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Joyce Mbaya's highly anticipated book also titled GIBÉBÉ is based on the three pillars for success: imaGIne your success path, BElieve in the impossible, BEcome who you're meant to be.

The book takes you on an exciting journey of self discovery. Sharing her personal experiences of success as a result of the three pillars, GIBÉBÉ is a book and message that inspires, enlightens and empowers you to ultimately realize and achieve your full potential.

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  1. 1. GIBÉBÉ™ imaGIne your success path, BElieve in the impossible,BEcome who you’re meant to be. Joyce Mbaya
  2. 2. GIBÉBÉ™ imaGIne your success path, BElieve in the impossible,BEcome who you’re meant to be. Joyce Mbaya 2
  3. 3. GIBÉBÉ™ By Joyce Mbaya Copyright © 2011 by Joyce Mbaya All rights reserved The contents, or parts thereof, may not be reproduced in anyform for any purpose or by any means without the prior written permission of Joyce Mbaya Book design copyright © 2011 by Joyce Mbaya Cover design and illustrations by Sammy Mwirigi All rights reserved eBook ISBN: 978-9966-1615-0-5 3
  4. 4. GIBÉBÉ NHIF Building, Upper Hill Nairobi, Kenya Telephone: +254 20 2728982 Mobile: (254) 713 923759 Email: Web: Join our Face book Follow @joycembaya on Twitter: 4
  5. 5. D E D I C A T I O NThis book is dedicated to my father Obadiah Mbaya, my mother Eva Mbayaand my two sisters – Valerie and Nkatha Mbaya. Thank you for your wisdom, love and support that has helped me in realizing my dreams I also dedicate this book to my late grandfather, Eustus Mutegi. Thank you for the great message of wisdom and inspiration that you left for me…a precious gift that has given me so much strength in striving towards greatness 5
  6. 6. A C K N O W L E D G E M E N T SI start by acknowledging God, my Heavenly Father-without Him I amnothing. He has gifted me and chosen me to inspire and empower peoplein realizing their greatest potential. I am truly humbled and I thank Him forrevealing my purpose to me and helping me stay true to the work He hascalled me to do.I would like to sincerely thank the team at GIBÉBÉ that has worked so hardon my projects and continues to support me. I would specifically like tothank Millicent Matingi, Valerie Mbaya, and Sammy Mwirigi. I also take thisopportunity to thank the staff and directors at Capacity Building InstituteLimited for their partnership and support.Thanks to all my friends that have also supported me through the sacrificesand struggles towards seeing my dreams come true. Specifically, I’d like tothank Ivy Mumo for all the support as I transitioned into the tough world of 6
  7. 7. business and Wairimu Kingori, who has been my spiritual sister and mastermind friend through my journey writing this book.To so many others, including my former work colleagues and mentors thathave been part of my journey, I may not have enough space toacknowledge all of you here - but know that in my heart I am truly grateful. 7
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  9. 9. C O N T E N T STHE PATH OF GIBÉBÉ 15IMAGINE A Granddaughter’s Promise 23 Who Am I? 32 What Are My Strengths? 64 What Is My Purpose? 73 What Is My Vision? 82 Imagine: Your Foundation Pillar 87BELIEVE Believing in the Impossible 91 Know Your Mind Power 98 9
  10. 10. Harness Your Mind Power 114 Believe in Others 125 Take Action 149 Believe: Your Defining Pillar 154BECOME Become who you’re meant to be 158 Become an Innovator 168 Become a Project Manager 177 Become a Brand 189 Become a Leader 201 Become: Your Breakthrough Pillar 213WALKING THE PATH 10
  11. 11. I N T R O D U C T I O NI would not trade this moment for anything. Let me paint the picture foryou. It’s about 3:00am and it’s raining very heavily outside - The kind of rainthat makes sleep sweet. Most people are curled up in their warm blankets,deeply asleep and dreaming away. Yet here I am, typing at my computer,excited about the ideas that I am about to share with you. My life purposeis being fulfilled as you sit there reading this book. I know that it will have abig impact on both our lives.This book is all about getting to know who you are and how you canchannel your greatest strengths and your potential to help you realize yourdreams. Many people come to discover their true passions and talents afterthey have already wasted many unhappy years, others, never at all. There isso much power and potential in you which may remain untapped becauseyou do not realize the importance of your purpose and the potential it hasto transform your life. For most of us, when we lose our innocence andyouth and grow up to be responsible adults, we also sadly lose our dreams. 11
