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Help me a practical guide to faith - issachar 2012
- 1. Help Me! A Practical Guide to Faith copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 2. Who am I? Child of God WIFE Mom of 3 Clinical Psychologist copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 3. Dr. S.O.S. says... “You may feel ill prepared, “ but you are well equipped. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 4. Have a plate of F.A.I.T.H. F ood that A dvances your I nner-connectedness To H im copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 5. Dr. S.O.S. says... copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 6. Dr. S.O.S. says... “Life is about relationships; “ our relationships with God, ourselves, and others. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 7. How should our relationships look? God: Ephesians 3:20 Self: Leviticus 19:18 (O.T.) Matthew 19:19 Romans 13:9 Others: Ephesians 4:32 copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 8. The reason for relationships Support Toxic copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 9. The reason for relationships Support Toxic “He’s not doing something to you. “ He’s doing something FOR you. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 10. Purpose in Pain copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 11. Purpose in Pain 1. Alert or Alarm copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 12. Purpose in Pain 1. Alert or Alarm 2. Cue to relieve the pain copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 13. Purpose in Pain 1. Alert or Alarm 2. Cue to relieve the pain 3. Learning Opportunity copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 14. Purpose in Pain 1. Alert or Alarm 2. Cue to relieve the pain 3. Learning Opportunity “God only allows us to experience the minimum amount of pain we require to “ become the person He’s called us to be. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 15. Dr. S.O.S. says... “GROW through your pain. “ Don’t just go through your pain, copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 16. Dr. S.O.S. says... “GROW through your pain. “ Don’t just go through your pain, “ Instead of bracing against “ pain, choose to embrace it and feed your soul. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 17. The Betrayal in your Behaviors “Your behaviors betray the truth of “ what you believe. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 18. The Betrayal in your Behaviors “Your behaviors betray the truth of “ what you believe. “ “Behave your way into believing. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 19. The Favor in Forgiveness “Don’t let someone else’s behavior “ determine “your” behavior. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 20. The Favor in Forgiveness “Don’t let someone else’s behavior “ determine “your” behavior. “Forgiveness is the gift you give to “ yourself, so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 21. The Refuge in Rest “ “Recognize the benefit of being. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 22. The Refuge in Rest “ “Recognize the benefit of being. “Don’t let “doing” distract you from “ your destiny. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 23. Practical Guide to Faith Step 1 Attend to your relationships & honor Kingdom order copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 24. Practical Guide to Faith Step 1 Attend to your relationships & honor Kingdom order Step 2 Recognize the purpose in your pain & choose to “grow” through it copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 25. Practical Guide to Faith Step 1 Attend to your relationships & honor Kingdom order Step 2 Recognize the purpose in your pain & choose to “grow” through it Step 3 “Behave” your way into “believing” copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 26. Practical Guide to Faith Step 1 Attend to your relationships & honor Kingdom order Step 2 Recognize the purpose in your pain & choose to “grow” through it Step 3 “Behave” your way into “believing” Step 4 Counter all offenses with forgiveness copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 27. Practical Guide to Faith Step 1 Attend to your relationships & honor Kingdom order Step 2 Recognize the purpose in your pain & choose to “grow” through it Step 3 “Behave” your way into “believing” Step 4 Counter all offenses with forgiveness Step 5 Appreciate the “benefits of being” copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 28. Dr. S.O.S. says... “The fare for faith is the loss “ of logic, but the gifts you gain are priceless. copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 29. Thank you. Any Questions? For more articles and audio on these topics, please visit calldoctorsos.com & follow on Twitter @doctorsos copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
- 30. Help Me! A Practical Guide to Faith copyright 2012, Dr. SOS, LLC http://calldoctorsos.com
Editor's Notes
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- - Introduce self (might be nice to have pic of the family here or just the kids)\n\n- Discuss qualifications: spiritual, academic, life experiences\n\n- WHO ARE YOU? Get a sense for who is in the room - church leaders, educators, business owners, health care providers, caregivers, stay at home moms or dads, folks looking to develop a more intimate relationship with God and grow in their faith.\n\n- Explain the goal of the workshop - I was given this topic...God has a funny sense of humor (share some of the story of how I came to accept this topic and how God revealed I already had everything I needed to do what He’s called me to do today).\n\n- He said...You already have everything you need...I have given it to you and it resides within in you because you have not only studied this, but have lived and are living it. NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- - We may feel ill prepared, but when we are obedient to God’s calling on our lives He allows us to be well equipped. \n- What you will learn today are some practical steps to developing a faith that allows you to go through the process of preparation so that your level of preparedness can match what He has equipped you with - so that you can do the work He has called you to with a spirit of excellence! \n\n- Additional instructions - You will find “Dr. SOS says” quotes throughout this presentation that will be highlighted for you- I want you to make note of these specific statements - they will serve as a form of faith food for you that you can snack on when you run up on those difficult or challenging moments in life where your faith is being tested. \n\n- But let’s talk about how we think about faith and let me provide you with my framework for how I think about faith. NEXT SLIDE\n
- - How God has conceptualized FAITH to me...I like to eat...I’m a health psychologist and work with patients in medical practices throughout HR so I know I’m not alone in liking to eat...I’m also in the South so I know what kinds of things we tend to like to eat...not necessarily the healthiest.\n\n- Discuss some of the things we like on our plates (chicken, ham, potato salad or mashed potatoes with gravy, yams, greens, soft roll and a glass of sweet tea, we might throw in a little toss salad on the side...then drown it with some ranch dressing) - Soul Food\n \n- God shared that when He’s revealing things to me or allowing me to experience certain things in my life be them good or bad...it is all in an effort to grow my faith...He was nourishing me...feeding me...so the concept of developing Faith began to represent: Food that Advances your Inner-connectedness To HIM - this too is a form of SOUL food.\n\n- When I think about where I generally load up on my plate (meat)...I wanted God to show me what is the meat of my FAITH...we get many of our nutrients from meat - iron, protein, the building blocks of our physical development...when we think about cooking dinner we usually start with our meats and build the rest of the meal around it...so it made sense that meat would be foundational place to start...so I asked God - where do I get the greatest source of nutrients from in developing, building and strengthening my faith.\n\n- He pointed me in the direction of relationships. NEXT SLIDE\n
- - I am an interactive presenter who needs audience support and participation so I have to let you know I will be asking you to participate It doesn’t wait for me to click - I want to save the quote for after all of my commentary - CLICK NEXT FOR QUOTE\n\n- Discuss - Life is about relationships - a premise given to me by God based on my own life experiences, but also looking at it from a psychological perspective in terms of human development - what happens to us when we don’t have access to human interactions and relationships - some research supports that if this occurs during infancy we experience a failure to develop and mature as healthy persons - some infants start to regress in their development - we were created to be in relationships\n\n- Most of us know that we were created to be in relationships, but we tend to leave out some important details regarding who we are supposed to be in relationship with and the order of these relationships\n\n- Who should we be in relationships with? NEXT SLIDE\n
