The document discusses the spiritual gift of hospitality, emphasizing its value and the importance of practicing it with genuine love and warmth. It includes a series of questions to help individuals assess whether they possess this gift and references various scriptures that highlight the significance of hospitality in Christian teachings. Ultimately, it encourages the sharing of one's home and resources without expecting anything in return, reflecting God's love and kindness.

1. HOLY SPIRIT GIFT OF HOSPITALITY
EDITED BY GLENN PEASE
by Kelli Mahoney
The spiritual gift of hospitality can often be taken advantage of by those who just seek to
hurt the person. It can be easy to feel so comfortable that we forget to be grateful or we
ignore the kindness inherent in this gift. Yet the most amazing part of this gift is that it is
offered without any need for reciprocity. A person with this gift loves to share his or her
home or space without any need for you to do the same.
Is the Gift of Hospitality My Spiritual Gift?
Ask yourself the following questions. If you answer "yes" to many of them, then you may
have the spiritual gift of hospitality:
Do people just love to hang out at your house?
Is having people over something you love to do?
Are you one of the first people to greet the new people at youth group or services?
Do people feel comfortable stopping by your house out of the blue (and do you enjoy it)?
Is your home a place of ministry?
Do you enjoy planning parties and events?
Spiritual Gift of Hospitality in Scripture:
Romans 12:9-13 - "Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong.
Hold tightly to what is good. Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in
honoring each other. Neverbe lazy, but work hard and serve the Lord enthusiastically.
Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keepon praying. When God’s
people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality." NLT

2. 1 Timothy 5:8- "But those who won’t care for their relatives, especially those in their own
household, have denied the true faith. Such people are worse than unbelievers." NLT
Proverbs 27:10 - "Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family, and do not go to
your relative’s house when disaster strikes you - better a neighbor nearby than a relative
far away." NIV
Galatians 6:10- "Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good to all people, especially
to those who belong to the family of believers." NIV
2 John 1:10-11- "If anyone comes to your meeting and does not teach the truth about
Christ, don’t invite that person into your home or give any kind of encouragement. Anyone
who encourages such people becomes a partner in their evil work." NIV
Matthew 11:19- "The foreigner residing among you must be treated as your native-born.
Love them as yourself, for you were foreigners in Egypt. I am the LORD your God." NIV
John 14:2- "There is more than enough room in my Father’s home. If this were not so,
would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?" NLT
1 Peter 4:9-10- "Cheerfully share your home with those who need a meal or a place to stay.
God has given each of you a gift from his great variety of spiritual gifts. Use them well to
serve one another." NLT
Acts 16:14-15- "One of them was Lydia from Thyatira, a merchant of expensive purple
cloth, who worshiped God. As she listened to us, the Lord opened her heart, and she
accepted what Paul was saying. She was baptized along with other members of her
household, and she asked us to be her guests. If you agree that I am a true believer in the
Lord,' she said, 'come and stay at my home.' And she urged us until we agreed." NLT

3. Luke 10:38- "As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to
a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home." NLT
Hebrews 13:1-2- "Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to
show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels
without knowing it." NIV
1 Timothy 3:2- "Now the overseeris to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate,
self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach," NIV
Titus 1:8- "Rather, he must be hospitable, one who loves what is good, who is self-
controlled, upright, holy and disciplined." NIV
1 Peter4:9-10 ESV / 34 helpful votes
Showhospitalitytoone anotherwithoutgrumbling.Aseachhasreceivedagift,use itto serve one
another,as goodstewardsof God's variedgrace:
1 Peter4:9 ESV / 29 helpful votes
Showhospitalitytoone anotherwithoutgrumbling.
1 Peter4:8-10 ESV / 25 helpful votes
Above all,keeplovingone anotherearnestly,since lovecoversamultitude of sins.Show hospitalityto
one anotherwithoutgrumbling.Aseachhasreceivedagift, use ittoserve one another,asgood
stewardsof God's variedgrace:
Romans12:13 ESV / 21 helpful votes
Contribute tothe needsof the saintsandseekto show hospitality.
Hebrews13:2 ESV / 20 helpful votes
Do not neglecttoshowhospitalitytostrangers,fortherebysome have entertainedangelsunawares.

4. 1 Timothy3:2 ESV / 20 helpful votes
Therefore anoverseermustbe above reproach,the husbandof one wife,sober-minded,self-controlled,
respectable,hospitable,able toteach,
Romans12:8 ESV / 19 helpfulvotes
The one whoexhorts,inhisexhortation;the one whocontributes,ingenerosity;the one wholeads,
withzeal;the one whodoesacts of mercy,withcheerfulness.
Romans12:6-8 ESV / 13 helpful votes
Havinggiftsthat differaccordingtothe grace giventous,letus use them:if prophecy,inproportionto
our faith;if service,inourserving;the one whoteaches,inhisteaching;the one whoexhorts,inhis
exhortation;the one whocontributes,ingenerosity;the one wholeads,withzeal;the one whodoes
acts of mercy,withcheerfulness.
1 Corinthians12:28 ESV / 12 helpful votes
AndGod has appointedinthe churchfirstapostles,secondprophets,thirdteachers,thenmiracles,then
giftsof healing,helping,administrating,and variouskindsof tongues.
3 John1:5-8 ESV /7 helpful votes
Beloved,itisafaithful thingyoudoinall your effortsforthese brothers,strangersastheyare,who
testifiedtoyourlove before the church.Youwill dowell tosendthemontheirjourneyina manner
worthyof God. For theyhave gone out forthe sake of the name,acceptingnothingfromthe Gentiles.
Therefore we oughttosupportpeople likethese,thatwe maybe fellow workersforthe truth.
1 Corinthians14:1 ESV / 6 helpful votes
Pursue love,andearnestlydesire the spiritualgifts,especiallythatyoumayprophesy.
1 Corinthians12:1-31 ESV / 6 helpfulvotes
Nowconcerningspiritual gifts,brothers,Idonotwant youto be uninformed.Youknow thatwhenyou
were pagansyouwere ledastrayto mute idols,howeveryouwere led.Therefore Iwantyouto
understandthatno one speakinginthe Spiritof Godeversays“Jesusisaccursed!” andno one can say
“JesusisLord” exceptinthe HolySpirit.Now there are varietiesof gifts,butthe same Spirit;andthere
are varietiesof service,butthe same Lord;...
Romans12:7 ESV / 6 helpful votes
If service,inourserving;the one whoteaches,inhisteaching;
Matthew25:34-36 ESV / 6 helpful votes

5. Thenthe Kingwill sayto those onhis right,‘Come,youwhoare blessedbymyFather,inheritthe
kingdompreparedforyoufromthe foundationof the world.ForI washungryand you gave me food,I
was thirstyandyougave me drink,I wasa stranger andyou welcomedme,Iwasnakedandyouclothed
me,I was sickand youvisitedme,Iwasinprisonand youcame to me.’
Romans12:1-21 ESV / 5 helpful votes
I appeal toyou therefore,brothers,bythe merciesof God,topresentyourbodiesasa livingsacrifice,
holyand acceptable toGod,which is yourspiritual worship.Donotbe conformedtothisworld,butbe
transformedbythe renewal of yourmind,thatby testingyoumaydiscernwhatisthe will of God, what
isgood and acceptable andperfect.Forbythe grace giventome I sayto everyone amongyounotto
thinkof himself more highlythanhe oughtto think,butto thinkwithsoberjudgment,eachaccordingto
the measure of faiththat God has assigned.Forasinone bodywe have manymembers,andthe
membersdonotall have the same function, sowe,thoughmany,are one bodyin Christ,and
individuallymembersone of another....
Acts 18:24-28 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Nowa JewnamedApollos,anative of Alexandria,came toEphesus.He wasan eloquentman,
competentinthe Scriptures.He hadbeeninstructedinthe wayof the Lord. Andbeingferventinspirit,
he spoke and taughtaccuratelythe thingsconcerningJesus,thoughhe knew onlythe baptismof John.
He beganto speakboldlyinthe synagogue,butwhenPriscillaandAquilaheardhim, they tookhimand
explainedtohimthe wayof God more accurately.Andwhenhe wishedtocrossto Achaia,the brothers
encouragedhimandwrote to the disciplestowelcomehim.Whenhe arrived,he greatlyhelpedthose
whothroughgrace had believed,forhe powerfullyrefutedthe Jewsinpublic,showingbythe Scriptures
that the Christwas Jesus.
Luke 10:30-37 ESV / 5 helpful votes
Jesusreplied,“A manwas goingdownfromJerusalemtoJericho,andhe fell amongrobbers,who
strippedhimandbeathimand departed,leavinghimhalf dead.Now bychance a priestwasgoingdown
that road,and whenhe saw himhe passedbyon the otherside.SolikewiseaLevite,whenhe came to
the place and saw him,passedbyonthe otherside.Buta Samaritan,as he journeyed,came towhere he
was,and whenhe sawhim,he hadcompassion.He wenttohim andboundup hiswounds,pouringon
oil and wine.Thenhe sethimonhisown animal andbroughthimto an innand tookcare of him....
1 Peter4:10-11 ESV / 4 helpful votes
As eachhas receivedagift,use itto serve one another,asgoodstewardsof God's variedgrace:whoever
speaks,asone who speaksoraclesof God;whoeverserves,asone whoservesbythe strengththatGod
supplies—inorderthatineverythingGodmaybe glorifiedthroughJesusChrist.Tohimbelonggloryand
dominionforeverandever.Amen.
Ephesians4:11 ESV / 4 helpful votes

6. Andhe gave the apostles,the prophets,the evangelists,the shepherdsandteachers,
1 Corinthians12:11 ESV / 4 helpful votes
All these are empoweredbyone andthe same Spirit,whoapportionstoeachone individuallyashe
wills.
1 Corinthians12:10 ESV / 4 helpful votes
To anotherthe workingof miracles,toanotherprophecy,toanotherthe abilitytodistinguishbetween
spirits,toanothervariouskindsof tongues,toanotherthe interpretationof tongues.
Romans12:6 ESV / 4 helpful votes
Havinggiftsthat differaccordingtothe grace giventous,letus use them:if prophecy,inproportionto
our faith;
Genesis18:1-15 ESV / 4 helpful votes
Andthe Lord appearedtohimbythe oaksof Mamre,as he sat at the door of histentinthe heat of the
day.He lifteduphiseyesandlooked,andbehold,three menwere standinginfrontof him.Whenhe
saw them,he ran fromthe tentdoor to meetthemandbowedhimself tothe earthandsaid,“O Lord, if I
have foundfavorinyour sight,donot passby your servant.Leta little waterbe brought,andwashyour
feet,andrestyourselvesunderthe tree,while Ibringamorsel of bread, that youmay refresh
yourselves,andafterthatyoumay pass on—since youhave come toyourservant.”So theysaid,“Do as
youhave said.”...
1 Peter3:15 ESV / 3 helpful votes
But inyour heartshonorChristthe Lord as holy,alwaysbeingpreparedtomake a defense toanyone
whoasks youfor a reasonfor the hope that isinyou; yetdo itwithgentlenessandrespect,
James2:14-17 ESV / 3 helpful votes
What goodis it,my brothers,if someone sayshe hasfaithbutdoesnothave works?Can that faithsave
him?If a brotheror sisterispoorlyclothedandlackingindailyfood,andone of yousays to them, “Go in
peace,be warmedandfilled,”withoutgivingthemthe thingsneededforthe body,whatgoodisthat?
So alsofaithbyitself,if itdoesnothave works,isdead.
2 Timothy4:1-2 ESV / 3 helpful votes
I charge youinthe presence of Godand of ChristJesus,whoisto judge the livingandthe dead,andby
hisappearingandhiskingdom:preachthe word;be readyinseasonandout of season;reprove,rebuke,
and exhort,withcompletepatience andteaching.
Galatians5:13 ESV / 3 helpful votes

7. For youwere calledtofreedom,brothers.Onlydonotuse yourfreedomasanopportunityforthe flesh,
but throughlove serve one another.
1 Corinthians13:9 ESV / 3 helpful votes
For we knowinpart and we prophesyinpart,
1 Corinthians12:9 ESV / 3 helpful votes
To anotherfaithby the same Spirit,toanothergiftsof healingbythe one Spirit,
1 Corinthians12:8 ESV / 3 helpful votes
For to one isgiventhroughthe Spiritthe utterance of wisdom, andtoanotherthe utterance of
knowledge accordingtothe same Spirit,
1 Corinthians12:8-11 ESV / 3 helpfulvotes
For to one isgiventhroughthe Spiritthe utterance of wisdom, andtoanotherthe utterance of
knowledge accordingtothe same Spirit,toanotherfaithbythe same Spirit,toanothergiftsof healing
by the one Spirit,toanotherthe workingof miracles,toanotherprophecy,toanotherthe abilityto
distinguishbetweenspirits,toanothervariouskindsof tongues,toanotherthe interpretationof
tongues.All these are empoweredbyone andthe same Spirit,whoapportionstoeachone individually
as he wills.
1 Corinthians12:7 ESV / 3 helpful votes
To each isgiventhe manifestationof the Spiritforthe commongood.
1 Corinthians12:4-6 ESV / 3 helpful votes
Nowthere are varietiesof gifts,butthe same Spirit;andthere are varietiesof service,butthe same
Lord; and there are varietiesof activities,butitisthe same God whoempowersthemall ineveryone.
1 Corinthians12:1-14:40 ESV / 3 helpful votes
Nowconcerningspiritual gifts,brothers,Idonotwant youto be uninformed.Youknow thatwhenyou
were pagansyouwere ledastrayto mute idols,howeveryouwere led.Therefore Iwantyouto
understandthatno one speakinginthe Spiritof Godeversays “Jesusisaccursed!” andno one can say
“JesusisLord” exceptinthe HolySpirit.Now there are varietiesof gifts,butthe same Spirit;andthere
are varietiesof service,butthe same Lord;...
1 Corinthians12:1 ESV / 3 helpful votes
Nowconcerningspiritual gifts,brothers,Idonotwant youto be uninformed.
Mark 5:1-43 ESV / 3 helpful votes

8. Theycame to the otherside of the sea,to the country of the Gerasenes.AndwhenJesushadstepped
out of the boat, immediatelytheremethimoutof the tombsa manwithan uncleanspirit.He lived
amongthe tombs.Andno one couldbindhimanymore,notevenwithachain,for he had oftenbeen
boundwithshacklesandchains,buthe wrenchedthe chainsapart,and he broke the shacklesinpieces.
No one hadthe strengthtosubdue him.Nightanddayamong the tombsand on the mountainshe was
alwayscryingout andcuttinghimself withstones....
Deuteronomy18:20 ESV / 3 helpfulvotes
But the prophetwhopresumestospeaka wordinmy name that I have not commandedhimtospeak,
or whospeaksinthe name of othergods,that same prophetshall die.’
James1:17 ESV / 2 helpful votes
Everygood giftandeveryperfectgiftisfromabove,comingdownfromthe Fatherof lightswithwhom
there isno variationorshadowdue to change.
1 Timothy4:14 ESV / 2 helpful votes
Do not neglectthe giftyouhave,whichwasgivenyoubyprophecywhenthe council of elderslaidtheir
handson you.
Galatians5:22-23 ESV / 2 helpful votes
But the fruitof the Spiritislove,joy,peace,patience,kindness,goodness,faithfulness,gentleness,self-
control;againstsuch thingsthere isnolaw.
1 Corinthians14:5 ESV / 2 helpful votes
NowI wantyou all to speakintongues,butevenmore toprophesy.The one whoprophesiesisgreater
than the one whospeaksintongues,unlesssomeone interprets,sothatthe church maybe builtup.
1 Corinthians14:3 ESV / 2 helpful votes
On the otherhand,the one whoprophesiesspeakstopeoplefortheirupbuildingandencouragement
and consolation.
1 Corinthians14:1-40 ESV / 2 helpfulvotes
Pursue love,andearnestlydesire the spiritualgifts,especiallythatyoumayprophesy.Forone who
speaksina tongue speaksnotto menbut to God; forno one understandshim, buthe uttersmysteries
inthe Spirit.Onthe otherhand,the one who prophesiesspeakstopeoplefortheirupbuildingand
encouragementandconsolation.The one whospeaksinatongue buildsuphimself,butthe one who
prophesiesbuildsupthe church.NowIwant youall to speak intongues,butevenmore to prophesy.
The one whoprophesiesisgreaterthanthe one whospeaksintongues,unlesssomeone interprets,so
that the church may be builtup....