  12. 12. This book means a lot to me because it is my chance to share with youknowledge that I have discovered and applied to be able to achieve somuch in my own life. I am twenty eight years old and I am the Founder andCEO of my own company. I have also had the opportunity to work with topcorporate companies in the US and in Africa. Two years ago I was selectedout of over 50,000 applicants as one of three Kenyan representatives on thecompetitive business reality show, The Apprentice Africa. I have also had theopportunity to appear in various media magazines and TV shows and sharemy message with so many people who have attended my coachingprograms either as corporates, individuals or entrepreneurs. I am truly on anexciting success journey; walking and living my purpose.One of the questions people ask me all the time is how I have managed toachieve and successfully manage all these things, more so at my age. Thisquestion as well as my vision to inspire and empower you with thisknowledge helped me realize that the secret to my success lies in anexciting path called GIBÉBÉ. 12
  13. 13. I invite you to walk with me down that path and also discover how GIBÉBÉcan change your life. I do not claim to have all the answers, but I do feelthat my entire existence and ongoing success is based on certain choicesand decisions. I hope that sharing my experiences can help you walk thesame successful path. I also hope that by sharing my story you can alsosearch within you and realize that you also have a story to tell. One that youcan start to build on right now if you join me in unveiling power that youmay not have realized is within you, yet is the key to unlocking yourpotential. 13
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  15. 15. T H E P A T H O F G I B É B É : I M A G I N E , B E L I E V E , B E C O M EWelcome to the beginning of an exciting road. First of all, I will commendyou for your courage in walking this path for the very idea of personalgrowth and discovery is scary to many people and we go through our entirelives avoiding situations that would expose us to ourselves. Yet the rewardsfor those who are willing to walk this path are greater than any of us realize.This is your personal quest towards discovering how to transform youraspirations into achievements. Think of it as though you have travelled to aremote land in search of this path known as GIBÉBÉ.After many months of searching and seeking, you have finally met someonewho knows and understands the path that you seek. You have searched formany years for this knowledge and you are now ready to complete yourjourney and reap the rewards. I will share with you this knowledge and thispath and walk with you as your guide. 15
  16. 16. The Path of GIBÉBÉ is made up of three pillars that ultimately lead you toSuccess. These pillars are major stepping stones and create a process thatcan lead you to transform your dreams into successful achievements. Whencombined, their names also build upon each other to form the actual word:GIBÉBÉ THE PILLAR OF THE SUN: imaGIne… your success path THE PILLAR OF THE STARS: BElieve… in the impossible THE PILLAR OF FIRE: BEcome… who you’re meant to beYou can now see that the path of GIBÉBÉ has been derived from the threepillars that it symbolizes; imaGine, BElieve, BEcome. In Swahili, we have aword that maps the true meaning of this path… the word “ JIBÉBÉ ”, whichliterally means, “to uplift yourself”… or in this case we can think of it as “toimprove or transform yourself”. 16
  17. 17. Your journey to success using the path of GIBÉBÉ will be unveiled byexploring these three pillars and the knowledge within them. As youcomplete each pillar, you will realize how it becomes a key stepping stoneon your journey and you will be shown how to apply the knowledge withineach to realize your breakthrough.The path of GIBÉBÉ is a challenging one and you must prepare yourselfaccordingly for there will be many insights and mysteries that will berevealed – some of which may be difficult to fathom.In order to begin the journey you must start by opening up your mind. Ifyou succeed in this, then the path will be illuminated and will become clear.During the quest, you will discover important steps to your success. Youmust unveil these steps and successfully navigate the lessons that shall berevealed to you. As your guide, I will reveal my own experiences that helpedme complete the journey and in turn this will help you unlock your ownpath. 17
  18. 18. As you discover the knowledge, also know that purpose and success canonly be perfected through practice. As you learn the path of GIBÉBÉ, youalso must place yourself in situations that will reveal to you more deeplyhow this knowledge can shape your future. There is a reason why childrenare more likely to achieve self discovery than adults. It is because they areopen-minded and have not formed opinions and beliefs that would form abarrier to change and transformation.Scientific Research has now proven that when we are conceived, we havethe same potential in each and every one of us. You know deep down thatyou have the potential to be as great as the most important and wealthyachievers of our time. So why then are we not all successful? The answersare right there in front of you! From the moment we are born, we start to beimpacted by different messages around us and by the environment we areexposed to. We go through different experiences and teachings and wequickly begin to form opinions and thoughts that start to influence who weeventually become. This is why it’s so important that you open up yourimagination and your mind so that reading this book is not just an action 18
