TOO TIED UP THIS CHINESE NEW YEAR?
Check out the following tips so you can fully enjoy this special celebration! Remember to plan ahead and be kind to yourself. Join virtual events and know that you are not alone!
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee answered commonly asked questions about sex and sexuality after baby.
What is Postpartum Depression?
Postpartum depression (PPD) is a complex mix of physical, emotional, and behaviorial changes that happen in some women after giving birth.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares 4 Common Gaslighting Techniques.
What is Gaslighting?
A form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Language is ever evolving and new words are developed to better communicate what we mean. These are the new words I learned in 2022.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What is Polyamory?
Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy that emphasizes emotional and sexual intimacy with multiple partners simultaneously. It emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time.
An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. The terms both fall under the heading of “ethical non-monogamy,” but they are not synonymous.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Things You Need to Know About Cervical Health Awareness MonthDr. Martha Tara Lee
January is Cervical Health Awareness Month. ❤️
We think it’s important to share information about how one can protect themselves from HPV (human papillomavirus) and cervical cancer.
HPV is a very common infection that spreads through sexual activity, and it causes almost all cases of cervical cancer.
✔️ Get vaccinated against HPV.
The most common form of the vaccine protects against two types of HPV that cause 70% of cervical cancers: types 16 and 18. The vaccine also protects against four other high-risk types (6, 11, 16, and 18).
✔️ Talk with your doctor or nurse about the HPV vaccine.
The HPV vaccine is recommended for those aged 11-12. It is given in three doses over six months. The vaccine protects against most types of HPV that cause both cervical cancer and genital warts. It’s safe and effective when given at the recommended age.
👉 Early detection is key to preventing cervical cancer.
We hope this post has given you a better understanding of what cervical health awareness month is, why it’s important, and how to take control of your own health. The more informed we are, the more we can do for ourselves. And remember: don’t be afraid to ask questions!
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Everything You Should Know about the Size of Penises
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Can Social Media Be A Substitute For Comprehensive Sex EducationDr. Martha Tara Lee
Can Social Media Be A Substitute For Comprehensive Sex Education?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What are Threesomes, Foursomes and Moresomes?
A threesome is a sexual activity involving three people, typically two men and one woman, or two women and one man.
A foursome is a sexual activity involving four people, typically two men and two women.
Moresomes involve more than four people and can involve any combination of genders.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee answered commonly asked questions about sex and sexuality after baby.
What is Postpartum Depression?
Postpartum depression (PPD) is a complex mix of physical, emotional, and behaviorial changes that happen in some women after giving birth.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares 4 Common Gaslighting Techniques.
What is Gaslighting?
A form of psychological manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Language is ever evolving and new words are developed to better communicate what we mean. These are the new words I learned in 2022.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What is Polyamory?
Polyamory is a form of consensual non-monogamy that emphasizes emotional and sexual intimacy with multiple partners simultaneously. It emphasizes consciously choosing how many partners one wishes to be involved with rather than accepting social norms which dictate loving only one person at a time.
An open relationship is a relationship where the parties are free to take new partners. The terms both fall under the heading of “ethical non-monogamy,” but they are not synonymous.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Things You Need to Know About Cervical Health Awareness MonthDr. Martha Tara Lee
January is Cervical Health Awareness Month. ❤️
We think it’s important to share information about how one can protect themselves from HPV (human papillomavirus) and cervical cancer.
HPV is a very common infection that spreads through sexual activity, and it causes almost all cases of cervical cancer.
✔️ Get vaccinated against HPV.
The most common form of the vaccine protects against two types of HPV that cause 70% of cervical cancers: types 16 and 18. The vaccine also protects against four other high-risk types (6, 11, 16, and 18).
✔️ Talk with your doctor or nurse about the HPV vaccine.
The HPV vaccine is recommended for those aged 11-12. It is given in three doses over six months. The vaccine protects against most types of HPV that cause both cervical cancer and genital warts. It’s safe and effective when given at the recommended age.
👉 Early detection is key to preventing cervical cancer.
We hope this post has given you a better understanding of what cervical health awareness month is, why it’s important, and how to take control of your own health. The more informed we are, the more we can do for ourselves. And remember: don’t be afraid to ask questions!