9. 1 Corinthians13:8 ESV / 2 helpful votes
Love neverends.Asforprophecies,theywill passaway;asfor tongues,theywillcease;asfor
knowledge,itwill passaway.
1 Corinthians13:1-13 ESV / 2 helpfulvotesHelpful NotHelpful
If I speakinthe tonguesof menand of angels,buthave notlove,I am a noisygongor a clangingcymbal.
Andif I have propheticpowers,andunderstandall mysteriesandall knowledge,andif Ihave all faith,so
as to remove mountains,buthave notlove,Iamnothing.If I give awayall I have,andif I deliverup my
bodyto be burned,buthave not love,Igainnothing.Love ispatientandkind;love doesnotenvyor
boast;it isnot arrogant or rude.It doesnotinsistonits ownway;it isnot irritable orresentful;...
Hospitality
The giftof hospitalityis the abilitytoenjoymeetingnew peopleandprovidingawarm welcome,food,
friendship,orshelter.
Scriptural References
Genesis18:1-8, 1 Kings17:8-24, Matthew 10:40-42, Matthew 25:34-40, Acts 16:14-15, Romans16:23,
Titus1:7-8, Hebrews13:1-2, 1 Peter4:9
Biblical Models
Abrahamand Sarah,WidowElijahstayedwith,Peter’smother,Martha,Lydia
People withthisgiftcan
Create a warm,welcomingenvironment.
Meetnewpeople andhelpthemfeel welcome.
Provide asafe and comfortable settingwhere relationshipscanbe built.
Connectpeople together.
Setpeople atease.
Cautions
Familymembersmaysuffer.

10. May see other’snatural reserve asunfriendly.
May burnout.
Personal Traits
Caring
Friendly
Sincere
Outgoing
Sensitive
Peacemaker
Trustworthy
Inviting
Tipsfor nurturingthisgift
Let yourchurch knowthisis yourgift.
Considerofferingtohostsmall groupsinyourhome.
Possible Tasks
Small grouphost,greeter/usher,hostingfellowshipevents,visitingnew comers,…
Notto be confusedwiththe responsibilityof all Christiansto…
Greetothersgraciously.
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11. A giftedstory:"Mom,there'san oldguyat the back door,"youngPete'svoice soundedanxious.Meribel
wentstraightto the door andwelcomedthe strangerin."Setyourself downhere inthe kitchen,"she
saidwarmly."I've gotsomethinghere Ithinkyou'll like."Thenshe carvedhimabig slice of hamand
heapedfreshly-cookedbeansonthe plate withathickpiece of homemade breadonthe side.Itwas a
ritual Meribel wentthroughoftenwhen"tramps"came bye,astheyoftendidbecause the wordwasout
that she was a kindlylady.Yearsbefore,whenherfatherdisappearedone day,she vowednevertoleta
strangergo hungry.God gave her the giftof hospitality.
Biblical references:
1 Peter4:9-10 - Openyourhomestoeach otherwithoutcomplaining.Eachone,asa goodmanagerof
God’sdifferentgifts,mustuse forthe goodof othersthe special gifthe has receivedfromGod.
Hebrews13:2 - Remembertowelcome strangersinyourhomes.There were some whodidthatand
welcomedangelswithoutknowingit.
Romans16:23 - My hostGaius,inwhose house the churchmeets,sendsyouhisgreetings…
Genesis18:1-15 - The Lord appearedtoAbrahamat the sacredtreesof Mamre. As Abrahamwassitting
at the entrance of histentduringthe hottestpart of the day, he lookedupandsaw three menstanding
there.Assoonas he sawthem,he ran out to meetthem.Bowingdown withhisface touchingthe
ground,he said,“Sirs,please donotpass by myhome withoutstopping;Iamhere to serve you.Letme
bringsome waterfor youto washyour feet;youcan resthere beneaththistree.Iwill alsobringabit of
food;it will give youstrengthtocontinue yourjourney.Youhave honoredme bycomingtomy home,so
letme serve you.”
Definitionandcomment:
The giftof Hospitality:the specialgiftwherebythe HolySpiritenablescertainChristianstoopentheir
homeswillinglyand offerlodging,food,andfellowshipcheerfullytootherpeople.Thisgiftcausesthe
believertojoyfullyopenhisorherhome formeetingsandovernightvisitors,makingpeople feel
welcome andcomfortable.Guestsandstrangersare graciouslyserved.

12. The Greekword for“hospitality”isphiloxenia,meaning,“love of strangers.”The hospitablepersonis
comfortable entertainingothers - family,relatives,friendstobe sure,butmostespeciallywhen
welcomingstrangers.People withthisgifthave aspecial sensitivitywithothers,andtheyknow howto
make people feelatease andwanted.Makingstrangersfeel comfortable andathome takesthe formof
a ministrythathelpsdispel lonelinessandbuildsasense of community.
Hospitalitywasnotmentionedspecificallyasa giftinscripture,butthere iswide acceptance of
hospitalityasagiftbecause itwas usedeffectivelytobuildupthe bodyandalsofor communityministry.
All Christiansshouldbe hospitable toone another - itis a Christiandutytobe kindtostrangers.Some
Christians,however,feel drawntoreachoutto strangersand to invite themintotheirhome - evidence
of a supernatural gift.
Affirmthatyouhave thisgift;questionstoaskyourself:
Do youenjoyprovidingahavenforguestsandnot feel imposeduponbyunexpectedvisitors?
Do youhave a knackfor makingstrangersfeel atease inyourhome and at church?
Are you sensitive tothe actsof kindnesswhichmake people feelcomfortable?
Is yourhome usuallyopentopeople passingthroughwhoneedaplace to stay?
Do youenjoyparticipatinginchurchsuppersorothereventsthatwelcome people tothe church?
Areasfor studyandpersonal growth:
Studyscriptural referencestohospitalitytogaina full appreciationof all thatisimpliedin“loving
strangers”as well aswhoshouldandshouldnotbe extendedthiscourtesy:Rom.12:13; 1 Pet.4:9; Heb.
13:2; 1 Tim.3:2, 5:10; Titus1:8; Genesis18:1-115; 2 John10-11; 3 John5-8, 10. Payparticularattention
to the story of AquilaandPriscillainActs18:24-26.
Learn aboutwhat ittakesto be trulyhospitable.Contemplate waysinwhichyoucaninsure thatthose
invitedintoyourhome will be giventhe bestof care and service andwill enjoythemselves.
Understandingthatthisisa giftyou have beengiven,doall youcanto exercise itatthe highestlevel.
Expandyour abilitiesforentertainingbydevelopingafile of recipesfordifferenttastes,havingonhand
a varietyof gamesand activitiesforawide range of interests,andcreate a space utilizationplanforhow
youwill shufflefamilyorfurniture quicklytoaccommodate unexpectedguests.Trainthe familysothat
theyknowhowto assistincreatinga warm welcome whenthe needarises.
Become aware of the hospitalityneedsof the church,and make knownyourwillingnesstohouse people
inneedof overnightlodging.Offeryourhome forspecificchurch-relatedgatherings(biblestudy,

13. meetings,andfellowship),andmake suggestionsthatwouldcreate opportunitiesforyoutouse your
special gift.
Developaspecial ministryof yourownthatwill capitalizeonyourgiftof hospitality - forinstance,bring
togethernewchurchmembersfora social eveningtohelpthemgettoknow one another.
General waysto use the giftof hospitality:
Personally:displaygraciousopennesstostrangers;entertaininyourhome;welcome intoyourhome.
Withinthe church: be a greeter;make welcome callstoprospective members;helpnew members
become orientedtoandincorporatedintothe church(see more specificchurchservice opportunitiesin
the BookletChannelsforUsingthe Gifts).
Withinthe widercommunity:befriendforeignstudents;becomeinvolvedinrefugee resettlement;
volunteerata nursinghome tooffercompanionshiptothe elderly.
For reflection:
Hospitalitycouldbe calledthe “makingfriendsgift”because itisthe greatbridge-builderbetween
people.Perhapsitwasthe qualitytappedinoldentimeswhena“match-maker”wasemployedtobring
a boy and girl together.Mostpeople have anatural reluctance orshynesswhenitcomestomeeting
people orapproachingothersaboutpossiblygettingtogether.There isafearof rejection.Butonneutral
territoryitis natural to converse,the firststepinmakingfriendships.People withthe giftof hospitality
can offerthat neutral territorybybringinglonelyfolksintotheirhomesandhelpingthemminglewith
others.Itis a great service.
Graciousnessisa wonderful qualitythatisbornoutof a genuine love forothers.Peoplewiththe giftof
hospitalityjustsimplylike people,anditshows.Theyare involvedinupliftingspirits,andtheyare good
at it because Godgave thema special pizzazzorcharisma(whichmeansgifted) thatenablesthemto
helppeople feel includedandenjoyedaspersons.
Andso the strangercomesalong,doesn’tknow anyone inthe area,noone to talkwith,anddestinedfor
a lonelynight- probablyhe doesn’tevenfeellikegoingouttoeatalone.But maybe Godwill leadthe
strangerto hisdisciple withthe giftof hospitality.Itiseasyto see how the eveningwouldbe gloriously
changedas a result.To be touchedinthisfashioninthe name of Christis time-honoredasameansof
introducingpeopletohim.Christianityspreadthroughoutthe world,notbycrowdstalkingtocrowds,
but byindividual Christiansmakingfriends,beingfriends,andbringingtheirnew friendstoChrist.
Bringingsomeone intoyourhome isanunmistakableactof friendship.NowonderGodbestowsitasa
special gift!

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The Gift of Holy Hospitality
June 10, 2014 byLisa Schmidt5 Comments
Foundon a the side of a buildingat,where else,ConceptionAbbey
ThroughoutChristianhistory,hospitalityhasbeenregardedasa sacredresponsibility.From Chapter53
of the The Rule of St. Benedict, “Letall guestswhoarrive be receivedasChrist,because He will say:“I
was a strangerand youtook Me in”(Mt 25:35).”
More simply,whoeverwelcomesthe stranger,welcomesJesus.Â
In chapter2 of The Little Oratory:A Beginner’sGuide toPrayinginthe Home, the authorsexplore family
and the home and focuson thisgiftof hospitality.
The spiritof [a] home ispalpable tothe visitor,justasthe visitorfeelssomethingreal uponenteringa
church. The strangergoesaway takinga piece of itin hisheart,beingaffirmedinhisownuniquecalling.
A persondoesn’tlose hisidentityuponbeingwelcomedintoareal,lovinghome;rather,he finds
somethinginhimself he didn’tknowbefore.The experience of beinginahappyhome drawsforth love
inits inhabitants andinitsguests.Â
… The home shouldbe a place where apersoncan findrest,yes,andfood.But itshouldalsobe a place
where friendsandfamilycangathertoenjoyeachother’scompany — to relax andjust have fun.Andit
shouldbe a place to share the Faithand our devotionaswell.
While we all have arole inwelcomingpeople intoourhomes,itseemssome people are empoweredto
do so ina special way,doesn’tit?Peoplewhohave thisgift,orcharism, are energizedbythe veryactof
caring for othersandprovidingfood,shelter,andfriendship.Dothese thoughtsbringtomindaperson,
maybe evenafamily,superchargedwiththis charismof hospitality?Ihave a familyinmindwhoÂ
bleedsit,holyhospitality thatis.Thisfamilyisconstantly welcomingotherstotheirhome for

15. holidays,specialmeetings,babyshowersforwomenincrisispregnancysituations,ortooffera respite
to a tiredmom andher childrenwhile herhusbandtravelsforwork…the listgoeson.
Whenthe father-daughterdance fell onaweekendwhenJoel wasawayfordeaconformation,itwas
the Mr. of thisfamilywhowasa surrogate fathertoour daughter forthe evening.Whenthe Mrs.
recentlycelebratedherbirthday,Idroppedbywithacouple of lattessowe could visitwhilethe kids
played.WhenmykidsandI were packingupto leave,she sentme awaywitha plateful of cookies.Did
youcatch that,on HER birthday,Iwasthe one cashinginwitha few sweettreats.And whenshe
broughtus a meal afterLydiawas born,somehow she evenmade me feelmore comfortableinmyÂ
home.Whoare these people? Idon’tcare if they’re fromMars (theyare kindof crazy).What matters
istheyare friendstomyfamilyandto somany otherfamilieshereinthe DesMoinesarea.Theyare a
giftto our largerfaithcommunity;theirkindnessfeedssomany.
Hospitalityforthemisnotso mucha taskas a way of livingtheirlivesandof sharingthemselvesand
theirfaith.Theirhome isinviting,comfortable,orderedyetlivedin.The Mrs.of that house might
disagree,butittrulyisa sanctuary — body,soul,andspiritandare fedbytheirattentiontosmall
details.A statue of St.Michael the Archangel sitshere,aprint of the Sacred Heart of Jesushangsthere,
handcraftedStationsof the Crossmade of craft stickssiton the mantle,rosarieshangfromhere and
there andanywhere,aholywaterfontcarefullyplacedsothatvisitorsandfamilymemberscanbless
themselvesastheycome andgo, handcraftedbookshelvesstackedwithÂrichliterature,furniture
arrangedin justa way to fosterconversationandnottelevisionwatching.Andthenthere are theirkids’
paintingsandart work,framedand prominentlyplacedthroughoutthe home.HadI hadmy act
together,Iwouldhave dropped bytheirhouse andsnappedsome photostoshare withthispost.But
thenagain,IÂ don’t wantto leave withanotherplateful of goodies!;-)
DorothyDay, founderof the CatholicWorkerMovement,isquotedassaying,“Itisalwaysa feastwhere
love is,and where love is,Godis.” My friends’home bleedslove,andvisitingthere drawsforthlove in
me,too.Hospitalityisnota natural charism of mine.WhenIcompletedthe Catherineof Siena
Institute’sCalled&Giftedworkshop several yearsago,the gift of hospitalitywaslow onmylistof
charisms.Sure, Ican throw dinnerparties.Butthere’salotmore to hospitalitythanbuildinga
Pinterest-worthytable setting.
Hospitalityflowsfrom the heart;it’sfirstanact of love.WhenIfirsttookthe charismsinventory,Joel
and I were newlymarriedDINKs(double income,nokids).Sincehavingchildren,the HolySpirithas
giftedme withthe gracesto be more hospitable,togive more freelyof myself andmyresources.I
have a hunch that if I tookthe inventoryagain,myhospitalityscore wouldnow be higher.
Hospitalitywill notsignificantlyoccurinour livesunlesswe give itdeliberate attention,rootedfirstin
prayer.For now,I pray the HolySpiritwill enlighten me asIcontemplate these questions:Whatare the
characteristicsof a hospitable space? How canI make a place for hospitalityinmylife andhome?Â
Lucky forme,Chapter2 of The Little Oratory sharesideasaplenty.Alsoluckyforme,myfriendswhoIÂ
write aboutabove are bringing outthe hospitalitywithinme,too.

16. AÂ fewmore resourcesonthe giftof hospitality:
The Gift of Hospitality:InChurch,inthe Home,inAll of Life by DeliaHalverson
Making Room:RecoveringHospitalityasaChristianTraditionbyChristine Pohl
Thispost islinkedtoSummerinthe Little Oratory hostedatElizabethFoss’sdigitalhome.
author:Bill Webb,Word & Way Editor
Hospitalityismore thana spiritual gift
Hospitalityisoftenidentifiedasaspiritual giftwiththe emphasisonreceivingor havingthe gift.Butas
much as anyother gift,the biblical reference emphasizesthatapersonreceivesitfromGodto
winsomelyblessothers.
Bill Webb
In the Bible,hospitalityisauniversal command,adivine expectation.Itisrootedinattitude,andit
reflectssomethingof Christinitsjoyful application.
Too often,referencestohospitalityasaspiritual giftare expressedinthe negative,i.e.,“IwishIhad the
giftof hospitality,butIdon’t.”Or,“I don’thave a nice enoughhouse.”Or,“I simplycan’taffordtooffer
hospitality.”
To choose not to showhospitality — forwhateverreason — istobe inhospitable.Andthere isnosuch
thingas the spiritual giftof “inhospitality.”
The hospitalitystereotypeenvisionsapersonhostingguestsandservingascrumptiousmeal tothem
whethertheybe family,friends,dignitariesorstrangers.Orat leastofferingupaslice of fresh-bakedpie
and a cup of pipinghotcoffee ora refreshingcool drink.Orofferingaclean,comfortable bedtoan
overnightvisitor.
Obviously,somehostsandhostessescandosuchthingswithpanache — or flamboyantly.Whowould
not wantto experience suchhospitality?!
However,atitsheart,hospitalityisnotanextensionof wealth;itisthe extensionof self,regardlessof
means.