  19. 19. but becomes an experience that will truly start to show you how you canreveal your greatest potential.I cannot do this without you. I could be telling you about the guaranteedformula for winning the lottery or an expert system that would immediatelymake you millions in your business but none of these things would work ifyour mind garden is not watered and ready for the seed to grow. Thinkabout what I will be sharing and how you can make it practical in your dailylife.And this is the goldmine of it all: the ability not only to listen, but moreimportantly, to apply as much of the knowledge we gain as we possibly can.Realize that there is a reason why this knowledge is now being presented toyou. In the great journey of life, we are often given opportunities to thinkabout our purpose and our success as well as how to grow and developfaster and this is another one of those opportunities, knocking on yourdoor. 19
  20. 20. In the past few years, I have seen myself move faster on my own successjourney and I have seen my aspirations becoming one achievement afteranother. These accomplishments and many others are what have led me tobelieve that anything is possible and also to see that the strategies I amabout to share with you can really work in helping you achieve your dreams.By applying these ideas in your own life, you can begin to set yourself apartand see yourself going from ordinary to extraordinary.Your success journey begins now… 20
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  22. 22. A G R A N D D A U G H T E R ’ S P R O M I S E “To imagine is everything, to know is nothing at all” Anatole FranceIt all began when I was seventeen years old - my life changing moment. Theexperience that forever shaped who I am, and that I hold responsible for somany inspired and good choices that I’ve been blessed to make in my life.Looking back, sometimes, I wonder what I would have done differently if Ihad known what that moment would mean to my life. I did not recognize itfor what it was at the time but it was the beginning of my journey on thepath of GIBÉBÉ.The life changing moment is different for each person. It may be a memoryof something that has already happened; it may be a loved one’s belief inus and our abilities to succeed. It could also be a difficult situation that youhave been through that forced you to stop and evaluate your life and yourdecisions. The way to recognize this moment is that it makes you restless. 22
  23. 23. By this I mean that you are no longer satisfied with settling for the norm,you want more. And not only do you want more you start to see that youcan have more and you truly start to reach into your innermost child andbelieve that whatever your mind conceives it can achieve-that your destinyis within your reach.My grandfather had always been a monumental figure in my life. As a child,his booming laughter and voice, his toothy grin and the twinkle in his eyewhen he greeted me, calling me, “His little darling” was a warm part of mylife. Based on our African tradition, I had been “named after” his wife –Kathomi – which means “the one who reads”. This was the reason why hecalled me, “His little darling”. It still amazes my parents and my family howmuch I have lived up to the legacy of that name.My grandfather was a well read man for his generation, educated, able tospeak fluent English. My mother’s stories on her upbringing (as hisdaughter) clearly tell of an intelligent man who had a profound legacy andimpact in his time. 23
  24. 24. My love affair with mathematics (and the sciences in general) also had a lotto do with the fact that my grandfather taught me my first multiplicationtables. I was nine years old and had been struggling to make sense of thisevil thing called math and when I went to spend the holidays with mygrandparents, he somehow turned something that had seemed soimpossible into something fun and interesting. My teachers were perplexedwhen I went back to school after and had been transformed into a straightA Math student – a reputation I maintained all through my school years.When I was seventeen, we made our annual trip to visit my grandparents, aswe had many times before. This is a common tradition in my African culture,where families that live in the cities and towns travel and spend the holidaysin the traditional homestead or the village. We had made the trip manytimes before and that time it was no different.I remember being grouchy and sulking at my parents for making us spendthe holiday in the village instead of being in the city. I had thought about all 24