- - I am an interactive presenter who needs audience support and participation so I have to let you know I will be asking you to participate It doesn’t wait for me to click - I want to save the quote for after all of my commentary - CLICK NEXT FOR QUOTE\n\n- Discuss - Life is about relationships - a premise given to me by God based on my own life experiences, but also looking at it from a psychological perspective in terms of human development - what happens to us when we don’t have access to human interactions and relationships - some research supports that if this occurs during infancy we experience a failure to develop and mature as healthy persons - some infants start to regress in their development - we were created to be in relationships\n\n- Most of us know that we were created to be in relationships, but we tend to leave out some important details regarding who we are supposed to be in relationship with and the order of these relationships\n\n- Who should we be in relationships with? NEXT SLIDE\n
- - I am an interactive presenter who needs audience support and participation so I have to let you know I will be asking you to participate It doesn’t wait for me to click - I want to save the quote for after all of my commentary - CLICK NEXT FOR QUOTE\n\n- Discuss - Life is about relationships - a premise given to me by God based on my own life experiences, but also looking at it from a psychological perspective in terms of human development - what happens to us when we don’t have access to human interactions and relationships - some research supports that if this occurs during infancy we experience a failure to develop and mature as healthy persons - some infants start to regress in their development - we were created to be in relationships\n\n- Most of us know that we were created to be in relationships, but we tend to leave out some important details regarding who we are supposed to be in relationship with and the order of these relationships\n\n- Who should we be in relationships with? NEXT SLIDE\n
- - I am an interactive presenter who needs audience support and participation so I have to let you know I will be asking you to participate It doesn’t wait for me to click - I want to save the quote for after all of my commentary - CLICK NEXT FOR QUOTE\n\n- Discuss - Life is about relationships - a premise given to me by God based on my own life experiences, but also looking at it from a psychological perspective in terms of human development - what happens to us when we don’t have access to human interactions and relationships - some research supports that if this occurs during infancy we experience a failure to develop and mature as healthy persons - some infants start to regress in their development - we were created to be in relationships\n\n- Most of us know that we were created to be in relationships, but we tend to leave out some important details regarding who we are supposed to be in relationship with and the order of these relationships\n\n- Who should we be in relationships with? NEXT SLIDE\n
- - I am an interactive presenter who needs audience support and participation so I have to let you know I will be asking you to participate It doesn’t wait for me to click - I want to save the quote for after all of my commentary - CLICK NEXT FOR QUOTE\n\n- Discuss - Life is about relationships - a premise given to me by God based on my own life experiences, but also looking at it from a psychological perspective in terms of human development - what happens to us when we don’t have access to human interactions and relationships - some research supports that if this occurs during infancy we experience a failure to develop and mature as healthy persons - some infants start to regress in their development - we were created to be in relationships\n\n- Most of us know that we were created to be in relationships, but we tend to leave out some important details regarding who we are supposed to be in relationship with and the order of these relationships\n\n- Who should we be in relationships with? NEXT SLIDE\n
- - But there’s more to it than just who we should be in relationship with...we also need to consider “how” we should be in relationship with them:\n\n- God has called us to be in relationship with Him from the very beginning; He wants us to know and trust Him as our loving father who provides and cares for us - who is able to do exceedingly abundantly more than we ask or think\n\n- God wants us to, actually expects us to “love” ourselves - there are several scriptures in the bible that encourage us to love our neighbors as ourselves, to avoid harboring hate or unforgiveness and seeking revenge toward others just as we would not do these things to ourselves.\n\n- God also wants us to love one another and take care of one another - He wants us to be kind, tenderhearted and forgiving of one another just as He has been to us through Christ.\n\n- He gives us instructions on how to interact in relationships...we don’t always follow them, but it’s not because we don’t have directions.\n\n- And...not but...and there are important relationships issues we have to consider when we are in relationships, because not all relationships are created equal...some relationships are unhealthy or downright toxic...they bring excessive amounts of pain, drama and sometimes trauma...did God intend for us to experience these relationships too? Yes. NEXT SLIDE\n
- \nAll relationships serve an important purpose in your faith walk\n\nIf you truly believe that ”In all things God works for the good of those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28 KJ Cambridge Ed.) then all of your relationships serve a purpose in your faith walk even...especially those which create a lot of emotionality for you.\n\nFrom a faith food perspective your supportive relationships are like a good piece of southern fried chicken - cooked to perfection, crispy on the outside, tender and juicy on the insider - that supportive relationship is a your faith comfort food - it feeds your soul by inspiring you, encouraging you, motivating you, rooting for you and cheering you on to the finish line - we love those relationships, just like we love our fried chicken\n\nIt’s those other relationships that we think we could do without - this may not apply to most folks, but I know for many folks we had to develop a taste for liver as a kid, may love it as an adult, but I had to be coerced as a child to eat it...those drama filled and trauma filled relationships are like having to stomach liver as a kid.\n\nBut when you consider the nourishment liver provides...it’s a good source of protein Vitamin A, C, D, B6, B12, folate, Zinc, Manganese and other nutrients - one must admit - it can definitely serve a purpose as a food that can be used “for our good”. And while it may not taste as good as that fried chicken in many ways it may be healthier for you than that fried chicken...the same is true with these challenging and sometimes painful relationships\n\nYour supportive relationships help you as you “walk” along your destiny path - these folks walk beside you through the tough times and help pick you up when you stumble and fall and you wouldn’t have made it to the point of success in your life today without them\n\nBut make no mistake about it - it is those painful, hard to digest and sometimes toxic relationships that “push” you into your destiny - the folks who told you couldn’t (not smart enough, educated enough, qualified enough - don’t come from nothing, aint gonna be nothing) who motivated you...pushed you...sometime shoved you into your destiny despite your fears, your doubts, your feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem it was something about their perception of you that drove you to pursue what God called you to pursue...that was not a mistake or coincidence\n\nWhen bad things happen to us we tend to think...why is God allowing this to happen to me? Why is He doing this to me? CLICK FOR QUOTE\n\nAs you began to understand the process of your faith walk and the purpose of each portion He’s place on your plate you will begin to see that this is not something that God is doing to you, but rather something He is doing for you...there’s a big difference...if it weren’t for the liver you wouldn’t get all the nutrients you need to become the person He’s called you to be.\n\nLearn how to enjoy your liver...and onions while you eat your SOUL food.\n\nAnd remember there is a purpose in your pain NEXT SLIDE\n