17. Many a church missionteammemberhasextendedministrytoapersoninneed — sometimes
desperate need — onlytobe offeredinreturnadrinkor a lightsnack,fullyaware thatit iscomingfrom
a personwhomay be offeringsuchrefreshmentssacrificially.
To exercise hospitalityistoextendlovingcare andacceptance to another.Tosome,thisexercise is
almostautomatic.Overtime itbecomesthe natural response of some people.
To others,frankly,the thoughtof extendingkindnessinsucha waysimplydoesnotregister.Insucha
setting,apersonmovesonherway perhapswonderingwhethershe wasevenwelcomeinthe first
place.
The absence of the “h” word — hospitality — communicatesjustasstronglyorevenmore strongly —
than itspresence.Bothof these polar-opposite experiencesleave alastingeffect.
Likelymostpeople have experiencedbothhospitalityandinhospitality.We rememberthe caring,even
lovingexperience andanticipate returningtoexperience itagain.We alsorememberbeingtreatedless
than kindly.
In the Bible,boththe OldandNewTestamentscommendhospitality,especiallytostrangers.That
notionlikelysoundsabitforeigntomodernAmericans.We’vegrownwaryandevenfearful of most
“foreigners”andotherstrangers.Manyof ushave beenraisedtoavoidpeople we donotalreadyknow.
We can love andshowcare for relatives — atleastmostof them — and friends,butwe wouldrather
run backgroundcheckson strangersbefore evenslightlyextendingourselvestothem.
To be sure,mostof us are not nomadiclike HolyLandtypesinJesus’day(andmanytoday).Formany
travelersbackthen,the nexttentor otherhome wasconsideredanoutpostforrestand nourishment.
Hospitalitywasexpectedandrarelydenied.
Traditionally,the inhabitantsof these homesanticipatedguestsandgladlyofferedanight’srestand
foodto satisfya tiredandhungrytraveler.Travelersbenefitedfromhospitality,andhostsenjoyed
conversingwiththeirtravelingguests,learningmore aboutthemandperhapscombatinglonelinessin
isolatedplaces.Thisisstill acharacteristicof peopleinthatpart of the world.
Sensitiveinternational travelerstodayrealize thatriskingillnessbyacceptingacupof local wateris
hardlythe worstthingthat can happeninanencounter.Manyagree that turningdownsincere
hospitalitycanbe farmore hurtful tothe generoushostanddamagingto the relationship.
I recall visitingaChristiancouple inapicturesque forestedareaof Ecuador.Theywere people of limited
means.The hostessworkedhardtoprepare a meal for us,and the menuincludedatleasta couple of
itemsthatwere strange to some of us. Nevertheless,we ate heartilyand,asitturnedout,enjoyedthe
meal.
The hostesscommentedafterwe hadeatenthat — unlike some previousguestsof ournationality — we
didnot shyaway fromthe meal or particularfoods.Onthe contrary,we eventook“seconds”when

18. offered.She waspleasedthatherfoodwasenjoyedandherhardwork wasappreciated.Herhungry
guestshadhonoredhereffort.
To state the obvious,hospitalityshouldalwaysbe extendedand,whenoffered,shouldalwaysbe
receivedwithgratitude.
Bill Webbiseditorof Word & Way.
How to Change the WorldwithChristianHospitality
Whenwe openour heartsas well asour homes,we’re practicingbiblical hospitality.
by KathyChapmanSharp onMonday, February29, 2016 at 11:03 AM
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If you're like mostpeople,youprobablythinkpracticingChristianhospitalityisequivalenttowhat
you've seeninmagazines.
Andif you're like me,youendup feelingdepressedandinadequatebecause youdon'tquite see your
effortsmeasuringuptothe glossypages.
But take heart:practicingChristianhospitalityisn'taboutglamoroustable settingsorplattersof picture-
perfectfood;it'saboutpracticingservanthood.More importantly,it'saboutlovingothersthroughChrist
and makingpeople feel special.
Spiritual GiftorScriptural Mandate?
While noteveryone feelscomfortable atthe helmof a social event,some folkshave anatural talentfor
makingguestsfeel special.Youmightthinkthose hospitalitygenesare inherited,butthat'sa myth.
Hospitalitytakesonaddeddimensionsandnew definitionswhenseenthroughthe lensof Christianity.
Some Christianspossesshospitalityasa spiritual gift.The Bible tellsusthateverybelieverisgivenat
leastone spiritual giftforthe purpose of buildingupGod'schurch and servingthe bodyof Christ.In
otherwords,our giftsare givennotfor our ownbenefit,butforthe enrichmentof others.We shouldbe
servingthose aroundus,includingthe bodyof believers,familyandfriends.

19. Romans12:13, however,encouragesusall topractice hospitality,whetheritisourspiritual giftornot.
In fact,the Greekwordphilozeniaisactuallyacombinationof twowords—philos,meaning"affection"
and zenos,meaning"stranger."While usuallytranslatedtomeanhospitality,philozeniasignifies
affectiontowardstrangers.
Above all,maintainanintense love foreachother,since love coversamultitudeof sins.Be hospitable to
one anotherwithoutcomplaining.Basedonthe gifteachone hasreceived,use ittoserve others,as
goodmanagersof the variedgrace of God.
1 Peter4:8-10
St. Benedictupheldthat"hospitalitymaintainsaprominenceinthe living(Christian) tradition... the
guestrepresentsChristandhasa claimon the welcome andcare of the community."Inotherwords,if
we love one another,Godabidesinusand His love isperfectedwithinusandisshoweredonthose with
whomwe come in contact.
The Book of 1 Johnmakesit plainthatwhenwe love others,we are showingourlove forGod.He loves
us completelyandunconditionally.Equally,whenwe loveandserve othersinthe communitythrough
hospitality,we are alsoservingGod.
Whetherwe have the spiritual giftof hospitalityornot,itcan be a part of our way of life.
Hospitality:OpenHands, OpenHearts,OpenDoors
None of us denythatit's easiertoshare hospitalitywithfamilyandfriendsthanwiththe strangeronthe
street.Butthe NewTestamentteachesusthatChristianityisthe religionof openhands,openhearts
and opendoors.When we openourhearts as well asourhomes,we're practicingChristianhospitality.
While the art of hospitalitymaycome easyforsome,itmay be quite difficultforothers.Afterall,it'snot
alwayseasyto give of yourself,muchlessyourhard-earnedgains.Andlike mostthingsinlife,hospitality
isn'tdone perfectlythe firsttime.Butdon'tstoptrying.Whenwe do itoverand over,ittrulybecomesa
comfortable partof our nature.It's all inperspective.
Many people choose tofocusonwhat theydon't have insteadof focusingonsharingthe blessingsof
God. So give ita try. Somewherealongthe way,you'll realize thatpeopleare notinyour home forthe
unlimitedentertainingbudget.Rather,theysenselovingkindnessandgenuine concern.That'sthe
momentwhenyourhome becomesasanctuaryfor those Godsendsyourway.
ChangingYour Cornerof the World withHospitality
Justthink:if Christianswouldpractice true hospitality,we couldplayasignificantpartinchangingour
corner of the world.Afterall,we are livingmiraclesandhave somuchto share.
The bottom line isthatGod can use people like youandme totouch lives.Itdoesn'tmatterif we rentor
owna house oran apartment;our homesare an extensionof ourselves.Whenwe practice hospitality,
we have the opportunitytotouchlivesinan intimate,personal way.Be bold:Godhasnot onlygivenyou

20. the roof overyourhead,but alsowill give youthe love andwisdomneededtoopenyourhome to
others.
Witha little planningandpreparation—andagoodmeasure of prayer—youcanbe preparedtoshare
your home withfriends,neighborsandeventhe strangersGodmaysendyourway.
KathyChapmanSharp: Formerlythe directorof communicationsforSaddlebackChurchandPurpose
DrivenMinistriesinSouthernCalifornia,Kathyisacommunicationsconsultanthelpingchurchesand
religiousorganizationsfindarelevantvoice thatspeaksabove the chaoticnoise of the world.
How IsChristianHospitalityDifferentfromEntertaining?
Whenyouchange the focusfromyou to others,entertainingbecomesChristianhospitality.
by JenSchmidtonMonday,April 30, 2018 at 2:00 PM
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Hospitality.Whatisit,really?Whenwe overstress,overplan,andoverthinkinvitingothersintoourlives
and homes,hospitalitybecomesoverwhelmingtooursouls.We become slavestothe expectationsof
others.We freeze atthe mere thoughtof extending aninvitation.Cravingbothperfectionandpolished
perception,we fall victimtoa cruel taskmaster.Sohow do we findthe balance here?How dowe open
our doorto the unknownwithoutopeningourselvestodreadanddiscouragement?
It comesdownto knowingthe difference betweenentertainingandhospitality.
In herflagshipbookEntertaining,MarthaStewartsays,“Entertaining,likecooking,isalittle selfish,
because itreallyinvolvespleasingyourself withaguestlistthatwill coalesce intoyourideal of harmony,
witha menuorchestratedtoyour home andtaste,withdecorationssubjecttoyourowneye.Given
these considerations,ithastobe pleasureful.”1
Thisone paragraph hintsat the telltale difference.Itall restsonthisdichotomy.
The entertaininghostseekstoelevate herself.AndasMartha mentions,it’sabitselfish.Whenthe guest
arrives,the entertainerannounces,“Here Iam. Come intomybeautiful abode andhave the honorof
partakingof all the wonderful thingsI’ve spenthoursgettingdone foryou.Lookat thislavishbuffet,the
intricate décor,andthe wonderful partyfavors.How fortunate foryouto be here andbe part of this.”

21. While Iembellishonwhata hostessmightactuallysay,we’veall encounteredthisattitude once or
twice,haven’twe?Maybe we’ve evenallowedasimilartone toslipeversosubtlyintoourownhosting.
But whenyouleave the entertaininghost’shouse,how doyoufeel?Rememberthat,anddothe
opposite.
Hospitalityisdifferent.Biblical hospitalityoffersourbesttoHimfirst,understandingthatourbestto
otherswill thenfall intoplace.Ittransformsourselfishmotivesandelevatesourguest.Whenthe
hospitable hostessswingswide the door,all herattentionfocusesoutward:“You’re here!I’ve been
waitingforyou.Noone is more importanttodaythan you,andI’m thrilledyou’ve come.”The posture
we assume inhospitalityisone thatbendslow,generouslyofferingourheartto anotherdespite
whateverinterruptiontoourownplansor comfort.Extendinghospitalityisaboutfreelygivingof
ourselveswhile grantingothersthe freedomtobe themselves.Shiftingourfocusfromusto them
removesall unnecessaryexpectations.Noneedtoworryaboutwhatto say or how to act. Just come as
youare.
Every day theydevotedthemselvestomeetingtogetherinthe temple,andbroke breadfromhouse to
house.Theyate theirfoodwithjoyful andsincere hearts.
Acts 2:45
Hospitality,unlikeentertaining,treatseveryone asaguestof honorrather thangrasping at honor for
yourself.Openingyourdoorhasnothingtodo withthe actual setting,the guestlist,orthe food.The
atmosphere canbe exactlythe same yethave verydifferentresultsbasedonthe heartattitude of the
one whowelcomes.
Hospitality,unlikeentertaining,treatseveryone asaguestof honorrather thangraspingat honor for
yourself.
JenSchmidt
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Status-seekingversusservanthood.
“Here I am” versus“here youare.”
Self-servingtoservingothers.
Overand overI’mremindedthatwe have nogrand blueprintforhospitalityasidefromlovingothers.As
the masterarchitect,God drewup hospitalitysothatitgravitatesaroundthiscore component—yes,He
evendetermineswhenwe have electricityandwhenwe don’t.He is notshy aboutinterruptingour
best-laidplans.He willaskusto give upthe orderedcontrol we considersocrucial before we’llopenthe
door.But the reasonwe openthe dooranywayisbecause we’re drivenbythe mainprinciplesof
hospitality:lovingHim,lovingHiswill,andfollowingHiswill intolovingothers.

22. The deep-seatedworrying,the excuses,andthe overthinkingof asimple invitationshouldbe warning
signs,tellinguswe’re confusingsocial entertainingwithhospitality.Whenwe use ourlivesexactlyas
theyare,desiringonlytocreate a sacred space forour guests,mixingitwiththe counterculturaltruthof
lovingJesusandlovingothers,we turnentertainingupsidedown,anditbecomesradical hospitality.
Excerptedwithpermissionfrom JustOpenthe Door:How One InvitationCanChange aGenerationby
JenSchmidt.Copyright2018, B&H PublishingGroup.
1. Martha Stewart,Entertaining(NewYork:ClarksonN.Potter,1998).
JenSchmidtencouragesandchallengeswomentoembrace theireverydaylivesonherblog,Balancing
Beautyand Bedlam.Witha varietyof topics—fromeasydinnerideasandpersonal finance toleavinga
legacy—Jenequipsotherstolive lifetoitsfullest,remindingthemit'sthe little thingsthatreallyare the
bigthings inlife.
A popularspeaker,worshipleader,andfounderandhostof the annual BecomingConference,Jenlives
inNorth Carolinawithherhusband,five children,afew toomanyanimals,andan available sofafor
anyone whoneedsit.
I KnowSome Servants … withthe Spiritual Giftof Hospitality https://mintools.com
The Spiritual Giftof HospitalityDefined
to warmlywelcome people,evenstrangers,intoone’shome orchurchas a meansof servingthose in
needof foodor lodging
Servant#1: She enjoyedhostingasmall groupinher home butwhenaskedtoleadthe group, became
frustratedanddiscouraged. Whenhosting,she eagerlyfocusedonmakingsure peoplewere
comfortable andhadwhat theyneeded. Whenfacilitatingthe group,she tendedtobe more anxious
and unsure of herself.
Servant#2: She was there watchingforme everyweekwhenIwasa guestspeakerather church’s
SundaySchool fora seriesof lessons. She notonlygenuinelywelcomedme,butofferedfor me tosit
withherand herhusbandduringthe worshipservice. She introducedme tootherswithinthe body.
And,she ofteninvitedme tolunchafterthe service.
Servant#3: He wasoftenone of the firstto spota visitorandextendahand of welcome. He quicklyput
people atease byhiswarm smile andkindwords. He helpedthemfindtheirwayaroundthe church and
answeredanyquestionstheyhad. Here’sthe catch:Nobodyaskedhimtodothese things.

23. All of these servantstookpleasure inusingtheirspiritualgiftof hospitality. Itiswhat theyenjoyedand
didwell. Theyoffered“hospitalitytoone anotherwithoutgrumbling”(1Pet.4:9).
Lessonto Be Learned:
Whendoingwhatlinesupwithour spiritual gifting,pullingonGod’spower,we are energizedtoserve.
Whenservingoutside of ourgifting,itissomuch easiertogrumble andcomplain,togetfrustratedor
discouraged. Whenservinginaccordance withHisdivine empowerment,we will tendtoserve with
enthusiasm,cheerfulness,anddiligence."
ExtendChristianHospitalityAndCommunity
The Core of ChristianHospitality
Welcomingpeople anddoingall we canto engenderatrue experience of communitytouches
people profoundly. We live inatime whenpeople longforconnections,butoftenhesitatetoreachout
to formnewrelationships. Familiesmove fromplace toplace more oftentodaythaninprevious
generations,thusdisplacingthemfromtightknitfamilyandfriends. Individualsfrequentlydonoteven
knowtheirownneighbors. Evenmembersof the same congregationmayknow eachotheronlyon
superficial levels. Movingfromdiscomfortandattimesgeneral suspicionof strangerstofriendshipisa
preciousblessingprioritizedwithinChristiancamporretreatsettings.
What iscommonlyreferredtoas“community”ingeneral parlance fallsfarshortof what people yearn
for. Definitionsof communityrunthe spectrumfromsimplybeinginahomogenousgroupwhothinks
like me toa collectionof homesinthe same housingdevelopment. Genuinelove,however,expandsthe
meaningof communitybydrawingpeopletogetherdespite theirdifferences. The movementfrom
mere politenessandtolerance toagreaterlevel of care and recognitionemergeswhenagroupopens
themselvestothe Spiritof God. Christmodelsa wide embrace,includingthose shunnedbyothers.
In hisbook,The Road LessTraveled,M.Scott Peckgivesthe followingdefinitionof love that
birthstrue community.
I define lovethus:The will toextendone'sself forthe purpose of nurturing one'sownor
another'sspiritual growth.
Thisdescriptiondeservesseriousreflection. Communityrequiresthatwe decide toextendourselves. It
isnot justa feelingof goodintentions. Infactlove canoccur evenif we don’tnecessarilyfeel like itor
can’t affirmeverythingaboutanotherperson.Itisa deliberate choice togobeyondfearsandbarriers. It

24. isthe will andself-discipline toputforthenergytoreach outto the other,beyondnormal distinctions
and separations,asa wayto honorand supportGod’spresence withandwithinthem.
Such a heartfeltpractice requiressensitivityandattentiveness. Onlybyactuallylisteningandlearning
will we recognize whatwill trulybuildeachotherup. Gettingtoknow each otherby name isjustthe
beginning.Communitycomesalivethroughlove determinedtoact on behalf of the spiritual growth
(growthinGod) foroneself andthe otherperson. Thismeansthatwe do all we can to create
environmentsof hospitalitythatinspire people toseekGodandto value andencourage one another. It
isour privilege andourcalling,butitisnot alwayssimple andeasy. We will have manyopportunitiesto
allowGodto shape us to become more lovingthroughthe real life situationsthatarise whenwe host
folksonretreat.
A dedicationtothislevelof love andcommunityhelpsrevealandscreenoutothermotivesthatlook
deceptivelylike lovesometimes,butwhichreallyaren’t. Some commonreasonsforextendingoneself
are: wantingtolookgoodin the eyesof others,satisfyingourowninsecurities,tryingtofix the other
personandmake themmore like us,feelingcompelledbyguiltorthe needtoplease,wantingtobenefit
the personso he or she will dothe same in return,“doingourjob”,so the retreator camp will be
deemedsuccessful andpeople will come again,etc. Motive matters.Sincere communityhasthe
potential tooccur whenwe trulyhave anabidinginterestineachother’swelfare thatreflects God’s
abidinglove.
Courage and faithdefinitelycomesintoplaytoovercome the resistance andlethargythatsometimes
holdsusback. Communitycannotexistwithouthonesty.. Thiscanbe difficultbutpowerfulafterpeople
grow to appreciate andtrustone another. What isbestfor one’ssoul at timescallsforusto grow in
love. Atthe same time,suchdepthof mutual care and the beautyof true friendshipproduce some of
the most joyousexperiencesof people’slives.
Rememberthatcommunityultimately comesasagiftof the Spirit. People mustengage themselvesand
we cannot force them. Don’tbe demoralizedif aretreator camp doesn’talwaysresultinthe depthof
relationshipsyouknowispossible. We plantseeds. We graciouslyencourage groupsandourownheart
to cooperate withthe Spiritof God,thus preparingthe conditionsfromwhichtrue communitymight
grow.
In the book,CatholicAmerica:Self-renewal CentersandRetreatsbyPatriciaChristian-Mayer,Abbot
DavidGeraetsliftsupthe importance of thisaspectof the retreatexperience.
The bestway to communicate areligiousexperience isinalovingcommunity. Humanlove isprobably
the bestmediumtocommunicate the HolySpirit.” [ii]
SensitivitytoPeople’sNeeds
Anotherimportantdimensionof Christianhospitalityisakeensensitivitytopeople’strue needs.
Remarkable hostsandhostesseslearnnotonlytobe observantandto listenwithattentiontotheir
guests,theycanactuallypredictneedseven before someone asks. Providingforanexpectationorgoing

