Maintaining a strong relationship is hard at the best of times. It is especially difficult when you are busy and even harder when you are in a relationship involving dominance and submission. This presentation looks at strategies for maintaining the strength of your relationships - especially a D/s relationship and most especially a 24/7 power dynamic. The full video is available to member at lifeshierarchy@gmail.com. life's Hierarchy is a confidential club for people interested in Dominance and submission.

1. Maintaining a D/s
relationship when you are
busy.
May 23, 2022 – 7.00pm

2. SIR D – Mestra – and friends

3. No participant in this discussion is an expert. We are students
rather than teachers and therefore not the font of all knowledge.
There is no claim that the content of this discussion is
comprehensive.
The purpose of this discussion is to explore an interesting issue
and encourage listeners to explore some more.
Much more can be said about maintaining a D/s relationship
when busy.– and we hope others say it on Life’s Hierarchy.
The members of Life’s Hierarchy encourage free speech. We are
also respectful of each other. Members always play the ball!

4. Maintaining any relationship when busy.
Maintaining a D/s relationship when busy.

5. Maintaining any relationship when you are
busy

6. 6 common issues
• Absorption – getting lost in your own non-relationship busyness.
• Rationalisation – ‘’I am doing this for my family.’ – work.
• Blind spots – not being aware of partners priorities and needs.
• Ignorance – Brushing off a partners attempts to get attention.
• Projection – taking stress out on a partner.
• Acceptable – taking your partner for granted.
Forgetting the importance of a TEAM

7. 6 potential solutions.
Priorities – Know what is important and put it above the imperative.
Delivery – honouring all undertakings no matter what.
Trust – maintaining honesty and integrity.
Listening – watch for the signs that your priorities are wrong.
Communicate – make time for one conversations.
Plan – compare schedules and make time for each other.

8. 6 common sense suggestions.
Events – make time for mini-dates.
Mindfulness – be in the moment when together.
Fuck – make time for frequent physical connection.
Acknowledgement – express appreciation and return favours.
Habits – develop habits that make it easier to connect.
Hobbies – maintain common hobbies and interest.

9. Our idea of a perfect hobby

10. Maintaining a D/s relationship when you are
busy.

11. 6 things making a D/s relationship different
Often one sided (and dependent on one person).
Often more time consuming. (if done well).
Often requiring more energy (at least initially).
Often more demanding (especially when tired).
Often easier to sacrifice (just go vanilla).
Often harder to integrate (with broader life).

12. 6 strategies for thriving when busy
Acknowledgement – watch for and acknowledge disconnection.
Transparency – ensure your partners knows how you are feeling.
Program – schedule play time.
Responsibility – accept and embrace your responsibility.
Avoidance – avoid exceptions.
Community – be part of a larger community.

13. 6 ideas for thriving when busy
Variety and creativity – try something new – often.
Stimulate – read together, watch together and listen together.
Projects – develop joint projects to work on together.
Share – swap and communicate ideas.
Toys – buy new toys, furniture and sex aids.
Reinforce – regularly reaffirm and reinforce your dynamic.

14. 6 things to remember
Blame is not constructive.
Romance can help.
Eat well, sleep long and exercise often.
The more you learn – the better.
Nothing beats teamwork.
Variety is the spice of life.

15. There is always something new to try

16. June 21
Frequently asked D/s questions

17. July 19
My life as a 24/7 slave
NEW SERIES

18. Thank you
Enjoy living your life your way