- \nAll relationships serve an important purpose in your faith walk\n\nIf you truly believe that ”In all things God works for the good of those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28 KJ Cambridge Ed.) then all of your relationships serve a purpose in your faith walk even...especially those which create a lot of emotionality for you.\n\nFrom a faith food perspective your supportive relationships are like a good piece of southern fried chicken - cooked to perfection, crispy on the outside, tender and juicy on the insider - that supportive relationship is a your faith comfort food - it feeds your soul by inspiring you, encouraging you, motivating you, rooting for you and cheering you on to the finish line - we love those relationships, just like we love our fried chicken\n\nIt’s those other relationships that we think we could do without - this may not apply to most folks, but I know for many folks we had to develop a taste for liver as a kid, may love it as an adult, but I had to be coerced as a child to eat it...those drama filled and trauma filled relationships are like having to stomach liver as a kid.\n\nBut when you consider the nourishment liver provides...it’s a good source of protein Vitamin A, C, D, B6, B12, folate, Zinc, Manganese and other nutrients - one must admit - it can definitely serve a purpose as a food that can be used “for our good”. And while it may not taste as good as that fried chicken in many ways it may be healthier for you than that fried chicken...the same is true with these challenging and sometimes painful relationships\n\nYour supportive relationships help you as you “walk” along your destiny path - these folks walk beside you through the tough times and help pick you up when you stumble and fall and you wouldn’t have made it to the point of success in your life today without them\n\nBut make no mistake about it - it is those painful, hard to digest and sometimes toxic relationships that “push” you into your destiny - the folks who told you couldn’t (not smart enough, educated enough, qualified enough - don’t come from nothing, aint gonna be nothing) who motivated you...pushed you...sometime shoved you into your destiny despite your fears, your doubts, your feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem it was something about their perception of you that drove you to pursue what God called you to pursue...that was not a mistake or coincidence\n\nWhen bad things happen to us we tend to think...why is God allowing this to happen to me? Why is He doing this to me? CLICK FOR QUOTE\n\nAs you began to understand the process of your faith walk and the purpose of each portion He’s place on your plate you will begin to see that this is not something that God is doing to you, but rather something He is doing for you...there’s a big difference...if it weren’t for the liver you wouldn’t get all the nutrients you need to become the person He’s called you to be.\n\nLearn how to enjoy your liver...and onions while you eat your SOUL food.\n\nAnd remember there is a purpose in your pain NEXT SLIDE\n
- \nAll relationships serve an important purpose in your faith walk\n\nIf you truly believe that ”In all things God works for the good of those who are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28 KJ Cambridge Ed.) then all of your relationships serve a purpose in your faith walk even...especially those which create a lot of emotionality for you.\n\nFrom a faith food perspective your supportive relationships are like a good piece of southern fried chicken - cooked to perfection, crispy on the outside, tender and juicy on the insider - that supportive relationship is a your faith comfort food - it feeds your soul by inspiring you, encouraging you, motivating you, rooting for you and cheering you on to the finish line - we love those relationships, just like we love our fried chicken\n\nIt’s those other relationships that we think we could do without - this may not apply to most folks, but I know for many folks we had to develop a taste for liver as a kid, may love it as an adult, but I had to be coerced as a child to eat it...those drama filled and trauma filled relationships are like having to stomach liver as a kid.\n\nBut when you consider the nourishment liver provides...it’s a good source of protein Vitamin A, C, D, B6, B12, folate, Zinc, Manganese and other nutrients - one must admit - it can definitely serve a purpose as a food that can be used “for our good”. And while it may not taste as good as that fried chicken in many ways it may be healthier for you than that fried chicken...the same is true with these challenging and sometimes painful relationships\n\nYour supportive relationships help you as you “walk” along your destiny path - these folks walk beside you through the tough times and help pick you up when you stumble and fall and you wouldn’t have made it to the point of success in your life today without them\n\nBut make no mistake about it - it is those painful, hard to digest and sometimes toxic relationships that “push” you into your destiny - the folks who told you couldn’t (not smart enough, educated enough, qualified enough - don’t come from nothing, aint gonna be nothing) who motivated you...pushed you...sometime shoved you into your destiny despite your fears, your doubts, your feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem it was something about their perception of you that drove you to pursue what God called you to pursue...that was not a mistake or coincidence\n\nWhen bad things happen to us we tend to think...why is God allowing this to happen to me? Why is He doing this to me? CLICK FOR QUOTE\n\nAs you began to understand the process of your faith walk and the purpose of each portion He’s place on your plate you will begin to see that this is not something that God is doing to you, but rather something He is doing for you...there’s a big difference...if it weren’t for the liver you wouldn’t get all the nutrients you need to become the person He’s called you to be.\n\nLearn how to enjoy your liver...and onions while you eat your SOUL food.\n\nAnd remember there is a purpose in your pain NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - All pain serves a purpose\n\n- We tend to respond to physical pain appropriately most of the time\n\n- Pain has 3 primary goals which are to CLICK NEXT 1. alert/alarm us - there’s something wrong; \nCLICK NEXT 2. serve as an internal cue - that you need to do something different to try to relieve the pain and \nCLICK NEXT 3. (this is the one where we act like we are stuck on stupid, slow on the uptake) serve as a learning opportunity to help you avoid making the same “painful mistakes”\n\nThink about how you feel when you overeat - say at thanksgiving time - everything looks good, you load it up on your plate, gobble it down, go back for 2nd not b/c you’re hungry but because you like the way it tastes, unbutton your pants, let out a couple of burps/belches; some of you silently pass gas while you sitting in the front room with Aunt Bren and Cousin Roscoe and you start thinkin....maybe I ate too much...you get home, go to bed, start feeling a little sweat on your brow, can’t get comfortable; get out of bed take some tums, go back to bed, then start feeling burning in your chest, get out of bed, take a pepcid ac; go back to bed; hear some rumbling from down below; rush to bathroom and 45 minutes later you crawl back in bed, exhausted and promising God if He let’s you make it through the night you won’t ever eat that much again...that pain served all 3 functions it alerted you, led you to try several different things to relieve it and had you bargaining with God about how you would change your bx if He would spare you now\n\n- Physical pain and emotional pain - all pain serve these 3 functions\n\n- But we don’t necessarily think about this when we go through our painful experiences\n\n- I want you to think about the last function in the thanksgiving meal scenario - you bargained with God...you had a conversation with God...you called on God...that’s not a coincidence.\n\n- Ultimately pain was designed to bring us closer to Him\n\nEXERCISE: Emotional Pain Exploration Activity\n\nWhen we find ourselves in some of the most painful points in our lives it can be hard to understand why God is allowing us to experience this level of pain...is it excessive?\n\nCLICK NEXT\n- God only allows us to experience the minimal amount of pain required in order for us to become the person He called us to be.\n\n- Pain is necessary for growth - old folks referred to it as growing pains.\n\n- But most of us don’t want to experience pain - that’s pretty normal - but it is a part of the human condition NEXT SLIDE\n