25. beyonditbefore the requestismade honorsthe guest,andthistype of hospitalitydelightsnotjust
satisfies. We make all kindsof preparationsandpredictthe wantsof those we invite toour own homes,
and inthe same waythisistrue of camp and retreatcentersdedicatedtobe a place of God.
The abilitytoperceive andpredictthe requirementsanddesiresof those whomwe servecome,inpart,
fromrepeatedservice of thousandsof people withvaryingrequestsandwants,thusa deepening
perceptionof whattakespriorityforthe majorityof traveler’stoourcamp and retreatcenters. The
largerfactor comesfromcompassionandunderstandingthataneedunfulfilledcanstall a participantor
guestfromgainingthe mosttheycan receive fromthe camp or retreatexperience. We doall in our
powerto assistpersonstofeel athome,sotheyfeel comfortableenoughtogofurtherintheirown
growthand the developmentof community.
Whetherwe are servingsecularorfaithbasedgroups,there are certainnecessitiesimportantto
mostpeople. LooselybasedonAbrahamMaslow’shierarchyof need,levelsof humanneedmightbe
describedas:
1, Sustenance
2. Safetyand Shelter
3. Sense of Belonging
4. SharingTheirContribution
5. Spiritual ExpressionandFulfillment
Addressingeachof these longingshelpstoexpandanddeepenthe camporretreatimpact. For
example,if apersondoesnotreceive food,waterandotherbasicphysical requirementstotheir
satisfaction,thenitwill be hardforthemtomove to the pointwhere theyfeel able tofocuson
relationshipsthatwill givethemadeepersense of belonging. These facetsmight,also,be viewedasa
ringin the growthof a tree,expandingthe opportunityforministryandanexperience of God’slove.
Because of this,all staff personsandvolunteersnomatterwhattheirrole are programstaff. The
program we offerfocusesongivingopportunitiesforpeople toexperience the loveof Christ,toexpand
theirtrustin God, andto share theirowngiftednessbymakingacontributiontothe worldthatmeets
true needandadds meaningtothe giver’slife. Itis importantforall staff and volunteerstounderstand
basichuman needasopportunitiesforfaithformation,andtoparticipate innurturingpersonsatas
manyof these levelsassituationsallow. All of thisisimportantChristianministry.
Sustenance:
Foodservice staff andvolunteers,byprovidingthe verybestfoodanddiettheypossiblycan,launch
people forwardintheirdevelopment,bothpersonalandSpiritual. Letusnot underestimate how much
foodand drinkrepresentsthe care andconcernof God. Recall thatChristchose breadand wine to
representhislove,sacrifice andpresence. HagarunderstoodGod’slove forherself andherchild,when

26. God providedasource of waterto sustain them.(Genesis21:15-19) Jesusdescribesthe faithful asthose
whoprovide drinkforthe thirsty,foodforthe hungryand welcome forthe stranger(Matthew 25:34-
36). If any personshave the chance to serve inthe kitchenanddiningarea,itis an honor anda
tangible expressionof Christ’scare andconcern. Evenmore,those of us infoodservice can recognize
that we can nourishthe soul notjust the bodythroughour interactions,example,andteachingamong
bothstaff and guests.Anexperience of Christ’slovesustainspeople atmanylevels. (John6:35)
SafetyandShelter:
Individualsandteamsprovidingmaintenance,healthcare,housekeeping,riskmanagementandother
dimensionsof ourprogramsand proceduresthatattendto creatingsafety, protection,shelterand
comfortplayan essential role inhelpingpersonsdraw closertoGod andto one another,as well. (Psalm
46:1-3), (Matthew4:23), (Matthew25:36), (Psalm23)
Environmentswherepeople experience veryintentionalphysical,emotional,andspiritualsupportand
well beingare calledsanctuaries. The dictionarydefinessanctuaryasa consecratedplace – a place of
refuge andprotection. ChristianCampand RetreatCentersare indeeddedicatedasholyplaceswhere
our staff and volunteersstrive tocreate environmentsandfacilitieswhere guestsfeel caredforand
where barriersare removedthatmightotherwisehinderthemfromparticipatingata deeperlevel.
Sense of Belonging:
Anotheressential humanlongingisthe desire tobe known,includedandvalued. Fromthe veryfirstcall
or email withthe office staff,tothe strategiesbythe eventandhospitalitystaff tohelpparticipants
knowone another,tothe farewell,itisvital tobe consciousof how our interactionseitherbuild upor
tear downthe possibilityforcommunity. Because Christiancommunityisfoundedsquarelyon
expandingrelationshipsof trustandmutualitybasedonthe love of Christ,how we relate mattersa
great deal infulfillingourpurpose. Whetherornot we invite people intoadeepersense of connection
withGod and eachother,and howwe expressGod’sacceptance andembrace hasa huge impact.
We can be excellentatvarioustaskswe have to do,and it endupall for naughtif we estrange peopleby
our lack of sensitivity,patience,interestintheirlives,andcompassion. Communitycannothappen
whenpeople are afraidtoreveal themselves. Everystaff personandvolunteerhasnurturingahealthy
sense of belongingasa primarypart of theirresponsibilitiesandvocationatthe center,regardlessof
whattheirotherdutiesmayinclude. We doso by growinginourabilitytoembodylove andby
encouragingothersindoingthe same. Itseemsimportanttonote here that itwill be immensely
difficulttoextend thiskindof communitytoothers,if we maintaindivisionsamongourselvesas
volunteersandstaff.(Ephesians4:1-3 andSectionB below)
SharingTheirContribution:
We are also inthe ministryof helpingpersonsdiscovertheirgiftedness,thentorecognize andcelebrate
that divine image withinthemselvesandothers. We believethateverypersonhastraits,passionsand
abilitiesthatcan enrichlife aroundthem. Godhasdesignedlifeinsucha waythat no individual can

27. evencome close todoingit all. Noone is self sufficient,notanyone. Godreinforcesouronenessin
Christby distributingpersonalities,activities,waystoserve,abilitiesandothergiftssothat we are
literallyinterdependent(thissame truthplaysoutinthe whole creation – the interdependencyof all of
life).
As spiritual leaders,therefore,ourideal isnottodoor be everything,buttorallypeopletogive tothe
commongood withinthe groupandbeyonditwhere there isneed. We helppeople discoverand
appreciate theirownuniquenessandthenfacilitateopportunitiesandwaysforpeople tomake a
difference large orsmall thatbenefitsthe currentcommunityorthe widerworld. We inspire members
of groupsto appreciate andhonoreachother,especiallythosewhomaynot be appreciatedenough.
Finally,we encourage personswithgreaterexperience andskilltoteachothers. For all this,we give
thanksoften,bothpubliclyandprivately. (Exodus35:20-29)
Spiritual Purpose andSelf-Expression:
Campsand retreatscan be an avenue forpeople toexplore the ultimate meaningof theirlivesoraway
for themto live outtheirdeepestvalues. What istheirlegacy? What istheirpurpose? Whatis their
vocation? These are the kindof questionssome of ourguestscome with, whentheirlivesare
unfulfillingorwhentheyare inthe midstof transition. A potentdrivingforce thatreenergizesandgives
directionisidentifyingasignificantdreamora goal that movesthemtowardsomethingthatthey
themselvesrecognize tobe meaningful –somethingyetundoneoryettoexperiencethattouchestheir
core. Campand retreatcenterscan provide the environmentwhere peoplecandelve deeplyintothese
premierconcernsandhopes.
Sometimescampandretreatleadershiporparticipation sparksanew directionthatcanevenbecome
an extendedvocation.Theirpurposebecomesclearerbecauseof whatariseswhile atcampor on
retreat. Perhapsa leadermayevenaskif theyhave everconsideredaparticularvocationordirection
that seemstomatch withtheirgiftsandgraces. A vocationisa callingtoa longterm course of action
that coincideswithwhatone perceivesGodreallywantshimorherto do. It issomethingthe person
gainsgreat meaningfrom,whethertheydoitfor payor as a volunteer.
Helpingpersonstoconsiderthe greaterpurpose of theirlivesinvolveshelpingthemtodraw itforth by
seekingthe guidance of the HolySpiritwhile reviewingtheirlives,theirvalues,theircircumstance,and
theirpassionsforcluesabouttheirfuture direction. Spiritual direction,Christianconversation,themes
and resourcesthathelppeople prayandfocusonthisissue are some wayswe mightassistpersonswith
thisdeeplongingtolive alife withgreaterpurpose thatmattersnotjusttoothers,but to themselves –a
life inharmonywithGod’swill forthemandwhatinspiresjoyforthem. Sucha life orendeavormaynot
be easy,but itis full of meaningforthe person.(Paul describeshispurpose –Philippians3:7-15),
(Esther’scalling–4:12-16)
Everypersonwe serve whetherfromfaithbasedgroupsorsecularnonprofitgroupshave these
great needs. Ourapproachmay be differentdependingonthe focusof the groupor individualswe are
serving,butChristianhospitality andcommunitycontinuestoextendlove andwelcome inall these
areas of humanlonging.

28. Scriptural andTheological ExplorationForCampandRetreatLeaders
A. Welcome the Stranger– ExtendHolyHospitality
Deuteronomy10:17 For the LORD yourGod is God of gods andLord of lords,the greatGod, mightyand
awesome,whoisnotpartial andtakesno bribe,18 who executesjustice forthe orphanandthe widow,
and wholovesthe strangers,providingthemfoodandclothing.19You shall alsolove the stranger,for
youwere strangersinthe land of Egypt.
Matthew25: 34 Thenthe kingwill sayto those at hisrighthand,'Come,youthat are blessedbymy
Father,inheritthe kingdompreparedforyoufromthe foundationof the world;35 for I washungryand
yougave me food,I wasthirstyand yougave me somethingtodrink,Iwasa stranger andyou welcomed
me,36 I was nakedandyou gave me clothing,Iwas sickand youtook care of me,I was inprisonand
youvisitedme.'37 Thenthe righteouswillanswerhim, 'Lord,whenwasitthatwe saw youhungry and
gave you food,orthirstyand gave yousomethingtodrink?38 Andwhenwasit that we saw you a
strangerand welcomedyou,ornakedandgave youclothing?39 Andwhenwasit thatwe saw you sick
or in prisonandvisitedyou?'40 Andthe kingwill answerthem, 'TrulyItell you,justas youdidit to one
of the leastof these whoare membersof myfamily,youdiditto me.'
Hebrews13:1 Letmutual love continue.2Do not neglecttoshow hospitalitytostrangers,forbydoing
that some have entertainedangelswithoutknowingit.
Leviticus19:33 Whena newcomerresideswithyouinyourland,youshall notoppressthe newcomer.
34 The alienwhoresideswithyoushall be toyouasthe citizen amongyou;youshall love the alienas
yourself,foryouwere aliensinthe landof Egypt:I am the LORD yourGod.
Frequently,campsandretreatsbringpeople togetherwhoare strangerstous and to one
another. Some personswe will have never metbefore. Personswhoevenattendthe same
congregationoftenarrive withlittle familiarityof one anotherbeyondsurface introductions. Theymay
not evenknoweachother’snames. Christiancampsandretreatsare sacredtimesof livingintemporary
Christiancommunity24hours perday together. Theyare meaningful opportunitiesforstrangersto
become friends. Thisprocesstakestime andhappensthroughsharedexperiencesandreflectionbythe
group. Retreatsandcamps provide magnificentandsometimesrare chancestojoinwithpeople from
differentbackgrounds,religions,racesandnationalities,too,inthe love of Christ.
Your ownwelcome of strangersandinspiringthemtowelcomeeachotherare faithfilledacts,
because theyembody God’slove of the stranger. The Judeo-Christianheritageholdsthisasapremier
value. Providinghospitalityincludesaninherenthumility,too,whichacknowledgesthatwe are oftenin
the positionof beingastrangerourselvesanditispart of the storyof the people of God.Notonlydoes
hostingexpressGod’slove,butthe strangeror guestoftenturnsoutto be the giverfromGod and,we,
the recipient. Checkoutjusta fewof the encounters,whenanact of hospitalityleadstoa revelation
fromGod. (Genesis18:1-14, Luke 24:28-32, Luke 19:1-10)

29. The followingquotefromHenri Nouwen,inhisbook“ReachingOut”,unveilsthe depthand
breadthof the practice of hospitality.
…reachingoutto our innermostbeingcanleadtoa reachingout to the many strangerswhomwe meet
on our waythroughlife. Inour worldfull of strangers,estrangedfromtheirownpast,culture and
country,fromtheirneighbors,friendsandfamily,fromtheirdeepestself andtheirGod,we witnessa
painful searchfora hospitable place where life canbe livedwithoutfearandwhere communitycanbe
found. Althoughmany,we mightevensaymost,strangersinthisworldbecome easilythe victimof a
fearful hostility,itispossible formenandwomenandobligatoryfor Christianstoofferanopenand
hospitable space wherestrangerscancast off theirstrangenessandbecome ourfellow humanbeings.
The movementfromhostilitytohospitalityishardandfull of difficulties.Oursocietyseemstobe
increasinglyfull of fearful,defensive,aggressive peopleanxiouslyclingingtotheirpropertyandinclined
to lookat theirsurroundingworldwithsuspicion,alwaysexpectinganenemytosuddenlyappear,
intrude anddo harm. But still –that is ourvocation:to convertthe hostisintohospes,the enemyintoa
guestand to create the free andfearlessspace where brotherhoodandsisterhoodcanbe formedand
fullyexperienced.[iii]
B. CovenanttoLove One Anotherandto Share the Fruitof the Spirit:
Mark 12:29 Jesusanswered,"The firstis,'Hear,OIsrael:the Lord our God,the Lord isone;30 youshall
love the Lord yourGod withall your heart,andwithall your soul,andwithall your mind,andwithall
your strength.'31 The secondisthis,'You shall love yourneighborasyourself.'There isnoother
commandmentgreaterthanthese."
1 John4: 18 There isno fearin love,butperfectlove castsoutfear;for fearhas to dowithpunishment,
and whoeverfearshasnotreachedperfectioninlove.19 We love because he firstlovedus.20 Those
whosay, "I love God,"andhate theirbrothersor sisters,are liars;forthose whodo not love abrotheror
sisterwhomtheyhave seen,cannotlove Godwhomtheyhave notseen.21 The commandmentwe
have fromhimis this:those wholove Godmust love theirbrothersandsistersalso.
Galatians5: 22 By contrast,the fruitof the Spiritislove,joy,peace,patience,kindness,generosity,
faithfulness,23 gentleness,andself-control.There isnolaw againstsuchthings...25 If we live bythe
Spirit,letusalsobe guidedbythe Spirit.
A proactive stepinplantingthe realizationthatparticipantshelpcreate the experiencetheyseek
isto discusswhattheyneedandhope for fromone anotherand the retreat. Doingthisup frontin a
natural,relaxedwayallowspeopletolistenandunderstandeachother’sexpectations. These honest
conversationsaboutlovingandcaringfor one anotherbestoccur earlyinthe camp or retreatafterthey
have gottento knoweachotherinitially. Introducingthe above textsservesasone possible wayto
launchthe topic of what love lookslike.1Corinthians13 isanotherprofoundreflectiononlove.These
passagesbecome acatalystfor dialogue aboutthe kindof behaviorsandinteractions thatwill truly
nurture eachother. The group can create a brief covenant(promise toeachotherandGod) intheirown
words. It can beginsomethinglike this: “We promise tolove andcare for eachother by….”

