The Place of Tears in Our Lives
The power and the chemistry of
tears in the life of a Christian.
• Crying has a wonderful place in a Christian
experience. In the King James Bible the term
“cry” or “crying” is not necessarily to do with
tears but rather calling out. It is sometimes
used in calling out for crying out in anguish
and therefore tears were included.
• In the King James Bible the term weep,
weeping and tears are used when we might
say cry or crying today.
As a young boy growing up in
boarding schools in the age of 5 ½
years I never cried.
• The only time that I was told that I had cried,
as a young man, was when I was drunk and
apparently missing my mother. I didn’t even
cry when I was hurt and certainly not in front
I had to become born-again by the
Grace of God to faith deny Lord Jesus
Christ to realise the beneficial effect of
shedding tears and crying.
• Since I’ve known the Lord I’m not ashamed to
say that I have cried heaps of tears, great
puddles of tears.
• The ability to shed tears and cry is a
wonderful God-given emotion that we all
need to experience from time to time.
• Fortunately there will come a time when
there will be no more tears – look at:
• For the Lamb which is in the midst of the
throne shall feed them, and shall lead them
unto living fountains of waters: and God shall
wipe away all tears from their eyes.
Heartfelt sorrow of repentance and
a contrite heart is one time when we
should cry hot tears:
• Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to
you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and
purify your hearts, ye double minded.
• 9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let
your laughter be turned to mourning, and
your joy to heaviness.
• 10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the
Lord, and he shall lift you up.
This passage concerns Christians
who are living hypocritical and
• Remember that godly sorrow works
repentance and that godly sorrow is often
accompanied by mourning and weeping.
• Clearly tears have a great effect, especially
when they come from a truly contrite heart,
but sometimes we might find ourselves like
• Esau was sorry that he missed out on his
birthright not that he had sold out for the
sake of a meal. He wanted his birthright but
he couldn’t see how he had despised his right
• Looking diligently lest any man fail of the
grace of God; lest any root of bitterness
springing up trouble you, and thereby many
• 16 Lest there be any fornicator, or profane
person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat
sold his birthright.
• 17 For ye know how that afterward, when he
would have inherited the blessing, he was
rejected: for he found no place of
repentance, though he sought it carefully
• It is not the tears of self-pity or shame for
change’s sake that will move the heart of
God, it is the tears of true repentance, that is
a sorrow that is born not because we were
found out but because we know we were
wrong before we were found out:
• Who in the days of his flesh, when he had
offered up prayers and supplications with
strong crying and tears unto him that was
able to save him from death, and was heard
in that he feared;
• 8 Though he were a Son, yet learned he
obedience by the things which he suffered;
Sometimes we have to learn obedience
from the things which we suffer and
this is a good place for the tears.
We should not be ashamed to cry.
• Somebody once tried to calculate the volume
of tears that have flowed from the eyes of
mankind since Adam and eve were in the
• Tears have a wonderful chemistry and a
profound effect upon our lives as Christians.
• We should not be afraid to cry and to weep
because godly weeping does us a great deal
• There are many legitimate causes for our
tears to flow and we should be people who
will weep and shed tears often, don’t let your
tears make you ashamed of crying them.
• When we seek to minister to people and to
help them spiritually we will often shed tears
even as a righteous parent sheds tears for
• Therefore watch, and remember, that by the
space of three years I ceased not to warn
every one night and day with tears.
Look at this as well:
• Philippians 3:18 (For many walk, of whom I
have told you often, and now tell you even
weeping, that they are the enemies of the
cross of Christ:
2 Corinthians 2:4
• For out of much affliction and anguish of
heart I wrote unto you with many tears; not
that ye should be grieved, but that ye might
know the love which I have more abundantly
Stirred up Christians often cry and
We do remember the tears of others
• 2 Timothy 1:4 Greatly desiring to see thee,
being mindful of thy tears, that I may be
filled with joy;
• We can even join others in their tears and
weep with them:
• Romans 12:15 Rejoice with them that do
rejoice, and weep with them that weep.