  25. 25. the excitement I was going to miss out on and how my friends would haveinteresting stories to tell about their holidays once we got back to school.Later though, my adolescent misgivings seemed so childish when I thoughtof all the things I could have given to go back and have the chance to makethat journey again, make that journey with the awareness of what I wasabout to learn and how those moments were going to change my life.The light at the end of the tunnel had been the fact that I would get tospend time with my grandfather. He still had a way of making me feel like aprincess even as a teenager. I could barely wait for my dad to park the car…As he had done all my life since I was a little girl, my grandfather hadstretched his arms smiling and called out, “My Little darling, come sayhello….” And I had said hello, as I looked up at him, feeling like a small girlas I always had around him and glowing with the pride I saw reflected in hiseyes. 25
  26. 26. That day passed like many other days I had spent at my grandparents’home in the village, my mum was hustling and bustling and catching upwith her family, my dad was sitting on the front porch enjoying the viewand sharing the latest political intrigues with my uncles. My sisters, mycousins and I walked up and down the tea plantations awed by the serenityand beauty of nature.I did not think much of it when my grandfather asked to speak to me as thiswas also the norm when we visited. He would always take time to find outhow I was doing and offer words of wisdom to me - his darling.As we spoke that day, I could tell there was something very important heneeded to tell me and of course my mind wandered, like any teenage mindwould in the face of such serious discussions. But there was an unusual noteof urgency and persistence in his tone that had made me pay attention.One aspect of our conversation stood out in particular and has stayed withme since… 26
  27. 27. “If you remember nothing else about what we’ve spoken about today, you must never forget that you have a crown on your head. Since you were achild, I have seen great potential in you and your purpose in this world is of grave importance. Your crown makes you special, it’s made up of all your talents and gifts, the things you have been given to enable you to achieve your purpose…. …Wearing this crown is a great responsibility and you will encounter situations that may try to take this crown away from you. You must be careful whom you share your crown with and you must treasure it and besure to see your responsibility come true. Never forget, Kathomi, about thecrown you have on your head and promise me you will remember my words and heed them”I made my promise to him and when we left his words had remained withme as I tried to make sense of what he had told me. 27
  28. 28. I did not think much of that conversation until a few months later when mygrandfather passed away. It had all seemed so surreal when we received thenews that he was gone, almost like a bad dream, and for me everything elseafter that happened in a blur. It was a painful experience to lose him in mylife and our conversation that day translated into my life changing moment.The last conversation I had with my grandfather left me with a great legacyand I felt I owed it to his memory to see it through.I started to read leadership and motivational books and to search for thisgreatness, this crown that my grandfather had spoken to me about. Selfawareness became the tool and the comfort that would help me makesense of my crown and what I learnt in the process completely transformedmy life. I took an active interest in my success and in my life – my firstleadership role in high school was as a result of this life changing moment. Ibecame the chairlady of my “house committee” and also became a “seniorstudent prefect” in my last year of high school. 28
  29. 29. This is how I began my journey with the first pillar of GIBÉBÉ – imaGIne – asI tried to understand what it meant to have a crown and how I could fasttrack my journey of success and greatness.I believe you also have a crown, whether you recognize it or not, and thegoal of this first pillar of GIBÉBÉ is to become self aware and help yourealize who you are, your strengths, your purpose and your vision as thefoundation of your success. 29