30. C. Live OutPrinciplesof ChristianCommunity:
Romans12:9 Let love be genuine;hate whatisevil,holdfasttowhatis good;10 love one anotherwith
mutual affection;outdoone anotherinshowinghonor.11 Do not lag inzeal,be ardentinspirit,serve
the Lord. 12 Rejoice inhope,be patientinsuffering,persevere inprayer.13 Contribute tothe needsof
the saints;extendhospitalitytostrangers.14 Blessthose whopersecute you;blessanddonotcurse
them.15 Rejoice withthose whorejoice,weepwiththose whoweep.16 Live in harmonywithone
another;do notbe haughty,butassociate withthe lowly;donotclaimtobe wiserthanyouare. 17 Do
not repayanyone evil forevil,buttake thoughtforwhatisnoble inthe sightof all.If it ispossible,sofar
as it dependsonyou,live peaceablywithall…Donotbe overcome byevil,butovercomeevilwithgood.
1 Peter4:8-11 Above all,maintainconstantlove forone another,forlove coversamultitudeof sins.Be
hospitable toone anotherwithoutcomplaining.Like goodstewardsof the manifoldgrace of God,serve
one anotherwithwhatevergifteachof youhas received.Whoeverspeaksmustdosoas one speaking
the verywordsof God; whoeverservesmustdosowiththe strengththatGod supplies,sothatGodmay
be glorifiedinall thingsthroughJesusChrist.ToGod belongthe gloryandthe powerforeverandever.
Amen.
Colossians3:12-15 AsGod's chosenones,holyandbeloved,clothe yourselveswithcompassion,
kindness,humility,meekness,andpatience.Bearwithone anotherand,if anyone hasa complaint
againstanother,forgive eachother;justasthe Lord hasforgivenyou,soyoualso must forgive. Above
all,clothe yourselveswithlove,whichbindseverythingtogetherinperfectharmony. Andletthe peace
of Christrule inyourhearts,to whichindeedyouwere calledinthe one body.Andbe thankful.
Forminga caring communitydoesnotmeanthatwe will alwaysbe perfectatit. We do sinby taking
actionsthat do harm ratherthan good.Fromtime to time,situationsurge ustostepback and examine
whatis happening,thentodecide howtorespondsowe can getback on track and seekreconciliation.
These reminderstothe earlychurchremainas applicable todayasever. Ascampand retreatministry
leaders,itisimportanttoseekGodand to openourselvestobe shapedinwaysthatwe hope the
experience will shape guestsandparticipants.
D. Give OpportunitiestoContributetothe CommonGood:
1 Corinthians12:4 Nowthere are varietiesof gifts,butthe same Spirit;
5 and there are varietiesof services,butthe same Lord;6 and there are varietiesof activities,butit is
the same God who activatesall of themineveryone.7 To each isgiventhe manifestationof the Spirit
for the commongood.
Ultimately,forapersontofeel trulya part of the retreator camp communityitisimportantto
appreciate the giftstheybringboththroughtheirwaysof beingandtheirabilities. Sincererecognition
and thankfulnessforthe contributionseverypersonmakestothe whole experience honorsthe
manifestationof the Spiritwithinhimorher. Christianhospitalityis alittle differentinthisperspective.
We notonlygraciouslyhostour guests,butwe invite themtocontribute tothe commongoodof each

31. other. Thisis an importantdistinctionthatmakesaChristianCampand RetreatCenterorexperience
differentfromstayingata typical hotel,forexample. We mayinvite ourguestsandparticipantstohelp
each otherandto contribute tothe commongoodthrougha varietyof servicestheydoonbehalf of the
whole. We knowthisispart of buildingandbecomingacommunityof faith,whichothervenuesdon’t
alwaysemphasize intheirmodesof hospitality.
The Road Less TraveledbyScottM. Peck M.D. (Touchstone BookpublishedbySimonandSchuster,New
York, 1978), p 81
[ii] CatholicAmerica:Self-renewal Centersand RetreatsbyPatriciaChristian-Mayer(JohnMuir
Publications:SantaFe,1989), p 27 ISBN 0945465203
[iii] ReachingOutbyHenri J.M. Nouwen(Image BooksDoubleday:New York,1975), p 65-66 ISBN
0385236824 https://www.umcdiscipleship.org
Spiritual Gift:Hospitality
WHAT IS The Gift of HOSPITALITY?
The giftof hospitalityisthe special abilitythatGodgivestocertainmembersof the Bodyof Christto
provide anopenhouse anda warm welcome tothose inneedof foodandlodging.
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES FORthisGift
Tap each verse toread it.Unless otherwise noted,all scripturesare inthe EnglishStandardVersion.
ACTS 16:14-15
One whoheardus was a womannamedLydia,fromthe city of Thyatira,a sellerof purple goods,who
was a worshiperof God.The Lord openedherheartto pay attentiontowhatwas saidbyPaul.15 And
aftershe was baptized,andherhouseholdaswell,she urgedus,saying,“If youhave judgedme tobe
faithful tothe Lord,come to myhouse and stay.”Andshe prevaileduponus.
ROMANS12:9-13

32. Let love be genuine.Abhorwhatisevil;holdfasttowhatisgood. 10 Love one anotherwithbrotherly
affection.Outdoone anotherinshowinghonor.11 Do not be slothful inzeal,be ferventinspirit,serve
the Lord. 12 Rejoice inhope,be patientintribulation,be constantinprayer.13 Contribute tothe needs
of the saintsandseekto showhospitality.
ROMANS16:23
Gaius,whois hostto me and to the whole church,greetsyou.Erastus,the city treasurer,andour
brotherQuartus,greetyou.
HEBREWS 13:1-2
Let brotherlylove continue.2Do notneglecttoshow hospitalitytostrangers,fortherebysome have
entertainedangelsunawares.
1 PETER 4:9
Showhospitalitytoone anotherwithoutgrumbling.
IN THE GREEK
PHILOXENOS
Strong'sNumber:5382
Givento hospitality,generositytowardsguests,love towardsstrangers.
SUGGESTED POTENTIALSTRENGTHS & CHARACTERISTICSOFTHIS GIFT
Enjoysmakingothersfeel welcome andcomfortable.
Enjoyscontributingtothe needsof the saints;findsfulfillmentinmeetingtheirneeds(Romans12:13).
Willinglyprovidesforthe welfareof those whocannotrepaythem(Luke 14:12-14).

33. Has a home othersenjoyspendingtime inandthatoftenservesasa place of ministry.
Lovesopeningandsharinghisor herhome or space withoutthe needforothersto dothe same for
them.
Notafraidto extendhospitalitytostrangers(Hebrews13:1-2).
Feelsthe needtoconnectpeople togetherinacomfortable andunifiedenvironment.
Tendencytobe a peacemaker.
SUGGESTED POTENTIALWEAKNESSES& WARNINGSOFTHIS GIFT
May missthe opportunityforspiritual experiencesbecause of hostingobligations.
May see other’snatural reserve as“unfriendly.”
Familymembersmaysufferorfeel neglected.
May hostfor personal esteemorgain.
Hospitalityandgood-naturednesscanbe manipulatedorexploitedbyothers.
May enable otherstoavoidpersonal responsibilitiesbyprovidingmeals,lodging,etc.forextended
periodsof time withoutregardtothe Lord’spurposesintheirlife.
May grumble if theydonotfeel theyreceivesufficienthelporrecognition.
Sacrificial livingmaybe requiredtohelpmeetthe needsof others.
SUGGESTED WAYS TO SERVE BASED ON THIS GIFT
Special EventCoordinator
Meal Coordinator
Meals& Lodging
HospitalityTeam
BuildingHousekeeping
BuildingDecoration

34. Greeter
InformationBoothCoordinator
NewVisitorFollow-up
Small GroupLeader
Home Bible StudyLeader
Men's/Women'sMinistries
GOOD BIBLICALEXAMPLES
LYDIA & MARTHA https://shepherdsofthelost.org/
JARED RUDDY
Hospitality(1Peter4:9; Romans12:13)
Definition:
The spiritual giftof Hospitalityisthe supernatural abilitytowelcomeandreceive thoseyouhave never
met,and to create a warm environmentforpeople.
Description:
People whopossessthe spiritualgiftof hospitalityhave the abilitytocreate awelcomingatmosphere
that allowspeoplethatare meetingforthe firsttime tofeel rightathome.
Example fromthe Scripture:
Abrahamwas commendedforshowinghospitality(Hebrews13:2).New Testamentleadersare
commandedtobe hospitable (1Tim.3:2), and Gaiushad the unique opportunitytohostthe apostle
Paul on hismissionaryjourney(Romans16:23).
Whenthisgiftis present:
Whenhospitalityisfunctioninginalocal visitorsare warmlywelcomed,andthere isa general sense of
warmththat permeatesthe congregation.
Whenthisgiftis absent:

35. Whenthe giftof hospitalityismissinginalocal church,visitorswill struggletofindtheirplace evenif
theyare lookingtocommit.
In the Life of Jesus:
The biblical wordforhospitalityliterallymeanstowelcome strangers.There isnogreaterexample of
thisthan the life andministryof Jesus.Inatime whenthe religiousculture of hisdayostracizedpeople
on the basisof theircultural standing,Jesuswasknownasa friendof sinnersandtax collectors (Luke
7:34).
Do youhave the spiritual giftof Hospitality?
* Do youlookfor opportunitiestowelcomenew visitorsinyourchurch?
* Do youlookfor opportunitiestoinvite people overyourhouse?
* Do people tellyouthatyoumake themfeel welcome?
* Take our free spiritual gifttest
Practical waysto implementanddevelopthe spiritualgiftof Hospitality:
* Volunteertohostdifferentministriesinyourhome.
* Talkto your pastorabout connectingtonew visitorsatchurch.
* Spendtime prayingthatGodwouldstrengthenthisgifting.
* Checkoutour Bible Studiesonspiritualgifts.
* Checkoutour videosandinterviews.
* Signupfor our email list.
Ministryopportunities:
* HostMissionaries
* Hostcommunitygroups
* HostBible studies
* Hospitality/Greetingteamatchurch
* Followupwithvisitorsfromchurch

36. Giftsof the Spirit:ServingOthersandHospitality
August31, 2017
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We are lookingat the spiritual giftswe are given.
Thisweek,we are goingto focuson servingothersandhospitality.
Serving—Romans12:6 says,“or ministry,letusgive ourselvestoourministry”. Servinganotheris
ministeringtothatperson. I remindmyself of thateverydaywhenIam
servingothersisa giftof the spirit
workingat the nursingfacility.
“Since there are many typesof ministriesandservice tothe Church,thisthendescribesabroadarray of
giftsratherthan a single gift.”
Barnessays,“It is appliedtoall classesof ministersinthe New Testament,asdenotingtheirbeingthe
servantsof Christ;and itis usedparticularlytodenote thatclasswho,fromthisword,were called
deacons,i.e.those whohadthe care of the poor,whoprovidedforthe sick,andwho watchedoverthe
external mattersof the church…itisusedto denote the ministry,orservice,whichPaul andthe other
apostlesrenderedintheirpublicwork.Ina few placesthiswordisusedto denote the office whichthe
deaconsfulfilled.”
RenderService—1Peter4:11 says,“Whoeverserves[the congregation] istodoso as
Jesusservedothers…he washedthe disciplesfeet
one whoservesbythe strengthwhichGod [abundantly] supplies,sothatinall thingsGod may be
glorified[honoredandmagnified] throughJesusChrist.” {AMPversion}
Hospitality—1Peter4:9-10 says,“usinghospitalityone toanotherwithoutmurmuring.”

37. Hospitalityisdefinedas“the friendlyandgenerousreceptionandentertainmentof guests,visitors,or
strangers.” I have several dearfriendswhoare blessedwiththisgift. WhenIam withthemI alwaysfeel
welcome,love,acceptedandwanted. Thisisone of the giftsIwishI had beenbestowed.
Barnessays,“Withoutgrudging.Greek,“withoutmurmurs;”thatis,withoutcomplaining
hospitalityisagenerousreceptionof guest,visitorsandstrangers
of the hardshipof doingit;of the time,andexpense,andtrouble requiredindoingit.The ideaof
grudging,inthe commonsense of that word-thatis,of doingitunwillingly,orregrettingthe expense,
and consideringitasill-bestowed,orasnot producingan equivalentof anykind-isnotexactlythe idea
here.Itis that we are to doit withoutmurmuringorcomplaining.Itgreatlyenhancesthe value of
hospitality,thatitbe done On our part withentire cheerfulness.One of the dutiesinvolvedinitisto
make a guesthappy;and thiscan be done inno otherwaythan by showinghimthathe iswelcome.”
Helps—1Corinthians12:28 usesthe word“helps”as those “God hathset inthe church.”
“Thisgifthas to do withservice tothe sickand the poor. Possessorof thisgifthasa “spiritual burden
and a God-givenlove forthe needyandafflicted”.”
Barnes’Notesonthe NewTestamentsays,“Thiswordoccurs nowhere else inthe New
How doyou helpandserve God’skingdom?
Testament…anddenotes,properly,aid,assistance,help;andthenthose whorenderaid,assistance,or
help;helpers.Whotheywere,isnotknown.Theymighthave beenthose towhomwasentrustedthe
care of the poor,and the sick,and strangers,widows,andorphans, etc.;i.e.,thosewhoperformedthe
office of deacons.Ortheymay have beenthose whoattendedonthe apostlestoaidthemintheir
work…butthe wordmeans,ingeneral,those whoinanyway aidedorrenderedassistance inthe church,
and mayreferto the temporal affairsof the church,to the care of the poor, the distributionof charity
and alms,or to the instructionof the ignorant,orto aid rendereddirectlytothe apostles…Probably
manypersonswere profitablyandusefullyemployedinvariouswaysas aidsinpromotingthe temporal
or spiritual welfare of the church.”
There are some whoare much more willingandable toserve othersthansome people. Service is
puttingaside yourneedsandwantsto be there forothers. If thisisdone as a spiritual giftyouusually
see agape love playedoutinfrontof your eyes.
Evenif thisis nota gift,itisa characteristicwe can all strive forinour lives.
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38. A call to all & the giftof hospitality
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Whenshe openedthe doorto herhumble home,warmthfloodedintothe night.A quickscanrevealed
simple furnishingsandfewdecorations.Aromaswaftedoutof asmall collectionof dishes,exposingthe
time she spentpreparingforourarrival.The onlyrichnesswasthe joyat ourarrival,thoughwe were
strangersjustdays before.The scene wouldneverbe onglossymagazine pagesoranetworkhome
show,butI’d neverfeltmore cherishedandcomfortable inthe home of ahost.Her life said,“Welcome”
as she graciouslydisplayedthe giftof hospitality.
What ishospitality?
If spiritual giftsare forthe commongoodof the bodyof Christ,hospitalityisthe trayuponwhichthey
are served.Like otherqualitiesof Christfollowers,anhospitablespiritisnotonlyexpectedof those so
uniquelygifted.All followersof Christare calledonto,“Contribute tothe needsof the saintsandseekto
showhospitality,”(Romans12:13).While the expressionof welcomeimpactsthose inthe Church,the
wordfor “hospitality”is“philozenia,”acombinationof twowordsthat mean: affection+strangers.If
onlyofferedtoourchurch, family,andfriends,hospitalityisincomplete.
How doeshospitalitylook?
Hospitalityoverflowsfromaheartof genuine love.We love othersbecausewe were firstlovedbyGod
(1 John4:19). The Romans12 passage explainsthatsincere love resultsinanenthusiasticdesiretoserve
the Lord, motivationtoworkhard,and inspirationtopractice a lifestyleof hospitality.“Show hospitality
to one anotherwithoutgrumbling.Aseachhasreceivedagift,use ittoserve one another,asgood
stewardsof God’svariedgrace,”(1 Peter4:9-10). All believersshouldpractice beingopentoreceive
othersintotheirlivesandhomes,butsome are uniquelygiftedwithadivine measure andabilitytohost
and serve others.
You mighthave the spiritual giftof hospitalityif:
You wantto bringpeople intoyourhome forfellowshipandfood.
You create an atmosphere where peoplefeelvaluedandwelcomed.
Your home/environmentfeelscomfortable andsafe toguests.