• It is perfectly in order for us to shed tears
over one another even when we mistakenly
misunderstand the intention:
• And they all wept sore, and fell on Paul's
neck, and kissed him,
• Acts 21:13 Then Paul answered, What mean
ye to weep and to break mine heart? for I am
ready not to be bound only, but also to die at
Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus.
• The sense completely misunderstood Paul’s
intention but they wept nonetheless and
kissed his neck and soaked his clothes with
• Don’t you think he remembered these hot
tears shed by his friends when later he was in
prison in Rome or when he was left for dead
on the highway or when he felt alone and
abandoned by many of the Christians that he
had spent his life ministering to?
Don’t be ashamed to pray and to cry
with hot tears for people.
• You can even let people see that your crying
for them but be careful not to be a hypocrite
• Tears in the closet before tears in the
congregation – never cry just to show, that
destroys the purpose of tears.
• It is perfectly normal to have a broken heart
and it is perfectly normal to shed tears when
you consider loss and estrangement from
people that you love.
• Stirred up Christians, rejoicing Christians
often shed tears and weep:
• Acts 20:19 Serving the Lord with all humility
of mind, and with many tears, and
temptations, which befell me by the lying in
wait of the Jews:
• Even I Lord Jesus shed tears, although the
onlookers misunderstood why he was
• John 11:35 Jesus wept.
• They thought he was crying because of the
death of his friend but he was actually crying
because of the manifold unbelief people of
• It is perfectly all right to shed tears when you
know that you have been forgiven much and
you know that you are a sinner saved by
• It is perfectly okay to shed tears round the
table the Lord not because so much as for the
pain that he endured but for the shame of
the sins that you committed that made it
necessary for him to endure the pain and
suffering of the cross:
• And he turned to the woman, and said unto
Simon, Seest thou this woman? I entered into
thine house, thou gavest me no water for my
feet: but she hath washed my feet with tears,
and wiped them with the hairs of her head.
• And when the Lord saw her, he had
compassion on her, and said unto her, Weep
• Always remember that when you are in the
midst of crying and weeping and those hot
tears flowing down your cheeks that it is the
purpose of God to touch you and to restore
• Blessed are ye that hunger now: for ye shall
be filled. Blessed are ye that weep now: for
ye shall laugh.
One of the reasons that we Christians
weep is when we come to our senses
and realise that we are sinning and
grieving the holy spirit,
• We cry when the realisation hits us that we
have failed in our best intentions:
• Mark 14:72 And the second time the cock
crew. And Peter called to mind the word that
Jesus said unto him, Before the cock crow
twice, thou shalt deny me thrice. And when
he thought thereon, he wept.
• Sometimes weeping helps us come to a
realisation that we believe and have faith:
• And straightway the father of the child cried
out, and said with tears, Lord, I believe; help
thou mine unbelief.
Sometimes we weep because our
morning is so deep and great that we
think that there is no relief or comfort
to be had:
• In Rama was there a voice heard,
lamentation, and weeping, and great
mourning, Rachel weeping for her children,
and would not be comforted, because they
• Tears alone are not sufficient because we can
cry crocodile tears – real enough to us but
not coming from a pure and sound heart of
true repentance and truly contrite spirit
because we do not really want to walk in true
• And this have ye done again, covering the
altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping,
and with crying out, insomuch that he
regardeth not the offering any more, or
receiveth it with good will at your hand.
• 14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD
hath been witness between thee and the
wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast
dealt treacherously: yet is she thy
companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
• 15 And did not he make one? Yet had he the
residue of the spirit. And wherefore one?
That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore
take heed to your spirit, and let none deal
treacherously against the wife of his youth.
• 16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that
he hateth putting away: for one covereth
violence with his garment, saith the LORD of
hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that
ye deal not treacherously.
• Make certain that you are not dealing with
the Lord Jesus in a treacherous manner and
your tears will water the good seed of his
word that is planted within your heart.
Oh the power and the wonder of our
tears before the Lord Jesus!