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  31. 31. Who Am I?The simplest strategies are often times the toughest ones to implement.The idea that you need to know who you are in order to achieve your goalsand aspirations may not seem very inspiring but all you need to do torealize just how many people have missed it, is to think about all themeetings and places you have gone where people are asked to introducethemselves.First there is a subtle shift, a wave of discomfort, as people start to glancethis and that way… paying closer attention to who is in the room as theywonder what to say. You can almost sense that most of them wish that theydidn’t have to go through this moment and a few have already marked outthe exit and are rapidly calculating how to use it without making it obviousthat they have chosen to escape. 31
  32. 32. More importantly, this experience doesn’t occur once or twice in our lives –there are countless instances where we’re asked to brave it out in front of agroup people as we introduce ourselves.And yet many people are no closer now to making this moment work thanwhen they first had to do so, as a child in school or in front of family at ayoung age. The reason is that it’s not easy to introduce yourself whenyou’re not sure who you are. By who you are, I am not talking about yourname and job title. Let me show you what I mean: Imagine that you have been given the honor of introducing your favorite sports team in one of the greatest matches that they are going to play. If you’re not a sports fan, you can imagine that it’s your favorite celebrity, getting ready for the greatest performance of their lives.This is indeed a special moment and you want to get it right – so much so, that you may even do some research on their accomplishments to be sure that you have made it an introduction to remember. Because you’re their 32
  33. 33. greatest fan, you’re not lacking in lavish praises and words to describe just how great this team or celebrity is.You stand up armed with your facts and praises and you are so excited and have so much to say that you’re even worried that you don’t have enough time.Now imagine that you have been randomly called upon at a major business conference or in a class to introduce to everyone what a molecular de compressor is. I can see you standing there, looking around nervously andwondering what in the world it is and why you had to be the one chosen to look like a fool in front of the others. You lack the words to say anythingbecause you have no clue and you’re worried about looking foolish before your classmates or colleagues.Do you see my point? For most people the reactions in the second scenarioare closer to how they feel when asked to introduce themselves. They don’t 33
  34. 34. know what to say and are nervous and scared about what everyone isthinking!My point is: many of us assume that we understand who we are yet thetruth is we do not. And because we don’t understand ourselves, we try towalk the success journey thinking we know where we’re going when allwe’re doing is guessing which way we should go and assuming this willsomehow lead us to great achievements.One of the traits of successful people is that they are confident – and thisconfidence stems from their knowledge of themselves and their purpose.This is what makes it possible for them to stand in front of ten people or tenthousand people and talk about themselves with firm resolve. It’s also oneof the great weapons that will help you fight your fears and doubts andenable you to make important and necessary decisions towards yoursuccess. 34
  35. 35. No One Gets That JobThe very first time I had to ‘audition’ for a role against many otherapplicants, was in my second year of College. I was applying for the positionof Community Advisor, more commonly known as an RA (ResidentAssistant). In the American College System, an RA is a student employed byUniversity Housing to supervise other students in the halls; similar to beinga student prefect in the African high school system.This may not sound too exciting but let me explain to you why this was thejob of all jobs to have on campus… It meant that the University paid foryour housing expenses, including food. For an International Student like me,you can imagine how much money this would save my parents who weresacrificing so much financially to pay for my education abroad. Getting thiscampus job also meant that one got his or her own private room which istypically more expensive to pay for and to top it all, students also got paidquite fairly for the job which means you also get money for your dailyupkeep. This opportunity also gave a significant boost to a student’s CV 35
  36. 36. considering that this is a recognized and important student leadership rolein the US campus education system.The application process in itself was quite competitive and intense. First ofall one had to submit a written application and then go through variousinterview stages and exercises. At each stage, there were eliminations untilfinally the applicants had been narrowed down to a final small group fromwhom the list of Resident Assistants would be chosen. I remember seeingthe posters advertising that the recruitment process was about to begin andinviting students to apply and getting so excited at the benefits of the joband what it would mean for me. I also remember my friends and otherInternational Students telling me not to bother.“No one gets that job.” They said. “What do you mean no one gets that job?” I wondered. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * En d of Sam p l e * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * 36