- - So we prepare by trying to brace for it as opposed to embracing it (me and Scott getting shots), recognizing it’s purpose to grow our faith in Him and relationship with Him\n\n- We spend a lot of time avoiding it, trying to\n get over it or go around it - avoid or abort it instead of learning to not just go through the pain, but choosing to grow through the pain (Can we add a quote here? - Don’t just go through your pain, GROW through your pain)\n\n- Many of us get stuck in the painful places in our past and refuse to accept them, grow through them and heal from them and while we sometimes can’t avoid or prevent the pain - we can prevent suffering - suffering is pain without acceptance - so we choose to suffer\n\n- Instead of bracing for it or against it - embrace it as an opportunity to load up your plate with some SOUL food. \n\n- So if we go back to our food analogy and add a serving of pain to our plates to go with our meat (relationships) - we have our vegetable (brussal sprouts); we may not always like what’s being served, but they are required in order for us to have a well balanced meal NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- - So we prepare by trying to brace for it as opposed to embracing it (me and Scott getting shots), recognizing it’s purpose to grow our faith in Him and relationship with Him\n\n- We spend a lot of time avoiding it, trying to\n get over it or go around it - avoid or abort it instead of learning to not just go through the pain, but choosing to grow through the pain (Can we add a quote here? - Don’t just go through your pain, GROW through your pain)\n\n- Many of us get stuck in the painful places in our past and refuse to accept them, grow through them and heal from them and while we sometimes can’t avoid or prevent the pain - we can prevent suffering - suffering is pain without acceptance - so we choose to suffer\n\n- Instead of bracing for it or against it - embrace it as an opportunity to load up your plate with some SOUL food. \n\n- So if we go back to our food analogy and add a serving of pain to our plates to go with our meat (relationships) - we have our vegetable (brussal sprouts); we may not always like what’s being served, but they are required in order for us to have a well balanced meal NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- - So we prepare by trying to brace for it as opposed to embracing it (me and Scott getting shots), recognizing it’s purpose to grow our faith in Him and relationship with Him\n\n- We spend a lot of time avoiding it, trying to\n get over it or go around it - avoid or abort it instead of learning to not just go through the pain, but choosing to grow through the pain (Can we add a quote here? - Don’t just go through your pain, GROW through your pain)\n\n- Many of us get stuck in the painful places in our past and refuse to accept them, grow through them and heal from them and while we sometimes can’t avoid or prevent the pain - we can prevent suffering - suffering is pain without acceptance - so we choose to suffer\n\n- Instead of bracing for it or against it - embrace it as an opportunity to load up your plate with some SOUL food. \n\n- So if we go back to our food analogy and add a serving of pain to our plates to go with our meat (relationships) - we have our vegetable (brussal sprouts); we may not always like what’s being served, but they are required in order for us to have a well balanced meal NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- - So we prepare by trying to brace for it as opposed to embracing it (me and Scott getting shots), recognizing it’s purpose to grow our faith in Him and relationship with Him\n\n- We spend a lot of time avoiding it, trying to\n get over it or go around it - avoid or abort it instead of learning to not just go through the pain, but choosing to grow through the pain (Can we add a quote here? - Don’t just go through your pain, GROW through your pain)\n\n- Many of us get stuck in the painful places in our past and refuse to accept them, grow through them and heal from them and while we sometimes can’t avoid or prevent the pain - we can prevent suffering - suffering is pain without acceptance - so we choose to suffer\n\n- Instead of bracing for it or against it - embrace it as an opportunity to load up your plate with some SOUL food. \n\n- So if we go back to our food analogy and add a serving of pain to our plates to go with our meat (relationships) - we have our vegetable (brussal sprouts); we may not always like what’s being served, but they are required in order for us to have a well balanced meal NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- - So we prepare by trying to brace for it as opposed to embracing it (me and Scott getting shots), recognizing it’s purpose to grow our faith in Him and relationship with Him\n\n- We spend a lot of time avoiding it, trying to\n get over it or go around it - avoid or abort it instead of learning to not just go through the pain, but choosing to grow through the pain (Can we add a quote here? - Don’t just go through your pain, GROW through your pain)\n\n- Many of us get stuck in the painful places in our past and refuse to accept them, grow through them and heal from them and while we sometimes can’t avoid or prevent the pain - we can prevent suffering - suffering is pain without acceptance - so we choose to suffer\n\n- Instead of bracing for it or against it - embrace it as an opportunity to load up your plate with some SOUL food. \n\n- So if we go back to our food analogy and add a serving of pain to our plates to go with our meat (relationships) - we have our vegetable (brussal sprouts); we may not always like what’s being served, but they are required in order for us to have a well balanced meal NEXT SLIDE\n\n
- Let’s think a little about how we act and how that reflects on our faith.\n\nFrom a psychological perspective when we think about behaviors we see them as a way of assessing what’s really going on with an individual.\n\nFrom a Christian perspective when we talk about faith - we say that we believe - when we are going through some of life’s rough patches we pull out one of our church sayings when folks ask us how we’re doing to prove to them that we have faith we say things like “to blessed to be stressed”, “I’m blessed and highly favored”, but...do our behaviors match up with what we say\n\nYour behaviors betray the truth of what you believe\n\nIf you say that you believe and you have faith, but when your money gets tight or you experience stress on your job or in your marriage or with your kids you start “acting the fool” the question becomes...do you believe?\n\nI’m not judging as I look at you from inside my beautiful glass house so please let God show you how this applies to you\n\nIt’s not that we won’t be challenged and our faith won’t waver...it will...we are human, but instead of doing something to shore up our faith and acknowledging that we need some SOUL food, we pretend that nothing is wrong\n\nPretending - is not a bad principle in and of itself - in psychology we have this intervention we use called “act as if” where people act as if things that aren’t true - actually are true\n\nBut in order to use this to build your faith - you have to make your bx consistent with your beliefs so you have to “act as if you believe what you say”\n\n\nCulturally we refer to it as “faking it until you make it” and we are used to doing this on our jobs and in social settings, but we don’t tend to use it as effectively when it comes to our faith walk\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nAs a practical step in developing your faith - I’m telling you to “behave your way into believing”\n\nWe aren’t required to believe before we act like we believe - God knows we have doubts and fears and we will have to face them as a part of our maturation process\n\nSo take inventory of what your behaviors say about your beliefs -the same way you would take stock of your pantry and if you find things missing that you need in order to feed your soul - restock those items and if you find that you can’t actually restock with the real thing (real vanilla extract)...well get a little of the fake stuff (imitation vanilla extract) and act like you have the real thing until you can afford it...God will honor your efforts.\n\nIf you can’t make your beliefs match your behaviors; make your behaviors match your beliefs and behave your way into believing\n
