Get the LEAD out… Be a leader not a deadweight! Motivating Yourself & Others by Dr. Michael W. Posey
Your status… 1 – How’s our Professional Life? 2 – How’s your personal life? 3 – What makes you happy? 4 – What don’t you know that you’d like to? 5 – One thing you want to do professionally before you die? 6 – One thing you want to do personally before you die?
Are you admired? Admired -vs- Deadweight – Name 3 people you admire? ____________________ ____________________ ____________________ Why do you admire them?
Or are you a deadweight? Admired -vs- Deadweight – Name 3 deadweights you’ve encountered in life? ____________________ ____________________ ____________________ What makes them a deadweight?
Admire -vs- Deadweight Admired People Deadweights – Motivator – Uninspiring – Colleague – Cling-on – Passionate – Care Less attitude – Listener – Talker – Authority – No Authority – Controlled – Uncontrolled – Teacher – Wanderer
The Life Puzzle Your life is influenced by those whom you admire and the deadweights whom you encounter throughout your life... …they help to influence the pieces of the your puzzle
The Life Puzzle Remember that YOU have the ultimate control over how YOU shape YOUR style and how you build YOUR puzzle!
One cannot notMotivate! Everything we do is because of motivation – Humans do not do anything unless they are motivated to do it.
DWI Dealing with it means recognition of your preferences – Recognize that you like certain things better than others! – Know that it is OK to do so! Accept this to be the case and strive to operate within your comfort zone.
DWI Dealing with it sometimes means doing things that you don’t like to do. – Understand that it is only temporary – Look forward to doing the things you DO like
Relationships Everything that we do stems from a relationship with someone/thing – Managing relationships is Key
Relationships Knowing yourself helps to balance your life which helps to balance relationships which helps to balance your work which. . .
Relationships The key is to find out what makes people tick! – How do they fit? – What gets their juices flowing? – Why do/don’t they do what they do?
Relationship Another key to good working relationships people is effective communication
Communication Effective communication does not mean having a Monologue – You disconfirm someone when you don’t listen and have a one sided conversation This makes others lose face and feel unimportant and less willing to go that extra mile
Communication Effective communication means having a dialogue – You can confirm someone when you talk with them This will help to validate them and will make them more willing to go that extra mile
You Create it! The communication we have with others creates our environment. We choose our communication with others. We ultimately control how communication affects us.
Inspiring Others takes work!The hard stuff is easy – the softstuff is hard. The soft stuff makes all the difference!
Inspire What do you want to inspire within others? – A good feeling! – A sense that they can contributed to the betterment of others! – A feeling that they can make a difference!
Quick Tips Be assertive NOT aggressive Know when NOT to be assertive Scope it out and look before crossing Remember P.A.C.E.
Quick Tips Lay your cards down Don’t be a rug – Don’t make rugs Buy into to being uncomfortable
Quick Tips Avoid Crap – When someone throws a bucket of crap at you, step aside and let the crap hit the wall…if you don’t then the crap will hit you and you’ll feel crappy.
Three Choices You can Vegetate You can Imitate You can InnovateIt is YOUR choice!
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