  37. 37. GIBÉBÉ™ By Joyce Mbaya Thank you for reviewing a sample of this bookThe exclusive digital edition is available on CD as well as online for download. Get your copy today, for only KSHS 500 ($6.25 at a rate USD 1 to KSHS 80) For more info, kindly visit: Email: Web: Join our Face book Page: Follow @joycembaya on Twitter: 37
  38. 38. F R E E R E S O U R C E STo help you continue to understand and discover strategies for success,sign up for our FREE Online Newsletter delivered via email, which alsoshares the latest updates and workshops on GIBÉBÉ. You can sign up byvisiting or via our face book page, T R A N S F O R M Y O U R O R G A N I Z A T I O N W I T H G I B É B ÉPowerful transformation, high impact, positive change, growth…these arethe results when your employees / staff, managers and members experiencethe GIBÉBÉ Coaching Program. The program offers informative, thought-provoking and inspirational lessons through a well planned, premiumcourse carefully packaged and organized for maximum value. 38
  39. 39. Our workshops delivere high impact training in an intensive and diverseprogram that is unparalleled. By combining a variety of success coachingmodules and topics, we provide an effective way for you to address yourtraining and coaching needs. S U C C E S S C O A C H I N G C L A S S E SJoin our success coaching classes where you have an opportunity toexperience some of the tools mentioned in this book and also master thepillars of GIBÉBÉ. The classes make the lessons more clear and practical intransforming your life. G I B É B É C A R E E R C O A C HCareer Coach is a series of programs that offer strategic careerimprovement and career planning for professionals. The programs rangefrom basics on developing award winning CVs, job searching, interviewskills, personal branding to more in depth workshops that teach how tonavigate corporate culture and fast track career growth. 39
  40. 40. M O T I V A T I O N A N D S P E A K I N GJoyce is available as an Expert Speaker (Motivational Speaker) for groups,seminars, events etc. Based on her dynamic experiences, she can addressvarious topics and issues to inspire greatness. She has opened forinternational speakers that have hosted seminars locally, such as RobinSharma CONTACT US Email: Web: Join our Face book Page: Follow @joycembaya on Twitter: 40
  41. 41. A B O U T T H E A U T H O RJoyce Mbaya is the Founder and Author of GIBÉBÉ. She is a CharismaticAuthor, Passionate Visionary & Innovator, Expert Speaker and Coach.Joyce’s expertise is focused on Success Coaching, Career Coaching,Leadership Skills, Project Management, Product Development, InformationTechnology, Self Awareness, Communication, Motivation and People Skills.She holds a Bachelor of Science Degree in Computer Science andMathematics from the University of Central Missouri in the United Statesand has an excellent CV showcasing extensive experience and growth withinher various responsibilities and within the corporate arena.She began working when she joined Barclays Bank of Kenya in 2001 and hashad remarkable growth working her way up to her most recent corporatejob as a VAS Project Manager at Safaricom Limited. She held this role untilDecember 2009 when she left to become an entrepreneur and have more 41
  42. 42. time to pursue dynamic projects and follow her passion to inspire andempower others.Joyce is a well known brand not only in Kenya but in the global markets,having been selected out of over 50,000 applicants as one of three Kenyanrepresentatives on the competitive business reality show, The ApprenticeAfrica, in 2008. As a contestant, she demonstrated superb Leadership andProject Management Skills and her diverse talents, creativity and energymade her popular. She still has a strong following with professionals acrossthe continent and leads as a visionary and innovator in various facets ofbusiness.Joyce has appeared in various media magazines and TV shows and hermessage has been heard by many who have attended her coachingprograms either as corporates, individuals or entrepreneurs. She hascontinued to inspire and mentor all walks of life through her blogs,newsletters and talks. More info: 42
  43. 43. I am only one,But still I am one.I cannot do everything,But still I can do something;And because I cannot do everythingI will not refuse to do the something that I can do.Edward Everett Hale 43
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