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Everything You Should Know about the Size of Penises
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Can Social Media Be A Substitute For Comprehensive Sex EducationDr. Martha Tara Lee
Can Social Media Be A Substitute For Comprehensive Sex Education?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What are Threesomes, Foursomes and Moresomes?
A threesome is a sexual activity involving three people, typically two men and one woman, or two women and one man.
A foursome is a sexual activity involving four people, typically two men and two women.
Moresomes involve more than four people and can involve any combination of genders.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
The Classy Way to Handle a Social Media Breakup on Social MediaDr. Martha Tara Lee
The Classy Way to Handle a Social Media Breakup on Social Media:
20 Social Media Breakup Etiquette
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
20 Sexual Terms used by Millennials by Dr Martha Tara LeeDr. Martha Tara Lee
Millennials' sexual lexicon reflects modern dating dynamics.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Your Questions about Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps AnsweredDr. Martha Tara Lee
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee answers your questions about sex toy injuries or mishaps.
- How often do you hear about sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- What tends to lead to sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- How would you counsel to avoid common sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- What should people do if sex toy injury or mishaps happens?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Masturbation, often misunderstood, is an act of self-exploration and self-care. It fosters self-awareness, promotes relaxation, and enhances sexual satisfaction. It's a natural aspect of human sexuality, affirming one's autonomy and body positivity. Through it, individuals cultivate a deeper understanding and appreciation of their own desires and pleasures.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
5 Ways to Start Dating After Divorce 😍
Divorce is one of the most traumatic events we go through, and when we reach the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel," many of us feel that little spring in our step and start to think dating again. So how can you start off on the right foot when you're just beginning to dip your toes back into the dating pool?
1. Identify where your marriage went wrong.
2. Take it slow.
3. Consider seeing a therapist or a counselor.
4. Be honest about your past.
5. Above all else, trust yourself.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Let's celebrate! The Singapore government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Leading Their Authentic Lives 😍
Many years ago before I began my training to be a Sexologist, I was on a movie date with my Australian boyfriend.
We were riding on a downward escalator when two men who looked like a couple came towards us on the side of the upriding escalator.
I nudged my date to get his attention and to take note of the two men. When he ignored me, I nudged him again.
When they passed us, he turned to me and asked: "Why did you do that?"
Me: "What do you mean? I was trying to get you to notice that gay couple."
Him: "So what? So what if they're gay? Leave them alone. Let them lead their lives."
The moment he said that, I felt like I was slapped in the face and I asked myself this for a long time after: "Yeah why did I do that?" 😥
I did it without any thought. I did it because I've had people do that to me as if it's a joke.
Why would being gay be a joke?
Even if they were dressed funny, it's not right to make other feel uncomfortable. But of course, their lives are not a joke to them.
Making fun of others is not funny. It's rude and cruel.
Those two men would have wanted to go about their day without having people point, stare, laugh, mock, or talk behind their back just as I wouldn't want to happen to me.
So why did I do that to others?
When did I become the bully?
I realised I was so wrong but I didn't know what to say or how to redress it.
Years later, when my now ex-boyfriend and I caught up, I recounted that incident and thanked him for calling me out on my unconscious behaviour and promised him that I have learned since and don't do that anymore.
If anything it helped me realise we are all leading programmed and unconscious lives not questioning if what we were brought up to do and say is still right, fair or relevant. If anything that incident helped me realise my privilege of having had more exposure and fueled my desire to advocate for LGBT people.
To that date, I remain embarrassed about my behaviour in that incident, but I feel it is important to share this story. We do hurt others in our micro aggressions and it's not ok to hurt others. We are all humans sharing similar human experiences, and what we can do is be kind to one another - not just tolerate, be kind and loving. Because being loving is in our nature.
I encourage you to work through your LGBT bias and ignorance if you can as I have been. LGBT people aren't people from an alien planet. ❤
They are all around us. They are our friends, family members and esteemed members of our society. When one suffers, we all suffer.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
I’m glad and relieved! During the National Day Rally on 21st August 2022, Singapore’s Prime Minister announced that the government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Sexual orientation or gender identity does not make one any less than heterosexuals nor dangerous.