39. You put people atease whenmeetingthemorhostingthem.
You enjoysharingyourhome,relationships,food,andresources.
You take initiativetoplaneventstobringpeople together.
You extendyourself toothersandfindtheyare drawnto you.
You overcome challengesof cleaning,budgetlimits,orcookingtohost.
You use appropriate etiquette andplanningastoolstocare for people.
You delightinhavingpeople inyourspace,especiallyyourhome.
Why we’re starvedforhospitality
Sadly,as culturesbecome more affluent,people tendtoraise expectations,retreatinprivacy,andtoput
up invisible barriersaroundtheirhomes.Imagesof perfectlycoiffedlivingroomsandcamera-ready
mealshave usbelievingwe needtobe professionalsbefore we openourlivesandhomestochurch
members,family,friends,orstrangers. Let’snotholdback.We are stewardsof our homes,tobe used
for welcome. Hospitalitydoesnotpause orcease because we have little or because aren’twinning
cookingawards.A life of welcomehasnothingtodowithrichesor comfort.People todayare starvedfor
the ministryof hospitality.
I rememberthe nightIdiscoveredpure hospitality.
I don’trememberthe food;maybe we ate pizza.
I don’trememberthe dishes;maybe we usedpaperplates.
I don’trememberacenterpiece;maybe there wasnone.
I don’trememberaseasonal wreath;Ionlyknow itwas an opendoor.
I rememberthe beautiful fragrance of alife thatsays,“Welcome.”
Is hospitalityacallingforeveryChristian?
Hospitality
the value of openingyourhome toothers

40. Have you evercaughtyourself saying,“Yourfamilyreallyhasthe giftof hospitality”?Iusedtosee
hospitalityasagiftor callingthat othershad,butthat I didnot. For yearsI saw myhome as my castle—a
place for seclusionandrelaxation.Idreamedof a pristine house,finelydecoratedanddesignedformy
ownenjoyment.
Thisselfishdreambroughtlonelinesstomywife andencouragedanindependentspiritinmychildren.
People sawme asan unapproachable andproudman.Overthe pastseveral years,Godhas miraculously
brokenthiscycle.
My wife andIhave nowhostedhundredsof people inourhome.Attimeswe have hostedgroupsas
large as one hundredpeople.We oftenhearthese words:“Youreallyhave the giftof hospitality.”What
changed?God openedmyeyestosee richopportunitiesforministryanddiscipleshipsimplybyshowing
me what the home isreallyfor.
My Misconceptions
Twenty-one yearsagoI marriedTina,a girl who lookedforwardtoopeningherhome topeople for
meals,travel stops,andfellowship.She thoughtnothingof havingseveral familiesatatime overfor a
meal and discussion.Tome itwasa bigexpense,alotof work,andan opportunityforthingstoget
broken,stolen,orwornout.Insteadof wantingtoshare withothers,I focusedonpreservingwhatIhad
and addingtoit.
The resultsof my mind-setbegantomount.Mywife wasunfulfilledinherurge tofellowshipandto
meetthe needsof others.Some of mychildrenwere beginningtopursue theirownselfishinterests,
modelingtheirlivesaftertheirfather.
My viewof hospitalitywasasurface problemthatsprangfrom an inwardselfishfocus.Ihadbecome
selfishnotonlytoward those aroundusbutalsotoward mywife andchildren.Ourministrypotential
was cut short,and myfamilysufferedastheywere labeledunfriendlydue tomylack of friendliness.
WakingUp to God’s Command
A fewyearsago,my wife pickedupabookon the ministryof hospitality.One nightwhenIhadnothing
to read,Tina handedthisbooktome,askingme to at leaststartreadingit.Justa few pagesintothis
booksomethingamazinghappened.Isaw myself.A manjustlike me hadwrittenthisbook.He wasa
man whoworkedinan office all dayandwho lookedforwardtorelaxingafterworkandonweekendsin
hispersonal castle.
As I readof a man I identifiedwith,Godbegantoworkinmy heart.I couldsee the damage I had done
to my wife andfamily,andhow peopleinthe churchsaw me.I alsobeganto see ourhome’spotential
for advancingGod’skingdomandhelpingpeopleinneed.Thatnight,Ibecame a changedman.
God completelychangedmyviewof hospitality.Iamnow convincedthathospitalityisnota giftor an
optional activitybutratherisa command.It isone of the keysto successful ministry,anditis

41. inextricablylinkedtoGod’splanforeveryChristian.Hospitalityisfoundational tothe successof the
Church,but todayhospitalityislargelyneglected.Letme explainwhatIhave come to understand.
Lookingat God’sExample of Hospitality
I thoughthospitalitywasinvitingpeople overfordinner.The worldthinkshospitalityisabusiness
involvinghotelsandresorts.Neitherideaistrue.Hospitalityisaboutwelcomingpeople intoourlives,
meetingtheirneeds,andreachingouteventostrangers,enemies,andhostile people.Enemiesare
subduedbyhospitality,whichisevidentinGod’sworkof redemptionthroughJesusChrist.
The heart of the Gospel isrootedinhospitality.Frombirth,we are at enmitywithGodbecause of our
sin.We have noresourcesforsavingourselves.YetGodsentJesustopayour debt,and He redeems
those whobelieveinHim,makingaplace for usin Hiskingdom.Hishospitalityrestoresourrelationship
withHim.I saw these themesevidentthroughoutScripture:
God reachedoutto me whenIwas helplessandhasinvitedme intoarelationshipwithHim.“Forwhom
he didforeknow,he alsodidpredestinate tobe conformedtothe image of hisSon,that he mightbe the
firstbornamongmanybrethren”(Romans8:29).
God sentChristto save me and to offerme life,turningme fromrebellionandwelcomingme asan
adoptedson.“Thisisa faithful saying,andworthyof all acceptation,thatChristJesuscame intothe
worldto save sinners;of whomIam chief”(ITimothy1:15).
WhenI come to God in prayer,He will alwaysanswer,receivingme intoHispresence.“Butthou,when
thouprayest,enterintothycloset,andwhenthouhast shut thy door,pray to thyFather whichisin
secret;and thyFatherwhichseethinsecretshall rewardthee openly”(Matthew 6:6).
Jesussaidthat He is preparinganeternal place forus.“In my Father’shouse are manymansions:if it
were notso, I wouldhave toldyou.Igo to prepare a place for you”(John14:2).
As I readthese verses,IrealizedthatwhenIshutmy home to those aroundme,I wasnot imitating
Christ.I hadbelievedthe lie thatwe are individualswhodeserve ourownspace andour ownthings,and
that we have a right to be alone inour homes.Ihad become self-absorbedandwrappedupinmyown
needsandwants,andmy familywassufferingbecause of it.
As I lookaround,thisattitude isnormal inthe Churchtoday.Rather thancaring for the needy,holding
one anotheraccountable,anddailybreakingbreadtogetherastheydidinthe earlyChurch,most
Christiansneglecthospitality.Thisdilemmagreatlydiminishesthe powerandeffectivenessof the
Church.
UnderstandingGod’sCall toHospitality
WhenI read the bookthat night,three Scripturesinparticularconvictedme.
In I Timothy3:2, Paul writesaboutthe requirementsforeldersanddeaconsinthe church.He lists“given
to hospitality”asone of the keyrequirements.Leadersare tobe involvedwithpeople intheirhomes,

42. yetI have rarelyexperiencedthe applicationof thiscommand.Itoccurredto me thatthisis the root of
the problem—we’renotseeinghospitalityinourleadership,andwe’re followingtheirexample.
Since all menare calledtoaspire tochurch leadership,the call tohospitalityisanimportantdirective
giventomen,not justto women.Hospitalityisnotprimarilythe responsibilityof the wife;this
responsibilityalsobelongstothe husband.Under the supportof herhusband,a wife shouldbe free to
creativelyprepare forandhostguests.
Secondly,Proverbs31:20 callswomentobe involvedinhospitality:“She stretchethoutherhandto the
poor; yea,she reachethforthherhandsto the needy.”Iwas standinginthe wayof mywife havingthis
ministry.That’snotall.InI Timothy5:10, acts of hospitalityqualifyawidow forsupportfromthe church:
“. . . If she have lodgedstrangers,if she have washedthe saints’feet,if she have relievedthe afflicted,if
she have diligentlyfollowedeverygoodwork.”Myselfishnesswasdisqualifyingmywife fromchurch
support,shouldIdie before she did!
Thirdly,Paul writesinRomans12:13 that all believersare tobe “distributingtothe necessityof saints;
giventohospitality.”Practicinghospitalityisacommandfor all believers;itisnota giftthat onlya few
receive.
Throughthese Scriptures,Godshowedme thatmyselfishfocuswasdisqualifyingmyself fromchurch
leadership,hinderingmywife’sministry,andleavingmychildrenwithoutafamily-centeredministry,
whichshouldbe the purpose ina home.
Making an Application
In I John4:7–8, we are calledto love one another:“Beloved,letuslove one another:forlove isof God;
and everyone thatlovethisbornof God,and knowethGod.He that lovethnotknowethnotGod;for
God islove.”InMatthew 6:19–20, we are toldto layup treasuresinheaven:“Laynot upfor yourselves
treasuresuponearth,where mothandrust dothcorrupt, andwhere thieves breakthroughandsteal:
but layup foryourselvestreasuresinhaven,whereneithermothnorrustdothcorrupt, and where
thievesdonotbreakthroughnor steal.”
My castle mentalityopposedbothof these commands.Ibegantosee the potential of helping other
familiesandbuildingrelationships.Godshowedme thatmywife wouldfindgreaterfulfillmentaswe
ministeredtogetherandthatmy childrenwouldhave agreaterloyaltytothe familyaswe worked
together.Throughhospitality,we couldholdeachotheraccountable andhave people inforrefreshment
and discipleship.
We startedinvestinginthingsthatwouldexpandourministry.Insteadof buyingthingsforourpleasure,
we beganto workon our home withan eye towardvisitors.Mysonsand I refinishedguestbathrooms,
workingside byside toprepare forovernightguests.Mywife anddaughterdecoratedourbonusroom,
makingitfitfor large familiestostayovernightthere.We chose durable carpetingandotherfinishing
touchesto allowusto hostgroupsfor seminars.We purchasedbooksandaudioprogramsfor
ministeringtohurtingcouplesandfamilies,andwe workedonthe social skillsneededtoputpeople at

43. ease.We purchasedprojectionequipmenttoshow seminars,andwe boughtfoldingchairstoseatlarge
groups.Aswe investedinthesethings,Godcontinuedtoblessourbusiness,allowingustoinvestmore
resourcesinhospitalityandmeetingthe needsof others.
Most important,we beganto see Godworkinginthe livesof others.Mychildrensaw couplesstruggling
inmarriage,reunited,broughtbacktochurch, andevenbroughtto Christ.My daughtersbegantosee a
purpose inthe familyratherthanlookingtothe day whenthey’dbe ontheirown.Ican trulysaythat
God has blessedusthroughthese efforts,givenusunityinourhome,andbroughtus great joy.Our
childrenhave learnedthingstheycouldneverhave understoodinschool,simplybybeinginvolvedwith
people.
God has replacedmydesire tobe alone withajoy inhostingfamilies,seminars,Biblestudies,and
church events.Isee the joyandunitythisministryisbringingourfamily.Itknitsustogetherwitha
commonvision,holdsusaccountable toGod-givenstandards,anddrivesustolearnand studyas we
hostfamiliesorworkto help coupleswithhomeschooling,finances,ormarriage issues.
I realize nowthatmyselfishnesswashinderingourjoy.Hospitalityhasbecome ablessing!The firststep
was to simplyrecognizethe call.Thenwe made the adjustmentstofollow,one stepata time.Nowwe
are reapingthe rewardsof obedience!
RelatedCommandof Christ
Thistestimonyillustratesthe commandof ChristtoLay Up Treasures.(See Matthew 6:19–21.) Dave and
Tina learnedthe importance of sharingtheirhome withothersasa tool for discipleship,insteadof
keepingitsolelyfortheirownenjoymentandrelaxation.
Aboutthe Author
Dave and Tina Stelzl liveinNorthCarolina,withtheirsevenchildren.Godhasgrantedthema heart for
hospitality,andtheywillinglyshare whattheyhave learnedthroughthe life experiencesof marriage,
parenting,home schooling,andrunninghome businesses.
The Gift of Hospitality
There isnot commonagreement overincludinghospitalityasaspiritual gift,andthe primaryreference
for itis the ambiguouswordingof IPeter4:9-10: “Offerhospitalitytoone anotherwithoutgrumbling.
Each one shoulduse whatevergift[charisma] he hasbeengiventoserve others,faithfullyadministering

44. God’sgrace in itsvariousforms”(NIV).Peterdoesnotclearlystate thathospitalityisacharisma;so
manyauthors donot include it.One whodoesisLeslie Flynn.He offersthe followingreason:
Thoughhospitalityisnotincludedinanyof Paul’slistsof gifts,the contextinwhichhospitalityis
mentionedseemstoearnitconsiderationasaseparate gift.AfterPeterspeaksof hospitalityinverse 9,
he immediatelygoesoninthe nexttwoversestosaythat whatevergiftapersonhas shouldbe faithfully
excercised.The linkinPeter’sthinkingbetweenhospitalityandgiftsstronglyimpliesthathospitalityisa
gift.[1]
Dr. Flynndefinesthe giftof hospitalityasthe “supernatural abilitytoprovide openhouseandwarm
welcome forthose inneedof foodandlodging[2].”Bryantdescribesthe giftasthe “extraordinary
abililty...toextendcaringandsharingto persons(strangers) beyondtheirintimatecircle todemonstrate
and to establishthe unlimitedandinclusivecompanionshipof Christ[3].”
The personalitytype ESFJdisplayshospitalitybetterthananyothertype.KroegerandThuesen
summarize ESFJsasthe “Hostsand hostessesof the world[4].”Hospitalityismostoftenseeninthe day-
to-dayinteractionsof the ESFJ:“Theyare outstandinghostsorhostesses,abletocall people byname,
usuallyafterone introduction.Atasocial gatheringtheycan be observedattendingtothe needsof
others,tryingtoinsure that all are comfortable andinvolved[5].”
ESFJsnot onlymake othersfeel welcome,buthelpthembecome apartof a local church body.They
quicklypickupcluesabouta person’spast,occupation,likes,anddislikesandmatchthose towhat they
knowabouteveryone intheircircle (whichislikely tobe a large circle).Theycanthenmake appropriate
introductions.
Theyrememberwhat’simportantforthe family,the workgroup,andthe community.Itisas if they
have a filingcabinetof all the specificdetailsthey’veeverlearnedaboutthe people theyknow sothey
can findthat informationeasilytohelpothers,toconnectothers,andtomake themcomfortable.[6]
It wouldbe difficulttooverestimate the importance of thistask,forhow manyunbelieverswouldnever
returnto a fellowshipasecondtime if someone withthe giftof hospitalityhadnotmade themfeel asif
theymighthave a place inthe group.
Summary:For eachof the sixteenpersonalitytypesthereisatheme or a setof relatedthemesthatrun
throughthe variousdescriptionsof thattype.Forthe ESFJ the majorthemesare graciousness,hosting,

45. and providing.Asseeninthe quotesabove,the matchof the ESFJ type to the giftof hospitalityisone of
the easiesttosupportand shouldbe consideredanexcellentmatch.
References
[1]Leslie Flynn,19Giftsof the Spirit(Wheaton,Il.:VictorBooks,1994), 122.
[2] Ibid.,123.
[3] CharlesV.Bryant,RediscoveringourSpiritual Gifts:Buildingupthe Bodyof ChristThroughGifts of
the Spirit(Nashville:UpperRoomBooks,1991), 94.
[4] KroegerandThuesen,Type Talk:The 16 PersonalityTypesThatDetermine How We Live,Love,and
Work (NewYork:Dell Publishing,1988), backcover.
[5] KeirseyandBates,Please UnderstandMe:Characterand TemperamentTypes(DelMar,CA:
PrometheusNemesis1978),192.
[6] LindaBerensandNarioDardi, The 16 PersonalityTypes:DescriptionsforSelf-Discovery(Huntington
Beach,CA: TelosPublications),1999),24.
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46. The spiritual practice of hospitality
Welcomingpeopletoourcongregationsisn'taduty; it'sa way to encounterthe mysteryandwonderof
life.
DavidRynick| 6/18/2007 | Summer2007
The spiritual practice of hospitality
The spiritual practice of hospitality
DavidRynick
6/18/2007
UU WorldMagazine Summer2007 , publishedbythe UnitarianUniversalistAssociation
Reflections
Personal Inspiration
Article,continued
Whenwe hear the term“spiritual practice,”mostof us thinkof somethingradicallydifferentandmore
exoticthanour everydaylivesandactions.ButI believe the Sufi poetHafizpointstothe heartof the
matterwhenhe says,“Everythingissacred.”In otherwords,spiritual practice iswhatwe dohere and
nowwiththe intentionof movingclosertowhatismosttrue andalive forus.
I wantto suggestan approach to the ongoingquestionof how we welcome peopleintoour
communitiesthatIcall “the spiritual practice of hospitality.”Practicinghospitalityisnotsomethingwe
can appointpeople todo,noris it a setof techniquesorbehaviorswe “use”onnew people.Rather,itis
an individualworkof intentional action,actionthatcreatesthe qualityof relationshipsinourchurches
that will nourishnewcomersandlongtime membersalike.
Practicinghospitalityexpressesourbelief inthe inherentworthanddignityof eachperson.Throughour
actionsof hospitalitywe move towardscreatingaworldinwhichwe are all treatedwithjustice,
equality,andcompassion.
It iseasyto imagine thatthe spiritual journeyisaboutsomethingotherthanourdailylife.Butinfact,
the spiritual journeyisoureverydaylife.How dowe choose to meetandlive eachmoment?We are
alwayspracticingsomething.Every-thingwe dohassome consequence toourspirit,andas the
existentialiststell us,whatwe dorepeatedlybecomeswhowe are.Whenouractionsspringfromour
deepesttruth,we become more aliveandaligned.Whenouractionsare out of stepwithwhat ismost
true in our core,we are leftfeelingdisconnectedanddiminished.
Feelingthe lackof somethingessential,we begintolookoutsideourselvesforsomethingtograbhold
of.But most religioustraditionsteachthatwhatwe are seekingisrighthere.Jesus said,“The kingdomof

