This document discusses how to handle divorce and the initial steps one should take. It recommends speaking to divorce professionals to learn about options and processes, as this provides important information to make decisions and reduce stress and anxiety. While family and friends can provide support, their past experiences may not apply to your situation and could add drama. The document advocates making choices based on shared goals and values after considering options evaluated with good information, rather than letting fear dictate decisions. It describes collaborative divorce as a more private, peaceful process than litigation.

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I Am Considering a Divorce – Now What?
You are up nights thinking about a divorce. You
cannot sleep.
You aren’t alone.
Sleepless nights and anxiety often occur with
divorce.. Folks just like you have dealt with and
overcome such fears, and you can too. Where do
you begin?
Speak to Professionals
Fear isn’t your friend when you need to make critical
decisions. The antidote to fear is information.
Good decision-making starts with good information, and educated professionals are
where you should start. To start with, attend a Divorce Options™ Workshop and find out
about the different types of divorce options and what they entail. Whether to divorce is a
very difficult and personal decision. The next most important decision, is HOW to
divorce. It is helpful to know what your choices are, the different processes available,
what each might look like, and what’s expected. It’s all great information to have and will
relieve a lot of stress and anxiety.
Speaking to Family and Friends About Divorce
Family and friends may be a tremendous source of support, or not. They also can be a
source of fear and anxiety. Everyone has a war story or knows somebody with a war
story. Someone else’s war stories aren’t about you or your divorce. Knowing someone
else went through a divorce may be a comfort source. But, the drama of someone else’s
divorce doesn’t need to be your drama. Every divorce is different. As with the internet,
family and friends may be an overwhelming source of good and bad information. It may
be challenging to tell the difference between toxic drama and good information. Be
mindful not to become overwhelmed and distracted by someone else’s drama while
attempting to gain information that is useful to your situation. Your BFID (Best Friend in
Divorce) is the one who keeps you calm and centered and does not add to the drama.

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Why Is It Important?
A divorce can be a lot less expensive and easier if it’s properly handled. What does that
mean? It means that decisions should be made from shared goals and values.
Decisions should be made after considering various options that are evaluated with
based on good information. Fear shouldn’t be a factor in the process of decision
making. It’s normal and reasonable to experience anxiety and fear. But instead of giving
those emotions a seat at the negotiating table, you can manage them with great
information.
The collaborative divorce process is a much more private, peaceful and respectful
divorce process than a litigated divorce.
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collaborativefamilylawsandiego.com today!
Lynn Waldman, LCSW
Coach / Child Specialist
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