- Let’s think a little about how we act and how that reflects on our faith.\n\nFrom a psychological perspective when we think about behaviors we see them as a way of assessing what’s really going on with an individual.\n\nFrom a Christian perspective when we talk about faith - we say that we believe - when we are going through some of life’s rough patches we pull out one of our church sayings when folks ask us how we’re doing to prove to them that we have faith we say things like “to blessed to be stressed”, “I’m blessed and highly favored”, but...do our behaviors match up with what we say\n\nYour behaviors betray the truth of what you believe\n\nIf you say that you believe and you have faith, but when your money gets tight or you experience stress on your job or in your marriage or with your kids you start “acting the fool” the question becomes...do you believe?\n\nI’m not judging as I look at you from inside my beautiful glass house so please let God show you how this applies to you\n\nIt’s not that we won’t be challenged and our faith won’t waver...it will...we are human, but instead of doing something to shore up our faith and acknowledging that we need some SOUL food, we pretend that nothing is wrong\n\nPretending - is not a bad principle in and of itself - in psychology we have this intervention we use called “act as if” where people act as if things that aren’t true - actually are true\n\nBut in order to use this to build your faith - you have to make your bx consistent with your beliefs so you have to “act as if you believe what you say”\n\n\nCulturally we refer to it as “faking it until you make it” and we are used to doing this on our jobs and in social settings, but we don’t tend to use it as effectively when it comes to our faith walk\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nAs a practical step in developing your faith - I’m telling you to “behave your way into believing”\n\nWe aren’t required to believe before we act like we believe - God knows we have doubts and fears and we will have to face them as a part of our maturation process\n\nSo take inventory of what your behaviors say about your beliefs -the same way you would take stock of your pantry and if you find things missing that you need in order to feed your soul - restock those items and if you find that you can’t actually restock with the real thing (real vanilla extract)...well get a little of the fake stuff (imitation vanilla extract) and act like you have the real thing until you can afford it...God will honor your efforts.\n\nIf you can’t make your beliefs match your behaviors; make your behaviors match your beliefs and behave your way into believing\n
- Let’s think a little about how we act and how that reflects on our faith.\n\nFrom a psychological perspective when we think about behaviors we see them as a way of assessing what’s really going on with an individual.\n\nFrom a Christian perspective when we talk about faith - we say that we believe - when we are going through some of life’s rough patches we pull out one of our church sayings when folks ask us how we’re doing to prove to them that we have faith we say things like “to blessed to be stressed”, “I’m blessed and highly favored”, but...do our behaviors match up with what we say\n\nYour behaviors betray the truth of what you believe\n\nIf you say that you believe and you have faith, but when your money gets tight or you experience stress on your job or in your marriage or with your kids you start “acting the fool” the question becomes...do you believe?\n\nI’m not judging as I look at you from inside my beautiful glass house so please let God show you how this applies to you\n\nIt’s not that we won’t be challenged and our faith won’t waver...it will...we are human, but instead of doing something to shore up our faith and acknowledging that we need some SOUL food, we pretend that nothing is wrong\n\nPretending - is not a bad principle in and of itself - in psychology we have this intervention we use called “act as if” where people act as if things that aren’t true - actually are true\n\nBut in order to use this to build your faith - you have to make your bx consistent with your beliefs so you have to “act as if you believe what you say”\n\n\nCulturally we refer to it as “faking it until you make it” and we are used to doing this on our jobs and in social settings, but we don’t tend to use it as effectively when it comes to our faith walk\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nAs a practical step in developing your faith - I’m telling you to “behave your way into believing”\n\nWe aren’t required to believe before we act like we believe - God knows we have doubts and fears and we will have to face them as a part of our maturation process\n\nSo take inventory of what your behaviors say about your beliefs -the same way you would take stock of your pantry and if you find things missing that you need in order to feed your soul - restock those items and if you find that you can’t actually restock with the real thing (real vanilla extract)...well get a little of the fake stuff (imitation vanilla extract) and act like you have the real thing until you can afford it...God will honor your efforts.\n\nIf you can’t make your beliefs match your behaviors; make your behaviors match your beliefs and behave your way into believing\n
- So we have our meat and vegetable and we’ve taken stock of the pantry. \n\nWe need to round out our plates and most of us are looking for starch...if you’re going to have to choke down some brussel sprouts most folks want something smooth and creamy and maybe a little buttery to make it go down a little easier.\n\nLet’s add some mashed potatoes - with gravy - not only does this taste good, but metaphorically speaking when you think about potatoes they seem like they might bind the other foods together\n\nOne of the areas that I have found many people struggle with when it comes to developing their faith...I mean a major area that serves as a life long stumbling block for some people ever being able to define their dreams, defend their destinies and become the men and women that God has called them to be deals with - forgiveness\n\nAs human beings with the ability to perceive and misperceive there are always opportunities for offenses to occur\n\nSome feelings of being offend are justifiable - the person intentionally did something to hurt you, deceive you, cause you pain and strife; there’s a saying that - hurt people, hurt people and when I think about what I see in the body of Christ I think of it as wounded people wound people - it is a basic primal response - to strike out in pain especially when we think someone is going to do something to irritate (or make us confront) the pain we are already in\n\nBut many times we become offended over miscommunications and misunderstandings\n\nThen we choose to respond to them inappropriately and they go unresolved leading to broken relationship, emotional woundedness, resentfulness, bitterness and hostility\n\nWe sometimes think that if we are justifiably offended someone owes us something - before we can release the feeling\n\nWe are wrong\n\nWhen dealing with forgiveness - we are required to forgive...period. That’s it. It’s that straight forward. Whether the person was right or wrong, says he or she is sorry, acknowledges the pain they caused you or not...you are still required to forgive\n\nThere is not an exit clause in my bible that allows me to avoid forgiveness if...\n\nWe have to learn to not let someone else’s behavior determine your behavior - you don’t need anything from them to forgive\n\nConsider the Lord’s prayer (have this typed on screen -need the visual image), GO TO HANDOUT focus on forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors - what does this mean to you? Have them do exercise - folks want to share\n\nInterpret “forgive us our debts” passage CLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nForgiveness is the gift you give to yourself so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else - you aren’t doing it for them...you are doing it for you\n\nForgiveness is one of the gifts the God gives to us to comfort us when we experience severe pain and feel like we can’t recover from it, but many of us are afraid to receive this gift because we believe that we would somehow be letting someone off of the hook...and we would...ourselves.\n\nIt is very difficult, if not impossible, to truly grow in faith and have an authentic relationship with God if you are not willing to forgive...you limit His ability to forgive you. When you choose not to forgive someone you keep them and others emotionally distant -trying to avoid pain and not wanting to make yourself vulnerable- well the same is true with what you do with God...you create a distance in your relationship with Him that makes it difficult to experience a deeper level of inner-connectedness to Him. You willingly separate yourself from Him. \n\nSometimes we think we can draw closer to Him by doing stuff as opposed to forgiving, but doing serves a different purpose in feeding your SOUL it is not a replacement for forgiveness\nCLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n\n\n