Nobody should be made to feel as such.
🌈 LGBT people come from families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 LGBT people want, need and deserve love from their families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 LGBT people do express love and do support their families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do stay in committed relationships and marriages just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do want to have children just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people might choose to use birth surrogates just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people might choose to adopt children just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do make good parents just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Above all else, LGBT people are people.
The ability to lead our lives the way we want is part of being part of any independent state.
Just as heterosexuals want to have the freedom to eat, live, breathe, work, love, and mate so do our LGBT friends. 🌈
Finally! 😍 Singapore’s Prime Minister announced that the government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Love is Love ❤
Many years ago when Pink Dot Singapore was in its first few years, I asked a friend if he was going.
He shared that he was just about to donate towards Pink Dot when a friend asked him, "Would you support Pink Dot if your child was gay?"
He revealed that question made him pause and think about whether he should support Pink Dot because apparently it's one thing to support others yet another when it directly affects him or his family.
I didn't say anything then but I do wonder to this date what I could or should have said.
Perhaps I should have asked:
"Do you think being LGBT is a choice?" and left it as it was.
Maybe I could invite him to consider:
"The same reasons you would support Pink Dot would be the reasons you would support your child."
Or maybe something more vague like:
"Love is love. Does it matter?"
Would your stance be different outwardly (others) vs internally (at home)?
What would you have said?
Do you identify as an ally?
Do you proactively educate yourself on how to be one?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares everything you need to know about Vulva Self-Examination.
What is a Vulvar Self-Exam?
A vaginal self-examination is a way for a woman to look at her vulva and vagina.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What You Need to Know about Sexual Harassment in SingaporeDr. Martha Tara Lee
Research has shown a quarter of Singaporean women and one in ten men have experienced sexual harassment, while only half reported the incident or even mentioned it to another person.
If you are a victim, it’s important not to let any feelings of embarrassment or fear of repercussion prevent you from seeking help and justice. While sexual harassment is not explicitly defined by the law, it is covered by the broader Protection from Harassment Act.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
This is a collaboration between Social Media Personality Jane Surin and Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching.
Getting a tattoo is like purchasing art, and it could also be an extension of themselves. Also, the type of work or how largely it spans all over the body can also be an attention grabber to some. Drivers behind the fascination of acquiring a tattoo may fall into four main groups, namely healing, affiliation, art and fashion.
Why We Shouldn't Judge People with Tattoos
1. Having a tattoo is never a factor of intelligence, worth, or value.
2. Tattoos are beautiful and considered art.
3. A tattoo shouldn't stop you from getting a job because it doesn't stop your performance.
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Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee reviews Twirling Fun by Satisfyer.
As somebody who works with Vaginismus clients since 2009, I was very excited when I first saw then was able to test this vibrator.
It is smaller than one smallest finger/ bullet vibrator. The body is rigid. This vibrates but the vibration isn't too strong - can also be used on/off.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares about having the perfect first kiss.
Even when one is not a teenager anymore, the experience of a memorable and perfect first kiss with your beau does not really fade away. No matter how anxious one feels, that kiss with somebody special is always something great to anticipate.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares everything about Dating Violence.
Dating violence is a pattern of assaultive and controlling behaviors that one person uses against another in order to gain or maintain power and control in the relationship.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares a Glossary of LGBTQIA+ Terms you need to know.
June is Pride Month. LGBTQIA+ is an inclusive term which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex and asexual.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What do medical professionals and sexual health authorities have to say about masturbation?
The general consensus is that solo sex can have a positive impact on one’s emotional, physical and sexual health.
💟 Give yourself a hand… and sign up for my Masturbation Month Campaign!
Sign up here: https://www.eroscoaching.com/masturbationmonth/
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Masturbation is defined as the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to reach orgasm.
Even though masturbation has been found in all societies, regardless of cultural attitudes and values, there’s still a lot of negative connotations around it.
Hence, I’d like to begin demystifying this sexual act by sharing some benefits of masturbation.
💟 Give yourself a hand… and sign up for my Masturbation Month Campaign!
