This document discusses the differences between using a matchmaking service to "date" versus to find a "mate". It notes that if the goal is immediate gratification, a traditional matchmaker may not be the best option. However, if previous dating attempts have not led to success, an experienced matchmaker who gets to know clients personally and makes introductions based on extensive profiles may be a better approach for those seriously seeking a long-term partner. This matchmaker has had over 300 successful marriages and only makes introductions between clients who meet each other's criteria and preferences.

1. DO YOU WANT TO DATE OR A MATE?
It’s Your Choice…
When deciding to use a matchmaking service one of the most important considerations is are you looking to
“date” or to “mate”. You should feel that your investment is in your future, starting a brand new life with
someone who you have chosen who has chosen you. If you are truly serious about finding love then it may be
time to get serious about how to achieve that goal.
If you are interested in immediate gratification than a REAL matchmaker is not what you are looking for. I am
from the old school of matchmaking combined with the realities of 2013. If you are looking for “dates” i.e.,
buying a specific number of dates for a specific period of time, then Bon Jour is not for you. If, however, you
have played the numbers game with the Internet dating services to no avail and/or other services who sell
“dates” with no success perhaps it is time to go old school.
Old school meaning one matchmaker who knows all of her clients, who gets to know you personally, who has
an open-ended contract so that whenever the right person comes in you will be here. Collaborative
matchmaking not a dictatorship. Matchmaking that gives you substantial information on each client including
current photos, a 6 page questionnaire and my input from my knowledge and experience of 24 years in the
matchmaking business.
If you are serious about finding “the one” perhaps it’s now time to get serious about how you do
that. Matchmaking is an art. It is not always immediate gratification…”well what do I get for the filing
fee”? Hopefully you get married when the right person presents themselves, you get to be a client until and
when that person presents themselves, you invest a fraction of the expense you would pay in services who just
throw you together with the number of dates you purchased. You get a REAL matchmaker who has had 312
successful marriages and knows what works and what doesn’t. You meet ONLY the appropriate matches based
on your preferences and criteria who have been vetted by me. You also receive access to the single
professionals who are prevalent in Denver and who are genuinely serious about their future and finding a mate!