who Says We Haven't Made
Revolution?" New York Times Magazine, 4/13/90) states "The Longing for Connection
may be strong, but even stronger is the growing perception that only people who are real
to themselves, can connect."
Of course the major way we “connect” is through communication. Issues that become
invested with "public" interest become monopolistically held and supported or railed
against. There is a kind of cartel on what is legally, morally, culturally appropriate and in
mindless reactions the two political etc extremes operate: like a sensitivity "bank"
deciding on the range of, or ratio of: excuse to accuse proportion, retribution to
proscription proportion and the privilege to the immunity proportion. Meanwhile, the
absurd distortion is itself out of all proportion.
We need authentic individuals, role models who bring us out of the mystification of
appearances and out of the justification of illusions, and into awareness of self. Edgar Z.
Friedenberg in Dignity of Youth and Other Atavisms says: "One needs to feel that
tentative solutions to the problems of a shifting universe are not only real and trustworthy
solutions, but that they are also ones unique solution." We need energized thinkers who
lift our spirits with hope, instead of "anchor" persons who stultify us. We only need
resources to provide for basic needs in order to think, and that beginning certainty, call it
a hint of intuition, makes the "pain" involved in becoming newly aware reward the risk of
thinking for ourselves in the first place, by enhancing and nurturing our "infant" certainty
that is free from defensiveness and comparisons.
True security and certainty is that conduct and/or communication that proceeds from an
authentic individual. It can be conduct, language, etc characterized by its ability to
confront and, by so doing, the conduct and/or communication results in bringing about
insight, awareness and understanding, in other words, we need conduct and /or
communication that "shakes you up," that takes risks, otherwise it is part of the problem
(anesthetization, illusion and mystification). Likewise, when safety becomes THE

13. guiding principle we live by, are we living a life of safety or is safety living us? Are we
fighting our fears or are our fears fighting us? Are we going to use our emotions or are
our emotions going to use us? We need to comprehend the mystification of appearance
and the justifications of illusions.
We all want security for our self, our family, our country, our world, but perhaps the
closest we can come to having real security is HAVING a safe and secure personality
from which and to which we communicate. Maybe the "best" way to achieve that safe
and secure personality is by achieving awareness (and/or uniqueness?) from our life
experiences (experiences being defined as a range of behavior, conduct, from practicing
to have experiences, i.e. theory,(thusly we have only drama) to actually having the
experiences, i.e. the range of having an experience, the experience having you, flow,
reflection about same, etc. In turn, then, perhaps that can be turned into label and
stereotype free universal communication. Until then we have great, although negative,
investment in our illusions (especially communication), we are mostly out of control i.e.
in the extreme it is called Alzheimer's" or too much in control i.e. withdrawal from
communication or "Autism".
This writing attempts to motivate others to risk vulnerability so we can be change agents
in our society. But do we have a society or does our society have us? Likewise with
government, law, justice etc. Some extremists in the media suggest that we are in the
third world war. Perhaps we need to get down (in order to get up?) to pre basics, namely
defining humanity, a democracy that can be free from limitations of all kinds, not just the
blue to red kind because there is a kind of dignity that comes and goes, before and after
the comparative range of what is commonly accepted as morality. It is a kind of pre to
post humanness that uniquely satisfies the soul before and after it comparatively satisfies.
THEREFORE: WE, the undersigned, choosing our new non violent revolutionary names
do agree herein (IN ANTICIPATION OF UNIVERSAL HUMANITY FEELING NOW
OR IN THE FUTURE) to identify with THE FOLLOWING AND/OR SIMILAR
HUMAN emotional vulnerabilities to be added ) THAT THE FOLLOWING human
emotional vulnerability is universally and, absolutely valid and evolutionarily strategic
towards the development of THE HUMAN CONTRACT and when at all possible we
will freely choose such HUMAN emotional vulnerabilities in exchange for our socially
and culturally constructed IDENTITIES:
In the past we experienced what it feels like to "communicate" to our soulless
constructed, identity selves. We think that others have this emptiness, too. For instance
feelings of hope dying in our souls, etc., These were unbearable feelings. We felt like we
were unable to share or communicate. In other We became autistic to our souls, etc. This
soullessness, etc., of self was worse than any punishment from outside of us. We thought
at that our pain and sorrow was due to others and due to the world being unfair and cruel
and due to the untruthfulness of persons in our lives. But now we realize we all could be
in a kind of vegetative state, disabled. We think we may have begun to take "baby steps"
toward being truly human. So we begin by trying to make whole the people we think we
must have hurt emotionally. Perhaps we want to help ourselves get restorative

14. forgiveness from those we think we have harmed, we will do whatever it is we must do,
providing there is hope to gain forgiveness. Because we are all just PRACTICING to be
human. We all agree that we have to "pay our HUMAN EMOTIONAL
VULNERABILITY dues" and until then we are all just virtual human beings who, at
best, deserve a virtual human contract. We have great desire to motivate those who
merely manage their lives and mistake management of a life for living a life. Our goal is
to motivate the emergency of truly representative leaders including those in the
underclass, instead of the "image-managers" we have now. We need to enhance the pool
of leaders with those who are knowledgeable by their past experience being in the
underclass. We have been or are able to IDENTIFY and empathize with, and
VALIDATE the HUMAN EMOTIONAL VULNERABILITY of those have been
homeless and/or alone, We identify and empathize with and validate those having zero
economic resources, those who had to dig down into themselves, their authentic HUMAN
self, their HUMAN essence self, and there they discovered their pool of human resources,
their resiliency. Without money blindfolding them with fears of losing security, they
found the freedom of risk taking that "paid" them in the commodities of vision and
certainty. We are aware of our humanity from its depths to its heights. When we take
risks based upon our humanity instead of based upon our security (i.e. economic
security)we find that energy, desire, commitment, meaning, comprehension, etc. stretch
and true relaxation results.
Using the books of Barbara Todish, et al, will facilitate learning and comprehension,
of the theories involved in this course proposal