Sign up here: https://www.eroscoaching.com/masturbationmonth/
💟 Subscribe to our newsletter at https://www.ErosCoaching.com so you never miss a thing!
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Are you good in bed? Have you been told? Or do you just know?
I just released this piece for Honeycombers Singapore! Here are 10 signs you're good in bed!
https://thehoneycombers.com/singapore/how-to-know-you-are-good-in-bed/
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If there is one question I am asked almost every time I meet somebody new, it is this: "Why did you become a sexologist?"
I knew as a professional sexologist, I would have the unique expertise that would allow me to contribute to the well-being of men and women - including helping them develop an understanding of their sexuality and better express themselves through sex and intimacy.
To know more about Eros Coaching, visit https://www.ErosCoaching.com
💟 Check out my courses/products here https://www.eroscoaching.com/category/products/
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New Words from my 2021 You Should Know
1. Extra
2. Salty
3. AF
4. Body Count
5. Dope
6. Snack
7. Look fly
8. Cancel Culture
9. Shut up
10. Woke Culture
11.Get out
12. Toxic Positivity
Which of these words are you familiar with?
To know more about Eros Coaching, visit https://www.ErosCoaching.com
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The Classy Way to Handle a Social Media Breakup on Social MediaDr. Martha Tara Lee
The Classy Way to Handle a Social Media Breakup on Social Media:
20 Social Media Breakup Etiquette
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
20 Sexual Terms used by Millennials by Dr Martha Tara LeeDr. Martha Tara Lee
Millennials' sexual lexicon reflects modern dating dynamics.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Your Questions about Sex Toy Injuries or Mishaps AnsweredDr. Martha Tara Lee
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee answers your questions about sex toy injuries or mishaps.
- How often do you hear about sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- What tends to lead to sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- How would you counsel to avoid common sex toy injuries or mishaps?
- What should people do if sex toy injury or mishaps happens?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Masturbation, often misunderstood, is an act of self-exploration and self-care. It fosters self-awareness, promotes relaxation, and enhances sexual satisfaction. It's a natural aspect of human sexuality, affirming one's autonomy and body positivity. Through it, individuals cultivate a deeper understanding and appreciation of their own desires and pleasures.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
5 Ways to Start Dating After Divorce 😍
Divorce is one of the most traumatic events we go through, and when we reach the proverbial "light at the end of the tunnel," many of us feel that little spring in our step and start to think dating again. So how can you start off on the right foot when you're just beginning to dip your toes back into the dating pool?
1. Identify where your marriage went wrong.
2. Take it slow.
3. Consider seeing a therapist or a counselor.
4. Be honest about your past.
5. Above all else, trust yourself.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Let's celebrate! The Singapore government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Leading Their Authentic Lives 😍
Many years ago before I began my training to be a Sexologist, I was on a movie date with my Australian boyfriend.
We were riding on a downward escalator when two men who looked like a couple came towards us on the side of the upriding escalator.
I nudged my date to get his attention and to take note of the two men. When he ignored me, I nudged him again.
When they passed us, he turned to me and asked: "Why did you do that?"
Me: "What do you mean? I was trying to get you to notice that gay couple."
Him: "So what? So what if they're gay? Leave them alone. Let them lead their lives."
The moment he said that, I felt like I was slapped in the face and I asked myself this for a long time after: "Yeah why did I do that?" 😥
I did it without any thought. I did it because I've had people do that to me as if it's a joke.
Why would being gay be a joke?
Even if they were dressed funny, it's not right to make other feel uncomfortable. But of course, their lives are not a joke to them.
Making fun of others is not funny. It's rude and cruel.
Those two men would have wanted to go about their day without having people point, stare, laugh, mock, or talk behind their back just as I wouldn't want to happen to me.
So why did I do that to others?
When did I become the bully?
I realised I was so wrong but I didn't know what to say or how to redress it.
Years later, when my now ex-boyfriend and I caught up, I recounted that incident and thanked him for calling me out on my unconscious behaviour and promised him that I have learned since and don't do that anymore.
If anything it helped me realise we are all leading programmed and unconscious lives not questioning if what we were brought up to do and say is still right, fair or relevant. If anything that incident helped me realise my privilege of having had more exposure and fueled my desire to advocate for LGBT people.