47. God iswithinyou.”Kabirwrites,“He isthe breathwithinthe breath.”ZenBuddhistssaythatwe are
alreadyenlightened.So,too,doesthe spiritualpractice of hospitalitysuggestthatwhatwe are looking
for—the mysteryof aliveness—canbe foundaswe encountereachother.Ratherthanpursuingpaths
that leadusaway fromthismoment,we can use our practice of hospitalitytoencounterourselvesand
our worldinall theirvividnessandparticularity:righthere,rightnow,withthispersoninfrontof me.
In a true encounterwithanotherhumanbeing,we come face toface withthe mysteryof life.Insome
way,everyotherperson,nomatterhowwell we know them, will remainasmysterioustousas a
countryacross the ocean we onlyreadabout inbooks.Whenwe judge otherpeople orothercountries
by our native standards,we missthe richnessandtexture of theirlife andwisdom.We needtolearnto
be good tourists—tobe curiousandrespectful.We needtoappreciate bothwhatisthe same andwhat
isdifferent.
Too oftenwe getstuck inthe trap of believingwe alreadyknow whosomeone elseis.Butwheneverwe
encounteranotherhumanbeingwithrespectforthisessentialunknown,we create the possibilityfor
somethinggenuinelynew to emerge.Ineveryinteraction,whetheritiswitha strangeror our longtime
partner,we can be surprisedbywhatwe have notyetseenor evenimagined.
ZenteacherUchiyama once observed,“Every­thingyouencounterisyourself.”Because we believe
otherpeople existonlyoutside of us,we forgetthatour experience of themisalwaysapersonal
experience.We see themthroughthe filtersof ouridiosyncraticexperience,beliefs,andsenses.The
resultingpicture becomesacombinationof whotheyare andof whowe are. Inthat sense,we are part
of everythingthatwe encounter.Sothisjourneyof hospitalityissimultaneouslyoutwardandinward;
we are alwaysmeetingourselvesinthe formof the other.
It ispossible toviewhospitalityasa duty,as somethingthatimposesaclaimonour attentionfromthe
outside.ButIbelieve thatasspiritual practice,hospitalitybecomessomethingquite different,anact of
mutual beneficence undertakeninaspiritof self-discovery.
As I approachwelcomingasanexpressionof whoIam, I realize thatas I greetyou,I alsogreetmyself.I
am not doingthisact for yoursake only.Infact I shouldbe grateful toyou forgivingme the opportunity
to move deeperintomylife,toalignmyactionswithmydeepestvalues,and toencounterthe mystery
of life inthismoment.Intrue hospitality,we are bothgivingandreceivingatthe same time.The
traditional hierarchydissolvesintosomethingmore equalitarian,andthe “duty”becomesan
opportunity.
The spiritual practice of hospitalityisaradical act that requiresanew wayof beingforthose of us who
wishto practice it.It requiresthatwe go beyondbeingnice andpolite.Itrequiresthatwe break
unwrittenrulesgoverningpolite socialinteraction:“Smile butdon’tgettooclose.”“Don’taskquestions
that mightmake youor the otherpersonuncomfortable.”“Don’tname whatisreallygoingon.”“Don’t
ask forwhat youreallywant.”None of us reallybelievesthese unwrittenrules,yettheygovern mostof
our interactionsandkeepusfromcreatingthe deeperandnourishingconnectionswe all seek.

48. Breakingthe rulesisnevereasy.Letme suggestthree importantthingstodoas a church if you are
seriousaboutbecomingmore welcomingtooutsidersandtoyourselves.
The spiritual practice of hospitalitycannotbe “justanotherprogram”or itwill fail.Onlyif youdiscover
and articulate the relevance of thispractice toyourcentral purposesasa faithcommunitywill yoube
able to begintobreakout of the gravitational fieldof “the waythingshave alwaysbeen.”
If you decide thatthispractice of hospitalityisatthe heart of whoyou are calledtobe,youmust
acknowledge the gapbetweenthe aspirationof beingwelcomingandthe realityof yourpractices.At
FirstUnitarianChurch inWorcester,Massachusetts,we realizedthatdespite ourbestintentionswe
were practicingwhatwe came tocall the ‘New Englandwelcome.’Itgoeslike this:“We sincerely
welcome youintoourchurch as longas youknow how to gethere andknow what to do andknowyour
wayaround. We’ll be happytotalkto you if youinitiate andwill promisenottobotheryou.”
We were sincere,butwe realizedthatif we reallywantedtopractice ourvaluestoinclude andinvite
everyone,we wouldhave tolearnsome new waysof being.
We muststoptryingto figure outhow to getotherpeople tochange andbegininsteadtolookat our
ownactions.It’seasyfor memberstobelievethatthe churchgoverningboardor the ministerorthe
welcome committee orsomeone else shouldbe the onestochange how we do things,that“it’snot my
job.”But each of us needstobegintoaccept responsibilityforcreatingthe kindof churchwe want to be
a memberof.Inother words,hospitalityandwelcomingbecomesapersonal choice,ratherthanan
institutional issue.
In choosingthisspiritual practice of hospitality,Ilive outthe longingof myheart—creatinganew reality
for myself andthe people aroundme.Ireclaimmypowertocreate the kindof worldIwant to live in.
Gandhi was speakingof thiskindof radical act whenhe said,“We must be the change we seek.”
We mayhave little control overconflictsinanotherpartof the world,butwe can practice trulyhonoring
the preciousnessof all humanlife byhow we enterintorelationshipwitheachother.If we are serious
aboutcreatinga more just,equitable,andcompassionate world,we have tostart withthe roomwe are
in.
RelatedResources
ReligiousHospitality:A SpiritualPractice forCongregations.PamphletbyPeterMorales.(UUA.org
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The Character of Hospitality
By Dr. Richard J.Krejcir
Is the Character of Hospitalityworkinginyou?
Here is howyoucan findout.Take a careful lookat thischaracter and fruitof HospitalityfromGod's
mostpreciousWord,by examiningthe passagesbelow.Now askyourself:
How doI exhibitHospitalityinmydailylife?
What can I do to developabetterwillingnesstobe Hospitable andtovalue people?
What blocksHospitalityfromworkingandbeingexhibitedinme?
How can I make Hospitalityfunctionbetter,stronger,andfaster,evenintimesof uncertainlyandstress?
· Here are positive examplesfromScripture (Genesis12:14-20; 20:4-15; 1 Kings17:10-24; Luke 19:1-10;
Acts 28:2)

50. · Here are negative examplesfromScripture (Numbers20:18-21; 21:21-31; Judges19:15; 1 Samuel
25:10-38; Luke 9:51-5610:30-37)
Hospitalityisawillingnesstoshare,withdiscernment,whatGodhasgivenus,includingourfamily,
home,finances,andfood.Itisan attitude of stewardship,where we donotownanythingbecause we
are merelythe caretakerforthe real owner,God.He desiresustoshare His stuff,andwe complyoutof
reverence andgratitude toHim.Inrelationships,itishonoringthe boundariesof others,andsharingall
we have withoutstringsattached(Matthew 25:34-43; Luke 10:30-37; Romans12:13: 16:33; 1 Timothy
5:10; Hebrews13:2; 1 Peter4:7-11; 3 John1:5-8).
Unfriendliness,Inhospitality,Animosity,andbeingAnnoyed,are the opposites.Theseill-begotten
feelingswillallow youtopushothersaway,and give uppreciousfriendshipsandopportunitiesfor
personal growththroughnetworking,connections,andfellowship.Theseare rottenfruitsof
egocentricity,asyouonlysee the worldasitrevolvesaroundyou,andyoumissseeingthe value of
others.With thisattitude,youwill notdevelopgoodfriendshipsorbe effectiveinthe church,
neighborhood,orworkplace.
FurtherQuestions
How wouldyoudefine Hospitality?Are youahospitable person?Whataboutpeople youdonotlike?
You may nothave to invite themintoyourhome,buthow do youtreat them?
What part doesHospitalityplayinyourrelationshipswithchurchmembers,friends,coworkers,and
family?
How doesbeingannoyedcounteractHospitality?Whatisthe cost to others(God,family,friends,
neighbors,church,workplace,etc.)whenyouare apersonwhois inhospitable?
What happenstoyour relationshipwithGod,withothers,andwiththe opportunitiesGodgivesyou,
whenyouare unfriendlyorare unwillingtoshare?
Whenhave youbeenfilled withHospitalitythe most?
In whatsituationdidyoufail tobe Welcomingwhenyoushouldhave?
What issue isinyour life thatwouldimprovewithmore Hospitality?Doyoujustgive advice,ordo you
alsolenda hand?
Thinkthroughthe stepsyouneedto take to put Hospitalityintoactioninaspecificinstance.Ask
yourself,whocanI invite tomyhome inorderto get to know thembetter?Whohas a needthatI may
helptofulfill?WhereisHospitalitynotfunctioningproperlyinmychurch?What can I do aboutit?
HospitalityisrenderinguntootherswhatGodhas givenus,includingcomfort,sharingourfood,and
friendship.Itisoftenconsideredtobe a Spiritual Gift.AsaSpiritual Gift,Hospitalityisthe abilityto
provide anopenhouse anda warm welcome tothose inneedof foodandlodging(Acts16:14-15
Romans12:9-13 Romans16:23 Hebrews13:1-2 1 Peter4:9). Many Christiansuse the excuse,since Ido

51. not have the Giftof HospitalityIdonothave to welcome others.Thisisaverydismal view,and totally
goesagainstthe preceptsof Scripture.Itis,in fact,sinto thinkthisway!Yes, itis a Spiritual Gift,and
those whopossessitwill be extradiligenttoputitintopractice,and networkwithotherstomake this
Giftfunctioninabundance.Itislike love;we all are calledtolove (1Corinthians13).
Do yourealize the seriousnessof yourfaith?Christianityisnotarecreational activity;itisamatterof
your heart.It affectsyourWill,andmovesyourhandsandfeet.Donot forgetto be Hospitable!Even
thoughyoumay not like totalkto neighbors,meetnew people,orgreatstrangerswitha kindwordand
a smile,youare calledtodo so! Do youtry to make people comfortable,orare youcareless?Youhave
to be willingtoask,AmI being kindtoothers,or am I insuch a rush, I have notime?If it isa rush,then
your prioritiesare skewed,because,toGod,relationshipsare prioritynumberone!Thisdoesnotmean
we are so chattywe neglectourotherresponsibilities,butwe have tobe willingtogobeyondour
comfortzone and engage people withChrist-like character!
Hospitalityalsomeanswe are contributingtothe developmentandgrowthof ourfamily,friends,and
fellowChristians.Hospitalityisthe doortodiscipleship.Withouthospitality,Discipleshipcannot
function--andDiscipleshipisthe quintessentialcall thatChristgivesus,the Church,to do,above all else
(Matthew28: 18-20)! We must be willingtogobeyondourpreconceivedneeds,comforts,andideasto
provide anambiance whichcontributestothe physical andspiritual growthof people aroundus.If we
do not,howwill theyknowwe are Christians?If we donot,how will Discipleshipandthe growthof the
Church happen?Itisnot justa gift--itisacall to usall!So, putinto practice goodHospitalityby
practicingGodlyCharacterand good social etiquette.Be the one tohelpothersfeel important.Be the
one whoreturnsthe kindnessesyouare given.Be the firstone togreetvisitorswhocome toyour
church, andinvite themtoyourhome for fellowship,andlunch.GodlyHospitalitywill notexpect
anythinginreturn!
© 2003 R. J.Krejcir,IntoThy Word Ministries http://www.intothyword.org/
ImplementingHospitality
By Dr. Richard J.Krejcir
The Quintessential waytoGrowyour Churchis toUnderstandandImplementHospitality!

52. KeyPassages:Matthew25:34-43; Luke 10:30-37; Acts 4:32; Romans 12:13; 16:33; 1 Timothy5:10;
Hebrews13:2; 1 Peter4:7-11; 3 John1:5-8
How wouldyoudefine Hospitality?
Are you a hospitable person?Whataboutwithpeople youdonotlike?Youmaynot have to invite them
intoyour home,buthowdo youtreat them?How do youtreat people atchurch?Really,how doyou?
Most people inanygivenchurchwouldsaytheyare nottreatedwell asfar as feelingwelcomedor
connected!Yes,ourchurch isdifferent,andperhapsmuchbetterthanothers,butIbelievewe canbe
evenbetterforourLord's glory!
One of the mostimportantcallsthat Christ givesHischurchis to be welcomingtopeople.We are His
ambassadors(2 Cor. 5:20), so, Jesususesusto be His welcomingarmsto draw people fromthe outside
intoHis presence!He isthe Seeker;we are the onesHe seeks,andsometimeswe are the onesHe uses
to seekothers.ItisGod's desire thatall of Hischildrenwill be saved,and,yet,fewwillacceptHisgrace.
It isthe role of the HolySpiritto save people,andwe are the instrumentsthroughwhichHe works.So,
we must be a church whowelcomes notonlyBelievers,butalsothose whomayneverbefore intheir
liveshave beeninside of achurch.Thisministryof Hospitalityhasthe role of beingHisambassador.
Our role is:"Welcomingpeople andConnectingpeople intothe life of the church."
Thismay be hard at firstuntil we getour welcoming"sealegs."AsourAmericanculture isso
individualistic,we tendnottobotherwithothers,assumingtheycantake care of themselves.Afterall,
we have brochuresand signseverywhere.So,youmaywonder, where doIfitin?We fitinto be the
humanwarm touch,encouragingotherswithasmile,andmakingothersfeel special,because theyare.
It isour endeavortohelpyoulearnhowto be more welcoming,andgive youthe toolstoimprove.In
that way,we can be the church that God has calledusto be!
Why StudyHospitality?
Whenwe knowhowwe are and howwe come across to others,thencompare thatto whatGod has
calledusto, we will be able torealignourselvestoHisprecepts,grow inourcharacter and maturity,and
serve Himbetter!Why?Because,we are givenanincredible gift,one whichwe couldneverearn;
because,He firstlovedus.We do notneedto doanything;we donot needtobe hospitable.And,the
fact ismost Christiansare not;that iswhymost churchesare dead(alongwithnoreal teaching).But,
because we are saved,because we are forgiven,andbecause He lovesus,we willchoose torespondout
of ourgratitude forwhat He hasdone for us.We can choose to be hospitable eventhoughwe maynot
be naturallyinclinedtodoso.Because we desire tolove,andserve HimandHispeople,we are tolove,
care, andbe hospitable.
The Definitionof Hospitality

53. Hospitalityisawillingnesstoshare,withdiscernment,whatGodhasgivenus,includingourfamily,
home,finances,andfood.Itisan attitude of stewardship,where we donotownanythingbecause we
are merelythe caretakerforthe real owner,God.He desiresthatwe share Hisstuff andHis love,andwe
complyoutof reverence andgratitude toHim.Inrelationships,itishonoringthe boundariesof others,
and sharingall we have withoutstringsattached.Inthe church,it isto be welcoming,regardlesshowwe
may feel (Matthew25:34-43; Luke 10:30-37; Romans12:13: 16:3-16; 1 Timothy5:10; Hebrews13:1-3; 1
Peter4:7-11; 3 John5-8).
· Here are positive examplesfromScripture (Genesis12:14-20; 20:4-15; 1 Kings17:10-24; Luke 19:1-10;
Acts 16:14-15; 28:2)
· Here are negative examplesfromScripture (Numbers20:18-21; 21:21-31; Judges19:15; 1 Samuel
25:10-38; Luke 9:51-5610:30-37)
The First thingwe all mustask ourselvesisthis:Isthe Characterof Hospitalityworkinginme?
We needtoask thisbefore we undertake thisministry.If not,we will notbe goodat thisat all!We will
be the noise of 1 Corinthians13:1, insteadof the love of 1 Corinthians13: 4-8. We have to be willingto
take a lookunderourhood(Galatians2:20-21; 6: 3-5), the hoodof how we come acrossto others-our
personality,disposition,andourattitude.So,when we handoutthatcup of coffee,itishandedona
saucerof love andcare, nota saucerof obligationorpretentiousness.Thisiscritical stuff!Whenwe get
ourselvesrightinourcharacter tothe bestof our ability(asnone of uswill be perfect,Romans 3),and in
a growingfashion,we thencanbetterserve Himwithreal,authenticpassionandconviction.
How can I findout?
Take a careful lookatthischaracter and fruitof HospitalityfromGod'smostpreciousWord,by
examiningthe passagesabove.Now askyourself:
1. How do I exhibitHospitalityinmydailylife?Suchas,how do I treatmy neighbors?How doI come
across to people whenIamat church? If someone came upto me or sat nexttome,how wouldthey
feel aboutme?2 Corinthians5:20 tellsus,"We are therefore Christ'sambassadors,asthoughGod were
makingHisappeal throughus."Therefore,ouractionsandreactionstell otherswhowe are and whowe
are representing.Willitbe yourbad day,or Christ'slove?Whatmessage are you sending?
2. What can I do todevelopabetterwillingnesstobe Hospitable andtovalue people?Doyourealize
that everyone withwhomyoucome incontactisa valuedchildof Godwhois deeplyloved,andthat
Christwouldhave diedjustforthem,asHe didfor you? "While we were still sinners,Christdiedforus"
(Romans5:8). It isnot possible forustobe bestfriendswitheveryoneinourlife,butwhatwe can dois
be friendlierandshowChrist'slove tootherssothat theysay,"Hey,thischurch is great,because the
people treatedme good!""Mostpeople leave achurchnot because of the pastor or doctrine,even
thoughthat isimportant,butbecause how theywere treated."(from"Pew-Sitting,"a10 year research
studyon whychurchesfail,doctoral dissertation byR.J. Krejcir,1992- 2002)