- So we have our meat and vegetable and we’ve taken stock of the pantry. \n\nWe need to round out our plates and most of us are looking for starch...if you’re going to have to choke down some brussel sprouts most folks want something smooth and creamy and maybe a little buttery to make it go down a little easier.\n\nLet’s add some mashed potatoes - with gravy - not only does this taste good, but metaphorically speaking when you think about potatoes they seem like they might bind the other foods together\n\nOne of the areas that I have found many people struggle with when it comes to developing their faith...I mean a major area that serves as a life long stumbling block for some people ever being able to define their dreams, defend their destinies and become the men and women that God has called them to be deals with - forgiveness\n\nAs human beings with the ability to perceive and misperceive there are always opportunities for offenses to occur\n\nSome feelings of being offend are justifiable - the person intentionally did something to hurt you, deceive you, cause you pain and strife; there’s a saying that - hurt people, hurt people and when I think about what I see in the body of Christ I think of it as wounded people wound people - it is a basic primal response - to strike out in pain especially when we think someone is going to do something to irritate (or make us confront) the pain we are already in\n\nBut many times we become offended over miscommunications and misunderstandings\n\nThen we choose to respond to them inappropriately and they go unresolved leading to broken relationship, emotional woundedness, resentfulness, bitterness and hostility\n\nWe sometimes think that if we are justifiably offended someone owes us something - before we can release the feeling\n\nWe are wrong\n\nWhen dealing with forgiveness - we are required to forgive...period. That’s it. It’s that straight forward. Whether the person was right or wrong, says he or she is sorry, acknowledges the pain they caused you or not...you are still required to forgive\n\nThere is not an exit clause in my bible that allows me to avoid forgiveness if...\n\nWe have to learn to not let someone else’s behavior determine your behavior - you don’t need anything from them to forgive\n\nConsider the Lord’s prayer (have this typed on screen -need the visual image), GO TO HANDOUT focus on forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors - what does this mean to you? Have them do exercise - folks want to share\n\nInterpret “forgive us our debts” passage CLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nForgiveness is the gift you give to yourself so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else - you aren’t doing it for them...you are doing it for you\n\nForgiveness is one of the gifts the God gives to us to comfort us when we experience severe pain and feel like we can’t recover from it, but many of us are afraid to receive this gift because we believe that we would somehow be letting someone off of the hook...and we would...ourselves.\n\nIt is very difficult, if not impossible, to truly grow in faith and have an authentic relationship with God if you are not willing to forgive...you limit His ability to forgive you. When you choose not to forgive someone you keep them and others emotionally distant -trying to avoid pain and not wanting to make yourself vulnerable- well the same is true with what you do with God...you create a distance in your relationship with Him that makes it difficult to experience a deeper level of inner-connectedness to Him. You willingly separate yourself from Him. \n\nSometimes we think we can draw closer to Him by doing stuff as opposed to forgiving, but doing serves a different purpose in feeding your SOUL it is not a replacement for forgiveness\nCLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n\n\n
- So we have our meat and vegetable and we’ve taken stock of the pantry. \n\nWe need to round out our plates and most of us are looking for starch...if you’re going to have to choke down some brussel sprouts most folks want something smooth and creamy and maybe a little buttery to make it go down a little easier.\n\nLet’s add some mashed potatoes - with gravy - not only does this taste good, but metaphorically speaking when you think about potatoes they seem like they might bind the other foods together\n\nOne of the areas that I have found many people struggle with when it comes to developing their faith...I mean a major area that serves as a life long stumbling block for some people ever being able to define their dreams, defend their destinies and become the men and women that God has called them to be deals with - forgiveness\n\nAs human beings with the ability to perceive and misperceive there are always opportunities for offenses to occur\n\nSome feelings of being offend are justifiable - the person intentionally did something to hurt you, deceive you, cause you pain and strife; there’s a saying that - hurt people, hurt people and when I think about what I see in the body of Christ I think of it as wounded people wound people - it is a basic primal response - to strike out in pain especially when we think someone is going to do something to irritate (or make us confront) the pain we are already in\n\nBut many times we become offended over miscommunications and misunderstandings\n\nThen we choose to respond to them inappropriately and they go unresolved leading to broken relationship, emotional woundedness, resentfulness, bitterness and hostility\n\nWe sometimes think that if we are justifiably offended someone owes us something - before we can release the feeling\n\nWe are wrong\n\nWhen dealing with forgiveness - we are required to forgive...period. That’s it. It’s that straight forward. Whether the person was right or wrong, says he or she is sorry, acknowledges the pain they caused you or not...you are still required to forgive\n\nThere is not an exit clause in my bible that allows me to avoid forgiveness if...\n\nWe have to learn to not let someone else’s behavior determine your behavior - you don’t need anything from them to forgive\n\nConsider the Lord’s prayer (have this typed on screen -need the visual image), GO TO HANDOUT focus on forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors - what does this mean to you? Have them do exercise - folks want to share\n\nInterpret “forgive us our debts” passage CLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nForgiveness is the gift you give to yourself so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else - you aren’t doing it for them...you are doing it for you\n\nForgiveness is one of the gifts the God gives to us to comfort us when we experience severe pain and feel like we can’t recover from it, but many of us are afraid to receive this gift because we believe that we would somehow be letting someone off of the hook...and we would...ourselves.\n\nIt is very difficult, if not impossible, to truly grow in faith and have an authentic relationship with God if you are not willing to forgive...you limit His ability to forgive you. When you choose not to forgive someone you keep them and others emotionally distant -trying to avoid pain and not wanting to make yourself vulnerable- well the same is true with what you do with God...you create a distance in your relationship with Him that makes it difficult to experience a deeper level of inner-connectedness to Him. You willingly separate yourself from Him. \n\nSometimes we think we can draw closer to Him by doing stuff as opposed to forgiving, but doing serves a different purpose in feeding your SOUL it is not a replacement for forgiveness\nCLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n\n\n