To that date, I remain embarrassed about my behaviour in that incident, but I feel it is important to share this story. We do hurt others in our micro aggressions and it's not ok to hurt others. We are all humans sharing similar human experiences, and what we can do is be kind to one another - not just tolerate, be kind and loving. Because being loving is in our nature.
I encourage you to work through your LGBT bias and ignorance if you can as I have been. LGBT people aren't people from an alien planet. ❤
They are all around us. They are our friends, family members and esteemed members of our society. When one suffers, we all suffer.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
I’m glad and relieved! During the National Day Rally on 21st August 2022, Singapore’s Prime Minister announced that the government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Sexual orientation or gender identity does not make one any less than heterosexuals nor dangerous.
Nobody should be made to feel as such.
🌈 LGBT people come from families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 LGBT people want, need and deserve love from their families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 LGBT people do express love and do support their families just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do stay in committed relationships and marriages just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do want to have children just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people might choose to use birth surrogates just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people might choose to adopt children just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Some LGBT people can and do make good parents just like heterosexuals.
🌈 Above all else, LGBT people are people.
The ability to lead our lives the way we want is part of being part of any independent state.
Just as heterosexuals want to have the freedom to eat, live, breathe, work, love, and mate so do our LGBT friends. 🌈
Finally! 😍 Singapore’s Prime Minister announced that the government will repeal Section 377A! Homosexuality has been a long-standing issue, and this historic news is a huge win for the LGBTQ+ community.
Love is Love ❤
Many years ago when Pink Dot Singapore was in its first few years, I asked a friend if he was going.
He shared that he was just about to donate towards Pink Dot when a friend asked him, "Would you support Pink Dot if your child was gay?"
He revealed that question made him pause and think about whether he should support Pink Dot because apparently it's one thing to support others yet another when it directly affects him or his family.
I didn't say anything then but I do wonder to this date what I could or should have said.
Perhaps I should have asked:
"Do you think being LGBT is a choice?" and left it as it was.
Maybe I could invite him to consider:
"The same reasons you would support Pink Dot would be the reasons you would support your child."
Or maybe something more vague like:
"Love is love. Does it matter?"
Would your stance be different outwardly (others) vs internally (at home)?
What would you have said?
Do you identify as an ally?
Do you proactively educate yourself on how to be one?
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares everything you need to know about Vulva Self-Examination.
What is a Vulvar Self-Exam?
A vaginal self-examination is a way for a woman to look at her vulva and vagina.
Created by Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Dr Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching. Hire her at http://www.ErosCoachig.com
What You Need to Know about Sexual Harassment in SingaporeDr. Martha Tara Lee
Research has shown a quarter of Singaporean women and one in ten men have experienced sexual harassment, while only half reported the incident or even mentioned it to another person.
If you are a victim, it’s important not to let any feelings of embarrassment or fear of repercussion prevent you from seeking help and justice. While sexual harassment is not explicitly defined by the law, it is covered by the broader Protection from Harassment Act.
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This is a collaboration between Social Media Personality Jane Surin and Relationship Counselor and Clinical Sexologist Martha Tara Lee of Eros Coaching.
Getting a tattoo is like purchasing art, and it could also be an extension of themselves. Also, the type of work or how largely it spans all over the body can also be an attention grabber to some. Drivers behind the fascination of acquiring a tattoo may fall into four main groups, namely healing, affiliation, art and fashion.
Why We Shouldn't Judge People with Tattoos
1. Having a tattoo is never a factor of intelligence, worth, or value.
2. Tattoos are beautiful and considered art.
3. A tattoo shouldn't stop you from getting a job because it doesn't stop your performance.
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Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee reviews Twirling Fun by Satisfyer.
As somebody who works with Vaginismus clients since 2009, I was very excited when I first saw then was able to test this vibrator.
It is smaller than one smallest finger/ bullet vibrator. The body is rigid. This vibrates but the vibration isn't too strong - can also be used on/off.
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Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares about having the perfect first kiss.
Even when one is not a teenager anymore, the experience of a memorable and perfect first kiss with your beau does not really fade away. No matter how anxious one feels, that kiss with somebody special is always something great to anticipate.