54. 3. What blocksHospitalityfromworkingandbeingexhibitedinme?There are timeswhenourdailylives
are inchaos-fromgettingthe kidsreadyforchurch,a fightwiththe spouse,problemsatwork,or
problemswithourhealth-toname afew.So,whenwe bumpintoothers,we bringwithusall of our stuff
inlife-ourfeelings,anger,experiences,joys,fears,andexpectations.In2 Corinthians4:18,we read,"So
we fix our eyesnotonwhat isseen,buton whatisunseen.Forwhatis seenistemporary,butwhatis
unseeniseternal."We mustlearnhowtogovernour emotionsandexpectationssooureyesare upon
our Lord and noton othersor ourselves.Whenwe dothis,we canmuch betteracceptour "stuff"and
count itas Joy (James1:1-3);we can treatothersin the mannerwe wouldlike,and,mostimportantly,
howChristwouldlike!
4. How can I make Hospitalityfunctionbetter,stronger,andfaster,evenintimesof uncertainlyand
stress?Afteryouhave takenthat honestlookunderyourpersonalityhood,whatdidyoufind?Now,
whatcan youdo to start to implementwhatChristhascalledyoutoin temperamentandattitude?First,
considerthe spiritual disciplinesof the Faith,suchasdailyBible reading,agooddevotionalsuch as"My
Utmost…,"real prayer,where yourneedsare notthe onlyitemonthe table,andbe a learner-be willing
to learnand grow.If you have trouble,thenconsiderpride asthe mainproblem.John3:30 tellsus,"He
mustbecome greater;I mustbecome less."We have topurge pride soHe is more and we are less!
Why isall of thisimportant?
Because youare the frontdoor of your church! You are also the backdoor!
That meansfor someone tofeel comfortable atyourchurch,he needstomake a connection,builda
relationship,andfeel welcomed.People needtofeel thatthischurchistheirchurch. Thisisevenmore
importantthanour teachinganddoctrine (whichisessential,too!).Have youeverwonderedwhythe
Mormons are growingand are so popular,evenwithacorrupt theological system?Because theyknow
howto treat people!WhenyouwalkintoaMormon Temple,youare welcomed;youfeel theycare for
you!You may overlookthe illogical andfalse teachingsbecauseyouare withfamily,peoplewholove
youand whoare comingacross as authentic.Peopleneedtofeelvalidated,andtheyneedasense of
belonging.The Churchistofill thisrole,butall toooften,otherthingsthatare corruptfill inthat gap.
That is whydrugabuse is sorampant and whyyousee jetskisbeingtowedbyRV'son Sundays.People
will findaplace to belong;letusmake themwelcome inourchurch!
Most conservative evangelical andreformedChristiansassume sincewe have goodteaching,andthe
HolySpiritisin ourlives,we donotneedto botherwithcare.Thisis contradictorytoScripture.A week
doesnotgo by that I do nottalk withsomeone atourchurch whotellsme theyattendedworship
servicesforweeks,months,evenyears,andnobodyhasevertalkedtothem!Whenthishappens,we
become the backdoor;people will leave ourchurchbecause theyneverdevelopedconnectionsand
relationshipsbecausepeople didnotcare or reachout to them!Some people are boldandfriendlyand
make those connectionsnaturallythemselves,while othersare more reservedandothersneedtogoto
them.Will yoube the one to go out of your wayto give a kindwordand an invite?Youare the person
whois calledtoreach out.If youthink,"Hey,Ido not have the giftof hospitality!"-mostof usdo not;

55. however,we are still calledtodoso. The people withthe giftof hospitalitywill be betteratit,and
motivate the restof us to do it.
Let uslookat whathappenswhenwe donotdo as God calls:
Unfriendliness,Inhospitality,Animosity,andbeing Annoyedare the oppositesof beinghospitable.These
ill-begottenfeelingswill allowyoutopushothersaway,andgive up preciousfriendshipsaswell as
opportunitiesforpersonal growththroughnetworking,connections,andfellowship.Theseare rotten
fruits(Galatians5:19-21) of egocentricity,asyouonlysee the worldasit revolvesaroundyou,andyou
missseeingthe value of others.Withthisattitude,youwill notdevelopgoodfriendshipsorbe effective
inthe church,neighborhood,orworkplace. These are the quintessentialattributesthatcause churches
to close theirdoors.Over4000 churchesinthe UnitedStatesclose everyyearwhile 1100 new churches
are planted(source:CTTFacts andBarna.org).Our problemisnotwhat or whowe are, itis how we are!
Hospitalitywill make the difference-youcanmake the difference!
Unfortunately,whatnormallyhappensinthe Churchasa whole isstrife,dysfunction,gossip,and
slander,because ourpride getsinthe wayof His call.Thus,beingpeople whoare welcomingorthe
exercise of ourgiftswill be neutralized,turnedintoweaponsof dysfunction.Insteadof reachingoutand
discipling,we fightamongstourselves,ordevelopfalsedoctrines.The Bodycannotdothingswell or
functionwhenwe are puffed-upwithourselves.We cannotfunctionbypretending,oroutof hate.For
us to be usedby Christeffectively,we mustbe infusedwithlove anddoourpart withjoy.
HospitalityisrenderinguntootherswhatGodhas givenus,includingcomfort,andthe sharingof our
foodand friendship.Itisoftenconsideredtobe a Spiritual Gift.AsaSpiritual Gift,Hospitalityisthe
abilitytoprovide anopenhouse anda warm welcome tothose inneedof foodandlodging(Acts16:14-
15; Romans12:9-13; Romans16:23; Hebrews13:1-2; 1 Peter4:9).Many Christiansuse the excuse,since
I do nothave the Giftof HospitalityIdonothave to welcome others.Thisisaverydismal view,and
totallygoesagainstthe preceptsof Scripture.Itis,infact, sinto thinkthisway!Yes,itis a Spiritual Gift,
and those whopossessitwill be extradiligenttoputit intopractice,andnetworkwithotherstomake
thisGiftfunctioninabundance.Itislike love;we all are calledtolove (1Corinthians13).
Hospitalityalsomeans we are contributingtothe developmentandgrowthof ourfamily,friends,and
fellowChristians.Hospitalityisthe doortodiscipleship.Withouthospitality,Discipleshipcannot
function-andDiscipleshipisthe quintessential call thatChristgivesus,the Church,todo, above all else
(Matthew28: 18-20)! We must be willingtogobeyondourpreconceivedneeds,comforts,andideasto
provide anambiance whichcontributestothe physical andspiritual growthof people aroundus.If we
do not,howwill they knowwe are Christians?If we donot,how will Discipleshipandthe growthof the
Church happen?Itisnot justa gift-itisa call to us all!So,exhibitgoodHospitalitybypracticingGodly
Character andgood social etiquette.Be the one tohelpothersfeel important.Be the one whoreturns
the kindnessesyouare given.Be the firstone togreetvisitorswhocome to yourchurch, and invite them
to yourhome for fellowship,andlunch.GodlyHospitalitywill notexpectanythinginreturn!

56. What your church needstodois developahospitalityministry,tohelptrainandmotivate yourpeople
to be betterat beingthe "frontdoor"of our church,so the backdoor becomesmuchsmaller.Ask
yourself:Howcanmy church be more contagiousforthe faith!
The HospitalityTeamRole:
"WelcomingPeople andConnectingPeople tothe Life of the Church"
We are to provide hospitalityservicestovisitorsandmembersona weeklybasis,andhelpfacilitate the
hospitalitytableatworshipservices,includingthe productionof qualitycoffee andlightrefreshments
withan invitingatmosphere andanattitude of love andcare.We are also to answerpeople'squestions,
have an up-to-date listof churchresourcesandactivitiestogive out,andhelppeoplefindwhattheyare
lookingforfromworshipservices,small groups,Bible Studies,SundaySchool classes,workshops,
pastoral helpandsuch. Thisrole mayalso include conductingfollow-upforvisitorswithletters,home
visits,andinterfacingwithpastorsandchurchstaff forministryandpersonal needsforbothmembers
and visitors.Withthisrole,we willbe able tostrengthenthe connectionsandfellowshipbetween
congregationmemberstostimulatebothspiritualgrowthandsocial interactionthroughvarious
congregational connectionsandeventsforthe purpose of buildingrelationshipsandsharingJesus.
KnowledgePoints:
· We are bestable to functioninministrybyconcentratingoureffortstogrow inour relationshipwith
Christas a dailylove endeavor(Hebrews10:19-25; 11:1-3).
· The knowledge of whowe are inChristwill be the drivingforce of how we are withothers(Galatians
2:20-21; 6: 3-5; Philippians3:10)!
· To be successful athospitalitymeansabandoningourradical Americanindividualismthatfearsand
avoidsbeingvulnerableandbeingaccountable.OurrelationshipwithChristisapersonal endeavor;
however,itfunctionsinthe crucible of community.Itcannotbe,"justJesusandme."We are to be
dependentuponChristandfunctioninfellowship.Asironsharpensiron,we cannotbe sharpunlesswe
rub withothers(Proverbs27:17; Hebrews13:17; 1 Peter3:8-12).
· Our skillsof beingfriendlywillmake the difference inwhetherapersonmakesthischurcha one-time
visit,orreturnsto become anactive member(Proverbs17:17a).
· Our willingnesstobe effective withourparticipationinthe lifeof the churchwill be the model to
othersaroundus (Colossians3:12-14).
· Hospitalityisthe steppingstone tothe life of the church;withoutit,people maynotbe able tomake
the hurdle tothe frontdoor,as the backdoorismuch easiertouse (Philippians2:1-4).
· Understandinghowpeoplefeel whentheyvisitachurchwill helpushave the compassionand
sensitivitytorelate tothemandbe a caringhelpintheirspiritual journey.Rememberhow youfelt.

57. People maybe fearful,closedoff,overlyexcited,cautious,orfrustrated.Ourunderstandingandability
to listenandofferhelpwillmake the difference.Evenif theynevercome back,or,if theymake this
church theirhome,ourresponsibilityistomodel Christ(1Peter4: 8-11).
· We needtohave the awarenessthatour attitude isessential forapositive churchenvironment(Psalm
84:1-4).
· Knowthat God desiresustoalsogrow, notonlyinour faith,butalso inour values,character,and
maturity(Galatians5:22-23).
· Havingconfidence in ourLordand in our faithwill helpusreachoutto others,evenif theysnapbackat
us (Colossians4:2-6).
· Do not be discouragedwhenothersdonotacceptyour warmth.There will be people whohave bad
days,are frustratedwithpersonal matters,or whosimplyhadahard time withparking.Justdoyour
bestto be welcoming,regardlessof how theymaytreatyou!We are not responsible forhow theytreat
us; we are onlyresponsibleforhowwe treatthem.Do nottake itpersonally,asyouare servingChrist;
whattheydo to you,theyare doingto Him(Matthew 10:22, 32; 25:35-36; Luke 6:31).
· We needtoknowthat God lovesusdeeply,asHe doesothers,andthe finishedworkof Christenables
us to receive Hislove sowe canreplicate thatlove toothers aroundus while feelingsafe andsecure in
Hs presence (Romans5:8).
· Our growthinChristwill produce compassion,kindness,humility,forgiveness,andsympathyfor
others.If not,you are notgrowing.Remember,we are notincontrol-He is(Romans12:15;
Philippians2:3-4;Ephesians4:32)!
· God desiresthatwe reachout to othersas He hasreachedout to us (John13:34-35; Acts 2:46-47)!
· If youare havinga roughday, try to be ina mindsetof prayer;tryto see the otherpersonas Christmay
see them.Ourabilitytocommunicate warmthusinghospitality-relatedlanguage-bodylanguage aswell
as welcomingwordsandasmile-mayhelpthe otherperson,andmake theirday(1 Corinthians12:25-
27)!
· What are the practical stepsyoucan take to cultivate these points?
HospitalityTeamObjectives:
Oversee the HospitalityTable forall regularandspecial churchservices.Thisincludesfindingvolunteers
(toprepare the table,provide the coffee andanyrefreshments,oraddspecial touchestothe display),
providingvolunteerswiththe necessaryinformationtoprepare the hospitalitytable,andmakingsure
the area aroundthe table iscleanandinviting.
Plan,supervise,andimplementlargergroupgatherings(suchasWelcomingDinners,ornetworkingat
the Congregational Picnicandotherchurch functions).

58. Helpplan,supervise,andimplementannual connectingeventssuchasregional eventsandSeasonof
Life events.
Advertise Hospitalitiesministriesintentandpurpose inChurchpublications.Also,make use of andtrain
membersof the congregationtoimplementthe hospitalitytable andthe groupgatherings.
Strategize howtobestproduce our HospitalityTable.
Thinkthroughthe stepsyouneedto take to put ourHospitalityMinistryintoactioninspecificinstances.
Such as,where isHospitalitynotfunctioningproperlyinmychurch?What can I do aboutit? What will
the table and ministrylooklike?Howshould we look,andcome across?
Considerations:
· Coffee mustbe goodquality!Goodcoffee mayseempetty;however,thishasproventobe a way to
winpeople byspendingverylittle moneycomparative tootheroutreachevents.Churchesthatcontract
withStarbuckshave beenverysuccessful whencouplingitwithagood welcomingsystem.
· How to decorate the table?Delegatetothe ladies.
· Serve some kindof refreshments,butnottocountermandthe H.S.and Missionssellingof Krispy
Kreams.Perhapsfruitsand muffins.
· Juice;filteredcoldwater.
· Have some people incharge of servingandothersfor greeting,sopeopleare notbusyservingandfail
to meetandgreet.
· Assignwhoisto do what.
· DevelopaMissionsStatementandCovenantstatement
More HospitalityConsiderations:
· Creatingbettervisitorandnewmemberpackets
· Easy to understandSpiritualGiftsInventoriestobe made available (IntoThyWordMinistries,
http://www.intothyword.org/has verygoodoneswe canuse forfree).
· Creatinga "NetworkList"of whointhe church can do what,sowe know where tosendpeople-from
plumbers,tocounselors,toDoctors,towhat pastorspecializesinwhat.
· Sermonor article onCaring.
· A planto assimilate new members.

59. · Callingall memberseverysix monthstosee how theyare doing,andwhattheyneed.
· TeachingChurchleadersandteachersto be aware of whoiscomingand whohas not beenthere fora
fewweeks.Make arrangementsforsomeone tocall andvisitthose whoare missed.Evenlong-time
church memberswill leave theirchurchif theyare gone for more than fourweeks,andnobodycared
enoughtocall!
Whenwe are selfishandstingywithoursharing,itcreatesanatmosphere of distrust,and whowantsto
be a part of a church like that?Howwe react to the visitor,long-time member,orthe non-Christianwill
distinguishusasChrist-like orhypocrites.WhichdoyouthinkourGod desiresusto be?
Do yourealize the seriousnessof yourfaith? Christianityisnotarecreational activity;itisamatterof
your heart.It affectsyourWill,andmovesyourhandsandfeet.Donot forgetto be Hospitable!Even
thoughyoumay not like totalkto neighbors,meetnew people,orgreetstrangerswithakindwordand
a smile,youare calledtodo so! Do youtry to make people comfortable,orare youcareless?Youhave
to be willingtoask,AmI beingkindtoothers,or am I insuch a rush, I have notime?If it isa rush,then
your prioritiesare skewed,because,toGod,relationshipsare prioritynumberone!Thisdoesnotmean
we are so chattywe neglectourotherresponsibilities,butwe have tobe willingtogobeyondour
comfortzone and engage people withChrist-like character!
Keeponlovingeachotheras brothers.Donot forgetto entertainstrangers,forbysodoingsome people
have entertainedangelswithoutknowingit.Rememberthose inprisonasif youwere theirfellow
prisoners,andthose whoare mistreatedasif youyourselveswere suffering(Hebrews13:1-3).
DiscussionQuestions
1. What part doesHospitalityplayinyourrelationshipswithchurchmembers,friends,coworkers,and
family?
2. How doesbeingannoyedcounteractHospitality?Whatisthe costto others(God,family,friends,
neighbors,church,workplace,etc.)whenyouare apersonwhois inhospitable?
3. What happensto yourrelationshipwithGod,withothers,andwiththe opportunitiesGodgivesyou,
whenyouare unfriendlyorare unwillingtoshare?
4. When have youbeenfilledwithHospitalitythe most?
5. In what situationdidyoufail tobe Welcomingwhenyoushouldhave?
6. What issue isinyour life thatwouldimprove withmore Hospitality?Doyoujustgive advice,ordoyou
alsolenda hand?
Suggestedreading
"Joyof Hospitality"byVonette BrightandBarbara Ball
"FunIdeasfor EvangelisticEntertaining"byVonetteBright,Barbara Ball

60. RichardJosephKrejciristhe Directorof "Into Thy WordMinistries,"amissionsanddisciplingministry.
He isthe author of the book,IntoThy Word,and is alsoa pastor,teacher,and speaker.He isa graduate
of FullerTheological SeminaryinPasadenaCalifornia(M.Div.) andcurrentlypursuinghisPh.D.He has
amountedover20 years of pastoral ministryexperience,mostlyin youthministry,includingservingasa
church growthconsultant.
© 2003, 2004 Rev.R. J. Krejcir,FrancisA.SchaefferInstituteof ChurchLeadershipDevelopment
www.churchleadership.org