- So we have our meat and vegetable and we’ve taken stock of the pantry. \n\nWe need to round out our plates and most of us are looking for starch...if you’re going to have to choke down some brussel sprouts most folks want something smooth and creamy and maybe a little buttery to make it go down a little easier.\n\nLet’s add some mashed potatoes - with gravy - not only does this taste good, but metaphorically speaking when you think about potatoes they seem like they might bind the other foods together\n\nOne of the areas that I have found many people struggle with when it comes to developing their faith...I mean a major area that serves as a life long stumbling block for some people ever being able to define their dreams, defend their destinies and become the men and women that God has called them to be deals with - forgiveness\n\nAs human beings with the ability to perceive and misperceive there are always opportunities for offenses to occur\n\nSome feelings of being offend are justifiable - the person intentionally did something to hurt you, deceive you, cause you pain and strife; there’s a saying that - hurt people, hurt people and when I think about what I see in the body of Christ I think of it as wounded people wound people - it is a basic primal response - to strike out in pain especially when we think someone is going to do something to irritate (or make us confront) the pain we are already in\n\nBut many times we become offended over miscommunications and misunderstandings\n\nThen we choose to respond to them inappropriately and they go unresolved leading to broken relationship, emotional woundedness, resentfulness, bitterness and hostility\n\nWe sometimes think that if we are justifiably offended someone owes us something - before we can release the feeling\n\nWe are wrong\n\nWhen dealing with forgiveness - we are required to forgive...period. That’s it. It’s that straight forward. Whether the person was right or wrong, says he or she is sorry, acknowledges the pain they caused you or not...you are still required to forgive\n\nThere is not an exit clause in my bible that allows me to avoid forgiveness if...\n\nWe have to learn to not let someone else’s behavior determine your behavior - you don’t need anything from them to forgive\n\nConsider the Lord’s prayer (have this typed on screen -need the visual image), GO TO HANDOUT focus on forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors - what does this mean to you? Have them do exercise - folks want to share\n\nInterpret “forgive us our debts” passage CLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nForgiveness is the gift you give to yourself so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else - you aren’t doing it for them...you are doing it for you\n\nForgiveness is one of the gifts the God gives to us to comfort us when we experience severe pain and feel like we can’t recover from it, but many of us are afraid to receive this gift because we believe that we would somehow be letting someone off of the hook...and we would...ourselves.\n\nIt is very difficult, if not impossible, to truly grow in faith and have an authentic relationship with God if you are not willing to forgive...you limit His ability to forgive you. When you choose not to forgive someone you keep them and others emotionally distant -trying to avoid pain and not wanting to make yourself vulnerable- well the same is true with what you do with God...you create a distance in your relationship with Him that makes it difficult to experience a deeper level of inner-connectedness to Him. You willingly separate yourself from Him. \n\nSometimes we think we can draw closer to Him by doing stuff as opposed to forgiving, but doing serves a different purpose in feeding your SOUL it is not a replacement for forgiveness\nCLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n\n\n
- So we have our meat and vegetable and we’ve taken stock of the pantry. \n\nWe need to round out our plates and most of us are looking for starch...if you’re going to have to choke down some brussel sprouts most folks want something smooth and creamy and maybe a little buttery to make it go down a little easier.\n\nLet’s add some mashed potatoes - with gravy - not only does this taste good, but metaphorically speaking when you think about potatoes they seem like they might bind the other foods together\n\nOne of the areas that I have found many people struggle with when it comes to developing their faith...I mean a major area that serves as a life long stumbling block for some people ever being able to define their dreams, defend their destinies and become the men and women that God has called them to be deals with - forgiveness\n\nAs human beings with the ability to perceive and misperceive there are always opportunities for offenses to occur\n\nSome feelings of being offend are justifiable - the person intentionally did something to hurt you, deceive you, cause you pain and strife; there’s a saying that - hurt people, hurt people and when I think about what I see in the body of Christ I think of it as wounded people wound people - it is a basic primal response - to strike out in pain especially when we think someone is going to do something to irritate (or make us confront) the pain we are already in\n\nBut many times we become offended over miscommunications and misunderstandings\n\nThen we choose to respond to them inappropriately and they go unresolved leading to broken relationship, emotional woundedness, resentfulness, bitterness and hostility\n\nWe sometimes think that if we are justifiably offended someone owes us something - before we can release the feeling\n\nWe are wrong\n\nWhen dealing with forgiveness - we are required to forgive...period. That’s it. It’s that straight forward. Whether the person was right or wrong, says he or she is sorry, acknowledges the pain they caused you or not...you are still required to forgive\n\nThere is not an exit clause in my bible that allows me to avoid forgiveness if...\n\nWe have to learn to not let someone else’s behavior determine your behavior - you don’t need anything from them to forgive\n\nConsider the Lord’s prayer (have this typed on screen -need the visual image), GO TO HANDOUT focus on forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors - what does this mean to you? Have them do exercise - folks want to share\n\nInterpret “forgive us our debts” passage CLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\n\nForgiveness is the gift you give to yourself so that you will no longer be controlled by someone else - you aren’t doing it for them...you are doing it for you\n\nForgiveness is one of the gifts the God gives to us to comfort us when we experience severe pain and feel like we can’t recover from it, but many of us are afraid to receive this gift because we believe that we would somehow be letting someone off of the hook...and we would...ourselves.\n\nIt is very difficult, if not impossible, to truly grow in faith and have an authentic relationship with God if you are not willing to forgive...you limit His ability to forgive you. When you choose not to forgive someone you keep them and others emotionally distant -trying to avoid pain and not wanting to make yourself vulnerable- well the same is true with what you do with God...you create a distance in your relationship with Him that makes it difficult to experience a deeper level of inner-connectedness to Him. You willingly separate yourself from Him. \n\nSometimes we think we can draw closer to Him by doing stuff as opposed to forgiving, but doing serves a different purpose in feeding your SOUL it is not a replacement for forgiveness\nCLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n\n\n
- So let’s go back to our food metaphor\n\nHow many of you are the cooks in your family?\n\nTell me if you’ve ever experienced this...go through scenario of figuring out what to cook, picking up groceries, making the dinner, making the plates, getting your plate, getting ready to sit down to eat, kid asks for another serving before you eat, getting back up, then sitting back down only to realize you are no longer hungry...to tired to eat...just want to rest.\n\nThis is not an uncommon experience for those of us who are responsible for making our family meals - sometimes after you go through all of the effort what you really want most is just time to rest...time to be.\n\nBut many times in the church we want to be the cooks - we want to stay in the kitchen- we want to do, do, do - b/c we have been taught in our society that it is more important to do and if your not doing something then you must be doing nothing; if you’re not doing something you won’t be seen, if you’re not doing something you won’t be valued\n\nThere are many folks who are on multiple committees at their church, they attend every function held by their church, every service and bible study, and they pledge their allegiance to their church...which I’m not saying those things are bad\n\nBut I am saying they don’t serve as a representation of your faith\n\nI know faith without works is dead\n\nBut, as my momma used to say, too much of anything aint good for you\n\nSometimes “doing” serves as a distraction and we lose sight of the “benefit of being”\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\nDoing can serve as a distraction that moves us away from our destiny\n\nIf your doing is coming at the expense of your being with God, that is not what He is requiring from you \n\nWhat He wants most of all is to be in relationship with you (life is about relationship)\n\nSo we need to see our activity and the doing as our “soft roll” on our plate, it can taste real good and sometimes we even look forward to it, but it’s not in the best interest of our health to eat a buttered roll at every meal.\n\nLearn to create balance and value “rest” as your time for restoration\n\nEven Jesus would slip away to rest, pray and “be” with God and encouraged the disciples to do so saying “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest”. (Mark 6:31)\n\nJust because you aren’t doing something doesn’t mean your doing nothing...sometimes you are just being and “to be” is a verb.\n\nRest is required in order for us to function at our best not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually\n\nLet God show you when to do, when to be, and when to rest so that He can provide you with the balance that you need to be your healthiest as He molds you into the person He’s called you to be CLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n