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Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares everything about Dating Violence.
Dating violence is a pattern of assaultive and controlling behaviors that one person uses against another in order to gain or maintain power and control in the relationship.
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Relationship Counselor & Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching Dr. Martha Tara Lee shares a Glossary of LGBTQIA+ Terms you need to know.
June is Pride Month. LGBTQIA+ is an inclusive term which stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, intersex and asexual.
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What do medical professionals and sexual health authorities have to say about masturbation?
The general consensus is that solo sex can have a positive impact on one’s emotional, physical and sexual health.
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Masturbation is defined as the stimulation or manipulation of one’s own genitals, especially to reach orgasm.
Even though masturbation has been found in all societies, regardless of cultural attitudes and values, there’s still a lot of negative connotations around it.
Hence, I’d like to begin demystifying this sexual act by sharing some benefits of masturbation.
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Are you good in bed? Have you been told? Or do you just know?
I just released this piece for Honeycombers Singapore! Here are 10 signs you're good in bed!
https://thehoneycombers.com/singapore/how-to-know-you-are-good-in-bed/
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If there is one question I am asked almost every time I meet somebody new, it is this: "Why did you become a sexologist?"
I knew as a professional sexologist, I would have the unique expertise that would allow me to contribute to the well-being of men and women - including helping them develop an understanding of their sexuality and better express themselves through sex and intimacy.
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New Words from my 2021 You Should Know
1. Extra
2. Salty
3. AF
4. Body Count
5. Dope
6. Snack
7. Look fly
8. Cancel Culture
9. Shut up
10. Woke Culture
11.Get out
12. Toxic Positivity
Which of these words are you familiar with?
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Read| The latest issue of The Challenger is here! We are thrilled to announce that our school paper has qualified for the NATIONAL SCHOOLS PRESS CONFERENCE (NSPC) 2024. Thank you for your unwavering support and trust. Dive into the stories that made us stand out!
Introduction to AI for Nonprofits with Tapp NetworkTechSoup
Dive into the world of AI! Experts Jon Hill and Tareq Monaur will guide you through AI's role in enhancing nonprofit websites and basic marketing strategies, making it easy to understand and apply.
This slide is special for master students (MIBS & MIFB) in UUM. Also useful for readers who are interested in the topic of contemporary Islamic banking.
Executive Directors Chat Leveraging AI for Diversity, Equity, and InclusionTechSoup
Let’s explore the intersection of technology and equity in the final session of our DEI series. Discover how AI tools, like ChatGPT, can be used to support and enhance your nonprofit's DEI initiatives. Participants will gain insights into practical AI applications and get tips for leveraging technology to advance their DEI goals.
Francesca Gottschalk - How can education support child empowerment.pptxEduSkills OECD
Francesca Gottschalk from the OECD’s Centre for Educational Research and Innovation presents at the Ask an Expert Webinar: How can education support child empowerment?
Normal Labour/ Stages of Labour/ Mechanism of LabourWasim Ak
Normal labor is also termed spontaneous labor, defined as the natural physiological process through which the fetus, placenta, and membranes are expelled from the uterus through the birth canal at term (37 to 42 weeks
Macroeconomics- Movie Location
This will be used as part of your Personal Professional Portfolio once graded.
Objective:
Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
How to Make a Field invisible in Odoo 17Celine George
It is possible to hide or invisible some fields in odoo. Commonly using “invisible” attribute in the field definition to invisible the fields. This slide will show how to make a field invisible in odoo 17.
2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
This webinar will introduce you to my framework, highlighting the key competencies I identified from my research. It will also show how anybody involved in language teaching (any language, not just English!), teacher training, managing schools or developing language learning materials can benefit from using the framework.
Biological screening of herbal drugs: Introduction and Need for
Phyto-Pharmacological Screening, New Strategies for evaluating
Natural Products, In vitro evaluation techniques for Antioxidants, Antimicrobial and Anticancer drugs. In vivo evaluation techniques
for Anti-inflammatory, Antiulcer, Anticancer, Wound healing, Antidiabetic, Hepatoprotective, Cardio protective, Diuretics and
Antifertility, Toxicity studies as per OECD guidelines