- So let’s go back to our food metaphor\n\nHow many of you are the cooks in your family?\n\nTell me if you’ve ever experienced this...go through scenario of figuring out what to cook, picking up groceries, making the dinner, making the plates, getting your plate, getting ready to sit down to eat, kid asks for another serving before you eat, getting back up, then sitting back down only to realize you are no longer hungry...to tired to eat...just want to rest.\n\nThis is not an uncommon experience for those of us who are responsible for making our family meals - sometimes after you go through all of the effort what you really want most is just time to rest...time to be.\n\nBut many times in the church we want to be the cooks - we want to stay in the kitchen- we want to do, do, do - b/c we have been taught in our society that it is more important to do and if your not doing something then you must be doing nothing; if you’re not doing something you won’t be seen, if you’re not doing something you won’t be valued\n\nThere are many folks who are on multiple committees at their church, they attend every function held by their church, every service and bible study, and they pledge their allegiance to their church...which I’m not saying those things are bad\n\nBut I am saying they don’t serve as a representation of your faith\n\nI know faith without works is dead\n\nBut, as my momma used to say, too much of anything aint good for you\n\nSometimes “doing” serves as a distraction and we lose sight of the “benefit of being”\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\nDoing can serve as a distraction that moves us away from our destiny\n\nIf your doing is coming at the expense of your being with God, that is not what He is requiring from you \n\nWhat He wants most of all is to be in relationship with you (life is about relationship)\n\nSo we need to see our activity and the doing as our “soft roll” on our plate, it can taste real good and sometimes we even look forward to it, but it’s not in the best interest of our health to eat a buttered roll at every meal.\n\nLearn to create balance and value “rest” as your time for restoration\n\nEven Jesus would slip away to rest, pray and “be” with God and encouraged the disciples to do so saying “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest”. (Mark 6:31)\n\nJust because you aren’t doing something doesn’t mean your doing nothing...sometimes you are just being and “to be” is a verb.\n\nRest is required in order for us to function at our best not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually\n\nLet God show you when to do, when to be, and when to rest so that He can provide you with the balance that you need to be your healthiest as He molds you into the person He’s called you to be CLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n
- So let’s go back to our food metaphor\n\nHow many of you are the cooks in your family?\n\nTell me if you’ve ever experienced this...go through scenario of figuring out what to cook, picking up groceries, making the dinner, making the plates, getting your plate, getting ready to sit down to eat, kid asks for another serving before you eat, getting back up, then sitting back down only to realize you are no longer hungry...to tired to eat...just want to rest.\n\nThis is not an uncommon experience for those of us who are responsible for making our family meals - sometimes after you go through all of the effort what you really want most is just time to rest...time to be.\n\nBut many times in the church we want to be the cooks - we want to stay in the kitchen- we want to do, do, do - b/c we have been taught in our society that it is more important to do and if your not doing something then you must be doing nothing; if you’re not doing something you won’t be seen, if you’re not doing something you won’t be valued\n\nThere are many folks who are on multiple committees at their church, they attend every function held by their church, every service and bible study, and they pledge their allegiance to their church...which I’m not saying those things are bad\n\nBut I am saying they don’t serve as a representation of your faith\n\nI know faith without works is dead\n\nBut, as my momma used to say, too much of anything aint good for you\n\nSometimes “doing” serves as a distraction and we lose sight of the “benefit of being”\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\nDoing can serve as a distraction that moves us away from our destiny\n\nIf your doing is coming at the expense of your being with God, that is not what He is requiring from you \n\nWhat He wants most of all is to be in relationship with you (life is about relationship)\n\nSo we need to see our activity and the doing as our “soft roll” on our plate, it can taste real good and sometimes we even look forward to it, but it’s not in the best interest of our health to eat a buttered roll at every meal.\n\nLearn to create balance and value “rest” as your time for restoration\n\nEven Jesus would slip away to rest, pray and “be” with God and encouraged the disciples to do so saying “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest”. (Mark 6:31)\n\nJust because you aren’t doing something doesn’t mean your doing nothing...sometimes you are just being and “to be” is a verb.\n\nRest is required in order for us to function at our best not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually\n\nLet God show you when to do, when to be, and when to rest so that He can provide you with the balance that you need to be your healthiest as He molds you into the person He’s called you to be CLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n
- So let’s go back to our food metaphor\n\nHow many of you are the cooks in your family?\n\nTell me if you’ve ever experienced this...go through scenario of figuring out what to cook, picking up groceries, making the dinner, making the plates, getting your plate, getting ready to sit down to eat, kid asks for another serving before you eat, getting back up, then sitting back down only to realize you are no longer hungry...to tired to eat...just want to rest.\n\nThis is not an uncommon experience for those of us who are responsible for making our family meals - sometimes after you go through all of the effort what you really want most is just time to rest...time to be.\n\nBut many times in the church we want to be the cooks - we want to stay in the kitchen- we want to do, do, do - b/c we have been taught in our society that it is more important to do and if your not doing something then you must be doing nothing; if you’re not doing something you won’t be seen, if you’re not doing something you won’t be valued\n\nThere are many folks who are on multiple committees at their church, they attend every function held by their church, every service and bible study, and they pledge their allegiance to their church...which I’m not saying those things are bad\n\nBut I am saying they don’t serve as a representation of your faith\n\nI know faith without works is dead\n\nBut, as my momma used to say, too much of anything aint good for you\n\nSometimes “doing” serves as a distraction and we lose sight of the “benefit of being”\nCLICK FOR NEXT QUOTE\nDoing can serve as a distraction that moves us away from our destiny\n\nIf your doing is coming at the expense of your being with God, that is not what He is requiring from you \n\nWhat He wants most of all is to be in relationship with you (life is about relationship)\n\nSo we need to see our activity and the doing as our “soft roll” on our plate, it can taste real good and sometimes we even look forward to it, but it’s not in the best interest of our health to eat a buttered roll at every meal.\n\nLearn to create balance and value “rest” as your time for restoration\n\nEven Jesus would slip away to rest, pray and “be” with God and encouraged the disciples to do so saying “Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest”. (Mark 6:31)\n\nJust because you aren’t doing something doesn’t mean your doing nothing...sometimes you are just being and “to be” is a verb.\n\nRest is required in order for us to function at our best not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually\n\nLet God show you when to do, when to be, and when to rest so that He can provide you with the balance that you need to be your healthiest as He molds you into the person He’s called you to be CLICK FOR NEXT SLIDE\n
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